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Episode #303: Reframing Fear to Spirit’s Excitement · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea time with Amy and bev Ala.
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Speaker 2: Good day. Oh so much.
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Speaker 1: I think every time we get in here now and
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Speaker 1: you say ask me that, I'm like, oh my god,
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Speaker 1: there's so much going on, But there are. There's a
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Speaker 1: lot happening, and it's it's joyful, it's fun, it's a
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Speaker 1: lot of detail. It's just it's so many things and
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Speaker 1: I'm enjoying all of it. So not not a lot
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Speaker 1: to go into detail about it right now, maybe at
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Speaker 1: a later time, but just a lot of enjoyment in
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Speaker 1: life right now of what's happening nice, Well for what
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Speaker 1: and well, I will say for one, and I don't
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Speaker 1: think I talked about this yet. The nonprofit organization that
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Speaker 1: I'm in, we just had our biggest fundraiser of the year,
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Speaker 1: which we've been doing for thirty four years, one hundred
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Speaker 1: and twenty guests. So now you think about that, like
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Speaker 1: two hundred and forty eyeballs on me giving a speech.
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Speaker 1: I think that's the biggest group I have done a
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Speaker 1: speech in front of, so and I lived right. So
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Speaker 1: each time I get into a group in front of
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Speaker 1: a group of people of having to not necessarily teach
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Speaker 1: because I enjoy teaching and that it's just speaking, being
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Speaker 1: a speaker, and you have to there's compone of your
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Speaker 1: body language, your tone, you're connecting with the audience, and
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Speaker 1: there's just these things to consider, and so that can
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Speaker 1: be a little bit of nerve wrecking, but also still
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Speaker 1: learning to be to feel safe in front of a
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Speaker 1: group of people and speaking because naturally, not naturally, but
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Speaker 1: my history my programming is being an introvert, and introverts
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Speaker 1: don't like attention, and introverts definitely don't want to be
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Speaker 1: the center of attention to a group of one hundred
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Speaker 1: and twenty people, let alone ten. Right, We're just like, nope,
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Speaker 1: I'm just going to sit in the back, just act
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Speaker 1: like I'm not here, I'm learning what I need to learn,
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Speaker 1: and I'm going to leave. Don't talk to me. Right, So,
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Speaker 1: so learning to keep telling myself I'm okay, I'm safe,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to live. Everything's know. And to have a silent,
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Speaker 1: absolutely silent room while I'm speaking was amazing. I'm was like,
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Speaker 1: what this is? It was all giddiness and nervousness at
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Speaker 1: the same time. Then no, no, this is great because
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Speaker 1: it just reminded me. Then just I think it was
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Speaker 1: last week. I think it was. I don't even know
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Speaker 1: who it was. I said it was on a podcast,
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Speaker 1: but they said, what if that what you're feeling and
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Speaker 1: what you're calling nervousness is actually your spirit cheering you
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Speaker 1: on and super excited. I was like, what, that's great.
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Speaker 1: I love that mindset shift to think, oh my gosh,
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Speaker 1: my spirit's cheering me on. I'm so excited and this
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Speaker 1: vibration is super high and my body can't contain itself
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Speaker 1: and it's just shaken like crazy.
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Speaker 2: So I like that.
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Speaker 1: I'm going I'm embracing that, especially now that I remember
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Speaker 1: I heard it, But embrace it and think of that
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Speaker 1: next time I feel any kind of nervousness, I'll just
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Speaker 1: remember that my spirit is cheering me on, so super excited.
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Speaker 2: That's awesome. I wrote it down too.
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Speaker 1: So anytime we're stepping out of you know, stepping into
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Speaker 1: something that brings us what we think is fear and
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Speaker 1: scared that our body are not necessarily our body, but
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Speaker 1: our spirits like, no, do it, do it because you're
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Speaker 1: gonna be you know, you're gonna be amazed. But happens
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Speaker 1: afterwards nice?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So.
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Speaker 3: And it's like, well, before we came on for the conversation.
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Speaker 3: I was in the midst of struggle and then you
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Speaker 3: were one of one of your options. It's it's reminding
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Speaker 3: ourselves of these tools that we have m and tapping
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Speaker 3: was one of the tools that you brought forward.
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Speaker 2: And it's like it made a huge difference for me.
