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The Best Place with Charity Lawson · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I almost famous podcast
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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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Speaker 2: It's almost for his podcast. We are here with I
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Speaker 2: can't even say this high enough Bachelor Nation favorite Charity, Welcome.
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Speaker 3: Hello, Thank you.
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Speaker 2: All right, Charity, We're gonna dive in right away.
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Speaker 3: It was good too.
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Speaker 2: You're a busy human and I want to respect your time.
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Speaker 2: Thank you. You're sitting here in San Francisco with us
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Speaker 2: at went Tea Wineries. Yeah, we're having a great evening.
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Speaker 2: We are a fantastic, great dinner, great wine. Everybody's downstairs.
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Speaker 2: I can hear them downstairs, like doing whatever they're doing.
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Speaker 2: I hope the music's going. They're probably dancing, and that
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Speaker 2: brings me the first question. Dance with the Stars. Yes,
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Speaker 2: you've been public recently about your time on Dancing with
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Speaker 2: the Stars. Kind of what that meant for you. Here's
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Speaker 2: the interesting thing, and I want to say this, I'm
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Speaker 2: not just asking this question based on nothing. When I
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Speaker 2: got off of the Bachelor, one of the advice and
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Speaker 2: I won't say who, Yeah, one of the advice I
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Speaker 2: got from a past bachelor was don't do it because
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Speaker 2: it's really hard on a relationship. It's like really hard,
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Speaker 2: and I didn't really believe it at the time, but
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Speaker 2: I didn't do it, yeah, because I just could see
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Speaker 2: that it would maybe push me in a direction I
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Speaker 2: wasn't ready for. Yeah, I want to hear from you personally,
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Speaker 2: like why did you say yes to it? And did
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Speaker 2: you ever get that same advice?
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Speaker 4: Okay, yes to both of those questions. We'll start with
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Speaker 4: the first one. Why did I say yes? I was
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Speaker 4: very much like you in that position of where I
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Speaker 4: was extremely hesitant to do it, and I was probably
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Speaker 4: the one out of our relationship me and Dawton was
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Speaker 4: the one that was leaning more towards no, and for
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Speaker 4: that same reason.
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Speaker 2: Because Down was like, hey, you should do it.
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Speaker 3: He definitely pushed me.
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Speaker 4: And you know, like obviously you talked to like for
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Speaker 4: I talked to like Caitlin, I talked to Hannah, I
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Speaker 4: talked to Gabby, and obviously, like they had at the time,
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Speaker 4: were in different like positions that I was in in
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Speaker 4: terms of like couples and where they were ad but
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Speaker 4: they all said like, obviously it's extreme hard and so
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Speaker 4: like take your relationship into consideration. And for me, like
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Speaker 4: I had two weeks in between like when my season
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Speaker 4: rapped until I left to go train for Dancing with
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Speaker 4: the Stars. So like that's a lot on our relationship.
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Speaker 4: You're like becoming public, You're trying to celebrate your engagement.
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Speaker 4: Like there's so many things happening, and like I sat
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Speaker 4: on my contract for like months, Like I had my
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Speaker 4: contract like obviously when they first like brought it up,
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Speaker 4: but like I like I didn't sign it, and they
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Speaker 4: were like trying to get it in because I was
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Speaker 4: one of the last ones to like get cast it
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Speaker 4: for it, but I didn't want to because I was
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Speaker 4: like so scared. And so I remember like asking Dot
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Speaker 4: and we were in Vegas at the time. I was
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Speaker 4: like everyone's telling me like obviously, like take your relationship
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Speaker 4: into consideration, don't do it or like think you know,
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Speaker 4: think a lot about it. And he was like chruity, honestly,
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Speaker 4: like this is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Like
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Speaker 4: I am going to support you every single step of
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Speaker 4: the way, Like this should be the last thing that
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Speaker 4: you're worried about, and so like because I knew like
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Speaker 4: obviously where we stood in our relationship and how much
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Speaker 4: like like strength and how secure he was, I was like, Okay,
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Speaker 4: I'm trusting you, and like I really just went on
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Speaker 4: a whim and I was like, you know what, whatever happens,
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Speaker 4: Like I'm hoping for the best, but it was terrifying
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Speaker 4: because I was like, I don't I don't want to
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Speaker 4: walk away from this like with a filled relationship because
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Speaker 4: I said yes to another opportunity.
