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Navigating the Complexities of Modern Dating with Marni Kinrys, The Original Wing Girl · Skirts Up!

• 0:00
  Hey,
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  you.
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  You're
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  tuned
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  in
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  to
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  the
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  Skirts
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  up
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  show
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  with
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  Samantha
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  and
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  Melissa.
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  Join
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  our
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  mission
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  to
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  normalize
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  failure,
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  but
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  still
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  uncover
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  the
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  positives
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  at
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  every
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  twist
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  and
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  turn.
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  Skirts
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  up,
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  but
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  keep
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  your
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  panties
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  on.
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  What's
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  up,
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  Skirts
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  Up
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  Squad?
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  It's
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  Samantha
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  and
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  Melissa,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  our
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  second
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  to
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  last
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  episode
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  of
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  season
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  three.
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  Can
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  you
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  believe
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  that?
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  No,
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  it's
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  pretty
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  crazy,
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  actually.
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  Every
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  time
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  I
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  keep
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  thinking,
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  no,
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  we're
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  only
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  in
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  season
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  two,
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  and
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  then
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  I'm
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  like,
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  no,
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  this
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  is
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  three.
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  It's.
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  When
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  people
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  ask
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  how
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  long
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  we've
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  had
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  the
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  podcast,
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  I
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  go,
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  oh,
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  man,
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  it's
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  been
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  forever.
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  Like,
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  I
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  almost
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  go,
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  like,
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  it's
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  been
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  on
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  for
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  three
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  years,
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  but
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  then
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  I'm
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  like,
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  oh,
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  wait,
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  no,
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  it's
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  only
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  three
• 0:45
  seasons,
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  but,
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  like,
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  only
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  a
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  year
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  and
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  a
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  half.
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  Like,
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  you're
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  like,
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  it
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  just
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  feels
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  like
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  three
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  years
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  with
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  Melissa.
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  Dude,
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  we've
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  been
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  through,
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  like,
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  a
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  whole
• 0:55
  lifetime
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  together.
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  It
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  feels
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  like.
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  I
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  think
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  so,
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  too.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  it's
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  a
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  lot.
• 1:00
  I
• 1:00
  love
• 1:00
  it.
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  And,
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  like,
• 1:01
  the
• 1:01
  best
• 1:01
  way,
• 1:01
  though.
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  Yes.
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  And
• 1:03
  exactly.
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  Yeah.
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  It's
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  been
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  really
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  fun
• 1:04
  seeing
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  each
• 1:05
  other,
• 1:05
  you
• 1:05
  know,
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  go
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  through
• 1:06
  the
• 1:06
  ebbs
• 1:06
  and
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  flows
• 1:07
  of
• 1:07
  life.
• 1:08
  You
• 1:08
  know,
• 1:08
  it's
• 1:08
  not
• 1:08
  fun
• 1:08
  in
• 1:09
  the
• 1:09
  moment,
• 1:09
  but,
• 1:09
  like,
• 1:09
  I
• 1:10
  mean,
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  right?
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  Like,
• 1:10
  you've
• 1:11
  seen
• 1:11
  me
• 1:11
  at
• 1:11
  super,
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  like,
• 1:12
  not
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  amazing
• 1:13
  times
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  and
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  not
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  my
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  best,
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  and
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  you've
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  seen
• 1:16
  me
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  at
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  pretty
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  good
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  times,
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  and
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  you've
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  helped
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  me
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  through
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  all
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  of
• 1:19
  it.
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  Yeah.
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  And,
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  I
• 1:20
  mean,
• 1:20
  Ada
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  dying
• 1:21
  was
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  probably
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  one
• 1:22
  of
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  my
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  very
• 1:22
  lowest
• 1:23
  moments,
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  and
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  you
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  were
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  a
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  poor
• 1:26
  witness
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  to
• 1:26
  that.
• 1:27
  Me,
• 1:27
  like,
• 1:27
  crying
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  every
• 1:28
  recording
• 1:29
  going
• 1:29
  into
• 1:30
  it.
• 1:31
  That's
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  okay.
• 1:31
  I
• 1:32
  get
• 1:32
  it.
• 1:32
  I
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  do.
• 1:33
  I
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  do.
• 1:35
  But
• 1:36
  here
• 1:36
  we
• 1:36
  are,
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  and
• 1:39
  that's
• 1:39
  how,
• 1:39
  you
• 1:39
  know
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  we're
• 1:40
  saint.
• 1:41
  That's
• 1:41
  right.
• 1:43
  Oh,
• 1:43
  man.
• 1:43
  Okay,
• 1:44
  so
• 1:45
  we
• 1:45
  have
• 1:45
  a
• 1:45
  really
• 1:45
  fun
• 1:45
  guest,
• 1:46
  but
• 1:46
  there's,
• 1:46
  like,
• 1:47
  a
• 1:47
  few
• 1:47
  things
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  that
• 1:48
  we
• 1:48
  want
• 1:48
  to
• 1:49
  say.
• 1:49
  First
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  off,
• 1:50
  most
• 1:50
  of
• 1:50
  y'
• 1:50
  all
• 1:50
  have
• 1:51
  noticed
• 1:51
  and
• 1:52
  have
• 1:52
  probably
• 1:52
  read
• 1:52
  the
• 1:53
  article.
• 1:53
  We
• 1:53
  have
• 1:54
  been
• 1:54
  featured
• 1:54
  and
• 1:55
  Shout
• 1:55
  Out
• 1:55
  Atlanta.
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  Yes.
• 1:57
  Yeah.
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  So
• 1:58
  thank
• 1:58
  you,
• 1:58
  guys.
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  Yes.
• 2:00
  It
• 2:00
  was
• 2:00
  so
• 2:00
  bizarre,
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  like,
• 2:01
  to
• 2:02
  get
• 2:02
  a
• 2:02
  random
• 2:02
  email
• 2:03
  about,
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  hey,
• 2:04
  let's
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  learn
• 2:05
  about
• 2:06
  you
• 2:06
  and
• 2:06
  skirts
• 2:07
  up.
• 2:07
  And
• 2:08
  there
• 2:08
  was,
• 2:08
  like,
• 2:08
  a
• 2:09
  mishap.
• 2:09
  That
• 2:09
  actually
• 2:10
  is
• 2:10
  a
• 2:10
  fail
• 2:10
  right
• 2:10
  there.
• 2:11
  Not
• 2:12
  really.
• 2:12
  Or
• 2:13
  that
• 2:13
  could
• 2:13
  be.
• 2:14
  Yeah,
• 2:14
  you
• 2:14
  could
• 2:14
  do
• 2:14
  that.
• 2:15
  Yeah.
• 2:15
  So
• 2:16
  we
• 2:16
  got
• 2:16
  this,
• 2:17
  like,
• 2:17
  email
• 2:17
  request
• 2:18
  of,
• 2:18
  like,
• 2:18
  hey,
• 2:19
  share
• 2:19
  about
• 2:21
  skirts
• 2:21
  up
• 2:21
  and.
• 2:22
  And
• 2:22
  about
• 2:22
  you
• 2:23
  and
• 2:23
  how
• 2:23
  it
• 2:23
  got
• 2:23
  started.
• 2:23
  And
• 2:24
  so
• 2:25
  what
• 2:25
  it
• 2:25
  sounded
• 2:25
  like
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  to
• 2:26
  me
• 2:26
  was
• 2:26
  like,
• 2:27
  oh,
• 2:27
  here's
• 2:27
  some
• 2:27
  prompts.
• 2:28
  Answer
• 2:28
  these
• 2:28
  prompts,
• 2:29
  like,
• 2:29
  via
• 2:30
  type,
• 2:30
  and
• 2:31
  then
• 2:31
  we'll
• 2:31
  let
• 2:31
  you
• 2:31
  know
• 2:31
  if
• 2:32
  we
• 2:32
  want
• 2:32
  to
• 2:32
  move
• 2:32
  forward
• 2:32
  with
• 2:33
  an
• 2:33
  interview.
• 2:34
  So
• 2:35
  I
• 2:35
  answered
• 2:35
  their
• 2:36
  Props
• 2:36
  sent
• 2:36
  it
• 2:36
  over.
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  And
• 2:37
  then
• 2:37
  before
• 2:37
  I
• 2:38
  know
• 2:38
  it,
• 2:38
  I
• 2:38
  mean,
• 2:38
  like,
• 2:39
  a
• 2:39
  few
• 2:39
  weeks
• 2:39
  later,
• 2:40
  I
• 2:41
  didn't
• 2:41
  even
• 2:41
  get,
• 2:41
  like,
• 2:42
  a
• 2:42
  confirmation,
• 2:42
  like,
• 2:43
  of
• 2:43
  even
• 2:43
  that
• 2:44
  there
• 2:44
  was
• 2:44
  going
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  be
• 2:44
  a
• 2:44
  publish.
• 2:45
  And
• 2:45
  all
• 2:45
  of
• 2:45
  a
• 2:45
  sudden
• 2:45
  I
• 2:46
  just
• 2:46
  find
• 2:46
  out,
• 2:46
  like,
• 2:46
  oh,
• 2:47
  my
• 2:47
  article
• 2:48
  has
• 2:48
  been
• 2:49
  published
• 2:49
  on
• 2:49
  Shout
• 2:50
  Out
• 2:50
  Atlanta.
• 2:50
  Because
• 2:50
  I
• 2:51
  had
• 2:51
  someone,
• 2:52
  like,
• 2:52
  marketing
• 2:53
  me,
• 2:53
  trying
• 2:53
  to
• 2:54
  sell
• 2:54
  me,
• 2:54
  like,
• 2:54
  a
• 2:54
  plaque.
• 2:56
  And
• 2:56
  I
• 2:56
  was
• 2:56
  like.
• 2:57
  I
• 2:57
  was
• 2:58
  like,
• 2:58
  what?
• 2:58
  They
• 2:59
  do
• 2:59
  that
• 2:59
  to
• 2:59
  my
• 3:00
  shop?
• 3:00
  They'll,
• 3:00
  like,
• 3:01
  call
• 3:01
  and
• 3:01
  be
• 3:01
  like,
• 3:01
  you
• 3:01
  want
• 3:02
  a
• 3:02
  plaque
• 3:02
  for
• 3:02
  being
• 3:03
  Best
• 3:03
  of
• 3:03
  Gwinnett?
• 3:03
  And
• 3:04
  it's
• 3:04
  like.
• 3:05
  But
• 3:05
  nobody
• 3:06
  really,
• 3:06
  like.
• 3:06
  I
• 3:06
  don't
• 3:07
  think
• 3:07
  that's
• 3:07
  how
• 3:08
  I
• 3:08
  found
• 3:08
  out
• 3:08
  we
• 3:08
  got
• 3:09
  published.
• 3:09
  That's
• 3:09
  how
• 3:10
  you
• 3:10
  found
• 3:10
  out.
• 3:10
  Okay.
• 3:10
  God,
• 3:11
  that's
• 3:11
  hilarious.
• 3:12
  Yeah.
• 3:12
  I
• 3:12
  had
• 3:13
  no
• 3:13
  idea.
• 3:15
  So
• 3:15
  I
• 3:15
  thought
• 3:15
  they.
• 3:16
  I'm
• 3:16
  glad
• 3:17
  you
• 3:17
  found
• 3:17
  out.
• 3:17
  I
• 3:18
  know
• 3:18
  other.
• 3:18
  Yeah.
• 3:19
  Then
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  literally
• 3:20
  had
• 3:20
  to
• 3:21
  go
• 3:21
  look
• 3:21
  up
• 3:21
  Shout
• 3:21
  Out
• 3:22
  Atlanta,
• 3:23
  looked
• 3:23
  up,
• 3:23
  skirts
• 3:23
  up.
• 3:24
  And
• 3:24
  I
• 3:24
  was
• 3:24
  like,
• 3:25
  we
• 3:25
  were
• 3:25
  published,
• 3:26
  like,
• 3:26
  three
• 3:26
  weeks
• 3:26
  ago.
• 3:28
  What
• 3:28
  in
• 3:28
  the
• 3:29
  world?
• 3:30
  But
• 3:30
  anywho,
• 3:31
  yes,
• 3:31
  we
• 3:32
  were
• 3:32
  published
• 3:32
  and
• 3:33
  Shout
• 3:33
  out
• 3:33
  of
• 3:33
  Atlanta.
• 3:33
  It
• 3:33
  was
• 3:34
  really
• 3:34
  cool.
• 3:34
  But
• 3:34
  I
• 3:34
  do
• 3:35
  feel
• 3:35
  like
• 3:35
  it
• 3:35
  was
• 3:35
  a
• 3:35
  fail
• 3:36
  on
• 3:36
  my
• 3:36
  part
• 3:36
  to
• 3:36
  not
• 3:37
  really
• 3:37
  understand
• 3:37
  what
• 3:37
  I
• 3:38
  was
• 3:38
  filling
• 3:38
  out,
• 3:38
  because
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  just
• 3:39
  feel
• 3:39
  like
• 3:39
  it
• 3:39
  could
• 3:39
  have
• 3:40
  been
• 3:40
  so
• 3:40
  much
• 3:40
  bigger
• 3:40
  and
• 3:40
  so
• 3:41
  much
• 3:41
  better
• 3:41
  if
• 3:41
  we,
• 3:41
  like,
• 3:42
  could
• 3:42
  have
• 3:42
  done
• 3:42
  it
• 3:42
  together.
• 3:43
  So
• 3:43
  I'm
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  little
• 3:43
  bummed
• 3:44
  about
• 3:44
  that.
• 3:44
  Fun.
• 3:45
  But
• 3:45
  next
• 3:45
  time.
• 3:45
  And
• 3:46
  honestly,
• 3:46
  like,
• 3:47
  you
• 3:47
  shouted
• 3:47
  me
• 3:47
  out
• 3:48
  super
• 3:48
  well.
• 3:48
  Like,
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  felt
• 3:49
  like
• 3:50
  even
• 3:50
  though
• 3:50
  I
• 3:50
  didn't
• 3:50
  have
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  part
• 3:51
  of,
• 3:51
  like,
• 3:51
  typing
• 3:52
  and
• 3:52
  saying
• 3:52
  things
• 3:53
  or
• 3:53
  answering
• 3:53
  any
• 3:54
  of
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  prompts,
• 3:55
  I
• 3:55
  still
• 3:55
  feel
• 3:55
  like
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  was.
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  was
• 3:57
  part
• 3:57
  of
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  article
• 3:58
  with
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  because
• 3:59
  you.
• 3:59
  I
• 3:59
  don't
• 4:00
  know,
• 4:00
  you
• 4:00
  made
• 4:00
  me
• 4:00
  feel
• 4:00
  like
• 4:01
  I
• 4:01
  was
• 4:01
  part
• 4:01
  of
• 4:01
  it,
• 4:01
  and
• 4:02
  so
• 4:02
  that
• 4:02
  was
• 4:02
  pretty
• 4:03
  cool.
• 4:03
  Well,
• 4:03
  of
• 4:04
  course
• 4:04
  you're
• 4:04
  part
• 4:04
  of
• 4:04
  it.
• 4:04
  And
• 4:05
  your.
• 4:06
  Your
• 4:07
  quilting,
• 4:09
  like,
• 4:09
  community
• 4:10
  is
• 4:11
  really
• 4:11
  one
• 4:12
  of
• 4:12
  our,
• 4:12
  like,
• 4:12
  loudest
• 4:13
  supporters,
• 4:14
  so
• 4:14
  it's,
• 4:14
  like,
• 4:14
  really
• 4:14
  fun.
• 4:15
  And
• 4:15
  it's
• 4:15
  like,
• 4:15
  it's.
• 4:16
  You
• 4:16
  know,
• 4:16
  how.
• 4:17
  How
• 4:17
  could
• 4:17
  you
• 4:17
  not
• 4:17
  even.
• 4:18
  Like,
• 4:18
  if
• 4:18
  you
• 4:18
  were
• 4:19
  physically
• 4:19
  involved
• 4:20
  in
• 4:20
  that
• 4:20
  interview,
• 4:21
  like,
• 4:21
  there's
• 4:21
  no
• 4:21
  way
• 4:22
  that
• 4:22
  they
• 4:22
  wouldn't
• 4:22
  have
• 4:22
  been
• 4:22
  shouted
• 4:23
  out
• 4:23
  anyways.
• 4:23
  So
• 4:24
  it's
• 4:24
  like.
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  mean,
• 4:25
  they
• 4:25
  are
• 4:26
  a
• 4:26
  big
• 4:26
  part.
• 4:26
  The.
• 4:27
  A
• 4:27
  crafted
• 4:28
  cottage
• 4:28
  is,
• 4:28
  like,
• 4:28
  a
• 4:29
  huge
• 4:29
  part
• 4:29
  of
• 4:29
  our
• 4:30
  platform.
• 4:30
  Thank
• 4:31
  you.
• 4:31
  I
• 4:32
  love
• 4:32
  all
• 4:32
  of
• 4:32
  our
• 4:33
  people
• 4:33
  that
• 4:33
  support
• 4:33
  us.
• 4:34
  Yeah,
• 4:34
  we're
• 4:34
  pretty
• 4:35
  lucky,
• 4:35
  aren't
• 4:35
  we?
• 4:35
  Yeah.
• 4:36
  So
• 4:36
  that's
• 4:37
  my
• 4:37
  fail.
• 4:38
  It
• 4:38
  was
• 4:38
  not
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  bad
• 4:39
  one,
• 4:39
  though.
• 4:40
  Wait,
• 4:40
  you
• 4:40
  can't
• 4:41
  delete
• 4:41
  or
• 4:41
  fail?
• 4:42
  Why?
• 4:42
  Can't
• 4:43
  do
• 4:43
  it
• 4:43
  yet.
• 4:44
  Okay,
• 4:44
  I'll
• 4:44
  tell
• 4:45
  it
• 4:45
  for
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  next
• 4:45
  episode.
• 4:46
  Okay,
• 4:46
  what's
• 4:47
  my
• 4:47
  fail
• 4:47
  this
• 4:47
  time?
• 4:48
  The
• 4:49
  fail
• 4:49
  is
• 4:49
  that
• 4:50
  we
• 4:51
  talked
• 4:51
  about
• 4:51
  what
• 4:51
  we
• 4:52
  were
• 4:52
  talking
• 4:52
  about
• 4:52
  fails
• 4:52
  and
• 4:53
  neither
• 4:53
  of
• 4:53
  us
• 4:53
  did
• 4:53
  the
• 4:54
  fails
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  we
• 4:55
  talked
• 4:55
  about.
• 4:56
  That's
• 4:56
  hilarious.
• 4:57
  Yes.
• 4:57
  Sam
• 4:57
  was
• 4:57
  going
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  share
• 4:58
  a
• 4:58
  different
• 4:58
  fail
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  I
• 4:59
  was
• 4:59
  share
• 5:00
  one
• 5:00
  too,
• 5:01
  but
• 5:01
  then
• 5:01
  she's.
• 5:02
  No,
• 5:02
  you're
• 5:02
  right.
• 5:03
  Sometimes
• 5:03
  things
• 5:03
  just
• 5:04
  roll
• 5:04
  the
• 5:04
  way
• 5:04
  they
• 5:04
  roll.
• 5:05
  And
• 5:05
  Atlanta
• 5:06
  thing
• 5:06
  was
• 5:06
  pretty.
• 5:07
  That's
• 5:07
  a
• 5:07
  good
• 5:07
  one.
• 5:07
  We
• 5:07
  need
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  share
• 5:08
  that.
• 5:08
  Yeah,
• 5:10
  it
• 5:10
  is
• 5:10
  really
• 5:11
  cool.
• 5:11
  Honestly,
• 5:12
  it
• 5:12
  could
• 5:12
  be
• 5:12
  a
• 5:12
  fail
• 5:12
  on
• 5:12
  my
• 5:13
  part
• 5:13
  too,
• 5:13
  just
• 5:13
  for
• 5:13
  the
• 5:14
  fact
• 5:14
  that
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  don't
• 5:14
  like,
• 5:15
  go
• 5:15
  out
• 5:15
  and
• 5:16
  put
• 5:16
  our
• 5:17
  name
• 5:17
  out
• 5:17
  there
• 5:17
  as
• 5:17
  much
• 5:17
  as
• 5:18
  I
• 5:18
  should.
• 5:19
  Like,
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  feel
• 5:19
  like
• 5:19
  you're
• 5:19
  really
• 5:20
  good.
• 5:20
  About
• 5:20
  joining
• 5:20
  all
• 5:20
  of
• 5:21
  these
• 5:21
  platforms
• 5:22
  and
• 5:22
  saying,
• 5:22
  hey,
• 5:23
  skirts
• 5:23
  up
• 5:23
  is,
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  don't
• 5:24
  know,
• 5:25
  joining
• 5:26
  another
• 5:26
  Facebook
• 5:26
  group
• 5:27
  or
• 5:27
  another
• 5:27
  community
• 5:27
  and
• 5:28
  just
• 5:28
  kind
• 5:28
  of
• 5:28
  getting
• 5:28
  our
• 5:29
  name
• 5:29
  out
• 5:29
  there.
• 5:29
  And
• 5:29
  so
• 5:29
  we
• 5:30
  get
• 5:30
  a
• 5:30
  lot
• 5:30
  of
• 5:30
  people
• 5:30
  who
• 5:30
  reach
• 5:31
  out
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  us
• 5:31
  through
• 5:31
  those,
• 5:32
  which
• 5:33
  is
• 5:33
  really
• 5:33
  awesome.
• 5:33
  And
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  think
• 5:34
  that's
• 5:34
  probably
• 5:35
  how
• 5:35
  they
• 5:35
  found
• 5:35
  us,
• 5:36
  is
• 5:36
  you
• 5:36
  putting
• 5:36
  us
• 5:37
  out
• 5:37
  there
• 5:37
  somewhere?
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  guess.
• 5:39
  That's
• 5:39
  awesome.
• 5:41
  Oh,
• 5:41
  yeah.
• 5:42
  And
• 5:42
  that's
• 5:43
  actually
• 5:44
  how
• 5:44
  our
• 5:45
  guest
• 5:46
  today
• 5:46
  that
• 5:46
  we
• 5:46
  have
• 5:47
  found
• 5:47
  us,
• 5:48
  which
• 5:48
  is
• 5:48
  really
• 5:48
  crazy
• 5:49
  because
• 5:49
  she's
• 5:49
  got
• 5:50
  a
• 5:51
  large
• 5:51
  following
• 5:51
  of
• 5:52
  her
• 5:52
  own
• 5:52
  and
• 5:52
  she
• 5:52
  has
• 5:53
  created
• 5:53
  this
• 5:54
  business
• 5:54
  from
• 5:55
  the
• 5:55
  ground
• 5:55
  up
• 5:56
  of
• 5:56
  helping
• 5:57
  men
• 5:58
  understand
• 5:59
  and
• 5:59
  be
• 5:59
  what
• 6:00
  women
• 6:00
  want.
• 6:01
  Yeah,
• 6:01
  it
• 6:01
  was
• 6:01
  really,
• 6:02
  really
• 6:02
  cool
• 6:02
  talking
• 6:02
  to
• 6:03
  her.
• 6:03
  She
• 6:03
  was
• 6:04
  really
• 6:04
  fun
• 6:04
  and
• 6:04
  easy
• 6:05
  to
• 6:05
  talk
• 6:05
  to
• 6:06
  and
• 6:06
  she
• 6:07
  was.
• 6:07
  I,
• 6:07
  I'm
• 6:08
  joking
• 6:08
  and.
• 6:08
  Or
• 6:09
  not.
• 6:09
  I
• 6:10
  was
• 6:10
  about
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  say,
• 6:10
  I
• 6:10
  joke
• 6:10
  that,
• 6:11
  but
• 6:11
  it's
• 6:11
  not
• 6:11
  like
• 6:12
  a
• 6:12
  joke.
• 6:12
  I
• 6:12
  make
• 6:12
  all
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  time.
• 6:12
  So
• 6:12
  it's
• 6:13
  not
• 6:13
  like
• 6:13
  I
• 6:13
  talk
• 6:13
  about
• 6:13
  you
• 6:13
  all
• 6:14
  the
• 6:14
  time,
• 6:14
  Marnie.
• 6:15
  But
• 6:15
  I
• 6:16
  was
• 6:16
  gonna
• 6:16
  say
• 6:16
  in
• 6:17
  my
• 6:17
  mind,
• 6:17
  I
• 6:17
  was
• 6:18
  thinking,
• 6:18
  she's
• 6:18
  doing
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  Lord's
• 6:19
  work.
• 6:20
  Right,
• 6:21
  Right.
• 6:22
  These
• 6:22
  men
• 6:23
  are
• 6:23
  so,
• 6:24
  they
• 6:24
  need
• 6:24
  help.
• 6:25
  Yeah,
• 6:25
  they
• 6:25
  do.
• 6:26
  Oh,
• 6:26
  my
• 6:26
  God.
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  wonder
• 6:27
  if
• 6:27
  we
• 6:27
  could
• 6:27
  set
• 6:27
  her
• 6:28
  up
• 6:28
  with
• 6:28
  your
• 6:28
  ex
• 6:28
  husband.
• 6:30
  What?
• 6:31
  Be
• 6:31
  like,
• 6:32
  hey,
• 6:33
  can
• 6:33
  you
• 6:33
  like
• 6:33
  non
• 6:33
  conspicuously
• 6:34
  reach
• 6:34
  out
• 6:34
  to
• 6:35
  her
• 6:35
  ex
• 6:35
  husband
• 6:35
  and
• 6:36
  be
• 6:36
  like,
• 6:36
  hey,
• 6:36
  I
• 6:36
  can
• 6:37
  help
• 6:37
  you.
• 6:37
  And
• 6:37
  then
• 6:38
  like,
• 6:39
  oh,
• 6:39
  my
• 6:39
  goodness.
• 6:40
  For
• 6:40
  his
• 6:40
  next
• 6:41
  endeavor,
• 6:41
  he
• 6:42
  doesn't
• 6:42
  need
• 6:42
  to
• 6:42
  be.
• 6:43
  He.
• 6:43
  We're
• 6:44
  all
• 6:44
  on
• 6:44
  our
• 6:44
  own
• 6:44
  journeys
• 6:45
  right
• 6:45
  now.
• 6:45
  I
• 6:45
  have
• 6:45
  a
• 6:45
  feeling
• 6:46
  he
• 6:46
  also
• 6:46
  needs
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  do.
• 6:47
  What
• 6:47
  I'm
• 6:48
  trying
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  do
• 6:48
  is
• 6:48
  just
• 6:49
  kind
• 6:49
  of
• 6:49
  find
• 6:49
  himself
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  me
• 6:50
  find
• 6:51
  myself.
• 6:51
  Right?
• 6:51
  Yeah.
• 6:52
  I
• 6:52
  was
• 6:52
  going
• 6:52
  to
• 6:52
  say
• 6:53
  Jesus,
• 6:53
  but
• 6:54
  not
• 6:54
  Jesus.
• 6:54
  That's
• 6:55
  what
• 6:55
  he
• 6:55
  does
• 6:55
  not
• 6:55
  need.
• 6:56
  But
• 6:57
  you
• 6:57
  know,
• 6:59
  anyway.
• 7:00
  Okay,
• 7:00
  I'm
• 7:01
  sorry,
• 7:01
  I'm
• 7:01
  sorry.
• 7:03
  But
• 7:03
  yeah,
• 7:03
  no,
• 7:04
  yeah,
• 7:04
  maybe
• 7:05
  one
• 7:05
  day.
• 7:05
  We
• 7:05
  can
• 7:05
  kind
• 7:06
  of
• 7:06
  like
• 7:07
  get
• 7:07
  her
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  talk
• 7:08
  to
• 7:09
  one
• 7:09
  of
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  men
• 7:09
  in
• 7:09
  our
• 7:09
  lives.
• 7:10
  That
• 7:10
  would
• 7:11
  be
• 7:11
  interesting.
• 7:11
  I
• 7:11
  think
• 7:12
  that
• 7:12
  that
• 7:12
  would
• 7:12
  be
• 7:12
  fun
• 7:13
  all
• 7:13
  on
• 7:13
  its
• 7:13
  own.
• 7:13
  I'm
• 7:14
  Putting
• 7:14
  that
• 7:14
  down
• 7:14
  on,
• 7:15
  like,
• 7:15
  a
• 7:15
  side
• 7:15
  note.
• 7:16
  Yes.
• 7:17
  Speaking
• 7:17
  of
• 7:17
  which,
• 7:17
  though,
• 7:18
  you
• 7:18
  guys
• 7:18
  are
• 7:18
  gonna
• 7:18
  love
• 7:19
  her
• 7:19
  when
• 7:19
  you
• 7:19
  meet
• 7:20
  her
• 7:20
  today.
• 7:21
  The
• 7:21
  conversation
• 7:21
  is
• 7:22
  just
• 7:22
  really
• 7:22
  fun,
• 7:22
  and
• 7:22
  she's
• 7:23
  just
• 7:23
  really
• 7:23
  fun
• 7:23
  to
• 7:23
  talk
• 7:24
  to.
• 7:25
  And
• 7:25
  I
• 7:26
  am
• 7:26
  actually
• 7:27
  going
• 7:27
  to
• 7:27
  be
• 7:27
  featured
• 7:28
  on
• 7:28
  her
• 7:28
  podcast
• 7:30
  in
• 7:30
  a
• 7:30
  couple
• 7:30
  of
• 7:31
  months,
• 7:31
  I
• 7:32
  think.
• 7:32
  If
• 7:32
  I
• 7:32
  remember
• 7:32
  correctly,
• 7:33
  I
• 7:33
  don't
• 7:33
  have
• 7:33
  my
• 7:33
  calendar
• 7:34
  up.
• 7:35
  We
• 7:35
  don't
• 7:35
  know
• 7:35
  when
• 7:35
  it's
• 7:35
  dropping,
• 7:36
  but
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  know
• 7:36
  that
• 7:37
  when
• 7:37
  it
• 7:37
  drops,
• 7:37
  you'll.
• 7:38
  You'll
• 7:38
  go
• 7:38
  on
• 7:38
  our
• 7:39
  Facebook
• 7:39
  page.
• 7:39
  Yeah.
• 7:40
  So
• 7:41
  we
• 7:41
  might.
• 7:42
  Maybe
• 7:42
  when
• 7:42
  it
• 7:42
  drops.
• 7:43
  Ooh,
• 7:45
  this
• 7:45
  is
• 7:45
  behind
• 7:45
  the
• 7:46
  scenes,
• 7:46
  guys.
• 7:46
  Maybe
• 7:47
  when
• 7:47
  it
• 7:47
  drops,
• 7:47
  we
• 7:48
  could
• 7:48
  even
• 7:48
  use
• 7:48
  it
• 7:48
  as
• 7:49
  one
• 7:49
  of
• 7:49
  our
• 7:49
  episodes.
• 7:49
  We
• 7:49
  can
• 7:50
  go
• 7:50
  on
• 7:50
  vacation.
• 7:51
  Well,
• 7:52
  I
• 7:52
  mean,
• 7:53
  when
• 7:53
  I.
• 7:53
  When
• 7:54
  we
• 7:54
  record
• 7:55
  on
• 7:55
  her
• 7:55
  platform,
• 7:56
  we
• 7:57
  will
• 7:57
  be
• 7:57
  on
• 7:57
  break,
• 7:58
  so
• 7:58
  depending
• 7:58
  on
• 7:58
  when
• 7:59
  she
• 7:59
  plans
• 7:59
  on
• 7:59
  dropping
• 7:59
  it,
• 8:00
  it
• 8:00
  could
• 8:00
  be
• 8:00
  a
• 8:00
  random
• 8:01
  drop.
• 8:01
  Who
• 8:01
  knows?
• 8:03
  We
• 8:03
  might
• 8:03
  just
• 8:03
  share
• 8:04
  it
• 8:04
  on
• 8:04
  ours
• 8:04
  too.
• 8:05
  Yeah.
• 8:05
  So
• 8:06
  it'll
• 8:06
  be
• 8:06
  fun
• 8:06
  anyway.
• 8:07
  So.
• 8:07
  Yeah,
• 8:07
  have
• 8:08
  fun
• 8:08
  listening
• 8:08
  to
• 8:09
  Marnie.
