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125. Stronger In Here, So You're Stronger Out There · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for.
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  Impact Hi team, welcome to the show.
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  Thanks for being here and listening.
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  You know, recently I've been going through treatment for
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  breast cancer. Many of you been following along
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  and kind of know how that goes. But part of this has been
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  getting infusions, chemotherapy infusions.
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  And something that my wife has been doing for me as I go
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  through these infusions is every time I'm there and I'm getting
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  the chemo, she hands me this stack of cards, like handwritten
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  cards from all kinds of people, from old clients, from old
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  friends, from people in all different areas of my life.
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  Some people I don't even know, and it's been a really cool
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  experience, not only because it's awesome to have a
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  handwritten card in front of you.
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  I don't know if you guys do that for people, but it's awesome, by
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  the way, to get handwritten cards.
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  But what makes it so awesome is that people have started writing
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  their stories and experiences that they've been through in
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  these cards. Like they're sharing with me
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  stuff that they've been through that's been really challenging
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  or hard and describing what helped them and, or what was
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  hard about it. And it's been really beautiful
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  to read people's experiences. Some of these people I've never
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  met and they're sharing with me these pieces of themselves that
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  are, they're so important. It's so vulnerable, and I got to
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  tell you, it is inspiring as hell to read people's stories
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  and to just listen. Like it makes you feel less
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  alone when you're going through something hard.
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  To know that someone else has been through something not the
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  same, but the same feelings, the same emotions, and just that act
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  of kindness to share that story has been incredible.
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  So anyway, every single infusion Leanne is handing me this stack
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  of cards from people. There was one that I read last
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  infusion that I had and it was from an old client of mine from
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  when I was teaching spin and she was a die hard.
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  She would come all the time. I she probably came to my class
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  for eight years and she reminded me of something that I used to
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  say in class. And I would often tell the class
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  this phrase in the middle of a really hard part of the ride, or
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  maybe it was a heavy hill or maybe a really fast long Sprint.
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  If you're like a spin person, you get it.
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  You're pushing your edge like you're just going really, really
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  hard. And what I would say to them in
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  that moment over the mic, music blasting room is dark drop is
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  hitting. It's like the high energy
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  moment. And I would tell them stronger
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  in here. So you were stronger out there.
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  And I don't know where I came up with that, but it became this
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  catch phrase that I would say over the years.
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  And it was something that I would say a lot.
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  And I remember the sentiment of that phrase so well.
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  It was all about me recognizing that in that moment, these
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  clients were going through something that was pretty damn
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  hard. They were pushing their physical
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  limits, often times their their mental limits.
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  Because if you've ever done a 62nd Sprint on a bike, that's
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  really damn hard. But what I wanted to do was I
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  wanted to convey to them that the work that they were putting
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  in now on this bike, in this studio, in this song, in this
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  dark room, this bike that goes nowhere.
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  The work that they're putting in now would make them stronger in
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  the end. It would help them summon up the
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  strength for them to do things outside in the outer world.
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  Because the studio is kind of this like isolated place, right?
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  We're all here to work out. You go do your thing, and then
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  you go out and you live your life.
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  Everybody's sort of on their own different paths, but I was
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  trying to create community within this space, letting them
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  know like we are all in this together and the work that we're
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  doing now is going to benefit each and every one of us when we
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  go out into the world. In a lot of different ways,
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  actually. Because when you are doing that
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  kind of work, when you're pushing yourself to that limit,
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  you develop a tolerance to extremity.
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  It lets you explore the limits of your physical strength.
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  It allows you to kind of push your boundaries and your mental
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  edge a little bit. And I knew all this because I
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  had experienced this myself in physical fitness, in classes.
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  I had experienced that pushing yourself in that way allows you
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  to figure out how strong you really are and to be practicing
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  that every day is the work. You know, you often hear that
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  phrase, this is what I trained for.
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  And I think about that all the time because the work that we do
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  in the dark, the work that we do when no one else can see, the
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  work that we do to be stronger in a situation is the work that
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  will allow us to be stronger out in the world, stronger in here.
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  So we are stronger out there. And it still holds true when I
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  think back on that statement, because the more that I examine
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  what helps people be successful, the more that I look at what
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  gets people to a level of high performance, the things that set
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  them apart and get them unprecedented outcomes, the more
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  I see there is a common thread of practicing hard things.
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  People who thrive, people who create the life they want,
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  people who find their own version of success in their
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  life, they are all people who practice hard things.
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  And there's a difference between consciously choosing to practice
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  hard things and just simply reacting to hard things that
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  life throws at you. To me, it's the difference
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  between climbing into your own ship and charging through the
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  waves of a storm or getting tossed around in the waves of
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  life. When someone pursues challenge
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  of their own accord, it's a totally different energy than
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  somebody who's just responding to struggle or challenge that
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  comes their way. It is a conscious choice.