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Speaker 3: It's and I've seen it a few times, so it's like,
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Speaker 3: I want to remind people you don't know how to
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Speaker 3: do it, get a hold of Amy Aver to walk
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Speaker 3: you through some tapping, because it really does if there
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Speaker 3: is such a benefit to it, and it's it is
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Speaker 3: a reprogramming.
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Speaker 2: By you doing that. And then I was thinking about
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Speaker 2: you going up on stage.
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Speaker 3: Did you think about because that's a that's a pretty
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Speaker 3: phenomenal amount of people and it's and it's awesome to
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Speaker 3: know that they were captivated by you, your energy, your presence,
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Speaker 3: your your your higher self is like they're seeing me
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Speaker 3: and I'm on stage right now, Like it's so it's
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Speaker 3: the the excitement that I could feel from that is
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Speaker 3: what's amazing. Did you like set your intentions before you
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Speaker 3: went that day, Like did you set yourself up thinking
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Speaker 3: this is how it's going to be. It's people were,
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Speaker 3: because now it's like, to me, that's something to play with.
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Speaker 3: The next group I'm going to get in front of
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Speaker 3: there's going to be three hundred and fifty of them
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Speaker 3: people that are that are watching me in the room
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Speaker 3: is silent and they're just absorbing everything that I say
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Speaker 3: like it's their last breath. And it's like setting yourself
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Speaker 3: up for these occasions because it's it's milking it right.
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Speaker 3: It's like it's just like what we were talking about,
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Speaker 3: which we don't normally have conversations ahead of time, but
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Speaker 3: today we had a little bit of a conversation.
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Speaker 2: Otherwise she wouldn't have this version of me.
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Speaker 3: So you can all send and thank you cards to
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Speaker 3: Amy at.
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Speaker 2: Just kidding on that. I'm not going to give your
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Speaker 2: other address, but I'm just saying.
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Speaker 1: Well, before you go there, I just I quickly want
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Speaker 1: to say that the version that you're seeing above right
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Speaker 1: now is a complete opposite of what she was before
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Speaker 1: we hopped on because she has experienced in a life.
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Speaker 1: Having a life experience is weighing heavy on her. And
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Speaker 1: so we did the tapping and like minutes like this
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Speaker 1: was not even ten minutes ago, not even ten minutes ago.
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Speaker 1: So and she's smiling and relaxed, and before she was
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Speaker 1: very you could just see a heaviness in her complexion
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Speaker 1: and in her face and in the body, and so
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Speaker 1: her smiling minute of doing this and so, yeah, I
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Speaker 1: just want to commend you for showing up for yourself
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Speaker 1: and asking for help. Really was what it comes down
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Speaker 1: to is people asking for help.
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Speaker 3: So and that's kind of scary and how often we
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Speaker 3: put we put ourselves off because I allows this to
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Speaker 3: go on for a few days without having a conversation
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Speaker 3: with anybody. But but for me, sometimes I maybe I
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Speaker 3: need to walk through that stuff because I'm trying to
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Speaker 3: you know, I've got my training wills on in certain
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Speaker 3: situations and then trying to figure this out and then
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Speaker 3: kind of afraid there's that fear factor coming through, right,
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Speaker 3: But if we turn around and recognize that it's an
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Speaker 3: excitement instead of a fear, and then it's just our
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Speaker 3: higher self, it's our spirit being like celebrating, like she's
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Speaker 3: doing it, you're doing it.
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Speaker 1: So and even that fear of what we feel is
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Speaker 1: fear again where we might be where something in our
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Speaker 1: life is changing or could change, not necessarily changing, but
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Speaker 1: we're thinking it might change. And then we conjure up
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Speaker 1: that fear. What if it's actually your spirit going yes,
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Speaker 1: now she's gonna move in this other direction and we
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Speaker 1: can bring somebody else in line with her that's going
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Speaker 1: to help her propel in whatever like spirit. So I
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Speaker 1: think about it as as spirit as the director I was,
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Speaker 1: who is overseeing all the all the roles that we're
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Speaker 1: all playing here on earth, and is trying to line
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Speaker 1: us up with the desires that we have been wanting.
