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S3 #13 While the Hosts are Away · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with IR Radio. Hey guys, I'm Vanessa Grimaldi. I'm filling
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  Speaker 1: in for Ben and Ashley this week. That is your cue.
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  Speaker 1: So sorry. Second, so, hey guys, this is Amy and
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  Speaker 1: Ben and Ashley are at a secret location that I
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  Speaker 1: can't reveal. So so Vanessa, I begged her and begged her.
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  Speaker 1: I really did beggar and beggar to guest host this week.
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  Speaker 1: And then we grabbed Becca Tilly, who's here has a
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  Speaker 1: busy schedule, and so I had to sort of say, okay,
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  Speaker 1: how about this day at this time this week worked
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  Speaker 1: out for me. I told you, you know, I made
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  Speaker 1: it work. So for people that don't know Vanessa, tell
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  Speaker 1: everybody a little bit about herself. Oh um, I'm Canadian
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  Speaker 1: and I'm no longer engaged. So she was on NIX
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  Speaker 1: season season she was the winner. Do you call yourself winners? No,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I like to say, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: fell in love with the lead. I like using the winner, um,
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  Speaker 1: because then that would mean I'm a loser. It seems
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  Speaker 1: to be twice. No, I mean I lost. We didn't lose,
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  Speaker 1: you just didn't end up with Yeah. Yeah, I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: what you were on Chris seasons this season and season,
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  Speaker 1: but it's like, I think people don't and you can
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  Speaker 1: speak way more about this because you've got engaged and
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  Speaker 1: now you're single. But the pressure of being in a
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  Speaker 1: relationship in public, it's tough. First of all, being in
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  Speaker 1: a relationship period is hard. But imagine just like, first
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  Speaker 1: of all, you're on as you know, like you're filming
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  Speaker 1: for two months or however long you're on at four
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  Speaker 1: and you're stripped away from like everything you're social meeting.
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  Speaker 1: Is that it's tough. I mean like when I first
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  Speaker 1: went on UM, I think I spoke about this on
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  Speaker 1: my first date with him. Literally the two weeks before
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  Speaker 1: or I went on the show, I found out my
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  Speaker 1: um my grandfather had like a heart attack and so
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  Speaker 1: he was fine, he was sent home, and then two
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  Speaker 1: weeks before we started filming UM, he passed away. And
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  Speaker 1: that was really tough because it was my first grandparent
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  Speaker 1: that passed away. So at that point I still had
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  Speaker 1: all four and we're such a close family. Like when
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  Speaker 1: we grew up. My parents were divorced now, but before
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  Speaker 1: they got divorced, my entire family lived on the same
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  Speaker 1: street and they didn't show this, but I brought Nick
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  Speaker 1: on my on my street where we grew up. So
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  Speaker 1: we had like a house on one corner because my
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  Speaker 1: grandmother's house, the house attached it was her daughter, and
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  Speaker 1: then the other house was her her aunt, my other cousin,
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  Speaker 1: my first cousin to families from Italy, my other grandmother,
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  Speaker 1: my first cousin, and then my house. So it was
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  Speaker 1: not going on the show. Yeah, so once, um, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I remember I was at the funeral and I was
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  Speaker 1: like in a black stretch limo and we all had
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  Speaker 1: roses and I was like, oh my god, this feels
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  Speaker 1: so weird, Like I don't know if I feel ready
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  Speaker 1: to go on the show and leave my family behind.
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  Speaker 1: And there was just so much going on. And then
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  Speaker 1: my grandmother was placed in a nursing home too, so
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  Speaker 1: there was a lot of big change. Um. And then
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  Speaker 1: my family is like, you know what, you never do
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  Speaker 1: anything for yourself. Why don't you just see go on it?
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  Speaker 1: You know, if you're having that much of a hard time,
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  Speaker 1: come back home. So at least I knew I had
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  Speaker 1: the support of my family going on. And then literally
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  Speaker 1: the minute I landed, they came to pick me up
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  Speaker 1: they put you up in a hotel. At that point,
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  Speaker 1: you don't get to see anyone who any of the
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  Speaker 1: girls that are on the show. You get to me
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  Speaker 1: like a few producers. So you're up in your hotel
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  Speaker 1: room and they alone, and they're like all right. They
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  Speaker 1: pull out like this zip block bag and like, well,
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  Speaker 1: put all your electronics in here. And I was like,
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  Speaker 1: and the goody two shoes that I am. I put
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  Speaker 1: like my iPod, my I pod, shuffle, my earphones, I
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  Speaker 1: put everything. I'm like, I don't want to get in trouble,
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  Speaker 1: so I literally put everything inside. And at that point,
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  Speaker 1: my sister wasn't feeling well, so there was like there
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  Speaker 1: was so much going on TV at that point. Still
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  Speaker 1: we did, yeah, we had TV home. Um, but it's tough.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, like every decision I make, I call my sister.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, should I get this black jacket or
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  Speaker 1: this people jacket? You know? Like and now I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: do I get engaged to this? Don't. I wouldn't like
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  Speaker 1: that one bit. Having no contact beca how did you
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  Speaker 1: deal with that? I I mean, it was hard to
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  Speaker 1: not talk to my family because we're really close. But
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  Speaker 1: I kind of loved being like separated from my phone. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it felt very therapeutic to just be present and be
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  Speaker 1: in the moment. I remember that was the first time
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  Speaker 1: I started journaling. And I was looking over my journal
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  Speaker 1: the other day and like the first journal entry was
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  Speaker 1: the walls have wallpaper. I'm like, wow, I don't know
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  Speaker 1: how to journal. Was so bad, like two days and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, this is terrible. Yeah, but the name names.
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  Speaker 1: But I have heard about people sneaking phones into The
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor that they won't name names, but they bring a
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  Speaker 1: dunner phone and then they bury in their luggage another
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  Speaker 1: phone and then the st super smart. I did that
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  Speaker 1: on Vincy. Oh my god, you're badass. But I I
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  Speaker 1: had music in there and so I listened. I literally
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  Speaker 1: would just I would just put my I was even
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  Speaker 1: so scared, I like my old I was dumb and
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  Speaker 1: gave them my phone that had service on it instead
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  Speaker 1: of giving them my Oh. I don't know why. I thought.
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  Speaker 1: I thought, if I'm gonna be suspicious, I have to
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  Speaker 1: give them the newer version smart right, Well, they was
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  Speaker 1: gonna bought a phone and given them that surprising. You know,
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  Speaker 1: more people don't do they do. Everyone gets caught. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think anyone did on our season, tell you
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  Speaker 1: the truth. Um, I was so scared to the point
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  Speaker 1: where I knew Danielle was in another room. I knew
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  Speaker 1: her room number, and I was so scared to even
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  Speaker 1: call her on like yeah, um well, I mean not
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  Speaker 1: like night one, but like every once in a a like
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  Speaker 1: so i knew, like Taylor was in another room, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I want to go knock
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  Speaker 1: on her door, but I'm scared to get I'm scared
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  Speaker 1: one of the handlers because they're really like they're on
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  Speaker 1: the ball with Like, yeah, so who are your good friends? Watched? Um,
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  Speaker 1: my closest friend is Danielle Melby. We're gonna call her soon. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna call her. I love her and Taylor as well.
