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Why Being VULNERABLE Makes You a Magnet for Narcissists · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful folks, beautiful
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  people. Lee Hammock, your favorite
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  diagnosed narcissist. Here, another live chat.
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  Today we're talking about why you should not date when you are
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  in a vulnerable state, when you are heartbroken, when you are
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  feeling down, when you are freshly healing from a
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  relationship. Doesn't have to be a toxic
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  relationship. When you are freshly healing
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  from a relationship, you should not be out here dating.
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  Look, yeah, there is a reason. There's a good reason why people
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  tell you to not date, to not not try to go.
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  Don't go grocery shopping when you're hungry, right?
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  They tell you straight up like, do not go grocery shopping out
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  here when you are hungry because you'll buy things that you don't
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  really want. You'll buy things that are
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  unhealthy. You'll buy all the snacks and
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  not the things that you actually need, right?
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  Because that's how it typically goes when you go grocery
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  shopping when you're hungry. You out there buying all kinds
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  of BS that you probably going to regret eating later, right?
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  So if you, if you don't go grocery shopping when you're
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  hungry, don't date when you are heartbroken.
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  I and look, I'm not telling y'all to not date at all.
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  That's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is do not go out
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  here and date when you're vulnerable.
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  Because as y'all might know, as most of y'all probably know,
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  that narcissistic people tend to be like damn near heat seeking
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  missiles for vulnerable people, for hurting impasse for people
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  looking to heal. People that are out here, This
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  is my first time out in a long time.
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  Haven't been out on a dating. That's what that's what a lot of
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  narcissistic people are dealing with.
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  That's what they're doing. They're waiting for you to get
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  out there and get get, they're picking you off.
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  You're out there hurt and vulnerable and they can smell
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  you. That you're healing, aren't you?
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  You're healing. I can smell it.
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  And then they pick you off. They get you.
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  That's literally how it goes right there.
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  They pick you off, they get you, and then they set you up.
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  That's the way it goes. That's how the that's literally
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  the mindset of a narcissist. That's how it works right there.
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  They pick you off when you are trying to feel better, when
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  you're out there looking to blow off steam, when y'all look you
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  out there blowing off steam and you're sad and you're drinking a
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  little bit and guess what? Here come little ugly.
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  Here come a little ugly narcissist to pick you off,
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  little ugly narcissist to snipe you.
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  And then I get you. And because you're vulnerable,
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  because you're in a vulnerable state, guess what ends up
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  happening? You miss red flags.
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  You just do. That's a yo, it's a natural
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  occurrence to miss red flags when you're dating, when you're
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  not ready. And I know that life can be born
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  when you are here by yourself. You're like, man, damn this,
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  this kind of boring man. I was like, I wish I had
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  somebody. I wish I had you mean, or you'll
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  have a, you'll have a friend out there that tells you, hey, the
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  best way to get over somebody is to get underneath somebody else,
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  which is horrible advice. That's the damn near the worst
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  advice you can get from somebody right there to go out there and
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  tell you the best way to heal is go sleep with somebody else
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  because that's what ends up happening.
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  You gonna go sleep with somebody else.
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  You have the you gonna have your blinders on and then you'll get
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  your heart broken again and then you'll be double healing from a
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  from 2 relationship dynamics or two liars, 2 manipulators, 2
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  horrible peoples and it was just me and it'll mess with your head
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  right there. This what ends up happening.
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  Look ugly. Narcissists look ugly, but
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  that's what it goes on, man. They're like, tell us something.
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  I I try to harp it into, I try to beat it into people's head.
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  Stop dating these horrible ass people.
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  When you like say you're not ready.
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  It's OK. Yeah, in the crazy body.
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  It's OK to not be ready. It absolutely is.
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  It's OK to not be ready. That bothers some people.
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  When I say that, it's just like, well, Lee, how do I know?
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  See, that's not fair. They, they moved on.
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  They're healing. They're doing it.
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  They're doing it like, look, stop comparing.
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  Look, comparison is the thief of joy, and it also hinders your
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  healing. That's what comparison does.
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  Comparison steals your joy and it also hinders your healing.
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  That's what goes on right there, that when you compare the
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  contrasting yourself to somebody else, guess what happens?
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  You ruin yourself because you're worried about whatever everybody
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  else is doing. So you're trying to compare
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  yourself to a narcissist because they're out there doing their
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  thing. They're out there doing whatever
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  and you're comparing yourself to them.