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Speaker 1: And we got to get out of our own way
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Speaker 1: to do that. And so that fear could be, you know,
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Speaker 1: the human side's like, oh my god, I am fear
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Speaker 1: though known if I if I have to make changes,
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Speaker 1: I don't know what that looks like. But the spirit
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Speaker 1: inside is like, yes, yes, go yes, do it, Yes, move, yes,
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Speaker 1: change your direction, like so strike a pose. It could be,
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Speaker 1: it could be. And this is why I think when
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Speaker 1: change comes up, I think, you know what, it's probably
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Speaker 1: going to be more amazing than I ever thought. Whatever
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Speaker 1: I have to move through, whatever it's bringing, is going
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Speaker 1: to be more amazing than I could ever I thought
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Speaker 1: it could be. And that's that's just leaning into you know,
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Speaker 1: faith of whether your religion is Jesus, your faith in
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Speaker 1: Jesus that he's got you, or God or you know
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Speaker 1: whatever other ribbage universe love divine that the faith is.
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Speaker 1: Let's see what happened. I don't know what's gonna happen,
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Speaker 1: and that's not for me to know what's happening. It's
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Speaker 1: for me to move in a direction that feels good.
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Speaker 3: Which and you and you brought up kind of control
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Speaker 3: for a second or two I think you did, or
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Speaker 3: my mind popped up and took it in as that.
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Speaker 3: Even I've pulled cards for myself and one of them
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Speaker 3: was to let go of control issues.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: But again, when you're familiar with that as your base
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Speaker 3: point your whole life, you don't necessarily know when you're
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Speaker 3: when it started. You can just see the outcome of
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Speaker 3: it where you're, where you're at. You don't like the
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Speaker 3: way you're feeling right that moment.
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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, So people are gonna come and go. People
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Speaker 1: aren't going to come and go in our life. If
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Speaker 1: you haven't noticed, however, whatever age you are right now,
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Speaker 1: people have come and gone in your life over and
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Speaker 1: over and over and over and over again, hundreds of
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Speaker 1: thousands of times. And some people come back in and
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Speaker 1: then they leave again, and that's just the flow of life.
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Speaker 1: And I too, and I'm not saying this lately, I
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Speaker 1: too have had to embrace this because I'm the type
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Speaker 1: of person again, being an introvert. When an introvert finds
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Speaker 1: somebody who they resonate with and feel safe with, that's
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Speaker 1: huge for an introvert, we have to feel safe with you.
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Speaker 1: And when we find somebody who we feel safe with
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Speaker 1: and then they leave, that is complete and utter abandonment us, Like,
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Speaker 1: how dare you leave? How could you leave? Why are
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Speaker 1: you doing this to me? And now we go into
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Speaker 1: victim mode and woe is me? And oh my god,
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Speaker 1: they don't love me anymore, they don't like me anymore. Whatever, No,
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Speaker 1: they had a career change and it took them across
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Speaker 1: the country. That was it, right, that's the facts. And
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Speaker 1: it's like, but my story tells me something different, and
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Speaker 1: I lean into my story, not what is actually happening.
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Speaker 1: And so, yeah, we put ourselves through the we create
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Speaker 1: our own stress. Really, we create our own stress by
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Speaker 1: telling us ourselves these stories that aren't even true.
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Speaker 2: So it's true. I mean what you're saying is true.
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Speaker 1: I've learned to lean into and again, I am not
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Speaker 1: perfect at these life experiences either. I'm still practicing and learning.
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Speaker 1: The only difference between me and maybe you not you bev,
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Speaker 1: but you the audiences. I've just been practicing a lot longer,
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Speaker 1: and so I'm quicker to lean into tools that are
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Speaker 1: gonna help me. But no, I forgot what I was
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Speaker 1: gonna say. See there you go anyway, I don't. I
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Speaker 1: don't sit and spin as long as I used to.
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Speaker 1: I might spin for a few moments, meaning it could
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Speaker 1: be a couple hours, half a day, but it's not
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Speaker 1: months and years. There's a difference weeks, months and years. Right,
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Speaker 1: there's a there's a huge difference in that. Oh, I
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Speaker 1: know what I was gonna say. I've I've been learning
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Speaker 1: to redirect myself instead of getting in a spin about
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Speaker 1: what my story is. What my story is? They left me,
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Speaker 1: they abandoned me, they don't love me. I'm not good
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Speaker 1: enough for them anymore. What right, that's the story I've created?
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Speaker 1: Where now I am learning to stop and go okay,
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Speaker 1: is what are the facts? And I'm just using You
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Speaker 1: know a friend who's moving across country for a career.