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  Speaker 1: So Taylor of Taylor and Derek Taylor of Taylor and
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  Speaker 1: Death cool. So are you do you like Taylor and Derek?
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  Speaker 1: I spend so when I was still with Nick, Taylor
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  Speaker 1: and Derek were had just finished filming Paradise. Um, no
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  Speaker 1: one knew that they were a couple, but they came
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  Speaker 1: out and hung out with me, and I just he's
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  Speaker 1: such a great guy. He's so good to her. They
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  Speaker 1: seem I mean, all I know about them is via
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  Speaker 1: social media, but they do seem like they like really
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  Speaker 1: get excited to see each other. Well, that's a fun thing.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm all for long distance. I'm not you
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  Speaker 1: know when people were like I never want to do Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I am a huge fan. I think it helps a
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  Speaker 1: relationship if you're like where you like it and you
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  Speaker 1: can handle it. I think it is the best thing
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  Speaker 1: for a relationship. For me, it really works because I
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  Speaker 1: get to do the old thing and then you get
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  Speaker 1: to see each other. You never really get to argue
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  Speaker 1: because you really want to absorb every minute text and
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  Speaker 1: every phone call, and you like you like that. I know,
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  Speaker 1: I like it time I'm torn on it because I
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  Speaker 1: kind of like I was saying, I was said in
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  Speaker 1: my in my podcast go listening to Scrubbing In with
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  Speaker 1: Becca Tilly, but I was saying I was talking to
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  Speaker 1: Brooke Burke, and I was saying, I kind of like
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  Speaker 1: that that those arguments where even if they're silly, like
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  Speaker 1: brings this element of what I will say, a long
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  Speaker 1: distance in the same time zone is ideal. I find
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  Speaker 1: it harder to be in a different time zone if
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  Speaker 1: you're in the same time zone. I am. Well, it
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  Speaker 1: was tough for Nick and I at the beginning. When
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  Speaker 1: I was in Montreal, he was out in l A
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  Speaker 1: three hour time Montreal. I don't know the Canada map
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  Speaker 1: very well. It's so kind of like Florida, New York. Okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that would be hard. The time difference. That's a wonky
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  Speaker 1: time difference. Yeah. So when you when did you? Are
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  Speaker 1: you in l A? Now? What's your right now? Physically? Yes,
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  Speaker 1: you know what. I am here. Wait, I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: ask this Ben come in to do the podcast or
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  Speaker 1: do you guys a lot? So he did here about
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  Speaker 1: half the time and then he does it from Denver
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  Speaker 1: about half the time. Okay, um, yeah, so I'm between.
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  Speaker 1: I'm in between Montreal and l A right now. I'm
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  Speaker 1: working for the news. So I have a beauty segment,
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  Speaker 1: which is hilarious because I don't know anything about makeup
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  Speaker 1: and I'm trying to learn. My roommate actually put these
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  Speaker 1: um eyelashes on me for a red carpet at when
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  Speaker 1: I saw you were at jingle Ball. Oh, I started
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  Speaker 1: coming off right before and well, clearly I still need
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  Speaker 1: to do a little bit more segments on e because
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  Speaker 1: I'm not learning that much. But so I'm doing I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing that and it's great. There's such a great um
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  Speaker 1: network to work with. I really I really love working
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  Speaker 1: with them. UM. So I'm doing that. And I still
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  Speaker 1: have my charity back home in Montreal, which is hard
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  Speaker 1: because my you know, like the committee, everyone is back
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  Speaker 1: home in Montreal. So every time like there's a problem,
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  Speaker 1: like they try to call me, but it's like five
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  Speaker 1: o'clock my time when they call me, and I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not a morning person. Call me at eleven o'clock
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  Speaker 1: when I'm like, my brain is half awake. Um, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm really excited. So I'm heading back to Montreal for
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  Speaker 1: the holidays on the seventeenth and then we have a
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  Speaker 1: ribbon cutting event for one of the schools that were
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  Speaker 1: helping out. So we did our fundraiser in the summer.
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  Speaker 1: We raised enough money to help out four schools, which
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  Speaker 1: is so funny. Do you hear my accent? Everyone's out
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  Speaker 1: so every once in a while, well, can you say
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  Speaker 1: s O R R Y s O Oh, sorry you
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  Speaker 1: don't say that? What about a bo ut about? I
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  Speaker 1: don't say, well, you don't do eve now now it's
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  Speaker 1: not it's not that strong. But I had I did
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  Speaker 1: an interview and I said we're helping out four schools,
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  Speaker 1: and I guess they heard poor. So I was meeting
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  Speaker 1: an article. I was like, no, I'm not helping out Poor,
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  Speaker 1: I'm helping out four schools. Like I guess the Canadian
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  Speaker 1: or the French accent that's coming out, ever, that's what
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  Speaker 1: I hear. It's not the Canadian, it's the French is
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  Speaker 1: what I hear. It's like French Italian. I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: it's just a yeah, I definitely here. I like it, though, Um,
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  Speaker 1: have you have you? Are you do? I don't know
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  Speaker 1: if you talked about this or have you started dating
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  Speaker 1: since you've been single? Or no? I mean, like, who
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  Speaker 1: were at a date? Would day of batchelor? Well, let
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  Speaker 1: me tell you you guys talk for a second and
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  Speaker 1: then I'm going to tell the story because he wanted
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  Speaker 1: to go like out with you. Wait, I want to
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  Speaker 1: hear this after, But would you date someone from the Bachelor? No,
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  Speaker 1: you don't think I don't never like never. You're just like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, never say never. But I think my days
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  Speaker 1: on the Bachelor are I have two weird Vanessa stories.
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  Speaker 1: Which one okay, because there's also my friend. Oh, that
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  Speaker 1: one is crazy. This is a weird story. The world
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  Speaker 1: is so small. I can't decide if you should say
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  Speaker 1: his name or not. No, wait, which one? J the
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  Speaker 1: one that starts with the j oh not okay? So
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  Speaker 1: now I wouldn't say his name. I never met him.
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  Speaker 1: He's super cute, he's great. From random as this, I
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  Speaker 1: went out with Vanessa, No, but that would be good.
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  Speaker 1: I went out with our friend j T. That's this hottie.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if he has a girlfriend, but everybody
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  Speaker 1: should date him. If JT Holmes, everybody google him. He's
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  Speaker 1: smoking hot. Yeah, he's like a skier extreme athlete, so
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  Speaker 1: he jumps out of like airplanes. He's so hot. But anyway,
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  Speaker 1: so listen the story. So I'm out with Vanessa. We
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  Speaker 1: were at a concert? What concert? Where we act? We
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  Speaker 1: were at? And I get a text from my friend
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  Speaker 1: we'll call him Jay, that says, hey, do you know Vanessa?
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  Speaker 1: I can't remember he said, do you know Vanessa Grimaldi?
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  Speaker 1: Or do you know Vanessa from the Bachelor? Whatever? She's
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  Speaker 1: my neighbor and people want to set us up, and
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  Speaker 1: I go, um, well, she's right, next to me. It
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  Speaker 1: was so like, like we talked about on your show,
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  Speaker 1: is out in the universe, that was your helicopter boat
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  Speaker 1: whatever God sends. I never imagine I met him. He him.
