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5 Ways to tell if your partner is cheating on you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about ways that you can tell when a
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  narcissist is cheating on you. The dreaded cheating narcissist
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  Y'all. Yes, yes, yes.
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  How can you tell when that dastardly narcissist is cheating
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  on you, or thinking about cheating on you, or wanting to
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  cheat on you, or, I mean, probably has cheated on you and
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  whatnot? Y'all.
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  It's considering looking for new supply.
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  How can you tell? Like what are different ways
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  that you can tell and a narcissist is considering it
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  because that that's I mean or when they have already done it
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  because a lot of people ask me this question like that you have
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  the the the itching suspicion that your narcissistic partner
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  is cheating on you. You have you feel it in your
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  bones. Your intuition is kicking in and
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  whatnot and you just you like OK, how do I how do I tell this
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  how can I tell this you know and a lot of people.
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  So the first the 1st way, I would just say y'all is
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  literally to trust your intuition.
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  Yeah, if you if they are are changing up their patterns and
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  things of that nature and you just get the the the the sinking
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  feeling that you're being cheated on or they're they they
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  are entertaining someone else. Y'all just trust your intuition.
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  I know some people need that physical proof, but trust your
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  intuition. I'm not.
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  I'm not. And this, this is not me telling
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  you to leave your relationship on a hunch or intuition.
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  This is me. Just saying, if you're getting
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  signs and signals from the universe and say, hey, this
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  person is cheating on you, hey, this person has cheated on you,
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  you know, You know what I mean? Just trust it.
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  Why? So yeah, why so many people
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  would just ignore their intuition, ignore their, you
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  know, a cop, a cop would call it a hunch.
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  So many people ignore this, this hunch.
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  So many people ignore their intuitions and they end up like
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  giving in to that narcissist or toxic person.
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  They just really, really starting to do that.
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  So trust your intuition, Trusted.
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  You know, I'm not asking you, this is not me telling you to
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  question them. But sometimes if you ask them a
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  simple question, are you cheating on me?
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  What's their reaction? Their reaction will tell you a
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  lot of things that you need to know.
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  Their their their physical reaction and their verbal
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  reaction can tell you a lot of things that you need to know as
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  well. And I always tell people in
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  these situations, never. If you decide to ask this
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  question to them they like, use discretion because you know you
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  never know how people will react if you decide to ask.
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  Don't do this over text message. Don't do this with it.
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  Like don't do like if you don't ask them, are they cheating on
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  you or have they cheated on you? Don't ask them over text
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  messages when they are, when they got a lot of time to think.
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  You know, because text messages are very easy to just, you know,
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  you give him time to make him a lie.
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  You give them time to control their reactions.
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  You give them time to think of him, to let the other person
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  know that you're that you might be onto it.
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  If they know about you, you know you're giving them time you
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  you're giving them the opportunity to go out there and
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  manipulate you to to take this time to do more, you know.
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  So don't don't send it through text messages unless you just
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  saying hey, I know you're cheating BA.
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  Unless it's a goodbye message that when you tell them you
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  leaving out of movement or something like that, sending
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  that text message just allows them to lie to you.
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  You know what I mean. Or talking to them over the
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  phone just allows them to lie to you like I always if you go, if
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  you're going to do this, which I really don't highly recommend,
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  they will just so you can see their actual physical reactions
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  in person to see what they're going to, how they're going to
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  do. Text message is such a
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  disconnected form of communication that you give them
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  the opportunity to just make them a lie or manipulate you or
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  just we'll talk about, we'll talk about this when I get home.
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  And it's like noon. They don't get home to 7:00 PM.
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  It has seven hours to think about it.
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  Well, if y'all long distance don't long distance, then they
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  had forever to think about it, you know.
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  So just consider that right there within this space, another
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  way that you can tell you kind of tell if a narcissist she's on
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  you their behaviours. I know I spoke about the
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  intuition and just asking them, but their behaviours will tell
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  you everything that you need to know.
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  Y'all a current, a a shift in their behaviours.
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  Like a like a a very quick shift through their behaviors can tell
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  you everything that you need to know about this person.
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  Like they just start acting differently or moving
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  differently. Coming home later, not
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  responding to you as much as soon as soon as they used to.
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  You know what I mean? Like going hanging out with
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  friends that you can't. Hanging out with friends that
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  you can't meet, Going to different places, coming home,
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  smelling different, smelling like some freshly clapped
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  cheeks, you know what I mean? If they do that right there,
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  then it gives you, like I said, you can just watch their
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  behaviours. You can feel it because these
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  behaviours a lot of times will set off your intuition.
