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It's Okay to Be Single: Why Being Alone Is Better Than Settling · Black Girls Are Easy Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is Sparta! Once again, it's time. You've read the books.
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  Speaker 2: Solving single.
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  Speaker 1: Ho tactics.
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  Speaker 2: And men don't love women like you.
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  Speaker 3: Now listen to the only podcast that gives you a
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  Speaker 3: brutally honest breakdown of dating and relationships.
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  Speaker 4: This is GL Lambert Explains It All.
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  Speaker 2: We got a good show today. We're going to get
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  Speaker 2: to some Facebook questions. If you don't already follow the
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  Speaker 2: Far From Basic Facebook page, do that ASAP.
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  Speaker 3: Keep updated with what's going on, old material, new material,
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  Speaker 3: weekly drops. Also, we have a big interview with a
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  Speaker 3: woman who's single and happy, or is she? But first,
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  Speaker 3: let's get into these questions. The first question is from
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  Speaker 3: a young lady from Europe. Much love to the international Spartans.
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  Speaker 3: She wrote, Dear G, how can I overcome a sense
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  Speaker 3: of humiliation when other women clown me over stealing my
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  Speaker 3: man or the men I'm dating? First off, no one
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  Speaker 3: can take someone from you. A man makes the choice
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  Speaker 3: to date you or date another girl. If he says
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  Speaker 3: her personality is OK, but this one's more my speed,
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  Speaker 3: he's going to go and do that.
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  Speaker 1: It's not about.
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  Speaker 3: Taking or a girl being a better option. It's about
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  Speaker 3: the man believing that this woman can either be a
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  Speaker 3: better fit for his personality or what he's looking for
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  Speaker 3: in a relationship or be she could be something new
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  Speaker 3: that he wants to hit. So don't get wrapped up
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  Speaker 3: in she's better than me because she was able to
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  Speaker 3: get a man that I really liked. If one woman's
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  Speaker 3: being super aggressive and trying to get at a man,
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  Speaker 3: what does that do to his ego? It doesn't take
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  Speaker 3: much to win a man over. Men are easy. We
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  Speaker 3: like to be chased and pursued and made out to
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  Speaker 3: be this playboy. And you got one girl over here,
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  Speaker 3: all lovey-dovey. You got her friend or somebody she knows
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  Speaker 3: from the neighborhood now giving you the eye because you're
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  Speaker 3: with her. you're going to feel like a pimp. And
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  Speaker 3: if this girl keeps pushing and keeps pushing, some of
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  Speaker 3: them will say, I don't even care about her. I
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  Speaker 3: know you deal with her. It is what it is.
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  Speaker 3: These aggressive women basically give a man an option he
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  Speaker 3: can't refuse. Stay with the humble or sweet girl or
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  Speaker 3: go with the sandwich that's talking about how she's going
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  Speaker 3: to do X, Y, and Z to me. It's a
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  Speaker 3: hard thing to compete with. It's better that these girls
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  Speaker 3: are quote unquote taking him down than for you to
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  Speaker 3: be in a six month relationship with them And she
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  Speaker 3: takes him then because then your heart's really going to
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  Speaker 3: be broken because the guy you're with never had any
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  Speaker 3: loyalty to you. In terms of your own self-esteem, you
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  Speaker 3: have to go the high road. If a woman says, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I took your man, be the Ray J in the
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  Speaker 3: world for the Kanye West.
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  Speaker 1: I had him first. He's leftovers. My sloppy seconds. Thank
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  Speaker 1: me later.
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  Speaker 3: It's okay to feel sad and disappointed sometimes. In the
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  Speaker 3: company of your own home. But fix your fucking face
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  Speaker 3: when you go out in public. And hold your head high.
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  Speaker 3: Don't empower these women. By letting them know they got
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  Speaker 3: under your skin. And don't make this man. Feel that
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  Speaker 3: he's some kind of pimp. Because he had you and her.
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  Speaker 3: I want you to be cocky in the streets. But
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  Speaker 3: self reflective at home. Think about it like this. If
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  Speaker 3: every man you're dating. Goes off with another girl in
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  Speaker 3: the same town. And these girls are always making fun
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  Speaker 3: of you.
