Latest / Man In Your Corner with Shaun Tucker / Ep. 65 | Overcoming Founder Dad Burnout: Mental Fitness & Reclaiming Presence at Home
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- Shaun: Welcome back to the Reset Episode 65 with me, Shaun Tucker How many days does it take? so you get comfortable doing what you're doing. I don't know. How many days did it take you to get comfortable doing what you're doing? If I look right now at the things that I set myself to do two months ago, is this podcast is included in that. 65 days ago, I started recording a podcast and I made a promise to myself and to you listening. I'm going to record a daily podcast. It goes for about 10 minutes and it's going to happen every single day. I'm to be consistent with it and I'm going to do it regardless if I'm traveling, if I am unprepared for the day, no matter what, I'm just going to do it. That's exactly what I've done. But has it been comfortable the whole time? Have I been tested? Have I been challenged? Yes. Yes, I have. Absolutely. Because when it comes to being a dad who's Working from home, he's not the breadwinner of the house, but he is providing, he is protecting his family. He's cooking meals so his family can eat at a time that's... allowing everyone to get enough sleep. He's working on a business that he deeply cares about and he's really trying to make it as friction free as possible. So some days when I'm a little bit unprepared. I get to the end of the day and I'm like, I still want to do a podcast episode. I've still got a message to those people. I've still got to yada yada yada. This is what most people don't understand when it comes to being. an entrepreneur, a coach. a facilitator working in the online space, even a personal trainer to most respects, and that is the business hustle never stops. This mind is always working. It's always trying to figure out how we can basically play our next move. Whereas when you have a job, and I'm not saying that all jobs are like this, but when you have a job from the jobs that I've experienced in my life, and I haven't had that many if I'm being truthfully honest, but I have been loyal to the jobs that I had. I worked for one company for 10 plus years. It was one of my first jobs and I worked there for 10 plus years. when you are in those jobs, you know, can get, you can take the job very seriously and you know, you might even take the job home, right? But when it's clock on, clock off with the time, you don't have to take the work home. But when you're building something that is yours, that is there to create a financial impact on your family, to create an impact. on the economy is to create an impact on the changes and the transformations that you make through whatever you do. That takes a lot of capacity. It takes a lot of thought. It takes a lot of consistency. It takes a shit ton of energy and a lot of work to get the balls in motion, to get the wheels in motion. hit the bulls running. It's not for everyone. And it's certainly not for those kind of people that give up easily. You know, I had so many people critique me when I went in the octagon and fought a guy who could have easily done some really major damage to me and the referee stopped it in 16 seconds. I caught a lot of flak from people online who have no context of who I am and by their perception or their perspective it looks like they took someone off the street who is completely untrained and put put them in a cage with someone who has trained. It's quite ridiculous yeah and so reason I share that is Most people don't know what it takes until they get a taste of it. And I had my fair taste and share of what it means to be in the octagon fighting another man. And I couldn't even showcase any skill, any training that I had really, because my body froze. You say it's good, you can say it's bad, you know, in many ways it probably saved me from copying more damage, but at the same time, there's no way I could have showcased any skill. Because after 16 seconds, it was called. This is only relevant because how long does it take to actually get noticed in whatever space you're building in? If you're truly creating something different that does connect and help people at a different level. Well, most of the time the market's not ready and they're only ready when you show them what they've been missing out all this time. And I think Apple's story of Steve Jobs, he did exactly that when he revealed the iPod and then the iPhone. You know, the market doesn't know what they want until you show them what they want. And if you really take that visionary brain and you put together something that takes a lot of thought, a lot of work and a lot of energy to make it happen. I mean, it's no wonder why people quit. There's no wonder why people give up on their dreams because You know, I'm fortunate in many cases, but fortunes are created. They're not found. I'm not doing this with an ulterior motive. You know, I've created this life. I went through five years of long distance to marry the girl that I want to marry, right? There was many trials and tribulations to get to that point. And there were many moments where I wanted to quit. and I still win, I still win for it. So I guess the point of this episode today is really not just show you or tell you. what is what the entrepreneurial journey is all about but show you how interrelated everything you do is. It's like this journey feels familiar for me because I went through it with my now wife. very different book but similar skeleton to how the book is laid out. The content of the book is different but the context is quite similar and how it makes you feel. You know, there are many times where you feel like giving up. There are many times you question, is this really the path that I'm going on? And it's really end of the day, every time you show up and you feel like you're doubting yourself or doubting the path, it's really just another way to ask yourself, how can you trust yourself a little bit deeper? How can you trust this path just a little bit more? And there are days where you get really tested. And it's not to say you can't feel your feelings, it's more to the point that you feel them but you get back on the bike. You fall off, you stand back up again and you continue. Sometimes that takes hours, sometimes it takes minutes, sometimes it takes days, sometimes it takes months to get back on. Stand back up and continue marching forward. that amount of time that it takes. That is the most important thing. Because you don't have a whole lifetime. to follow your dreams again. You have one chance to follow your dreams and those chances that you get are very few in between if you fall off the path. So yes, you have one chance, but there are many moments where maybe you'll be pushed off and you'll start questioning. and it's only a matter of time before you get back on and start moving forward. If you want to learn how you can shorten that time, that amount of time that it takes to get back on the bike, to get back walking, to get back marching forward. This is what I teach. This is what I do to show people that it's possible. If you have an injury, you don't just go in bed rest, right? You do all that you can to minimize the time window that it takes to get back. into full function, into even better functioning than you were before. Because for me, you only have one life. You might as well live it as much as you can. So, thank you for tuning in. If you found value in this episode, share it with one person. And don't forget, I have the unforgettable retreat, the unforgettable reset retreat next month happening at the end of May. It is in Melbourne, so if you live in Australia, I highly recommend you reach out and see if it's right for you. We only have nine spots, there are only eight left. So this is a retreat that's going to sell out 100%. And yeah, I can't wait to see if you're all right for it. Thanks for tuning in and I'll see you in tomorrow's episode.