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The Most Meaningful Event for NYC Parents: Rooted & Ready Oct 24, 2026 · Fit As A Fiddle

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  SPEAKER_01: So we want to make it a fun day, but also a day where you can come away feeling like I feel more solid, I feel more rooted, I feel more ready.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why we named it rooted and ready, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's how we want people to emerge from that day, just really feeling like, okay, I feel calmer, I feel prepared, knowing that, you know, it doesn't mean that you are perfect.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_01: There is no perfect parenting, but you feel able to handle what comes at you, you know, and to be able to know that I have the resources at hand.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_01: If I can handle something, I know where to go to to get the help that I need.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_01: And I really hope that a takeaway from this is that getting help, getting support is the best thing you can do for your family.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it does not mean that you are weak.
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  SPEAKER_01: It does not mean you are a failure.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think it means the opposite.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think you and I share that opinion.
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  SPEAKER_01: When people do seek the resources and get the support that they need, it makes you a stronger, better parent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sneha Ghazi, a physical therapist, course creator, and mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: I own Sneha Physical Therapy, a private practice in New York City, and created the course Master Your Pelvic Floor to help you transform the way you think about and move your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to this unique episode on Fit as a Fiddle.
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  SPEAKER_00: My guest and my co-host for event we're doing coming up soon, rooted and ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: Her name is Olivia Bergeron.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: She is a perinatal psychotherapist and parent coach.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: Her company is called Mommy Groups, and she's based off in Brooklyn.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: Olivia actually came onto my podcast.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my God.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was season one of my.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: And it was something the title, we'll link it in the show notes here so everybody can listen to that episode.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: It was like when I was a new podcaster.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: So excuse my podcasting abilities at the time.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: But it was about turning, like understanding when the baby blues is not the baby blues and when it's something that you really need more help with.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: Olivia is an incredible resource, and she is has us, you know, two decades plus of experience treating patients in and around New York City area, especially.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: And she brings up a wealth of knowledge when it comes to maternal health.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: And very recently, her and I partnered up to create a new company called Rooted and Ready.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: And uh we are so, so excited to share Rooted and Ready with our listeners today.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: This event is coming up very soon.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_00: Usually my podcasts are evergreen, meaning you can listen to it whenever and it doesn't matter because it's valuable information no matter what time or what moment you pick up the um show at is.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: But this is a very specific, uh timely podcast that we're doing to introduce uh Rooted and Ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Olivia, I'll let you go ahead and explain Rooted and what it's all about.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, well, thank you so much again for having me, Seha.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_01: Um it is my second time being here, so it's it's a pleasure to do it again.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_01: Um I think back then you weren't using video, so it was just uh just an audio recording.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_01: So uh anyway, but uh you've you've you've evolved.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um I'm really excited to partner with you and to share this event with parents and professionals.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_01: You and I came together because we saw a gap.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_01: Um I in my work with parents, I see a lot of people that are searching for resources, searching for answers.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_01: Um, about is this normal?
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_01: Is should I be doing this?
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um, is this how am I supposed to do this when you go online and there's just every different answer under the sun?
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_01: Um, somebody could say the sky is red, somebody else says it's blue or green.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_01: Um we it's just really hard to tell, you know, straight information from kind of the nonsense that's out there.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um so our goal really with this event was to bring parents who are pregnant and and entering and and brand new parents too into the room along with professionals.
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  SPEAKER_01: So these are folks that actually know their stuff, know what they're doing, know what they're talking about.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_01: Um, it's not just an influencer who has an opinion, which is great, um, but might not be actually something that you want to adhere to because they just don't have the professional background to be able to opine about this topic.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so for us, really bringing these folks together, having them have an opportunity to connect, to learn, um, to get some good food together, uh, get a swag bag.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_01: Uh so we want to make it a fun day, but also a day where you can come away feeling like I feel more solid, I feel more rooted, I feel more ready.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_01: That's why we need it rooted and ready, right?