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  And guess what? It it ruins you.
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  It sets you up for failure. It just does.
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  It hinders you. You go out here, they move on
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  quickly. So why don't I you go out here
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  and move on quickly and then guess what ends up happening?
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  You get your feelings hurt, you take you put the blinders on and
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  you go out here and get manipulated by somebody that's
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  not even trying to you get you get manipulated by a rookie
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  manipulator. Somebody's not even good at
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  manipulation. They get you, they catch you off
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  guard because you're not ready for it, right?
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  That's what ends up happening. You're welcome.
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  Always happy to help. Always happy to help.
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  That's what ends up happening in this space right there.
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  We got to tell Bianca not to do. Let's scroll up.
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  I'm literally starting back up a relationship with my ex-husband.
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  I have to get out of a narcissist.
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  I have to get out of a narcissist relationship.
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  I don't know what's happening you you are starting a
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  relationship with your ex-husband to get out of a
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  relationship or to get over. I'm confused, but I'm confused
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  by the premise of that. Is your ex-husband the Detoxi 1?
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  It's like my ex-husband was waiting on this relationship.
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  Oh, you were in another relationship and you No, no, no,
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  hell no slow. You got to slow down.
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  You can't hop on one one relationship into another one.
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  That's not how it worked. Don't do that.
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  I don't know even know the relationship dynamics, but I'm
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  just I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't do that right there.
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  Right. He said I just got out of a
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  narcissistic relationship and in the last two weeks have started
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  back up in an emotional relationship with exit.
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  That's too, you know, that's too quick.
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  That's too fast. You're about to set yourself up.
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  You're you're you're you haven't healed from the narcissistic
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  relationship. So he's your ex for a reason.
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  I'm not saying that he's a horrible person, but that's your
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  ex-husband for a reason, isn't it?
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  Is it not? There's a reason that's your ex.
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  I would just say slow down. I would say slow down.
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  That's me. That's me, right?
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  I would just say, hey, pump the brakes a little bit because
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  you're about to set yourself up for failure right here.
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  There. There's no benefit in moving,
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  trying to move on so quickly, right?
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  And sometimes when sometimes when you're hurting and when
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  you're getting out of a narcissistic relationship, it's
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  easy to go to what you know, right?
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  You go to what you know. Well, I know my ex.
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  I know what to expect. At least maybe I can get
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  something out of this. No, no.
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  That's how you set yourself up right there.
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  That's literally how you set yourself up.
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  That's how that's 100% how you set yourself up right there.
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  You don't you, you don't want to get into that space right there
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  where you're setting yourself up because you're lonely, right?
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  If y'all just join the live from YouTube, make sure y'all hit the
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  thumbs up button, hit the thumbs up, drop a comment.
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  I'm gonna do AQ and a in a little bit y'all, I promise and
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  whatnot. But yeah, don't do not date.
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  We vulnerable, y'all, Because like when I say vulnerable, like
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  it's vulnerability does not just mean healing from a touched
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  relationship, right? Vulnerability could also mean,
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  like I said, getting fired from a job, you're vulnerable, right?
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  Periods of loneliness, like you didn't have to go be going
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  through a breakup. You could just be lonely.
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  That's vulnerable, right? You're balance in those in those
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  hurt states. You, like I said, you can lose a
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  family member, you can lose a pet.
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  Those are those are also vulnerable situation.
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  You're emotionally vulnerable. So when you're emotionally
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  vulnerable, your boundaries are going to be lower.
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  You had a you look, you had a 10 foot fence for boundaries, but
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  now that you're vulnerable, it's 2 feet, it's 2 feet high.
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  Things that could normally wouldn't, things that normally
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  wouldn't be able to get over the boundaries or getting through
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  because the boundaries have been lowered, right?
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  And sometimes, like say any situation right here, because
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  you're trying to heal and get your mind off and stuff, you're
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  not even looking for a partner, right?
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  You're looking you, sometimes you literally, you're just
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  looking for somebody to rescue you.
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  You're looking for a rescue, right?
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  And guess what ends up happening?
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  Hey, narcissist is the best hero.
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  They love playing hero, they love it love playing hero.
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  I'm here to save you and they set you up right there, right?
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  That sets you up. That really does.
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  Versus my narcissist ex keeps sending in guys to love by me
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  and I found out later they connected to him.
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  He won't stop. So mad I told the truth about
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  him. Now he keeps coming back for
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  avenge sending guys to love by me.