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  And that conscious choice is what makes all the difference
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  because when you are consciously choosing it, you are empowered.
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  It is you who is taking ownership and agency in your
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  life versus somebody who is reacting to change, to struggle,
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  to challenge. And they often feel
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  disempowered. They can often feel like they
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  are a victim to their circumstances.
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  And those are two totally different energies.
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  And that's what it's all about. Stronger in here.
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  So you're stronger out there. This is a decision that we can
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  make every single day. It's a decision that those spin
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  clients made every time they stepped in that dark studio with
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  me and started riding that bike and pushing their physical
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  limitations. And it, you know, it doesn't
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  always have to be a physical challenge, although that's such
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  a great tangible example of what it feels like to get stronger.
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  But it could be practicing standing up for yourself.
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  It could be practicing having hard conversations when you have
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  historically avoided conflict. It could be getting better at
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  listening to your own intuition and your inner voice.
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  Maybe it's practicing self restraint around spending money
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  and creating a path to wealth for yourself.
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  Maybe it's committing to doing deep work every day on that
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  project in your business that will really make a difference.
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  Whatever it is, it's you consciously choosing to do
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  something hard to push your limits so that you can get
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  stronger in multiple different ways.
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  And that's really what it comes down to at the heart of it.
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  It's about choosing to do the hard things on purpose.
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  It's about building strength in all capacities, mentally,
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  physically, emotionally, so that you can be stronger out in the
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  world. You know, in the last six months
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  of my life, I've been pushed mentally and physically beyond
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  what I thought I would ever be pushed.
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  And I've said to myself multiple times, this is what I trained
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  for. I do.
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  I say that. I say that to myself.
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  I say that to my patients, to my clients, anybody who's checking
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  in on me, I'm like, you know what?
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  This is what I trained for stronger in here.
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  So I'm stronger out there. And you know, I didn't know that
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  I would be called to rise up in this way the way that I've had
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  to this year. I didn't know that my workouts
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  and my nutrition and my mindset were going to matter as much as
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  they do now, but I'm so grateful that I can see the evidence of
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  how this work pays off. You know, I've been training for
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  years for this. I've been pushing my boundaries
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  and my limitations on purpose, getting very uncomfortable
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  trying to increase my tolerance for extremity even without
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  realizing what I was going to use it for.
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  But I can guarantee you this life will give you something to
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  use it for. You know that too.
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  You've had situations in your life that came out of nowhere
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  where you were like, oh God damn.
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  I am glad that I was prepared for this.
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  I'm glad I trained for this. And that's exactly what everyone
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  says. You never know what's coming at
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  you. You never know what life is
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  going to hand you or what experiences you're going to have
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  to face. It's both the unnerving part of
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  life and also the beautiful part of life, and we know this to be
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  true. But we so.
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  Often take for granted things like our health or our
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  relationships or safety and security right up until that
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  moment with when something changes and we are forced to
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  stare into the face of uncertainty.
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  But the truth is, we grow, we learn, we expand, we involve, we
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  get stronger through friction. Friction and resistance and
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  struggle, that is what helps us grow.
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  And when we can consciously choose it, that's a very
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  different energy. When we can have systems and
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  routines in place that allow us to test it and practice that
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  friction and build our tolerance to it, it is a totally different
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  energy. And I see the value of training
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  for these things more than I ever have before.
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  So my challenge to you this week is to think about what is your
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  practice, What is your daily practice of stronger in here?
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  So I'm stronger out there. I know that you have things that
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  you're training for in your life as well.
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  And so I'm asking you to rise up today.
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  I'm asking you to find your method of building strength and
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  increasing your capacity in whatever way feels right to you.
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  But I guarantee is going to pay off and you will be so thankful
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  that you did. No matter what comes your way,
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  you will have the ability to navigate it.
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  You will have the ability to overcome it and that's one of
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  the beautiful parts of this. And I'm going to be here
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  cheering you on. I know that everybody needs a
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  coach. I know everybody needs a trainer
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  up there at the front of the room cheering them on, telling
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  them that they are strong. And I promise I will be that
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  person for you. As you are navigating this
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  stuff. Let's just focus on building
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  that practice and putting in those reps so you can truly feel
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  like the strongest version of yourself when the time matters.
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  So that's all for today. Thank you for listening, for
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  putting in the reps, listening to this podcast.
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  Stronger in here. So you are stronger out there
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  for sure. And as always, team, thank you
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  for being ready to impact. Thanks for listening to Impact.
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  Ready, I hope. Today's episode inspired you to
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  own your impact and recognize that you.
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  Are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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  Thanks again for being here.