• 8:09
  Take
• 8:10
  it
• 8:10
  away.
• 8:10
  Marnie
• 8:11
  in
• 8:11
  your
• 8:11
  sultry
• 8:12
  voice.
• 8:15
  That's
• 8:15
  right.
• 8:15
  You
• 8:16
  did
• 8:16
  like
• 8:16
  her
• 8:16
  voice.
• 8:16
  I
• 8:17
  did.
• 8:17
  It
• 8:17
  was.
• 8:17
  So
• 8:22
  today
• 8:22
  we
• 8:22
  have
• 8:23
  Marnie,
• 8:23
  the
• 8:23
  wing
• 8:24
  girl
• 8:24
  with
• 8:24
  us
• 8:24
  today.
• 8:25
  Thank
• 8:25
  you
• 8:26
  for
• 8:26
  joining
• 8:26
  us.
• 8:27
  Thanks
• 8:27
  for
• 8:27
  having
• 8:28
  me.
• 8:28
  Thank
• 8:28
  you.
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  appreciate
• 8:29
  it.
• 8:29
  Absolutely.
• 8:30
  We're
• 8:30
  really
• 8:31
  excited.
• 8:32
  So
• 8:32
  I
• 8:32
  think,
• 8:32
  how
• 8:33
  did
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  two
• 8:33
  connect?
• 8:34
  So
• 8:34
  I
• 8:34
  want
• 8:34
  to
• 8:34
  say
• 8:34
  Sam
• 8:35
  came
• 8:35
  to
• 8:35
  me
• 8:36
  and
• 8:36
  said,
• 8:36
  hey,
• 8:37
  there's
• 8:37
  this
• 8:37
  really
• 8:37
  cool
• 8:38
  person
• 8:38
  that
• 8:38
  we
• 8:38
  need
• 8:39
  on
• 8:39
  our
• 8:39
  podcast.
• 8:40
  Oh,
• 8:40
  that's
• 8:40
  cool.
• 8:41
  On
• 8:41
  LinkedIn.
• 8:42
  So.
• 8:42
  So
• 8:43
  Avi,
• 8:43
  who
• 8:43
  works
• 8:43
  with
• 8:44
  me,
• 8:44
  has
• 8:44
  been.
• 8:45
  Here's
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  Secret
• 8:46
  runs
• 8:46
  my
• 8:46
  LinkedIn,
• 8:47
  so
• 8:47
  I'm
• 8:47
  not
• 8:47
  really
• 8:47
  on
• 8:48
  there,
• 8:48
  but
• 8:48
  he's
• 8:48
  been
• 8:48
  reaching
• 8:49
  out
• 8:49
  to
• 8:50
  other
• 8:50
  amazing
• 8:50
  content
• 8:51
  creators
• 8:51
  or
• 8:52
  other
• 8:52
  people
• 8:52
  that
• 8:52
  he
• 8:53
  thinks
• 8:53
  are
• 8:53
  doing
• 8:53
  wonderful
• 8:54
  things,
• 8:54
  and
• 8:54
  he
• 8:54
  connected
• 8:55
  me
• 8:55
  with
• 8:55
  Sam.
• 8:55
  Awesome.
• 8:56
  Yeah.
• 8:56
  I
• 8:57
  have
• 8:57
  no
• 8:57
  idea
• 8:58
  how
• 8:58
  she
• 8:58
  found
• 8:58
  us,
• 8:59
  but
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  was
• 9:00
  really
• 9:00
  excited
• 9:00
  that
• 9:00
  she
• 9:00
  did.
• 9:02
  So
• 9:02
  tell
• 9:02
  us
• 9:02
  a
• 9:03
  little
• 9:03
  bit
• 9:03
  about,
• 9:03
  like,
• 9:03
  what
• 9:04
  you
• 9:04
  do,
• 9:04
  because
• 9:05
  the
• 9:05
  wing
• 9:05
  girl,
• 9:06
  obviously,
• 9:06
  we
• 9:06
  all
• 9:06
  know
• 9:06
  what
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  wing
• 9:07
  girl
• 9:07
  is.
• 9:08
  Actually,
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  don't
• 9:09
  know.
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  actually.
• 9:10
  Do
• 9:10
  people
• 9:10
  actually
• 9:11
  know
• 9:11
  what
• 9:11
  that
• 9:11
  is
• 9:11
  because
• 9:12
  it's
• 9:12
  more
• 9:12
  like
• 9:12
  a
• 9:12
  wingman.
• 9:13
  Well,
• 9:13
  I
• 9:14
  would
• 9:14
  imagine
• 9:14
  it's
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  same
• 9:15
  thing.
• 9:15
  Am
• 9:15
  I
• 9:16
  crazy?
• 9:17
  No,
• 9:17
  it's
• 9:17
  totally
• 9:18
  the
• 9:18
  same
• 9:18
  thing.
• 9:18
  So
• 9:18
  I
• 9:19
  am
• 9:19
  a
• 9:19
  win
• 9:19
  girl
• 9:19
  to
• 9:20
  hundreds
• 9:20
  and
• 9:20
  hundreds
• 9:21
  of
• 9:21
  thousands
• 9:21
  of
• 9:21
  men
• 9:22
  around
• 9:22
  the
• 9:23
  world.
• 9:23
  I've
• 9:23
  been
• 9:23
  doing
• 9:23
  this
• 9:24
  for
• 9:24
  21
• 9:24
  years.
• 9:25
  But
• 9:25
  I
• 9:25
  help
• 9:25
  men
• 9:26
  learn
• 9:27
  to
• 9:27
  understand
• 9:27
  women
• 9:28
  so
• 9:28
  they
• 9:28
  can
• 9:28
  attract,
• 9:29
  date,
• 9:30
  get,
• 9:31
  be
• 9:31
  with,
• 9:31
  sleep
• 9:32
  with,
• 9:33
  do
• 9:33
  it
• 9:33
  all
• 9:33
  with
• 9:33
  full
• 9:34
  integrity
• 9:34
  and
• 9:34
  honesty
• 9:35
  and
• 9:35
  authenticity
• 9:36
  and
• 9:37
  just
• 9:37
  be
• 9:38
  unbelievable
• 9:39
  men
• 9:39
  who
• 9:39
  don't
• 9:40
  lose
• 9:40
  themselves
• 9:40
  or
• 9:41
  their
• 9:41
  masculinity
• 9:42
  to
• 9:42
  attract
• 9:42
  the
• 9:42
  women
• 9:42
  they
• 9:43
  want.
• 9:43
  Okay,
• 9:44
  interesting.
• 9:45
  What?
• 9:45
  What
• 9:46
  I
• 9:46
  always
• 9:46
  think
• 9:46
  of
• 9:47
  when.
• 9:47
  When
• 9:48
  we're
• 9:48
  talking
• 9:48
  about
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  wing
• 9:49
  girl
• 9:49
  method
• 9:50
  to
• 9:50
  our
• 9:50
  friends
• 9:50
  and
• 9:51
  stuff,
• 9:51
  and
• 9:52
  is,
• 9:52
  have
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  ever
• 9:53
  seen
• 9:54
  how
• 9:54
  I
• 9:54
  met
• 9:54
  your
• 9:54
  mother?
• 9:55
  And
• 9:55
  it's
• 9:56
  always,
• 9:56
  yeah,
• 9:56
  have
• 9:56
  you
• 9:57
  met
• 9:57
  Ted?
• 9:58
  It's
• 9:58
  like
• 9:58
  the
• 9:58
  wingman.
• 9:59
  And
• 9:59
  then
• 10:00
  Robin
• 10:00
  ended
• 10:00
  up
• 10:00
  being
• 10:00
  the
• 10:01
  wing
• 10:01
  girl.
• 10:01
  Like,
• 10:01
  it's
• 10:01
  the
• 10:02
  perfect
• 10:02
  example.
• 10:02
  It's
• 10:03
  literally.
• 10:04
  So
• 10:04
  originally,
• 10:05
  when
• 10:05
  I
• 10:05
  started
• 10:06
  this
• 10:06
  business,
• 10:06
  it
• 10:06
  was
• 10:06
  me
• 10:07
  and
• 10:07
  another
• 10:08
  wing
• 10:08
  girl
• 10:08
  would
• 10:08
  go
• 10:09
  out
• 10:09
  with
• 10:09
  a
• 10:09
  guy
• 10:09
  and
• 10:09
  we
• 10:10
  would
• 10:10
  pick
• 10:10
  up
• 10:10
  women
• 10:10
  for
• 10:10
  him.
• 10:11
  So
• 10:11
  we
• 10:11
  were
• 10:11
  like
• 10:11
  the
• 10:12
  on
• 10:12
  your
• 10:12
  side
• 10:13
  win
• 10:13
  girls.
• 10:13
  That
• 10:13
  would
• 10:14
  help
• 10:14
  attract
• 10:14
  women,
• 10:14
  to
• 10:15
  make
• 10:15
  you
• 10:15
  start
• 10:16
  conversations
• 10:16
  with
• 10:17
  tons
• 10:17
  of
• 10:17
  other
• 10:17
  women
• 10:18
  and
• 10:18
  leave
• 10:19
  if
• 10:19
  it
• 10:19
  was
• 10:19
  going
• 10:19
  really
• 10:20
  well.
• 10:20
  And
• 10:21
  then
• 10:21
  after
• 10:21
  about
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  year,
• 10:22
  it
• 10:22
  shifted
• 10:23
  into
• 10:24
  teaching
• 10:24
  men
• 10:24
  how
• 10:24
  to
• 10:25
  do
• 10:25
  this
• 10:25
  themselves.
• 10:25
  Because
• 10:26
  at
• 10:26
  the
• 10:26
  end
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  the
• 10:26
  day,
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  started
• 10:27
  thinking,
• 10:27
  you
• 10:28
  know
• 10:28
  what?
• 10:28
  If
• 10:28
  men
• 10:29
  need
• 10:30
  a
• 10:30
  woman
• 10:31
  to
• 10:32
  do
• 10:32
  these
• 10:32
  things,
• 10:32
  they're
• 10:33
  not
• 10:33
  really
• 10:33
  being
• 10:33
  the
• 10:33
  kind
• 10:34
  of
• 10:34
  man
• 10:34
  that
• 10:34
  we
• 10:34
  want
• 10:35
  them
• 10:35
  to
• 10:35
  be
• 10:35
  like
• 10:35
  that.
• 10:36
  That's
• 10:36
  the
• 10:36
  ultimate.
• 10:37
  Oh,
• 10:37
  interesting.
• 10:38
  Not
• 10:38
  sexist
• 10:39
  as
• 10:39
  it
• 10:39
  is.
• 10:39
  That's.
• 10:40
  That's
• 10:40
  not
• 10:40
  what
• 10:40
  women
• 10:41
  really
• 10:41
  want.
• 10:41
  They
• 10:41
  want
• 10:41
  a
• 10:41
  guy
• 10:42
  who
• 10:42
  can
• 10:42
  do
• 10:42
  it
• 10:42
  on
• 10:42
  their
• 10:42
  own.
• 10:43
  So
• 10:43
  I
• 10:43
  went
• 10:43
  to
• 10:44
  giving
• 10:45
  them
• 10:45
  in
• 10:46
  person
• 10:46
  advice
• 10:46
  and
• 10:47
  guidance
• 10:47
  and
• 10:47
  the
• 10:48
  leverage
• 10:48
  because
• 10:48
  they
• 10:48
  were
• 10:49
  there
• 10:49
  with
• 10:49
  other
• 10:49
  women
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  introduce
• 10:50
  them
• 10:50
  to
• 10:51
  other
• 10:51
  women,
• 10:51
  to
• 10:52
  giving
• 10:52
  them
• 10:52
  the
• 10:53
  guidance
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  advice
• 10:54
  on
• 10:54
  how
• 10:54
  to
• 10:54
  do
• 10:54
  it
• 10:55
  all
• 10:55
  on
• 10:55
  their
• 10:55
  own,
• 10:56
  while
• 10:56
  giving
• 10:56
  them
• 10:56
  access
• 10:57
  to
• 10:57
  what's
• 10:58
  going
• 10:58
  on
• 10:58
  inside
• 10:58
  of
• 10:58
  my
• 10:58
  head.
• 10:59
  And
• 10:59
  I've
• 10:59
  interviewed
• 11:00
  nearly
• 11:00
  9,000
• 11:00
  women
• 11:01
  now.
• 11:01
  So
• 11:01
  I'm.
• 11:01
  I'm
• 11:02
  constantly
• 11:02
  giving
• 11:03
  the
• 11:03
  information
• 11:03
  that
• 11:04
  is
• 11:04
  in
• 11:04
  our
• 11:04
  heads,
• 11:05
  in
• 11:05
  our
• 11:05
  hearts,
• 11:06
  in
• 11:06
  our
• 11:06
  wants,
• 11:06
  our
• 11:07
  desires,
• 11:07
  our
• 11:07
  secrets
• 11:08
  that
• 11:08
  we
• 11:08
  hold
• 11:08
  close
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  us.
• 11:09
  I'm
• 11:09
  revealing
• 11:10
  that
• 11:10
  information
• 11:10
  to
• 11:11
  men
• 11:11
  so
• 11:11
  that
• 11:12
  they
• 11:12
  can
• 11:12
  understand
• 11:12
  us
• 11:12
  better
• 11:13
  and
• 11:13
  then
• 11:14
  move
• 11:14
  forward
• 11:14
  in
• 11:15
  their
• 11:15
  own
• 11:15
  actions
• 11:15
  better
• 11:16
  with.
• 11:16
  Without
• 11:16
  feeling
• 11:16
  they
• 11:17
  have
• 11:17
  to
• 11:17
  manipulate
• 11:17
  us
• 11:18
  on
• 11:18
  the
• 11:18
  other
• 11:18
  side.
• 11:18
  Did
• 11:18
  I.
• 11:19
  Did
• 11:19
  I
• 11:19
  hear
• 11:19
  you
• 11:19
  say
• 11:20
  that
• 11:20
  you
• 11:20
  interviewed
• 11:21
  9,000
• 11:21
  women
• 11:22
  on
• 11:22
  thoughts
• 11:23
  and
• 11:23
  that's
• 11:23
  what
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  bring
• 11:23
  to
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  men?
• 11:24
  Okay.
• 11:25
  Yeah.
• 11:25
  Okay.
• 11:25
  Just
• 11:25
  want
• 11:25
  to
• 11:26
  make
• 11:26
  sure
• 11:26
  I
• 11:26
  heard
• 11:26
  that
• 11:26
  correct.
• 11:27
  I
• 11:27
  want
• 11:27
  to
• 11:27
  actually
• 11:28
  circle
• 11:28
  back
• 11:28
  to
• 11:28
  that.
• 11:29
  I
• 11:30
  do
• 11:30
  have
• 11:30
  a
• 11:30
  question.
• 11:30
  Like,
• 11:31
  I
• 11:31
  had
• 11:31
  two
• 11:31
  thoughts.
• 11:32
  Like,
• 11:32
  one,
• 11:33
  someone,
• 11:34
  just
• 11:34
  as
• 11:34
  it's
• 11:35
  kind
• 11:35
  of
• 11:35
  like
• 11:35
  a
• 11:35
  devil's
• 11:35
  advocate
• 11:36
  thing,
• 11:36
  might
• 11:37
  hear
• 11:37
  this
• 11:37
  and
• 11:38
  be
• 11:38
  like,
• 11:38
  well,
• 11:38
  wait,
• 11:39
  are
• 11:39
  you
• 11:40
  okay?
• 11:40
  No.
• 11:40
  I
• 11:40
  have
• 11:41
  two
• 11:41
  thoughts
• 11:41
  I
• 11:42
  want
• 11:42
  to.
• 11:42
  Start
• 11:42
  with,
• 11:43
  and
• 11:43
  I
• 11:43
  want
• 11:43
  to
• 11:43
  hear
• 11:43
  these
• 11:43
  because
• 11:44
  I
• 11:44
  Trust
• 11:44
  me,
• 11:44
  it's
• 11:44
  21
• 11:45
  years.
• 11:45
  I've
• 11:45
  heard.
• 11:45
  I've
• 11:45
  heard
• 11:46
  every
• 11:46
  single.
• 11:47
  Okay,
• 11:47
  this
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  perfect.
• 11:48
  Okay.
• 11:49
  So
• 11:49
  the
• 11:49
  first
• 11:49
  thought
• 11:49
  I
• 11:49
  have
• 11:50
  is
• 11:50
  like,
• 11:50
  I
• 11:50
  am
• 11:51
  so
• 11:51
  glad
• 11:51
  that
• 11:52
  you're
• 11:52
  revealing
• 11:52
  all
• 11:53
  of,
• 11:53
  like,
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  thoughts
• 11:54
  and
• 11:54
  the
• 11:54
  desires
• 11:55
  that
• 11:55
  women
• 11:55
  have,
• 11:55
  because
• 11:56
  I
• 11:56
  think
• 11:56
  that
• 11:57
  90%
• 11:58
  of
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  issues
• 11:59
  that
• 11:59
  we
• 11:59
  have
• 12:00
  boils
• 12:00
  down
• 12:00
  to
• 12:01
  communication.
• 12:02
  And,
• 12:03
  yeah,
• 12:03
  why
• 12:03
  are
• 12:03
  we
• 12:03
  gatekeeping
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  things
• 12:04
  that
• 12:05
  we
• 12:05
  want?
• 12:05
  Like,
• 12:05
  I
• 12:05
  really
• 12:06
  am
• 12:06
  a
• 12:06
  huge
• 12:06
  believer
• 12:07
  in
• 12:07
  just,
• 12:07
  hey,
• 12:07
  this
• 12:08
  is
• 12:08
  what
• 12:08
  I
• 12:08
  want.
• 12:08
  I'm
• 12:08
  gonna
• 12:08
  say
• 12:09
  it
• 12:09
  out
• 12:09
  loud
• 12:10
  so
• 12:10
  that
• 12:10
  you
• 12:10
  can
• 12:10
  understand
• 12:10
  it.
• 12:11
  So
• 12:11
  I
• 12:12
  really
• 12:12
  wanna
• 12:12
  say
• 12:12
  thank
• 12:12
  you
• 12:13
  for
• 12:13
  that.
• 12:13
  The
• 12:13
  other
• 12:14
  thing
• 12:14
  that
• 12:14
  kind
• 12:14
  of
• 12:14
  went
• 12:14
  into
• 12:15
  my
• 12:15
  mind
• 12:15
  as
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  were
• 12:15
  talking
• 12:15
  was
• 12:16
  like,
• 12:17
  well,
• 12:17
  what
• 12:17
  a.
• 12:19
  Somebody
• 12:19
  might
• 12:19
  hear
• 12:20
  all
• 12:20
  of
• 12:20
  that
• 12:20
  and
• 12:21
  say,
• 12:21
  are
• 12:21
  we
• 12:21
  just
• 12:22
  kind
• 12:22
  of
• 12:22
  like
• 12:23
  helping
• 12:23
  the
• 12:24
  men
• 12:24
  put
• 12:24
  a
• 12:24
  front
• 12:25
  on?
• 12:25
  How
• 12:25
  are
• 12:26
  they
• 12:26
  being
• 12:26
  authentic
• 12:26
  if
• 12:27
  they're
• 12:27
  just,
• 12:27
  like,
• 12:27
  taking
• 12:28
  what
• 12:28
  they
• 12:28
  think
• 12:28
  you
• 12:29
  want
• 12:29
  to
• 12:29
  hear?
• 12:30
  Oh,
• 12:30
  I
• 12:30
  hear
• 12:30
  you.
• 12:31
  I
• 12:31
  totally
• 12:31
  hear
• 12:31
  you.
• 12:31
  And
• 12:32
  that's
• 12:32
  what
• 12:32
  we
• 12:32
  work
• 12:32
  on
• 12:32
  with
• 12:33
  them
• 12:33
  as
• 12:33
  well.
• 12:33
  And
• 12:33
  we
• 12:33
  talk
• 12:34
  so
• 12:34
  much
• 12:34
  about
• 12:34
  authenticity
• 12:35
  and
• 12:35
  really
• 12:35
  honing
• 12:36
  and
• 12:36
  owning
• 12:37
  who
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  are
• 12:37
  as
• 12:37
  a
• 12:38
  man.
• 12:38
  So
• 12:39
  for
• 12:39
  every
• 12:40
  program
• 12:40
  that
• 12:41
  I
• 12:41
  have,
• 12:41
  whether
• 12:42
  it's
• 12:42
  a
• 12:42
  live
• 12:43
  coaching
• 12:43
  program
• 12:43
  or
• 12:44
  it's
• 12:44
  a
• 12:44
  digital
• 12:44
  program
• 12:44
  that
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  give
• 12:45
  to
• 12:45
  men,
• 12:45
  the
• 12:46
  whole
• 12:46
  first
• 12:46
  section
• 12:46
  is
• 12:47
  about
• 12:47
  discovering
• 12:48
  who
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  are
• 12:48
  as
• 12:48
  a
• 12:49
  man.
• 12:49
  Because
• 12:50
  you
• 12:50
  have
• 12:50
  to
• 12:51
  figure
• 12:51
  out
• 12:51
  who
• 12:51
  you
• 12:51
  are,
• 12:52
  what
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  want,
• 12:52
  what
• 12:53
  you
• 12:53
  want,
• 12:53
  and
• 12:54
  it,
• 12:54
  in
• 12:55
  order
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  move
• 12:55
  forward
• 12:56
  with
• 12:56
  the
• 12:56
  rest
• 12:57
  of
• 12:57
  my
• 12:57
  program,
• 12:57
  to
• 12:57
  take
• 12:58
  in
• 12:58
  the
• 12:58
  information
• 12:58
  and
• 12:59
  guidance
• 12:59
  that
• 12:59
  I'm
• 12:59
  giving
• 13:00
  to
• 13:00
  you.
• 13:00
  So
• 13:00
  they
• 13:01
  have
• 13:01
  to
• 13:01
  figure
• 13:01
  out
• 13:01
  who
• 13:02
  they
• 13:02
  are,
• 13:02
  how
• 13:02
  they
• 13:02
  want
• 13:03
  to
• 13:03
  express
• 13:03
  themselves.
• 13:03
  Because
• 13:04
  just
• 13:04
  because
• 13:04
  I
• 13:04
  tell
• 13:04
  a
• 13:05
  man
• 13:05
  that
• 13:05
  women
• 13:05
  want
• 13:05
  X,
• 13:06
  Y
• 13:06
  and
• 13:06
  Z
• 13:07
  doesn't
• 13:07
  mean
• 13:07
  that
• 13:07
  that
• 13:07
  man
• 13:08
  also
• 13:08
  wants
• 13:08
  the
• 13:08
  same
• 13:09
  thing.
• 13:09
  And
• 13:09
  he
• 13:09
  may
• 13:09
  not
• 13:09
  want
• 13:10
  certain
• 13:10
  women
• 13:10
  who
• 13:11
  want
• 13:11
  those
• 13:11
  things.
• 13:12
  So
• 13:12
  I
• 13:12
  have.
• 13:12
  I
• 13:12
  have
• 13:12
  him
• 13:12
  become
• 13:13
  really
• 13:13
  clear
• 13:14
  on
• 13:14
  who
• 13:14
  he
• 13:15
  is
• 13:15
  first
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  then
• 13:17
  provide
• 13:17
  him
• 13:17
  with
• 13:17
  the
• 13:18
  tools.
• 13:18
  Just
• 13:18
  like
• 13:19
  any
• 13:19
  tools
• 13:19
  that
• 13:19
  you
• 13:19
  would
• 13:20
  use
• 13:20
  for
• 13:21
  any
• 13:21
  skill
• 13:21
  that
• 13:21
  you're
• 13:22
  trying
• 13:22
  to
• 13:22
  learn,
• 13:22
  which
• 13:22
  is
• 13:23
  how
• 13:23
  to
• 13:23
  communicate,
• 13:24
  how
• 13:24
  to
• 13:24
  flirt,
• 13:24
  how
• 13:25
  to
• 13:25
  approach,
• 13:25
  how
• 13:25
  to
• 13:25
  get
• 13:26
  over
• 13:26
  approach
• 13:26
  anxiety.
• 13:27
  So
• 13:27
  those
• 13:27
  are
• 13:27
  the
• 13:28
  techniques
• 13:28
  that
• 13:28
  I'm
• 13:28
  teaching
• 13:28
  to
• 13:29
  guys
• 13:29
  with
• 13:29
  the
• 13:30
  insight
• 13:30
  of
• 13:30
  what's
• 13:31
  going
• 13:31
  on
• 13:31
  inside
• 13:32
  of
• 13:32
  women's
• 13:33
  minds
• 13:34
  so
• 13:34
  that
• 13:34
  they're
• 13:34
  not
• 13:35
  as
• 13:35
  intimidated,
• 13:36
  fearful,
• 13:37
  confused,
• 13:38
  frustrated.
• 13:39
  So
• 13:39
  I
• 13:39
  really
• 13:40
  believe
• 13:40
  that
• 13:41
  bridging
• 13:41
  the
• 13:41
  gap
• 13:41
  in
• 13:42
  communication
• 13:43
  is
• 13:43
  what
• 13:43
  brings
• 13:44
  more
• 13:44
  confidence
• 13:44
  for
• 13:45
  other
• 13:45
  people.
• 13:45
  I
• 13:46
  agree.
• 13:47
  And
• 13:47
  the
• 13:47
  manipulation
• 13:48
  comes
• 13:48
  from.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:49
  trust
• 13:49
  me,
• 13:49
  people
• 13:49
  can
• 13:50
  take
• 13:50
  what
• 13:50
  I
• 13:50
  teach
• 13:50
  and
• 13:51
  use
• 13:51
  it
• 13:51
  to
• 13:51
  be
• 13:51
  a
• 13:52
  complete
• 13:52
  douchebag
• 13:53
  with.
• 13:54
  Right?
• 13:54
  But
• 13:55
  the
• 13:55
  men
• 13:55
  that
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  work
• 13:56
  with,
• 13:56
  I
• 13:56
  don't
• 13:57
  seem
• 13:57
  to
• 13:57
  draw
• 13:58
  in
• 13:58
  those
• 13:58
  kinds
• 13:59
  of
• 13:59
  men.
• 13:59
  It's
• 13:59
  also
• 13:59
  the
• 13:59
  way
• 13:59
  that
• 14:00
  I
• 14:00
  teach
• 14:00
  the
• 14:00
  materials.
• 14:00
  I'm
• 14:01
  not
• 14:01
  teaching
• 14:01
  them
• 14:01
  to
• 14:01
  be
• 14:02
  pickup
• 14:02
  players
• 14:02
  who
• 14:03
  run
• 14:03
  routines
• 14:03
  on
• 14:04
  women.
• 14:04
  I'm
• 14:04
  teaching
• 14:05
  them
• 14:05
  to
• 14:05
  be
• 14:05
  authentic
• 14:06
  men
• 14:06
  who
• 14:06
  are
• 14:06
  very
• 14:07
  clear
• 14:07
  on
• 14:07
  their
• 14:07
  own
• 14:08
  wants
• 14:08
  and
• 14:08
  desires
• 14:08
  and
• 14:09
  then
• 14:09
  know
• 14:09
  the
• 14:09
  skills,
• 14:10
  skills
• 14:10
  that
• 14:10
  they
• 14:10
  need
• 14:10
  to
• 14:10
  have
• 14:11
  just
• 14:11
  as
• 14:11
  normal
• 14:11
  human
• 14:12
  beings
• 14:12
  in
• 14:12
  order
• 14:13
  to
• 14:13
  attract
• 14:14
  women
• 14:14
  to
• 14:15
  them.
• 14:15
  That's
• 14:16
  a
• 14:16
  big
• 14:16
  deal.
• 14:16
  Because
• 14:17
  what
• 14:17
  we
• 14:17
  were
• 14:18
  talking
• 14:18
  about
• 14:18
  is.
• 14:19
  Okay,
• 14:19
  so
• 14:19
  you.
• 14:20
  If
• 14:20
  we
• 14:21
  give
• 14:21
  men
• 14:21
  what
• 14:21
  it
• 14:22
  is
• 14:22
  that
• 14:23
  most
• 14:23
  women
• 14:24
  want
• 14:24
  and
• 14:24
  think
• 14:24
  and
• 14:25
  all
• 14:25
  these
• 14:25
  things,
• 14:25
  yes,
• 14:26
  they're
• 14:26
  gonna
• 14:26
  just
• 14:27
  spitball
• 14:27
  things.
• 14:28
  But
• 14:28
  it
• 14:28
  is
• 14:28
  really
• 14:28
  important
• 14:29
  for
• 14:29
  men
• 14:30
  and
• 14:30
  women
• 14:30
  to
• 14:31
  know
• 14:31
  who
• 14:31
  you
• 14:31
  are
• 14:32
  as
• 14:32
  an
• 14:32
  individual
• 14:33
  before
• 14:34
  you
• 14:34
  start
• 14:35
  trying
• 14:35
  to
• 14:35
  attract
• 14:35
  people.
• 14:36
  Otherwise,
• 14:37
  you're
• 14:37
  not
• 14:37
  doing
• 14:37
  any
• 14:38
  good.
• 14:38
  So
• 14:38
  one
• 14:38
  of
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  things
• 14:39
  that
• 14:39
  I've
• 14:40
  noticed
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  lot
• 14:40
  of
• 14:40
  is
• 14:42
  attachment
• 14:43
  problems.
• 14:43
  And
• 14:44
  I
• 14:44
  know
• 14:44
  our
• 14:44
  listeners
• 14:44
  have
• 14:45
  heard
• 14:45
  me
• 14:45
  rant
• 14:45
  on
• 14:45
  this
• 14:46
  a
• 14:46
  whole
• 14:46
  bunch,
• 14:46
  but,
• 14:47
  like,
• 14:47
  if
• 14:48
  you
• 14:48
  have
• 14:48
  an
• 14:48
  anxious
• 14:49
  attachment
• 14:50
  styled
• 14:50
  man,
• 14:52
  it
• 14:53
  doesn't
• 14:53
  sound
• 14:53
  like
• 14:53
  it
• 14:53
  would
• 14:54
  be
• 14:54
  as
• 14:54
  successful
• 14:55
  to
• 14:55
  me
• 14:56
  in
• 14:56
  matching
• 14:56
  them
• 14:57
  through
• 14:57
  this
• 14:58
  program
• 14:59
  because
• 14:59
  they
• 15:00
  already
• 15:00
  are
• 15:00
  insecure
• 15:01
  with
• 15:01
  themselves.
• 15:03
  But
• 15:03
  it
• 15:03
  sounds
• 15:03
  like
• 15:04
  I
• 15:04
  want
• 15:04
  to.
• 15:05
  I
• 15:05
  want
• 15:05
  to
• 15:05
  hear
• 15:05
  that,
• 15:05
  though.
• 15:05
  I
• 15:06
  want
• 15:06
  to
• 15:06
  hear,
• 15:07
  like,
• 15:07
  more
• 15:07
  about
• 15:08
  that.
• 15:09
  Yeah.
• 15:09
  So
• 15:10
  when
• 15:10
  you
• 15:10
  have.
• 15:11
  From
• 15:11
  what
• 15:11
  we've
• 15:12
  noticed,
• 15:12
  like,
• 15:13
  when
• 15:13
  you
• 15:13
  have
• 15:14
  one
• 15:14
  part
• 15:14
  of
• 15:15
  the
• 15:15
  couple
• 15:15
  that
• 15:15
  has
• 15:15
  an
• 15:16
  anxious
• 15:16
  attachment
• 15:16
  style
• 15:17
  and
• 15:17
  the
• 15:17
  other
• 15:17
  has
• 15:18
  a
• 15:18
  healthy
• 15:18
  attachment
• 15:19
  style,
• 15:19
  then
• 15:20
  the
• 15:20
  anxious
• 15:21
  attachment
• 15:21
  person.
• 15:22
  So
• 15:23
  what
• 15:23
  I'm
• 15:24
  hearing
• 15:24
  in
• 15:24
  my
• 15:24
  brain
• 15:24
  is
• 15:25
  the
• 15:25
  man
• 15:25
  that
• 15:25
  is
• 15:26
  coming
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  is
• 15:26
  probably
• 15:27
  the
• 15:27
  ones
• 15:27
  that
• 15:27
  are
• 15:28
  not
• 15:28
  secure
• 15:28
  with
• 15:28
  themselves.