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_01: That's how we want people to emerge from that day, just really feeling like, okay, I feel calmer, I feel prepared, knowing that, you know, it doesn't mean that you are perfect.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_01: There is no perfect parenting, but you feel able to handle what comes at you, you know, and to be able to know that I have the resources at hand.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_01: If I can handle something, I know where to go to to get the help that I need.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_01: And I really hope that a takeaway from this is that getting help, getting support is the best thing you can do for your family.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_01: And it does not mean that you are weak, it does not mean you are a failure.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_01: I think it means the opposite.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_01: And I think you and I share that opinion.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_01: When people do seek the resources and get the support that they need, it makes you a stronger, better parent.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_01: And ultimately that's what we want for our kids, right?
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_01: We want to be there and present in a way that they can feel supported, but we need to feel supported too.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_01: So that's really the point.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm really it's it's a pleasure to be able to put this event on with you.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm really excited to bring the New York City area parents together with the providers that are here.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_01: So I think it's gonna be a great day.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: I resonate with everything you said.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Um, just for listeners to get context, Olivia and I are both moms.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: Olivia has teenage children, and mine is small three-year-old.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: And so we come with a different way, like she's really seen, you know, the small days, the middle school, the high school, all the way up until college.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think what the perspectives that we're bringing in as moms, but also as clinicians who are working with hundreds of moms all day long.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_00: That's what we do every single day.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the piece that we're bringing into this is that there's not one way to do it.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure, Olivia, you might know this and you can touch on it.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: You have three children, and they're probably three different children.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: Even though you have a pair of twins, I'm sure those twins are different too.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: And each time you show up into motherhood, you change yourself.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: This is what I've heard from so many moms.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_00: But as a a mom to one right now, I am so different than I was four years ago when I was pregnant.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_00: The perceptions that I have, the viewpoints that I have have evolved so much.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: What I thought was true now, I feel more confident in my abilities.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: And and I have a million questions still.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: But I think that's the point.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: It's that continuous um growth and the continuous search for what works now.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe that looks different than what worked before.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but as clinicians, we know ourselves, like when we're treating two different patients with the exact same diagnosis, maybe even the exact same age or time of life or socioeconomic background, two different plans of care, two totally different ways that we need to approach how we are treating them.
• 7:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so rooted and ready um really brings all of that together.
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: It acknowledges the differences and ways that people can do things.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: It acknowledges the various viewpoints, but still brings everybody together to provide solid education that comes from a place of empathy and understanding, but also a lot of evidence-based truths that we now know works better than some other things.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: And so we're providing all of these in a very um kind context, and in the context of choose what works for you and here are all of your options, because I vividly remember speaking to an OB in the institution that I gave birth in, and I had a question.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: And so I said, Do you guys have an IBCLC in your team or in your um like in the labor and delivery unit that goes around and helps postpartum, like when we're in the hospital wing, right after giving birth?
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: And her response to me was, what is an IBCLC?
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: And that shocked me.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a perinatal provider.
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: I had been for years and years and years, and so I knew what that was.
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: But and this is not a knock against obstetricians.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_00: This is just an awareness that even as clinicians, we need to know more and we need to work in collaborative, multidisciplinary care and understand what other practitioners bring to the table with less judgment and more understanding and empathy.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you want to comment on 100%.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_01: But I also feel like, you know, in this time of your life, oftentimes you're looking for more services than you ever thought you needed.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_01: Um, because, you know, when you don't, before you have kids or before you're pregnant, um you probably weren't thinking about pelvic floor physical therapy.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_01: You probably weren't thinking about um lactation support because it just wasn't something you needed.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_01: Um, same thing with a lot of folks that I see for psychotherapy and for parent coaching, you know, once they enter this phase, it feels like, okay, now I need to um work on some things.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_01: Um, because things might be coming to the fore that maybe you hadn't considered before.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_01: And certainly, you know, when you become a parent, I think you reflect on how you were parented.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and you want to consider what is it I want to bring forward, what is it I want to leave behind.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_01: Also, necessarily when you are partnering with somebody else who grew up in a different household, who has different expectations and just different norms for them, that's just normal.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe for you, something else is very normal, but very different for them.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_01: Um when you're trying to bridge that divide, you're trying to connect, you know, as people, how do you figure out how to forge this new path forward?