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Speaker 1: Where the facts are this person changed companies or got
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Speaker 1: a promotion. Whatever it requires this person to move to
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Speaker 1: another state on the other side of the country. That
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Speaker 1: is her goals. That are his goal, whoever it might be, right,
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Speaker 1: I am just creating the story right now. That's their
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Speaker 1: goal for their life, and this is what they desire,
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Speaker 1: and this is what they're creating for them. Those are
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Speaker 1: the facts. The fact that I will not fact that
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Speaker 1: I but the story that I'm creating is they don't
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Speaker 1: love me, they don't accept me, They're abandoning me. I'm
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Speaker 1: never going to hear from them again. Are those true?
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Speaker 1: Do I know those are true? No, They're not true.
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Speaker 1: Something I'm telling myself. So it's like being it's like
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Speaker 1: being your own attorney and judge at the same time.
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Speaker 1: A judge needs facts, end of story. Unless you can
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Speaker 1: prove your facts, they don't want to hear it. It's
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Speaker 1: all here say, there's no proof in it. So now
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Speaker 1: you become your own investigator and guess what. Nobody's going
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Speaker 1: to do that for you. Only other thing you can
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Speaker 1: do with somebody outside of yourself. Similar to what Bev
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Speaker 1: did was ask for help. She knows I have the
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Speaker 1: skills and talents to help her shift her thought process
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Speaker 1: or mindset to relax her body so that she could
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Speaker 1: show up and do this, this recording with us, And
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Speaker 1: if she hadn't done that, guaranteed, the first thing she
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Speaker 1: had done, says I can't do this today, we need
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Speaker 1: to reschedule guarantee. But instead she's just said, Hey, you know,
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Speaker 1: I'm in this space. I need to I would like
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Speaker 1: some help in shifting my energy before we start recording history.
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Speaker 1: It would have been a Nope, can't do it, I'm
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Speaker 1: not available whatever, right, whether it was you or me.
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Speaker 2: Or I asked you, yeah, I actually did.
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Speaker 3: I actually did process thinking about not doing it, and
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Speaker 3: I thought, no, I'll benefit I'll benefit from it, and
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Speaker 3: then perhaps we'll all benefit from it. So it's like
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Speaker 3: there's always a there's always a reason, and it's like
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Speaker 3: i'd rather there be I'm not the only one going
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Speaker 3: through the muck right now, and neither are you, or
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Speaker 3: neither is any of our listeners right now. And I
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Speaker 3: feel like there's so many parallels that are happening with
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Speaker 3: all of us that it all makes sense, and it's
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Speaker 3: so important for us to show up, and it's so
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Speaker 3: important to ask for help because it's easy to stay
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Speaker 3: in that space either that victim or whatever, that energy
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Speaker 3: of how heavy it felt and not ask for help.
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Speaker 2: It's easy to be in that space.
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Speaker 3: It's not easy because it feels like shit, but it's
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Speaker 3: easy because it's familiar, right, because you know it, And
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Speaker 3: then it's easy to be like, well, I don't know
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Speaker 3: how to get out of it. But it's like tapping
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Speaker 3: is so something, so simple, and it's so right now,
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Speaker 3: and it's so reprogramming, and it's so I probably could
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Speaker 3: say so many millions of things. I'm going to be
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Speaker 3: doing some searches after we get done redoing our recordings,
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Speaker 3: just because I feel like it. If it benefits me
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Speaker 3: and I can do that, then it's going to benefit others.
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Speaker 3: And so it's really us. We've talked before and I've
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Speaker 3: asked you, like, hey, I need to run something by
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Speaker 3: you whatever, and it's like we haven't gone to that route.
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Speaker 3: And it's always knowing to trust your intuition too, because
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Speaker 3: your intuition told you this is either this or this,
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Speaker 3: and you end up kind of finishing like both of
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Speaker 3: them were kind of into it together. And while we
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Speaker 3: were going through it, you said it was minutes. For me,
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Speaker 3: it felt a long time. I felt like I was
16:57
Speaker 3: taking up a lot of your time and then it's
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Speaker 3: like I didn't know what your schedule was, or your
17:01
Speaker 3: plan was, or what you needed to have going on
17:03
Speaker 3: the rest of the.
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Speaker 2: Day, but still went through.
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Speaker 3: But for me it felt like because because I was
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Speaker 3: in the sludge, right, I was in the quickstand of
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Speaker 3: my thoughts and then you helped. You gave me your
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Speaker 3: hand and help pull me out of it by giving
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Speaker 3: me tools to do it. Yeah, And that's how you
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Speaker 3: know that someone that's how you that's the gurus that
17:25
Speaker 3: you want to find.
