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Uncommon ways that a narcissist tries to get back with you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about some uncommon ways that
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  narcissist might try to Hoover you or get back into your life,
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  get back in contact with you. Uncommon techniques.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Code. So boom, welcome back folks,
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  welcome back, welcome back. Yes, the uncommon techniques
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  that a narcissist or toxic person will use to try to Hoover
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  you back into their lives or Hoover you back make you Hoover
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  yourself back into into into their lives or whatnot.
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  But yeah, let's hop, let's hop, let's bounce.
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  All right, y'all new age ways that they can Hoover you, they
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  try to Hoover you. Now, if I miss the yo, this is
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  not we all know about the regular Hoover hoovering
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  techniques. They blow your phone up, they
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  come to your job, text messages, emails, voice notes, whatever it
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  is. We know the common techniques.
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  We know those, right? We know the common, the common
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  ones here, we're going to go over 1/2, 345677 new age
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  techniques because technology exists and whatnot.
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  Some of them don't involve technology.
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  All right, The first technique is going to be the financial
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  apps. The financial apps.
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  The very first technique is going to be them using the
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  financial apps to try to disrupt you or to get back into your
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  life. This happens quite a bit to a
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  lot of people, right? This right here really can't
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  happen to so many different people like where they will
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  absolutely use cash app, Venmo, PayPal, whatever the new apps
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  are. Zale I might have missed some
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  your banking app or whatever it is to try to Hoover you back
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  into your life like the most uncomp I know people have have
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  been sending y'all money. Some of them will send you money
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  on cash app with the messages attached to it.
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  Unblock me, Bay. I'm sorry for cheating on you.
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  The cheeks wasn't even that good.
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  You know what I mean? Whatever it says like they bite
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  the cheeks that I clap. We're not as good as yours.
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  I promise you they were not. I promise you, please forgive
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  me. Whatever it may do, whatever it
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  may seem like, this is what they're going through.
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  This is what they're doing. This is what they have going on,
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  right? I would say this right here.
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  This is what a lot of abusers do.
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  This is what a lot of manipulators do.
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  They will absolutely try to exhaust you in these spaces and
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  we're not right. They will absolutely try to send
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  you money to get back into life and try to get you to reach out
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  to them, but this is uncommon right here.
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  Other day I talked to a woman right her narcissist.
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  The ex is pretty much a bum, like literally a bum.
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  He's requesting money to send messages and he's not.
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  He's requesting money. He's requesting like a couple of
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  pennies on PayPal to send a long winded message.
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  It's like it's crazy. It was great.
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  I've never seen it before. I'm like, wow, that's that's
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  what inspired this video. I was like, wait, what the hell?
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  He's requesting money. I've seen people send money.
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  He's requesting it. Wow, You know what I mean.
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  That was blew my mind a little bit.
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  Y'all ain't gonna lie to you. I was like, wait, what idiot?
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  What blew my damn mind when it when it started to happen right
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  there. I was like, wow, requesting my
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  I've seen sending money, but I'm not requesting money.
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  So watch out for the financial app Hoover, y'all.
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  The next one number two is mail, regular mail, snail mail.
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  Well, they'll mail you letters. You see what I'm saying?
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  They'll mail you letters or mail you send you stuff in the mail.
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  They'll, they'll do things like that, y'all.
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  They'll send you letters in the mail, do stuff like, and really
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  realistically like start signing you up for different magazine
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  subscriptions and things like that.
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  They will use your, they'll use your e-mail or something like
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  that to sign you up for different subscriptions and to,
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  to get your attention because you know it's them, you're like,
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  who the hell knows this e-mail? You know it's them like your,
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  your private e-mail that you just use with them or your phone
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  number or something like that. They'll mail you stuff, y'all.
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  They absolutely will. They'll mail you stuff.
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  They'll send you long written handwritten letters, or they'll
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  ChatGPT. They'll do something to ChatGPT
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  and then write it down to make it seem like they themselves
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  came up with it because they're not authentic people.
