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Chaos and Control · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, do you ever get
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  frustrated with how out of control things are? And if so, what do
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  you do about it? Well, let's ask our American mamas Alma and joining
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  us now our American mama's turnout Ofville and Kimberly Burlason. Boy, there's a
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  whole bunch of stuff that's that's out of control going on in our world these
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  days. Very difficult to to keep things in perspective. I think sometimes you
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  got you got Ai, you got politics, you got international affairs, you
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  got you know, earthquakes and tornadoes and dogs and cats living together, all
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  kinds of things from Ghostbusters I got. Yeah, that's true. We've got
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  stuff that's out of our control. It's so funny because with everything that feels
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  like it's out of control, everything in this world, what is the one
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  thing that makes you feel like you're literally going to lose your mind? Though?
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  When it comes to your children, Oh, when you see something that,
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  when something happens, it feels so unfair, you feel like you know,
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  you're like you tell them, if you do this, if you grind
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  it out, if you stay on this path, if you continue to work
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  hard. I promise you you're going to get your turn. And then when
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  that doesn't happen, When that doesn't happen, you run out of like you're
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  like, oh God, please. You know I've been preaching this forever.
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  You have to finally say, Okay, I don't understand why you didn't get
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  that job, or you didn't get that promotion, you didn't get to start,
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  you didn't get to do it. But I promise you there's a higher
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  purpose for everything, and there is you can look back. It's the friendships
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  you made, the connections you made, whatever, I don't know, there's
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  a higher purpose to it. But there's also a way that you can get
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  there. You know. I was telling Terry the other day about talking hearing
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  about Taylor Swift, and Taylor Swift went through a period of time where all
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  of her masters got bought by Scooter Braun, who she hates, so basically
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  had full control over what she created. And she saw a tweet by Kelly
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  Clarkson that said, then, you know, go ahead and redo them.
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  So that's what she did. She took her originals. She re what do
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  you call it? We recorded them, but she called them Taylor's version,
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  so that now she had full control. And the speaker was talking about taking
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  control over something that is feeling so uncontrollable inside of you, that that's where
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  our power comes from. Our power comes from taking something hard, turning it
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  around and twisting it into something that is positive. In something that you control,
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  you can control your emotions, you can control how you see things.
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  Or I know that when something bad happens to me, my first thought is,
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  Okay, what's the lesson? God, what is the lesson I'm supposed
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  to learn in this? Because this is upsetting me? So what do I
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  And it's like the minute I turn it into what's the lesson? It changes
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  it. It changes it from being pointed at me like a you know,
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  like I'm being punched in the gut. It feels like it's more lesson and
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  it's like I can deal with it better. And it's like what we're talking
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  about with our kids. It's with the different things they go through. They
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  say that you're only as happy as you're sad as child, and so it's
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  a very real thing. It's very easy to take control over things in our
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  own lives, but when it comes to our children, it's hard. You
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  can't. You don't have that control. So it's so the one thing that
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  you do have control over is the choice to be happy in spite of whatever.
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  Yeah, whatever's going around. Yeah you really you can't control necessarily what's
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  happening to you, but you certainly can control how you choose to react to
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  that. That's right, And I think that's where the serenity prayer really comes
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  in. Helpful, you know, help me, help me to change the
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  things that I can, help me to realize the things that I can,
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  and you know, and help me to know the difference between the two of
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  them. And that's I think that's a really important thing because there's some things
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  we can't we can't change. We've got to find a way to be okay
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  with those things we can't change. And when you do learn that lesson and
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  you do reach this place where you have that ability to see the other side
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  of it, to kind of come around and see how this actually helped your
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  life instead of hindered it, you have elevated yourself to the next level.
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  Because that's it's a hard thing to do when you know, Kevin would throw
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  that in my face, like because I've said that our whole lives is.
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  You know, he would be an e or about something and I would say,
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  well, you know, it's your choice. Happiness is a choice.
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  So when during those times when we were unhappy with each other, he would
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  say, hey, happiness is a choice, and I would, you know,
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  yeah, maturely respond well, I choose not to be happy. I'm
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  choosing to be angry right now. It's so funny because they would make fun
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  of me because I would have signs all over my own one of those that
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  hobby lobby has, like, you know, all the signs like be a
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  sweete and flush you know, don't tell the sweet seedy or whatever. And
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  Kimberly came in to redecorate my house and she was. She came in and
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  she was and kept they were making fun of me, And it's all these
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  quotes to liberate and be positive affirmations and make your remember. And then if
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  I wasn't in that mood, he would just point what about what about that
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  one? What about that? And so anyway, she when she redid my
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  house, she cleared me of all of my quotes. So that Kevin doesn't
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  have any end point too. But the bottom line is the way that you
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  choose to respond to any situation is going to be the testament to your triumph.
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  It's going to be the positive thing that you can use to help somebody
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  else when they go through it. And it's a it's a clear it's a
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  clear picture of God's purpose for your life is to learn from these lessons and
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  do better, be better, live better, and help others. You know,
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  one of the things I'm most grateful for as a reporter. With my
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  time being a reporter, I got to see different tragedies for people. So
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  I would see how people would react when they had a house fire and they
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  lost everything that they owned, they lost stuff. And then I would see
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  how families would react when they lost a family member. And I realized I
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  never wanted to act when I lost stuff off the way some other family would
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  have acted when they lost a family member. And so when I did lose
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  stuff in the middle of the night, some drunk driver came and took out
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  the car, I was able to respond to it in a moment ago you
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  know what, something that's going to come out of this, And so I
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  was never really upset about that that loss because I decided ahead of time I
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  was going to react to it. I love that. I feel like descar
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  American Mama was a question. Go to our website American ground Raady dot com,
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  slash mamas and click on the ask. The mama's button turned out of
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  both Kimberly burls and thanks so much