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What's the easiest way to destroy a narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about the number one tool that
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  you need to destroy a narcissistic person to destroy a
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  narcissist. The number one thing that you
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  can have your toolbox, the tool belt to destroy a narcissist.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and went to another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. Boom.
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  Welcome back, folks. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. The number one tool that you
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  need to destroy a narcissist. How to destroy a narcissist, How
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  to hurt a narcissist. So let me preface this video
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  out. This is not about physically
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  hurt a narcissist because like the last time I did a video
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  similar to this, people just hopped in a conversation like
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  Wooly, there's not a video out there talk about how to destroy
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  an empath. So why are you singling out
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  narcissist? Yeah, narcissistic people tend
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  to destroy impasse. You don't need to.
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  You don't need a a guide on how to do that, right.
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  There's no guidebook needed because narcissistic people tend
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  to drain and destroy physically, mentally, emotionally empathetic
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  people, compassionate people, like vulnerable people.
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  That's not just like you don't need a guidebook on doing it.
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  It just it just happens. It's like an innate an innate
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  behavior for narcissistic people to do this right, to do to
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  destroy empathetic people. So this is not a guide book.
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  It is not just how to you know, well, how like you just feel
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  like you stigmatize it. I can't make everybody happy and
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  I'm just like, I'm over trying to just please, please,
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  everybody. Lee, change you say change what
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  you say this change. I can't do it everybody.
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  Y'all, I'm just going to be me. I've been me for over almost
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  five years now on this on these platforms.
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  I'm going to keep being me. I got to put me first.
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  I got to put me first, Luis. I got to put me first.
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  I got to put me first. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's the mentality. But I'll say this right here.
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  Y'all the easiest way, the one, the number one thing that you
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  need to destroy a narcissist is to make them feel shame, shame,
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  shame them. SHAME, shame is a great
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  provocation for narcissistic people.
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  It sets them off like of course, use discretion.
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  I should've said that first. Shouldn't I use discretion when
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  you are trying to shame somebody, right?
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  This is not me just trying to tell you to go home.
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  And just like Lee, Lee gave me the tool to defeat my partner.
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  No, I'm not trying to get you due to that.
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  I'm just trying to say this is how you like they, they're
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  trying to destroy you. So sometimes it's OK to fight
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  back. Use discretion.
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  Use user discretion is is advice.
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  Do you know what I'm saying? User discretion is advice.
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  Kind of like viewer discretion is advice.
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  User discretion is advice. Shame them, y'all?
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  Shame is a great provocation for narcissist.
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  They narcissist the people and it's gonna sound, it's gonna
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  sound weird. Narcissists don't want to seem
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  like bad people. They don't want to feel like a
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  bad person. They want to be viewed as bad
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  people no matter what they have done.
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  Well, Lee, that sounds stupid as hell.
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  If they didn't want to be viewed as a bad person, then why do
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  they keep doing bad things? Some of it is in lack of impulse
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  control. Some of it is selfishness.
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  Some of it is just lack of discipline.
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  There's a lot of different reasons why they can't that why
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  narcissists behave and treat people badly, right?
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  Some of the some of it is going to sound crazy is in
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  self-defense to protect themselves from shame.
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  They do shameful things to cover up other shameful things.
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  It sounds stupid but it's true. But I'll say that to say this
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  right here. Y'all narcissistic people.
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  Like just bring shame into their life.
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  Introduce them to shame. Holy how do you make them feel
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  shame? Y'all just tell them something
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  negative about themselves. Like what the hell.
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  Like it don't take much to shame a narcissist.
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  Tell them the truth. Like literally.
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  It's going to sound stupid but literally you could.
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  In order to shame a narcissist, to make them feel ashamed, all
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  you got to do is tell them the damn truth about themselves.
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  Tell them the truth about themselves.
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  Tell them the truth. Tell them you know who they
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  really are. I see through the BSI, see
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  through the mask. I see through the the bravado.
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  You ain't shit. I know exactly who you are.
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  You're nobody. You're nothing.
