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3. Curiosity & Discernment · Lately with Lexi

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  SPEAKER_00: So I don't know about you,
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  SPEAKER_00: but when I was a kid,
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  I drove my parents absolutely crazy because I would just ask
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  them so many questions
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  SPEAKER_00: all of the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And whenever they would answer a question, I would have another one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And why became my favorite full sentence.
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  And that's kind of the theme of this week's topic that I want
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  us to dive into.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's all about cultivating curiosity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think there's this really beautiful element of childlike wonder.
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  SPEAKER_00: The more curious we are and the more discerning we are,
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  SPEAKER_00: two of these things are so important when it comes to being on a
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you think about it,
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  SPEAKER_00: what I have experienced,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I'm hopeful that you can relate to this,
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  is that it is so energizing for your whole system when you
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  approach life with the
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  SPEAKER_00: same playful curiosity that you had as a child.
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  SPEAKER_00: No judgment, no agenda, just pure childlike wonder.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Through the Veil,
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  where we explore the themes I'm teaching in my yoga classes and
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  workshops each
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  SPEAKER_00: week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this week's theme is all about curiosity and discernment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when it comes to curiosity,
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  SPEAKER_00: curiosity is the child in us,
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  SPEAKER_00: the one who plays,
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  SPEAKER_00: explores,
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  SPEAKER_00: asks why,
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  SPEAKER_00: and
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we have discernment, who is the elder.
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  SPEAKER_00: Discernment is the elder,
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  SPEAKER_00: the one who pauses,
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  SPEAKER_00: listens,
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  SPEAKER_00: and knows when to step forward or take a step back.
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  SPEAKER_00: And together,
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  SPEAKER_00: curiosity and discernment,
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  they keep us open to possibility while also guiding us towards
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  what's meant for us
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  SPEAKER_00: and what's true for ourselves.
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  When I completed my rose lineage priestess training and became
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  a certified divine
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  SPEAKER_00: intuitive healer,
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  SPEAKER_00: I claimed the title priestess of discernment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to me,
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  SPEAKER_00: that means pausing before acting,
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  SPEAKER_00: practicing non-reactivity,
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  and tuning into my inner compass before allowing anybody else's
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  influence to sway
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  SPEAKER_00: me one way or the next.
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  SPEAKER_00: And
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  And like many spiritual seekers,
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  I will be honest,
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  I've trusted the wrong teachers.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've learned a lot,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I've also stayed in jobs that I knew weren't right for me,
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  SPEAKER_00: probably longer than I could have or that I needed to.
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  I've also followed advice from psychics or therapists that
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  ultimately led me away
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  SPEAKER_00: from myself and what was right for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And each of these moments taught me the same lesson.
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  SPEAKER_00: Without discernment, curiosity alone can be easily misled.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why discernment is so central to my spiritual path.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's how we cultivate sovereignty and inner authority.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even as we stay open,
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  SPEAKER_00: curious,
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  SPEAKER_00: we've got to be willing to learn,
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  but also take that sacred pause so that we can tune in to our
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  own intuition and be
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  SPEAKER_00: able to discern what
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  what is right and what maybe is not so I want you to try
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  something with me and
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  that's just a pause for a moment take a deep breath doesn't
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  matter if you're
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  driving you can keep your eyes open but just take a slow deep
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  breath in and out and
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  SPEAKER_00: And bring to mind a moment when maybe you felt pressured,
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  a time you felt pressured to follow someone else's advice or
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  someone else's
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  SPEAKER_00: footsteps or three-step coaching program or method.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if something in you hesitated,
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  SPEAKER_00: find a moment,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you need to pause this,
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  SPEAKER_00: pause it,
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  but find a time in your life when you felt this sort of
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  pressure to maybe almost
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  SPEAKER_00: blindly follow someone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe it was a right step for them,
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  SPEAKER_00: but something in you hesitated and maybe you felt like,
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  SPEAKER_00: hmm,
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  SPEAKER_00: this might not be the best thing for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So find that memory,
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  SPEAKER_00: whatever that is,
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  SPEAKER_00: first thought,
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  SPEAKER_00: best thought,
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  SPEAKER_00: and notice how it feels in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like check in somatically what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you feel tight?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you feel heavy or constricted?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the gut feels like, oh, it just got punched.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you feel a little bit anxious, unsure, flighty.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just notice that sensation without judgment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And imagine pausing.