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  Speaker 1: He's been on your podcast Becca with Raska guy. He's
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  Speaker 1: been asked only on the phone, but I think you
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  Speaker 1: have met him. So then, okay, another story that Vanessa
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  Speaker 1: should tell. I'll let you tell. Start with when you
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  Speaker 1: went on Jimmy Kimmel, jim when I was on Jimmy Kimmel.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you do like that um that quiz see
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  Speaker 1: like which fiance, Like do you know your fiance really well?
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  Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah. They ask you, Jimmy asks you questions.
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  Speaker 1: So one of the questions was who is your celebrity crush?
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't know who Nick celebrity crushes.
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  Speaker 1: But he knew who mine was because I literally just
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  Speaker 1: spoke about him like five minutes before we went on.
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  Speaker 1: We were talking about something and then like his name
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  Speaker 1: came up. So then Nick writes writes the person down
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  Speaker 1: and he flips a card over and like Jimmy starts
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  Speaker 1: laughing because like, who would have thought Rick Fox would
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  Speaker 1: be my celebrity crush, and everyone's like, who's Rick Fox.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, because we got a lot
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  Speaker 1: of young listeners that are like, all right, So Rick
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  Speaker 1: Fox is Canadian. He's tall, dark and handsome, and he
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  Speaker 1: played for the Lakers, and he was married and he
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  Speaker 1: was married. He was married at one time to Vanessa Williams.
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  Speaker 1: I believe he has he's like obviously into the name Vanessa. Um.
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  Speaker 1: He also dated Eliza Douskuh. Yeah, she's very sexy, she's beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: You kind of are a little like her. I'll take that,
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  Speaker 1: um anyway. So yeah, so celebrity crashed Rick Fox. And
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  Speaker 1: then I do an interview with Ryan Seacrest and he's like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, Rick Fox. Were trying to get him
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  Speaker 1: on the on the on the air with you, but
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  Speaker 1: he's on a flight right now. So he wrote her
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  Speaker 1: the most lovely email that he sent to me that
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  Speaker 1: I read on the air with Ryan Seacrest. Oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember that. I forget exactly what it was now,
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  Speaker 1: but something about like he wished that he could have
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  Speaker 1: been there or whatever, and gratulations. And then I was like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, oh my god. And then like fast
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  Speaker 1: forward two weeks later, Amy's like, we gotta get you
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  Speaker 1: back on the air. Ryan has a surprise for you.
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  Speaker 1: And I had just showered. I was in my bathrobe.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, all right, I don't know what's going
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  Speaker 1: on here. And then boom, I hear yelling the deepest
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  Speaker 1: voice and I'm like, I was look at Nick and
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  Speaker 1: Mike and Rick. I didn't know what to do. And
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  Speaker 1: then Nick is just sitting on the couch like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so we got Rick Fox on the phone, but wait
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  Speaker 1: for it gets it gets better. So then fast forward
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  Speaker 1: two weeks later. So basically, like I don't know, four
• 13:59
  Speaker 1: months later, I'll just say side note, I'm not being
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  Speaker 1: a bragger by em friends with celebrities, but weirdly, I'm
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  Speaker 1: text friends. I'm friendly with Rick Fox enough where I
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  Speaker 1: can text him for all these shenanigans. So that's important
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  Speaker 1: to the story. Okay, So, um, do I mentioned the
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  Speaker 1: restaurant I was at? Yeah, of course, shout out. My
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  Speaker 1: friend Sarah was in town and she's like, I was
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  Speaker 1: really really sick that week. I had just I went back.
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  Speaker 1: I went to Nashville. I went to see some of
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  Speaker 1: the girls. I spend time with Danielle Melby Taylor came in,
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  Speaker 1: Christina was there, Kristen was there. We I spent time
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  Speaker 1: with Wells. I met Jen Saviano, so a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: like Baschel people were hanging out. I was really sick.
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  Speaker 1: And then um, I flew back to l A. And
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  Speaker 1: the day I flew back, like an hour later, my
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  Speaker 1: friend Sarah got into town and she's like, she's a
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  Speaker 1: type of girl that's like, go, go go, Let's let's
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  Speaker 1: do a bunch of stuff. So I'm all right. So
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  Speaker 1: she's like, I really want to try Craig's. So I
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  Speaker 1: was like, sure, let's let's go to Craig's. So we
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  Speaker 1: go to Craigs. It was me, Sarah and my friend Kelly.
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  Speaker 1: And then you know, like there's always celebrity sightings there
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  Speaker 1: you turn around, Yeah, for people listening is like one
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  Speaker 1: of those places where you will see a celebrity if
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  Speaker 1: you go there. Yeah, but I saw Selena Gomez and
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  Speaker 1: Demilovado eating like you see humongous celebrities. Yeah. I was
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  Speaker 1: just there probably gonna butcher her name igah. Okay, So
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  Speaker 1: I actually I bumped into her like last week when
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  Speaker 1: I was there, So anyway, so I was, um, I
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  Speaker 1: didn't bump into I saw her. I don't know her
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  Speaker 1: like that. I'm not I'm not cool like that. So anyway,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm having dinner and like Sarah was like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my god, look at that person and that person like
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  Speaker 1: so many people. And then I was having dinner and
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: I turned around and I see this doll Tark dark
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: Tarkin never like doll. No, Oh my god, what's wrong
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: with him? I'm like, sorry, I just have Rick Fox's
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: face in my head right now and I'm getting dollar doll.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, oh my god, that's Rick Fox.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: And I didn't know what to do because I don't, um,
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: what's it call when you see a celebrity. I don't like,
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: I don't I'm never starstruck. But when I saw Rick Fox,
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: I was like, I literally got paralyzed. I'm like, I
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: don't know what to do with myself. From my first
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: person that popped into my head was Amy, So I'm like,
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: oh my god, Amy, Rick Fox is Here's like you
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: have to go see him. You have to go. So
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: I was like, Vanessa, go say hi, like he knows
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: you enough that you can say hey. Like I'm like,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: he is the nicest person too. This is what I
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: was like, He's not one of the celebrities that you
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: could be scared of, Like he is so rad and
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: friendly and amazing and like loves his kids, and it's
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: just the nicest guy. She will not do it. No,
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: I was so scared of my texting me back and
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: giving me audio text like I can't, I can't, I can't,
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: And I'm just like, what is happening. I love giving
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: voice notes. I don't like texting. I like leaving a
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: voice note. Did you ever do that? I did it
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: for a while. That's the only way I texted, and
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: then I just stopped. Yeah. I love doing that because
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: sometimes I can't, like think, and I'm like, she's just
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: a voice texting me. I can't, I can't, I can't.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: I can't go see him, go see him. And I
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: think at that point you had message him saying I
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: was restaurant. Now I'm not at the restaurant. I'm literally
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: twenty minutes way, and I go, alright, fine, I will
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: text him that you are in the restaurant. So I'm
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: like Harrik's tables away from it, like, hey, it's Amy,
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: remember Vanessa. I tell him the whole thing I'm like, so,
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be crazy, but she's at Craigs
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: and she sees you and she's it's nervous to say hi.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna tell her to go say hi. He's
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: immediately writes me back and he goes, I'm in a
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: dinner meeting, but I would love to say hello. Is
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: I should be done in whatever I mean? He couldn't.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: He's so well mannered. He's like a gentleman Canadian blood.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: He's so gentlemanly. So I then say to Vanessa, I