• 15:29
  So,
• 15:30
  for
• 15:30
  example,
• 15:30
  I
• 15:31
  have
• 15:31
  a
• 15:31
  male
• 15:32
  in
• 15:32
  my
• 15:32
  life
• 15:32
  where
• 15:33
  he
• 15:33
  says,
• 15:34
  oh,
• 15:34
  I'm
• 15:34
  talking
• 15:35
  to
• 15:35
  this
• 15:35
  girl
• 15:35
  and
• 15:35
  it's
• 15:36
  going
• 15:36
  great,
• 15:36
  but
• 15:36
  then
• 15:37
  she
• 15:37
  won't
• 15:37
  talk
• 15:37
  to
• 15:37
  me
• 15:37
  for
• 15:38
  two
• 15:38
  days.
• 15:38
  And
• 15:38
  then
• 15:38
  I'm
• 15:39
  like,
• 15:39
  okay,
• 15:39
  well,
• 15:39
  have
• 15:40
  you
• 15:40
  guys
• 15:40
  talked
• 15:40
  about
• 15:40
  what
• 15:41
  kind
• 15:41
  of
• 15:41
  relationship
• 15:41
  you're
• 15:42
  looking
• 15:42
  at?
• 15:42
  He
• 15:42
  goes,
• 15:42
  yeah,
• 15:42
  she
• 15:43
  doesn't
• 15:43
  want
• 15:43
  anything
• 15:43
  serious.
• 15:44
  And
• 15:44
  I'm
• 15:44
  like,
• 15:45
  and
• 15:45
  you're
• 15:45
  mad
• 15:45
  that
• 15:45
  she
• 15:46
  didn't
• 15:46
  respond
• 15:46
  in
• 15:46
  two
• 15:46
  days?
• 15:47
  And
• 15:47
  he
• 15:47
  goes,
• 15:48
  well,
• 15:48
  yeah,
• 15:48
  she
• 15:48
  either
• 15:49
  likes
• 15:49
  me
• 15:49
  or
• 15:49
  she
• 15:49
  doesn't.
• 15:50
  And
• 15:50
  I'm
• 15:50
  like,
• 15:51
  no,
• 15:51
  sir.
• 15:51
  You
• 15:51
  have
• 15:51
  anxious
• 15:52
  attachment
• 15:52
  style.
• 15:53
  Like,
• 15:53
  she
• 15:53
  told
• 15:53
  you
• 15:54
  she
• 15:54
  doesn't
• 15:54
  want
• 15:54
  anything
• 15:55
  serious,
• 15:55
  and
• 15:55
  you're
• 15:57
  thinking
• 15:57
  that
• 15:57
  your
• 15:57
  worth
• 15:58
  is
• 15:58
  based
• 15:58
  off
• 15:58
  of
• 15:59
  her
• 15:59
  not
• 15:59
  responding
• 16:00
  in
• 16:00
  two
• 16:00
  days
• 16:00
  when
• 16:01
  she
• 16:01
  doesn't
• 16:01
  owe
• 16:01
  that
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  you.
• 16:02
  Like,
• 16:02
  simmer
• 16:02
  down.
• 16:03
  That's
• 16:03
  interesting
• 16:03
  that
• 16:04
  you
• 16:04
  would.
• 16:04
  You
• 16:04
  would
• 16:04
  label
• 16:05
  it
• 16:05
  as
• 16:05
  anxious
• 16:05
  attack
• 16:06
  from
• 16:06
  the
• 16:06
  style.
• 16:06
  I
• 16:06
  think
• 16:06
  that's
• 16:07
  just
• 16:07
  that
• 16:07
  that's
• 16:07
  just
• 16:08
  like
• 16:08
  not
• 16:08
  opening
• 16:08
  up
• 16:08
  your
• 16:08
  ears
• 16:09
  and
• 16:09
  understanding
• 16:09
  what's
• 16:10
  in.
• 16:10
  In
• 16:10
  front
• 16:10
  of
• 16:10
  you.
• 16:11
  I'm
• 16:11
  not
• 16:11
  sure
• 16:11
  if
• 16:11
  that
• 16:12
  has
• 16:12
  anything
• 16:12
  to
• 16:12
  do
• 16:13
  it.
• 16:13
  Maybe
• 16:13
  you'll
• 16:14
  probably
• 16:14
  have
• 16:14
  more
• 16:14
  information
• 16:14
  on
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  person.
• 16:15
  Yes.
• 16:16
  To
• 16:16
  know
• 16:16
  that's
• 16:16
  his
• 16:16
  style
• 16:17
  completely.
• 16:17
  But
• 16:18
  I,
• 16:18
  I
• 16:18
  like,
• 16:19
  like,
• 16:19
  even
• 16:19
  something
• 16:19
  like
• 16:20
  that.
• 16:20
  Right.
• 16:21
  So,
• 16:21
  like,
• 16:21
  a
• 16:21
  lot
• 16:21
  of
• 16:22
  guys
• 16:22
  either,
• 16:23
  and
• 16:23
  women
• 16:24
  as
• 16:24
  well,
• 16:24
  we
• 16:24
  don't
• 16:25
  listen
• 16:25
  to
• 16:25
  what
• 16:25
  other
• 16:25
  people
• 16:26
  we
• 16:26
  are
• 16:27
  Saying
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  us,
• 16:28
  like,
• 16:28
  some
• 16:28
  guys,
• 16:29
  if
• 16:29
  some
• 16:29
  woman
• 16:29
  is
• 16:29
  dating
• 16:30
  a
• 16:30
  man,
• 16:30
  and
• 16:30
  he
• 16:31
  said,
• 16:31
  I'm
• 16:31
  really
• 16:31
  looking
• 16:31
  for
• 16:32
  something
• 16:32
  casual
• 16:32
  right
• 16:33
  now,
• 16:33
  right?
• 16:33
  And
• 16:34
  in
• 16:34
  her
• 16:34
  mind,
• 16:34
  she's
• 16:34
  like,
• 16:35
  okay,
• 16:35
  casual.
• 16:36
  I
• 16:36
  want
• 16:36
  something
• 16:37
  more
• 16:37
  with
• 16:37
  him.
• 16:38
  But
• 16:38
  if
• 16:39
  I'm
• 16:39
  special
• 16:39
  enough
• 16:39
  and
• 16:40
  I
• 16:40
  deserve
• 16:40
  to
• 16:41
  have
• 16:41
  men
• 16:41
  be
• 16:42
  running
• 16:42
  all
• 16:42
  over
• 16:43
  me,
• 16:43
  then
• 16:44
  he's
• 16:44
  going
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  switch
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  way
• 16:45
  that
• 16:45
  he's
• 16:45
  thinking,
• 16:46
  how
• 16:46
  can
• 16:46
  I
• 16:46
  make
• 16:46
  that
• 16:47
  happen?
• 16:47
  And
• 16:47
  I'm
• 16:47
  not
• 16:47
  saying
• 16:48
  every
• 16:48
  woman
• 16:48
  does
• 16:48
  this,
• 16:48
  but
• 16:49
  many,
• 16:49
  many
• 16:49
  women
• 16:50
  will
• 16:50
  hear
• 16:50
  the
• 16:50
  things
• 16:50
  that
• 16:50
  they
• 16:50
  want
• 16:51
  to
• 16:51
  hear.
• 16:51
  Many
• 16:51
  men
• 16:51
  will
• 16:51
  hear
• 16:52
  the
• 16:52
  things
• 16:52
  that.
• 16:52
  Things
• 16:52
  that
• 16:52
  they
• 16:52
  want
• 16:52
  to
• 16:52
  hear,
• 16:53
  or
• 16:53
  they
• 16:53
  won't
• 16:53
  hear
• 16:53
  anything,
• 16:54
  and
• 16:54
  they'll
• 16:54
  just
• 16:55
  fixate
• 16:55
  on
• 16:55
  the
• 16:55
  thing
• 16:55
  that
• 16:56
  they
• 16:56
  want
• 16:56
  and
• 16:56
  they
• 16:56
  want
• 16:56
  that
• 16:57
  person
• 16:57
  to
• 16:57
  give
• 16:58
  them
• 16:58
  attention.
• 16:58
  24
• 16:59
  7.
• 16:59
  So
• 17:00
  for.
• 17:00
  For
• 17:00
  that
• 17:01
  guy.
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  love
• 17:02
  that
• 17:02
  you
• 17:02
  pointed
• 17:02
  that
• 17:02
  out
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  him.
• 17:03
  To.
• 17:03
  For
• 17:04
  him
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  just
• 17:04
  be
• 17:04
  clear
• 17:05
  on.
• 17:05
  She
• 17:05
  said
• 17:05
  this,
• 17:07
  okay?
• 17:07
  Because
• 17:07
  that
• 17:08
  makes
• 17:08
  him
• 17:08
  say,
• 17:08
  oh,
• 17:09
  okay,
• 17:09
  now
• 17:09
  I
• 17:09
  can
• 17:09
  take.
• 17:10
  Hopefully
• 17:10
  now
• 17:10
  I
• 17:11
  can
• 17:11
  take
• 17:11
  a
• 17:11
  breath.
• 17:11
  And
• 17:12
  I
• 17:12
  have
• 17:12
  to
• 17:12
  really
• 17:12
  work
• 17:13
  on
• 17:13
  what
• 17:13
  is
• 17:14
  in
• 17:14
  within
• 17:14
  me
• 17:15
  that's
• 17:15
  making
• 17:16
  me
• 17:17
  need
• 17:18
  that
• 17:18
  attention
• 17:18
  more
• 17:19
  often.
• 17:19
  Or
• 17:20
  mishear
• 17:21
  what
• 17:21
  she
• 17:22
  was
• 17:22
  saying
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  me,
• 17:22
  thinking
• 17:23
  that
• 17:23
  she's
• 17:23
  possibly
• 17:23
  saying
• 17:24
  something
• 17:24
  else.
• 17:24
  And
• 17:25
  I
• 17:25
  will
• 17:25
  say
• 17:25
  that
• 17:25
  most
• 17:26
  likely
• 17:26
  for
• 17:26
  men
• 17:26
  and
• 17:27
  for
• 17:27
  women,
• 17:27
  there's
• 17:28
  so
• 17:28
  many
• 17:28
  mixed
• 17:28
  messages
• 17:29
  that
• 17:29
  are
• 17:29
  being
• 17:29
  sent
• 17:29
  to
• 17:30
  them
• 17:30
  about,
• 17:30
  like,
• 17:30
  women
• 17:31
  are
• 17:31
  saying
• 17:31
  this,
• 17:32
  but
• 17:32
  they
• 17:32
  don't
• 17:32
  really
• 17:32
  mean
• 17:33
  that.
• 17:33
  Men
• 17:33
  are
• 17:33
  saying
• 17:33
  this,
• 17:34
  but
• 17:34
  they
• 17:34
  don't
• 17:34
  really
• 17:34
  mean
• 17:35
  that.
• 17:35
  There's
• 17:35
  underlying
• 17:35
  things
• 17:36
  underneath
• 17:36
  the
• 17:36
  words
• 17:36
  that
• 17:37
  they're
• 17:37
  saying.
• 17:37
  Oh,
• 17:37
  can
• 17:38
  you
• 17:38
  clarify
• 17:38
  that?
• 17:38
  Give
• 17:39
  us
• 17:39
  some
• 17:39
  examples.
• 17:40
  Well,
• 17:40
  I
• 17:40
  would.
• 17:40
  So
• 17:41
  even
• 17:41
  I
• 17:41
  was
• 17:41
  watching.
• 17:41
  I
• 17:42
  was
• 17:42
  rewatching
• 17:42
  Sex
• 17:42
  in
• 17:42
  the
• 17:43
  City
• 17:43
  last
• 17:43
  night,
• 17:44
  and
• 17:44
  the
• 17:44
  episode
• 17:44
  came
• 17:45
  on
• 17:45
  with
• 17:46
  where
• 17:46
  Carrie
• 17:47
  was
• 17:47
  dating
• 17:47
  that
• 17:48
  guy
• 17:48
  Berger
• 17:48
  for
• 17:49
  anybody
• 17:49
  who
• 17:49
  knows
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  Sex
• 17:49
  and
• 17:49
  the
• 17:50
  City
• 17:50
  series.
• 17:50
  And
• 17:51
  he
• 17:51
  meets
• 17:52
  Miranda
• 17:52
  for
• 17:52
  the
• 17:52
  first
• 17:53
  time,
• 17:53
  and
• 17:53
  she's
• 17:53
  talking
• 17:53
  about
• 17:54
  this
• 17:54
  guy
• 17:54
  who
• 17:54
  she
• 17:54
  went
• 17:54
  on
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  date
• 17:55
  with.
• 17:55
  And
• 17:55
  he's
• 17:56
  like,
• 17:56
  okay,
• 17:56
  well,
• 17:56
  he
• 17:56
  gave
• 17:56
  me
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  kiss
• 17:57
  on
• 17:57
  the
• 17:57
  cheek
• 17:57
  and
• 17:57
  he
• 17:58
  told
• 17:58
  me
• 17:58
  that
• 17:58
  he
• 17:58
  follow
• 17:58
  up
• 17:58
  the
• 17:59
  next
• 17:59
  day.
• 17:59
  And
• 18:00
  he
• 18:00
  couldn't
• 18:01
  come
• 18:01
  up
• 18:01
  to
• 18:01
  my
• 18:02
  apartment.
• 18:02
  I
• 18:02
  invited
• 18:03
  him
• 18:03
  up,
• 18:03
  but,
• 18:03
  you
• 18:03
  know,
• 18:03
  he
• 18:04
  had
• 18:04
  a
• 18:04
  big
• 18:04
  meeting
• 18:04
  early
• 18:05
  the
• 18:05
  next
• 18:05
  morning.
• 18:05
  And
• 18:06
  Berger
• 18:06
  says
• 18:07
  to
• 18:07
  her,
• 18:08
  he's
• 18:08
  just
• 18:09
  not
• 18:09
  that
• 18:09
  into
• 18:09
  you.
• 18:09
  And
• 18:09
  she's
• 18:10
  like,
• 18:10
  what?
• 18:10
  But,
• 18:11
  like,
• 18:11
  I
• 18:11
  thought
• 18:11
  that
• 18:11
  meant
• 18:12
  that
• 18:12
  he
• 18:12
  was
• 18:12
  trying
• 18:12
  to
• 18:12
  be
• 18:13
  cautious
• 18:13
  and
• 18:13
  wanting
• 18:14
  to
• 18:14
  be
• 18:14
  respectful
• 18:15
  of
• 18:15
  my
• 18:15
  time.
• 18:15
  And
• 18:15
  maybe
• 18:15
  he
• 18:16
  has
• 18:16
  intimacy
• 18:16
  issues
• 18:16
  or
• 18:17
  maybe
• 18:17
  he
• 18:17
  has
• 18:17
  attachment
• 18:17
  issues
• 18:18
  or
• 18:18
  whatever.
• 18:19
  The.
• 18:19
  All
• 18:19
  of
• 18:19
  these
• 18:20
  excuses
• 18:20
  that
• 18:21
  we
• 18:21
  make
• 18:21
  in
• 18:21
  our
• 18:21
  head
• 18:21
  versus
• 18:22
  really
• 18:22
  hearing
• 18:23
  what's
• 18:23
  going
• 18:23
  on.
• 18:24
  And
• 18:24
  he
• 18:24
  goes,
• 18:24
  no,
• 18:24
  he's.
• 18:25
  He's
• 18:25
  just
• 18:25
  not
• 18:26
  that
• 18:27
  into
• 18:27
  You.
• 18:27
  That's
• 18:28
  what's
• 18:28
  happening.
• 18:28
  So
• 18:29
  there's
• 18:29
  a
• 18:29
  lot
• 18:29
  of,
• 18:29
  like,
• 18:30
  things
• 18:30
  that
• 18:30
  are
• 18:31
  our
• 18:31
  female
• 18:31
  friends
• 18:32
  reinforce
• 18:32
  or
• 18:33
  our
• 18:33
  male
• 18:33
  friends
• 18:33
  reinforce
• 18:34
  or
• 18:34
  other
• 18:34
  dating
• 18:34
  coaches
• 18:35
  reinforce,
• 18:35
  like,
• 18:36
  oh,
• 18:36
  she's
• 18:36
  saying
• 18:36
  this,
• 18:36
  but
• 18:36
  she's
• 18:37
  really
• 18:37
  meaning
• 18:37
  that,
• 18:37
  or
• 18:38
  she's
• 18:38
  doing
• 18:38
  this
• 18:38
  to
• 18:38
  you
• 18:39
  and
• 18:39
  she's
• 18:39
  manipulating
• 18:40
  you.
• 18:40
  They're,
• 18:40
  they're.
• 18:41
  They're
• 18:41
  not
• 18:42
  always
• 18:42
  true
• 18:43
  things,
• 18:43
  but
• 18:43
  it
• 18:43
  messes
• 18:44
  with
• 18:44
  our
• 18:44
  minds
• 18:45
  and
• 18:45
  confuses
• 18:45
  us
• 18:46
  where
• 18:46
  in
• 18:46
  this
• 18:46
  situation,
• 18:47
  this
• 18:47
  woman
• 18:47
  said,
• 18:48
  I'm
• 18:48
  not
• 18:48
  looking
• 18:48
  for
• 18:49
  something
• 18:49
  serious.
• 18:50
  Right.
• 18:51
  And
• 18:51
  that
• 18:51
  should
• 18:51
  be
• 18:51
  taken
• 18:52
  at
• 18:52
  face
• 18:52
  value.
• 18:52
  But
• 18:53
  because
• 18:53
  so
• 18:54
  many
• 18:54
  people
• 18:54
  don't
• 18:55
  really
• 18:55
  express
• 18:55
  what
• 18:56
  their
• 18:56
  wants
• 18:56
  and
• 18:56
  needs
• 18:56
  are,
• 18:57
  it
• 18:57
  becomes
• 18:58
  extremely
• 18:58
  confusing
• 18:59
  for
• 18:59
  people
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  take
• 19:00
  people
• 19:00
  at
• 19:01
  their
• 19:01
  word.
• 19:02
  So
• 19:02
  I
• 19:02
  think
• 19:02
  also
• 19:03
  a
• 19:03
  lot
• 19:03
  of.
• 19:04
  Because
• 19:04
  I
• 19:04
  actually
• 19:04
  think
• 19:05
  this
• 19:05
  is
• 19:05
  a
• 19:05
  perfect
• 19:05
  example
• 19:06
  hearing
• 19:07
  someone
• 19:07
  say,
• 19:07
  I'm
• 19:08
  not.
• 19:08
  I'm
• 19:08
  just
• 19:09
  wanting
• 19:09
  to
• 19:09
  casually
• 19:10
  date
• 19:10
  right
• 19:10
  now.
• 19:10
  You.
• 19:11
  I
• 19:11
  think
• 19:11
  one
• 19:11
  of
• 19:11
  you
• 19:12
  had
• 19:12
  said
• 19:12
  that
• 19:12
  a
• 19:12
  second
• 19:12
  ago
• 19:12
  as
• 19:13
  an
• 19:13
  example.
• 19:14
  It's
• 19:14
  so
• 19:14
  easy
• 19:15
  for
• 19:15
  a
• 19:16
  woman
• 19:16
  to
• 19:16
  hear
• 19:16
  that.
• 19:17
  And
• 19:17
  it's
• 19:17
  exactly
• 19:17
  like
• 19:18
  you
• 19:18
  said
• 19:18
  a
• 19:18
  second
• 19:18
  ago.
• 19:19
  I
• 19:19
  think
• 19:19
  a
• 19:20
  lot
• 19:20
  of
• 19:20
  times
• 19:20
  maybe
• 19:20
  the
• 19:20
  miscommunication
• 19:21
  happens
• 19:22
  because
• 19:22
  you
• 19:22
  said
• 19:23
  you
• 19:23
  would
• 19:23
  talk
• 19:23
  about
• 19:23
  people
• 19:24
  hearing
• 19:24
  what
• 19:24
  they
• 19:24
  want
• 19:24
  to
• 19:25
  hear.
• 19:25
  Sometimes
• 19:26
  the
• 19:26
  thing
• 19:26
  was
• 19:26
  said,
• 19:27
  the
• 19:27
  person
• 19:28
  said,
• 19:28
  I
• 19:28
  want
• 19:28
  a
• 19:29
  casual
• 19:29
  relationship
• 19:30
  right
• 19:30
  now.
• 19:31
  And
• 19:31
  so
• 19:32
  a
• 19:32
  girl
• 19:32
  who
• 19:32
  wants
• 19:32
  to
• 19:33
  be
• 19:33
  with
• 19:33
  that
• 19:33
  person
• 19:33
  might
• 19:34
  hear
• 19:34
  the
• 19:34
  right
• 19:34
  now.
• 19:35
  And
• 19:36
  that
• 19:36
  right
• 19:36
  now
• 19:36
  was
• 19:37
  really
• 19:37
  just
• 19:37
  kind
• 19:37
  of
• 19:37
  a
• 19:37
  said
• 19:38
  to
• 19:38
  kind
• 19:38
  of
• 19:38
  soften
• 19:39
  the
• 19:39
  blow.
• 19:40
  And
• 19:40
  I'm
• 19:40
  not
• 19:40
  saying
• 19:40
  we
• 19:40
  need
• 19:40
  to
• 19:41
  be,
• 19:41
  but
• 19:42
  sometimes
• 19:42
  I'm
• 19:42
  thinking
• 19:43
  maybe
• 19:43
  we're
• 19:44
  just
• 19:44
  trying
• 19:44
  too
• 19:44
  hard
• 19:45
  to
• 19:45
  be
• 19:45
  nice
• 19:46
  and
• 19:46
  they're
• 19:46
  catching
• 19:47
  and
• 19:47
  holding
• 19:47
  on
• 19:48
  to
• 19:48
  that
• 19:48
  one
• 19:48
  piece.
• 19:49
  I
• 19:49
  don't
• 19:49
  know.
• 19:50
  It's
• 19:51
  not.
• 19:51
  My
• 19:52
  responsibility
• 19:52
  is
• 19:53
  to
• 19:53
  be
• 19:53
  as
• 19:53
  clear
• 19:54
  and
• 19:54
  honest
• 19:54
  as
• 19:55
  possible.
• 19:55
  And
• 19:55
  if
• 19:55
  people
• 19:55
  have
• 19:56
  questions,
• 19:56
  they
• 19:56
  can
• 19:56
  ask
• 19:57
  more
• 19:57
  questions.
• 19:57
  I
• 19:57
  agree.
• 19:58
  I,
• 19:58
  I
• 19:59
  don't.
• 19:59
  If
• 20:00
  I'm
• 20:00
  withholding
• 20:01
  information
• 20:01
  and
• 20:01
  I'm.
• 20:02
  I'm
• 20:02
  making
• 20:02
  somebody
• 20:03
  be
• 20:03
  a
• 20:03
  detective
• 20:04
  and
• 20:04
  they
• 20:04
  get
• 20:04
  confused
• 20:05
  and
• 20:05
  they're
• 20:06
  trying
• 20:06
  to
• 20:06
  dissect
• 20:06
  my
• 20:07
  actions,
• 20:08
  then
• 20:09
  I
• 20:09
  don't
• 20:10
  hold
• 20:10
  them
• 20:10
  at
• 20:10
  fault
• 20:11
  if
• 20:11
  they
• 20:11
  misunderstand
• 20:12
  what
• 20:13
  it
• 20:13
  is
• 20:13
  that
• 20:13
  I'm
• 20:13
  trying
• 20:13
  to
• 20:14
  express.
• 20:14
  But
• 20:14
  if
• 20:14
  I'm
• 20:15
  being
• 20:15
  very
• 20:15
  clear,
• 20:15
  if
• 20:16
  I
• 20:16
  say
• 20:16
  I'm
• 20:17
  really
• 20:17
  looking
• 20:17
  for
• 20:17
  something
• 20:17
  casual
• 20:18
  right
• 20:18
  now,
• 20:20
  I
• 20:20
  don't.
• 20:21
  There's
• 20:21
  nothing
• 20:22
  else
• 20:22
  that
• 20:22
  I
• 20:22
  can
• 20:22
  do
• 20:23
  as
• 20:23
  a
• 20:23
  man
• 20:24
  or
• 20:24
  a
• 20:24
  woman,
• 20:25
  if
• 20:25
  you
• 20:25
  want
• 20:26
  to
• 20:26
  participate
• 20:27
  afterwards,
• 20:28
  that's
• 20:28
  your
• 20:29
  responsibility.
• 20:29
  To
• 20:30
  know
• 20:30
  that
• 20:30
  I'm
• 20:31
  at.
• 20:31
  Doesn't
• 20:31
  mean
• 20:31
  it
• 20:32
  might
• 20:32
  not
• 20:32
  change.
• 20:32
  It
• 20:33
  can
• 20:33
  change
• 20:33
  change.
• 20:34
  Everything
• 20:35
  can
• 20:35
  change.
• 20:35
  Right.
• 20:36
  I
• 20:36
  think
• 20:36
  that's
• 20:36
  a
• 20:36
  big
• 20:36
  part.
• 20:37
  Is
• 20:38
  that
• 20:38
  hoping
• 20:38
  that,
• 20:39
  like,
• 20:39
  oh,
• 20:39
  if
• 20:39
  I
• 20:39
  stick
• 20:40
  around
• 20:40
  long
• 20:40
  Enough.
• 20:40
  No,
• 20:41
  but
• 20:41
  that's
• 20:41
  what
• 20:41
  I'm
• 20:41
  saying.
• 20:42
  Those
• 20:42
  are
• 20:42
  anxious
• 20:43
  attachment
• 20:43
  people
• 20:43
  that
• 20:44
  need
• 20:44
  extra
• 20:44
  help
• 20:45
  than
• 20:45
  just
• 20:45
  a.
• 20:45
  You
• 20:45
  know,
• 20:46
  they,
• 20:46
  they
• 20:46
  need
• 20:47
  their
• 20:47
  inside
• 20:48
  work.
• 20:48
  So,
• 20:49
  I
• 20:49
  mean,
• 20:49
  I
• 20:50
  really
• 20:50
  believe
• 20:50
  this.
• 20:51
  I'll
• 20:51
  have
• 20:51
  to
• 20:51
  share
• 20:51
  some,
• 20:52
  like,
• 20:52
  extra
• 20:52
  information.
• 20:52
  Well,
• 20:52
  I
• 20:53
  think
• 20:53
  everybody
• 20:53
  needs
• 20:53
  some
• 20:54
  inside
• 20:54
  work
• 20:54
  because
• 20:54
  there's
• 20:55
  something
• 20:55
  in
• 20:55
  them
• 20:55
  that
• 20:56
  does
• 20:56
  say,
• 20:56
  oh,
• 20:57
  you
• 20:57
  don't
• 20:57
  want
• 20:57
  me,
• 20:58
  or
• 20:58
  you
• 20:58
  don't
• 20:59
  want
• 20:59
  me
• 20:59
  right
• 20:59
  now
• 21:00
  there.
• 21:01
  It
• 21:01
  does
• 21:01
  create
• 21:01
  anxiety
• 21:02
  within
• 21:02
  you.
• 21:02
  I'm
• 21:03
  not
• 21:03
  enough
• 21:03
  right
• 21:04
  now.
• 21:05
  I
• 21:05
  will
• 21:05
  be,
• 21:05
  but
• 21:06
  if
• 21:06
  I
• 21:06
  wasn't,
• 21:06
  nothing,
• 21:06
  you
• 21:07
  wouldn't
• 21:07
  want
• 21:07
  a
• 21:07
  casual
• 21:08
  relationship
• 21:08
  and
• 21:08
  you
• 21:09
  would
• 21:09
  want
• 21:09
  to.
• 21:09
  So
• 21:09
  there
• 21:09
  is,
• 21:10
  there.
• 21:10
  There's
• 21:10
  a
• 21:10
  whole
• 21:11
  bunch
• 21:11
  of
• 21:11
  stuff
• 21:11
  that,
• 21:11
  that
• 21:12
  goes
• 21:12
  on
• 21:12
  internally
• 21:13
  for
• 21:13
  people
• 21:13
  that
• 21:13
  we
• 21:13
  can't
• 21:14
  control.
• 21:15
  It
• 21:15
  is
• 21:15
  interesting
• 21:15
  because
• 21:16
  I've
• 21:16
  been
• 21:16
  thinking
• 21:16
  about
• 21:16
  this
• 21:17
  a
• 21:17
  lot
• 21:17
  recently
• 21:17
  because
• 21:18
  on
• 21:18
  a
• 21:19
  lot
• 21:19
  of
• 21:19
  TV
• 21:19
  shows
• 21:19
  that
• 21:19
  I
• 21:19
  watch,
• 21:20
  this
• 21:20
  is
• 21:20
  coming
• 21:20
  up
• 21:20
  quite
• 21:21
  often.
• 21:21
  So.
• 21:22
  And
• 21:22
  actually
• 21:23
  with
• 21:23
  one
• 21:23
  of
• 21:23
  my
• 21:23
  friends
• 21:23
  yesterday,
• 21:24
  so
• 21:24
  we
• 21:25
  were
• 21:25
  having
• 21:25
  a
• 21:25
  conversation
• 21:26
  and
• 21:26
  she
• 21:26
  had
• 21:26
  been
• 21:26
  dating
• 21:27
  this
• 21:27
  guy
• 21:27
  for
• 21:27
  four
• 21:28
  months.
• 21:28
  She
• 21:28
  is
• 21:29
  45.
• 21:30
  She's
• 21:31
  had
• 21:31
  her
• 21:31
  kids.
• 21:31
  He's
• 21:32
  43.
• 21:32
  Has
• 21:33
  not.
• 21:33
  Has
• 21:33
  had
• 21:34
  kids.
• 21:34
  On
• 21:34
  their
• 21:34
  second
• 21:35
  date,
• 21:35
  she
• 21:35
  brought
• 21:35
  up.
• 21:35
  She's
• 21:36
  like,
• 21:36
  I'm
• 21:36
  just
• 21:36
  going
• 21:36
  to
• 21:36
  be
• 21:36
  really
• 21:36
  blunt
• 21:37
  and
• 21:37
  say
• 21:37
  it.
• 21:38
  I'm
• 21:38
  not,
• 21:39
  I'm
• 21:39
  not
• 21:39
  going
• 21:39
  to
• 21:39
  be
• 21:39
  a
• 21:40
  baby
• 21:40
  maker
• 21:40
  anymore.
• 21:41
  It's
• 21:41
  not
• 21:41
  where
• 21:42
  I'm
• 21:42
  at.
• 21:42
  It's
• 21:42
  not
• 21:43
  what
• 21:43
  I
• 21:43
  want.
• 21:43
  And
• 21:44
  I,
• 21:44
  I
• 21:44
  just
• 21:44
  want
• 21:45
  to
• 21:45
  put
• 21:45
  that
• 21:45
  out
• 21:45
  there
• 21:45
  for
• 21:46
  you.
• 21:46
  Because
• 21:46
  she's
• 21:46
  like,
• 21:46
  you're
• 21:47
  43.
• 21:47
  Like,
• 21:48
  you
• 21:48
  could
• 21:48
  be
• 21:48
  in
• 21:48
  your
• 21:48
  prime,
• 21:49
  and
• 21:49
  if
• 21:49
  that's
• 21:49
  what
• 21:49
  you
• 21:50
  want,
• 21:50
  you.
• 21:51
  You
• 21:51
  do
• 21:51
  you.
• 21:51
  I'm
• 21:52
  just
• 21:53
  know
• 21:53
  this.
• 21:53
  Yeah.
• 21:54
  And
• 21:54
  he
• 21:54
  said,
• 21:55
  like,
• 21:55
  if
• 21:55
  he
• 21:55
  took
• 21:56
  a
• 21:56
  lot
• 21:56
  of
• 21:56
  time
• 21:56
  to
• 21:56
  think
• 21:57
  about
• 21:57
  it
• 21:57
  and
• 21:57
  was
• 21:57
  like,
• 21:57
  no,
• 21:58
  it's
• 21:58
  not
• 21:58
  what
• 21:58
  I
• 21:58
  want.