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  It's when they're they, it's when they start doing things
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  with their Apple, with their Apple Watches or iPads or things
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  like that. They start, they start changing
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  their passwords on their phone. They start becoming secretive
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  with their phone, phones upside down or locked in a safe when
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  they go to sleep. Phone is just like they just
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  super guarded over their phone. I know people going to say, well
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  like we'll leave your phone as privacy, blah blah blah.
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  Yeah, you can tell when somebody's doing some bullshit
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  on their phone, you know what I mean?
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  I don't understand if there's a privacy aspect to things like
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  that. But if they'd be, if they're
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  sleeping with their phone in a in a locked up safe on silent,
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  do not disturb with a a biometric lock and a password,
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  then come on, now they they come on now.
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  There's a difference between privacy and secrecy.
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  Secrecy is when they start being they.
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  It's like they're keeping a damn secret, when they're hiding
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  things from you, when they're doing stuff like that.
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  There's a difference between privacy and secrecy.
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  Don't just like, oh, they deserve their privacy, you know?
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  Come on, y'all they being secrecy They had, they being
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  secretive. They are watch their behaviours.
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  They'll start loving you less, they'll start baby let less pet
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  names, they'll start calling you by your real name.
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  They'll become very disconnected from you, very dismissive of
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  you, you know what I mean? The love is not the same
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  anymore. You can tell.
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  You can tell if there's a shift in their behaviours.
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  They started becoming like they started like they removed
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  themselves from you. They don't hug you anymore.
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  They don't want to even touch you anymore.
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  They don't tell you I love you anymore.
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  You know, you you would say something like, hey babe, you
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  haven't. You haven't told me that you
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  love me in a while. Why?
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  I don't need to say it all the time.
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  You should already know that I've loved because I'm here.
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  Wow. Insecure.
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  Much insecure much, you say. That's why I'm just telling you
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  right now. You know, as a person trying to
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  help you to just watch their damn behaviours because they
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  will tell you everything that they need to know.
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  Y'all, please, please, please watch their behaviours.
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  Please. They become secret hiding things
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  like coming home, like like changing their pathway, like
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  you're finding another person's hair.
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  Just like yeah, why is their behaviours like please watch how
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  they act of a current shifting their behaviours.
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  Could it be from stress? Yes it could be from some it
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  could be some kind of from some type of extenuating
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  circumstance. But a lot of times in
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  extenuating circumstance doesn't require them hiding their phone.
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  It's it's like yo, it's the totality of their behaviours
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  changing. Not just one little behaviour,
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  it's the totality. It's it's like a multitude of
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  their behaviours changing. They change what they would do,
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  the way they they sort of change the way they dress.
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  They sort of change the way they talk to you, change the way they
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  act around you Coming home late. You see the totality of all of
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  that makes it gives them the the kind of gives the outlook that
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  they're cheating on you and whatnot really seriously, you
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  know, I just just watch their behaviours, especially if you
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  combine the two, the two techniques I was just talking
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  about, like asking them, if you ask them are they cheating on
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  you or if there's something, something going on or there is
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  someone else. Watch their behaviours, then
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  watch their I was talking watch their micro expressions, y'all
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  learn micro expressions because people's mouths can lie, their
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  mouth, their mouth and their tongues can lie, but their eyes,
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  you know, their eye twitches and their mouths, you know, smizing
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  and stuff like that. Their nose can't lie.
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  Body, sudden body, sudden body tweaks and twitches and things
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  of that nature. They cannot lie.
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  They can't, they cannot lie to you like watch, look up, micro
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  expression, look up videos over you, micro expressions.
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  Because they they will just tell you every day everything that
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  you need to know about this person you know and another way
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  that you can tell if a narcissist is cheating on you.
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  Oh, if the other person reaches out this right here, be blowing
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  my mind right here, this right here.
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  Just like seriously, I feel like, goodness, I didn't want to
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  have to do this, but I really, seriously feel a rant bubble
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  coming on right now. Y'all have got to stop letting
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  people play in your damn faces for real.
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  Like come to hell on now like the new somebody else reaches
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  out to you, coming to you as a man, coming to you as a woman,
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  and sending you evidence and screenshots and videos of your
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  partner cheating like Active Active Proof.