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Speaker 2: You want someone that's going to help you up out.
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Speaker 3: Of it, give you the tools to do these things,
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Speaker 3: not to do it for you, so that you can
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Speaker 3: walk through it and witness yourself that these things do work,
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Speaker 3: these things do help. And I do feel lighter. We
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Speaker 3: didn't do before and after pictures. You probably you'd probably
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Speaker 3: been like, there's no way that is on the same day,
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Speaker 3: But but that's how it was.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's I where my practice is, and you
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Speaker 1: already said it. My practice is to our people with
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Speaker 1: their own abilities not to end up being dependent on
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Speaker 1: me for their healing. And that's what you know, I hear,
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Speaker 1: I've heard this hundreds of thousands of times from from
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Speaker 1: spiritual influencers or speakers or coaches, reaking practitioners. Is you
18:27
Speaker 1: know and I've done it too. So my mentor was,
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Speaker 1: thank you so much for what you did for me.
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Speaker 1: Did did for me, and it's always it to me.
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Speaker 1: Any teacher or coach or anything who is empowering you
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Speaker 1: will say, similar to what I say all the time, is.
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Speaker 2: I didn't do it.
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Speaker 1: I showed up to give you the tools. I showed
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Speaker 1: up to guide you. I showed up, but you, ultimately,
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Speaker 1: lee are the one that was asking for the guidance,
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Speaker 1: and I showed up, and I showed up to say,
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Speaker 1: here's what you're cap capable of, and here are the
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Speaker 1: tools that will help you. Now, when I say so,
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Speaker 1: let me just preface this that a coaching package with
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Speaker 1: me is six months. I don't do this typically one
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Speaker 1: appointment type of thing. You're going to spend some time
19:26
Speaker 1: with me because there's so much deep programming and belief
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Speaker 1: systems that are in play that we have to sift
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Speaker 1: through that stuff to lighten the load. And then it's
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Speaker 1: like you know, mama bird kicking the baby bird out
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Speaker 1: of the nest. Right, can people continue. Yeah, after six months,
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Speaker 1: I'll tell them, you know what, pay for another six
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Speaker 1: month coaching package and then let me know when you
19:53
Speaker 1: want to get together. It's not us like the first
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Speaker 1: coaching package. Every two weeks we meet the second one.
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Speaker 1: Depending on where you are and how you are with yourself.
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Speaker 1: The second go around is it's more like a retainer
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Speaker 1: and you just you know, sometimes life happens in the
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Speaker 1: middle of a week and if our appointments not till Sunday,
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Speaker 1: You're like, I got this shit going on, I don't
20:20
Speaker 1: know what to do with it. Then I'm like, okay,
20:21
Speaker 1: well let's I have whatever time available, let's get together.
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Speaker 1: So that's more like of a retainer type of thing.
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Speaker 1: So so it's a every person's different. Some people have
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Speaker 1: such deep seated trauma and belief systems that you know,
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Speaker 1: it might take a year for us to get through
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Speaker 1: some of that and enlighten that load. But at the
20:43
Speaker 1: same time, you're being empowered. I'm not saying I'm it,
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Speaker 1: I'm the one that's going to cure you. That is
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Speaker 1: an absolute fault statement. I will guide you, I will
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Speaker 1: give you the tools. Are you going to show up
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Speaker 1: for yourself? Is the question? So even my coaching clients.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, you either are going to show up
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Speaker 1: and do the stuff, do the practices, otherwise I'll just
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Speaker 1: take your money and we can both just go on
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Speaker 1: about our lives and be okay with it. Because you're
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Speaker 1: not you're not showing up for yourself. I can't work
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Speaker 1: with people like that. It doesn't it's it's not it's
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Speaker 1: not fair to them if they're not willing. It's not
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Speaker 1: fair to me for wasting my energy. So it's like,
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Speaker 1: find somebody if you need help with something, find somebody
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Speaker 1: who is going to empower you and lift you up,
21:37
Speaker 1: not try to just keep reiterating and sifting through the
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Speaker 1: shit that you already know is wrong or you want
21:43
Speaker 1: to get out of It's like, okay, well that's what's
21:45
Speaker 1: the next steps to move out of it? Like you know, somebody,
21:49
Speaker 1: somebody is stuck in quicksand you don't get a crowd
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Speaker 1: around and just s down there and go, oh yeah,
21:55
Speaker 1: look they're stuck in quicksand well that kind of sucks,
21:57
Speaker 1: doesn't you know, and just sit there and talk about it.
