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Be Careful Who You Marry | Dating Advice, Marriage & Healthy Relationships · Off The Wall Podcast | Motivation & Personal Growth

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  Yeah, what's good? Everyone listen, be careful on
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  who you lay down with. I say that all the time, and I
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  said it before, but like who you marry, who you date is
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  important, but who you marry is very important.
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  Very important. Number one, they should be God
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  fearing. If the person is not God
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  fearing, they're not. When I say God fearing, that
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  means they're imperfect. They're not going to be perfect.
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  They may still like to smoke weed, they may still like to
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  drink or whatever, but certain things can't be excused.
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  Like still have a past of cheating, still on crack.
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  You know what I'm saying? Stuff like that.
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  But you that you can't forgive, I won't forgive you.
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  That's up to God, but I'll forgive you later on.
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  They have to be God fear. If they're not God fearing, you
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  won't be able to hear God clearly.
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  You're not going to hear God all the time, but he's always
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  speaking. So when you have two people
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  working together and they're God fearing God say when two or more
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  gathered they should surely be. So when y'all both are God
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  fearing, one of y'all going to be able to hear God when 1 is
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  not mentally there or physically there or sick or whatever the
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  case may be right two, I refuse to be that parent where my son
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  and children to come whenever it's the right time.
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  I refuse to be that parent where my son need me but I can't help
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  him financially. So who you marry, who you date
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  is important. You got to find someone who's
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  good with money. Now you can't be the person to
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  where you know, you just want to splurge all the time, right?
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  You can't splurge all the time. You got to know when to save and
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  know when I you know not, I ain't going to say when I have
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  to save, but you got to know when to save and you know when
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  to spend a little bit, right? It's a lot of parents who can't
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  financially provide for their children.
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  I want to be able to and I will, I'll be able to provide for my
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  son financially and mentally. Like I'll be there for my son
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  and my children to come. Whenever that time presents
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  itself, I will be there. Most people can't.
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  Most people can't do that. You want to be able to do that
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  for your children. So if the person is not God's
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  feeling and you're not financially ready to have more
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  children, don't do it. Don't do it.
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  It costs, They say it costs 300,000 take to take care of
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  child, bro. Six years ago it costs.
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  When I was in school, it was only 30,000.
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  It was only 30,000, bro. That went up a lot.
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  It went up a lot. You want to, you should date
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  someone and marry someone who's smart, smarter than you or smart
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  as you, who's good with money and who's good with children.
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  If you want children, it's important.
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  I see a lot of men, a lot of women who get on social media
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  and talk about how bad their baby father or baby mom is.
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  You know, they'll have a family with you, but take care of the
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  other family that they, you know, happen to be married in
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  and take care of them more than they take care of their own
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  children. And they do a better job with
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  the other children than they own children.
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  It's important to pick. It's important to let God pick.
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  Don't don't you pick because sometimes we can pick wrong and
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  we do. Like I owned up to that, like I
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  picked wrong, but I had to do that.
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  So I can understand. Yeah, I may have a good, yeah, I
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  may have a taste or a type when it comes to women, but that just
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  may not be the woman that God want me to be with.
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  Yeah, it's important who you like lay down with.
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  It's important because true character will outweigh any lie.
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  And most people there are good when it comes to talking.
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  You got to stay away from smooth talkers.
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  The Bible talks about smooth talkers, right?
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  Because you'll talk to someone that you'll never know they're
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  in a relationship. You'll never know they married
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  man. I'm telling y'all like I didn't
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  met him. I met plenty of married women
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  who wanted to risk it. But I'm not going to risk my
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  life. I can't.
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  I'm not going to risk my life for that, not for no pussy.
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  Nah, I'm straight on that. So you got to be careful on
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  smooth talkers, right? You got to be careful when it
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  comes to choosing your partner, and it's not about you too.
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  I want to say that. It's about your children and so
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  forth and so on. You got to build a legacy.
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  So having the right partner is important.
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  That's number 3. Having the right partner is
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  important because marriage is a business, but it's also a
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  covenant that you made with God. You made with you made a
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  covenant with God. You have to honor the marriage.
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  You have to honor the person that you're talking to.
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  I know the the person that God had for me.
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  You know, I know that it'll be perfect, not saying the
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  marriage, but perfect timing. You know, everything worked out.
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  You know itself, but be careful on who you choose.
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  Most people are not good with money.
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  You talking to someone who's beautiful or who's handsome, but
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  they're terrible at they're terrible with money.
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  You got to go down their credit history.
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  You got to go down their credit line.
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  The reason why you have to do that is because you had one day
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  you got to trust your partner. If you can't trust your partner,
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  you know what I'm saying with money that you you just can't
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  trust them. It's important to trust your
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  your partner whenever the time come.
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  But I wouldn't I don't want to make this longer than what it
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  is. Just be careful on who you
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  choose as a partner. Marriage is fine.
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  I believe it marriage is has its up and downs and but it's
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  beautiful. If you, you, you choose the
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  right person. I'm sorry, I'm in the car, but
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  like, if you choose the right person, marriage can be fun, but
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  just be smart, be have money so your children can be at peace.
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  You know have have enough money where your children can be at
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  peace and have a great time, but a lawyer not at your soul.