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Episode #218: The Hidden Opportunities in Delays · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Hi, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Ben. What's up girl?
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  A good day? How's it going? All right? You can open your
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  pie hole now. Actually, yeah, we had to start out that way,
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  guys, because Amy can't ask me or say, I forget. We're
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  recording now, so I can say whatever I want to say now. Yep.
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  But it's like talking. We were all in a hurry about getting our
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  last video recording done and we were you know, not having time to do
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  anything after that, and had a little bit of a conversation that we could
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  have recorded after that one, and then I was waiting on family to come
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  out, and there was supposed to be you know, on time, and
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  on that recording we were talking about time. We were talking about how you're
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  like, oh, just go with the flow. My appointment canceled and then
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  bid On was to go early. It's like just going with the flow.
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  Well I had to go with the flow too, because it was it wasn't
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  The timeframe that my family had shown up was a lot later than what we
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  had talked about. Yeah, So so you know, it's it's it's being
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  okay to being those moments of being the flow of things, and that's what
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  we were talking about the last time. It's just being in the flow with
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  all that stuff. Yeah, well we're those moments. Yeah. Well,
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  we had a we have at work. We have several meetings after work for
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  different reasons, and in one of them is one meeting is held every month
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  on a certain day at a certain time. Well, the past two meetings
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  for that, so we're in June right now. So May and April we
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  had a new person come on to that committee, and so in June she
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  was just having a fit because we combined an event volunteer meeting with the committee
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  meeting because a lot of the people on the committee was on the volunteer for
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  this event. So it was like, well, we'll just combine them both
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  and kind of mingle them, and then when we want to talk about the
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  committee stuff, we can tell the volunteers. You know, you can go
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  or you can stay. Either way, we're now starting our committee. Well,
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  this new member was haven't a fit because it wasn't the committee meeting didn't
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  start on time, and this is the second time, and you need to
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  make sure you notify your members when you're not going to be starting a meeting,
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  and she was just beside herself, of course maybe, and me and
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  my thinking process. I'm standing there, going, man, she's got control
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  issues. Man, she's not. She has no desire to be flexible about
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  anything. She's definitely not in the space of Everything happens for a reason.
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  You know. It's like I was just filtering through all this information in my
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  head. I was standing there watching her and listening to her because she was
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  actually targeting one of my co workers with this conversation. So I was just
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  kind of standing there listening, and of course I got a process. Am
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  I showing up like that? How am I showing up? Do I say
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  anythings? You know? And so it was quite interesting. But yeah,
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  I mean a lot of times when you're not, when you're trying to control
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  the situation or the that's the thing, whatever the thing is, it usually
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  turns into a lot of struggle and strife, which is super uncomfortable for everybody
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  involved. And when you I mean for the most part, a lot of
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  that, like, you can complain as much as you want to, it
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  doesn't change the situation. So, you know, I think about when people
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  are very abrupt or even aggressive, when they're trying to get their point across,
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  and then in my head, I'm thinking, is this is this really
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  necessary? Like why do we need to be like that? So it's it's
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  interesting when it comes to time and and the way people show up in themselves
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  when you're not meeting their expectation or their expectation is not being met. Yeah,
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  And the thing is we've been there, both you and I have been
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  there, and it's to put but now I'm on the opposite side of it,
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  right, just like you're on the opposite side of it, We're on
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  the opposite side of it, Like, Okay, we'll be flexible. And
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  then it's like things feel different, they evolve differently. You get to see
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  different things, like you got to see different things that were going on and
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  recognize that. And it take time at you know, taking inventory of self
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  and and what do I show up like this? I have shown up like
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  this in the past. I have. And it's also knowing that that's worked
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  with somebody, that has worked with somebody. That behavior, that manipulation,
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  that's overbearing, controlling all that stuff has worked with somebody. And probably it
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  was learned from a parent or a teacher, or a sibling or somebody close
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  to them growing up, right and that's worked, it's worked for a long
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  time, but we're in this time space reality that stuff doesn't work anymore,
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  and I think it's working less and less and less. And then you actually
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  sit back and you do see where someone's at in their struggles or in their
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  bliss, and honestly, we can see both sides because we're taking the time
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  to take a look at it. So it's kind of awesome. It is
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  kind of awesome, and it's like I've been I've been that person, just
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  like in a rush to go to work. Hey, I take the back
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  way now every single time I go to almost every single time. Hardly ever
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  do I take the highway. Because there's a different energy and it's not becase
