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Dirty Little Secret: My Dad Isn’t Who I Thought He Was · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: Dirty little secrets?
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  Speaker 2: Do you think?
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  Speaker 1: All right, there we go.
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  Speaker 3: It's makes one or two point nine bail at a kid,
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  Speaker 3: Canda Slopez producer, poo your secrets anytime you want share
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  Speaker 3: them with us.
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  Speaker 1: Come on, it's a non judgment zone.
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  Speaker 3: Just call us at eight three, three, seven eighty seven,
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  Speaker 3: one o two nine or at Billy on the radio.
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  Speaker 1: You could set up that way.
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  Speaker 3: Shoot me a DM on Instagram, But just confess whatever
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  Speaker 3: you got going on?
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  Speaker 1: Now, what is your secret?
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  Speaker 2: All right? Well, my parents, my parents have been together
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  Speaker 2: my entire life. They're a couple like everybody envies, and
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  Speaker 2: people point and say, real love still exists, you know
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  Speaker 2: through those people. They're always been solid. Dad adoors my mom.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, he literally like worships the ground that she walks on.
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  Speaker 2: I mean that's what we've believed anyway. So my mom's
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  Speaker 2: got to menza and she's gotten worse recently. Oh no,
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  Speaker 2: And my sisters and I have been like helping organize
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  Speaker 2: everything in the house. And because she hides stuff everywhere. Now,
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  Speaker 2: one afternoon, I'm cleaning out their closet and I find
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  Speaker 2: this old box tuck behind some blankets, and it was
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  Speaker 2: still with all these letters, all handwritten and recognize my
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  Speaker 2: dad's handwriting right away, and curiosity, of course got the
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  Speaker 2: best of me. So I started. I brought him home
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  Speaker 2: because I don't want my dad to see me, like
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  Speaker 2: going through them and everything, and yeah, so they're like
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  Speaker 2: first normal sweet love notes, cards, random memories and everything.
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  Speaker 3: So you're reading all these you're reading all these notes
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  Speaker 3: and all these letters at home, like you take them
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  Speaker 3: home with you to read.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I just like to tuck the box. I
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  Speaker 2: would do, Okay, Yeah, right, So I get to this
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  Speaker 2: one letter and it just changes how I see my
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  Speaker 2: dad forever. Why that's an apology letter, and it's a
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  Speaker 2: brutal apology letter. So my dad is like begging my
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  Speaker 2: mom for forgiveness, admitting he had an affair.
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  Speaker 3: No, yeah, this so this letter is your dad writing
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  Speaker 3: your mom saying I'm sorry and going over the details
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  Speaker 3: of him cheating.
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  Speaker 2: Well he's look, it meant nothing, and you didn't want
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  Speaker 2: to lose his family and everything that build together, and
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  Speaker 2: kept writing about how ashamed he was and terrified he
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  Speaker 2: like she leave him, and like the part that hit
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  Speaker 2: me the hardest was he mentioned me and my sister
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  Speaker 2: by name in the letter.
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  Speaker 1: So you guys were so you were alive, you were
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  Speaker 1: born by then.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we were a little kid.
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  Speaker 3: That does feel different when that, you know, because if
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  Speaker 3: it was like they were teenagers and he mess risk, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but you were around, so I could see why that
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  Speaker 3: would hit harder.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Right.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm like just staring at the page and sitting
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  Speaker 2: there because if you knew my dad, you'd never think this.
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  Speaker 2: He was even capable of this. He's always calm and dependable,
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  Speaker 2: involved at church. She's the guy everybody trusts. And you know,
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  Speaker 2: he coached all our teams and kissed my mom goodbye
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  Speaker 2: every morning, and every time I look at him. Now,
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  Speaker 2: it's just different, you know.
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  Speaker 1: It is. It's always the people you don't expect. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the TV days. Yeah right.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm not saying your dad's a bad guy by
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  Speaker 3: any means, but it's always that couple. And maybe this
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  Speaker 3: is part of what made them stronger. Who knows, but
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  Speaker 3: it does change everything for you, I can imagine.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, she clearly forgave him because they stayed
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  Speaker 2: together and they survived it somehow, you know. And I
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  Speaker 2: can't tell my dad, I know. I haven't told my
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  Speaker 2: sisters because I feel like the whole family dynamic would change,
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  Speaker 2: and honestly, they would lose their minds if they found out.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you haven't told your sisters? Oh no, no, so
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  Speaker 1: you don't. It's just me that knows this, Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think it would help if you talk to
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  Speaker 3: them about it and it was open and honest about it.
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  Speaker 1: You don't think so.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, because like part of me feels angry,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and like I'm mad at myself for reading
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  Speaker 2: the letters in the box, you know, But I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if it would help bringing it up or just
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  Speaker 2: leave it alone.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And nobody knows. I mean, you don't know until
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  Speaker 1: you do it, and then what helps at this point though,
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  Speaker 1: you know, right, I mean it's just like they know
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  Speaker 1: and that they were the only two that were meant
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  Speaker 1: to know.
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  Speaker 3: Probably, and you're always gonna love your dad, I'm sure,
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  Speaker 3: but it's this will take a second to digest, honestly.
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  Speaker 1: You just you just learned about it, yeah, because.
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  Speaker 2: You know it gives you hopes and your parents like that.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, there is real love and marriages do
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  Speaker 2: last and people don't cheat.
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  Speaker 3: You know well, And it's also just you never know
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  Speaker 3: what's going on behind closed doors and relationships. So the
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  Speaker 3: people that look happy, I mean, everybody struggles, everybody goes
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  Speaker 3: through that. But I don't think you can, you know,
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  Speaker 3: live with that weight on your shoulders. Like at the
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  Speaker 3: end of the day, if your mom forgave him right,
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  Speaker 3: what else matters?
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  Speaker 1: You know? That was their situation to repair.
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  Speaker 3: And it's not like they split up after you guys
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  Speaker 3: were older, you know, like they stayed together for you
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  Speaker 3: guys and then decided it was time, like.
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  Speaker 1: They worked it out. Yeah, they did.
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  Speaker 2: So however that was I mean, been a happy marriage
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  Speaker 2: that we know of, you know.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and they have they obviously created a beautiful life
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  Speaker 3: together and had some awesome kids like you, So yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I would are you the oldest?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, see now I feel like, yeah, you have have
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  Speaker 3: to bear that weight and just not Yeah. I don't
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  Speaker 3: think I would say anything, And maybe I'm wrong for that,
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  Speaker 3: but I think I would just keep it to myself.
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  Speaker 3: And why why ruin the image of my dad to
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  Speaker 3: my sisters if I don't have to?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Or is it something they should know? I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think I would, though, but hey, thank you
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  Speaker 3: so much for sharing that secret. I'm sorry that your
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  Speaker 3: mom is dealing with that, because I know that's tough
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  Speaker 3: in itself. So good luck.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, thank you very much.
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  Speaker 1: You're welcome. Now do you like do you know your
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  Speaker 1: parents drama? I never really grew.
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  Speaker 3: Up like that, so I'm wonder if you know, like,
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  Speaker 3: if it's too obviously it's never perfect. Do you want
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  Speaker 3: to know your parents drama like that?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? I wouldn't either, you know, No, keep it in
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  Speaker 1: the box. It just feels weird.
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  Speaker 3: Some families, though, are just so open and they talk
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  Speaker 3: about everything. Yeah, and that in itself sometimes is weird
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  Speaker 3: to me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but maybe it's healthier. It probably is. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 1: learn and grow. I'm not saying I'm healthy, not by
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  Speaker 1: any mean