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33: Monday Moment: Before You Hit Send · Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic

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  Tania: Happy Monday.
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  Tania: The last 24 hours for me have been rather intense.
• 0:07
  Tania: I've been in a conversation with someone where no matter what I say, no matter how I try to say it somehow, it just seems to make things worse.
• 0:19
  Tania: The messages just keep coming at me, and emotions run high.
• 0:25
  Tania: And I can feel that pull to keep replying as fast as it's coming in.
• 0:32
  Tania: And today I could feel that in my body, that urgency, that pressure to say something, to do something immediately.
• 0:40
  Tania: So this time, as I was sitting in the sun with my cup of green tea, I did something different.
• 0:51
  Tania: I didn't respond, at least not right away.
• 0:54
  Tania: Not because it didn't matter, but because I could feel how much my need to manage this situation was keeping me in that loop of reacting, trying to fix it, and then reacting again.
• 1:08
  Tania: So instead, I just sat there drinking my tea, letting my body settle, not trying to solve anything in that moment.
• 1:19
  Tania: And as simple as that sounds, it was not easy.
• 1:24
  Tania: Yeah, everything in me wanted to jump back in, but I stayed there in the pause and as I did that, I noticed something shift.
• 1:36
  Tania: My thoughts got a little clearer.
• 1:38
  Tania: I wasn't reacting from that tight, anxious place, and I could actually feel my system calming down.
• 1:45
  Tania: And it made me realize just how quickly I move, how fast I try to respond, explain, defend, fix before anything has a chance to settle.
• 1:57
  Tania: Before I've had a chance to settle.
• 2:00
  Tania: And when I didn't do that this time, there was just a little more space.
• 2:06
  Tania: Space to think, space to breathe.
• 2:10
  Tania: Space to choose how I actually wanted to show up instead of reacting automatically.
• 2:15
  Tania: And when I did respond later, it came from a different place, more grounded, less reactive.
• 2:24
  Tania: So my invitation for you today is if something shows up that feels really intense and you feel that urge to respond right away.
• 2:37
  Tania: Maybe just ask yourself, do I actually need to respond right now in this very moment, or do I need a minute to come back to myself first?
• 2:52
  Tania: Okay.
• 2:54
  Tania: Have a great one.