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_01: Um, it's exciting, but it's also can be fraught.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_01: It can be, you know, there can be some friction sometimes.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_01: And so I do think um, you know, support that we're trying to provide for parents, both for the physical realm and the mental realm, um, I think it's just really a great opportunity for them to take first steps um and to be there in the room and to learn.
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I do find that it is, you know, coming from the New York City area, there are a lot of pretty uh type A folks, right?
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_01: A lot of very perfectionistic people that they want to do this right.
• 10:37
  SPEAKER_01: And they feel like sometimes that there's one right way to do it, and I need to find it.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, we read the blogs, I'm gonna like, you know, listen to the podcast and figure it out.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_01: But from my way of seeing it, there's many different paths to get to the end goal, which is a healthy, happy you and a healthy, happy child.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_01: And so I think giving people permission to learn about different ways to do things, just as you evolved as as a parent over time.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_01: I evolved certainly, going from, you know, my daughter who was two, and then I had my twins.
• 11:02
  SPEAKER_01: Um, yeah, I was certainly not the same person that I was, you know, when she was an infant from when my twins were, you know, infants.
• 11:08
  SPEAKER_01: Different kids need different things, you're in a different life stage, and that's okay.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_01: And that's to be expected.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_01: So again, I think this event will really give people a good grounding, a good sense of um there are different ways to do things.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_01: I'm learning about the different ways, possibly.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I'm learning about the different providers that are out there, what support is out there.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe I didn't think that that was something that I needed or knew about or needed to know that, but I don't know.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_01: Now I know.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_01: It's really um, I think a time for people to bring their questions, come and get some answers, to come listen to the conversation, to be part of the conversation.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I also think that because we're bringing in this fantastic uh fireside speaker, which we're calling it, uh Neha Rouge.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_01: So she wrote the power pause.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_01: And I think not only during the pregnancy time, but starting to think about what is it when you are considering uh postpartum?
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_01: What does that look like for your career, for your relationships?
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_01: Um, how do you consider how to how to move ahead?
• 12:07
  SPEAKER_01: You know, what steps do you um want to take?
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_01: What for you feels right?
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_01: You know, do you want to step off the treadmill or step back on at some point, or how do you negotiate those decisions, knowing that again, there's no one right way to do it.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_01: I think what's challenging about this time is that we have a lot of choice.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe in the past the expectation was you had a child, you stopped working, and that was kind of the end of that.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_01: Um now we have a lot more, a lot more nuance.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_01: There's a lot more um in terms of the decisions that we need to make vis a vis career, vis-a-vis our relationships, vis-a-vis just our time.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_01: How are we gonna spend our time?
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_01: You know, is it staying at home and taking care of the children or going back to work or some combination?
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_01: Um, what are we doing for childcare?
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_01: How are we gonna, you know, do we want to move back to where our families of origin are um or bring them closer to us?
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_01: Anyway, that as you can see, as you know, you lived it, so many decisions to make.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_01: And I do think that making sure folks feel supported and get that scaffolding in place, that's really how I envision.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_01: I'm a visual person, so I imagine the scaffolding around parents that were really helping them to build so they feel that that's supportive, they feel strong.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I'm really again, I'm really excited about the day.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think one thing I want to touch on, which you just highlighted, that scaffolding, it in some ways I feel like was built in when people lived in kind of these like family households with like multi-generational, you know, grandma was down the block or on the third floor.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it was a lot more of a community of people that you know, love, trust who are your kin.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, like for example, like I never watched anybody nurse until I nursed.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like actually, I never had that opportunity to like know or see somebody breastfeeding a child because that just doesn't exist in common society, right?
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: The first birth that I attended was my own, obviously, um, in this world that we live in.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: So we don't have a lot of ways of understanding and looking at what this process actually looks like because it's in this very small family unit in four walls that are closed in, you know?
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think it's really helpful.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: We we have all these options, right?
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_00: We have various practitioners, we're bringing them all together.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's not that you have to hire everybody and like it's expensive also to hire your entire village.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so I think part of what we want to be cognizant of is you like creating that choice and the options that you just mentioned is there's so many ways to do this.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: There are so many ways that you can look at this, and there's so many ways that you can feel a little bit more supported.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe that's not all the way to the degree that maybe is an ideal situation, but there are steps that you can take.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_00: There's advice that you can pick up and certain things that you can reframe and think about differently to help you through this journey.