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  That's weird. That's weird as hell.
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  That's a weirdo behavior right there.
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  That's crazy. That's super weird.
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  Go love by my head. That's weird as hell right?
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  But this is the thing right here y'all.
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  By the time you start to heal and you're like your BS radar,
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  your BS detector comes back online, you're already in a new
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  toxic relationship. You've already before your
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  before you start to be before your fence goes back from 2 feet
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  to 10 feet. You already let in the monster
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  the monster's already in. You don't build, you don't build
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  the fence up and trapped it inside.
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  Now that can't get out. Right Now he can't get out.
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  You could. He could get out at first, but
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  now he can't get out. Because now that you are
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  healing, you sort of see this person for who they really are.
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  Now you're in love with them. Now you pregnant by them or
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  they're pregnant by you. Y'all living together?
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  Y'all bought a house together, a car or something.
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  Y'all are financially tied together now.
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  Now it's too late. Now you got back-to-back to
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  back-to-back narcissist like you got 3 peat you the, you the
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  Lakers of two from old from 2000 to 2002.
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  You the Lakers right now or is it the Bulls?
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  One of them I think it was the Lakers, Kobe and little Kobe and
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  Shaq. You, Kobe and Shaq right now
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  you're a three peat of toxic relationships 'cause you haven't
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  healed, you keep jumping into relationships, right?
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  You got to take time because narcissistic people are perfect
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  and love bombing you when you are trying to heal, when you're
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  trying to feel better, right? Absolutely.
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  They are excellent and love bombing you and whatnot.
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  When you're trying to do this type of stuff to feel better
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  about yourself and whatnot. That's what ends up happening
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  because that that goes on. It really is.
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  So you have to protect yourself and protect your peace in these
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  situations scenarios because now you got to three, I say now you
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  got to three peat. Now you do you're 3 peating,
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  right? So you have to take some time
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  and take time to heal. There's no shame in taking time
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  to heal. So many people are just trying
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  to rush to feel, trying to rush into something new like take
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  time to heal. There's nothing wrong with that
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  right? So many people just like I don't
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  want to take time to heal. Then you going to end up in
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  another toxic relationship you got.
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  You have nobody blame but yourself.
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  You'll be mad at the toxic person but you didn't take time
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  to heal. Take your time man.
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  I know it can be. I know it can be a frustrating
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  dynamic to be a part of, but you can absolutely take your time to
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  heal. Work on yourself, be able to
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  trust yourself. Because if you can't trust
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  yourself, what the hell are you doing out here dating?
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  If you can't trust you, what are you doing?
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  You What are you doing trying to date if you can't trust
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  yourself? Got to think about it like that.
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  You can't trust you, but you are trying to date.
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  What they. Yeah, What, what, what do they
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  even sound like right there? You can't even trust yourself.
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  But you you already on a date. That's wow.
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  That's wow, you know what I'm saying?
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  And that's what ends up going on.
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  And that's what ends up happening.
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  You gotta take your time because if you don't, you end up said
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  you would go through a setup. I promise you, you'll end up set
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  up. You end up hurting and you'll be
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  mad as hell. And then you go.
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  It take long. Yeah.
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  It takes longer to heal from A2 relationship than it does from
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  1:00. That you, you are.
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  It takes a long time. You had it.
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  It already takes a long time to heal from one.
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  Imagine healing from two or three.
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  Imagine healing from two or three, right.
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  Imagine healing from 2:00 to 3:00 or two or three.
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  Touch relationships back-to-back to back again.
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  That's Kobe. That's Shaq.
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  You're doing numbers right here. And that right there, I'm
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  telling you, that's going to take a long ass time to heal
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  from. You're going to be mad as hell
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  at yourself. You're going to be pissed off.
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  And then you're going to be directing that anger possibly
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  towards the wrong person. Like your anger is going to
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  look, the anger you have is going to go somewhere and it's
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  going to be typically is going to be misdirected in some way,
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  shape or form. So that's why it's important to
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  take your time to heal, man. Like, do not date when you are
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  vulnerable. It's not real.
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  I'm just telling you it ain't rocket science.
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  It ain't barely science at all. It's really just you.
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  You know what I mean? It's barely science, science,
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  silence science at all. It ain't talk straight.
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  It's barely science at all, but it's science nonetheless.
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  Otherwise, it's healing takes time out.
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  It really does. Healing from narcissistic abuse
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  for a toxic relationship, Absolutely.
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  It's going to take more time, right?