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Speaker 1: What are you going to do to help them move
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Speaker 1: out of it? That's where we want to go right.
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Speaker 2: It's true.
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Speaker 3: It's true, and it's empowering because I have my things
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Speaker 3: that i'll call on. I'll call on like the angels
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Speaker 3: and stuff like that, but you know, sometimes I need
22:18
Speaker 3: a little extra other stuff.
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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that helped when you're stuck in them, when
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Speaker 1: you're stuck in the mucking guck. Yes, you want the help.
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Speaker 1: And at the same time, your your head space, whatever
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Speaker 1: story you're telling you yourself, is so much more powerful
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Speaker 1: in the moment that you wouldn't even you wouldn't even
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Speaker 1: recognize the help from spirit or God or angels or
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Speaker 1: Jesus or anybody else. You just they could. They could
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Speaker 1: plant the biggest heart in front of you, and you
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Speaker 1: just be like mother, mother trucker, that's in my way,
22:52
Speaker 1: get out of my way. It's adopted.
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Speaker 2: You just wouldn't.
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Speaker 1: You would find some reason to be victimized by a huge,
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Speaker 1: giant heart. But it's true, it's true, And it can't
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Speaker 1: be fathomed from the energy that we're in right now,
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Speaker 1: but it can be fathomed from an energy of someone
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Speaker 1: that's in that space that it's.
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Speaker 3: So low vibrational, it just doesn't feel good. It feels heavy,
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Speaker 3: and and.
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Speaker 1: I have no attachment to Yeah, I have no attachment
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Speaker 1: to your story.
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Speaker 3: I know, and I know that Like for me, when
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Speaker 3: I'm helping someone out, it's easy, it's easy.
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Speaker 2: I have no attachment to the story.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. So with no attachment to your story, I can
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Speaker 1: guide you through through moving through it. Whereas when you're
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Speaker 1: trying to do it by yourself, you're too attached to
23:42
Speaker 1: your story and you get blinders on it. You can't
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Speaker 1: see other perspectives or thought processes or shift your mindset
23:48
Speaker 1: or anything like that. You're just like you are focused
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Speaker 1: on the problem. Somebody with no attachment on the outside
23:56
Speaker 1: is like, well if you just you know what if
23:58
Speaker 1: you just sveeered off just just slightly, and then you're like, wait,
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Speaker 1: what I can do that?
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Speaker 2: What do you mean? Yeah, that was not part of
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Speaker 2: my programming.
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Speaker 1: That's right. So yeah, asking for help is huge. And somebody,
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Speaker 1: of course that you would trust or you feel comfortable with,
24:23
Speaker 1: I would love to say, you know, ask your friends,
24:27
Speaker 1: But sometimes your friends are too attached to your stories,
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Speaker 1: they're too much involved, and they're not They're the one
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Speaker 1: They're going to be the cheerleaders that help.
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Speaker 2: You see that you're right exactly. And that's not Workwow, No,
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Speaker 2: it doesn't. It's not beneficial.
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Speaker 3: It's not it's not good to always be the yes
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Speaker 3: person on the sidelines for stuff like that.
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Speaker 1: And if I know this, yeah, and if your friend
24:51
Speaker 1: gives you a hard throat punch of a reality check,
24:56
Speaker 1: then that might damage your relationships. So they're gonna be
24:58
Speaker 1: the they're gonna be your cheerlead. And yeah, you're right,
25:02
Speaker 1: he's a mother f for blah blah blah blah blah.
25:05
Speaker 1: And you know we write at Dawn, bitches, let's go.
25:08
Speaker 1: Whereas a coach, a coach is like, well, you have
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Speaker 1: options and it's your responsibility. And I can as a coach,
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Speaker 1: I can say those things, even even with BEV because
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Speaker 1: in that moment we're doing tapping, we are a coaching client.
25:25
Speaker 1: We are not. I'm not on that friend level no more.