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  because I'm avoiding things. And I've been processing that because I left the gym
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  that I was going to for now and then I started going to another place,
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  and at first I was making up excuses about why I left, and
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  then it's like it wasn't about any of that stuff. I was just not
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  we're not in a vibrational frequency match. Bottom line. That's it. That's
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  all that it was about it. But initially my story was because I had
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  to be like, well, I'm not doing it because of this, this
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  and this, you know, like defensive, and it's like that comes down
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  to being a kid, and you know, maybe your mom didn't believe you,
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  and I had a sibling, so if my mom didn't believe me,
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  and my sister was the one that did it, and I'm the one that's
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  being accused of it, you know, we become defense about what we're doing
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  with our time and everything else, and then we carry it on with us
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  throughout our whole life, and then get to get to fifty four and you're
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  like, I'm not carrying that anymore. This is not my stuff to carry
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  anymore. And letting go of this stuff and just seeing it, just being
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  aware of it. It's not something we kind of finished up on our conversation
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  last time. It's it's not something that I'm striving for or that I'm practicing
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  to do. It's just a natural unfoldment of this whole process that's happening for
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  me, this meditation and stuff like that. This is I've talked about it
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  a lot. You can listen to a lot of the videos and it seems
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  like I was in a struggle with it. But just know, I know
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  now that it was just Spirit letting me know meditations. Meditation is going to
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  be the way. It's like all these seeds that were planted for me to
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  be in the perfect temperature, the perfect sunlight, the perfect food coming in
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  no perfect everything right for it to be able to grow, and for me
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  to have an understanding about why would I do meditation Because it's allowing because I'm
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  allowing myself to receive what most people don't know how to receive. I didn't
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  know how to receive, and it came all the way down to you.
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  It's not just to oh, Amy got me something, I need to get
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  hurt something, or oh, thank you so much. You know, it's
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  not any of those kind of things. It's it's being in that space even
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  still that I was not allowing myself to receive. I was not allowing myself
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  or received the messages from Spirit. I wasn't allowed myself. And now I'm
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  in that space where it's just kind of unfolded that way. So when in
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  the evenings or in the middle of the night, when I and I've talked
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  about this before too, I wake up in the middle of the night and
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  I don't look at the clock and be like, oh God, it's this
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  time. I got to be up by this time. I don't do that
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  anymore. I just don't. I just go to bed. And it's like,
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  if I wake up, that's an opportunity for meditation. That's all that
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  it is. It's nothing more than that, nothing more, And it's that
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  simple. It's an it's my perfect opportunity for me to create, right because
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  I've had a few hours of sleep, maybe an hour of sleep, but
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  I'm still reset I'm still refreshed, a little bit better than I was when
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  I first laid down. So it's like, we look at all these things
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  and it's a matter of a choice. How do you want to look at
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  it? And so when I look at it now, it's an opportunity.
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  I wouldn't it be great if we use that word more. Well, this
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  meeting didn't start on time, but it could be an opportunity that I meet
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  somebody new today because all these other different people are here, which I will
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  say, I watched this lady during the meeting and she sat next to somebody
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  and by the end of the volunteer portion of it, they were sitting there
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  having a great conversation. And I'm thinking, you were meant to have this
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  conversation, And there's so many opportunities. If you're being delayed for something,
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  there's an opportunity of missing an accident or running into somebody else, you know,
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  if you're if you're getting to the store a little bit later than you
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  intended to, and you meet somebody that you haven't seen in a long time,
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  but you've been thinking about them. And so I love that word opportunity
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  because that's really what it comes kind of. It makes it more interesting,
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  I think by using that word instead of flexible, right, Flexible is like,
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  well, I have to give more than everybody else, and some people
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  could could relate to the meaning that way. But when you say this is
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  an opportunity, then man, what are the opportunities? Where are the possibilities
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  because that meeting didn't start on time because I was delayed, or because that
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  the plans for that trip didn't work out. So that sounds so much more
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  fun to me now, so I'm going to use that. It's it's almost
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  exciting. Actually, it's there's more of an excitement behind it. Yeah,
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  Like I felt better, like I was lifted up. I was like,
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  oh, opportunities, this is cool. I like it right. And I
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  don't know. I don't even remember what we talked about so much as far
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  as the last time. But it's like I was telling you, I'm in
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  this space like spirits showing me things. Spirit is showing me things, and
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  it's and it's I could be sitting in I'm in the kitchen and I'm looking
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  at my I have a Mason jarn it has spirrollina in it and it's low
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  and in my mind I automatically was like, Oh, that's something else I've
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  got to buy. Right, that's something there's and you feel let's filth.
