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Make Room for Your Next Level with Delatorro McNeal · The SmallBizChat with Melinda Emerson

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  3, 10, 1, 0, ignition, liftoff,
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  Ending small business failure.
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  Welcome to the Small Biz Chat podcast with a number 1 small business expert Melinda Emerson.
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  Belinda's goal is to end small business failure, and she'll give you the information
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  you need to succeed and live the life you've dream of.
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  Now here's the small biz lady herself.
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  Melinda Emerson.
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  Hi, everybody.
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  I'm Melinda Emerson.
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  These small biz lady, and welcome to small biz chat.
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  You know, we have an amazing show for you guys.
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  Small biz chat is a peer to peer interview show that give small business owners a way to get
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  advice that they need but might not know.
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  And maybe not today might not be able to afford, but the mission of small business chat
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  is to end small business failure.
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  So listen.
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  On small business chat, our goal is to give our small business audience an opportunity here
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  Sage advice from multiple angles to take your business and your life to the next level.
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  And so I'm so excited to have my next guest here with us.
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  His name is Delatoro.
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  McNeil the second.
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  He is a peak performance expert and renowned public speaker and best selling author of 7
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  books and has over a dozen personal and professional development courses.
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  He's ranked as one of the best motivational speakers in the world.
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  And he's best known for his life transfer maiming live events, including Cresta Sage,
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  speaking business mastery, and the full throttle experience.
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  Bella Charo, welcome.
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  Well, it's a tremendous honor to be here with you.
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  I'm so excited.
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  We're gonna have a call sometime.
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  Yeah.
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  No.
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  I'm I'm excited to get rolling.
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  So it's the top of the year, new year, new decade.
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  You have some advice that kinda goes against the brain of what everybody's saying to do this
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  year.
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  Let's talk about that.
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  Absolutely.
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  You know, everybody comes into the new year, and they're just like, go go go go go make all
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  this stuff happen, etcetera, etcetera.
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  And the truth is there's not a month between December January.
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  I know that we all wish that there was, but there's not a month in between December,
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  January.
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  So the first thing that I really like to encourage everyone to do in the month of
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  January Instead of adding all this stuff to your list of what you want to accomplish and
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  achieve, the first thing that you need to do is empty the trash.
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  Get rid of everything on your plate that no longer fits.
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  That's no longer relevant.
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  That's no longer important.
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  That's projects.
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  That's ideas.
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  That's concepts, that's that's individuals sometimes, that's that's tasks, that's really
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  make room for your next level.
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  Everybody's wants next level, next level, next level.
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  The problem is the reason why so many people revert right back to their old habits whenever
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  they set resolutions and all these things.
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  Is because they never took the time first to actually clear their plate of stuff that
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  doesn't belong and doesn't fit anymore before they add a bunch of other So I'm going kind of
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  against the grain right now.
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  Everybody's like, oh, go, go, do, do, do, do, and I and and the people that I coach I'm
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  telling everybody, take a few moments and really figure out what no longer belongs, what
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  no longer fits, what no longer makes sense in your agenda, in your day, in your life, in your
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  schedule, and get rid of all that stuff so that you actually have room for all the new things
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  that you want.
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  So given that, okay, you want us to empty the trash can.
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  Alright.
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  I got that.
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  Alright.
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  So then what are your peak performance tips for 2020?
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  Because after I do that, then what?
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  Okay, Deltura.
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  What do I do now?
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  So once once you've done that, first thing you need to do is pace yourself.
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  This is 2020.
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  It's 12 months, not 1.
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  So at the end of the day, most people packed so much stuff in the 1st month or 1st quarter that
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  they don't realize that at the end of the day, you gotta you gotta just like we what was said
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  earlier, you gotta give things some time to develop.
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  Every tree in every plant grows roots first.
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  And so oftentimes we're so moving so quickly and so fast that if we don't see a result
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  tomorrow, we quit it and we go on to something else, right?
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  So the first thing is pace yourself.
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  Really give yourself instead of saying, okay, well, my podcast has to come out tomorrow.
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  What if you say, okay, let me give myself a 30 day launch strategy.
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  Right, before you say, okay, hey, my boat's gotta be out in in in in 25 days.
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  Why don't you say, okay, let me give myself a 60 day ramp up.
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  Because what I'll I see a lot of entrepreneurs and small business owners and career
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  professionals do is that we just we cram everything in without really giving ourselves,
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  okay, I get it.
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  You wanna lose £40.
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  Can we lose £40 over the next 3 months instead of in January?
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  Everybody puts all this energy into this 1 month and they don't give themselves a chance
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  to really pace things out.
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  So the first thing that I wanna encourage everyone to do is pace yourself.
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  That's really, really important.
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  Number 2, understand that less is more.
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  I would rather you drink 3 bottles of water every single day for 30 days then drink a
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  gallon of water, right, for the 1st week and then you quit.
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  So the key is consistency.
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  And so many times we're not being consistent.
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  We're we're we're gung ho and we're excited.
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  And so we we go to the gym for the 1st 3 weeks, and we go for, like, 3 hours at a time.