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think it's great that we have social media in some ways because 10 years ago, I don't think I ever got a phone call even once from somebody being like, hey, I'm just like 11 or 12 weeks pregnant and I'm not sure what pelvic floor PTs do, but my sister-in-law wanted it and like another country or whatever.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, she found it so helpful.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm just like reaching out to understand like what how this could benefit me.
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_00: I know that it can, but I don't know in what ways that it can.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: Those conversations didn't exist.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so in a post-COVID TikTok y era, it is great and wonderful that I get a lot more people coming in for what I call prehab as opposed to rehab, which is always the way to do it.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, we do prehab, pre-surgeries all the time.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: We do prehab in clinical settings all the time.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: Birth is a huge physical change.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think everybody should be getting quote unquote prehab.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: We don't have to call it that because it sounds really clinical, but wellness check-ins on your whole body.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_00: It's not just the public floor, it's the whole body.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: And so social media has enabled that conversation and that dialogue to move forward.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: And also, it has created a lot of conflict in what exactly the quality of that information that's being presented is, because we do have so many people online telling you what to do and how to do it, but they're not full, like they may have not been fully trained in understanding the entirety of you know what patient care actually looks like.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so sometimes people will take on these like quick tidbit advice, which great if it works sometimes, but the majority of the times it's not really fully going to solve the whole problem.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it just opens your eyes into understanding that.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: And so these conversations that we're having it rooted and ready helped unpack some of this and helps people have a bit more uh knowledge and a bit more language that they can use to understand these various options and also if they can seek one-on-one care.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_00: So that's the beauty of having all the perenatal professionals and parents rubbing shoulders at the event.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_01: 100%.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_01: We don't want to hand out band-aids.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_01: No, I think we want to hand out information that allows people to get, you know, deeper, uh, more lasting care and support.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_01: So I think, you know, if going on TikTok, you know, it's fun, it can be you know you can find some information there.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_01: Um but it's certainly not vetted.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_01: You really don't know about the quality and and and the sourcing.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_01: Um again, there are good folks out there, they're doctors and therapists and the like.
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I'm on TikTok too.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_01: So um but I do find that for folks, by and large, they need more somebody that's been vetted, somebody that actually has maybe, you know, gone to school.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um because I think again, as you're saying, that there's just so much information out there, you're drinking at from a fire hose.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_01: And we really want to help people to feel that that sense of okay, I know I've got quality sources at hand.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_01: I know who to turn to for questions that I have, and it's not just AI and it's not just um, you know, like a chat room for some people.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_01: Um but I wanted to ask you, you know, in this time of someone's life, when people come to you, what are questions that you know patients are asking you about?
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_01: You mentioned that people are coming in now for prehab, which is fantastic.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_01: Um, what are questions that parents have?
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_01: Um I'm just curious in terms of you know what what they're facing.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um I would say that they're some of their biggest questions are how do I prevent tearing during childbirth?
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: And they're so afraid and so scared of getting those Oasis tears, which are the third and the fourth degree perennial tears.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: People hear about that um on you know various platforms.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um we know in research that first and second degree tears, which are the much more minor ones, are like a little bit less involved.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: And so the um turnaround time for that is much shorter, and the majority of people have some small degree.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so people are coming in really scared, super scared about tearing, vaginal birth.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so they're always wondering, how do I, what do, what can I do to prevent that?
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: And the way that I frame that for them is you're running a marathon and you want to prevent an ankle sprain, right?
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_00: And so we can do so many things.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: We can do some exercises, we can make sure we do our mobility stretches, we can make sure we have great hip, knee, ankle mobility, trunk rotation, we can do all of these wonderful things.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: And there might be a branch on the floor that you didn't see that you tripped over and then still sprained your ankle.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's just possible that that could have happened because birth is one of the most unpredictable things.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so so much can be in our control, and then so much is not in our control.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: But have knowing at least the steps that you can take to minimize it, which is evidence-based.
• 19:43
  SPEAKER_00: We know that there's evidence-based tools that you can use in terms of, you know, perennial stretching, pre-massage, um, breathing exercises, positioning during birth, which if you ever hire a doula, they would walk you through really beautifully those positions.