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: have now done everything a human can do to help you.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: He is going to finish his dinner and and wants
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: to see you. He wants to see you, Okay, so
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: now tell what happens. It gets even she doesn't do it.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I don't do it. So we're walking out the restaurant
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, I just want him to, like hear
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: me scream his name. So I was like, so literally
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: leaving the restaurant, I'm like, but Rick Fox and then
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: my friend so like he turns around and my friend
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: Kelly was like, hey, Rick, I think like Vanessa wants
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: to say hi to you. And I was like, raving here,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I'm like, no, no, don't do this, don't do this,
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: and then he's like, oh yeah, Vanessa, and then like
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: I walk out. I walked back in and like hi,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: like a little school girl. I'm like, this is so
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: embarrassing when his friends were there and had to explain
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: to them, like why I was at the whole. Yeah,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, you know, my goes on Jimmy Kimmel
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: and he was my celebrity crush, so yeah, and yeah,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: so I met my celebrity crush and let me tell her.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: He is tall, dark and handsome and not dull and
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: they are so lovely, Like I think he would be
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: okay if I read this. So after they meet, he
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: texts me and says, hold on, I'm pulling it up.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: He's so polite and gentlemanly and like amazing, And he goes,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: saw Vanessa for a second, please pass a along my
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: number so when she returns we can get a meal together.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: I mean, who writes something so lovely and so kind
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: I know? And she's blowing it, just blowing it, blowing it, blowing.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Are you like not? You're like, are you not interested
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: in dating right now? Like? Are you out of that mindset. Um,
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: I'm enjoying. So I was talking about this with my
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: with my sister the other day, and before going on
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: the show, was in such a good, happy, single state
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: of mind, just enjoying life on my own and not
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: like caring about who's texting me or what attention I'm
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: getting from a guy or you know. I was just happy.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: And I'm back at that place again where I'm just
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: happy being single and like it's been a year for me.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: It's you know, there was a lot that's happened. Um. So,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not opposed to dating. If if someone
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: came along that, like you were, like, I'm more interested
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: in dating him than yeah single, Yeah, like I'm not.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: I've never I don't know how to date someone. Um not. Seriously,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: you know, if I'm gonna go on a date with someone,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: it's like I see a future and I want to
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: be able to build on that. I don't know how
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: to just date to date, which kind of sucks because
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: I I kind of do want to date to date before. Yeah,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: that's a hard pass. I want to go from well,
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: I've never done it. I want to be able to
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: just like try it. I like, I like you you're
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend from like, Hi, I'm Amy And then she's like,
• 20:32
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  Speaker 1: I'm so excited. Danielle Melp he's on the phone right now.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Say hi, d So. D is my closest one of
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: my closest friends. From nixt season of The Bachelor, we
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: were placed in the same room together top bunk. We
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: both had a top bunk. Yeah we both did. Yeah,
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: which is so well. I mean like, yeah, yeah, you
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: had a top bunk. Yeah, I had the top bunk.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: Two in our room one, two, three, four, five, six,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: seven girls in our you know, Yeah, I felt like
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: I never actually I went to them. Yeah, girls in
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: a room for how long? Well was just the first week, um,
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: of the show, right whenever we were in the matchup?
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah that sounds really Yeah. How many sharing a bathroom?
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: Oh there's only two bathrooms. I don't are really saying
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: this stuff? The one downstairs? Seven? Very good? Yeah. Um,
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: eating a pizza right now. I know we're eating pizza
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: while we do the show. I'm hungry. And so why
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: did you guys immediately kind of get along and bond?
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: And I mean, who doesn't love d Anyone that meets
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: her just wells in love with her. She's the sweetest
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: person ever, and she has this side to her that like,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: unfortunately they didn't show on the show. She's so fun
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: and lighthearted and like easy to get along with. I
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: mean they did show that part, but she's just like
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: she's an amazing, all around perfect human being and need
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: the perfect man in her life because she deserves nothing
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: but the best. So for people listening, Danielle, did you
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: become famous for the kiss with Wells? She already asked
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: about that. Um, I feel like people finally like I
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: saw my likes malle A little bit more in there
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: on para days, but like, yeah, I think, um, I
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: think I got like the kiss the Brooks Internet. Don't
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: you have like an amazing job. You're a nurse or
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: a doctor or something a nurse, thank you. Yeah. I
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: work on a new and natal intensive care so I
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: work with um all, like the premature infants or the
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• 25:34
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• 25:37
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• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Ashley before. Uh no, you didn't. Oh my gosh, we
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  Speaker 1: were going to and then we had to change it
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: because you were doing something with wells. Oh. So this
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: is Danielle M's debut on the Almost Famous podcast. It's
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: my debut two alright, so let's dig into Vanessa spears
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: about dating talk open up and talk to us. Oh am,
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: I going straight for it. My fears about dating. So
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I was talking to Amy about this earlier. UM, I mean,
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: do I guess you right? D and I were just
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: hanging out this week and we're talking about the concept
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: of being ghosted and we have like this whole thing
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: this weekend of like hashtag ghosted. It's so bad. It's terrible.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: It's like if you're not into someone, just let them
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: know instead of just was ghosting. Even it's newer. It's newer,
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: well because of you know, like your phone. So I
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: mean I feel like people would right like years ago,
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: like when I was in college or whatever. Out of college,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: there was no such thing as ghosting. I don't think.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean maybe it was like just
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: standing someone up, like you ever had either of you
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: ever been stood up? Like up? Tell us tell us,
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: tell us tell us. Um. It was this guy that
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: I was actually is my friend and I were both
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: um interested in. But my friend was like kind of
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: seeing somebody at the times. I was like, well, why
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: are you getting mad at me? Like if I want
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: to go out and like you know, have your with
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: the sky. Yeah, we were spoke about Maggiano's because that's
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: like a cool place to go in like Wisconsin, like
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: boy back in today, and um, I hear that and
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: he never did know. So you're supposed to meet at
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: the restaurant, Yes, did you ever? Number one? Thing? Like
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: he said, it just like picks me up, you know,
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: like that's why. Yeah, So how long did you wait?
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: How does that go down? Um? I would like like
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: twenty minutes. I was like, this sucker is not coming.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: Then did you ever speak to him again? No? I
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: never talked, just like you like you're a sucking pussy,
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: like the way to be a colored whoa. I do
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: have a story that is not it's a little bit wonky.