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  I felt the way that felt, and it's like Spirit showed me that full
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  and it's like, oh, and then what did I feel? I felt
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  like excited. I was like, Oh, yeah. The thing is when
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  we're creating. If I'm going to create, I'm going to create from this
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  space. I'm going to visualize seeing that full. What does that feel like?
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  What does that look like? And I know I've heard this way.
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  Third, I've heard it a million times I have about this whole creating stuff,
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  but it doesn't make sense until you start having the experiences of it,
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  until you start feeling like you're lit up on the inside. It doesn't make
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  sense until but I'm not saying don't don't keep going and forging ahead and reading
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  and stuff, because it's planning seeds. All of it is seed planning to
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  get to the point. And I kept saying the spirit, I want to
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  feel, I want to feel excitement for life and enjoy and what are my
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  passions and what is this looking like? And where am I going to go
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  with all this stuff? And then it's like, I I think we were
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  talking at the end of the thing, and I'm like, right down farm
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  school, look at farm school grants, and look up grants for building your
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  own farm or your own greenhouse or your whatever. Looking at different things like
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  that, exploring other options. Why the spirits give me other options? I
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  would have never have thought about some of that stuff, But have I done
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  the work now? But it doesn't for me. It planted the seed.
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  It's an opportunity. And in the meantime, I'm still growing it in my
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  mind. I'm still I'm still creating the whole time. I'm still in the
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  space of visualizing it and fine tuning it and seeing what it looks like.
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  Well, I can't, oh maybe I could do that Oh, but it
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  would be so much more fun if I would do this, and gosh,
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  and then seeing the kids, how they would be in that whole experience.
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  I was talking to a family member recently and we were talking about stuff,
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  and I was talking about how we create, and it's like it's being up
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  in our mind and it's in that creativity right. It started with a thought.
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  I don't think it's really our thoughts, but it starts with the thought.
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  And if you want to claim it, go right ahead. But it's
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  like it's these thoughts come into the head and are presented to you, and
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  it's like you can grow with it, or you can be just the same
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  way that I was when I saw that spare lying it. Oh, I
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  had to go buy more. There's not enough in here, and it's like
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  a lack of space and it's in it's a lower it doesn't feel good,
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  and I'm but I'm still creating from that space. And the thing is I
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  don't have to. So then I'm talking to him and he's like, oh,
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  yeah, I said, you know how to visualize and do that stuff.
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  I said, when you start creating, like woodworking or that stuff,
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  He says, yeah, it starts up here and I start formulating it.
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  Well, Spirit's right along with us throughout the whole thing, because we're open
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  to receive. And that's the whole thing. It's just being recognizing I'm sitting
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  here in a room, it's ninety two degrees and I got an ice pack
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  on me, and I'm fine. I'm good with it, honestly, because
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  I'm not creating from this space anymore. And I have been creating from this
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  space for such a long time that now I'm recognizing what does it look like?
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  What do I want it to look like? What? So if I'm
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  in that space, do I see myself sitting in on the couch. There's
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  carpet under my feet, and it's nice and cool in there, and I
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  just feel like, oh, I get up. Maybe I've got a little
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  blanket behind me, because sometimes it gets a little cool when I'm sitting in
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  the house of their conditioner on. Because I have had those experiences. But
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  it's being in that space and recognizing and then experiencing the exhilaration because I wasn't
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  an appreciation even when I was experiencing that stuff. So now I'm an opportunity
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  of appreciation all the time. With these things. So it's like I can
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  look at it like, oh, because I was, Oh my god,
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  I was doing it so bad. I was creating from such a city space.