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  Stop letting your partner gaslight you or lie to you to
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  make it seem like the oh the other person is lying.
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  Sometimes the new supplier might not know about you and decide to
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  come tell your ass that you're being cheated on, getting your
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  face played in, You know, sometimes they will do that and
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  then y'all should y'all will show the your narcissistic
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  partner and they'll be like, Oh no babe, no, there's crazy.
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  They're crazy. Go ahead and block them.
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  There's an ex. There's my friend's friend.
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  That's somebody I met a long time ago that I told that I
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  didn't want them to. I didn't want to do anything
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  with them because I loved you so much.
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  It's just they're they're they're no just block them right
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  now. I'll message them right Don't
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  ever talk to them again because they're just trying to ruin
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  things. Y'all.
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  Won't let them talk you out of this type of stuff right now.
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  That ends today. If you're watching this video
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  and somebody else just reaches out to you with evidence, like
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  actual evidence, solid evidence and proof we are not letting you
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  are not letting your narcissistic partner gaslight
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  your ass and to believe so the the stupid shit that comes out
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  of their mouth, you know what I mean?
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  We're not letting them gaslight you to believe this stupidity
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  that is oozing from their mouth. The crazy ass lies that they
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  could, they could make up right now.
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  We're not doing that anymore. You know what I mean?
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  We're not doing that anymore this year or for the rest of
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  your life. You like.
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  They like narcissists love making you look stupid, I
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  promise you. They love getting away with
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  stuff. They love being able to lie to
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  you, not lie to the new supply. You know, you know what I'm
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  saying? Just watching these techniques
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  and watching like sometimes the new supply will reach out.
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  Yeah, I I know some of y'all are you trauma bonded and things
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  like that. But that's this is beyond the
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  fact you can be trauma bonded and still not let somebody
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  gaslight you. You know, you can be trauma
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  about it and still like like not let someone question your
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  reality. Like seriously, seriously, in
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  the last way that I will go over today about how narcissists, how
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  you can tell if a narcissist is cheating on you, sometimes is or
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  has cheated on you is if they start accusing you out of
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  nowhere. This is part of the behavior
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  dynamics. But if they start accusing you
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  of cheating out of nowhere, like you haven't done anything, your
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  patterns have been the same. You haven't switched anything
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  up. Like all of a sudden out of
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  nowhere they started getting paranoid and just are you
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  cheating on me? Is there something going on?
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  You have someone else, like out of nowhere.
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  It's like a damn, like it's literally out of nowhere.
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  If they start doing this type of stuff out of nowhere, then they
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  a lot of times, Not all the time, but a lot of times.
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  The accusations of a narcissistic person are really
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  confession. They're confessing to you, you
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  know, they'll they're confessing to you by accusing you of what
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  they are doing. Like seriously, like seriously,
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  they they are. They're confessing to you of
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  what they are actually doing by accusing you of it.
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  You know, you really, really can't.
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  That's it. They're they're projecting what
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  they're doing unto you out of nowhere.
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  They started, like they say, out of nowhere.
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  They started to start accusing you.
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  And like I said again, it's the totality of everything.
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  They start accusing you and then the behavior, the behaviors are
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  changing. You saw that You ask them and
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  then they start acting the monkey.
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  You see what I'm saying? You see what I'm saying?
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  That's that's what happens. So if they start accusing you
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  out of nowhere cheating, they're probably cheating.
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  And one more, one more bonus way.
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  What's this? Five right here.
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  One more bonus way. The 5th way is.
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  Yeah, the 5th way they tell us if a narcissist or a toxic
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  person is cheating on you is them telling you themselves in a
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  subtle way. Not them just confessing to you
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  outright because sometimes they'll confess to you, but them
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  telling on themselves in a subtle way them telling you a
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  crazy ass story about somebody else in their life cheating
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  about somebody else in their life cheating their brother is
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  cheating. Their friend at work is
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  cheating. They can't believe that this guy
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  at the bar just came out of nowhere and told told them a
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  stranger how they were cheating on their wife and got away with
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  it and they just feel bad they are.
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  Again, this is a different form of projection, but they confess
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  to you by covering up with somebody, covering it up with a
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  story of somebody else doing it, or as a joke.
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  As a joke what What would you do if I cheated on you?
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  I'm not though. Just kidding.
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  I'm not cheating. Just just want to see what you
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  do so be careful. Be very very weary of that.
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  Y'all. Anyways, I know this video has
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  ran on longer do I like I don't really like for them to go.
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