• 21:59
  And
• 21:59
  then
• 21:59
  four
• 21:59
  months
• 21:59
  later
• 22:00
  came
• 22:00
  back
• 22:00
  and
• 22:01
  said,
• 22:02
  you
• 22:02
  know
• 22:02
  what?
• 22:03
  I
• 22:03
  am
• 22:03
  rethinking
• 22:04
  it.
• 22:04
  It
• 22:04
  is,
• 22:05
  it
• 22:05
  is
• 22:05
  what
• 22:05
  I
• 22:06
  want.
• 22:06
  And
• 22:06
  she
• 22:06
  was
• 22:07
  really
• 22:07
  mad
• 22:07
  at
• 22:07
  him.
• 22:08
  And
• 22:08
  I
• 22:08
  was
• 22:08
  like,
• 22:08
  well,
• 22:08
  how.
• 22:09
  How
• 22:09
  can
• 22:09
  you
• 22:10
  be
• 22:10
  mad
• 22:10
  at
• 22:10
  somebody
• 22:10
  for
• 22:11
  adjusting
• 22:12
  his
• 22:12
  thoughts
• 22:12
  and
• 22:13
  feelings
• 22:13
  once
• 22:13
  he
• 22:14
  gets
• 22:14
  into
• 22:14
  something?
• 22:15
  It's
• 22:15
  not
• 22:15
  like
• 22:16
  I
• 22:16
  change
• 22:17
  my
• 22:17
  opinion
• 22:17
  on
• 22:18
  foods
• 22:18
  day
• 22:19
  to
• 22:19
  day.
• 22:19
  Yeah,
• 22:20
  I
• 22:20
  think
• 22:20
  that's
• 22:20
  actually
• 22:20
  really
• 22:21
  commendable
• 22:21
  that
• 22:21
  he
• 22:21
  took
• 22:22
  the
• 22:22
  time
• 22:22
  to
• 22:23
  process
• 22:23
  and
• 22:23
  said,
• 22:24
  wait
• 22:24
  a
• 22:24
  minute.
• 22:25
  Instead
• 22:25
  of
• 22:25
  just,
• 22:25
  how
• 22:25
  do
• 22:26
  I
• 22:26
  feel
• 22:27
  about
• 22:27
  this?
• 22:28
  He
• 22:28
  did.
• 22:29
  So
• 22:29
  he
• 22:29
  thought
• 22:29
  about
• 22:29
  it
• 22:29
  and
• 22:30
  said,
• 22:30
  I
• 22:31
  don't
• 22:31
  want
• 22:31
  to
• 22:31
  have
• 22:32
  children.
• 22:32
  And
• 22:32
  I'm.
• 22:32
  I
• 22:33
  am.
• 22:33
  I
• 22:33
  enjoy
• 22:34
  you.
• 22:34
  Right.
• 22:36
  But
• 22:36
  he
• 22:37
  changed
• 22:37
  four
• 22:37
  months
• 22:37
  later,
• 22:38
  and
• 22:38
  she
• 22:38
  was
• 22:38
  so
• 22:39
  mad
• 22:39
  at
• 22:39
  him
• 22:39
  for
• 22:39
  changing,
• 22:40
  saying
• 22:41
  that
• 22:41
  he
• 22:41
  was
• 22:41
  leading
• 22:42
  her
• 22:42
  on.
• 22:42
  And
• 22:42
  he,
• 22:42
  she.
• 22:43
  He
• 22:43
  knew
• 22:43
  the
• 22:43
  entire
• 22:44
  time
• 22:44
  how
• 22:45
  she
• 22:45
  felt
• 22:46
  And
• 22:46
  I,
• 22:46
  I
• 22:46
  was
• 22:47
  like,
• 22:47
  I
• 22:47
  don't
• 22:48
  think
• 22:48
  that's
• 22:48
  really
• 22:48
  fair.
• 22:48
  And
• 22:49
  I
• 22:49
  know
• 22:49
  that
• 22:49
  most
• 22:50
  women
• 22:50
  don't
• 22:50
  say
• 22:50
  that
• 22:50
  to
• 22:51
  their
• 22:51
  girlfriends.
• 22:51
  They
• 22:51
  probably
• 22:52
  just
• 22:52
  say,
• 22:52
  yeah,
• 22:52
  you're
• 22:52
  right.
• 22:52
  Like,
• 22:53
  fuck
• 22:53
  him.
• 22:53
  He
• 22:53
  led
• 22:54
  you
• 22:54
  on.
• 22:54
  Like,
• 22:54
  what
• 22:54
  a
• 22:54
  jerk
• 22:55
  for.
• 22:56
  I
• 22:56
  don't
• 22:56
  think
• 22:56
  that
• 22:57
  that's
• 22:57
  fair
• 22:57
  to
• 22:58
  say
• 22:59
  he
• 22:59
  led
• 22:59
  you
• 22:59
  on
• 23:00
  because
• 23:00
  he's
• 23:01
  forthcoming
• 23:01
  and
• 23:01
  telling
• 23:02
  you.
• 23:02
  My
• 23:02
  feelings
• 23:03
  are
• 23:03
  changing
• 23:03
  right
• 23:04
  now.
• 23:04
  As
• 23:04
  we're
• 23:04
  getting
• 23:04
  deeper
• 23:05
  into
• 23:05
  this,
• 23:05
  I'm
• 23:05
  realizing,
• 23:06
  you
• 23:06
  know
• 23:06
  what?
• 23:07
  Either
• 23:07
  maybe
• 23:07
  we
• 23:08
  don't
• 23:08
  have
• 23:08
  a
• 23:08
  strong
• 23:08
  enough
• 23:08
  connection
• 23:09
  with
• 23:09
  each
• 23:09
  other,
• 23:09
  or
• 23:11
  I'm
• 23:11
  looking
• 23:12
  for
• 23:12
  something
• 23:12
  more
• 23:13
  now.
• 23:13
  And
• 23:13
  I
• 23:13
  do
• 23:13
  want
• 23:14
  to
• 23:14
  have
• 23:14
  children.
• 23:14
  Something
• 23:15
  sparked
• 23:15
  it
• 23:16
  where
• 23:16
  I
• 23:16
  was
• 23:16
  at
• 23:16
  a
• 23:16
  friend's,
• 23:17
  you
• 23:17
  know,
• 23:18
  kid's
• 23:18
  birthday,
• 23:18
  and
• 23:18
  I
• 23:19
  was
• 23:19
  like,
• 23:19
  you
• 23:19
  know
• 23:19
  what?
• 23:19
  I
• 23:19
  do
• 23:20
  want
• 23:20
  to
• 23:20
  have
• 23:20
  this
• 23:20
  one
• 23:20
  day.
• 23:21
  I
• 23:21
  do
• 23:21
  really
• 23:21
  enjoy
• 23:21
  this
• 23:22
  woman.
• 23:22
  But
• 23:22
  that's
• 23:22
  not
• 23:22
  going
• 23:23
  to
• 23:23
  be
• 23:23
  in
• 23:23
  our
• 23:23
  future.
• 23:24
  So,
• 23:25
  like,
• 23:26
  it
• 23:26
  goes
• 23:26
  back
• 23:26
  to
• 23:26
  what
• 23:27
  we
• 23:27
  were
• 23:27
  talking
• 23:27
  about
• 23:27
  before.
• 23:27
  Like,
• 23:27
  things
• 23:28
  can
• 23:28
  change.
• 23:28
  And,
• 23:29
  yeah,
• 23:29
  and
• 23:29
  being
• 23:30
  honest
• 23:30
  when
• 23:30
  you
• 23:30
  know
• 23:31
  something
• 23:31
  is
• 23:32
  all
• 23:32
  that
• 23:32
  you
• 23:32
  can
• 23:32
  do.
• 23:32
  It's
• 23:33
  the,
• 23:33
  it's
• 23:33
  how
• 23:33
  the
• 23:33
  other
• 23:33
  person
• 23:34
  wants
• 23:34
  to
• 23:34
  take
• 23:34
  it
• 23:34
  in.
• 23:35
  They
• 23:35
  can
• 23:35
  label
• 23:35
  you
• 23:36
  as
• 23:36
  being
• 23:36
  a
• 23:36
  jerk
• 23:36
  and
• 23:37
  being.
• 23:38
  And
• 23:38
  withholding
• 23:38
  information
• 23:39
  or
• 23:39
  lying
• 23:40
  to
• 23:40
  them
• 23:40
  or
• 23:40
  leading
• 23:41
  them
• 23:41
  on,
• 23:42
  but
• 23:42
  then
• 23:42
  that
• 23:42
  says
• 23:43
  more
• 23:43
  about
• 23:43
  them.
• 23:43
  If
• 23:43
  that's
• 23:44
  how
• 23:44
  they
• 23:44
  look
• 23:44
  at
• 23:44
  that
• 23:44
  situation.
• 23:45
  I
• 23:45
  think
• 23:46
  even
• 23:46
  more
• 23:47
  elementally
• 23:48
  that
• 23:48
  it
• 23:48
  leads
• 23:49
  back
• 23:49
  to
• 23:49
  what
• 23:49
  she
• 23:49
  had.
• 23:50
  You
• 23:50
  had
• 23:50
  said,
• 23:50
  Marnie,
• 23:51
  about
• 23:52
  we
• 23:52
  need
• 23:52
  to
• 23:53
  know
• 23:53
  ourselves.
• 23:53
  Because
• 23:54
  I
• 23:54
  don't
• 23:54
  think
• 23:54
  most
• 23:54
  of
• 23:55
  us
• 23:55
  do
• 23:55
  know
• 23:55
  ourselves.
• 23:55
  And
• 23:56
  it
• 23:56
  might
• 23:56
  take
• 23:56
  four
• 23:57
  months
• 23:57
  to
• 23:57
  be
• 23:57
  like,
• 23:58
  wait
• 23:58
  a
• 23:58
  minute.
• 23:59
  She
• 24:00
  really
• 24:00
  put
• 24:00
  this
• 24:00
  in
• 24:00
  my
• 24:01
  mind.
• 24:01
  This
• 24:01
  is
• 24:01
  something
• 24:01
  I'm
• 24:02
  going
• 24:02
  to
• 24:02
  start
• 24:02
  thinking
• 24:02
  about
• 24:02
  more
• 24:03
  than
• 24:03
  I
• 24:03
  have
• 24:03
  in
• 24:03
  the
• 24:03
  past
• 24:03
  because.
• 24:05
  But
• 24:06
  yeah,
• 24:06
  and
• 24:07
  I
• 24:07
  believe
• 24:07
  him
• 24:07
  that.
• 24:07
  In
• 24:08
  that
• 24:08
  moment
• 24:08
  he
• 24:08
  was
• 24:09
  like,
• 24:09
  you
• 24:09
  know
• 24:09
  what?
• 24:10
  I
• 24:10
  haven't
• 24:11
  been
• 24:11
  thinking
• 24:11
  about
• 24:11
  kids.
• 24:11
  If
• 24:12
  I
• 24:12
  was
• 24:12
  going
• 24:12
  to
• 24:12
  have
• 24:12
  kids,
• 24:12
  I
• 24:12
  would
• 24:12
  have
• 24:13
  had
• 24:13
  kids
• 24:13
  by
• 24:13
  now.
• 24:13
  But
• 24:14
  I
• 24:14
  really
• 24:14
  like
• 24:15
  you.
• 24:15
  And
• 24:16
  right
• 24:16
  now,
• 24:16
  in
• 24:17
  this
• 24:17
  moment,
• 24:17
  I
• 24:18
  don't
• 24:18
  see
• 24:18
  the
• 24:18
  need
• 24:19
  for
• 24:19
  a
• 24:19
  child
• 24:20
  in
• 24:20
  my
• 24:20
  life.
• 24:20
  But
• 24:21
  that
• 24:21
  can.
• 24:22
  Even
• 24:22
  if
• 24:22
  you're
• 24:23
  in
• 24:23
  a
• 24:23
  relationship,
• 24:23
  if
• 24:23
  you're
• 24:24
  in
• 24:24
  a
• 24:24
  marriage,
• 24:25
  things
• 24:25
  alter
• 24:26
  something
• 24:26
  that
• 24:26
  you
• 24:27
  don't
• 24:27
  need
• 24:28
  when
• 24:28
  you're
• 24:28
  20
• 24:28
  years
• 24:29
  older,
• 24:29
  you
• 24:29
  don't
• 24:29
  need
• 24:30
  at
• 24:30
  30
• 24:30
  years
• 24:30
  old.
• 24:30
  When
• 24:31
  you
• 24:31
  start
• 24:31
  a
• 24:31
  relationship,
• 24:32
  you
• 24:32
  can
• 24:32
  need
• 24:33
  it
• 24:33
  when
• 24:33
  you're
• 24:33
  45.
• 24:34
  I'm
• 24:34
  even
• 24:35
  having
• 24:35
  that
• 24:35
  in
• 24:35
  my
• 24:35
  own
• 24:36
  relationship.
• 24:36
  I've
• 24:36
  been
• 24:37
  with
• 24:37
  my
• 24:37
  husband
• 24:37
  for
• 24:37
  21
• 24:38
  years,
• 24:38
  and
• 24:39
  I,
• 24:40
  I
• 24:40
  need
• 24:40
  to
• 24:41
  be
• 24:41
  stimulated
• 24:42
  in
• 24:42
  a
• 24:42
  certain
• 24:43
  way
• 24:43
  for
• 24:43
  my
• 24:44
  brain
• 24:44
  that
• 24:44
  I,
• 24:44
  I
• 24:44
  didn't.
• 24:45
  I
• 24:45
  mean,
• 24:46
  I
• 24:46
  needed
• 24:46
  it
• 24:46
  back
• 24:46
  then,
• 24:47
  but
• 24:47
  it
• 24:47
  was
• 24:47
  very
• 24:47
  different.
• 24:47
  I
• 24:48
  liked
• 24:48
  Going
• 24:48
  out,
• 24:48
  we
• 24:48
  were
• 24:49
  more
• 24:49
  social,
• 24:49
  and
• 24:49
  I.
• 24:50
  And
• 24:50
  I
• 24:50
  need
• 24:50
  more
• 24:51
  mental
• 24:52
  stimulation
• 24:52
  at
• 24:53
  high
• 24:53
  levels
• 24:53
  right
• 24:54
  now.
• 24:54
  And
• 24:55
  we're
• 24:55
  having
• 24:56
  a
• 24:56
  conflict
• 24:56
  because
• 24:57
  my
• 24:58
  husband
• 24:58
  is
• 24:59
  mentally
• 25:00
  drained.
• 25:01
  So
• 25:01
  it's
• 25:01
  hard.
• 25:02
  Give
• 25:02
  that
• 25:03
  to
• 25:03
  me.
• 25:03
  And
• 25:03
  we're
• 25:03
  trying
• 25:03
  to
• 25:04
  figure
• 25:04
  out
• 25:04
  how
• 25:04
  to
• 25:05
  meet
• 25:05
  in
• 25:05
  the
• 25:05
  middle
• 25:05
  so
• 25:05
  that
• 25:05
  we're
• 25:06
  both
• 25:06
  getting
• 25:06
  what
• 25:06
  we
• 25:06
  want.
• 25:07
  It's
• 25:07
  really
• 25:07
  hard.
• 25:08
  I
• 25:08
  think
• 25:09
  that
• 25:10
  the
• 25:12
  words
• 25:13
  that
• 25:13
  things
• 25:13
  change
• 25:14
  and
• 25:14
  anything
• 25:14
  and
• 25:15
  everything
• 25:15
  can
• 25:15
  change
• 25:15
  is
• 25:16
  really
• 25:16
  important.
• 25:16
  And
• 25:17
  that's
• 25:17
  probably
• 25:17
  one
• 25:18
  of
• 25:18
  the
• 25:18
  things
• 25:18
  that
• 25:18
  I
• 25:19
  would
• 25:19
  most
• 25:21
  wish
• 25:21
  that
• 25:21
  men
• 25:22
  understand
• 25:22
  because
• 25:24
  even
• 25:24
  when
• 25:24
  it
• 25:24
  comes
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  sexual
• 25:26
  preferences
• 25:26
  and
• 25:26
  stuff,
• 25:27
  like,
• 25:27
  just
• 25:28
  because
• 25:28
  we,
• 25:28
  like,
• 25:29
  this
• 25:29
  one
• 25:29
  thing,
• 25:30
  this
• 25:30
  one
• 25:30
  time,
• 25:31
  like,
• 25:31
  doesn't
• 25:31
  mean,
• 25:31
  like,
• 25:32
  oh,
• 25:32
  okay,
• 25:33
  like,
• 25:33
  we're
• 25:33
  down
• 25:34
  for
• 25:34
  that.
• 25:34
  Like,
• 25:34
  it's
• 25:35
  my
• 25:35
  favorite.
• 25:35
  Yeah.
• 25:36
  Like,
• 25:36
  all
• 25:36
  the
• 25:36
  time.
• 25:37
  Like,
• 25:38
  it
• 25:38
  doesn't
• 25:38
  mean
• 25:38
  that
• 25:39
  you
• 25:39
  weren't
• 25:39
  good
• 25:39
  at
• 25:39
  it.
• 25:40
  Like,
• 25:40
  the
• 25:40
  next
• 25:40
  time
• 25:41
  around.
• 25:41
  It
• 25:41
  just
• 25:41
  means
• 25:42
  things
• 25:42
  change.
• 25:43
  Sometimes
• 25:44
  it's
• 25:44
  okay,
• 25:44
  and
• 25:44
  sometimes
• 25:45
  it's
• 25:45
  not
• 25:45
  okay.
• 25:45
  And
• 25:45
  men
• 25:46
  have
• 25:46
  a
• 25:46
  hard
• 25:46
  time
• 25:46
  of
• 25:47
  like,
• 25:47
  well,
• 25:47
  it
• 25:47
  was
• 25:48
  okay
• 25:48
  the
• 25:49
  first
• 25:49
  three
• 25:49
  months
• 25:49
  ago.
• 25:51
  I
• 25:51
  had
• 25:51
  a
• 25:52
  man
• 25:52
  say
• 25:52
  to
• 25:52
  me
• 25:52
  once,
• 25:53
  okay,
• 25:53
  I'm
• 25:53
  gonna
• 25:53
  get
• 25:53
  a
• 25:53
  little
• 25:54
  graphic.
• 25:54
  So
• 25:54
  viewers,
• 25:55
  if
• 25:55
  you
• 25:55
  have
• 25:55
  kid
• 25:55
  or
• 25:55
  listeners,
• 25:56
  if
• 25:56
  you
• 25:56
  have
• 25:56
  kids
• 25:57
  in
• 25:57
  the
• 25:57
  car.
• 25:58
  I
• 25:58
  did
• 25:58
  go
• 25:59
  down
• 25:59
  on
• 25:59
  somebody
• 26:00
  once,
• 26:00
  and
• 26:01
  I
• 26:01
  swallowed.
• 26:02
  And
• 26:02
  the
• 26:02
  person
• 26:03
  said
• 26:03
  to
• 26:03
  me
• 26:03
  immediately
• 26:04
  after,
• 26:04
  oh,
• 26:04
  I
• 26:04
  just
• 26:05
  learned
• 26:05
  something
• 26:05
  about
• 26:05
  you.
• 26:06
  And
• 26:06
  I
• 26:06
  was
• 26:06
  like,
• 26:06
  what?
• 26:07
  And
• 26:07
  he's
• 26:07
  like,
• 26:07
  you
• 26:08
  like
• 26:08
  to
• 26:08
  swallow?
• 26:09
  And
• 26:09
  I
• 26:09
  was
• 26:09
  like,
• 26:10
  I
• 26:11
  did.
• 26:12
  I
• 26:12
  did.
• 26:13
  You
• 26:13
  said
• 26:13
  that?
• 26:14
  Yeah.
• 26:14
  Yeah,
• 26:14
  exactly.
• 26:15
  And
• 26:15
  no,
• 26:15
  no,
• 26:15
  no,
• 26:16
  not
• 26:16
  even
• 26:16
  that.
• 26:16
  Like,
• 26:16
  it
• 26:16
  was
• 26:17
  just
• 26:17
  like.
• 26:17
  Just
• 26:17
  because
• 26:18
  I
• 26:18
  did
• 26:18
  something
• 26:18
  doesn't
• 26:19
  mean,
• 26:19
  like,
• 26:19
  that's
• 26:20
  my
• 26:20
  preference.
• 26:21
  Preference
• 26:21
  or
• 26:21
  my
• 26:21
  personality
• 26:22
  or
• 26:22
  my
• 26:22
  identity.
• 26:23
  It's
• 26:23
  just
• 26:23
  a
• 26:23
  thing
• 26:23
  that
• 26:23
  happened
• 26:24
  in
• 26:24
  the
• 26:24
  moment.
• 26:24
  And
• 26:25
  sometimes
• 26:25
  people
• 26:25
  put
• 26:25
  too
• 26:26
  much
• 26:26
  stake
• 26:27
  on.
• 26:28
  But
• 26:28
  to
• 26:28
  be
• 26:28
  honest,
• 26:29
  without
• 26:29
  open
• 26:29
  communication,
• 26:30
  because
• 26:30
  there
• 26:30
  are
• 26:30
  certain
• 26:31
  times
• 26:31
  where
• 26:31
  I
• 26:32
  do
• 26:32
  like
• 26:32
  to
• 26:32
  swallow,
• 26:32
  and
• 26:33
  sometimes
• 26:33
  I
• 26:33
  don't.
• 26:33
  Like,
• 26:33
  it's
• 26:34
  true.
• 26:34
  My
• 26:34
  differences
• 26:35
  have
• 26:35
  changed
• 26:35
  too,
• 26:36
  to
• 26:36
  be
• 26:36
  honest.
• 26:37
  It
• 26:37
  can
• 26:37
  change
• 26:38
  because
• 26:38
  of
• 26:38
  something
• 26:38
  that
• 26:38
  happens
• 26:39
  between
• 26:39
  the
• 26:39
  two
• 26:39
  of
• 26:39
  you,
• 26:40
  or
• 26:40
  it
• 26:40
  can
• 26:40
  just
• 26:40
  change
• 26:41
  because
• 26:41
  your
• 26:42
  palette
• 26:42
  has
• 26:43
  changed
• 26:46
  in
• 26:46
  some
• 26:46
  way.
• 26:46
  Like,
• 26:46
  I.
• 26:47
  It's
• 26:47
  so
• 26:47
  funny
• 26:48
  because
• 26:48
  I
• 26:49
  love
• 26:49
  blow
• 26:49
  jobs
• 26:50
  and
• 26:50
  I
• 26:51
  call
• 26:51
  it
• 26:51
  a
• 26:51
  lot
• 26:52
  and.
• 26:52
  Right.
• 26:52
  It
• 26:52
  didn't
• 26:53
  even
• 26:53
  mean
• 26:53
  anything
• 26:53
  to.
• 26:54
  To
• 26:54
  me
• 26:54
  back
• 26:55
  then,
• 26:55
  but
• 26:56
  now
• 26:56
  I'm
• 26:56
  like,
• 26:56
  such
• 26:57
  a
• 26:57
  germaphobe.
• 26:57
  I'm
• 26:58
  like,
• 26:58
  yes.
• 26:59
  Realize
• 26:59
  what
• 26:59
  you're
• 27:00
  actually
• 27:00
  doing.
• 27:00
  You're
• 27:00
  like,
• 27:01
  I
• 27:01
  don't
• 27:01
  know.
• 27:01
  There's
• 27:02
  like
• 27:02
  a
• 27:02
  different.
• 27:03
  The
• 27:04
  thing
• 27:04
  is,
• 27:04
  things
• 27:04
  can
• 27:04
  change.
• 27:05
  You
• 27:05
  can't
• 27:06
  control
• 27:06
  how
• 27:06
  somebody
• 27:06
  else
• 27:07
  internalizes
• 27:07
  all
• 27:08
  you
• 27:08
  do
• 27:08
  it.
• 27:08
  All
• 27:09
  you
• 27:09
  can
• 27:09
  do
• 27:09
  is
• 27:09
  talk
• 27:09
  about
• 27:10
  it
• 27:10
  so
• 27:10
  that
• 27:11
  you
• 27:11
  understand.
• 27:11
  Hopefully
• 27:12
  that
• 27:12
  other
• 27:12
  person
• 27:12
  is
• 27:13
  honest
• 27:13
  with
• 27:13
  you.
• 27:13
  And
• 27:13
  the
• 27:14
  truth
• 27:14
  is
• 27:14
  that
• 27:14
  sometimes
• 27:15
  it
• 27:15
  might
• 27:15
  be
• 27:15
  because
• 27:16
  something
• 27:17
  didn't
• 27:17
  taste
• 27:17
  very
• 27:17
  good
• 27:18
  or
• 27:18
  because
• 27:20
  I
• 27:21
  was
• 27:21
  mad
• 27:21
  at
• 27:21
  you
• 27:21
  that
• 27:21
  day,
• 27:22
  or
• 27:22
  I
• 27:22
  came
• 27:22
  out.
• 27:23
  My
• 27:23
  nose
• 27:23
  and
• 27:23
  I
• 27:24
  said,
• 27:24
  we're
• 27:24
  not
• 27:24
  doing
• 27:24
  that
• 27:25
  again.
• 27:26
  Exactly.
• 27:26
  Yeah.
• 27:27
  You're
• 27:27
  like,
• 27:27
  this
• 27:27
  didn't
• 27:28
  work
• 27:28
  out
• 27:28
  so
• 27:28
  well
• 27:28
  for
• 27:28
  me
• 27:29
  this
• 27:29
  time.
• 27:29
  So
• 27:29
  it's
• 27:29
  like,
• 27:29
  never
• 27:30
  happening
• 27:30
  again.
• 27:30
  I
• 27:30
  It's
• 27:31
  just
• 27:31
  things
• 27:31
  change,
• 27:32
  and
• 27:33
  it's
• 27:33
  hard
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  control
• 27:34
  somebody
• 27:34
  else's
• 27:35
  insecurity.
• 27:35
  It's
• 27:35
  hard
• 27:35
  to
• 27:36
  control
• 27:36
  your
• 27:36
  own
• 27:36
  insecurity
• 27:37
  without
• 27:38
  words.
• 27:39
  You
• 27:39
  don't
• 27:39
  really
• 27:40
  know
• 27:40
  what's
• 27:41
  happening.
• 27:41
  And
• 27:41
  so,
• 27:42
  like,
• 27:42
  even
• 27:42
  with,
• 27:42
  with
• 27:43
  the
• 27:43
  guys
• 27:43
  that
• 27:43
  I
• 27:43
  work
• 27:43
  with,
• 27:44
  I
• 27:44
  constantly
• 27:45
  talk
• 27:45
  to
• 27:45
  them
• 27:46
  about
• 27:47
  communicating
• 27:48
  with
• 27:48
  women.
• 27:48
  So,
• 27:49
  for
• 27:49
  example,
• 27:49
  if
• 27:50
  something
• 27:50
  happens
• 27:50
  in
• 27:51
  the
• 27:51
  bedroom,
• 27:51
  like,
• 27:51
  let's
• 27:51
  say
• 27:51
  for
• 27:52
  a
• 27:52
  lot
• 27:52
  of
• 27:52
  guys
• 27:52
  that
• 27:52
  I
• 27:53
  work
• 27:53
  with,
• 27:53
  experience
• 27:54
  tons
• 27:54
  of
• 27:54
  ED
• 27:54
  issues.
• 27:55
  Right?
• 27:55
  And
• 27:56
  so
• 27:56
  what
• 27:57
  I
• 27:57
  know
• 27:57
  happens
• 27:58
  from
• 27:58
  the
• 27:58
  female
• 27:58
  perspective
• 27:59
  is
• 27:59
  that
• 27:59
  they're
• 27:59
  with
• 27:59
  guys
• 28:00
  who
• 28:00
  either
• 28:00
  can't
• 28:01
  get
• 28:01
  it
• 28:01
  up
• 28:01
  or
• 28:01
  can't
• 28:01
  keep
• 28:01
  an
• 28:02
  erection
• 28:02
  or
• 28:02
  they
• 28:02
  can't
• 28:03
  ejaculate,
• 28:03
  and
• 28:04
  they
• 28:04
  go
• 28:04
  straight
• 28:05
  to,
• 28:05
  it's
• 28:05
  me.
• 28:05
  I'm
• 28:06
  not
• 28:06
  sexy
• 28:06
  anymore.
• 28:08
  He'
• 28:09
  disgusted
• 28:09
  by
• 28:09
  me.
• 28:09
  Like,
• 28:10
  you
• 28:10
  go
• 28:10
  to
• 28:10
  the
• 28:10
  insecure
• 28:11
  place.
• 28:11
  And
• 28:11
  so
• 28:12
  what
• 28:12
  I'm
• 28:12
  teaching
• 28:12
  to
• 28:12
  guys
• 28:13
  is
• 28:13
  for
• 28:13
  them
• 28:14
  to
• 28:14
  talk
• 28:14
  about
• 28:14
  it
• 28:15
  afterwards
• 28:15
  and
• 28:15
  say,
• 28:15
  hey,
• 28:16
  listen,
• 28:16
  this
• 28:16
  happens
• 28:16
  for
• 28:17
  me
• 28:17
  from
• 28:17
  time
• 28:17
  to
• 28:17
  time.
• 28:18
  It's
• 28:18
  kind
• 28:18
  of
• 28:19
  embarrassing.
• 28:19
  I'm
• 28:19
  working
• 28:20
  on
• 28:20
  it.
• 28:21
  But
• 28:22
  just
• 28:22
  know
• 28:22
  that
• 28:23
  this
• 28:23
  is
• 28:23
  nothing
• 28:24
  to
• 28:24
  do
• 28:24
  with
• 28:24
  you.
• 28:24
  This
• 28:24
  is
• 28:25
  something
• 28:25
  going
• 28:26
  on
• 28:26
  with
• 28:26
  me.
• 28:26
  Or
• 28:27
  if
• 28:27
  it
• 28:27
  is
• 28:27
  something
• 28:27
  to
• 28:27
  do
• 28:28
  with
• 28:28
  her,
• 28:28
  then
• 28:29
  I
• 28:29
  hope
• 28:29
  that
• 28:29
  they
• 28:29
  can
• 28:29
  have
• 28:30
  that
• 28:30
  conversation
• 28:30
  as
• 28:30
  well.
• 28:31
  That,
• 28:31
  like,
• 28:31
  you
• 28:31
  know
• 28:32
  what,
• 28:33
  what
• 28:33
  happened
• 28:33
  in
• 28:33
  the
• 28:34
  bedroom,
• 28:35
  I
• 28:35
  was
• 28:35
  kind
• 28:35
  of
• 28:35
  angry
• 28:36
  about
• 28:36
  what
• 28:36
  you
• 28:36
  said
• 28:37
  to
• 28:37
  me
• 28:37
  before,
• 28:37
  and
• 28:37
  I
• 28:38
  just
• 28:38
  could
• 28:38
  not
• 28:38
  mentally
• 28:39
  get
• 28:39
  there.
• 28:39
  So
• 28:39
  let's
• 28:39
  talk
• 28:40
  about
• 28:40
  what
• 28:40
  happened
• 28:40
  before
• 28:40
  so
• 28:41
  that
• 28:41
  we
• 28:41
  can
• 28:41
  have
• 28:41
  a
• 28:41
  better
• 28:41
  sex
• 28:42
  life
• 28:42
  afterwards.
• 28:43
  And,
• 28:43
  and
• 28:43
  vice
• 28:43
  versa.
• 28:44
  For
• 28:44
  women,
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  would
• 28:45
  love
• 28:45
  for
• 28:45
  them
• 28:46
  to
• 28:46
  be
• 28:46
  able
• 28:46
  to
• 28:46
  speak
• 28:46
  more
• 28:47
  openly
• 28:47
  about
• 28:47
  things
• 28:47
  that
• 28:47
  are
• 28:48
  uncomfortable.
• 28:48
  I
• 28:48
  do
• 28:48
  it
• 28:48
  with
• 28:49
  my
• 28:49
  eyes
• 28:49
  closed.