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  You never will be anybody. You see what I'm saying?
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  Shame them. Tell them the truth about
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  themselves. Even if they are successful and
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  you tell them this money don't make you this money don't make
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  you a better person. You are evil human being.
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  You're still a horrible person. You're still super insecure.
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  You buy all this stuff to cover up the the the the crappy
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  exterior that you that you are exuding to the world like you a
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  horrible human being. Money don't make you a good
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  person. There's a lot of rich, evil
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  people out there. Evil, evil.
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  I feel like most of the people, I feel like most of the evil
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  people are rich. It's kind of crazy.
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  Or because they're richer, so they is is more pronounced.
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  I would say there's some evil poor people too.
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  So, but like Lee, you jealous of rich people?
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  Yeah. I'm trying to be a rich person.
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  I'm trying to be rich. Hey, I'm trying to be a good
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  rich person. Let me be a good rich person,
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  You know what I mean? I'm trying to help people.
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  You know what I mean? That's why I'm trying to help as
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  many people as I possibly can. But just a lot of times you can
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  just literally tell them the truth about themselves, Make
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  them feel shame. Like tell them the truth about
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  themselves. Tell them that you see through
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  the mass, the crappy exterior. You see, you know who they
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  really are. I know what kind of man you are.
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  Y'all see that from Walking Dead with the old dude that looked at
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  Shane in the first, first season.
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  He's like, I know what kind of man you are.
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  And Shane was like, yeah, sometimes you can just look them
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  up and down and tell them, you know exactly what type of person
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  that they are. Seriously, seriously, this is
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  how it goes. This is this is how it, this is
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  the part of it. This is the piece of it, right?
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  Narcissistic people are always going to keep doing this type of
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  stuff, always going to keep exhibiting these type of toxic
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  gas behaviors. This is the mentality, this is
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  the mindset that goes into it, right?
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  I tell people, I tell people all the time, this is what you're
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  going to experience. Shame them, make them feel like
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  a bad person, But what Leave. I told them about themselves and
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  it set them all. What can I do?
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  Yeah, sometimes the way to shame a darsus is tell them how they
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  how they. Be truthful with them about how
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  you feel. Talk about your feelings.
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  That's why we try to bring This is why when you try to bring up
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  your feelings to a narcissist, they try to shut you down.
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  They don't want to hear it because they know that they're
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  treating you badly and they don't want to hear it because
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  they hear how badly they're treating you.
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  They start to feel like a bad person.
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  The shame starts to creep in and beats them down and makes them
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  feel this damn big. That's why when you say I want,
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  can we talk about my feelings? They'll shut you the hell down.
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  Like hell no, we're not talking about your feelings.
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  What the hell am I do with that? What am I do with these
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  feelings? Hell no.
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  Hell no, Hell no. This is the mindset.
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  This is the mentality that you've experienced.
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  This is what you're going to continue to experience.
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  Narcissistic people are almost always going to feel shame when
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  you try to talk about your feelings or because believe they
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  don't get really get mad at me or they don't feel bad.
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  Yeah. If they are not willing to have
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  a conversation with you about how you're treating them, then
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  they, yes, they understand that they're not treating you how you
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  need to be treated. That's why they try to keep it
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  private. Yeah, they try to keep it
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  private because they know that if people saw how they were
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  treating you, that people would shun them, that they will be
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  shunned, They will be shut down. There's a truth to that right
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  there, that people will shut them down and tell them and look
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  at them and view them in a negative light.
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  They don't want to be viewed in a negative light by any way,
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  shape or form. So a lot of times you can just
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  talk to them about how they're treating you and they will make
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  them feel ashamed. That's how you destroy a
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  narcissist. That's how you defeat them.
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  That's how you hurt them, right. Tell them how they're treating
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  the kids. Tell them the kids are afraid of
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  them because it could be true. Again, y'all use discretion when
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  you're doing this. These are just yeah, this is a
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  tactics. You might not even.
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  These are tactics that you might not ever use, but it's just good
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  to have them in your book bag, right?