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: We can do them in sessions in PT and then in actual live the birth setting of doula can help help you navigate that.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_00: We have so many tools that we can use.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: And so um that's probably one of the biggest ones.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: And then another big complaint people are coming in for is some level of urinary leakage.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: So it's it's debilitating.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_00: I experienced urinary leakage pre-baby entirely, had nothing to do with birth, pregnancy, or child, or you know, postpartum.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: I was a kid when this was a huge problem in my life.
• 20:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I realized later it was like kind of genetic because my grand, both my grandma's and my mom all had pelophores functions of different kinds to various different degrees.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so I would just like pee my pants all the time.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like it would just be like a funny thing.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_00: People would be like, ah, she laughed, ah, you probably peed your pants.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: And I did pee my pants.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so I understand how tough that can be for people.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, when you're pregnant, that the chances and the risk of, you know, a lot of baby weight and going down in the bladder, people are really worried about that.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: And they're really worried about it being a problem postpartum that limits them from running, limits them from jumping on a trampoline with their kids, limits them from just like being able to sit at meetings long enough at work.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's quite a big quality of life issue for people.
• 21:13
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and sometimes I don't even find out.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: The best part, Olivia, is that somebody will be coming in for like neck pain or back pain.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, I'm asking them all the questions and they're like, yeah, I mean, it's just sucks.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_00: I just like always pee my pants and both like, excuse me.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_00: What?
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_00: And it becomes like the secondary complaint.
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like three sessions in, they'll tell me, even though I asked them all the questions in the beginning, they just they people sometimes believe that that's just what they're the cards that are dealt to them now, and that's what they have to deal with.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then some people are coming in for that, being like, Oh my god, I can't, I can't be doing this is like this is not it.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: I can't, I can't live like this.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, I would say those two are kind of like the biggest pain points for people, other than of course, just pain in their bodies in different areas, which I kind of stand up.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_01: To something that you said of it that was really, I think, and I agree hard wholeheartedly, and that we can prepare up to a point and then we have to lick go.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_01: You can, you know, you can trip over that branch sometimes, even if you've done all the work, uh, you know, and sometimes but that knowing that you've done the work ahead of time, that the coping ahead, I call it, um, you know, whether it's the the prehab work or or kind of doing some therapy or looking at doing some reflection, um, you know, physically getting ready, mentally getting ready.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_01: And I think even with that preparation, knowing that I've done what I can do, and now I have to let go.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: Particularly vis-a-vis the birthing experience.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_01: I think sometimes we want to hand our uh providers a script and say, here's how it's gonna go.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_01: And as you just said, I mean, birth goes, we don't know how to predict which way it's gonna go.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_01: It's very unpredictable.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_01: And we just have to be able to roll with it.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_01: Which is really scary for people because they want to have control.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_01: Uh I get it.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_01: I want to have control too.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but being able to let go of that need for control and knowing that I have the preparation in place, I have the team around me that is gonna help me through this, um, allows you to, I think, relax into it.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_01: And I think um, you know, both physically, I think if you're more relaxed, um, you're less rigid, I imagine things go a little more easily.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_01: Um same thing, I think, mentally, if you're able to acknowledge, okay, this is a challenging time and I can do something about it to make it easier.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_01: Um that mindset I think is helpful as opposed to I need to look for the one answer and I'm gonna do the preparation, I'm gonna do the homework, I'm gonna be a good girl.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_01: And then that's gonna somehow ensure that I'm not gonna have any difficulty going forward.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_01: Because I think that knowing that I encourage people to do the homework and also to know that once you've done the homework, to be able to step back and let, you know, let go.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_01: Really hard to do, I know.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_01: We want to be in control, we want to be in charge.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but I think ultimately that's also part of what I hope invoking people get from this day at rigid and ready.
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_01: That ability to know, okay, I'm getting the information, I'm doing what I can, and I'm not going to prevaricate.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I'm not gonna, you know, spin and spin and spin about these things, which is um a hallmark of anxiety, by the way.