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: I was. I guess you could say I was dating someone.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: This is when I was nineteen and we had gone
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: on a trip to Tahoe together and I was much
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: younger than him. This is just like explains why I
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: am how I am and he was much older than me.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: So one of the nights he said, I'll go out
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: with my friends. You go out with your friends, and
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: we'll meet up at the house later. And at the
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: time I was like, that sounds cool, okay, cool, Like fine. Um.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: I never saw him again ever vacation, like I picked
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: him up at the airport and he came to my
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: house and like I thought I was taking him back
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: to the airport. I basically never saw him again. I
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: have awkwardly bumped into him. This is twenty years ago
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: this went down. I have awkwardly bumped into him a
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: few times. I mean that one of my girlfriends is like,
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: he invented ghosting, the O of ghost How that is
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: the O G of ghosting? Like how G nearly is that?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, I've never been stood up like that, Like
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: why why don't you be a man about it? Like,
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: to be honest, don't. I think he was just done
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: and I was too young, and he met some girl
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: and I think he married her and I think they
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: got divorced. So guess what. Whatever, you know, that's the
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: thing about dating that scares me um, which I appreciate
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: it about it's gonna be it's gonna sound so weird,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: which I appreciated about The Bachelor because at least you know,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: like when you're first dating someone, you don't know if
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: they're dating other women, and you're you're not in the
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: position to be asking like, hey, are you seeing other people?
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: Like I don't know how to date multiple people at
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: the same time, so I know I'm not doing that,
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: but you don't know if the guy's doing. But on
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: the show, it's like, well it's in front of your face,
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: like you know, like he's dating other women, so you're
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: like you have to be okay with it and I
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: think that's what's scary about dating is um, because I
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: don't know how to just casually date someone and I
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: want to just my husband, and I want to I
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: want that so badly and I want to manifest manifest
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: that destiny. But I think that's what's scaring me. So
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm open. SOD. We were talking about like if
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: I'm open to dating out and and all of that.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: We actually had like we had a pretty big heart
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: to heart this week. Uh um, So tell me how
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: you're feeling. Yeah, I'm I mean, you know, I was thinking,
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: like I started crying the other night, and I was
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: just thinking about like everything that I went through this year,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: and how like it's sad that, you know, Nick and
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: I didn't work out like we really felt like, at
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: least for me. I know, I really fell in love
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: with him, and we both tried so hard to make
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: our relationship work, and you know, you know, we message
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: each other like a couple of days ago, um about
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: something just randomly. Actually I message him. I saw him
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: on a clip of Speechless, which I was so impressed by.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: I was he did that and he did a good job.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: So I'm listening. I am good friends with Nick also,
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: and I just say I like him very much, very
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: very much. I love Vanessa too, So I get why
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: they're both amazing, and I get why this is hard.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: But keep going. Yeah so um so yeah, I had
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: messed at him and like, you know, we just we
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: like exchanged a few words and stuff, and it's just
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: like it sucks, you know, because like when you I mean,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: I really thought this was it for me. I thought,
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: you know, I was envisioning like the wedding and like
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: having a family together, and like when it gets shattered,
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: it's like, oh my god, Like, how how come this
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: couldn't have worked out between us? You know, I'm gonna
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: go on a limb And I've told you this, so
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: I'm not telling you something I haven't said to your face.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: Of all the Bachelor couples. I have this weird feeling
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: you're going to get back together. I've said that to
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: you a lot of times. I really do. I don't know.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: You don't have to, I don't know. I mean, see,
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: I'm the type of person. D I don't know if
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: you can relate to this, but I've never been one
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: if if a relationship ends, it ends for a reason.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: And I don't like backtracking and going back to something
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: that didn't ultimately end up working out. Um regardless, you know,
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: like I'm I think the world of him, Like he's
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: still like you know, like if he ever needs anything,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: like I'll be there for him. Um, but romantically right now,
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't. I don't. I don't see
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: that just because there are reasons why, like we're just
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: not compatible or just very different. And they do say
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: opposites attracted, and you know what's both? I mean you
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: can vouch for you know how different we are? Very different?
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Um in interesting ways? Do you know what I mean?
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: Like it's not simple differences, They're complex differences that you know,
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: It's not like you're one religion, he's another. Some of
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: these things that people can get through your Republican he's
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: a Democrat. These are complicated at your core differences, right.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: And when people have language different exactly, well said Dan Yell.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: What is your love language? Vanessa? Um? All right, can
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: you name me all the love languages and then I
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: can point them out. Um, there's like, oh yeah, so
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: physical touches like I'm a coala bear. I constantly need
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: to be like next to someone and cuddling up next
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: to someone. So yeah, yeah, so cysical touch, at to service, UM,
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: gifts and like words of affimation Yeah right, yeah yeah,
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: I think there might even be one more. We have
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: to look it up. I am physical touch. And you
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: know what's interesting. I need a lot of connection. It
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: doesn't have to be a long amount of connection, but
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: I have to be connected to you every day. But
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: I can't go a week if I'm dating someone. I
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: can't go for a bit without talking or texting. Yeah,
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: it really has to be and I think that's some
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: people are different than that. I need a lot of connection.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah so do I what about you? UM? Like I
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: feel like I'm kind of like a mesh of all
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: of them. Like I need like a little bit of everything.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: But like i'd say, like gifts, like I'm not like
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: that big I'm gifts like. I'm more like acts of
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: service like oh like you wouldn't like you took my
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: car and that's all changed and then like a big
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: old hug coming home. You know it's that. Yeah, I
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: so interesting when I look back to my past relationships. Um,
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: I was in this one relationship back home in Montreal
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: and he was like we we dated for a couple
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: of years and really great guy. And that's one thing
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: I have to say, Like, I'm on good terms with
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: all of my exes, not that I have that many,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: but I'm on good terms with my exes, which I
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: think is really important for you to realize that it's
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: important to be able to move on from that relationship
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: and not to hold any resentment. Um. And that's something
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: that I think, Um, I'm I'm happy that I was
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: able to do with all my past relationships. So he
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: actually would like we had what we call him Montreal d'epana,
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: which is a seven eleven down the street from our place,
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: and every time he's like, oh, I'm going down to
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: get like we did. Wow, we'll get into that, but yeah,
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: we lived together. Um. And so every time like he
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: would go down to get like a magazine or something
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: at the depth, he'd come back up and like, Oh,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: I saw this kid cat and I thought about you.
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: And for me little acts like that, it's it's not
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: even like about the kid cat, it's about he thought
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: of me in that moment, and that moment is the
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: most romantic thing ever. I agree, I totally get that.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: So I want to dig into this because basically what
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: I'm learning is you haven't had many relationships, but the
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: ones you've had have been quite serious. Yeah. Um, so
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: that relationship was my second, well, my first real strong
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: like the love of my life. Um. And we ultimately
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: wanted different things in life. So that's interesting. Okay. So
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: different from maybe you and Nick where you were different. Right,
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: in this situation, what you wanted in life was different, right,
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: we were so compatible, so compatible, like the like we
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: had insane chemistry for two years. Like it was just
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: it was like every girl's well, like if you're anything
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: like me, like an your girl's dream of like waking up,
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: Like he would wake up ten minutes earlier before going
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: to Like he would set his alarm clock ten minutes
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: before his actual clock so that he can like cut
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: only for ten minutes and like kiss me in to
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: the point where I would have to He would like
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: afvocate me and then like drive to work and then
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: call me fifteen minutes later to wake me up so
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: then I can go to work, and then I'd be
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: on the phone with him until like I would get
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: to work. It was just like he was like and
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: we were talking about this on Becca's podcast to like
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: he was my best friend. I think Brooke was talking
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: about like she still likes her husband and they still
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: have that connection, Like we really had that, but we
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: just wanted different things. Yeah, kids, Yeah that's what I was.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: I knew it was going to be something you want
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: them he doesn't, and that becomes one of those things
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: that cannot be. That was my non That's like a
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: big non negotiable for me. And did you think he
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: would change his mind or now? Um, I just feel
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: like it's either you know or you don't know. You know.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: And I was at a point in my life where
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: I it was we were dating for like two years,
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: and it was really tough because he's like, well what
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: if I don't what if I want kids? And then
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: like you're not going to be the person then I'm
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: going to end up with because like we break up
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: and I want you to be the mother of my kids.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: So it was hard because like he we were just
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: at I think it was timing too, or at two
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: different places in our lives. Um, the kid thing is
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: tough because and this is very strange for me to
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: say because I'm you know, not passive. But I always
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: was like if the guy I'm with wants kids, I'll
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: figure out to make that work. Do you want kids?