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  They do this type of stuff right here all the time, y'all.
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  So this is what you have to be careful of and be wary of right
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  here. Like keeping an eye, like
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  seriously keeping an eye on the mail because they will try to
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  use the mail, the mailing Hoover to try to get you back the next
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  one. Y'all I got written now right
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  here is what I'm looking at. Right here is the kids.
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  They will leave notes with your children.
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  They will leave notes in your children.
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  Y'all exchanging the kids and whatnot.
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  They'll leave like little notes in the kids lunch boxes or
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  backpacks or own like you're doing a parallel parenting.
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  Y'all exchange a notebook of what's going on.
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  They will leave notes in there about how they miss you and they
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  love you. They wish, wish things didn't
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  have to be this way. Why can't we be civilized and
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  adults and talk normally? Why can't we do that?
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  You see what I'm saying? Or they'll just tell your kids
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  tell mommy I miss her tell daddy that I love him.
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  I still miss him. They'll do stuff like that.
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  They'll use your kids. They'll they'll be extremely
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  manipulative to try to get your kids back into to try to who
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  were you? Who were you using your
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  children, which is horrible. People are horrible.
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  Y'all people are bad. These are bad.
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  These are bad people. These are very bad people.
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  Who says who says that all who says they don't take replay.
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  These are very bad people. They're quick, they're bringing,
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  you know, they're they're using the kids to bring the drugs.
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  Oh my goodness. But yeah, they will absolutely
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  use the kids in these situations and whatnot else they got to be
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  very weary, very cognizant of them of using them trying to use
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  the kids. They'll tell the kids and tell
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  the kids to pass you a message and whatnot.
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  The third way that I have written down right here, y'all,
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  this is no particular order is fake profiles.
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  Yes, they will use fake profiles on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok,
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  whatever the social media platform is.
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  They will use those fake profiles to try to get back into
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  your life, right? They'll do that right?
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  They'll, they'll consistently do that type of stuff.
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  But this right here, there's a caveat to this.
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  Some of these narcissistic people will use those fake
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  profiles not to, not to reach out as themselves.
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  They'll reach out as someone else.
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  They'll create a fake profile to reach out as someone else, to
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  try to get you to reach out to your ex, to try to get you to
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  break no contact, to try to test to see if you have somebody else
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  in your life, to see if you're entertaining other people.
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  I've heard this story before. When I'm doing, when I do my
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  coaching, my 101's a resume, mental illness.net.
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  When I do my coaching, 10101's a resume.
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  I hear people all the time say, yeah, I was on a dating app.
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  I matched with this person on a dating app.
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  It turns out it was my ex in disguise.
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  My ex had created a fake dating profile to try to talk to me
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  because I got half them blocked everywhere.
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  I have a restraining order. I have this, I have that they
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  created a fake profile on a dating app to reach out to me to
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  get me to, to, to try to get to try to Hoover me and try to get
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  me to break no contact. That has happened to some
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  people, y'all. That's something you have to be
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  cognizant and and weary of as well, y'all, because they will
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  absolutely use these dating apps that you will use fake profiles
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  to reach out, not ask them. They will reach out as someone
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  else. So be very weary of them.
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  I'm not trying to make you all paranoid like this person.
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  I'm talking to my ex, you know, I'm not telling you.
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  Sometimes you might have to use the old, the old catfish, the
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  old method to bring a catfish to just have them hold up a
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  newspaper or something like that.
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  I'm gonna hold up my I'm gonna hold up my remarkable tablet.
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  Do it like this. These are my, these are my video
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  ideas. Don't take my video ideas.
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  They'll do it like this. Have them hold up a newspaper on
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  today's date and smiling and say your name in the video or
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  something like that. If they don't, if they're not
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  willing to do that, it might be your ex.
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  They might be trying to catfish you.