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  Regardless of that situation in your life and what came next or
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  what followed,
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  SPEAKER_00: Just give yourself a moment right now,
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  instead of rushing forward and following that advice or moving
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  forward into this
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  new job or friend group or career opportunity or business plan
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  or coaching program,
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  SPEAKER_00: before you took that next step,
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  SPEAKER_00: What if you did this differently?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if instead of rushing forward, you got curious?
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  You allowed yourself that time to have a sacred pause and to
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  tune in and ask
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  SPEAKER_00: yourself,
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  SPEAKER_00: what feels true for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does this feel true for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I not seeing yet?
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  And it's that moment of curiosity that will open the door for
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  your discernment to come through.
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  And that's your inner compass that says yes or no to what
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  authentically is right
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  SPEAKER_00: for you and your unique life expression.
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  So just notice what shifts when you imagine responding with
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  this sacred pause.
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  And this is a very simple contemplative practice that I wanna
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  encourage you to play
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  SPEAKER_00: around with this week.
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  Whenever someone has an opinion or advice or you see something
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  on social media,
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  SPEAKER_00: you see an ad,
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  SPEAKER_00: give yourself a moment to pause and to really tune in
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  SPEAKER_00: to if it's right for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the more you practice pausing and become curious and discerning,
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  the greater alignment and peace you're going to start to
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  experience in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to be like me.
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  You don't have to blindly follow a bunch of psychics advice to
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  realize actually
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  SPEAKER_00: that made things harder.
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  This took me down this roundabout loop that I didn't really
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  need to experience.
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  right yes we go through those things to learn and grow from
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  them but now knowing
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  how valuable this practice of curiosity and discernment is play
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  with that in your
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  life and there's also a couple other practical ways you can
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  start to develop
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  curiosity and discernment so here are three things this week
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  that you can start to
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  SPEAKER_00: play with the first one
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  SPEAKER_00: is cultivating a beginner's mind,
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  SPEAKER_00: approaching each moment with fresh eyes,
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  SPEAKER_00: asking what else could be true here,
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  SPEAKER_00: rather than assuming you already know.
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  Second,
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  and I love this,
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  my boyfriend Alex says this all the time,
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  seek to understand.
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  SPEAKER_00: not just to be understood.
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  You know,
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  instead of rushing to maybe prove your point,
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  try asking an extra question.
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  SPEAKER_00: Curiosity will always deepen our connection to ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: to other people,
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  SPEAKER_00: and also to the divine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then third, start to differentiate judgment from discernment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Judgment often feels prideful or harsh.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's often rooted in being right.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's some inflexibility there when we're judging someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whereas discernment, by contrast, feels caring.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's humble and also rooted in truth.
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  And you can discern that an action is harmful without
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  necessarily labeling that person as bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's really important.
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  SPEAKER_00: As Einstein said, the important thing is that we do not stop questioning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Plato also reminded us and talked about this a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: The right question is usually more important than the right answer.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want you this week to think about curiosity and discernment.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's almost a paradox, these two.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they balance each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: Curiosity is what opens us to new experiences,
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  while discernment steadies us so that we won't lose our way or
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  fall off track from
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  SPEAKER_00: our own personal truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Together,
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  curiosity and discernment allow us to live with both childlike
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  wonder and also the
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  SPEAKER_00: wisdom of an elder.
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  This theme of curiosity and discernment has also been guiding
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  my own personal
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  SPEAKER_00: studies and reflections and
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  Lately,
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  I've been kind of diving back into the true history and origins
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  of yoga.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  it's something that we don't discuss often enough in classes
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  because frankly,
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  SPEAKER_00: there's just not enough time in an hour yoga class.
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  And that's why I'm going to be writing about my findings on
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  Substack very soon.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'd love for you to explore it with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So make sure that you are subscribed.
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  SPEAKER_00: This article I'm working on goes to the first ever,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  places in sacred texts where the word yoga is ruse and kind of
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  its evolution
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  SPEAKER_00: throughout time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you like to nerd out on history like I do and
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  and also the science of yoga and kind of the esoteric spiritual
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  side of the
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  practice as well i think you'll really enjoy it so i'm hoping
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  i'll have that on
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  SPEAKER_00: substack that new article within like a week or two
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  SPEAKER_00: So with that being said,
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want to thank you for tuning in and listening to Through the Veil.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you follow along on Substack if you want to go deeper.
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  And also to stay updated about upcoming workshops or retreats
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  that I'm hosting,
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  you can always message me directly on Substack if you have
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  questions or reach out
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  SPEAKER_00: to book a class or any private sessions with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: All links to work with me are also in the show notes below.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a beautiful week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Om Shanti.
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  SPEAKER_00: Namaste.