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: Not necessarily okay, So for me to be like, that's
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: really up to the guy. And now I'm so much
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: older that I have it a lot easier because the
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: guy has kids, right, so I don't have to worry
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: about it. I don't. I am not comfortable I should
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: talk to Daniel about this birth thing kids. That just
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: sounds like a hard pass for me. So I always
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: felt like we would adopt, or we would have a surrogate.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: It would be his but not biologically mine. And I
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: was totally cool with all that if he wanted it.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: And now I don't really have to worry about it
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: because I'm old now, so that's something that you always
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: But I'm totally fine and happy and great if the
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: guy has kids. If I since I'm I love kids,
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: it was more the birth thing. And then I have
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: this complicated thing and I would love to hear what
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: you guys have to say. I want to work. I
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: get that. So I have this weird thing where it's like,
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: but but I'm so obsessed with my nieces that if
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: I had kids, I wouldn't want to leave. So I
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: have this whole conundrum of that. I get that. Um,
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: I mean it's I see how my sister is doing it,
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: and so it's very different. Like back home in Montreal,
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: you get like or I don't know if it's all
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: over Canada, but you get a year off of matt leave,
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: which is great because you get like, I know that
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: your medical care is amazing. I know, which I find
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: it's so crazy, but I see like she's you know,
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: she's really dedicated to her work. She's a teacher as well,
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: and she goes in like she was excited to go
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: back to work, but it was really hard for her
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: to leave her kids. Um, but she does. It's I
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: think it's really important to find a partner, a life
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: partner where they're gonna be able to encourage you to
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: pursue your dreams and still like have that family value.
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: And her husband is just gold like my sister has.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: My sister is an amazing woman. They have an amazing relationship,
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: they have a healthy kid, and they just like they
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: found what works for them. Yeah. Yeah, some of my
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: mom friends exactly. Some of my mom friends say it's
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: really hard because when they are with their kids, they're
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: thinking about work. And when they're at work, they're thinking
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: about their kids. So there's just this total conflict all
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: the time. These are things that we just can't solve
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: in an hour podcast. Ben Higgins solve this. Wow, Um,
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: I'm fascinated by your guy that you lived with. Oh
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: my god, he was pretty amazing. And then there's this
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: big oldt in the room that just couldn't be solved. Yeah,
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: it's I mean, I believe it's really cliche, but I
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: really believe everything happens for a reason. And after that relationship,
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: I thought, I'm never going to find another love like that.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: And I did, and I did. I fell in love
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: with Nick and I thought, you know, like that was
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: a really great experience. It was really eye opening. I
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: learned a lot about myself this year, things that I
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: know I need to improve on as an individual and
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: in a relationship. Um. So I think right now, like
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: I'm taking that time to just focus on me and
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: growing as a person so I can become a better
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: person when I invite someone else into my life. Um,
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: the most important thing. And I feel like I just
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: looked over so frequently in relationships and I feel like
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: I'm the best. Guys want a divorce rates because people
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: don't love them solved enough. Right, better to be in
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody, right. And I think like the
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: concept of like I didn't really understand love yourself. I
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: knew what that meant, but until I actually understood and
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: I actually took the time with myself and for myself,
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: and I actually understood what it meant to just like
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: love every part of you. And I remember I did
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: this interview with some went back home in Montreal. Um,
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: she was diagnosed with breast cancer at twenty two years
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: old or something crazy, and then she was diagnosed with
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: lung cancer. UM. And we're just talking about the concept
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: of like loving yourself and at any stage in your life.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: So if you're five pounds heavier, five pounds lighter, if
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: you love, if you're if you're at the job that
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: you love or at the job that you absolutely hate,
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: if you're going through a divorce, whatever state you're in,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: love yourself, because that's it's truly important to just be
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: able to present in it. I think there is something
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: to uh, you have to be happy in order to
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: be with someone else because you can't bring in your junk,
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: because they can't fix your junk and you can't fixers,
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: and um, yeah, I think that was hard to realize.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: I also will say, because you guys have Danielle hold
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: are you. Oh, you guys are like both in your
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: So I literally remember Jennifer like my goddess Jennifer Anis
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: and saying this, and she was like the forties she
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: really is, Like he's like Oprah and Anniston. I'm like,
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: I love them. I kind of love Kate Hudson too,
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: but we can talk about that later. So Jennifer Aniston
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: said something about the forties being amazing, and I kind
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: of remember rolling my eyes because I think I'm probably
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: seven years younger than her, and I was like, whatever, Anniston,
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: she could not have been more spot on right, like everything, Yeah,
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: I feel I mean, I'm loving my just get that
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: at the thirties, you're coming out of all that junk
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: from the twenties. Yes. And you know, my friend was
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: saying this when I was turning thirty. I was like,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm turning thirty. I thought, you know,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: when you're younger, you have all these timelines like I
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: will be married my first kid by thirty, and I'm like,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: oh my god, I just ended an engagement. I never
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: thought that was ever going to happen to me. Um,
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: but I remember my friends saying, you know what, look
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: at it as you're ending your the twenties, your your decade.
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: You're starting a new decade now, so you're starting fresh.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh my god, that's so true. You know,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: like I'm starting fresh and goods happy as happy, and
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: you don't to be like unicorns and rainbows. If you're
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: just sort of at peace happy, all of a sudden
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: you just go, oh my god, that happened, because that's
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: like things like that happened to me now, and I'm
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: just like wow, And you can go to the dark place.
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: But I try to be positive and I do think
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: like I think positive. We all have that, especially us
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: girls have that where we go is he gonna like me?