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Speaker 2: So now you guys, say, how many months removed from
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Speaker 2: like the end of.
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Speaker 4: The show almost so we wrapped the finale was in
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Speaker 4: December twenty twenty three, so we're about like almost six
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Speaker 4: seven months out, so over that.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, have you do you feel like you're stronger today
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Speaker 2: than you were then?
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Speaker 3: Not really?
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Speaker 4: Actually yeah, yeah, it's crazy because it's like I don't
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Speaker 4: want to like say, like the experience wasn't like good,
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Speaker 4: because there was good moments in it, but it's really
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Speaker 4: like a let alone from just like the physical like
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Speaker 4: you know, exhaustion and how much it is on you.
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Speaker 4: It's a lot mentally and emotionally. And so I think
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Speaker 4: because I was in the unique position of having a
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Speaker 4: juggle and like foster a new relationship and engagement and
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Speaker 4: try to like spend as much time as I could
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Speaker 4: with Dotton and like give being part of myself to him.
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Speaker 4: For that I was also like exerting a lot of
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Speaker 4: like my energy to like the whole experience. And I
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Speaker 4: think that like just completely like broke me down. Not
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Speaker 4: in a bad way, but it's just like it's a
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Speaker 4: lot and like I'm one person. I only have so
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Speaker 4: much to give to all these areas of my life.
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Speaker 4: And I really do feel like I walked away from
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Speaker 4: that like more drained obviously than when I came in,
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Speaker 4: and it took a minute for me to kind of
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Speaker 4: just get my mental and everything back on track.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, what have you guys learned as a couple
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Speaker 2: then going through that? Yeah, kind of like where you
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Speaker 2: sit even now going through that and then coming out
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Speaker 2: of it.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think like it's just like there's so many
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Speaker 4: elements and parts of that. But like my thing like
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Speaker 4: when obviously Dowton came to La to stay with me,
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Speaker 4: and he sacrificed so much, so I realize how much,
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Speaker 4: like you know, obviously he was sacrificing, but like also
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Speaker 4: for me, like I think communication was like a huge piece,
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Speaker 4: which is so cliche to say communication, But in what
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Speaker 4: ways did that look? Like Like I was gone a lot,
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Speaker 4: Like I was gone the majority of the day, but
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Speaker 4: also like him being at home, him working a lot,
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Speaker 4: and then like trying to find time to like obviously
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Speaker 4: make you know, make time for date nights things like that.
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Speaker 4: I think like we reached a point where we had
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Speaker 4: to like start just like communicating our needs and like
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Speaker 4: it was something that we learned in couples therapy of
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Speaker 4: like not expecting like the other partner to read each
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Speaker 4: other's minds, of like where you feel like you're at,
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Speaker 4: or like what you expect your partner to like read
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Speaker 4: or know about you. And that was something that I
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Speaker 4: think I had to like start telling more like to
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Speaker 4: dot and of like Okay, I'm tired today, or like
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Speaker 4: today I'm just not in the best headspace because practice
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Speaker 4: was so hard and I just feel like I'm not
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Speaker 4: myself or whatever that is, and it's not you. You know.
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Speaker 4: It just required a lot more like attentiveness in that
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Speaker 4: area than I expected. And I think that was something
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Speaker 4: that we both like learned together. But like it wasn't
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Speaker 4: a bad hurdle. It was like a good one in
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Speaker 4: a way because it helped us like obviously learn more
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Speaker 4: about each other.
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Speaker 3: So that makes sense.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it makes a lot of sense. Yeah, And I
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Speaker 2: want to transition a little bit here because you're in
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Speaker 2: a unique season right now where you're getting ready to
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Speaker 2: you know, well, the new Bachelorette season is a promise, right,
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Speaker 2: and people will know Jin as the last bachelor, the
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Speaker 2: most recent Yeah. I remember when I was a bachelor
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Speaker 2: and that next season came about, and like you're ready
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Speaker 2: for it, and there's an excitement because you're ready to
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Speaker 2: give it up. But then at times I missed it,
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Speaker 2: like I missed the idea that like, hey, people are
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Speaker 2: really interested in what I was doing. You're also in
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Speaker 2: a unique season because I think at this point people
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Speaker 2: start to know if the relationship they're in is either
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Speaker 2: going to work or it's not. Yes, if I was
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Speaker 2: to ask you just straight up, like do you believe
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Speaker 2: that Dotton is the one still for you? What would
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Speaker 2: you say?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? I would. I definitely would say yes.