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  Have them in your little, your little empathetic book bag, your
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  little, your little handy dandy look bad.
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  These straps on it, right? This is the mentality, this is
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  how it goes. So I tell this to people all the
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  time, you, this is how you have to experience it.
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  This is how you have to empower yourself.
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  This is how you have to be as strong as you possibly can
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  because you have to like just tell them straight up, just
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  like, hey, look, the kids don't like you.
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  The kids are afraid of you. They don't want to go with you.
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  They don't want to come to your house.
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  They don't want to. They don't want to be around
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  you. They don't want to talk to you.
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  They don't feel safe with you. The shame that creeps in right
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  there, that would hurt me. All of, I mean, all of this
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  stuff would hurt me because I've worked, even though I've worked
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  on myself, this stuff would still make me feel ashamed.
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  So absolutely make me feel ashamed.
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  Yeah, make them feel ashamed. How about the kids?
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  How did you how bad a parent they are you if they have a if
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  they have mommy or daddy issues, literally all you just tell them
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  you're just like your mother. You're just like your father,
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  the Debbie mom, the abusive, the Debbie mom, abusive mom, Debbie
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  dad, abusive dad. You just like them, make them
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  feel ashamed right there. It just bring shame into their
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  life. It just does again, y'all use
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  discretion. You don't have to do these
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  tactics. This is something you have in
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  your book bag right? A lot of y'all, y'all not build
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  like that anyway. This is just you know you have
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  it in your book bag right? Because they keep saying hurtful
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  stuff to you. It's sometimes it's OK to fight
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  back. Y'all be realistic.
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  I'm not telling you to go out here and just pull off your
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  sword and fight back that way, but sometimes it's OK to fight
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  back. You don't have to like, just
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  because you consider yourself an empath or whatever highly
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  sensitive person, whatever the case may be, doesn't mean you
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  have to be a pushover. Hell no they don't.
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  Those things are not those things.
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  Those terms do not have to be synonymous, right?
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  They don't have to be synonymous, synonymous.
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  Empath and pushover don't have to go together, right?
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  Hell now so you can fight back sometimes, right?
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  Tell them how bad a person they are, how bad you know, how bad a
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  father they are, how bad a mother they are.
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  Like this type of stuff hurts narcissists and brains shame
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  into their life. Expose them.
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  That's that's the best way, right?
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  I mean that's the best probably the best way right there.
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  It's to literally expose their ass again.
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  Use the scratch and how people can try to clip the videos like
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  Lee trying to get people hurt. No, I keep telling you how to
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  use discretion or don't do this at all.
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  These are just tips. You don't have to do them.
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  This is not me Lee. Lee told me to go.
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  Lee told me gave me marching orders and told me to go shame
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  my part. No, he hell he didn't.
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  After every statement he made, he didn't say use discretion,
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  don't do it. This is just, this is just me
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  just venting in my mind right here, right?
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  Because sometimes you just have to make them feel shame.
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  You have to just bring it up like that to make them feel bad
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  about themselves because they, they could absolutely be
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  horrible human beings, you know, but they don't want the world to
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  know that they are a horrible human being.
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  They absolutely do not want the world to know how horrible of a
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  person that they are. Sometimes that's the best way to
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  go by doing it is just show them how horrible they are.
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  Record them like you'll make them feel ashamed if they, if
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  you ever, ever have a recording of them yelling and screaming at
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  you, play that. Play that back to them.
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  You never yelled and screaming at me.
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  Got something for you right here, Rah.
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  Play the video. Show me the video.
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  Play recording. They'll absolutely bring shame
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  into their life again. This could upset them.
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  This could trigger them. This could do so much stuff to
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  them. So of course, these can make
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  them turn into a very dangerous person.
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  You know them better than I know them.
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  Use discretion. You be safe, take care of
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  yourself. This is just you know, to help
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  you all fight back if you ever decide you want to fight back
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  and bring some bring a little bring a little razzle dazzle
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  razzle dazzle to the relationship, so to speak.
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