25:28
Speaker 1: Because I need to help move her through something that
25:31
Speaker 1: is my job. As soon as she asks for help,
25:34
Speaker 1: I have to go, Okay, we got to move through
25:37
Speaker 1: this in a way that she is open and willing
25:39
Speaker 1: to understand, not from the writing at don bitch is
25:45
Speaker 1: let's go, because that would not help her, it would
25:49
Speaker 1: keep her stuck still.
25:50
Speaker 3: So yeah, and that's like a Temporarily you might feel
25:54
Speaker 3: a little bit of ease, yeah, you know, during that timeframe,
25:57
Speaker 3: but it doesn't give long term. So even for me,
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Speaker 3: I might have a little bit of a story kind
26:03
Speaker 3: of pop up and I'm like, no, that's a story,
26:05
Speaker 3: and i might go back to the tapping or i
26:07
Speaker 3: might tap on my hand or whatever thing that I'm
26:10
Speaker 3: safe or I'm okay, just walking through it.
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Speaker 2: So just being aware of.
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Speaker 3: All this stuff because like like you said, I just
26:17
Speaker 3: go back to the reprogramming. That's what we're doing all
26:19
Speaker 3: the time. We're reprogramming. We just all we we downloaded
26:25
Speaker 3: a lot of information when we got here, and sometimes
26:28
Speaker 3: that information is just not useful in this time stay
26:32
Speaker 3: space reality that we're in now, which I'm.
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Speaker 2: Finding, yeah, and it just doesn't feel comfortable. That's how
26:38
Speaker 2: we know. That's our gauge.
26:40
Speaker 1: Yeah, So ultimately ask for help. If you're you're stuck
26:47
Speaker 1: in it too much, you have to have somebody who's
26:50
Speaker 1: on the sidelines, has no attachment really who can guide
26:53
Speaker 1: you and help you, whether that's a coach, a psychologist, psychiatrist,
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Speaker 1: mental health counselor whatever that looks like. So don't don't
27:06
Speaker 1: stay and sift in it because really, ultimately, what you're
27:09
Speaker 1: doing is embracing your own suffering and then you get
27:12
Speaker 1: to choose how long you get to suffer. And that
27:14
Speaker 1: doesn't feel good. We know that, So how quickly do
27:17
Speaker 1: you want to feel good? Right?
27:18
Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, these are option and what are you creating?
27:23
Speaker 3: Like what are you trying to bring into your experience?
27:25
Speaker 3: And and and I'm aware of all that stuff too,
27:27
Speaker 3: but it's like also loving ourselves so much that we
27:31
Speaker 3: don't want to continue creating the struggle that we've been in.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, so well we'll call that one good. We'll say
27:40
Speaker 1: thanks for hanging out with tea time with Amy and Bev.
27:43
Speaker 1: You know, be sure to reach out if you need
27:45
Speaker 1: help with something. Not doesn't even have to be with us,
27:50
Speaker 1: somebody that you feel safe and comfortable with, but but
27:55
Speaker 1: do something. Don't sit and just stir in it. And
28:00
Speaker 1: you know there's other people on the planet having these
28:03
Speaker 1: conversations and it could be your coworker, this sits next
28:06
Speaker 1: to you in the office, So be resourceful. Share us.
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Speaker 1: You can find us on many platforms, so of course YouTube, Facebook, Instagram,
28:14
Speaker 1: iHeartRadio podcasts, attic. I'm trying to think of them off
28:20
Speaker 1: the top of my head. TikTok, so share us if
28:26
Speaker 1: you want. Also, you can leave comments questions if there's
28:29
Speaker 1: a topic or you have a question about something, leave
28:31
Speaker 1: it so for us and welcome back to it and
28:35
Speaker 1: can you find a words.
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Speaker 3: I would just say, if you're afraid to ask for help?
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Speaker 3: Are you Are you so afraid that you'd rather stay miserable, Like,
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Speaker 3: it's just take that time to recognize that asking for help,
28:48
Speaker 3: it's being vulnerable and that's okay. It's taught, Like you said,
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Speaker 3: talking to people that you feel safe with or finding yourself,
28:55
Speaker 3: I would say finding yourself a coach, Yeah, I think
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Speaker 3: that's very valuable.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, coaches have more freedom in the things that they
29:04
Speaker 1: can say. I'm just going to leave that there. We're
29:10
Speaker 1: not bound by certain laws and policies and all the things.
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Speaker 1: So anyway, thanks for hanging out with us, teach time
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Speaker 1: with Amy and Bev. We'll see you next time.
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Speaker 3: Bye.