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  And like I said, if you, if you know there's things you can do
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  to heal, check out my website, mentalillness.net for my
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  courses, my own, like I said, my online courses, my support
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  groups, all of that other good stuff is available at
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  mentalillness.net. Just drop in the comment
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  section, y'all. Yeah, if you have any questions,
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  just drop your questions in the comment section.
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  Drop your questions in the chat, y'all.
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  What do you do when you live with your narcissist mother?
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  It depends on how old this, this is kind of nuanced questions.
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  I would need a little bit more detail, but I don't, I don't
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  know how old you are, don't know the relationship dynamic.
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  And it's like it might take a long time to kind of get
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  through, but it really just depends.
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  You always got to try to protect yourself and take care of
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  yourself in these situations, right?
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  Mother, father, whoever it is, you all, you absolutely have to
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  take care of yourself because that's going to be an important
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  piece of healing and trying to make yourself feel better
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  overall in general. So that's going to be important.
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  But also being able, trying to be able to set boundaries with a
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  toxic parent is extremely tough in and of itself, right?
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  That's going to be a very tough thing because they don't like
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  boundaries to be set on them. They really, they really, really
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  do not. They hate boundaries being set
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  on them. They hate being told what to do
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  because you are there. Like I said, you are they birth,
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  they birth you, right? So they're going to be just
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  like, well, I gave, I gave birth to you, so I don't need to tell,
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  you know, you can't tell me what to do.
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  So they'll say a whole bunch of BS to you.
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  They really, really will. They really will.
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  Can't even talk straight tonight, y'all.
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  So it's important I have no boundaries.
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  Well, you better. You better get some.
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  You gonna have a bad life. You know what I'm saying?
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  You're gonna have a bad life. You have a bad life.
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  You bet. That's why I said any
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  boundaries. Have been working on them piece
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  by piece. Piece by piece.
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  My ex, who I have a child with, be trying to make it look like
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  we're happy family. Went around a crowd of people,
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  but she's claiming she has one. I keep showing.
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  I don't care. Keep showing what I feel like.
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  Yeah. You got to document this type of
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  stuff. She's saying type of stuff and
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  trying to make you out to be the building and you got to document
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  this stuff. Five years still vulnerable.
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  We guys be wearing shoes so long.
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  Take your time. I mean, like I said, 49.
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  Oh yeah. So now you got to you got to re
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  re evaluate things, make a plan. I had a guy sending dudes to
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  love on the same situation. He won't leave me alone.
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  He's blocked everywhere and always finds a way to check on
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  me. That's again, that's weirdo.
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  That's weirdo stuff right there. Lee, this man been trying to get
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  a hold of me and he knows where I live.
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  Should I respond to him before he takes it to that far?
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  Now, if you respond to him, he's going to keep doing it, like in
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  this situation right here. You you got to arm yourself and
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  talk to the police. Ain't already there?
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  Yeah. Grey rock cartoon sometimes.
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  Yeah. Finally caught alive.
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  What's up? You're welcome.
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  You're welcome. Welcome.
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  Like I said, if y'all just join the live, make sure you hit hit
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  the thumbs up button, hit the thumbs up button and whatnot.
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  Drop a comment. How long?
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  How is your grief going since your dog passed.
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  Hope you're doing great. Oh, I'm fine now.
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  I'm good. I'm good.
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  Grief is grief, right? Grief be griefing.
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  Yeah. The grief be griefing.
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  I'm dealing with. I'm, I'm handling it, though.
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  Say it's it's it's, it's being handled, You know, y'all don't
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  know? My dog passed away.
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  Well, we had to end up having a compassionate euthanization, so
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  we had to put her down a few weeks ago.
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  But we healing, we growing, we trying to be better.
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  We doing our thing over here. Trying to.
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  Yeah, man, it's tough losing a pet, a friend, a member of the
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  member of the family, so to speak.
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  So it really is. But thanks for asking that
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  though. She was a she was a good, she
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  was a good pup, good pup for 13 years.
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  They hate boundaries. Y'all watch out.
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  They try to cause financial problems, make a huge American
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  vein. Yep, my narcissistic mother
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  remarried her narcissistic ex-husband and of course God
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  changed them. Yeah, yeah, Boy, I, I, I, I feel
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  like, and I hate to even say this, I hate when people start
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  using God to make excuses for making bad decisions.
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  Like going back to your ex. This God changed and God ain't
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  changed. Yeah, yeah.