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  I was doing it well though I was telling you I was doing it
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  really good. We're usually really good at that one because we've been doing it
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  right, it was familiar. That was the familiar. Now it's like,
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  it's so it's exciting when you can be in the space of creating stuff,
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  and it's being aware of who you can create with, right, It's knowing
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  who you can talk to people about this stuff like this. Because I was
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  talking to someone else even recently about a home that we were talking about building
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  out here, and and I could I could feel the energy shift. I
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  could feel so many different things. But because I'm a different space, I
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  didn't allow it to shift my energy because I'm still in that creative space because
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  I can see it. I mean I can see it, and whether I
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  ever get to it, I don't even care because I'm excited, Like I'm
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  excited about the whole creativity process. The whole thing is fun and that's what
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  it's all about. Yeah, and just what you just said about being really
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  good or we should we said about being really good about creating from that lower
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  energy. Over the past week, it's just been a lot of and this
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  is pertaining to work and when you when you have when you're you're bringing in
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  the work environment in to play, there's several different parties, you know,
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  involved, and so we've just been getting a lot of people complaining and it
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  really i'd say over half of it doesn't even pertain to our company, our
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  organization, but they're complaining to us, right and and then the all like
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  last week, I'm just like, what And seriously, seriously, I'm like,
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  what is going on? You know, an internal thing again, not
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  saying it out loud to everybody else. Why are we getting all these complainers?
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  Why, okay, allus complainers? What is happening? And it did,
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  I'm not kidding you. It just hit me when you were talking,
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  well, the people of the organization, the employees have been complaining about different
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  things. And I'm not kid just hit I'm like, oh my gosh,
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  we are and I know we were doing it. I know we were creating
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  it, but it didn't hit me till just now that look at all the
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  complaining the staff has been doing about different things and about different people that have
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  been the a little difficult. So I'm glad you said that because now I'm
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  like, oh, that problem solved now. But I said before it would
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  be like, oh god, I'm creating all this. But on my side
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  of things, it's like I am creating all this. So it's like I
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  can continue all that same stuff or I can do something different. So then
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  and again, like so as we're talking right now, I can see you
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  and I don't know, I could see you guys all sitting around this round
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  table. Right. I can not saying that you guys are, but I
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  can see you guys all sitting around this round table. Now. Each person's
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  space I can see is like I can see like a light lit up on
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  top of their head and like they're just they're all beaming and you guys are
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  just all smiling on each other and everything is flowing great to me. Those
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  are the things that's how that's where we create from. Yeah, the prayers,
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  the meditations, that all of it's for this film. We want to
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  feel good. We don't because we've we've been not feeling good for a long
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  time. But we don't want to just feel good for a couple of minutes,
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  like taking right on a roller coaster, or you know, that first
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  kiss, or or I don't know. There's so many different things. We
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  want to stretch those moments out, and I think we can. I don't
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  think we can. I know that we can have that all the time,
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  but that depends on where we're at. What baggage am I carrying with me?
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  What expectations am I having with me. It's kind of funny how this
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  conversation kind of took over full circle because we started out, you know,
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  wanting before we would have tried to try to manage the time of everybody and
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  make sure. I mean, of course, it's we got to have some
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  time friends, but I also trust spirits. I trust spirit. There's been
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  times where I've been at work and it's like I'm waiting for the next person
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  to come in. They're not here yet, and I'm shoveling in food,
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  and as soon as I finish my food, they show up, even if
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  it's a couple of minutes late. It's di fine timing, it's diffine timing.
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  It's just allowing the flow of the whole thing and still being in that
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  space and visualizing how great your day is going to set yourself with a smile
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  on your face, regardless of what's going on around you. And they wouldn't
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  really you know, somebody walked in while you were eating, they'd be like,
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  oh, and all you say, you know, give me just a
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  minute while I finish up my food. They'd be like, okay, cool,
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  yeah, yeah. There would be no no big deal to them.