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Speaker 2: And have you all have you believed that since the
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Speaker 2: moment you got engaged or has this been like an
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Speaker 2: like have you gotten to a point now because of
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Speaker 2: these hurdles, because of the things you've gone through where
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Speaker 2: you're like, no, it was great back then. It was
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Speaker 2: that euphoria. Is that new kind of like puppy love
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Speaker 2: but now we got something that I know.
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Speaker 3: That's the thing.
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Speaker 4: I think it's like you come off the show you
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Speaker 4: in like in an engagement, you're on this high and
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Speaker 4: it's like yeah, like this is it and you're kind
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Speaker 4: of still in that little bit of what we call
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Speaker 4: like the bubble love. But I think for us, which
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Speaker 4: is again what I was scared about, like starting Dancing
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Speaker 4: with the Stars and doing all these opportunities so soon,
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Speaker 4: was like, oh, that's going to come like crashing down
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Speaker 4: so fast. But I think if anything, like since Dancing
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Speaker 4: with the Stars and then moving to New York and
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Speaker 4: having all these like actual life adjustments, like being able
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Speaker 4: to tackle those but tackle those in a way that
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Speaker 4: for us was so healthy and it wasn't something that
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Speaker 4: like scared me about this person or like doing or
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Speaker 4: learning these things. I was like, wait a minute, like
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Speaker 4: this is actually really good for us, Like we're doing
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Speaker 4: these things now and it's not scaring me from you.
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Speaker 4: If anything, it's making us stronger and like we're learning
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Speaker 4: how to navigate these things. So I think, like like
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Speaker 4: I said, it brought us closer in that way, but
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Speaker 4: like it's reality for me, and I think that's like
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Speaker 4: been the grounding thing of like we're not actually like
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Speaker 4: still like you know, we still do stuff and we're
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Speaker 4: able to like have fun. But like there's this beauty
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Speaker 4: of like just being in reality and like doing all
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Speaker 4: these things that is actually a part of life. It's
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Speaker 4: not like what people see obviously on social media. We
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Speaker 4: share the good parts, but like we're experiencing all these
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Speaker 4: like real life tests, and I think that has helped us.
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Speaker 2: It's like so incredible. I mean, being married, there is
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Speaker 2: a beauty in that, like slow down, yeah, and to
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Speaker 2: where like, yes, we're still doing things intentionally to connect
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Speaker 2: with each other, but just that like you can wake
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Speaker 2: up every day and be like, no, I got my
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Speaker 2: partner here. So you've still been very much involved with
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Speaker 2: the show here recently too, Like they've really like you. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: it actually come and I know that works, right, They
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Speaker 2: have to call you and you're like, yeah, I'll come back.
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Speaker 2: It's cool that you want me to show up on
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Speaker 2: TV again, even though I'm you know, removed from the
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Speaker 2: show at this point. So I want to hear about that.
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Speaker 2: I also want to hear what I guess to start, Yeah,
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Speaker 2: what is your view of the show as you sit
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Speaker 2: here today?
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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, okay, starting with the first one, obviously, like
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Speaker 4: them calling me up. I am very close with like
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Speaker 4: a lot of the producers still, and that's like been
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Speaker 4: the nice part of it. It's like I haven't or
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Speaker 4: there wasn't any fracture in relationships which I can say
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Speaker 4: I walked away from my experience saying like that's probably
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Speaker 4: one of the best things that I did, and I'm
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Speaker 4: really grateful for that because it could have looked very differently. So, yeah,
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Speaker 4: like obviously being close with the producers like and you know,
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Speaker 4: them wanting to like utilize my voice in certain things.