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  They're like, I'm killing it.
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  Right?
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  And then you hit run out.
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  Right?
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  I'd rather you go to the gym for 30 minutes three times a week for 60 days straight, right,
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  you know, rather than go for 3 hours, those 1st couple, and then you burn out fast.
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  So less is more.
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  Really kind of scaled back and say, how can I be how can something that is gonna allow me to
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  be consistent versus going all in and doing all this crazy stuff that you cannot be consistent
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  with over a long period of time?
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  The third quick tip is execute first and feel second.
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  So many times, we don't understand the true psychology of motivation.
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  While motivation is the cause of action, motivation is also the result of action.
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  Every one of us has had that morning where we said we were gonna work out, we wake it up, and
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  we don't feel like working out because the truth is your brain psychology follows
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  physiology.
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  How many of y'all ever had time where you didn't feel like working out, but you put the
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  sneakers on and you got out there and you started jog and you started exercising about
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  15, 20 minutes into your workout, your brain finally catches up to what your body is doing
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  and you wanna be out there exercising.
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  So the truth is execute first feel second.
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  Sometimes you don't feel like going out on date night with your significant other boo or it's
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  complicated.
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  Go ahead and go out on the date first.
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  By the time you get out there and you get around other couple you start dancing and
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  enjoying the lounge or the music, all of a sudden, you're gonna feel like what you did.
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  So execute first and feel second, and you'll get ten times more done.
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  I love it.
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  I love it.
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  Alright.
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  Well, let's stay with that.
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  So staying motivated is is is people's big issue, particularly if you're self employed
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  person and you work alone.
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  Like, you're a solopreneur working out of the back bedroom of your house.
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  Tell me how can you develop you know, some personal motivation.
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  Like, what is your what is your top tip for that?
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  Several things.
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  First of all, whatever it is that you owe, oh, I love this one.
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  Whatever it is that you really wanna do, declare it, speaking into the atmosphere,
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  actually go on Facebook, live or go on Instagram and actually free and declare
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  whatever your goal is because the moment I I I coach a lot of offers and speakers.
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  And I tell them, I say, listen.
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  You wanna know what's gonna make you write your book?
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  Public pressure.
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  Right?
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  So declare the thing that you wanna do.
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  Put it out of your mouth and actually put it in the atmosphere.
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  So whatever that thing is, let's say whatever it is, whatever your goal is, just go ahead and
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  decree that live and say, hey, guys.
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  This is one thing I'm working on, and I would love it if you guys would hold me accountable.
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  Send me an inbox or direct message or or comment every now and get it check on me,
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  etcetera, etcetera.
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  Let's say you wanna train for a Spartan race, right?
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  If you're gonna do it in 6 months, go ahead and put that declaration out there And by doing
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  that, now you've got a whole community of people who are gonna encourage you and kinda
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  support you along your journey.
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  And by decreeing it out there, all the they kinda hold you accountable at a different
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  level.
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  That's number 1.
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  Another thing is, especially if you're a solo entrepreneur, start going to like WeWork Spaces
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  or shared spaces where entrepreneurs get together, little hubs, incubators, where you
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  can just kind of work or go to Panera Bread or go to Starbucks.
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  Make make a decision, make a commitment to at least twice a week, work away from your home,
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  right, work away from that space that you're familiar with your bedroom, wherever it is that
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  you're doing what you do, find a way to get around people because that's one of the things
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  that really kinda keeps entrepreneurs and solo vendors kind of isolated is we we have home
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  offices, so we don't get that opportunity to really get out as much.
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  So I would highly recommend that you get out.
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  We work spaces, shared spaces, incubator spaces, and get around other human beings.
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  It's really, really beneficial.
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  Alright.
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  So what about, you know, helping people operate at their peak?
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  Right?
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  You know, it's one thing to say motivated.
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  Okay.
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  I'm gonna tell everybody, hey.
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  I'm thinking about a new book.
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  I'm not gonna tell you guys what I'm thinking about writing, but I'm thinking about a new
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  book.
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  Right?
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  But okay.
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  But how do I get my peak performance?
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  How do I turn that into, you know, okay.
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  I got public pressure.
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  I got this, but how do I operate at my best in order to execute the things I have to execute?
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  Couple things that'd be helpful for that.
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  Number 1, see your goal.
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  Right?
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  One of the things that I encourage all authors to do is before you really get started writing
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  your book, go ahead and get the cover designed so you can see it every day.
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  It's amazing how much we have motivation and drive to make something happens once we can see
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  it.
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  I say this all the time.
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  You gotta see it before you see it, or you'll never see it.
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  Right?
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  So then again, you gotta see it before you see it or you'll never see it.
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  So whatever it is that you want, I kinda put it on your vision board and put it in a place
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  where you're gonna see it on a daily basis I encourage everybody.
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  Put your vision board on the other side of your toilet so that that way, at least you know
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  every day you're gonna spend a few minutes, right, in the restroom, and you can see what
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  you want right in front of you.
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  Number 2, baby steps.
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  Take whatever it is that you wanna do and find a way to chop it up into very, very small
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  pieces.