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  Yeah. And when I when I as you're talking about the round table,
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  there has been several times where I have an awareness about something and I will
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  talk about it. So let's just say I go in and I say,
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  okay, guys, we are creating. And typically it's it's a conversation with
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  each one of them. We're creating from. Uh, these complainers that are
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  coming in, it's because we are complaining. Like it's a give and take,
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  and so we may be more mindful about this. And and they'll sit
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  there and they'll look at me and they go oh yeah, yeah yeah,
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  and right I can walk away. And I've had it happen several times that
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  somebody will come up to them and then they start complaining again. And so
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  it's like I have no control of that. I can only be mindful of
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  myself and how I'm showing up. But I also know that I'm amplifying it
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  when I'm in it too. So when I change my energy, it's definitely
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  gonna shift the people I work with. And then I feel like I don't
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  feel like I know because I've I've also seen this happen that when I shift
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  and I'm not contributing in that way anymore or less like way less, like
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  way way way less, that the energy shifts and then they're not complaining as
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  much. I've practiced this several times. I mean, even in my home
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  environment, I would come home and just be mad at the world for whatever
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  reason, and everybody else in the household is meet me, me, me
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  right, bickering and doing all things. And I've gone into the bathroom giving
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  myself an attitude, checking them in the mirror and say, listen, you're
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  creating this and everybody's being affected, and you mean, knock your shit off
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  and let's start again. And I'll take a breath and I'll put a smile
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  on my face and I'll tell myself that you know, you're doing really good
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  and you got this, and give myself a pep talk and walk out,
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  and everybody's energy is completely different. I've done it so many times and now
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  it's like, oh, okay, now we're going to practice it at work
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  with many Yeah, that's awesome. And I've witnessed exactly what you're talking about
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  too, are bunk'st family of a story that was being told about somebody else
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  that wasn't even part of the family. It wasn't even part of the whole
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  situation. And then I watched how the dad started responding. I watched how
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  the sun started responding, and I noticed how I felt like I got to
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  get out of here. And then once I stopped for a second, instead
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  of running from the energy, I recognized what it was all about. And
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  it was like, okay, okay, our Kanes of Michael Ife needs you
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  to help me lift my energy up and full, you know, go into
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  my energy and let's release this and send it back to whoever with love and
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  light. Yeah. So it's it really is. It's quite something to see.
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  But it happens like that. Yeah, it's amazing. And the more
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  I, you know, the more I experienced it and really have the awareness
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  that you know, this this stuff is real? Boy? Is it?
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  Boy? It keeps you on your toes for sure. Yeah. But at
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  the same time, it's another opportunity. I always have these communities to practice
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  and and be very self aware of how you're showing up. So I could
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  show up, yeah, and I could show up and blame everybody because they're
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  being angry and upset and pissy and and say, well, because they're showing
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  up like that. That's why I'm like, no, I don't need to
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  do that. I need to decide is it me and take responsibility for me
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  and then if it's if it's not, then I'm picking up on their energy,
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  which is me contributing to their energy. And then I got to decide,
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  Okay, this is not mine. And so like you said, I'm
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  send that energy back with love and maintain my own energy and I can shift
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  my attitude very quickly and have a wonderful rest of my day. So it's
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  that self awareness is huge and and the more you practice it that, I
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  mean, the better you get at it, for sure. But then,
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  just like I just admitted having my moment of why are all these complainers showing
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  up? Well, because you and everybody in the office been complaining. So
• 23:48
  there you go, what are you gonna do about it? It's like attracts
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  like, it's just it's not it's not a punishment, it's not anything bad
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  at all. It's just that's what you've been, that's what you've been creating.
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  Been well, I'm done now because that was exhausting having these people show
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  up. So and it's not it's I would say, it's not always easy.
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  I think it gets easier and easier and easier. But when you're around
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  a lot of people that are that are like that, and then if you
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  find that's where boundaries come into play. Boundaries come into play because you can't
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  you can't honor yourself from that space. You set up boundaries. You set
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  up boundaries until you've become a strong app to be able to be in that
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  space all the time. And then it's like it doesn't matter what they say
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  or do. You're unaffected because you you don't and you don't even need those
• 24:33
  boundaries anymore. You can drop all the shields, you don't need any of
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  it, because it's that was just only to protect you to get from from
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  where you were at to where you are now. That's all that it is.