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  That that should be so fake, man.
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  It's a people so easy to manipulate because all you have
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  to do is say God changed me. And then people are willing to
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  get another change. It it it's going to it's it's be
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  a rough time. Yeah, it's a rough time.
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  No, it's all it's all good. Appreciate it, it is all good.
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  It is all good. 100% y'all it's hard to hear that.
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  No it's all good. Oh, OK, blah, blah, blah.
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  Or did I'll go to church or do I'll go to church.
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  How can I be toxic? Yeah, man, I go to church.
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  Yeah, man, I'm telling you. Maybe act like the devil.
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  Don't be can't accept food in the church, people.
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  I'm just telling y'all. The easiest, the easiest way to
• 18:49
  manipulate somebody is honestly just be just to fake the funk.
• 18:52
  Just to fake like you're just to fake like you're a Christian.
• 18:55
  That that's the yeah, the fake religion.
• 18:57
  That's the easiest way to manipulate somebody.
• 18:59
  I'm just keeping it real with you.
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  It's so easy to emit it. It's because you ain't got to
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  try hard. All you got to do is go step
• 19:05
  into a church and people automatically think you're a
• 19:07
  good person. It it's just so easy.
• 19:08
  It really is easy to manipulate church going folks.
• 19:11
  I'm not calling y'all dumb, but it's just like it's so easy to
• 19:13
  manipulate people like that because they fall for stuff like
• 19:16
  that all the time. They just it's it's easy.
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  Aloha. They are sadistic.
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  The real NASA narcissist. Yeah, I'm working.
• 19:24
  I'm work. I actually actually just had
• 19:25
  therapy today. I always say the devil knows
• 19:29
  scripture too. Also, Yeah.
• 19:31
  So for all my folks in New York, I'm thinking about having a New
• 19:35
  York. I'll be in New York City June
• 19:38
  the 1st through the 3rd. Y'all think people will come to
• 19:41
  a like a a small workshop or like meet up small Q&A?
• 19:45
  I'm do it. I might do a live in person Q&A
• 19:47
  in New York City on June the second.
• 19:50
  Yeah, I think people come to that.
• 19:51
  It's a Tuesday, it's a Tuesday, New York City.
• 19:54
  I'm considering doing 1. I got to actually got to hop on
• 19:57
  tomorrow and try to set it up. But New York City on a Tuesday
• 20:01
  afternoon, couple hours, few hours Q&A, just like Mike,
• 20:06
  everybody gets to ask a question or something like that.
• 20:08
  You know what I mean? Just Q&A.
• 20:09
  I'm thinking about doing that in New York City.
• 20:14
  People who believe in God don't go around doing listens.
• 20:16
  Yeah, they absolutely don't. Yeah, I believe it will work.
• 20:23
  Yeah. Religious narcs are absolutely
• 20:24
  the worst. Scripture says the devil can
• 20:27
  present himself as an Angel. Like, Yeah, it takes
• 20:28
  discernment. You know, I think a lot of
• 20:30
  people are especially nowadays, are lacking discernment because
• 20:33
  you don't people, not a lot of people not using their mind,
• 20:37
  They're not using their brains, right.
• 20:39
  You just. They're just.
• 20:40
  This is easy, man. I promise you.
• 20:43
  Can BPD also be an impact? I'm not sure.
• 20:45
  Yeah. I really don't know what an
• 20:46
  impact is. Yeah, honestly, it's just I
• 20:48
  heard impact and I just think high highly empathetic person so
• 20:52
  BBD people can have empathy. Just broke up with him feel
• 20:55
  happier, but still finding it hard saying hi from the UK.
• 20:58
  What's up Chicago, Detroit, I maybe maybe one day this year.
• 21:02
  I'm still working on I'm working on New York City and then I'll
• 21:05
  do probably do Atlanta, GA. I'm just start doing Q and AS I
• 21:09
  don't like to do the workshop where I'm just hey guys just how
• 21:11
  you leaving like I want to do Q and as and whatnot.
• 21:14
  Just live in person Q and as and then they'll help a lot of
• 21:17
  people. My ex who will constantly tell
• 21:19
  me I don't follow directions and everything is my fault.
• 21:22
  It's not overly religious of course taking the fun it's easy.
• 21:26
  The guy was a friend of mine who wanted more but continued to
• 21:28
  cross my boundaries so started to no contact and he's been
• 21:31
  calling me and sending me reels and videos.