• 24:10
  SPEAKER_01: Um but being able to know that okay, I've I've done the work, you know, I've been working with Snegan, I've got preparation, I've got the exercises in place, I feel good.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and if things go sideways, which they might, I'll be okay.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_01: I'll figure it out.
• 24:23
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I've got my team around me, I've got my people.
• 24:25
  SPEAKER_01: Uh but that confidence I think comes with feeling prepared and having that team.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_01: And it doesn't just happen.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I wish someone would hand it you on a platter and be like, here you go, here's your team.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you really need to find that and build that.
• 24:40
  SPEAKER_01: And it's easier to do it ahead of time, but it's not absolutely necessary either.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, you can find support, you know, once you have your child.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_01: But I think that, you know, giving people information so that they can tap into these resources ahead of time to me is is really a really key goal of this this of the event.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I agree.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: I think um I agree with everything that you're saying.
• 25:02
  SPEAKER_00: We have to, you know, they always keep talking about that village, that village, that village.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_00: And like we just touched on earlier, you don't have that readily accessible.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: And so we just live in a different world.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's just, it is what it is.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: We have to understand that the circumstances in which parents parented is so different than so.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: We have to kind of reshape what how we're looking at this and the ways that we're doing this.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's so wonderful that we have providers, we have chiropractors, we have mental health, we have toolas, we have lactation, we have childbirth educators, we have public RPTs, we have, we have people, right?
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_00: And so a whole part of this conversation is let's a those providers need to talk to each other, right?
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_00: We need to all understand what we do with each other and how our work complements each other.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: And we also need for patients to have awareness of these options.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_00: Again, not that you need to hire 12 people while you're pregnant for care.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: That's not, this is not, that's not what we're asking you to do.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but to have an awareness that if there is a problem or if I'm having finding something challenging, then then I know that XYZ practitioner or this field is dedicated to helping me with this.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_00: And so I can tap into resources and see what I can do to help feel more supported.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_00: Because that lack of support itself, not understanding, not knowing, being stuck and being alone creates so much rift in everything that you're doing.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's not a fun place to be when you're experiencing pain in your body when you're nursing, or when you're having a challenging time, you know, navigating partners and relationship struggles, being postpartum, or when the baby's not latching and it's just like like feeding your baby is just a nightmare for you, or you know, any of the million other things.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: And so um, these challenges are common.
• 26:53
  SPEAKER_00: These are not like new problems, right?
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like lots of people experience these challenges.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_00: And so understanding what is kind of normal-ish or what is the normal trajectory of healing or normal trajectory of feelings or the normal trajectory of whatever and understanding the support that you can have, um, I think is really beneficial and beautiful.
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_00: And so Rudin Rennie is really that and more.
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so we're happy to share some details with you guys now on exactly what that event looks like.
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_00: I know Olivia started touching on it.
• 27:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but you know, it's been also a wonderful, wonderful pleasure working with Olivia, um, you know, both professionally and personally, uh, on this what was the big baby project that we're doing.
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but it's really to serve families.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: And so we're gonna start off with time where people are checking in, mingling.
• 27:46
  SPEAKER_00: There's some wonderful bites from our food sponsor, Pura Vita, um who's gonna be giving us treats and nourishments throughout the afternoon.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_00: And so people have time to connect with parents and providers for a little short time.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_00: And then we're going into some very specific talks from Olivia and myself.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: She's gonna be speaking about the mind.
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna speak about the body as it relates to this particular period of time of early parenthood and pregnancy.
• 28:13
  SPEAKER_00: And then we're going to shift into a panel of uh birth workers.
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna have two obstetricians, a midwife and a doula, who are going to all be speaking to us on this very complicated state of affairs of birth and reproduction in the United States of America specifically.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_00: Can't comment on all the other countries who are um, you know, doing this work, but we are going to touch on some of the challenges and you know, they're gonna be having honest dialogues about how their professions all work because they're in the room during birth.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: They're very specifically the three providers who in the United States are um there.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_00: And so they have different um, you know, ways that they approach care, obviously, because they're totally different types of providers.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_00: And so we're gonna have honest conversations there.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: And then we will have a fireside chat with our um featured speaker, Neharush, as Olivia mentioned.