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Speaker 4: I've been grateful for that, but it's also been hard
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Speaker 4: because I feel like, you know, we all know, like
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Speaker 4: usually the history with leads, like you either are on
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Speaker 4: the good side or you're not. And yeah, I feel
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Speaker 4: like for the last few years, maybe a few of
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Speaker 4: the bachelorettes have kind of just like walked away from
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Speaker 4: the franchise or just are not as involved. And obviously
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Speaker 4: for me, like I feel like my role in that
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Speaker 4: is like I've been very vocal about like advocating for
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Speaker 4: certain things and like the changes in the show of
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Speaker 4: like you know what, we need a change over the
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Speaker 4: years and how we can like improve or make this better.
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Speaker 4: But yeah, like yeah, it's like I don't know. It's
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Speaker 4: it's a good thing, but I don't know.
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Speaker 2: How have they handled that? Like what do those conversations
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Speaker 2: look like to you?
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like in this I talked about this
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Speaker 4: recently on another like podcast. I feel like for me,
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Speaker 4: a lot of the things that I have seen changed
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Speaker 4: was I don't want to say it's because am I doing,
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Speaker 4: but I definitely like like I brought up a lot
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Speaker 4: of things to them ahead of time and then like
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Speaker 4: just speaking for instance, like obviously with Joey season, like
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Speaker 4: I advocated a lot for a lot of the things
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Speaker 4: that we saw at like the woman tell all like
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Speaker 4: what like with the Rachel situation, Like she was going
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Speaker 4: through a lot and she like actually reached out to me,
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Speaker 4: and I think like at the time, like she was
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Speaker 4: very hesitan and to like even talk to the producers
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Speaker 4: about it obviously because of you know, the history of
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Speaker 4: how certain things have been handled in the past. But
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Speaker 4: I basically totally yeah, you know, like encouraging her like
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Speaker 4: here's how to go about this, but also like saying,
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Speaker 4: you know what, I will also speak to them on
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Speaker 4: your behalf and see if there's anything like I can do.
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Speaker 4: So it's like things like that I'm grateful to be
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Speaker 4: a part of. And I feel like the show is
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Speaker 4: trying to like make you know, efforts in like making
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Speaker 4: things better, which I will say like they have since
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Speaker 4: my season at least, I feel like they've gotten a
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Speaker 4: lot better. But like still, you know, we always know
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Speaker 4: there's still ways to go with all of this in
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Speaker 4: the change.
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Speaker 3: But yeah, so.
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Speaker 2: How would you, like, how are you navigating that personally?
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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, because it is a show you're still associated with,
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Speaker 2: You're still going on, You're still trying to have these
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Speaker 2: conversations at the end of it all, like what is
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Speaker 2: your kind of like goal.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's exhausting. It's like it's one of those things.
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Speaker 4: And that's what I was trying to say. It's like
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Speaker 4: I feel like I'm not I'm one of the only
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Speaker 4: leads that actually are like remaining that still is like
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Speaker 4: actively involved in speaking and doing all these things. So
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Speaker 4: it is exhausting. I feel like at times for me
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Speaker 4: to like do that and feel like I have to
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Speaker 4: do that. But I also just like am the type
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Speaker 4: of person at my heart just I want like whoever
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Speaker 4: it comes behind me to have a better experience or
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Speaker 4: to like be like, oh, I remember at this time
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Speaker 4: this was like this, and now you know you can
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Speaker 4: look back and be like a year later, like we've
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Speaker 4: made this much change. So I guess like that's like
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Speaker 4: my overall thing. I know, like I'm one person and
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Speaker 4: I can't do it all. Like it's going to take
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Speaker 4: like a collaborative effort. But I think if the only
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Speaker 4: way for me to still like kind of remain active
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Speaker 4: in that sense and be as involved as I am
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Speaker 4: is like hoping that I can like somehow just improve
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Speaker 4: or help improve things. So that's kind of my goal,
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Speaker 4: is just like making it better for the next person after.
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Speaker 2: Are you doing this because you care about the show
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Speaker 2: or you think the show has a platform that could
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Speaker 2: be better? Yeah, and make make a change that like
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Speaker 2: would affect millions. Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Both.