• 28:49
  Like,
• 28:49
  I,
• 28:50
  I,
• 28:50
  I,
• 28:50
  I'm,
• 28:51
  I'm
• 28:51
  not
• 28:51
  saying
• 28:51
  it
• 28:51
  as
• 28:52
  if
• 28:52
  I'm,
• 28:52
  I'm
• 28:52
  a
• 28:53
  perfect
• 28:53
  specimen
• 28:53
  who
• 28:54
  does
• 28:54
  this
• 28:54
  all
• 28:54
  the
• 28:54
  time.
• 28:55
  I
• 28:55
  get
• 28:55
  very
• 28:55
  uncomfortable
• 28:56
  talking
• 28:57
  to
• 28:57
  my
• 28:57
  friends,
• 28:58
  my
• 28:58
  family
• 28:58
  and
• 28:59
  my
• 28:59
  husband
• 28:59
  about
• 29:00
  things
• 29:00
  that
• 29:01
  can
• 29:01
  possibly
• 29:02
  hurt
• 29:02
  them
• 29:02
  or,
• 29:02
  or
• 29:03
  hurt
• 29:03
  me.
• 29:03
  Right.
• 29:04
  Oh,
• 29:04
  my
• 29:04
  gosh.
• 29:05
  There
• 29:05
  was
• 29:05
  something
• 29:05
  you
• 29:05
  just
• 29:06
  said
• 29:06
  that
• 29:06
  made
• 29:07
  me
• 29:07
  go,
• 29:07
  ooh.
• 29:08
  Was
• 29:09
  it
• 29:09
  about
• 29:09
  following
• 29:10
  sperm?
• 29:10
  Is
• 29:10
  that
• 29:11
  what
• 29:11
  it
• 29:11
  was?
• 29:11
  Yeah.
• 29:13
  Oh,
• 29:14
  spicy.
• 29:14
  I
• 29:15
  actually,
• 29:15
  I
• 29:15
  think
• 29:15
  I
• 29:15
  know
• 29:15
  it
• 29:16
  in
• 29:16
  her
• 29:16
  mind.
• 29:16
  Yeah,
• 29:17
  it
• 29:17
  was
• 29:17
  actually.
• 29:17
  Well,
• 29:18
  not
• 29:18
  that
• 29:18
  particularly
• 29:19
  that
• 29:19
  we
• 29:19
  talked
• 29:20
  about,
• 29:20
  but
• 29:22
  it.
• 29:22
  Do
• 29:22
  you
• 29:23
  see
• 29:23
  a
• 29:23
  lot
• 29:24
  of
• 29:24
  men
• 29:24
  in
• 29:25
  what
• 29:25
  you
• 29:25
  do
• 29:26
  come
• 29:26
  to
• 29:26
  you
• 29:27
  with
• 29:27
  that
• 29:27
  problem
• 29:27
  of
• 29:28
  ed
• 29:29
  and,
• 29:30
  like,
• 29:30
  they
• 29:31
  have
• 29:31
  no
• 29:31
  problems
• 29:32
  getting
• 29:32
  off
• 29:32
  on,
• 29:32
  like,
• 29:33
  by
• 29:33
  themselves
• 29:34
  with
• 29:34
  porn,
• 29:34
  but
• 29:35
  when
• 29:35
  they're
• 29:35
  with
• 29:35
  an
• 29:35
  actual
• 29:36
  female,
• 29:36
  like,
• 29:37
  it
• 29:37
  just
• 29:37
  isn't
• 29:37
  gonna
• 29:38
  work.
• 29:38
  Like,
• 29:39
  have
• 29:39
  you
• 29:39
  had
• 29:39
  to
• 29:39
  come
• 29:40
  times.
• 29:40
  But
• 29:40
  most.
• 29:41
  Most
• 29:41
  men,
• 29:43
  because
• 29:43
  you're
• 29:43
  trying.
• 29:43
  You're
• 29:43
  trying
• 29:43
  to
• 29:44
  say,
• 29:44
  is
• 29:44
  it
• 29:44
  psychological?
• 29:45
  I
• 29:45
  think,
• 29:45
  like,
• 29:45
  a
• 29:46
  lot
• 29:46
  of.
• 29:46
  So
• 29:46
  there
• 29:46
  are
• 29:47
  many
• 29:47
  men
• 29:47
  who
• 29:47
  do
• 29:47
  have
• 29:48
  that.
• 29:48
  I.
• 29:48
  I
• 29:49
  haven't
• 29:49
  really
• 29:49
  asked
• 29:49
  that
• 29:50
  question,
• 29:50
  but
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  do
• 29:50
  know
• 29:51
  because
• 29:51
  people
• 29:51
  have
• 29:51
  written
• 29:52
  into
• 29:52
  me
• 29:52
  about
• 29:52
  it
• 29:52
  saying
• 29:53
  that
• 29:53
  they
• 29:53
  have
• 29:53
  that
• 29:53
  specific
• 29:54
  issue,
• 29:54
  like,
• 29:54
  on
• 29:54
  their
• 29:54
  own,
• 29:54
  they
• 29:55
  can
• 29:55
  do
• 29:55
  it.
• 29:55
  But
• 29:55
  with
• 29:55
  women,
• 29:55
  it
• 29:56
  becomes
• 29:56
  a
• 29:56
  challenge.
• 29:57
  I'm
• 29:58
  not
• 29:58
  a
• 29:58
  doctor,
• 29:58
  by
• 29:58
  the
• 29:59
  way,
• 29:59
  so
• 29:59
  just
• 29:59
  letting
• 29:59
  you
• 29:59
  know,
• 29:59
  I'm
• 29:59
  not.
• 30:00
  I'm
• 30:00
  not
• 30:00
  a
• 30:00
  specialist
• 30:01
  for
• 30:01
  you.
• 30:02
  But
• 30:02
  so.
• 30:03
  But
• 30:03
  so
• 30:03
  many
• 30:04
  men,
• 30:05
  they
• 30:05
  really
• 30:05
  have,
• 30:06
  like,
• 30:06
  legit
• 30:07
  ED
• 30:07
  issues
• 30:08
  that
• 30:08
  start
• 30:08
  to
• 30:08
  creep
• 30:09
  up
• 30:09
  on
• 30:09
  them.
• 30:10
  So
• 30:11
  the
• 30:11
  majority
• 30:11
  of
• 30:12
  men
• 30:12
  that
• 30:12
  I
• 30:12
  have,
• 30:13
  I
• 30:13
  have
• 30:13
  worked
• 30:14
  with
• 30:14
  only
• 30:14
  talk
• 30:15
  about
• 30:15
  the
• 30:15
  issues
• 30:16
  in
• 30:16
  the
• 30:16
  bedroom
• 30:17
  and
• 30:17
  then
• 30:17
  fearful
• 30:18
  of
• 30:19
  what
• 30:19
  to
• 30:19
  do
• 30:19
  in
• 30:20
  the
• 30:20
  bedroom
• 30:20
  when
• 30:21
  that
• 30:21
  happens.
• 30:22
  They
• 30:22
  don't.
• 30:22
  I've
• 30:23
  never
• 30:23
  heard
• 30:23
  them
• 30:23
  talk
• 30:23
  about,
• 30:24
  like,
• 30:25
  okay,
• 30:25
  aside
• 30:26
  from
• 30:26
  the
• 30:26
  guys
• 30:26
  that
• 30:26
  write
• 30:26
  me
• 30:26
  emails
• 30:27
  about
• 30:27
  it,
• 30:27
  say
• 30:28
  it
• 30:28
  to
• 30:28
  me.
• 30:28
  But
• 30:28
  I
• 30:28
  can
• 30:28
  ask
• 30:29
  that
• 30:29
  question.
• 30:29
  I
• 30:30
  would
• 30:30
  be
• 30:30
  interested
• 30:31
  question.
• 30:32
  But
• 30:32
  I
• 30:32
  will
• 30:32
  say
• 30:32
  so.
• 30:33
  I
• 30:33
  had
• 30:33
  Susan
• 30:34
  Bradden
• 30:34
  on
• 30:34
  my
• 30:35
  podcast
• 30:35
  recently,
• 30:36
  and
• 30:36
  she
• 30:36
  talked
• 30:37
  about
• 30:37
  ED
• 30:38
  in
• 30:38
  a
• 30:38
  way
• 30:38
  that
• 30:38
  I
• 30:38
  had
• 30:38
  never
• 30:39
  really
• 30:39
  heard
• 30:40
  about
• 30:40
  ED
• 30:40
  before.
• 30:41
  Can
• 30:41
  you
• 30:41
  tell
• 30:41
  us
• 30:41
  who.
• 30:42
  Who
• 30:42
  Susan
• 30:42
  Bratton
• 30:43
  is?
• 30:43
  Bradden
• 30:44
  is.
• 30:44
  She's
• 30:44
  an
• 30:44
  intimacy
• 30:45
  expert.
• 30:45
  She's
• 30:46
  like
• 30:46
  one
• 30:46
  of
• 30:46
  the
• 30:47
  leading
• 30:47
  women,
• 30:48
  I
• 30:48
  would
• 30:48
  say,
• 30:48
  in
• 30:48
  the
• 30:49
  intimacy
• 30:49
  space.
• 30:49
  Okay.
• 30:50
  And
• 30:50
  she
• 30:51
  works
• 30:51
  with
• 30:51
  men
• 30:51
  and
• 30:51
  with
• 30:52
  women,
• 30:52
  but
• 30:52
  mostly
• 30:53
  people
• 30:53
  who
• 30:53
  are
• 30:53
  in
• 30:53
  relationships
• 30:54
  with
• 30:54
  each
• 30:54
  other
• 30:54
  just
• 30:54
  to
• 30:55
  have
• 30:55
  them
• 30:55
  have
• 30:56
  unbelievable
• 30:57
  sex
• 30:57
  with
• 30:57
  each
• 30:57
  other.
• 30:57
  So
• 30:58
  she
• 30:58
  works
• 30:58
  on
• 30:58
  communication.
• 30:59
  She
• 30:59
  works
• 30:59
  on
• 30:59
  toys,
• 31:00
  she
• 31:00
  works
• 31:00
  on
• 31:01
  moves.
• 31:01
  She
• 31:01
  works
• 31:02
  on
• 31:02
  ED
• 31:02
  issues.
• 31:02
  She
• 31:03
  works
• 31:03
  on,
• 31:04
  you
• 31:04
  know,
• 31:04
  vagina
• 31:04
  issues,
• 31:05
  whatever
• 31:06
  for
• 31:06
  everybody.
• 31:07
  And
• 31:07
  who's
• 31:07
  in
• 31:08
  the
• 31:08
  bedroom.
• 31:08
  But
• 31:09
  she
• 31:09
  came
• 31:09
  onto
• 31:09
  my
• 31:09
  podcast
• 31:10
  and.
• 31:10
  And
• 31:10
  I
• 31:11
  used
• 31:11
  to
• 31:11
  think
• 31:11
  it
• 31:11
  was
• 31:11
  primarily
• 31:12
  a
• 31:13
  psychological
• 31:13
  head
• 31:14
  issue.
• 31:14
  Okay.
• 31:15
  And
• 31:15
  she
• 31:15
  was
• 31:15
  saying,
• 31:16
  for
• 31:16
  the
• 31:16
  majority
• 31:16
  of
• 31:17
  men,
• 31:17
  and
• 31:17
  I'm
• 31:18
  going
• 31:18
  to
• 31:18
  say
• 31:18
  this
• 31:18
  incorrectly,
• 31:19
  there's,
• 31:19
  like,
• 31:20
  something
• 31:20
  in
• 31:21
  your
• 31:22
  penis
• 31:23
  veins
• 31:24
  where
• 31:24
  they
• 31:25
  start
• 31:25
  to
• 31:25
  get
• 31:25
  clogged.
• 31:26
  Oh.
• 31:27
  And
• 31:27
  so
• 31:27
  she
• 31:27
  was
• 31:28
  talking
• 31:28
  about
• 31:28
  using
• 31:29
  penis
• 31:29
  pumps
• 31:30
  to
• 31:30
  work
• 31:30
  out.
• 31:30
  And
• 31:31
  again,
• 31:31
  not
• 31:31
  a
• 31:32
  doctor,
• 31:32
  so
• 31:32
  please
• 31:32
  don't
• 31:33
  listen
• 31:33
  to
• 31:33
  this
• 31:33
  without
• 31:33
  doing
• 31:33
  research
• 31:34
  on
• 31:34
  this
• 31:34
  yourself.
• 31:35
  But
• 31:36
  they
• 31:36
  were
• 31:36
  saying,
• 31:36
  like,
• 31:37
  it's
• 31:37
  one
• 31:37
  of
• 31:37
  the.
• 31:37
  She
• 31:38
  was
• 31:38
  saying
• 31:38
  was
• 31:38
  one
• 31:38
  of
• 31:38
  the
• 31:38
  early
• 31:38
  signs
• 31:39
  of
• 31:39
  potential,
• 31:40
  like,
• 31:40
  cardiac
• 31:41
  issues
• 31:41
  and
• 31:42
  blocked
• 31:42
  artery
• 31:42
  issues.
• 31:43
  Oh,
• 31:43
  interesting.
• 31:44
  Like,
• 31:44
  even
• 31:46
  you're
• 31:46
  starting
• 31:46
  to
• 31:46
  have
• 31:46
  problems
• 31:46
  peeing,
• 31:47
  for
• 31:48
  example.
• 31:48
  Like,
• 31:48
  I
• 31:48
  don't
• 31:49
  know
• 31:49
  if
• 31:49
  you.
• 31:49
  You
• 31:49
  guys
• 31:50
  are
• 31:50
  younger,
• 31:50
  but
• 31:50
  I
• 31:51
  have
• 31:51
  this,
• 31:51
  like,
• 31:51
  my
• 31:51
  husband
• 31:51
  goes
• 31:52
  to
• 31:52
  the
• 31:52
  bathroom
• 31:52
  and
• 31:52
  takes
• 31:52
  him,
• 31:52
  like,
• 31:52
  30
• 31:53
  seconds
• 31:53
  till
• 31:53
  his
• 31:53
  pee
• 31:53
  comes
• 31:53
  out.
• 31:55
  So
• 31:55
  those
• 31:55
  are,
• 31:56
  like,
• 31:56
  starting
• 31:56
  issues,
• 31:57
  where
• 31:57
  that
• 31:58
  area
• 31:58
  is
• 31:58
  starting
• 31:58
  to
• 31:59
  have
• 31:59
  some
• 31:59
  issues,
• 32:00
  and
• 32:00
  they
• 32:00
  can
• 32:00
  be
• 32:01
  red
• 32:01
  flags.
• 32:02
  Having
• 32:02
  problems
• 32:03
  finishing
• 32:03
  in
• 32:04
  the
• 32:04
  bedroom.
• 32:05
  I
• 32:05
  used
• 32:05
  to
• 32:06
  think
• 32:06
  it
• 32:06
  was
• 32:06
  because
• 32:07
  I
• 32:07
  have
• 32:07
  a
• 32:07
  big
• 32:07
  vagina
• 32:08
  now
• 32:08
  because
• 32:08
  I've
• 32:09
  had
• 32:09
  a
• 32:09
  baby
• 32:09
  in
• 32:10
  some.
• 32:11
  You
• 32:11
  thought
• 32:11
  it
• 32:11
  was
• 32:11
  you.
• 32:12
  Yeah,
• 32:12
  but.
• 32:12
  So
• 32:13
  that's.
• 32:13
  That's
• 32:13
  the
• 32:13
  whole.
• 32:13
  That's
• 32:13
  the
• 32:14
  whole
• 32:14
  thing.
• 32:14
  That's
• 32:14
  why
• 32:14
  communication
• 32:15
  is
• 32:15
  really
• 32:16
  helpful
• 32:16
  about
• 32:17
  these
• 32:17
  things.
• 32:17
  And
• 32:18
  so
• 32:18
  anybody,
• 32:18
  if
• 32:18
  they
• 32:19
  are
• 32:19
  having
• 32:19
  ED
• 32:20
  issues,
• 32:20
  I
• 32:21
  would
• 32:21
  say,
• 32:21
  first,
• 32:21
  go
• 32:21
  to
• 32:21
  a
• 32:21
  doctor
• 32:22
  and
• 32:22
  see
• 32:22
  what's
• 32:22
  going
• 32:23
  on.
• 32:23
  If
• 32:23
  there's
• 32:23
  nothing
• 32:24
  that's
• 32:26
  obviously
• 32:27
  there
• 32:27
  medically,
• 32:28
  then
• 32:28
  look
• 32:29
  at
• 32:29
  the
• 32:29
  psychological
• 32:30
  aspects
• 32:30
  about
• 32:30
  what
• 32:31
  else
• 32:31
  is.
• 32:31
  Is
• 32:31
  like
• 32:32
  harming
• 32:32
  you
• 32:32
  in
• 32:33
  some
• 32:33
  way.
• 32:33
  That's
• 32:34
  great
• 32:34
  tips.
• 32:35
  Yeah.
• 32:35
  And
• 32:35
  I
• 32:35
  actually
• 32:36
  was
• 32:36
  gonna.
• 32:36
  You
• 32:37
  made
• 32:37
  me
• 32:37
  think
• 32:37
  of
• 32:37
  something.
• 32:38
  Okay.
• 32:38
  So
• 32:38
  I
• 32:39
  am
• 32:39
  currently
• 32:39
  going
• 32:40
  through
• 32:40
  a
• 32:40
  divorce,
• 32:40
  but
• 32:41
  I
• 32:41
  will
• 32:41
  say
• 32:41
  this
• 32:43
  one
• 32:44
  thing,
• 32:44
  that
• 32:45
  we
• 32:46
  have
• 32:46
  a
• 32:46
  lot
• 32:46
  of
• 32:46
  communication
• 32:47
  issues.
• 32:47
  We
• 32:47
  had
• 32:48
  a
• 32:48
  lot,
• 32:48
  so
• 32:48
  I'm
• 32:49
  just
• 32:49
  putting
• 32:49
  that
• 32:49
  out
• 32:50
  there.
• 32:50
  But
• 32:50
  one
• 32:50
  thing
• 32:51
  that
• 32:51
  he
• 32:51
  was
• 32:51
  really
• 32:51
  good
• 32:51
  about
• 32:52
  is
• 32:52
  when
• 32:52
  we
• 32:52
  had
• 32:52
  an
• 32:52
  issue
• 32:53
  like
• 32:53
  that
• 32:53
  in
• 32:53
  the
• 32:53
  bedroom,
• 32:54
  he
• 32:54
  would
• 32:55
  say,
• 32:55
  hey,
• 32:55
  let's
• 32:55
  take
• 32:56
  a
• 32:56
  break.
• 32:56
  There's.
• 32:57
  It's
• 32:57
  not
• 32:57
  you,
• 32:57
  it's
• 32:58
  me.
• 32:58
  But
• 32:59
  he
• 32:59
  would
• 32:59
  just
• 32:59
  hold
• 32:59
  me
• 32:59
  and
• 32:59
  say,
• 33:00
  hey,
• 33:00
  let's
• 33:00
  talk.
• 33:01
  And
• 33:01
  I
• 33:01
  just
• 33:02
  felt
• 33:02
  so
• 33:03
  validated,
• 33:03
  I
• 33:04
  guess,
• 33:04
  because
• 33:04
  he
• 33:04
  still
• 33:05
  cared
• 33:05
  about
• 33:05
  me.
• 33:05
  He
• 33:05
  still
• 33:06
  wanted
• 33:06
  me
• 33:06
  there.
• 33:06
  Yeah.
• 33:07
  And
• 33:08
  I
• 33:08
  thought
• 33:08
  that
• 33:08
  was
• 33:08
  a
• 33:08
  really
• 33:09
  nice
• 33:09
  way
• 33:09
  to
• 33:09
  handle
• 33:09
  it.
• 33:09
  And
• 33:10
  I
• 33:10
  haven't
• 33:10
  really
• 33:10
  seen
• 33:10
  other
• 33:11
  men.
• 33:12
  Hadn't
• 33:12
  really
• 33:13
  done
• 33:13
  that
• 33:13
  before.
• 33:13
  I
• 33:14
  hadn't
• 33:14
  experienced
• 33:14
  it
• 33:15
  myself
• 33:15
  anyway.
• 33:16
  And
• 33:16
  so
• 33:17
  just
• 33:18
  coming
• 33:18
  from.
• 33:19
  That's
• 33:19
  something
• 33:19
  that
• 33:19
  felt
• 33:20
  really
• 33:20
  good.
• 33:20
  No,
• 33:20
  but
• 33:20
  it's
• 33:20
  really
• 33:20
  nice
• 33:21
  because
• 33:21
  it.
• 33:21
  Because
• 33:21
  yeah,
• 33:22
  you.
• 33:22
  You
• 33:22
  don't
• 33:23
  get
• 33:23
  to
• 33:23
  get
• 33:23
  your
• 33:23
  nervous
• 33:24
  system
• 33:24
  going
• 33:25
  into
• 33:25
  this
• 33:25
  other
• 33:25
  place.
• 33:26
  Right.
• 33:27
  Like,
• 33:27
  your
• 33:27
  fight
• 33:27
  or
• 33:27
  flight
• 33:28
  mode
• 33:28
  doesn't
• 33:28
  go
• 33:28
  into.
• 33:29
  Into
• 33:29
  right
• 33:30
  here.
• 33:30
  Whatever
• 33:31
  it
• 33:31
  is,
• 33:32
  you're
• 33:32
  not
• 33:32
  going
• 33:33
  down
• 33:33
  this
• 33:33
  path
• 33:33
  of
• 33:34
  potential
• 33:34
  negativity.
• 33:35
  And
• 33:35
  as
• 33:35
  confident
• 33:35
  as
• 33:36
  you
• 33:36
  are,
• 33:36
  if
• 33:36
  you
• 33:36
  don't
• 33:36
  have
• 33:37
  all
• 33:37
  the
• 33:37
  information
• 33:37
  and
• 33:38
  you're
• 33:38
  too
• 33:38
  afraid
• 33:38
  to
• 33:38
  ask
• 33:39
  for
• 33:39
  the
• 33:39
  information,
• 33:40
  it
• 33:40
  can
• 33:40
  set.
• 33:40
  It
• 33:41
  can
• 33:41
  send
• 33:41
  you
• 33:41
  to
• 33:41
  very
• 33:41
  negative
• 33:42
  spaces.
• 33:43
  So
• 33:43
  I'm.
• 33:43
  I'm
• 33:43
  glad
• 33:43
  that
• 33:44
  he.
• 33:44
  He
• 33:44
  did
• 33:45
  that
• 33:45
  for
• 33:45
  you.
• 33:45
  That's
• 33:45
  great.
• 33:46
  Me
• 33:46
  too,
• 33:46
  actually.
• 33:47
  What
• 33:48
  do
• 33:48
  you
• 33:48
  feel
• 33:49
  like
• 33:49
  men
• 33:50
  come
• 33:50
  to
• 33:50
  you?
• 33:51
  What's
• 33:51
  the
• 33:51
  biggest
• 33:52
  complaint
• 33:52
  that
• 33:52
  men
• 33:52
  have
• 33:53
  when
• 33:53
  they
• 33:53
  come
• 33:53
  to
• 33:53
  you
• 33:53
  about
• 33:54
  women?
• 33:54
  Yeah.
• 33:55
  Like,
• 33:55
  what
• 33:55
  do
• 33:56
  we
• 33:56
  not
• 33:56
  know
• 33:56
  about
• 33:56
  them?
• 33:57
  Ghosted.
• 33:58
  They
• 33:59
  just
• 34:00
  disappear.
• 34:00
  They
• 34:01
  don't
• 34:01
  understand
• 34:01
  why
• 34:01
  they
• 34:02
  can
• 34:02
  have
• 34:02
  a
• 34:02
  great
• 34:02
  date,
• 34:03
  and
• 34:03
  they.
• 34:04
  The
• 34:04
  women
• 34:04
  don't
• 34:04
  want
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  see
• 34:04
  them
• 34:05
  again
• 34:05
  afterwards.
• 34:05
  So,
• 34:06
  like,
• 34:06
  what
• 34:06
  happened?
• 34:06
  We
• 34:06
  were
• 34:07
  laughing.
• 34:07
  We
• 34:07
  were
• 34:07
  connecting,
• 34:08
  but
• 34:08
  she
• 34:08
  has
• 34:09
  that
• 34:09
  says
• 34:09
  there's
• 34:10
  no
• 34:10
  spark,
• 34:10
  and
• 34:10
  she
• 34:11
  doesn't
• 34:11
  want
• 34:11
  to
• 34:11
  see
• 34:11
  me
• 34:11
  again.
• 34:12
  I
• 34:12
  go
• 34:12
  to
• 34:12
  my
• 34:12
  husband.
• 34:14
  You
• 34:14
  did
• 34:16
  well,
• 34:17
  obviously
• 34:17
  was
• 34:17
  an
• 34:17
  unsuccessful
• 34:18
  ghost
• 34:18
  because
• 34:18
  you're
• 34:19
  married
• 34:19
  to
• 34:19
  him
• 34:20
  for
• 34:20
  four
• 34:21
  years.
• 34:23
  Really?
• 34:24
  It's
• 34:24
  so
• 34:24
  funny.
• 34:25
  You're
• 34:25
  the
• 34:25
  second
• 34:25
  person
• 34:25
  that
• 34:26
  said
• 34:26
  that.
• 34:26
  So
• 34:26
  my
• 34:26
  other.
• 34:27
  Our
• 34:27
  other
• 34:27
  friend
• 34:28
  is
• 34:28
  getting
• 34:28
  married
• 34:29
  now,
• 34:29
  and
• 34:29
  she
• 34:29
  said
• 34:30
  with
• 34:30
  her
• 34:30
  fiance,
• 34:31
  she's
• 34:31
  like.
• 34:31
  He
• 34:31
  kept
• 34:31
  reaching
• 34:32
  out
• 34:32
  to
• 34:32
  her,
• 34:33
  and
• 34:33
  he.
• 34:33
  She
• 34:33
  just
• 34:34
  would
• 34:34
  not
• 34:34
  write
• 34:34
  back
• 34:34
  to
• 34:35
  him.
• 34:35
  She
• 34:35
  just
• 34:35
  wasn't
• 34:35
  ready
• 34:35
  for
• 34:35
  it.
• 34:36
  She's
• 34:36
  also
• 34:36
  a
• 34:36
  lesbian
• 34:37
  for
• 34:37
  a
• 34:37
  short
• 34:37
  period
• 34:37
  of
• 34:37
  time,
• 34:37
  so
• 34:37
  that's
• 34:38
  why
• 34:38
  she
• 34:38
  wasn't
• 34:38
  into
• 34:38
  it
• 34:39
  at
• 34:39
  that
• 34:39
  time.
• 34:39
  Like,
• 34:40
  but
• 34:41
  she
• 34:41
  just,
• 34:41
  like,
• 34:42
  wouldn't
• 34:42
  write
• 34:43
  back
• 34:43
  to
• 34:43
  him,
• 34:43
  and
• 34:43
  she
• 34:44
  knew
• 34:44
  that
• 34:44
  he
• 34:44
  was
• 34:44
  interested
• 34:45
  in
• 34:45
  her.
• 34:45
  And
• 34:45
  they'd
• 34:45
  see
• 34:45
  each
• 34:46
  other
• 34:46
  at
• 34:46
  work,
• 34:46
  and
• 34:46
  they
• 34:47
  would
• 34:47
  talk.
• 34:48
  He
• 34:48
  would
• 34:48
  contact
• 34:49
  her,
• 34:49
  and
• 34:49
  she.
• 34:49
  He
• 34:50
  would
• 34:50
  just.
• 34:50
  She
• 34:51
  would
• 34:51
  just
• 34:51
  ignore
• 34:51
  all
• 34:51
  of
• 34:52
  his
• 34:52
  advances.
• 34:52
  And
• 34:52
  then
• 34:52
  one
• 34:53
  day,
• 34:53
  she's
• 34:53
  like,
• 34:53
  okay,
• 34:53
  now
• 34:53
  I'm
• 34:54
  ready.
• 34:55
  I'll
• 34:55
  open
• 34:55
  that
• 34:55
  door
• 34:55
  for
• 34:56
  you.
• 34:56
  And
• 34:56
  then.
• 34:56
  Yeah.
• 34:57
  And
• 34:57
  he
• 34:57
  was
• 34:57
  still
• 34:57
  there
• 34:58
  for
• 34:58
  it.
• 34:58
  Yeah.
• 34:59
  And
• 34:59
  I
• 34:59
  was
• 34:59
  like,
• 34:59
  why'd
• 34:59
  you
• 35:00
  stick
• 35:00
  around?
• 35:02
  But
• 35:02
  it
• 35:02
  worked
• 35:02
  out
• 35:03
  well
• 35:03
  because
• 35:03
  I
• 35:03
  think
• 35:03
  he
• 35:03
  just
• 35:04
  knew.
• 35:04
  He
• 35:04
  just
• 35:04
  knew.
• 35:05
  I
• 35:05
  mean,
• 35:06
  and
• 35:06
  then
• 35:07
  she
• 35:07
  did
• 35:07
  not
• 35:07
  know.
• 35:08
  So
• 35:08
  I
• 35:08
  think
• 35:08
  it
• 35:08
  just
• 35:09
  became.
• 35:09
  That
• 35:09
  being
• 35:09
  said,
• 35:10
  you
• 35:10
  ghosted
• 35:11
  him,
• 35:11
  but
• 35:11
  not
• 35:12
  for
• 35:12
  four
• 35:12
  years.
• 35:12
  You
• 35:13
  reconnected
• 35:13
  after
• 35:14
  four
• 35:14
  years,
• 35:14
  right?
• 35:15
  Did
• 35:15
  he
• 35:15
  keep
• 35:15
  trying
• 35:15
  to
• 35:15
  contact
• 35:16
  you
• 35:16
  through
• 35:16
  that?
• 35:16
  Oh,
• 35:17
  no,
• 35:17
  no.
• 35:17
  I
• 35:17
  ghosted
• 35:18
  him.
• 35:18
  And
• 35:18
  then
• 35:19
  I
• 35:19
  tried
• 35:19
  contacting
• 35:20
  him
• 35:20
  one
• 35:21
  time
• 35:21
  after
• 35:21
  I
• 35:21
  ghosted
• 35:22
  him
• 35:22
  just
• 35:22
  to
• 35:22
  tell
• 35:22
  him
• 35:22
  happy
• 35:22
  birthday
• 35:23
  on
• 35:23
  one
• 35:23
  of
• 35:23
  his
• 35:23
  birthdays,
• 35:24
  and
• 35:24
  he
• 35:24
  did
• 35:24
  not
• 35:24
  respond
• 35:25
  to
• 35:25
  me.
• 35:25
  And
• 35:26
  then,
• 35:27
  you
• 35:28
  know,
• 35:28
  after
• 35:28
  the
• 35:28
  four
• 35:28
  years,
• 35:29
  he
• 35:29
  had
• 35:30
  reached
• 35:30
  out
• 35:30
  to
• 35:30
  me
• 35:30
  to
• 35:30
  see
• 35:31
  if
• 35:31
  I
• 35:32
  could
• 35:32
  rent
• 35:32
  his
• 35:33
  house
• 35:33
  from
• 35:33
  him
• 35:33
  because
• 35:33
  he
• 35:34
  knew
• 35:34
  that
• 35:34
  me
• 35:34
  and
• 35:34
  my
• 35:34
  best
• 35:34
  friend
• 35:35
  were
• 35:36
  about
• 35:36
  to
• 35:36
  live
• 35:36
  together
• 35:37
  and
• 35:37
  needed
• 35:37
  a
• 35:37
  place
• 35:37
  to
• 35:38
  live.
• 35:38
  And
• 35:38
  then
• 35:39
  we
• 35:39
  just
• 35:39
  didn't
• 35:39
  stop
• 35:40
  talking.
• 35:41
  It
• 35:41
  was
• 35:42
  meant
• 35:42
  to
• 35:42
  be.
• 35:43
  Time
• 35:43
  was
• 35:43
  right
• 35:44
  for
• 35:44
  it,
• 35:45
  obviously.
• 35:45
  Yeah.
• 35:46
  And
• 35:46
  that's
• 35:46
  the
• 35:47
  biggest
• 35:47
  takeaway.