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_00: She's the author of The Power Pause.
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_00: And that's kind of setting the stage for like motherhood in America in general, because it's super complicated and it has evolved over the last, you know, 50 to 75 years in ways that are just, you know, astronomically unimaginable, what moms do and what motherhood looks like.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, what it is to be a woman in this country these days is also different, so different.
• 29:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so we're just gonna talk about that and um, you know, share perspectives.
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, and then we'll end with some raffle prizes.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_00: So we'll have an amazing set of gifts that we'll be handing out to raffle winners, um, you know, everything from collagen powder to something like a free Pilates class to free courses.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: Olivia has a course.
• 29:55
  SPEAKER_00: I have a course as well, both online and dedicated just for patients to be able to take advantage of services from us and really understand the work that we do much, much more deeply and at their own pace.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_00: So we have uh that raffled out and so many, so many other things.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_00: We have a bunch of amazing raffle prizes.
• 30:13
  SPEAKER_00: And everybody gets to leave with a swag bag full of discounted products and services from our wonderful spar uh sponsors and partners for our event.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_00: And we have more time for mingling with two breakout rooms.
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_00: So one uh raffle winner will also be able to have the opportunity to try on heart rate variability training with an occupational therapist.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: And we'll talk about a little bit about that at the event.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then another raffle winner will get to break out into another room for a complimentary session of, you know, just like full-body um, you know, physical training, personal training uh analysis, explaining, you know, what they could do to enhance their workouts um with physical equilibrium.
• 30:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the OT is Taylor Rahi.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so we are just so excited.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: We have so many wonderful things um at this event.
• 31:04
  SPEAKER_00: Olivia, we we created this because there's nothing like this out there.
• 31:07
  SPEAKER_00: We I haven't heard about or been to anything like this, right?
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_01: I wish I had this when I my kids were little or when I was, you know, pregnant or going through this time because I mean bringing all these providers together in one room, um getting the chance to ask questions, getting information.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I wish I'd had that because I think you know it took me going to different providers and having different appointments all over the place.
• 31:28
  SPEAKER_01: This is really a place to get your questions answered, get information, um, get a great swag bag, get a great opportunity for these raffle gifts are pretty, pretty sweet.
• 31:37
  SPEAKER_01: Um and I think it's also a chance for people to get to know other pregnant people, other new parents.
• 31:42
  SPEAKER_01: So it's not just about meeting the providers, which I think is a huge component.
• 31:46
  SPEAKER_01: It's also about turning to the person next to you and being like, hey, you know, we're in this together, uh, and being able to connect with those folks as well.
• 31:53
  SPEAKER_01: So it's really a time of connection.
• 31:55
  SPEAKER_01: We're keeping it small deliberately so that you do get a chance to meet people and connect with people, um, again, both the parents and the and the professionals in the room.
• 32:04
  SPEAKER_01: So it's really designed to be a warm, fun, positive educational experience.
• 32:11
  SPEAKER_01: And we're really hoping that you'll come, basically.
• 32:14
  SPEAKER_01: If this feels like it's up your alley, if it feels like something that you know you're interested in.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I'm sure Sneha's gonna drop the the uh address for the tickets in the in the information for the show.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_01: But I think it would be fantastic to have parents there.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_01: If there are providers too that are interested, we have different tickets, one one for providers, one for parents.
• 32:34
  SPEAKER_01: Um, we'd love to have you there.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_01: We'd love to have you be part of this.
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_01: It is a new event.
• 32:38
  SPEAKER_01: It's something that I, again, have not seen offered in New York City in this area before.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_01: So we're excited to um let people know about it, to get people in the room with us and to have a great time.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_01: So I think it's gonna be wonderful.
• 32:51
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 32:51
  SPEAKER_00: I will drop all of the links in the show notes for our promo video, our new Instagram account, and also the ticketing page that you can get information on all the speakers and exactly the format of the event.
• 33:03
  SPEAKER_00: We really hope to see you there, especially if you're in the New York, New Jersey area, if you're pregnant or newly postpartum or a new dad or a new family, and you really want to just understand different options, we would love to see you there.
• 33:16
  SPEAKER_01: Join us.
• 33:17
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• 33:42
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