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: Does he like me? Is gonna call me? And if
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: you kind of just stay in the yes in the
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: light works, it's hard to do that. Yes, you have
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: to be determined about it. Yeah yeah, Wait, let's not
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: let Danielle off the hook. I was just gonna say,
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: d your dating life, I mean, I know about it. Wait,
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: tell tell me about it. So it's like I feel
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: like National Fold with like a bunch of Peter pants,
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: you know, like everyone comes here, like you can't fall
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: over with all knocking down, like twelve musicians. So Bashl's
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: oversaturated with musicians and like best who like you end
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: up dating and it's like they're just it's it's not
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: good date musician. Well, you know, here's what I will
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: say too, because you're not dating Tim McGraw, who's made it.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: You're dating a musician who's struggling. And I think that
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: can be real. M. Yeah, it's hard to date someone
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: that isn't comfortable with where they are in their life
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: or are struggling to get to that next point. Yes,
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: and they're in like going back to like like being happy,
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: like with yourselves. It's hard to like if you're happy
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: with yourself, it's hard to date someone that isn't happy
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: with themselves right, or just working to accomplish a dream.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: And the thing about musicians, you can be an amazing
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: musician and never make it because it's so much and
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: so you're dealing with that too. Yeah, I feel bad
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: like some of my friends and musicians. I'm sorry, Funny
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: of the World. No, I mean, musicians are great. But
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: they're that stuff and then they're going to be on
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: the road all the time. I do I feel like
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: you're going to end up with like someone at work.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: There wasn't an I would make my dad so happy
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: because that's all he ever said, there's no cute doctors
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: at your hospital. We were actually so we went for uh,
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: we volunteered for the Ryan Seacrest Foundation in Nashville. UM
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: and it was actually at the hospital that Danielle works at. Yeah, yeah,
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: so we it was so much fun. And then we
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: met this man what was his name, d from Best Buddies,
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Mike Mike, Mike from Best Buddies. Um, he's forty I
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: think he's like forty seven. And so we actually got
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: invited to their prom um. So we're heading I'm heading
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: back to Nashville and in February we're going to be
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: um prom dates for the bed. There's not a cute
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: doctor anywhere in the hospital. There has to be you
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: know what they're probably taking. But there's lots of like yeah,
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: that's the thing. Like there's lots of like very handsome,
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: like very like kind good side man. Bedside man are
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: like duck. But they all got like maped up in
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: med school. Yeah, but trust fate it ad. Yeah, everything
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: happens for a reason. Oh, I know. I fully believe
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: in that every person I've met and like dated or um,
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: like every experience has led me to this point of
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: where I am in my life. And it's like I
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: feel like I personally have finally reached that this point
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: of like peaceful like contentment, like I love my life,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: I love everybody in it, and like I don't know,
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: I feel I feel like I feel big love coming. Yeah,
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: that's it. They just show up. That's why I feel
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: bad for y'all with these apps and stuff. You know that.
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: I'm like, so, I'm terrified. I'm not on any app.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: I've never been on any app, but I'm terrified like
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: because I'm like, well, I'm not meeting anyone. Sorry, but overwhelming, Yeah,
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: too much all at once, like in your face. Yeah,
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: I don't want to call you out, but are you
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: on a dating app? No? No? But before the show,
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: like I tried out like a bumble and stuff and
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: like that was the extent of it, and I was like, no,
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: there's a guard, guys. There's too many conversations. And then
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: I thought, like just getting very um, serious, No, not serious,
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: but I was like superficial, right right right? You don't
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: know you've got a guitar? Oh right right? But I
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: mean you hear so many of these like love stories
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: of people that met through these dating apps, Like I
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: have a friend at work just got married. My friend
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: just got married and she has a kid now, and
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: she met him on Tinder. Yeah, so she's like you
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: should I'm like, I don't know. I mean, like Bahula
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: didn't work out for me. I don't know if after
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: kind from who you are, I'm not sure for Vanessa
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: that it's going to work for you. You're complicated. How
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: am I complicated? This is what I think on you.
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: There's a lot going on in my head. Yeah, Like
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: you're deep and I'll analyze Danielle once I know better,
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: But for you, it's like you're not surface, You're deep
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: and you and you're driven, and you're you're a ball
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: or chick, do you know what I mean? I like
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: that terminology. So it's like for you, that's why I
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: think it might not work as well, because I don't
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: know that you have the patience or the sort of
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know that your dudes out on that right,
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: because he's got to be smart, he's gotta be quick,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: he's gotta up, he's kind of this, he's got that
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: with you. Yeah, I mean right, weren't you and I
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: are not soft girls in the corner? No, which is fine.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: We just have to you know, they show up. Oh yeah,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: I mean you know what I say this, there's someone
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: for everyone. And you know, I don't believe in like
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: there's only one love out there or there's one person
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: that you're meant to be with. I think you're meant
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: to be with multiple people, depending on which path you
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: end up taking in your life. So I think the
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: best sign for you, Vanessa and Danielle, I don't want
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: to forget you, but we'll have to do another episode
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: is that you've had these very serious relationships. So merit
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: to Seacrest Ryan seacrest sister. She gave me some of
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: the best advice, and I wish we had her on
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: the phone. She was dating her now husband and they
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: were like maybe almost about to be engaged, and I
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: was like, do you ever just like get insecure or
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: worried or this or that? And she was like, he's
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: so amazing and I love him so much, and we
• 49:43
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• 49:45
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• 49:50
  Speaker 1: blows my mind. So I'm fully confident in it. And
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, what she was saying
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: made so much sense. And she wasn't just saying it,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: she believed it and that's why she married him. That's amazing.
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: That yeah, Actually that I try to say it to
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: myself all the time. It gives you that security, it does,
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: and then it doesn't make you be in a relationship
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: that ultimately you shouldn't be in, because I think it's
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: easy sometimes to just be right and just to be
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: comfortable and like okay, well, you know, like dating sucks,
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: so you know, you don't want to like have to
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: go around and see like, oh is this guy like
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: and and having to like interview it's kind of like auditioning, right,
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: like to see like who you're going to And it's
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: a crazy yeah, And it's a crazy concept to think
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: you're gonna be with someone for the rest of your life,
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: Like you want to make sure that they're not only
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: a great husband, but a great father. You know, you
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: have a great support system. If I mean, like my
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: parents were divorced um. So they got divorced when I
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: was eighteen years old, and I did not see it coming.
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: That's a very common time for marriages really when the
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: kids are going, all right, yeah, and I think it's
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: I mean, for me, it was really hard because I
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: was when you're younger, like you don't understand what's going on,
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: but as when you're older, you're more implicated in in
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: the process of things. So I was really affected by it,
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: and I remember telling myself like, I don't ever want
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: to end up in that position, you know, And I
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: think that's why, Like when our engagement ended, it was
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: really tough for me because I'm like, I felt like
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: I failed, But what about now now you're okay. So
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: my thing is for people out there, like if you
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: get divorced, yeah, that's okay, it's okay. It's it's definitely okay.
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: And I think, like one thing I really appreciated about
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: my relationship with Nick is we were not going to
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: pretend as if like, oh, it's rainbows and butterflies and
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: unicorns and popcorn and all that fun stuff. It was tough.
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: It was hard, and I actually never looked back on
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: our after the final rows where people were like it
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: was so awkward, and I was like, oh was it
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: I don't know, Like I was just we were just
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: being real real, right, yeah, right, bunnies and rainbows, and
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: it was. It was tough, you know. It was especially
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: like having a relationship right outside of coming out of
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: the show. Um, so that's one thing I really appreciate show.
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: That's a little another episode. How much that adds to
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: the challenges the relationship and being in the public eye. Wait, Danielle,
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: we have to go. But when are you gonna come
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: visit us? I mean whenever? I want later soon. Why
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: you gotta come up to Canada. No, you gotta come here,
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: s vanessas days here in January. We all need to
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: do something fun. I'll be back in January. Good fun concert.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: I'll email you so another one. Okay. I know Amy
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: always sends me like these texts. I'm like so much
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: because it's a good excuse to come out. It's really fun.