• 35:47
  And
• 35:48
  so
• 35:48
  I.
• 35:48
  I
• 35:48
  feel
• 35:48
  like
• 35:48
  probably
• 35:49
  for
• 35:49
  a
• 35:49
  lot
• 35:49
  of
• 35:49
  women,
• 35:50
  I
• 35:50
  don't.
• 35:51
  You
• 35:51
  should
• 35:51
  probably
• 35:52
  think
• 35:52
  about
• 35:52
  this
• 35:52
  if
• 35:52
  you've
• 35:53
  ghosted
• 35:53
  someone.
• 35:54
  But
• 35:54
  for
• 35:55
  me,
• 35:55
  I
• 35:56
  ghosted
• 35:56
  him.
• 35:56
  And
• 35:56
  the
• 35:57
  real
• 35:57
  reasons
• 35:58
  behind
• 35:58
  it.
• 35:58
  Like,
• 35:59
  yeah,
• 35:59
  I
• 35:59
  blamed
• 35:59
  him
• 35:59
  for,
• 36:00
  like,
• 36:00
  stupid
• 36:00
  stuff
• 36:00
  like,
• 36:01
  oh,
• 36:01
  he
• 36:02
  made
• 36:02
  this
• 36:02
  comment,
• 36:02
  or
• 36:02
  I
• 36:02
  saw
• 36:03
  this
• 36:03
  in
• 36:03
  his
• 36:03
  house,
• 36:03
  and
• 36:04
  it
• 36:04
  gave
• 36:04
  me
• 36:05
  the
• 36:05
  ick.
• 36:05
  But
• 36:06
  really,
• 36:06
  when
• 36:06
  it
• 36:06
  comes
• 36:07
  down
• 36:07
  to
• 36:07
  it,
• 36:07
  it
• 36:07
  was
• 36:08
  that
• 36:08
  I
• 36:08
  was
• 36:08
  not
• 36:09
  an
• 36:10
  adult
• 36:10
  enough
• 36:11
  mindset.
• 36:11
  To
• 36:12
  be
• 36:12
  like,
• 36:12
  hey,
• 36:13
  I
• 36:14
  saw
• 36:14
  this
• 36:15
  in
• 36:15
  your,
• 36:16
  you
• 36:16
  know,
• 36:17
  spare
• 36:17
  bedroom,
• 36:17
  and
• 36:18
  it
• 36:18
  really
• 36:18
  kind
• 36:19
  of
• 36:19
  threw
• 36:19
  me
• 36:19
  off.
• 36:20
  Like,
• 36:20
  is
• 36:20
  that
• 36:21
  something
• 36:21
  that
• 36:21
  you're
• 36:22
  into?
• 36:22
  You
• 36:22
  know,
• 36:22
  and,
• 36:22
  like,
• 36:23
  asking,
• 36:23
  like,
• 36:23
  why,
• 36:24
  you
• 36:24
  know,
• 36:24
  why
• 36:25
  was
• 36:25
  that?
• 36:26
  You
• 36:26
  weren't
• 36:26
  invested
• 36:27
  enough.
• 36:27
  That
• 36:27
  was
• 36:27
  the
• 36:28
  whole
• 36:28
  thing.
• 36:28
  Like,
• 36:28
  that's.
• 36:29
  That's
• 36:29
  what
• 36:29
  happens
• 36:30
  with
• 36:30
  people
• 36:30
  that
• 36:31
  you
• 36:31
  just
• 36:31
  enter,
• 36:32
  right?
• 36:32
  You
• 36:32
  interact
• 36:32
  with
• 36:33
  them
• 36:33
  in
• 36:33
  two
• 36:33
  times,
• 36:34
  and
• 36:34
  if
• 36:34
  they
• 36:34
  do
• 36:34
  something,
• 36:34
  you're
• 36:35
  like,
• 36:35
  oh,
• 36:35
  that's
• 36:35
  who
• 36:35
  you
• 36:35
  are.
• 36:36
  Right.
• 36:37
  You're
• 36:37
  not
• 36:37
  invested
• 36:37
  enough.
• 36:38
  You
• 36:38
  don't
• 36:38
  know
• 36:38
  enough
• 36:38
  about
• 36:39
  them.
• 36:39
  So
• 36:39
  you're
• 36:39
  just
• 36:39
  like,
• 36:40
  not
• 36:40
  for
• 36:40
  me.
• 36:41
  When
• 36:41
  I
• 36:42
  mean
• 36:42
  the.
• 36:42
  I
• 36:42
  don't
• 36:43
  do
• 36:43
  this.
• 36:43
  Trust
• 36:43
  me.
• 36:44
  I'm
• 36:44
  not,
• 36:44
  like,
• 36:44
  I'm
• 36:44
  not
• 36:44
  trying
• 36:45
  to,
• 36:45
  again,
• 36:46
  say
• 36:46
  that
• 36:46
  I'm
• 36:46
  so
• 36:47
  wonderful.
• 36:47
  I
• 36:47
  do
• 36:47
  not
• 36:48
  do
• 36:48
  this.
• 36:48
  I.
• 36:49
  I
• 36:49
  write
• 36:49
  people
• 36:49
  off
• 36:50
  pretty
• 36:50
  easily
• 36:51
  if
• 36:51
  I
• 36:51
  don't
• 36:51
  like
• 36:51
  the
• 36:52
  things
• 36:52
  that
• 36:52
  they
• 36:52
  say,
• 36:52
  because
• 36:53
  if
• 36:53
  they
• 36:53
  say
• 36:53
  something,
• 36:53
  I'm
• 36:54
  like,
• 36:54
  this
• 36:54
  is
• 36:54
  what
• 36:54
  you
• 36:54
  say
• 36:54
  on
• 36:55
  a
• 36:55
  regular
• 36:55
  basis.
• 36:55
  And
• 36:55
  that's
• 36:56
  not
• 36:56
  my
• 36:56
  cup
• 36:56
  of
• 36:56
  tea.
• 36:57
  Maybe
• 36:58
  the
• 36:58
  better
• 36:58
  thing
• 36:59
  is,
• 37:00
  is
• 37:00
  to
• 37:00
  be
• 37:00
  more
• 37:01
  open
• 37:01
  and.
• 37:02
  And
• 37:02
  asking
• 37:02
  questions.
• 37:03
  Like,
• 37:03
  you
• 37:03
  just
• 37:04
  said,
• 37:04
  like,
• 37:04
  oh,
• 37:04
  what
• 37:04
  did
• 37:04
  you
• 37:05
  mean
• 37:05
  by
• 37:05
  that?
• 37:05
  Or,
• 37:06
  you
• 37:06
  know,
• 37:07
  said
• 37:07
  that
• 37:07
  and
• 37:07
  that
• 37:07
  kind
• 37:07
  of,
• 37:08
  like,
• 37:08
  it's
• 37:08
  kind
• 37:08
  of
• 37:09
  rude
• 37:09
  for
• 37:09
  you.
• 37:09
  Yeah,
• 37:09
  I'm
• 37:10
  glad
• 37:10
  that
• 37:10
  it
• 37:11
  went
• 37:11
  this.
• 37:11
  That
• 37:12
  you're
• 37:12
  saying
• 37:12
  that,
• 37:12
  because
• 37:13
  that's
• 37:13
  kind
• 37:13
  of
• 37:13
  something
• 37:13
  we're
• 37:14
  really
• 37:14
  trying
• 37:14
  to
• 37:14
  do,
• 37:14
  like,
• 37:15
  with
• 37:15
  this
• 37:15
  podcast,
• 37:16
  is
• 37:16
  be
• 37:17
  like,
• 37:17
  hey,
• 37:17
  you
• 37:17
  know,
• 37:18
  is
• 37:18
  like,
• 37:19
  just
• 37:19
  to
• 37:19
  understand
• 37:19
  each
• 37:20
  other
• 37:20
  more.
• 37:21
  Yeah,
• 37:21
  it's
• 37:21
  hard.
• 37:22
  I
• 37:22
  mean,
• 37:22
  it
• 37:22
  is.
• 37:23
  As
• 37:23
  you
• 37:24
  get
• 37:24
  older,
• 37:24
  you've
• 37:25
  got
• 37:25
  so
• 37:25
  much
• 37:25
  stuff
• 37:25
  going
• 37:26
  on.
• 37:26
  It's
• 37:26
  really
• 37:26
  hard
• 37:27
  to
• 37:27
  just
• 37:28
  give
• 37:28
  grace
• 37:29
  to
• 37:29
  those
• 37:29
  people
• 37:29
  who
• 37:30
  you
• 37:30
  don't
• 37:30
  really.
• 37:30
  Know
• 37:31
  or
• 37:31
  the
• 37:31
  benefit
• 37:32
  of
• 37:32
  the
• 37:32
  doubt.
• 37:32
  And
• 37:32
  it's
• 37:32
  like,
• 37:34
  yeah,
• 37:34
  I
• 37:34
  know.
• 37:34
  I
• 37:35
  wish
• 37:35
  I
• 37:35
  could
• 37:35
  do
• 37:35
  that.
• 37:35
  I
• 37:36
  don't
• 37:36
  do
• 37:36
  that,
• 37:36
  but
• 37:36
  I
• 37:36
  wish
• 37:37
  that
• 37:37
  I
• 37:37
  could
• 37:37
  do
• 37:37
  that
• 37:37
  even.
• 37:38
  Even
• 37:38
  with,
• 37:38
  like,
• 37:38
  the
• 37:38
  people
• 37:39
  that
• 37:39
  are
• 37:39
  in
• 37:39
  my
• 37:39
  life.
• 37:40
  Like,
• 37:40
  there's
• 37:40
  certain
• 37:40
  people
• 37:41
  who
• 37:41
  are
• 37:41
  in
• 37:42
  my
• 37:42
  life
• 37:42
  at
• 37:42
  certain
• 37:43
  levels,
• 37:43
  and
• 37:44
  they
• 37:44
  will
• 37:44
  not
• 37:44
  get
• 37:44
  to
• 37:45
  that
• 37:45
  next
• 37:45
  level
• 37:46
  because
• 37:46
  they
• 37:47
  do
• 37:47
  something
• 37:47
  that's,
• 37:47
  like,
• 37:48
  kind
• 37:48
  of
• 37:48
  icky
• 37:48
  to
• 37:48
  me
• 37:49
  every
• 37:49
  once
• 37:49
  in
• 37:49
  a
• 37:50
  while.
• 37:50
  But
• 37:50
  I've
• 37:51
  never
• 37:51
  said
• 37:51
  anything
• 37:52
  about
• 37:52
  it
• 37:52
  because
• 37:52
  it's.
• 37:53
  For
• 37:53
  me,
• 37:53
  I'm
• 37:54
  like,
• 37:54
  it's
• 37:54
  too
• 37:54
  far
• 37:54
  past
• 37:54
  the
• 37:55
  point.
• 37:55
  And,
• 37:55
  like,
• 37:55
  was
• 37:56
  the
• 37:56
  point
• 37:56
  Bay.
• 37:57
  But
• 37:57
  then
• 37:58
  have
• 37:58
  a
• 37:58
  better
• 37:59
  friendship
• 37:59
  if
• 37:59
  I
• 37:59
  just
• 38:00
  said
• 38:00
  something.
• 38:00
  Or
• 38:00
  we
• 38:01
  could
• 38:01
  lose
• 38:01
  our
• 38:01
  friendship
• 38:01
  if
• 38:01
  I
• 38:02
  said
• 38:02
  something
• 38:02
  else.
• 38:02
  You
• 38:02
  don't
• 38:03
  know.
• 38:03
  Yeah,
• 38:04
  I'd
• 38:04
  like
• 38:04
  to
• 38:04
  take
• 38:04
  that
• 38:05
  on
• 38:05
  as
• 38:05
  well
• 38:05
  and
• 38:05
  start
• 38:05
  opening
• 38:06
  my
• 38:06
  mouth
• 38:06
  a
• 38:06
  bit
• 38:06
  more.
• 38:07
  You
• 38:07
  had
• 38:08
  just
• 38:08
  said
• 38:08
  the
• 38:08
  most.
• 38:09
  The
• 38:09
  thing
• 38:09
  that
• 38:09
  men
• 38:10
  come
• 38:10
  to
• 38:10
  you
• 38:10
  the
• 38:10
  most
• 38:10
  with
• 38:11
  is
• 38:11
  being
• 38:11
  ghosted
• 38:13
  was
• 38:13
  something
• 38:13
  else
• 38:14
  that
• 38:14
  like,
• 38:15
  they're
• 38:16
  like,
• 38:16
  that's
• 38:17
  fixable,
• 38:17
  I
• 38:18
  guess.
• 38:18
  I
• 38:18
  guess
• 38:18
  that's
• 38:18
  fixable
• 38:19
  on
• 38:19
  the
• 38:19
  inside
• 38:19
  for
• 38:20
  everything.
• 38:20
  So
• 38:21
  the
• 38:21
  guys
• 38:21
  that
• 38:21
  I
• 38:21
  work
• 38:22
  with,
• 38:23
  they're
• 38:23
  being
• 38:23
  ghosted
• 38:24
  because
• 38:24
  they're
• 38:25
  not
• 38:25
  putting
• 38:25
  out
• 38:25
  signs
• 38:26
  of
• 38:26
  attraction.
• 38:26
  They're
• 38:26
  not.
• 38:27
  Okay,
• 38:28
  okay.
• 38:29
  They're
• 38:29
  not
• 38:29
  flirting
• 38:30
  with
• 38:30
  women.
• 38:30
  They're
• 38:30
  going
• 38:31
  and
• 38:31
  they're
• 38:31
  having
• 38:31
  a
• 38:31
  very
• 38:31
  nice
• 38:32
  connected
• 38:32
  evening
• 38:33
  with
• 38:34
  a
• 38:34
  woman
• 38:34
  where
• 38:34
  they're
• 38:34
  being
• 38:35
  very
• 38:35
  friendly,
• 38:36
  they
• 38:36
  laugh
• 38:36
  with
• 38:36
  each
• 38:36
  other,
• 38:37
  but
• 38:37
  there's
• 38:37
  nothing
• 38:37
  like
• 38:38
  sexy
• 38:38
  about
• 38:38
  them.
• 38:38
  They're
• 38:39
  not
• 38:39
  flirting,
• 38:39
  they're
• 38:39
  not
• 38:39
  teasing,
• 38:40
  they're
• 38:40
  not
• 38:40
  bantering,
• 38:41
  they're
• 38:41
  not
• 38:41
  challenging
• 38:41
  women.
• 38:42
  They're
• 38:42
  agreeable.
• 38:43
  So
• 38:43
  the
• 38:43
  guys
• 38:44
  that,
• 38:44
  that
• 38:44
  I
• 38:44
  work
• 38:45
  with
• 38:45
  are
• 38:46
  a
• 38:46
  little
• 38:46
  bit
• 38:46
  more,
• 38:47
  I
• 38:48
  don't
• 38:48
  want
• 38:48
  to
• 38:48
  say
• 38:48
  fearful
• 38:48
  because
• 38:49
  they're
• 38:49
  not
• 38:49
  fearful.
• 38:49
  They're
• 38:50
  just
• 38:50
  like,
• 38:50
  they're
• 38:50
  just
• 38:50
  not
• 38:51
  as
• 38:51
  confident
• 38:52
  putting
• 38:52
  themselves
• 38:53
  out
• 38:53
  there
• 38:53
  in
• 38:53
  a
• 38:55
  sexual
• 38:55
  manner
• 38:56
  to
• 38:56
  women.
• 38:57
  They're
• 38:57
  not
• 38:57
  okay
• 38:58
  with
• 38:58
  men
• 38:59
  and
• 38:59
  they
• 38:59
  have
• 38:59
  desire
• 39:00
  for
• 39:00
  women
• 39:00
  and
• 39:00
  they
• 39:00
  have
• 39:01
  attraction
• 39:01
  for
• 39:01
  women.
• 39:01
  So
• 39:01
  they
• 39:01
  typically
• 39:02
  cover
• 39:02
  it
• 39:02
  up.
• 39:03
  Thank
• 39:03
  you
• 39:03
  for
• 39:03
  clarifying
• 39:04
  because
• 39:04
  in
• 39:04
  my
• 39:04
  mind
• 39:05
  I'm
• 39:05
  thinking,
• 39:05
  well,
• 39:05
  how
• 39:05
  are
• 39:05
  we
• 39:06
  going
• 39:06
  to
• 39:06
  fix
• 39:06
  that?
• 39:06
  Like
• 39:07
  if
• 39:07
  a
• 39:07
  woman's
• 39:08
  ghosted
• 39:08
  you,
• 39:08
  she's
• 39:08
  ghosted
• 39:09
  you.
• 39:10
  But
• 39:11
  yeah,
• 39:11
  but
• 39:11
  it
• 39:11
  sounds
• 39:12
  like
• 39:12
  you're
• 39:12
  saying,
• 39:13
  no,
• 39:13
  she
• 39:13
  ghosted
• 39:13
  you
• 39:14
  for
• 39:14
  something
• 39:14
  that
• 39:14
  happened
• 39:15
  that
• 39:15
  night.
• 39:15
  A
• 39:15
  lack
• 39:16
  of
• 39:16
  interest
• 39:16
  of.
• 39:16
  A
• 39:17
  complete
• 39:17
  lack
• 39:17
  of
• 39:17
  interest.
• 39:18
  You
• 39:18
  didn't
• 39:18
  hit
• 39:18
  the
• 39:18
  right
• 39:18
  hot
• 39:19
  buttons.
• 39:19
  So
• 39:19
  what
• 39:20
  I
• 39:20
  help
• 39:20
  men
• 39:20
  with
• 39:21
  most,
• 39:21
  most
• 39:21
  is
• 39:22
  helping
• 39:23
  them
• 39:23
  become
• 39:24
  attractive
• 39:25
  and
• 39:25
  understanding
• 39:26
  how
• 39:26
  to
• 39:27
  take
• 39:27
  those
• 39:28
  barriers
• 39:29
  that
• 39:29
  they're
• 39:30
  putting
• 39:30
  in
• 39:30
  front
• 39:30
  of
• 39:30
  them,
• 39:31
  lifting
• 39:31
  them
• 39:32
  up
• 39:32
  so
• 39:32
  that
• 39:32
  women
• 39:32
  can
• 39:32
  actually
• 39:33
  be
• 39:33
  attracted
• 39:33
  to
• 39:33
  them.
• 39:34
  What
• 39:34
  besides
• 39:35
  communication?
• 39:36
  Because
• 39:36
  to
• 39:36
  me
• 39:36
  communication
• 39:36
  is
• 39:37
  attractive.
• 39:38
  What
• 39:38
  are
• 39:38
  like
• 39:39
  you
• 39:39
  went
• 39:39
  on
• 39:39
  a
• 39:39
  day
• 39:39
  where
• 39:39
  a
• 39:39
  guy
• 39:40
  was
• 39:40
  only
• 39:40
  communicating
• 39:41
  with
• 39:41
  you,
• 39:41
  you'd
• 39:41
  be
• 39:41
  like,
• 39:42
  ah,
• 39:44
  maybe.
• 39:44
  I
• 39:45
  don't
• 39:45
  know,
• 39:45
  I,
• 39:45
  maybe
• 39:45
  I'm
• 39:46
  just
• 39:46
  like
• 39:46
  missing
• 39:46
  it
• 39:46
  so
• 39:47
  much.
• 39:48
  Maybe,
• 39:48
  maybe
• 39:49
  right
• 39:49
  now
• 39:49
  you'd
• 39:49
  be
• 39:49
  like,
• 39:50
  that's
• 39:50
  so
• 39:50
  refreshing.
• 39:50
  Absolutely.
• 39:51
  Maybe
• 39:52
  right
• 39:52
  now.
• 39:52
  Yeah.
• 39:52
  Yeah.
• 39:53
  But
• 39:53
  you're
• 39:53
  right,
• 39:54
  there's
• 39:54
  probably
• 39:54
  like
• 39:54
  a
• 39:54
  happy
• 39:55
  medium,
• 39:55
  right?
• 39:56
  There's
• 39:56
  a
• 39:56
  total
• 39:56
  happy
• 39:56
  medium
• 39:57
  and
• 39:57
  there
• 39:57
  has
• 39:57
  to
• 39:57
  be
• 39:58
  like,
• 39:58
  I
• 39:58
  would
• 39:58
  say
• 39:58
  40,
• 39:59
  60,
• 39:59
  balance.
• 40:00
  40,
• 40:00
  60.
• 40:00
  On
• 40:01
  what
• 40:01
  age
• 40:01
  you
• 40:01
  are.
• 40:02
  The,
• 40:02
  the
• 40:02
  percentages
• 40:03
  change.
• 40:03
  But
• 40:03
  like
• 40:03
  I
• 40:04
  say,
• 40:04
  especially
• 40:04
  if
• 40:04
  you're
• 40:04
  coming
• 40:05
  out
• 40:05
  of
• 40:05
  a
• 40:05
  divorce,
• 40:05
  you
• 40:05
  would
• 40:06
  want
• 40:06
  60%
• 40:07
  connected,
• 40:07
  honest,
• 40:08
  authentic
• 40:08
  conversation
• 40:09
  where
• 40:09
  a
• 40:09
  man
• 40:10
  knows
• 40:10
  how
• 40:10
  to
• 40:10
  have
• 40:10
  a
• 40:10
  two
• 40:10
  way
• 40:11
  conversation
• 40:11
  where
• 40:12
  he's
• 40:12
  sharing
• 40:12
  about
• 40:13
  him,
• 40:13
  you're
• 40:13
  sharing
• 40:14
  about
• 40:14
  you.
• 40:14
  He's
• 40:14
  asking
• 40:15
  good
• 40:15
  questions,
• 40:15
  you're
• 40:15
  asking
• 40:16
  good
• 40:16
  questions,
• 40:16
  you're
• 40:16
  getting
• 40:17
  a
• 40:17
  little
• 40:17
  bit
• 40:17
  deeper
• 40:17
  with
• 40:17
  him.
• 40:18
  But
• 40:18
  then
• 40:18
  the
• 40:18
  40%
• 40:19
  is
• 40:19
  where
• 40:20
  he
• 40:20
  gives
• 40:20
  you
• 40:20
  little
• 40:20
  teases,
• 40:21
  he
• 40:21
  flirts,
• 40:21
  he
• 40:22
  around
• 40:22
  with
• 40:22
  you,
• 40:23
  he
• 40:23
  makes
• 40:23
  good
• 40:23
  eye
• 40:24
  contact,
• 40:24
  he
• 40:25
  touches
• 40:25
  you
• 40:25
  in
• 40:25
  some
• 40:25
  way,
• 40:26
  he
• 40:26
  gets
• 40:26
  close
• 40:26
  to
• 40:27
  you,
• 40:27
  his
• 40:27
  voice
• 40:28
  changes
• 40:28
  and
• 40:28
  goes
• 40:29
  down.
• 40:29
  Talking
• 40:30
  about
• 40:30
  it
• 40:30
  right
• 40:30
  now
• 40:31
  is
• 40:31
  making
• 40:31
  me
• 40:31
  go,
• 40:31
  oh,
• 40:32
  yeah.
• 40:34
  But
• 40:34
  you're
• 40:35
  gonna
• 40:35
  want
• 40:35
  that.
• 40:35
  But
• 40:35
  the
• 40:36
  thing
• 40:36
  is,
• 40:36
  you're
• 40:36
  20
• 40:36
  years
• 40:37
  old.
• 40:37
  You're
• 40:37
  gonna
• 40:37
  want.
• 40:37
  You're
• 40:38
  gonna
• 40:38
  want
• 40:38
  a
• 40:38
  different
• 40:38
  percentage.
• 40:39
  You're
• 40:39
  gonna
• 40:39
  want
• 40:39
  like
• 40:39
  80
• 40:40
  fun
• 40:40
  all
• 40:41
  the
• 40:41
  time,
• 40:41
  flirty,
• 40:42
  a
• 40:42
  little
• 40:42
  bit
• 40:42
  of
• 40:42
  realness.
• 40:43
  Maybe
• 40:43
  not
• 40:43
  too
• 40:43
  much
• 40:43
  realness,
• 40:44
  because
• 40:44
  you
• 40:44
  don't
• 40:44
  even
• 40:44
  know
• 40:44
  how
• 40:44
  to
• 40:44
  handle
• 40:45
  the
• 40:45
  realness
• 40:45
  for
• 40:45
  yourself
• 40:46
  right
• 40:46
  now,
• 40:46
  let
• 40:46
  alone
• 40:46
  somebody
• 40:47
  offers
• 40:47
  realness,
• 40:48
  unless
• 40:48
  we're
• 40:48
  15
• 40:49
  years
• 40:49
  older
• 40:49
  and
• 40:49
  you're
• 40:50
  trying
• 40:50
  to
• 40:50
  impress
• 40:50
  them
• 40:50
  in
• 40:51
  some
• 40:51
  way.
• 40:51
  So
• 40:51
  there's.
• 40:52
  It
• 40:52
  shifts
• 40:52
  a
• 40:52
  bit,
• 40:53
  but
• 40:53
  I
• 40:53
  would
• 40:53
  say
• 40:54
  on
• 40:55
  average
• 40:55
  it's
• 40:55
  about
• 40:55
  60,
• 40:56
  40,
• 40:56
  with
• 40:56
  60
• 40:57
  being
• 40:57
  like,
• 40:58
  great
• 40:58
  communication.
• 40:59
  And
• 40:59
  that's
• 41:00
  a
• 41:00
  skill
• 41:00
  set
• 41:00
  to
• 41:00
  learn
• 41:01
  as
• 41:01
  well.
• 41:01
  Not
• 41:02
  just
• 41:02
  throwing
• 41:02
  questions
• 41:02
  at
• 41:03
  people,
• 41:03
  but
• 41:03
  actually
• 41:04
  sharing,
• 41:05
  expanding,
• 41:06
  asking
• 41:06
  questions,
• 41:07
  being
• 41:07
  curious
• 41:08
  about
• 41:08
  the
• 41:08
  other
• 41:08
  person
• 41:09
  and
• 41:09
  allowing
• 41:09
  them
• 41:09
  to
• 41:09
  do
• 41:10
  the
• 41:10
  same
• 41:10
  thing
• 41:10
  towards
• 41:11
  you
• 41:11
  and
• 41:12
  then
• 41:12
  mixing
• 41:13
  it
• 41:13
  in
• 41:13
  and
• 41:13
  with
• 41:14
  something
• 41:14
  flirty
• 41:15
  and
• 41:15
  fun
• 41:15
  and
• 41:16
  teasy
• 41:16
  and
• 41:16
  bantery
• 41:17
  and
• 41:17
  playful.
• 41:18
  That's
• 41:18
  like
• 41:18
  an
• 41:18
  amazing
• 41:18
  mix
• 41:19
  for
• 41:19
  a
• 41:19
  first
• 41:19
  date,
• 41:20
  for
• 41:20
  a
• 41:20
  tenth
• 41:20
  date,
• 41:20
  whatever
• 41:21
  it
• 41:21
  is,
• 41:21
  for
• 41:21
  a
• 41:21
  marriage
• 41:22
  forever.
• 41:22
  Like,
• 41:22
  you
• 41:23
  need
• 41:23
  that.
• 41:23
  You
• 41:23
  continuously
• 41:24
  do.
• 41:24
  I
• 41:25
  feel
• 41:25
  like
• 41:25
  you
• 41:25
  should
• 41:25
  be
• 41:25
  an
• 41:25
  erotic
• 41:26
  author.
• 41:26
  Have
• 41:26
  you
• 41:26
  considered
• 41:27
  that?
• 41:28
  Good
• 41:29
  God,
• 41:29
  no.
• 41:29
  Really?
• 41:32
  I
• 41:32
  do
• 41:32
  want
• 41:33
  to
• 41:33
  do
• 41:33
  the
• 41:33
  voices
• 41:33
  for
• 41:34
  the.
• 41:34
  I
• 41:34
  tried
• 41:34
  to
• 41:34
  do
• 41:34
  that.
• 41:35
  What
• 41:35
  was
• 41:35
  it
• 41:35
  called?
• 41:35
  Not
• 41:35
  Babel.
• 41:36
  I
• 41:36
  forget
• 41:36
  what
• 41:36
  it
• 41:36
  was
• 41:37
  called.
• 41:37
  There
• 41:37
  was
• 41:37
  like
• 41:37
  these,
• 41:37
  there's
• 41:38
  like
• 41:38
  this
• 41:38
  erotic
• 41:39
  audio
• 41:39
  session.
• 41:39
  Oh,
• 41:40
  literatica.
• 41:41
  See
• 41:41
  that?
• 41:41
  Yes,
• 41:42
  literatica.
• 41:42
  And
• 41:42
  then
• 41:43
  I,
• 41:43
  I.
• 41:43
  And
• 41:43
  then
• 41:43
  they,
• 41:44
  they
• 41:44
  asked
• 41:44
  me
• 41:44
  to
• 41:44
  do.
• 41:45
  And
• 41:45
  then
• 41:45
  I.
• 41:46
  But
• 41:46
  I
• 41:46
  had
• 41:46
  to
• 41:46
  submit
• 41:46
  all
• 41:47
  this,
• 41:47
  like,
• 41:47
  voice
• 41:47
  work.
• 41:49
  Like,
• 41:49
  if
• 41:49
  you
• 41:49
  don't
• 41:49
  just
• 41:49
  want
• 41:49
  my
• 41:50
  voice,
• 41:50
  then
• 41:50
  I'm
• 41:50
  not
• 41:50
  going
• 41:51
  to
• 41:51
  do
• 41:51
  it.
• 41:51
  But
• 41:51
  if
• 41:51
  I
• 41:51
  have
• 41:51
  to,
• 41:51
  like,
• 41:52
  audition,
• 41:52
  I
• 41:52
  don't
• 41:52
  want
• 41:53
  to
• 41:53
  do
• 41:53
  it,
• 41:53
  but
• 41:53
  I
• 41:53
  would
• 41:53
  love
• 41:54
  to.
• 41:56
  Lazy.
• 41:57
  Lazy
• 41:58
  lady.
• 42:00
  We
• 42:00
  kind
• 42:00
  of
• 42:00
  brushed
• 42:01
  on,
• 42:02
  actually.
• 42:02
  No,
• 42:03
  go
• 42:03
  ahead
• 42:03
  and
• 42:03
  ask.
• 42:04
  What
• 42:04
  do
• 42:04
  you
• 42:05
  want
• 42:05
  me
• 42:05
  to
• 42:05
  ask?
• 42:05
  What
• 42:05
  we
• 42:05
  wanted
• 42:05
  to
• 42:05
  clarify
• 42:06
  on.
• 42:06
  Okay,
• 42:06
  so
• 42:07
  I
• 42:07
  have
• 42:07
  a
• 42:07
  question.
• 42:07
  Thank
• 42:08
  you.
• 42:08
  Are
• 42:08
  you
• 42:08
  best
• 42:08
  friends
• 42:08
  or
• 42:09
  are
• 42:09
  you
• 42:09
  sisters
• 42:09
  camping?
• 42:10
  We're
• 42:10
  friends.
• 42:11
  Okay,
• 42:13
  so.
• 42:14
  Okay,
• 42:14
  I
• 42:14
  did
• 42:14
  have
• 42:14
  a
• 42:14
  question
• 42:15
  last
• 42:15
  time
• 42:15
  when
• 42:15
  we
• 42:15
  had
• 42:16
  talked,
• 42:16
  you
• 42:16
  had
• 42:16
  made
• 42:17
  a
• 42:17
  comment
• 42:17
  about,
• 42:17
  like,
• 42:18
  it's
• 42:18
  really
• 42:18
  hard
• 42:18
  being
• 42:19
  a
• 42:19
  man.
• 42:20
  I
• 42:20
  want
• 42:20
  to
• 42:21
  make
• 42:21
  sure
• 42:21
  I
• 42:21
  don't.
• 42:21
  Did
• 42:22
  you,
• 42:22
  did
• 42:22
  you
• 42:22
  mean
• 42:22
  like
• 42:22
  right
• 42:23
  now,
• 42:23
  in
• 42:23
  this
• 42:23
  time?
• 42:24
  Did
• 42:24
  you
• 42:24
  mean
• 42:24
  just
• 42:25
  period?