• 21:33
  I don't open a response. You see people who don't respect
• 21:35
  your boundaries don't respect you.
• 21:37
  This is it's easier. I would be way worse than I am.
• 21:40
  Yay love to help, love to help Sounds great y'all so if y'all
• 21:46
  just join the live make sure y'all hit the thumbs up button.
• 21:47
  What now I'm about I'm about to be yeah I'm about to I'm about
• 21:50
  to be a it's about to be a huge content switch over on YouTube
• 21:54
  because not many people watching the videos the more people
• 21:56
  hardly click on them anymore now and stuff like that.
• 21:58
  I have over half a million followers and I get more views
• 22:01
  on my channel with 20K. So I'm about to be a it's about
• 22:03
  be a huge topic switch over here.
• 22:06
  I'm about to do, be doing more interviews and stuff like that
• 22:09
  because people don't just click on the regular videos no more,
• 22:11
  no matter how much time I put into them, no matter how the
• 22:13
  topic thumbnail, whatever, people just are not clicking.
• 22:15
  So I'm about to do a huge, huge, huge switch over here.
• 22:19
  Yeah, I'm just, I went to therapy today and talked about
• 22:21
  it. So it sounded like the channel's
• 22:23
  going backwards. I used to get more views when I
• 22:25
  had like way less so not. And I, I'm not even, you know,
• 22:29
  my energy is low doing it now because it's not helping.
• 22:31
  It's not reaching as many people as it's not helping as many
• 22:33
  people. So my energy's super low about
• 22:35
  just talking straight about narcissism now.
• 22:37
  So I'm about to start switching it up here in a little bit.
• 22:39
  See, I'm about to see a big topic switch over here.
• 22:42
  Energy and all kinds of stuff. A lot, a lot more energy, a lot
• 22:47
  more spunk. I would say like that.
• 22:51
  Maybe I do have to hop off this thing like say, make sure I hit
• 22:55
  the subscribe button if you haven't already.
• 22:56
  And I'm literally going to be posting different videos, story
• 22:59
  times and stuff like that. I might just talk to a more
• 23:01
  story times if you want to tell your story or Share your story.
• 23:04
  Like I say, I'm doing just straight up story times.
• 23:07
  So you can send your story to this, the e-mail address on the
• 23:10
  screen, info@mentalillness.net. You don't have to use your real
• 23:14
  name. Even if you send your real name,
• 23:15
  I'm going to switch your names anyway.
• 23:16
  I'm not going to use our real names and stuff.
• 23:18
  Send it to info.info@mentalillness.net.
• 23:22
  Because I'm, I, I recorded four story times the other day.
• 23:25
  So that's what I'm working on now.
• 23:26
  That's why I haven't seen a lot of videos.
• 23:28
  I'm just working on these story times and whatnot.
• 23:30
  And I'll start doing my podcast more as well.
• 23:32
  So y'all just stay tuned, y'all. I appreciate all the support so
• 23:35
  far. I've been robbing me for a long
• 23:37
  time. Quote the last one. 5-6 weeks of
• 23:41
  narcissist. Yeah, yeah, I want to be on the
• 23:43
  interview. I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm going to say
• 23:45
  I feel like every, every YouTube channel you follow is going to
• 23:48
  Yeah, I don't know what it is, y'all.
• 23:49
  Nobody sees about stuff anymore. It's just like I shouldn't have
• 23:53
  500,000 followers and get 1000 views on the video.
• 23:56
  That don't even make sense, right?
• 23:58
  And I do that yeah. I have a channel with 1000 Yeah,
• 24:00
  I literally have a channel with 1000 Subs on it.
• 24:03
  I just do comedy stuff stuff and it gets more views than this
• 24:05
  one. 500,000 It's just something that's going on and I'm going to
• 24:08
  reset my whole channel. It wasn't I'm going to go
• 24:10
  through the I'm going to go through all the back office and
• 24:12
  just delete everything now because it's annoying.
• 24:15
  It's kind of depressing to y'all because honestly it's just
• 24:17
  depressing and I was like half a million people that followed me.
• 24:19
  Nobody's got 46 people on the live.
• 24:21
  That's crazy to me. Anyway, anyways, y'all I
• 24:24
  appreciate y'all tuning in and whatnot.
• 24:26
  Make sure y'all stay tuned, hit the subscribe button, comment on
• 24:29
  it, everything. Y'all be safe, take care of
• 24:31
  yourselves and we'll chat later y'all.
• 24:33
  Peace.