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  It's not anything bad. So it's like you so of the people that
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  we don't. We probably don't have in our lives anymore. Those there were
• 24:48
  healthy boundaries put into place, and it doesn't mean they're always going to have
• 24:52
  to be there, but until I can get to the space where I'm good
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  no matter what, and I don't feel like I'm evolving, No, is
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  it evolving? No, because I want to be evolving. I don't want
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  to evolve. I don't know. I don't know. I don't want to
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  go. My mind is not thicked of the word. I just wanted to
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  lie. That's right. We don't want we don't. I don't want to
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  be in that space. And then sometimes I realize that I especially with family,
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  because there's a history and there's patterns, and it's easy to step right
• 25:22
  back into that whole history and patterns and everything with friends, but it's like
• 25:26
  that's where the boundaries came in. That's where I had to learn how to
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  have boundaries until I could because I had to honor myself. That was really
• 25:33
  what it was about. It's honoring myself. And we talked about before it's
• 25:37
  like loving myself more. It's not and I and I don't feel like it's
• 25:40
  loving myself more anymore. But I've got to love myself. I've got to
• 25:44
  love myself and allow myself to receive. There's so many different things to be
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  and to be in that space, and then it's then it's easy. Then
• 25:52
  you then you're around anybody and you just understand that this is where they're at.
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  This is where there where their traumas came from. This is where they're
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  out on their spiritual path. And it's not to be judged because you know,
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  there's a lot of people around us that haven't judged us. And it's
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  like, that's why it's so easy to do a lot of this stuff and
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  to take the time and pay attention to it, pay attention to how you're
• 26:14
  feeling, because our feelings are everything. And it would be just like the
• 26:18
  lady with the committee, it was maybe she needed to feel like she needed
• 26:25
  to be heard, and that's the way she knows how to do it.
• 26:29
  Maybe she was trying to create a boundary but coming across kind of aggressively about
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  it. True, and and maybe she's on a new path of setting those
• 26:44
  boundaries and this is how she knows how to set it by being very moistrous
• 26:48
  about it. So it was like all these different days and it's like,
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  Okay, it would be just as simple to say, listen the path.
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  Two meetings haven't started on time I joined this committee for whatever reason. Blah
• 27:03
  blah blah. I would really appreciate it that if the time is going to
• 27:07
  change, that you let me know so that I can arrange my schedule.
• 27:11
  Like those are almost verbatim the words that she was using, only she was
• 27:15
  not saying them with that tone, let me tell you, because I was
• 27:18
  standing there listening to it. Right. So yeah, we also have to
• 27:23
  recognize when people are having a moment where they seem like I'm using the word
• 27:30
  aggressive very forward in that type of space that maybe you know they have their
• 27:41
  own wounds. We've all had. And I know when I started using my
• 27:47
  voice or learning learning to use my voice and speak up for myself and set
• 27:52
  those boundaries, I was pretty bitchy about it, like I was kind of
• 27:56
  mean about it. But that's how I knew to do it at that time.
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  Yea, right, And as I practice, I got better, So
• 28:04
  my communication is a lot better. And and and it too also comes around
• 28:08
  to that self love and honoring yourself and not being like somebody's doormat or a
• 28:18
  step you know, stepping stone that they're just holding you under the water,
• 28:22
  but but learning to communicate differently, and that's definitely a practice. And and
• 28:32
  it wasn't a skill I had, It was a skill I had to develop.
• 28:34
  So and there's still times I struggle in expressing myself because I get wrapped
• 28:41
  up in those uncomfortable feelings and not feel safe. And I still my body
• 28:51
  will still shake a little. It doesn't tremble like it used to, but
• 28:56
  I will still shake a little bit when I'm trying to find the words or
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  express myself in a situation that's uncomfortable. So practice, practice, practice.
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  I'll be here a long time, so I have a lot of opportunity for
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  it. I was just going to say, thank God for all those opportunities.
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  So all right, my friend, we had a great conversation, and
• 29:23
  I really think it's very beneficial. So you have any final words for our
• 29:30
  audience, for me or you, or it's for everybody really for everybody,
• 29:36
  thank you for showing up, right, because this life is an opportunity for
• 29:41
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• 29:47
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• 29:52
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• 29:55
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• 30:00
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• 30:04
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• 30:10
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• 30:52
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• 30:56
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• 31:10
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• 31:15
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