• 42:25
  Did
• 42:26
  you
• 42:26
  mean
• 42:26
  it's
• 42:27
  hard?
• 42:27
  I
• 42:27
  mean,
• 42:27
  right
• 42:28
  now?
• 42:28
  I
• 42:28
  think
• 42:28
  in,
• 42:29
  in
• 42:29
  general,
• 42:30
  I
• 42:30
  think
• 42:30
  it's
• 42:31
  hard.
• 42:31
  It
• 42:31
  is
• 42:31
  hard.
• 42:32
  It
• 42:32
  is
• 42:32
  hard
• 42:32
  to.
• 42:33
  It's
• 42:33
  hard
• 42:33
  to
• 42:34
  be
• 42:34
  a
• 42:34
  man.
• 42:34
  And
• 42:34
  I
• 42:34
  have.
• 42:34
  I
• 42:34
  have
• 42:35
  two
• 42:35
  young
• 42:35
  boys,
• 42:35
  and
• 42:36
  I'm.
• 42:36
  I'm
• 42:36
  watching
• 42:36
  this
• 42:36
  as
• 42:37
  well,
• 42:37
  and
• 42:37
  I'm
• 42:37
  trying
• 42:37
  to
• 42:38
  not
• 42:38
  have
• 42:38
  them
• 42:38
  go
• 42:38
  down
• 42:39
  that
• 42:39
  same
• 42:39
  bat
• 42:39
  path,
• 42:40
  but
• 42:40
  I'm
• 42:40
  fearful
• 42:40
  about
• 42:41
  how.
• 42:41
  How,
• 42:41
  you
• 42:42
  know,
• 42:42
  society
• 42:43
  is
• 42:43
  going
• 42:43
  to.
• 42:43
  To
• 42:44
  treat
• 42:44
  them
• 42:44
  later.
• 42:44
  It's.
• 42:45
  It's
• 42:45
  very.
• 42:46
  I
• 42:46
  forget
• 42:46
  what
• 42:46
  we
• 42:46
  were
• 42:46
  talking
• 42:47
  about
• 42:47
  specifically,
• 42:47
  but
• 42:47
  it
• 42:48
  is.
• 42:48
  It's
• 42:48
  challenging
• 42:49
  to
• 42:49
  be
• 42:49
  a
• 42:49
  man
• 42:49
  in
• 42:50
  the
• 42:50
  dating
• 42:50
  space,
• 42:50
  even
• 42:50
  for
• 42:51
  reasons
• 42:51
  alone.
• 42:51
  Like
• 42:52
  what
• 42:52
  I
• 42:52
  said
• 42:52
  to
• 42:52
  you
• 42:52
  before
• 42:52
  about
• 42:53
  that
• 42:53
  double
• 42:53
  standard
• 42:54
  where
• 42:54
  the
• 42:54
  woman
• 42:55
  was
• 42:55
  like,
• 42:55
  he's
• 42:56
  a
• 42:56
  jerk
• 42:56
  right
• 42:56
  now
• 42:57
  because
• 42:58
  he
• 42:59
  led
• 42:59
  me
• 42:59
  on.
• 42:59
  I'm
• 42:59
  like,
• 43:00
  he
• 43:00
  didn't
• 43:00
  lead
• 43:01
  you
• 43:01
  on.
• 43:01
  He
• 43:01
  was
• 43:01
  being
• 43:01
  honest
• 43:02
  with
• 43:02
  you
• 43:02
  in
• 43:02
  the
• 43:02
  moment
• 43:03
  when
• 43:03
  he
• 43:03
  was
• 43:03
  being
• 43:03
  honest,
• 43:03
  and
• 43:04
  he
• 43:04
  was
• 43:04
  being
• 43:04
  honest
• 43:04
  later.
• 43:05
  As
• 43:05
  soon
• 43:05
  as
• 43:05
  he
• 43:05
  felt
• 43:06
  and
• 43:06
  thought
• 43:06
  what
• 43:06
  he
• 43:07
  was
• 43:07
  thinking,
• 43:07
  anger
• 43:08
  beating
• 43:08
  him
• 43:08
  down
• 43:08
  for
• 43:09
  it
• 43:09
  rather
• 43:09
  than
• 43:09
  rewarding
• 43:10
  him
• 43:10
  for
• 43:10
  it.
• 43:11
  He
• 43:11
  didn't
• 43:11
  let
• 43:11
  you
• 43:12
  go
• 43:12
  for
• 43:12
  two
• 43:12
  years
• 43:12
  and,
• 43:13
  you
• 43:13
  know,
• 43:13
  and
• 43:14
  have
• 43:14
  a
• 43:15
  baby
• 43:15
  or
• 43:15
  anything
• 43:16
  anyway,
• 43:17
  so
• 43:17
  there's
• 43:18
  a
• 43:18
  whole
• 43:18
  bunch
• 43:18
  of
• 43:18
  double
• 43:18
  standards
• 43:19
  for
• 43:19
  men
• 43:19
  that
• 43:20
  I
• 43:20
  think
• 43:20
  are
• 43:20
  unfair.
• 43:21
  A
• 43:21
  lot
• 43:21
  of
• 43:21
  the
• 43:21
  things
• 43:22
  that
• 43:22
  we
• 43:22
  expect
• 43:22
  of
• 43:22
  men,
• 43:23
  we
• 43:23
  would
• 43:23
  never
• 43:23
  expect
• 43:23
  of
• 43:24
  women.
• 43:24
  Even.
• 43:25
  Even
• 43:25
  the
• 43:26
  things
• 43:26
  that
• 43:26
  men
• 43:26
  tell
• 43:27
  me
• 43:27
  that
• 43:27
  women
• 43:27
  say
• 43:27
  to
• 43:28
  them
• 43:28
  on
• 43:28
  dating
• 43:29
  apps
• 43:29
  or,
• 43:29
  like,
• 43:29
  even
• 43:29
  on
• 43:30
  dates.
• 43:30
  Like,
• 43:30
  I've
• 43:30
  had
• 43:31
  so
• 43:31
  many
• 43:31
  men
• 43:31
  basically
• 43:32
  say
• 43:32
  that
• 43:32
  women
• 43:32
  said,
• 43:32
  oh,
• 43:33
  I
• 43:33
  can't
• 43:33
  talk
• 43:33
  to
• 43:33
  you.
• 43:33
  You're
• 43:33
  too
• 43:33
  ugly.
• 43:34
  Still,
• 43:34
  mentally,
• 43:35
  I
• 43:36
  watched
• 43:36
  this
• 43:37
  show
• 43:37
  on
• 43:38
  YouTube
• 43:38
  because
• 43:38
  it's
• 43:39
  just
• 43:39
  addicting.
• 43:39
  It's
• 43:40
  so
• 43:40
  stupid.
• 43:40
  Yeah.
• 43:41
  It's
• 43:41
  called
• 43:41
  Pop
• 43:41
  the
• 43:42
  Balloon
• 43:42
  or
• 43:42
  Find
• 43:42
  Love.
• 43:43
  Have
• 43:43
  you
• 43:43
  guys
• 43:44
  seen
• 43:44
  that?
• 43:44
  No.
• 43:45
  Okay.
• 43:45
  So
• 43:45
  it's
• 43:45
  like
• 43:45
  a
• 43:46
  group
• 43:46
  of.
• 43:46
  A
• 43:47
  line
• 43:47
  of
• 43:47
  men.
• 43:47
  They're.
• 43:48
  Or
• 43:48
  women,
• 43:48
  they.
• 43:49
  They
• 43:49
  take
• 43:49
  turns.
• 43:50
  Each
• 43:50
  episode,
• 43:51
  they're
• 43:51
  all
• 43:51
  holding
• 43:51
  a
• 43:51
  balloon.
• 43:52
  They
• 43:52
  bring
• 43:52
  out.
• 43:52
  So
• 43:52
  it's
• 43:53
  a
• 43:53
  line
• 43:53
  of
• 43:53
  men,
• 43:53
  they
• 43:53
  bring
• 43:53
  out.
• 43:54
  One
• 43:54
  woman,
• 43:55
  she
• 43:55
  tells
• 43:55
  her
• 43:56
  name
• 43:56
  and,
• 43:57
  like,
• 43:57
  starts
• 43:58
  talking
• 43:58
  about
• 43:58
  herself,
• 43:58
  what
• 43:59
  she's
• 43:59
  interested
• 43:59
  in.
• 43:59
  If
• 44:00
  they're.
• 44:00
  If
• 44:00
  they.
• 44:00
  She
• 44:00
  says
• 44:01
  something
• 44:01
  triggering
• 44:02
  or
• 44:02
  if
• 44:02
  they
• 44:02
  see
• 44:02
  something
• 44:03
  they
• 44:03
  don't
• 44:03
  like,
• 44:03
  they
• 44:03
  pop
• 44:04
  their
• 44:04
  balloon,
• 44:04
  and
• 44:04
  then
• 44:05
  they're
• 44:05
  not
• 44:05
  in
• 44:05
  the
• 44:05
  lineup
• 44:06
  anymore
• 44:06
  for
• 44:06
  her
• 44:07
  to
• 44:07
  be
• 44:07
  interested
• 44:08
  in
• 44:08
  talking
• 44:08
  to
• 44:08
  them
• 44:08
  or
• 44:08
  like,
• 44:09
  you.
• 44:09
  Right.
• 44:09
  And
• 44:09
  so
• 44:09
  we're
• 44:09
  trying
• 44:09
  to
• 44:10
  find
• 44:10
  a.
• 44:10
  Match
• 44:10
  at
• 44:10
  the
• 44:10
  end,
• 44:11
  right?
• 44:11
  One
• 44:12
  balloon
• 44:12
  left,
• 44:12
  and
• 44:13
  then
• 44:13
  hopefully
• 44:13
  it's
• 44:14
  a
• 44:14
  match.
• 44:14
  So
• 44:15
  one
• 44:15
  of
• 44:15
  the
• 44:15
  things
• 44:15
  that
• 44:15
  happens.
• 44:16
  Like,
• 44:16
  in
• 44:16
  almost
• 44:17
  every
• 44:17
  episode,
• 44:18
  the
• 44:18
  women.
• 44:19
  When
• 44:19
  they're
• 44:19
  lined
• 44:19
  up
• 44:19
  and
• 44:20
  a
• 44:20
  man.
• 44:20
  Man
• 44:20
  comes
• 44:21
  out,
• 44:21
  or
• 44:21
  vice
• 44:21
  versa,
• 44:22
  either
• 44:22
  way,
• 44:22
  it
• 44:22
  doesn't
• 44:22
  matter.
• 44:23
  I'm
• 44:23
  seeing
• 44:24
  all
• 44:24
  these
• 44:24
  women
• 44:24
  pop
• 44:25
  because
• 44:25
  the
• 44:25
  man
• 44:25
  is
• 44:26
  too
• 44:26
  short.
• 44:26
  You
• 44:26
  would,
• 44:27
  we
• 44:27
  would
• 44:28
  flip
• 44:28
  our
• 44:28
  lids
• 44:29
  if
• 44:29
  a
• 44:29
  man
• 44:29
  pot
• 44:30
  because
• 44:30
  the
• 44:30
  one
• 44:30
  was
• 44:31
  too
• 44:31
  fat.
• 44:32
  Yeah,
• 44:32
  100%.
• 44:33
  You'd
• 44:33
  be
• 44:33
  like,
• 44:34
  you
• 44:34
  can't
• 44:34
  do
• 44:34
  that.
• 44:34
  Well,
• 44:35
  why
• 44:35
  can
• 44:35
  you
• 44:35
  call
• 44:35
  this
• 44:36
  man
• 44:36
  short
• 44:36
  and
• 44:36
  belittle,
• 44:37
  like,
• 44:37
  sorry
• 44:37
  to
• 44:37
  say
• 44:37
  belittle
• 44:38
  him,
• 44:38
  but
• 44:38
  like
• 44:38
  belittle
• 44:39
  him.
• 44:39
  But
• 44:40
  thank
• 44:40
  you,
• 44:41
  I
• 44:42
  agree
• 44:42
  with
• 44:42
  you.
• 44:42
  And
• 44:43
  I
• 44:43
  just
• 44:43
  did
• 44:43
  a
• 44:43
  whole
• 44:44
  video
• 44:44
  on
• 44:44
  double
• 44:44
  standards
• 44:45
  as
• 44:45
  well,
• 44:45
  where
• 44:45
  it
• 44:45
  was
• 44:46
  saying
• 44:46
  like,
• 44:46
  you
• 44:47
  know,
• 44:47
  women
• 44:47
  can
• 44:47
  say,
• 44:47
  well,
• 44:48
  I,
• 44:48
  you
• 44:48
  know,
• 44:48
  I
• 44:48
  want
• 44:48
  to
• 44:48
  date
• 44:49
  a
• 44:49
  man
• 44:49
  who's
• 44:49
  successful,
• 44:50
  who's
• 44:50
  6ft
• 44:50
  tall
• 44:51
  and
• 44:51
  women
• 44:51
  are
• 44:52
  like,
• 44:52
  yeah,
• 44:52
  that's
• 44:52
  who
• 44:52
  you
• 44:52
  want
• 44:53
  to
• 44:53
  date.
• 44:53
  But
• 44:53
  if
• 44:53
  a
• 44:53
  guy
• 44:53
  were
• 44:54
  to
• 44:54
  say,
• 44:54
  I'd
• 44:54
  like
• 44:54
  to
• 44:54
  have
• 44:54
  a
• 44:54
  women
• 44:55
  with
• 44:55
  like
• 44:55
  double
• 44:55
  D
• 44:56
  breasts
• 44:56
  and
• 44:57
  who
• 44:57
  did,
• 44:57
  you
• 44:58
  know,
• 44:58
  who
• 44:58
  was
• 44:58
  very
• 44:59
  slim,
• 44:59
  they'd
• 45:00
  be
• 45:00
  like,
• 45:00
  how
• 45:00
  the
• 45:00
  hell
• 45:00
  can
• 45:00
  you
• 45:01
  say
• 45:01
  that?
• 45:01
  That
• 45:01
  is
• 45:01
  so
• 45:02
  unfair
• 45:02
  for
• 45:02
  you
• 45:03
  to
• 45:03
  say
• 45:03
  that.
• 45:03
  And
• 45:03
  I
• 45:03
  think
• 45:04
  it's,
• 45:04
  yeah,
• 45:04
  I
• 45:04
  just
• 45:04
  think
• 45:05
  it's
• 45:05
  really
• 45:05
  hard
• 45:06
  to
• 45:06
  be
• 45:06
  a
• 45:07
  man
• 45:07
  that
• 45:07
  every,
• 45:07
  that
• 45:08
  things
• 45:08
  that
• 45:08
  women
• 45:08
  say
• 45:09
  get
• 45:09
  a
• 45:09
  pass
• 45:09
  and
• 45:10
  things
• 45:10
  that
• 45:10
  men
• 45:10
  say
• 45:10
  do
• 45:11
  not
• 45:11
  get
• 45:11
  granted.
• 45:12
  I
• 45:12
  don't
• 45:12
  think
• 45:12
  women
• 45:13
  should
• 45:13
  be
• 45:13
  getting
• 45:13
  a
• 45:13
  pass
• 45:14
  on
• 45:14
  that
• 45:15
  either.
• 45:15
  I
• 45:15
  wish
• 45:16
  that
• 45:16
  we
• 45:16
  could
• 45:16
  be
• 45:16
  less
• 45:17
  shallow.
• 45:18
  Okay.
• 45:19
  But
• 45:20
  to
• 45:20
  be
• 45:21
  the
• 45:21
  other
• 45:21
  side
• 45:22
  of
• 45:22
  this
• 45:22
  this
• 45:22
  time,
• 45:23
  if
• 45:23
  you're
• 45:24
  with
• 45:24
  a
• 45:25
  partner
• 45:25
  and
• 45:26
  they
• 45:26
  say,
• 45:26
  oh
• 45:27
  yeah,
• 45:27
  my
• 45:27
  typical
• 45:27
  attraction
• 45:28
  is
• 45:30
  girls
• 45:30
  that
• 45:30
  are,
• 45:30
  you
• 45:31
  know,
• 45:31
  six
• 45:31
  foot
• 45:31
  tall,
• 45:32
  very
• 45:32
  slim,
• 45:33
  athletic
• 45:33
  and
• 45:34
  big
• 45:34
  breasted
• 45:35
  and
• 45:35
  they're
• 45:36
  married
• 45:36
  to
• 45:36
  you
• 45:36
  and
• 45:37
  you're
• 45:37
  five
• 45:38
  foot
• 45:38
  tall
• 45:39
  and
• 45:39
  you
• 45:39
  know,
• 45:40
  curvy
• 45:40
  and
• 45:41
  you
• 45:41
  know,
• 45:41
  maybe
• 45:41
  have
• 45:42
  a
• 45:42
  big,
• 45:43
  you
• 45:43
  know,
• 45:43
  don't
• 45:43
  have
• 45:43
  big
• 45:44
  boobs.
• 45:44
  Like
• 45:44
  that's
• 45:45
  really
• 45:45
  offensive.
• 45:46
  Yeah,
• 45:46
  why
• 45:46
  would
• 45:46
  they
• 45:47
  say
• 45:47
  that?
• 45:47
  But
• 45:47
  why
• 45:48
  would
• 45:48
  you
• 45:48
  say
• 45:48
  that
• 45:48
  to.
• 45:48
  Any
• 45:49
  partner,
• 45:49
  whether
• 45:49
  it's
• 45:50
  a
• 45:50
  man
• 45:50
  either.
• 45:50
  Way
• 45:50
  or
• 45:51
  a
• 45:51
  woman?
• 45:51
  Yeah,
• 45:52
  I
• 45:52
  agree
• 45:52
  with
• 45:52
  you.
• 45:52
  That's
• 45:53
  very
• 45:53
  offensive.
• 45:54
  Or
• 45:54
  if
• 45:54
  you're
• 45:55
  saying
• 45:55
  it
• 45:55
  like,
• 45:55
  typically,
• 45:56
  I
• 45:56
  do,
• 45:56
  I
• 45:56
  am,
• 45:57
  I
• 45:57
  do
• 45:57
  date
• 45:57
  women
• 45:58
  who,
• 45:58
  or
• 45:58
  that
• 45:59
  might,
• 45:59
  might
• 45:59
  I
• 45:59
  see,
• 46:00
  for
• 46:00
  me,
• 46:00
  my
• 46:01
  interest
• 46:01
  before
• 46:01
  this
• 46:02
  is
• 46:02
  the
• 46:02
  opposite
• 46:02
  was
• 46:03
  like
• 46:03
  short
• 46:03
  Jewish
• 46:03
  guys
• 46:04
  who
• 46:04
  were
• 46:04
  slightly
• 46:04
  balding
• 46:05
  and
• 46:05
  glasses.
• 46:05
  Like
• 46:05
  that
• 46:05
  was
• 46:05
  my
• 46:06
  thing.
• 46:06
  Like
• 46:06
  that's
• 46:06
  what
• 46:06
  I
• 46:07
  was
• 46:07
  attracted
• 46:07
  to.
• 46:07
  My
• 46:07
  husband
• 46:08
  happens
• 46:08
  to
• 46:08
  be
• 46:08
  6
• 46:09
  foot
• 46:09
  3,
• 46:10
  half
• 46:10
  black,
• 46:11
  like
• 46:12
  gorgeous.
• 46:13
  And
• 46:13
  he
• 46:13
  was
• 46:13
  not
• 46:14
  on
• 46:14
  my
• 46:14
  radar
• 46:14
  before.
• 46:15
  Right.
• 46:15
  So
• 46:15
  I've
• 46:15
  said
• 46:16
  that
• 46:16
  to
• 46:16
  him
• 46:16
  before.
• 46:17
  But
• 46:17
  I
• 46:17
  guess
• 46:17
  because,
• 46:17
  you
• 46:17
  know,
• 46:18
  he's
• 46:18
  getting
• 46:18
  the
• 46:18
  upside
• 46:19
  of
• 46:19
  it,
• 46:19
  or
• 46:19
  at
• 46:19
  least
• 46:19
  that's
• 46:20
  how
• 46:20
  you
• 46:20
  would
• 46:20
  perceive
• 46:20
  it.
• 46:20
  It's
• 46:21
  okay
• 46:21
  for
• 46:21
  me
• 46:21
  to
• 46:21
  say,
• 46:22
  but
• 46:22
  I,
• 46:22
  I,
• 46:22
  I
• 46:23
  still
• 46:23
  just
• 46:23
  think
• 46:24
  you
• 46:24
  have
• 46:24
  to
• 46:24
  be
• 46:24
  honest.
• 46:25
  With
• 46:25
  tact
• 46:25
  you
• 46:25
  can
• 46:26
  say,
• 46:26
  you
• 46:26
  know,
• 46:26
  typically
• 46:26
  I
• 46:27
  went
• 46:27
  for
• 46:27
  different
• 46:28
  types
• 46:28
  of
• 46:29
  women
• 46:29
  in
• 46:29
  the
• 46:29
  past,
• 46:30
  but
• 46:30
  I'm,
• 46:30
  I'm
• 46:31
  like,
• 46:31
  so
• 46:32
  glad
• 46:32
  that
• 46:33
  I
• 46:34
  changed
• 46:34
  my
• 46:35
  view
• 46:35
  towards.
• 46:36
  And
• 46:37
  that's
• 46:37
  even,
• 46:37
  like,
• 46:37
  that's
• 46:38
  not
• 46:38
  even
• 46:38
  coming
• 46:38
  across
• 46:38
  well.
• 46:39
  Actually,
• 46:39
  I
• 46:39
  have
• 46:39
  to
• 46:40
  practice
• 46:40
  because
• 46:41
  there
• 46:42
  is
• 46:42
  a
• 46:42
  different
• 46:42
  way
• 46:42
  to
• 46:43
  say
• 46:43
  that
• 46:43
  in
• 46:43
  finance.
• 46:44
  A
• 46:44
  different
• 46:44
  way?
• 46:45
  Yeah,
• 46:45
  I
• 46:46
  think
• 46:46
  I
• 46:46
  just,
• 46:46
  I
• 46:46
  have
• 46:47
  a.
• 46:47
  I
• 46:48
  have
• 46:48
  a
• 46:48
  hard
• 46:48
  time
• 46:48
  finding
• 46:49
  there,
• 46:50
  being,
• 46:50
  like,
• 46:51
  I
• 46:51
  just
• 46:51
  think
• 46:51
  that
• 46:52
  I've
• 46:52
  seen
• 46:52
  so
• 46:52
  many
• 46:52
  negative
• 46:53
  examples
• 46:53
  in
• 46:54
  men
• 46:54
  that,
• 46:55
  like,
• 46:55
  I
• 46:55
  just.
• 46:56
  I
• 46:56
  don't
• 46:56
  know.
• 46:57
  Because
• 46:57
  I
• 46:58
  get
• 46:58
  it.
• 46:58
  I
• 46:58
  hear
• 46:58
  you.
• 46:59
  But
• 46:59
  just
• 47:00
  every
• 47:00
  example
• 47:01
  there.
• 47:01
  There
• 47:02
  are
• 47:02
  also
• 47:02
  ones
• 47:03
  on
• 47:03
  the
• 47:03
  other
• 47:03
  side
• 47:03
  towards
• 47:04
  men.
• 47:04
  So,
• 47:04
  yes,
• 47:05
  they're,
• 47:05
  they're,
• 47:05
  they're
• 47:06
  wrong
• 47:06
  on
• 47:06
  both
• 47:06
  sides.
• 47:07
  They're
• 47:07
  hurtful
• 47:07
  on
• 47:07
  both
• 47:08
  sides.
• 47:08
  They're
• 47:08
  not
• 47:08
  needed
• 47:09
  on
• 47:09
  both
• 47:09
  sides.
• 47:09
  So
• 47:09
  I,
• 47:10
  I
• 47:10
  totally
• 47:10
  agree
• 47:10
  with
• 47:11
  you.
• 47:11
  But
• 47:12
  I
• 47:12
  mean,
• 47:12
  to
• 47:12
  your
• 47:12
  point,
• 47:13
  it
• 47:13
  is.
• 47:14
  You
• 47:14
  do
• 47:14
  need
• 47:14
  to
• 47:14
  be
• 47:15
  truthful.
• 47:15
  Like,
• 47:16
  you
• 47:16
  know,
• 47:16
  I,
• 47:17
  I
• 47:17
  don't.
• 47:17
  I
• 47:17
  actually
• 47:18
  don't
• 47:18
  think
• 47:18
  it's
• 47:18
  wrong
• 47:18
  to,
• 47:19
  like,
• 47:19
  see
• 47:19
  someone
• 47:20
  and
• 47:20
  then,
• 47:20
  you
• 47:21
  know,
• 47:21
  politely
• 47:21
  be
• 47:22
  like,
• 47:23
  you
• 47:23
  know,
• 47:23
  just
• 47:23
  not
• 47:23
  for
• 47:24
  me.
• 47:24
  I'm
• 47:24
  not
• 47:24
  really
• 47:24
  interested
• 47:24
  in
• 47:25
  it.
• 47:25
  I
• 47:25
  don't
• 47:25
  think
• 47:25
  because
• 47:26
  of
• 47:26
  their
• 47:26
  visual
• 47:27
  appearance.
• 47:27
  I'm
• 47:28
  not
• 47:28
  attracted
• 47:28
  to
• 47:28
  you,
• 47:28
  but
• 47:29
  there's
• 47:29
  no
• 47:30
  way
• 47:30
  to
• 47:30
  say
• 47:30
  it.
• 47:31
  What,
• 47:31
  what
• 47:32
  she
• 47:32
  said.
• 47:32
  I'm
• 47:33
  not
• 47:33
  attracted
• 47:33
  to
• 47:33
  you.
• 47:34
  I'm
• 47:34
  just
• 47:34
  not
• 47:34
  attracted
• 47:35
  to
• 47:35
  you.
• 47:35
  Like,
• 47:35
  you,
• 47:35
  you're.
• 47:36
  You're
• 47:36
  not
• 47:36
  my
• 47:37
  type.
• 47:37
  You're
• 47:37
  gorgeous,
• 47:39
  but
• 47:39
  it's
• 47:39
  not
• 47:39
  what,
• 47:40
  it's
• 47:40
  not
• 47:40
  what
• 47:40
  floats
• 47:40
  my
• 47:40
  boat.
• 47:41
  Like,
• 47:41
  and
• 47:41
  obviously
• 47:41
  you
• 47:42
  say
• 47:42
  it
• 47:42
  with
• 47:42
  more
• 47:42
  tact
• 47:42
  than
• 47:43
  that,
• 47:43
  right
• 47:43
  at
• 47:43
  the
• 47:44
  core,
• 47:44
  it's.
• 47:44
  I'm
• 47:44
  not
• 47:44
  attracted
• 47:45
  to.
• 47:45
  You
• 47:45
  don't
• 47:45
  have
• 47:45
  to
• 47:45
  say,
• 47:45
  oh,
• 47:46
  you're
• 47:46
  only
• 47:46
  four
• 47:46
  foot
• 47:47
  five.
• 47:47
  I'm
• 47:47
  like,
• 47:47
  whatever
• 47:48
  that,
• 47:48
  like,
• 47:48
  or
• 47:48
  whatever
• 47:49
  it
• 47:49
  is.
• 47:49
  But
• 47:49
  what.
• 47:49
  I
• 47:49
  have
• 47:49
  a
• 47:50
  problem
• 47:50
  with
• 47:50
  that.
• 47:51
  Men
• 47:51
  have
• 47:51
  these
• 47:51
  thoughts
• 47:52
  and
• 47:52
  these
• 47:52
  desires
• 47:53
  and
• 47:53
  this,
• 47:53
  like,
• 47:54
  expectation
• 47:54
  that
• 47:54
  they
• 47:54
  want
• 47:55
  in
• 47:55
  a
• 47:55
  partner.
• 47:56
  And
• 47:56
  so
• 47:57
  this
• 47:58
  one
• 47:58
  man,
• 47:58
  I
• 47:59
  remember
• 48:00
  this,
• 48:00
  he
• 48:00
  was
• 48:01
  married
• 48:01
  to
• 48:01
  this
• 48:02
  very
• 48:02
  short
• 48:02
  girl,
• 48:03
  like,
• 48:03
  very.
• 48:04
  Not
• 48:04
  his
• 48:05
  type,
• 48:05
  that
• 48:05
  he
• 48:05
  makes
• 48:05
  very
• 48:06
  known.
• 48:06
  They're
• 48:06
  married.
• 48:07
  And
• 48:07
  then
• 48:07
  every
• 48:08
  time
• 48:08
  a
• 48:08
  girl
• 48:08
  who
• 48:08
  is
• 48:09
  his
• 48:09
  type
• 48:09
  walks
• 48:10
  into
• 48:10
  the
• 48:10
  restaurant,
• 48:10
  he's
• 48:11
  all,
• 48:11
  like,
• 48:11
  drooling
• 48:12
  and
• 48:12
  googly
• 48:12
  eyes,
• 48:13
  and
• 48:13
  I'm
• 48:13
  like,
• 48:13
  dude,
• 48:13
  you're
• 48:13
  married,
• 48:14
  like,
• 48:14
  and
• 48:14
  your
• 48:15
  wife,
• 48:15
  like,
• 48:15
  would
• 48:15
  not.
• 48:15
  Well,
• 48:15
  that's
• 48:16
  disrespectful.
• 48:18
  He
• 48:19
  has
• 48:19
  every
• 48:19
  right,
• 48:20
  right,
• 48:20
  to
• 48:20
  be
• 48:20
  attracted
• 48:20
  to
• 48:21
  whoever
• 48:21
  he
• 48:21
  wants
• 48:22
  and
• 48:22
  to
• 48:22
  be
• 48:22
  with
• 48:23
  his
• 48:23
  wife
• 48:23
  if
• 48:23
  it's
• 48:23
  the
• 48:23
  opposite
• 48:24
  to
• 48:24
  what
• 48:24
  he
• 48:24
  wants.
• 48:24
  But
• 48:25
  he.
• 48:25
  Should
• 48:25
  he
• 48:25
  be
• 48:26
  drooling
• 48:27
  and
• 48:28
  rudely
• 48:29
  staring
• 48:30
  at
• 48:30
  other
• 48:31
  women
• 48:31
  while
• 48:31
  he's
• 48:32
  with
• 48:32
  his
• 48:32
  wife?
• 48:32
  No,
• 48:33
  but
• 48:33
  when
• 48:33
  he's
• 48:33
  out
• 48:34
  by
• 48:34
  himself,
• 48:34
  he
• 48:35
  can
• 48:35
  look
• 48:35
  at
• 48:35
  whatever
• 48:35
  he
• 48:35
  wants.
• 48:36
  Does
• 48:36
  he
• 48:36
  go
• 48:36
  home
• 48:36
  with
• 48:36
  whatever
• 48:37
  he
• 48:37
  wants?
• 48:37
  No,
• 48:37
  but
• 48:37
  he
• 48:37
  can
• 48:38
  look
• 48:38
  at
• 48:38
  whatever
• 48:38
  he
• 48:38
  wants.
• 48:38
  He's
• 48:39
  attracted
• 48:39
  to
• 48:39
  what
• 48:39
  he's
• 48:39
  attracted
• 48:39
  to.
• 48:40
  Same
• 48:40
  thing
• 48:40
  for
• 48:40
  women.
• 48:41
  There's
• 48:41
  many
• 48:41
  things
• 48:41
  that
• 48:42
  I'm
• 48:42
  attracted
• 48:42
  to.
• 48:43
  Right.
• 48:43
  That
• 48:43
  are
• 48:44
  not
• 48:44
  my
• 48:44
  husband.
• 48:44
  Yeah.
• 48:45
  Do
• 48:45
  I
• 48:45
  have
• 48:45
  to
• 48:45
  tell
• 48:45
  him
• 48:46
  every
• 48:46
  single
• 48:46
  time
• 48:46
  that
• 48:47
  somebody
• 48:47
  walks
• 48:47
  by
• 48:47
  who
• 48:48
  is
• 48:48
  my
• 48:48
  type?
• 48:48
  No.
• 48:49
  That's
• 48:49
  hurtful
• 48:49
  and
• 48:49
  disrespectful.