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Speaker 4: I care about the show in the sense that because
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Speaker 4: it worked out for me, I probably feel like if
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Speaker 4: I didn't get so much from it, or if I
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Speaker 4: didn't like meet Don or if it didn't work out
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Speaker 4: for me, and I feel like, again the producers were
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Speaker 4: really hands on in that sense and really heard like
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Speaker 4: my heart during my season I want to believe that,
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Speaker 4: and so.
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Speaker 3: I'm going to tell myself that.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but like yeah, because it worked out for me,
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Speaker 4: like I do have like it's like a deep spot
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Speaker 4: in my heart for them, but like, yeah, I just
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Speaker 4: also think like their platform could be so much better
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Speaker 4: and utilized better in different ways.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's such an interesting point. Yeah, like it brought
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Speaker 2: you so much, like it brought you the love of
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Speaker 2: your life. Yeah, and I've got to see you guys
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Speaker 2: together and see you a couple of times together. I mean,
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Speaker 2: it's an incredible dude. Yeah, but like it is something
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Speaker 2: special when the show, for all the faults and the
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Speaker 2: failures and all the things that happened, it is still
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Speaker 2: wild that it can work exactly.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know we think about that every day.
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Speaker 4: It's like it's we like to say we got lucky,
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Speaker 4: but also it's like, no, like I feel like we
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Speaker 4: just were in the right place at the right time.
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Speaker 4: And you know, Dotton being like you said, just a
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Speaker 4: very intentional guy in person. It's crazy that our past
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Speaker 4: cross the way it did. But yeah, very fortunate, and
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Speaker 4: it's every day we were like, how did we end
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Speaker 4: up here?
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Speaker 3: But it's because of the show, which is nuts.
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Speaker 2: But so what's next then, Like what do you guys
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Speaker 2: look at as a couple, Like what are you excited about?
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Speaker 2: I mean I have on my notes here that I
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Speaker 2: don't know if you've mentioned anywhere, but like, you know,
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Speaker 2: wedding planning, those types of things that obviously come with
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Speaker 2: the territory and the common questions that get asked when
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Speaker 2: you get engaged on the show, Yeah, like just what
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Speaker 2: does life look like now in your ideal world moving forward?
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Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, So obviously when we got off the show,
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Speaker 4: we like kind of hit the ground running, I think.
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Speaker 4: I mean obviously it was like a little pause because
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Speaker 4: I went on Dancing with the Stars, But right after
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Speaker 4: that we kind of dove like a little bit right
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Speaker 4: into wedding planning. But then and we announced like the timeframe,
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Speaker 4: which is still the same, but the more we looked
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Speaker 4: about looked at it, it was like, why are we like
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Speaker 4: rushing right now a wedding like right off the bat,
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Speaker 4: like we have like almost like almost two years. It's
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Speaker 4: like a year and like a few months in between.
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Speaker 4: So I was like, we have time, and like we
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Speaker 4: don't have we don't want like super big weddings. Besides
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Speaker 4: the Nigerian one. So I think we collectively just both
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Speaker 4: kind of talked it over. I was like, we just
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Speaker 4: want to enjoy this. We don't want it to be
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Speaker 4: like this haushle still, And it kind of took a
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Speaker 4: minute for us to kind of hop back into normal life.
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Speaker 3: Like I went on tour and did Dance with the
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Speaker 3: Stars tour, so.
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Speaker 4: Just like me like getting my grounding again, taking time
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Speaker 4: to like work on my mental health following this show
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Speaker 4: and then Dotton just working a lot.
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Speaker 3: We were just like, let's just enjoy each other.
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Speaker 4: There's like not a rush, and I think that has
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Speaker 4: like probably served us better. And like I said, just
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Speaker 4: like navigating life on top of it. It's a lot,
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Speaker 4: and like when you start wedding planning, you want to
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Speaker 4: devote everything to it because it's such a big day.
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Speaker 4: But you know, we're happy where we're at and like
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Speaker 4: just taking a moment and just taking a beat. So
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Speaker 4: we're gonna dive back into it sooner, but just taking
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Speaker 4: time for us now.
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Speaker 2: I might this might be naive, but I think I'm
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Speaker 2: hearing this right. Yeah you said you don't want big
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Speaker 2: weddings except the.
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Speaker 3: Nigerian I know, Yeah, yes, I know.
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Speaker 2: There's multiple wedding.