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: I'll text you and do you can stay with me? Exactly? Cuddles. Wait, Danielle,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: you rock, Talk to you soon. Love you. I'll call
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: you later, okay, love you bye, love you by. She's great.
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: So now we're gonna call Kala. Yeah, so this is
• 53:01
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• 53:06
  Speaker 1: Is it called that? What's it called? Yeah, it's called
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: Bachelor Canada, Bachelor Canada. And this girl is in the finals.
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: She's in the finals, so yeah, so I think right
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: now they're down to the final two. She's hilarious. I
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: love the last two ladies that are UM, that are
• 53:21
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• 53:24
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• 53:27
  Speaker 1: which I love. Um, I want to find out the
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: differences between we were going to talk about that. I
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: was messaging her, I'm like, what do you guys want?
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: What do you want to talk about? So do you
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: watch it when you're home because we can't, we can't,
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: we can't get it here. Yeah, so I watched. I
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: was on Bachelor Canada after show. Caitlin was on. I
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: was on with Evan and Carly. Um. They're so cute,
• 53:46
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• 56:08
  Speaker 1: to learn about Bachelor Canada. Yes, I'm so excited. Now
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: can you watch our Bachelor in Canada? Oh? I watched
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: every season starting with who, starting with which one? Starting
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: with Tristan Right, No, you go back like, oh my god,
• 56:25
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• 56:27
  Speaker 1: can you be that old? I'm old? Now you're younger
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• 56:34
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• 56:38
  Speaker 1: I was just a little little chubby Jean. Wait, okay,
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: so let's get the Canada opinion. Who do you think
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: was the best Bachelor of all time? The best Bachelor? Like,
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: there's so many different criteria that I could use to choose,
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: but like Chris souls all the way souls see, I
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: still say Andrew Firestone, Oh he was good, he was problem,
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: so I don't always remember. Wait, so tell us, um,
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: what you find the differences are between the Canadian Bachelor
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: and our Bachelor. Not the person, but the show in general.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: The show in general, well not just not just speak
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: on anything negatory, but I think obviously the budget there's
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: a difference than budgets, So I think, I mean, have
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: you got a bigger budget in the US? Canada a
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: little bit lower budget, So I think that there's a
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: lot more travel that goes on in the US. Which
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: I think is awesome, But I just feel like the
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: Canadian one also is focusing a lot more on the
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: love story, which I love the drama. I love that really,
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: But MICHAELA, I will say this, although you travel like
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: you know, we traveled to um Feminy and Finland and
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: New Orleans, we didn't get to see that much because
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: we weren't allowed to be out in public, so people
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: couldn't That's true. Yeah, people can't cant John that we're
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: filming the show, but you can't get it. And like
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: an ocean is an ocean, you know. So I mean
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: we went to beautiful places. I'm happy when we ended
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: up in Finland because like, I would never travel freezing
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: it was. It was, yes, yes it was. It was snowing.
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: I was. I had to go on the cold plunge
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: and the like, uh you went off in some sleigh
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: and then it just oh guys, so what they what?
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: They did not show? After Nick and I got engaged,
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: I had my ring on my finger. First of all,
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, babe, I've always round
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: I've always wanted a Christian cut diamond. And he's like,
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: it's a round cut. I'm like I obviously don't know
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: anything about diamonds. So then the sled takes off and um,
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: I'm so sad they don't have this on camera. Literally,
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: the sled completely tips over and like we fall on
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: top of each other and the sleds on top of us.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, this is just I think
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: Chris Harrison told me the story that like, off y'all went,
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: and then they were like, where're they go? And we
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: tipped over and fell over? Um, oh that's it. Tell
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: us some more, tell us, some more, ask some more questions. Okay,
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: so MICHAELA, yes, how many guys? How many girls did
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: you guys start with on christ season? So that's another
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: huge difference. We only started with twenty women, and five
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: women were cut the first night, so when we went
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: to our first location, we were only fifteen girls. You
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: guys were girls. Why you really get to know a
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: lot of the girls really quickly because it's such a
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: small group. If we started with thirty this year, yeah,
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: we started with thirty. We started with thirty. We I
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: wanted to ask you, so we stayed in the mansion
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: for like, I can't say how long, but did you guys?
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: It seemed as if you guys went from like night
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: one to directly to your first location. Um, yeah, No,
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: we did one night in Toronto and then the next
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: day we were straight off to Costa Rica. So we
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: only had one night in Canada before we started jet setting,
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: which was cool. Okay, so give us a little bit
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: of um gossip because you know we can't watch the
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: show out here. So what's been happening on the show?
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: You guys are the final two. It's you and Lindsay. Yeah,
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: so we're down to two. Lindsay and I. I mean,
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: Lindsey's a great girl. I have nothing bad to say
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: about her. But I think what you're going to see
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: in the next couple of weeks is something that you
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: may not expect. Living together with everybody was a real
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: trip because especially Costa Rica, there was fifteen of us
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: living in one big house and that was, you know,
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: the first time I've ever been in that sorority type
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: of situation. It was a little bit intimidating. And I
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: know that if you did watch the show, you would
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: have been pointed the psychos right away, like Sean Key
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: and Brittany m Um. But that's actually another difference between
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: the two that two shows, American and Canadians. They let
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: the Craziest Girl go week too, and I think that
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: everybody was really shocked by that because she would have
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: made incredible television and she was just So now does
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: the guy propose? Is that a big thing? Like getting
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: engaged like it is here? Well? I think, I mean,
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: that's that's the premise of the show, right, So you
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: would hope that the bachelor coming into the show would
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: be ready to get engaged. But I think also coming
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: into the show, especially if you know you're like Chris
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: and you haven't watched the show ever, I think, yes, story,
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: yesel and I find like him and Nick kind of
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: resemble each other. I was going to ask that if
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: they're both very handsome, if you could compare him to
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 1: an American bachelor, who is it physically? Well, I mean
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: not physically, but I can compare Chris to an American bachelor,
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: would have to be Nick physically. But um, in terms
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: of the personality, Oh man, that's a tough one. I
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: would say, oh, because oh, it's a hard watch. Has
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: different characteristics of different people. But wait, I mean he
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: does have a really gentle heart, but he's also kind
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: of unsure about a lot of things. Um and Higgins.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: He's a flip slopper. Oh yeah, I don't know. I
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: don't think Higgins. No, I don't think no, I don't
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: think he's a Ben Higgins. Wait, who was it said?
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: I love you Higgins. That's why, and he's one of
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: America's favorite bachelors. Wait, we have to know to go,
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: but we're gonna come. We will call you next week
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: with with Ben and Ashley so we can find out
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: what happens. Oh. Absolutely, I look forward to telling you
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: guys the full blown hail after its all and done.
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: You know, we're a couple of let me tell you
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: we'll stay in touch. Oh, I hope. So bye, thanks
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: so much by Michael. Have a beautiful day. Okay, bye bye.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: I'm sad. Oh my god, I'm amazing. Thank you for
• 1:02:36
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• 1:02:39
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• 1:02:41
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• 1:02:44
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• 1:02:46
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• 1:02:51
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• 1:02:53
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• 1:03:02
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• 1:03:04
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• 1:03:06
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• 1:03:11
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