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  Because one of the number one reasons why most people wanna achieve a goal or a vision that
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  they have on aspiration is because of task complexity At the end of the day, they get
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  overwhelmed too quickly.
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  So the best way to not get overwhelmed is to chop that hush puppy up into as it's a hush
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  puppy.
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  That's one of my words.
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  Chopping up in the baby steps, small incremental things that you can do on a regular
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  basis that really helps you feel that sense of accomplishment on a regular basis.
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  That's another one that's really important.
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  And then number 3, master a daily routine.
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  I can tell how badly you want something if I can see what your daily routine looks like.
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  If you go to a kid and who's really good at Xbox, you ask them how often they play every
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  day.
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  If you go to someone who's really to full in their finances.
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  You ask them how long they look how much how often do they look at the market they say every
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  day.
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  You see someone who's super fit in their physical body.
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  Ask them how often they work out or exercise a new cardio, they say every day.
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  At the end of the day, the secret to our success or failure is hidden in what we're
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  doing daily.
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  So if we can find a way, a micro way to take small action on a daily basis on what we're
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  trying to do, we'll get ten times more done.
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  Alright.
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  And here is your last question.
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  I wanna make it a good one.
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  You talk about performance beyond gold.
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  What does that mean?
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  And how does it apply to all of us?
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  See, I believe that life gives us one open invitation every single day.
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  And it comes in the form of a question.
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  Will you be better today than you were yesterday?
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  Will you make the daily decision to better your best?
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  Performance beyond goal is our ability to every single day incrementally top ourselves.
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  So one of the things that I encourage every organization every corporation when I speak to
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  associations and corporations and conventions, my challenges get 1% better every single day.
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  Performance beyond gold is take it beyond that gold level of performance because as high
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  achievers, we can achieve the gold medal almost every day with our eyes closed because we're
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  high achievers.
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  Many of us are overachievers.
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  We can outperform the people around us without having to hide behind our bank.
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  So it's not about getting the gold medal anymore.
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  Now it's about how can you take it to that next level.
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  And the next level is getting 1% better in one area of your life that you care about every
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  single day.
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  Alright.
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  Give 1% better in one area of your life every day.
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  So that's that is that good for personal life and professionals?
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  The loop.
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  Get 1% better at forgiving.
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  Get 1% more patient with your children.
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  Get 1% better at at being authentic with what you may need in in your relationship.
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  Get 1% better at actually waving at your neighbor instead of just putting your car in
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  the garage and shutting the door.
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  Right?
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  It works in your personal life and your professional life.
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  At the end of the day, if you can make a decision every morning, I'm gonna get 1% better
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  today, then, man, look where you're gonna be in 30 days.
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  I love that.
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  Yay.
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  Yay.
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  Alright, Donald Gerald, listen.
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  You have you have motivated me.
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  Like, I feel better.
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  Like, I can 1% better.
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  Next month.
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  We'll see.
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  Alright.
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  Listen.
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  Alright, Delataro.
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  What is your favorite podcast?
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  Currently, my favorite podcast is the wealthy speaker by Jane Atkinson, who is We
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  love Jane.
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  We had Jane on our show, actually, last month.
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  She's Awesome.
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  She's super awesome.
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  Yeah.
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  So I enjoy her insights and her guests on the wealthy speaker podcast.
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  Awesome.
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  Awesome.
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  Awesome.
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  Alright, Del Toro, what is your favorite business app?
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  You're gonna laugh at me, but because I do a lot of coaching right now, my favorite business
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  app is Marco Polo.
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  It's like it's like video texting, but I love it because it's quick.
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  It's simple.
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  I don't have to text as much, and I have all of my coaching clients in Marco Polo, and I can
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  shoot them a quick message of inspiration, of encouragement, etcetera, etcetera.
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  If they have any challenges, they can send me a message back, and I can see their nonverbals
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  and that allows me to kind of speak to where they're at in the moment.
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  It's kinda like Voxer, but it's with video, and that's what I love about Marco Polo.
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  So that's what I'm rocking right now.
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  I actually really like Marco Polo too, but interestingly enough, I use Marco Polo to
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  communicate with my siblings.
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  I have family in it as well.
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  Absolutely.
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  But I definitely
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  check-in voice mail.
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  So I use Marco Polo to talk to my brother's sidebar.
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  Anyway, Alright, Delataro.
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  What's your favorite business book?
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  Well, the book I'm reading right now that I'm really, really enjoying is called profit first.
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  By Mike Macauley.
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  Mike Macauley.
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  Yes.
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  Yes.
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  My college classmate, Mike Macauley.
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  Yes.
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  So I'm really enjoying that book right now.
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  Fantastic.
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  Well, listen to you guys.
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  Thank you so much for being here with me on small biz chat.
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  Believe it or not, our time is up.
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  Thank you so much again to my guest.
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  I appreciate you all so very much, and and we do small biz chat because our mission here is
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  to end small business failure.
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  And I will leave with you with this You never lose in business.
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  Either you win or you learn.
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  God bless everybody.
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  Good night.
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  Thank you for listening to the smallbizchat podcast with Melinda Emerson.
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