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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, yeah, So we're doing like two. But
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Speaker 4: when I say too, it's not like two big weddings.
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Speaker 4: One of them is going to be a traditional wedding
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Speaker 4: American wedding, which is going to be like a smaller size,
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Speaker 4: like guest list. But the Nigerian wedding, it's you can't
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Speaker 4: have a Nigerian wedding and say I want like fifty guests.
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Speaker 2: It's not like they elaborate, like tell me all about it.
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Speaker 2: I don't know anything about.
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Speaker 4: They party like it's it's like a three day like thing.
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Speaker 3: It's it's a lot of people. It's a big thing.
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Speaker 4: So that's why I was like, that's going to be
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Speaker 4: the big wedding, and we're going to say that, and
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Speaker 4: we're trying to time it to where it's not spaced
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Speaker 4: out like super like I get married like three months
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Speaker 4: before and then we have to come back and do
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Speaker 4: another wedding. We're trying to do it to where it's
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Speaker 4: kind of like just like a wedding week, it's all together.
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Speaker 4: But yeah, I'm like trying to gear up for the
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Speaker 4: Nigeria one for just going to be like four hundred people.
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Speaker 4: It's like insane. They have like so many people there
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Speaker 4: and it's it's not yeah, what is.
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Speaker 2: Like what is if? Yeah go ahead somebody, It's like, yeah,
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Speaker 2: unaware what happens at these weddings.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, So traditionally it's like three days like over the course,
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Speaker 4: it can be as long as you want it, but
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Speaker 4: like usually it's like a weekend or two days at least.
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Speaker 4: And the first like the first set of it is
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Speaker 4: just like the traditional part of it. But then like
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Speaker 4: they have like this whole day where it's just like
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Speaker 4: truly the reception, and the reception.
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Speaker 2: Is like the big party.
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Speaker 4: So like when you see it's like everyone's in traditional garments,
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Speaker 4: like the bridal parties, everyone is in the guests or
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Speaker 4: in traditional garments, and it's just really you think about it,
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Speaker 4: it's like I'm trying to explain it, but it's just
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Speaker 4: like when you I don't want to say, like when
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Speaker 4: you go out, but like just think of it like
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Speaker 4: a big celebration and you have everybody, like all of
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Speaker 4: your family. It's not just like oh, mom and dad
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Speaker 4: and sisters. It's like everyone extended family.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, literally everybody.
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Speaker 4: And one of the really fun parts that I've learned,
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Speaker 4: which I got to like kind of experience it at
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Speaker 4: Dawton's brother when he was graduating from med school this
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Speaker 4: past spring. Is that they throw money, so like there's
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Speaker 4: like money showers. No, he was like, yeah, I want
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Speaker 4: to be there, but it's like for the bride and
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Speaker 4: groom and you just like let people just not like
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Speaker 4: shower you with money.
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Speaker 3: And it's crazy. It's like a whole thing.
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Speaker 2: So well, both these happen here in the US.
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Speaker 4: No, the Nigerian when we're trying to like plan it
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Speaker 4: in Nigeria, like that's locking in the date.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the crazy part. We're going to Nigeria.
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Speaker 2: No, wonder you're taking some time. No, I know, it's
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Speaker 2: a lot, a lot to do. Yeah, but this excites you.
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Speaker 2: I mean I think that's the most The thing I
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Speaker 2: would love for people to hear as we close up
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Speaker 2: here is the sentiment of where you're at today. Like
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Speaker 2: if I was to ask you the question how are
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Speaker 2: you doing, and like where are you at? Your response would.
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Speaker 4: Be I'm probably in the best place that I could
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Speaker 4: be at following everything that I've just went through, just
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Speaker 4: taking time for myself, taking time to just continue fostering
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Speaker 4: my relationship with Dowton for me getting like my career
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Speaker 4: goals back in line and like figuring out just like
18:57
Speaker 4: what's next with that. But like right now I'm just like, yeah,
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Speaker 4: enjoying life, Like I think that's the best thing for me.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a great thing. Yeah, you're thriving.
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Speaker 3: Thank you.
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Speaker 2: This is really fun season. I'm excited for you. Thank you,
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Speaker 2: thanks for coming here.
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Speaker 3: And thank you guys, No, thank you guys for having me.
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