• 48:50
  I
• 48:51
  would.
• 48:51
  So
• 48:51
  I.
• 48:52
  I
• 48:52
  think
• 48:52
  that's
• 48:52
  very
• 48:53
  disrespectful.
• 48:54
  Yeah.
• 48:54
  I
• 48:54
  would
• 48:54
  say
• 48:55
  for
• 48:55
  me,
• 48:56
  that,
• 48:56
  to
• 48:56
  me
• 48:57
  is
• 48:57
  just
• 48:57
  like,
• 48:58
  it's
• 48:58
  a
• 48:58
  very
• 48:58
  disrespectful,
• 48:59
  not
• 48:59
  nice
• 48:59
  person.
• 49:01
  What
• 49:01
  I
• 49:01
  do
• 49:01
  have
• 49:02
  a
• 49:02
  hard
• 49:02
  time
• 49:02
  with.
• 49:02
  And
• 49:03
  sometimes.
• 49:03
  And
• 49:03
  maybe
• 49:03
  this
• 49:04
  is
• 49:04
  where
• 49:04
  you're
• 49:04
  saying
• 49:05
  it's
• 49:06
  hard
• 49:06
  being
• 49:06
  a
• 49:06
  man,
• 49:07
  but
• 49:07
  I
• 49:08
  also
• 49:08
  think
• 49:08
  it
• 49:08
  makes
• 49:09
  it
• 49:09
  hard
• 49:09
  being
• 49:09
  a
• 49:09
  woman
• 49:09
  too,
• 49:10
  is
• 49:11
  just
• 49:11
  the
• 49:11
  societal
• 49:12
  implications.
• 49:13
  Like,
• 49:14
  you
• 49:14
  know,
• 49:14
  you
• 49:15
  have,
• 49:15
  like,
• 49:15
  porn
• 49:16
  and
• 49:16
  you
• 49:16
  have
• 49:17
  of.
• 49:17
  And
• 49:17
  I'm
• 49:18
  not
• 49:18
  against
• 49:18
  porn
• 49:19
  if
• 49:19
  it's.
• 49:20
  Well,
• 49:20
  actually,
• 49:20
  I
• 49:20
  have
• 49:21
  a
• 49:21
  lot
• 49:21
  of
• 49:21
  different
• 49:21
  feelings
• 49:22
  about
• 49:22
  that.
• 49:22
  That's
• 49:22
  a
• 49:22
  whole
• 49:22
  nother
• 49:23
  episode.
• 49:23
  If
• 49:23
  it's
• 49:23
  used
• 49:23
  healthily.
• 49:25
  Yeah.
• 49:25
  And
• 49:26
  also
• 49:26
  it's
• 49:26
  hard
• 49:26
  to.
• 49:27
  Yes.
• 49:28
  And
• 49:28
  it's
• 49:28
  consensual.
• 49:29
  I
• 49:29
  feel
• 49:29
  like
• 49:29
  I
• 49:29
  have
• 49:30
  the
• 49:30
  same
• 49:30
  torn
• 49:30
  views
• 49:31
  on.
• 49:31
  Yeah.
• 49:33
  But
• 49:33
  I
• 49:34
  guess
• 49:34
  what
• 49:34
  I
• 49:34
  was
• 49:34
  kind
• 49:34
  of
• 49:34
  thinking
• 49:35
  is,
• 49:35
  like,
• 49:35
  you
• 49:35
  have
• 49:35
  porn,
• 49:36
  you
• 49:36
  have
• 49:36
  just
• 49:36
  like,
• 49:36
  regular
• 49:37
  freaking
• 49:37
  Hollywood,
• 49:38
  like,
• 49:38
  movies.
• 49:39
  Like,
• 49:39
  there's
• 49:39
  all
• 49:40
  these
• 49:41
  older
• 49:41
  men
• 49:41
  being
• 49:41
  cast
• 49:42
  with
• 49:42
  younger
• 49:42
  women,
• 49:43
  Things
• 49:43
  like
• 49:43
  that,
• 49:44
  that
• 49:44
  kind
• 49:45
  of
• 49:45
  say,
• 49:45
  hey,
• 49:45
  this
• 49:45
  is
• 49:45
  the
• 49:46
  standard
• 49:46
  because
• 49:46
  this
• 49:47
  is
• 49:47
  what
• 49:47
  makes
• 49:47
  money.
• 49:48
  And
• 49:48
  it
• 49:48
  kind
• 49:49
  of
• 49:49
  reinforces
• 49:50
  some
• 49:50
  negative
• 49:51
  thinking,
• 49:51
  both
• 49:51
  men
• 49:52
  and
• 49:52
  women.
• 49:53
  And
• 49:53
  I
• 49:53
  think
• 49:53
  that
• 49:54
  it
• 49:54
  really
• 49:54
  can
• 49:54
  kind
• 49:55
  of
• 49:55
  up
• 49:56
  just
• 49:56
  an.
• 49:56
  Just
• 49:57
  a
• 49:57
  normal.
• 49:57
  You
• 49:58
  and
• 49:58
  me
• 49:58
  trying
• 49:58
  to
• 49:58
  have
• 49:59
  a
• 49:59
  relationship.
• 50:01
  What
• 50:01
  do
• 50:01
  you
• 50:01
  kind
• 50:02
  of,
• 50:02
  like,
• 50:02
  talk
• 50:02
  to
• 50:03
  men
• 50:03
  about?
• 50:03
  Like,
• 50:04
  to
• 50:04
  kind
• 50:04
  of
• 50:04
  get
• 50:04
  around
• 50:04
  those
• 50:04
  kind
• 50:05
  of,
• 50:05
  like,
• 50:05
  stereotypes
• 50:06
  and
• 50:06
  things.
• 50:07
  Well,
• 50:08
  give
• 50:08
  me.
• 50:08
  Give
• 50:08
  me
• 50:08
  more
• 50:09
  context
• 50:09
  for
• 50:09
  that.
• 50:09
  I
• 50:09
  see.
• 50:10
  How's
• 50:10
  the
• 50:10
  stereotype
• 50:11
  harming
• 50:12
  them?
• 50:12
  I
• 50:12
  think
• 50:12
  what
• 50:12
  I'm
• 50:12
  hearing
• 50:13
  from
• 50:13
  you
• 50:13
  is
• 50:13
  that,
• 50:13
  like,
• 50:14
  when
• 50:14
  movies
• 50:14
  portray
• 50:15
  like,
• 50:15
  and
• 50:15
  Pretty
• 50:16
  Woman,
• 50:16
  like
• 50:17
  an
• 50:17
  older.
• 50:18
  Older
• 50:18
  male
• 50:20
  dating
• 50:20
  a
• 50:21
  really
• 50:21
  young
• 50:21
  female.
• 50:22
  In
• 50:22
  a
• 50:22
  lot
• 50:22
  of.
• 50:22
  That
• 50:23
  doesn't.
• 50:23
  Yeah,
• 50:23
  in
• 50:24
  a
• 50:24
  lot.
• 50:24
  What
• 50:25
  doesn't.
• 50:25
  It
• 50:25
  doesn't
• 50:25
  bother
• 50:25
  me
• 50:26
  to
• 50:26
  see
• 50:26
  older
• 50:26
  men
• 50:26
  with
• 50:26
  younger
• 50:27
  women.
• 50:27
  It
• 50:28
  doesn't
• 50:28
  bother
• 50:28
  me
• 50:28
  to
• 50:28
  see
• 50:28
  older
• 50:29
  women
• 50:29
  with
• 50:29
  younger
• 50:29
  men.
• 50:30
  But
• 50:30
  you
• 50:30
  rarely
• 50:31
  see
• 50:31
  that
• 50:31
  depicted
• 50:32
  on
• 50:32
  tv.
• 50:33
  And
• 50:33
  I
• 50:33
  guess
• 50:33
  I'm
• 50:33
  just
• 50:34
  kind
• 50:34
  of
• 50:34
  saying
• 50:34
  I
• 50:34
  feel
• 50:35
  like
• 50:35
  some
• 50:35
  of
• 50:35
  this
• 50:35
  kind
• 50:36
  of
• 50:36
  reinforces,
• 50:37
  like,
• 50:37
  this
• 50:37
  thinking
• 50:38
  of
• 50:38
  men
• 50:39
  and
• 50:40
  women.
• 50:41
  Like,
• 50:41
  women.
• 50:42
  I
• 50:42
  have
• 50:43
  to
• 50:43
  be
• 50:43
  a
• 50:44
  certain
• 50:44
  body
• 50:45
  type
• 50:45
  for
• 50:45
  the
• 50:46
  men
• 50:46
  to
• 50:46
  want
• 50:46
  me
• 50:47
  or
• 50:47
  an
• 50:47
  age
• 50:47
  or
• 50:48
  I've
• 50:48
  aged
• 50:48
  out
• 50:49
  and
• 50:49
  you're
• 50:49
  just
• 50:49
  feeling
• 50:50
  old
• 50:50
  and
• 50:50
  ugly.
• 50:51
  Or
• 50:51
  the
• 50:52
  men
• 50:52
  thinking,
• 50:52
  like,
• 50:53
  okay,
• 50:53
  yeah,
• 50:53
  I'm
• 50:53
  just,
• 50:53
  I,
• 50:54
  I
• 50:54
  want
• 50:54
  to
• 50:54
  date
• 50:54
  a
• 50:54
  young,
• 50:55
  hot
• 50:55
  thing.
• 50:55
  I
• 50:56
  see
• 50:56
  that
• 50:56
  a
• 50:56
  lot.
• 50:57
  You
• 50:57
  don't.
• 50:58
  I,
• 50:58
  I
• 50:58
  mean,
• 50:59
  I
• 50:59
  do,
• 50:59
  but
• 50:59
  I
• 50:59
  again,
• 51:00
  I
• 51:00
  sort
• 51:00
  of
• 51:00
  think
• 51:00
  that's
• 51:01
  on
• 51:01
  you.
• 51:02
  If
• 51:02
  that's
• 51:03
  how
• 51:03
  you're
• 51:03
  letting
• 51:03
  it.
• 51:03
  Yes.
• 51:03
  Tell
• 51:04
  us
• 51:04
  more.
• 51:05
  So
• 51:05
  I
• 51:05
  would
• 51:05
  say
• 51:06
  even,
• 51:06
  even
• 51:06
  with
• 51:06
  guys,
• 51:07
  like
• 51:07
  guys
• 51:07
  who
• 51:08
  sign
• 51:08
  up
• 51:08
  and
• 51:08
  work
• 51:08
  with
• 51:09
  me
• 51:09
  who
• 51:09
  are
• 51:09
  like,
• 51:09
  yeah,
• 51:09
  I'd
• 51:09
  like
• 51:10
  to.
• 51:10
  Here
• 51:10
  are
• 51:10
  the
• 51:10
  women
• 51:10
  that
• 51:11
  I
• 51:11
  like
• 51:11
  to
• 51:11
  date,
• 51:11
  like
• 51:13
  35,
• 51:13
  and
• 51:14
  this
• 51:14
  is
• 51:14
  a
• 51:14
  65
• 51:14
  year
• 51:14
  old
• 51:15
  man.
• 51:15
  And
• 51:15
  we'll,
• 51:15
  we'll
• 51:16
  look
• 51:16
  at
• 51:16
  him
• 51:16
  and
• 51:16
  say
• 51:16
  like,
• 51:17
  if
• 51:17
  you
• 51:18
  were
• 51:18
  a
• 51:18
  35
• 51:18
  year
• 51:18
  old,
• 51:19
  really
• 51:19
  hot
• 51:19
  woman
• 51:19
  who
• 51:20
  was
• 51:20
  in
• 51:20
  demand
• 51:20
  right
• 51:20
  now,
• 51:21
  would
• 51:21
  you
• 51:21
  sleep
• 51:21
  with
• 51:21
  you
• 51:22
  as
• 51:22
  you
• 51:22
  are
• 51:22
  right
• 51:23
  now?
• 51:23
  As
• 51:23
  you
• 51:23
  look,
• 51:23
  you're
• 51:24
  disheveled
• 51:24
  in
• 51:24
  front
• 51:25
  of
• 51:25
  me.
• 51:25
  You
• 51:25
  have
• 51:25
  two
• 51:25
  teeth
• 51:26
  that
• 51:26
  are
• 51:26
  missing.
• 51:27
  You
• 51:27
  have
• 51:28
  your,
• 51:28
  your
• 51:28
  shirt
• 51:29
  is
• 51:29
  from
• 51:29
  1984.
• 51:30
  You
• 51:31
  haven't
• 51:31
  been
• 51:31
  out
• 51:31
  of
• 51:31
  your
• 51:31
  house
• 51:32
  in
• 51:32
  three
• 51:32
  months.
• 51:33
  You
• 51:33
  don't
• 51:34
  have
• 51:34
  a
• 51:34
  good
• 51:34
  paying
• 51:34
  job.
• 51:35
  Would
• 51:35
  you
• 51:35
  sleep
• 51:35
  with
• 51:36
  you
• 51:36
  right
• 51:36
  now?
• 51:36
  Oh,
• 51:37
  no.
• 51:37
  Okay,
• 51:38
  well,
• 51:38
  let's
• 51:38
  either
• 51:38
  build
• 51:39
  you
• 51:39
  up
• 51:39
  or
• 51:40
  be
• 51:41
  more
• 51:41
  real.
• 51:41
  Like
• 51:41
  be
• 51:41
  more
• 51:42
  realistic.
• 51:42
  Okay.
• 51:43
  If
• 51:43
  you're
• 51:43
  a
• 51:43
  boy,
• 51:44
  you're
• 51:44
  gonna
• 51:44
  attract
• 51:44
  a
• 51:44
  4.
• 51:44
  If
• 51:45
  you're
• 51:45
  a
• 51:45
  10,
• 51:45
  you're
• 51:45
  actually,
• 51:45
  it.
• 51:46
  Goes
• 51:46
  with
• 51:46
  women
• 51:46
  too.
• 51:47
  He
• 51:47
  can
• 51:47
  be
• 51:47
  a
• 51:47
  10.
• 51:48
  Any
• 51:48
  woman
• 51:48
  can
• 51:48
  be
• 51:49
  a
• 51:49
  10
• 51:49
  too.
• 51:49
  Like,
• 51:49
  it's,
• 51:50
  it's
• 51:50
  a
• 51:50
  little
• 51:50
  bit
• 51:50
  different
• 51:50
  for,
• 51:51
  for
• 51:51
  women
• 51:51
  because
• 51:52
  it
• 51:52
  is
• 51:52
  more
• 51:53
  about
• 51:53
  like
• 51:54
  visually
• 51:54
  what
• 51:55
  the
• 51:55
  woman
• 51:55
  looks
• 51:55
  like
• 51:55
  for
• 51:55
  men.
• 51:57
  But
• 51:59
  men
• 51:59
  can
• 51:59
  up
• 51:59
  their
• 52:00
  game.
• 52:00
  Like
• 52:00
  there
• 52:00
  are,
• 52:00
  there
• 52:01
  are
• 52:01
  things,
• 52:01
  there's
• 52:01
  nothing
• 52:02
  wrong
• 52:02
  with
• 52:02
  everybody
• 52:02
  wanting
• 52:03
  something.
• 52:03
  You're
• 52:03
  right.
• 52:04
  Right.
• 52:05
  And
• 52:06
  if,
• 52:06
  if
• 52:06
  that's
• 52:06
  how
• 52:06
  it
• 52:07
  impacts
• 52:07
  you,
• 52:07
  then
• 52:08
  kind
• 52:08
  of
• 52:08
  like
• 52:09
  what
• 52:09
  Sam
• 52:09
  was
• 52:09
  saying
• 52:09
  in
• 52:10
  the
• 52:10
  beginning,
• 52:10
  like,
• 52:10
  you
• 52:10
  have
• 52:10
  to
• 52:10
  sort
• 52:11
  of
• 52:11
  look
• 52:11
  towards
• 52:12
  yourself
• 52:12
  as
• 52:12
  to
• 52:14
  why
• 52:14
  that's
• 52:14
  affecting
• 52:15
  you
• 52:15
  so
• 52:15
  much
• 52:15
  and
• 52:15
  why
• 52:16
  you
• 52:16
  take
• 52:16
  that
• 52:16
  as
• 52:16
  truth.
• 52:17
  Because
• 52:17
  you
• 52:17
  saw
• 52:17
  it
• 52:17
  on
• 52:18
  television.
• 52:18
  Just
• 52:18
  as
• 52:19
  a
• 52:19
  closing
• 52:19
  question,
• 52:19
  can
• 52:20
  you
• 52:20
  really
• 52:20
  quickly
• 52:21
  give
• 52:21
  us
• 52:21
  the
• 52:22
  story
• 52:22
  of
• 52:22
  the
• 52:23
  best
• 52:23
  case
• 52:23
  client
• 52:24
  that
• 52:24
  you've
• 52:24
  had
• 52:24
  and
• 52:25
  the
• 52:25
  outcome?
• 52:26
  I've
• 52:27
  had
• 52:27
  every
• 52:27
  amazing
• 52:28
  client,
• 52:29
  honestly.
• 52:30
  We
• 52:30
  have,
• 52:30
  we
• 52:31
  have,
• 52:31
  we
• 52:31
  use
• 52:31
  Slack
• 52:32
  for
• 52:32
  our
• 52:32
  business
• 52:33
  and
• 52:33
  we
• 52:33
  have
• 52:33
  a
• 52:33
  success
• 52:34
  stories
• 52:34
  page.
• 52:35
  And
• 52:35
  every
• 52:36
  day
• 52:36
  we'll
• 52:37
  paste
• 52:37
  an
• 52:37
  email
• 52:38
  in
• 52:38
  there
• 52:38
  or
• 52:38
  a
• 52:38
  picture
• 52:39
  of
• 52:39
  somebody
• 52:39
  with
• 52:39
  their
• 52:39
  new
• 52:40
  fiance
• 52:40
  or
• 52:41
  their
• 52:41
  new
• 52:41
  baby
• 52:41
  or
• 52:42
  their
• 52:42
  new
• 52:42
  girlfriend
• 52:43
  or
• 52:43
  their,
• 52:43
  you
• 52:44
  know,
• 52:44
  just
• 52:44
  like
• 52:44
  a
• 52:45
  little
• 52:45
  story
• 52:45
  saying
• 52:45
  how
• 52:46
  I
• 52:46
  started
• 52:46
  this
• 52:47
  program
• 52:47
  with
• 52:47
  you
• 52:47
  and
• 52:48
  seven
• 52:48
  weeks
• 52:48
  later
• 52:49
  I'm
• 52:49
  now
• 52:49
  dating
• 52:49
  a
• 52:49
  whole
• 52:50
  bunch
• 52:50
  of
• 52:50
  women
• 52:50
  who
• 52:50
  are
• 52:50
  absolutely
• 52:51
  amazing
• 52:51
  and
• 52:51
  thank
• 52:52
  you,
• 52:52
  like.
• 52:52
  So,
• 52:53
  to
• 52:53
  be
• 52:53
  honest,
• 52:54
  I
• 52:54
  don't
• 52:54
  have
• 52:54
  a
• 52:55
  favorite
• 52:55
  case
• 52:56
  right
• 52:56
  now.
• 52:56
  My
• 52:57
  favorite
• 52:57
  case
• 52:57
  of
• 52:57
  all
• 52:57
  time
• 52:58
  is
• 52:58
  this
• 52:58
  guy
• 52:58
  named
• 52:58
  Sharif.
• 52:59
  But
• 52:59
  I
• 52:59
  Won't
• 53:00
  even
• 53:00
  go
• 53:00
  into
• 53:00
  that,
• 53:00
  because
• 53:00
  that's
• 53:01
  a
• 53:01
  long
• 53:01
  story.
• 53:01
  But.
• 53:02
  But
• 53:02
  overall,
• 53:03
  I
• 53:03
  love
• 53:03
  every
• 53:04
  man
• 53:04
  who,
• 53:06
  who
• 53:06
  signs
• 53:07
  up
• 53:07
  for
• 53:07
  any
• 53:07
  program
• 53:08
  of
• 53:08
  mine,
• 53:09
  because
• 53:10
  I
• 53:10
  say
• 53:10
  this
• 53:11
  on
• 53:11
  every
• 53:11
  one
• 53:11
  of
• 53:11
  my
• 53:11
  coaching
• 53:11
  calls,
• 53:12
  like
• 53:12
  to
• 53:13
  ask
• 53:13
  for
• 53:13
  advice,
• 53:14
  to
• 53:15
  put
• 53:15
  an
• 53:16
  effort
• 53:16
  to
• 53:17
  make
• 53:17
  changes,
• 53:18
  to
• 53:19
  own
• 53:19
  the
• 53:19
  fact
• 53:20
  that
• 53:20
  there's
• 53:20
  things
• 53:20
  that
• 53:20
  need
• 53:20
  to
• 53:20
  be
• 53:21
  worked
• 53:21
  on
• 53:21
  and
• 53:21
  to
• 53:21
  do
• 53:22
  it
• 53:23
  all
• 53:23
  while
• 53:23
  getting
• 53:24
  advice
• 53:24
  from
• 53:24
  the
• 53:25
  opposite
• 53:25
  sex,
• 53:26
  which
• 53:26
  is
• 53:26
  uncomfortable,
• 53:27
  embarrassing.
• 53:28
  It
• 53:28
  can
• 53:28
  be
• 53:28
  so
• 53:29
  many
• 53:29
  things.
• 53:30
  It
• 53:30
  just
• 53:30
  takes
• 53:31
  such
• 53:31
  a
• 53:31
  strong
• 53:32
  person
• 53:32
  to
• 53:32
  do
• 53:32
  that.
• 53:33
  So
• 53:33
  I
• 53:33
  think
• 53:33
  every
• 53:33
  one
• 53:33
  of
• 53:34
  the
• 53:34
  people
• 53:34
  that
• 53:34
  work
• 53:34
  with
• 53:34
  me
• 53:35
  are
• 53:35
  just
• 53:35
  absolutely
• 53:36
  amazing.
• 53:36
  So
• 53:37
  all.
• 53:37
  All
• 53:37
  of
• 53:37
  them
• 53:38
  are
• 53:38
  wonderful.
• 53:39
  No,
• 53:39
  actually
• 53:40
  hearing
• 53:40
  you
• 53:40
  say
• 53:41
  that,
• 53:42
  that
• 53:43
  makes
• 53:43
  sense.
• 53:43
  It
• 53:43
  even
• 53:44
  makes
• 53:44
  me
• 53:44
  think
• 53:45
  that.
• 53:45
  And
• 53:45
  I
• 53:45
  know
• 53:45
  you
• 53:46
  gotta
• 53:46
  go
• 53:47
  that.
• 53:50
  I
• 53:50
  think
• 53:50
  my
• 53:51
  question
• 53:52
  a
• 53:52
  second
• 53:52
  ago
• 53:53
  was
• 53:53
  not.
• 53:54
  It
• 53:54
  was
• 53:55
  misinformed.
• 53:56
  In
• 53:56
  my
• 53:56
  mind,
• 53:56
  I
• 53:57
  was
• 53:57
  thinking,
• 53:57
  okay,
• 53:57
  so
• 53:58
  she
• 53:58
  has
• 53:58
  men
• 53:58
  coming
• 53:59
  that
• 53:59
  just
• 54:00
  help
• 54:00
  me
• 54:00
  get
• 54:00
  a
• 54:00
  date.
• 54:00
  But
• 54:01
  that's
• 54:01
  not
• 54:01
  what
• 54:01
  they're
• 54:01
  coming
• 54:02
  to
• 54:02
  you
• 54:02
  for.
• 54:02
  They're
• 54:02
  coming
• 54:03
  to
• 54:03
  you
• 54:03
  to
• 54:04
  help
• 54:04
  improve
• 54:04
  themselves
• 54:05
  is
• 54:05
  what
• 54:06
  I'm
• 54:06
  believing.
• 54:06
  They
• 54:06
  think
• 54:06
  they're
• 54:07
  coming
• 54:07
  to
• 54:07
  me
• 54:07
  for
• 54:07
  getting
• 54:08
  a
• 54:08
  date.
• 54:08
  Okay,
• 54:09
  and
• 54:09
  then.
• 54:09
  And
• 54:10
  then
• 54:11
  we
• 54:11
  improve
• 54:11
  them.
• 54:11
  Ah,
• 54:13
  I
• 54:13
  like
• 54:14
  that.
• 54:14
  And
• 54:14
  we
• 54:14
  could
• 54:15
  almost
• 54:15
  do
• 54:15
  that.
• 54:16
  That's
• 54:16
  going
• 54:16
  on
• 54:16
  for
• 54:16
  everybody.
• 54:17
  Right.
• 54:17
  Like,
• 54:17
  oh,
• 54:18
  everybody
• 54:18
  else
• 54:18
  has
• 54:18
  got
• 54:18
  a
• 54:19
  problem,
• 54:19
  but
• 54:19
  I
• 54:19
  just
• 54:19
  can't
• 54:20
  seem
• 54:20
  to
• 54:20
  get.
• 54:20
  Get
• 54:20
  this.
• 54:20
  Okay,
• 54:21
  well,
• 54:21
  let's,
• 54:21
  like,
• 54:21
  look
• 54:21
  at
• 54:21
  a
• 54:21
  mirror
• 54:21
  and
• 54:21
  see
• 54:22
  what's
• 54:22
  going
• 54:22
  on.
• 54:22
  What
• 54:22
  am
• 54:22
  I
• 54:23
  missing?
• 54:24
  Yeah.
• 54:24
  What
• 54:24
  are
• 54:24
  you
• 54:25
  saying?
• 54:25
  And
• 54:25
  then
• 54:25
  what
• 54:25
  can
• 54:25
  we
• 54:26
  work
• 54:26
  on?
• 54:26
  Or
• 54:26
  what
• 54:26
  can
• 54:26
  we
• 54:26
  do
• 54:26
  for
• 54:27
  ourselves?
• 54:27
  Like,
• 54:27
  it's.
• 54:28
  At
• 54:28
  the
• 54:28
  end
• 54:28
  of
• 54:28
  the
• 54:29
  day,
• 54:29
  the
• 54:29
  only
• 54:29
  thing
• 54:29
  that
• 54:30
  you
• 54:30
  have
• 54:30
  control
• 54:30
  over
• 54:30
  is
• 54:31
  you.
• 54:31
  Yeah.
• 54:32
  I
• 54:32
  love
• 54:32
  it.
• 54:33
  Thank
• 54:33
  you.
• 54:33
  And
• 54:33
  I
• 54:34
  love
• 54:34
  that
• 54:34
  you
• 54:34
  called
• 54:34
  me
• 54:34
  and
• 54:35
  said,
• 54:35
  hey,
• 54:35
  that's
• 54:35
  a
• 54:35
  you
• 54:35
  problem.
• 54:36
  Yes.
• 54:37
  Because
• 54:37
  you're
• 54:37
  right.
• 54:38
  We
• 54:38
  need
• 54:38
  to
• 54:38
  look
• 54:38
  at
• 54:38
  ourselves.
• 54:39
  So
• 54:39
  I.
• 54:40
  Yeah.
• 54:40
  And.
• 54:40
  But
• 54:40
  listen,
• 54:41
  there's
• 54:41
  a
• 54:41
  ton
• 54:41
  of
• 54:41
  things
• 54:41
  that
• 54:41
  are
• 54:42
  out
• 54:42
  there
• 54:42
  in
• 54:42
  the
• 54:42
  media,
• 54:43
  right.
• 54:43
  That
• 54:44
  you're
• 54:44
  being
• 54:44
  programmed
• 54:45
  to
• 54:45
  see
• 54:45
  things
• 54:45
  a
• 54:46
  certain
• 54:46
  way.
• 54:46
  I.
• 54:47
  I
• 54:47
  understand
• 54:47
  that.
• 54:48
  But
• 54:48
  at
• 54:48
  the
• 54:48
  core,
• 54:49
  it
• 54:49
  kind
• 54:49
  of.
• 54:49
  At
• 54:50
  least
• 54:50
  me,
• 54:50
  I
• 54:51
  always.
• 54:51
  I
• 54:51
  always
• 54:52
  know
• 54:52
  that
• 54:52
  there's
• 54:52
  something
• 54:52
  different
• 54:53
  or
• 54:53
  there's
• 54:54
  something
• 54:54
  that
• 54:54
  I
• 54:54
  want
• 54:54
  to
• 54:54
  be
• 54:55
  seeing
• 54:55
  instead.
• 54:55
  And
• 54:56
  you
• 54:56
  gotta
• 54:56
  stick
• 54:56
  with
• 54:57
  that
• 54:57
  feeling
• 54:57
  rather
• 54:58
  than
• 54:58
  giving
• 54:58
  into
• 54:59
  the
• 54:59
  fact
• 54:59
  that
• 54:59
  that's
• 55:00
  the
• 55:00
  right
• 55:00
  thing
• 55:00
  that
• 55:00
  I'm
• 55:01
  saying
• 55:01
  I'm
• 55:01
  seeing.
• 55:01
  Yeah,
• 55:02
  I
• 55:02
  know
• 55:02
  it's
• 55:02
  hard
• 55:02
  to
• 55:02
  do
• 55:02
  that
• 55:03
  when
• 55:03
  you're
• 55:03
  younger,
• 55:03
  but.
• 55:05
  But,
• 55:05
  yeah,
• 55:06
  that's
• 55:06
  how
• 55:06
  I
• 55:06
  think
• 55:07
  you
• 55:07
  have
• 55:07
  to
• 55:07
  look
• 55:07
  at
• 55:07
  things.
• 55:07
  It's
• 55:07
  like,
• 55:08
  I.
• 55:08
  I'm
• 55:08
  gonna
• 55:08
  do
• 55:08
  what's
• 55:09
  right
• 55:09
  for
• 55:09
  me.
• 55:09
  So
• 55:09
  let's
• 55:09
  go
• 55:09
  look
• 55:10
  for
• 55:10
  more
• 55:10
  examples
• 55:11
  that
• 55:11
  are
• 55:11
  more
• 55:12
  in
• 55:12
  my
• 55:12
  wheelhouse.
• 55:13
  I
• 55:13
  love
• 55:13
  that.
• 55:14
  Yeah.
• 55:14
  Well,
• 55:15
  thank
• 55:15
  you
• 55:15
  so
• 55:15
  much
• 55:15
  for
• 55:16
  joining
• 55:16
  us.
• 55:16
  I
• 55:17
  am
• 55:17
  excited
• 55:17
  to
• 55:17
  join
• 55:18
  you
• 55:18
  on
• 55:18
  your
• 55:18
  podcast,
• 55:19
  Women
• 55:20
  Advice.
• 55:22
  We
• 55:22
  have
• 55:22
  a
• 55:22
  good
• 55:22
  topic
• 55:23
  to
• 55:23
  talk
• 55:23
  about.
• 55:24
  Yes.
• 55:24
  We're
• 55:24
  gonna
• 55:25
  talk
• 55:25
  about
• 55:25
  trauma,
• 55:25
  dating
• 55:26
  women
• 55:26
  with
• 55:26
  trauma.
• 55:26
  So
• 55:27
  I'm
• 55:27
  very
• 55:27
  excited.
• 55:27
  I'm
• 55:27
  so
• 55:27
  sorry
• 55:28
  to
• 55:28
  race
• 55:28
  off.
• 55:28
  Nope.
• 55:29
  Thank
• 55:29
  you.
• 55:29
  You're
• 55:29
  good.
• 55:30
  Nope.
• 55:30
  All
• 55:30
  right,
• 55:30
  thank
• 55:31
  you
• 55:31
  so
• 55:31
  much,
• 55:31
  Marnie.
• 55:32
  Bye.
• 55:37
  Did
• 55:38
  you
• 55:38
  like
• 55:38
  the
• 55:38
  episode
• 55:38
  that
• 55:39
  you
• 55:39
  heard
• 55:39
  today?
• 55:40
  Great.
• 55:41
  Share
• 55:41
  it
• 55:41
  with
• 55:41
  a
• 55:41
  friend.
• 55:42
  And
• 55:42
  don't
• 55:42
  forget
• 55:43
  to
• 55:43
  rate
• 55:43
  and
• 55:44
  reveal.
• 55:47
  Sam.