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  The next way I have written down right here y'all is the old
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  movie profile username hack right where they change their
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  usernames like on Netflix or Hulu or what is it the Prime
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  Video Peacock Disney plus Amazon, Fandango Hulu voodoo.
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  They'll change their profile names on there.
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  If they still have access to your to the movie apps or
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  whatever they'll change your profile name to a message to try
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  to get you to reach out unblock me Bay.
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  I still love you and miss you. You never cared about me, you
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  never loved me, You never did this, you never did that.
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  You have to be very weary and very careful in these spaces
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  right here, y'all? This is the mindset, this is the
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  mentality that so many people face and go through right here.
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  Like seriously, like you have to be very careful because they
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  will absolutely start doing this.
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  So if it's your profile, change the username, change the
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  password. If it's theirs, you might want
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  to get your own because if it's their profile, you still have
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  access to their HBO Max or whatever it is, they're going to
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  use that against you. Why wouldn't they change?
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  Why wouldn't they try to send you a message?
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  If you're using their stuff, they're going to try to send you
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  a message. They're going to feel entitled
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  to send you a message right there, y'all, So be very wary of
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  that right there because that can happen too.
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  The next thing that I will say the next way that they will try
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  to Hoover you there you go, is through the security system.
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  No, no security, no security system.
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  Hoover happens y'all Whenever we try to reach out to you through
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  whatever security system that you use, they will absolutely
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  try to reach out to you through whatever security system that
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  you're currently using. They will try to reach out to
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  you through that. They'll try to reach out to you
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  through Ring doorbell like you in the house.
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  You'll be leaving and they'll try to talk to you through the
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  doorbell like you'll be leaving. They'll try to talk to you
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  through the doorbell. They'll try to do stuff like
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  that all the time to you. They really truly will.
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  They'll try to they will try their hardest to try to
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  manipulate you to try to get you.
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  They'll try to like they'll be watching you.
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  Sometimes they won't say anything, they'll just watch
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  you, but sometimes they'll message you after watching you
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  and ask you what you're doing. Hey, what are you?
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  What are you? Who's that that you came to the
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  house with? Or they'll try to let the last
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  ditch effort to try to change the passwords on the door, the
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  security, security cab system. So you have to reach out to
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  them. They like they have access to
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  your security camera in your house, your doorbell in your
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  house, but they don't they no longer live there.
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  There that's in control. That's a Hoover attack that
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  right there. Y'all to just try to get you to
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  reach out to them to talk to them.
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  So be very careful with that as well.
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  And the last one I have right here, y'all, there could be
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  more. I might do a Part 2 if I can
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  think of some other other unusual ones.
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  The last one I have right here is changing the songs in your
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  playlist. If they have access to your
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  Spotify, your Apple playlist, whatever, whatever you use, the
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  podcast, whatever you use, if a podcast is Spotify or whatever,
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  they can try to change their stuff.
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  They can try to change yourself to bat to batch them.
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  They can they can try to change the stuff that you have.
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  They can try to change your stuff to match them.
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  What I say. They can try to change songs to
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  your playlist like I miss you songs, I love you songs.
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  They can try to change the songs to their favorite song to make
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  you think about them. They can try to like upload
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  podcasts with your name on them attached to them sending you
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  sending you messages like that. They can start uploading
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  podcasts on your Spotify and it's their podcast where they're
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  just trying to send you a voice note or a voice message.
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  They'll leave comments on your playlist or whatever.
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  They can do it as well, y'all. So be very careful if any of
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  these that happen to you, y'all, leave them in the comment
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  section. I'm just super curious if any of
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  these or anything I've missed like some unusual ones that I've
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  missed. What's the most unusual way that
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  you've gotten hoovered or hoovering attempt where they try
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  to get you to reach out to them as well, y'all?
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  I heard counsel, I heard counseling, the car insurance or
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  counseling to turn the lights off, whatever, turn it into
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  disconnected. The Wi-Fi, I've heard a few
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  different ones. Anyway, y'all be safe.
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