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  Speaker 1: What.
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  Speaker 3: Aren't you bringing to these relationships? Who are you when
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  Speaker 3: you talk to these guys? Are you showing your full
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  Speaker 3: personality or are you just happy to be there or
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  Speaker 3: happy to have a guy in your face? A lot
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  Speaker 3: of times what a man is looking for other than
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  Speaker 3: sex is someone that's strong, someone that's personable. And if
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  Speaker 3: you're shrinking yourself and you're just happy to be there,
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  Speaker 3: that's not going to keep anyone hooked. If the common
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  Speaker 3: denominator in my love life is that these guys always
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  Speaker 3: walk away for someone else. Why aren't these dates going
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  Speaker 3: as well as I think? Why aren't these relationships really
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  Speaker 3: hooking anybody to my personality? That's the self-work you need
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  Speaker 3: to do because everything reacts to how you are internally.
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  Speaker 3: The external is defined by your internal. So think about
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  Speaker 3: that and do some self-work. The next question is also
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  Speaker 3: from Facebook and this is a pretty good one. GL...
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  Speaker 3: I've recently put on weight since I had my daughter.
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  Speaker 3: When I mean recently, I should say it's been over
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  Speaker 3: two years. And before my pregnancy, I was trying to
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  Speaker 3: lose 30 pounds already. I know it doesn't matter what
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  Speaker 3: men think, but I think I'm fat. And that is
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  Speaker 3: directly affecting the men that come after me as well
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  Speaker 3: as keeping me from engaging with the men I find attractive.
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  Speaker 3: All I can see in me is a whale. As
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  Speaker 3: pretty as my face is, I wouldn't want someone my
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  Speaker 3: size of my arm if I was a man. I'm
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  Speaker 3: trying to diet, but I know it's going to be
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  Speaker 3: a long journey. How do I find confidence to date
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  Speaker 3: now regardless of my weight? My philosophy is always you
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  Speaker 3: have to fall in love with who you are currently
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  Speaker 3: in the mirror. You can't be delusional and say, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not that big. Oh, my nose isn't that long.
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  Speaker 3: My forehead is a regular size. There's always things you
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  Speaker 3: can pick at yourself and other people can make fun of.
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  Speaker 3: But despite what you perceive as flaws, you have to say, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm pretty. Yeah. Yeah. But I'm sexy. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 3: I'm that bitch or I'm that dude. No matter who
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  Speaker 3: you are, you have to find real confidence by looking
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  Speaker 3: past the flaws and seeing that true beauty. I'm not
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  Speaker 3: talking about, oh, I have a great personality. I'm talking
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  Speaker 3: about a physical love for how you look physically. Because
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  Speaker 3: if you go out here thinking, oh, no one thinks
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  Speaker 3: I'm attractive. I'm not a trophy. Who would want me
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  Speaker 3: on their arm? You already lost a battle, shorty. I
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  Speaker 3: know weight is always going to be a big issue,
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  Speaker 3: especially with those of you who had children.
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  Speaker 1: Diet, exercise.
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  Speaker 3: It's hard to keep up with all that stuff. And currently,
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  Speaker 3: you know, a lot of the gyms are closed. So
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  Speaker 3: you have to find that love for yourself now to
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  Speaker 3: not wait nine months when you drop those 40 pounds.
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  Speaker 3: There's no quick way to lose weight. It's like you're
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  Speaker 3: not going to be your high school weight within the
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  Speaker 3: next 30 days. That's not going to happen. But what
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  Speaker 3: you can do is embrace the positives of your body now.
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  Speaker 1: Let's be real.
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  Speaker 3: There's girls on OnlyFans right now that weigh 300 pounds
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  Speaker 3: and they're making tons of money every month.
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  Speaker 1: Why?
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  Speaker 3: Because there will always be men that find you attractive
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  Speaker 3: no matter your weight. But it's about how you see yourself.
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  Speaker 3: You need to have that same mindset. The same way
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  Speaker 3: Lizzo thinks she's that bitch no matter what weight she
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  Speaker 3: is and these girls think like, hey, I'm still pretty
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  Speaker 3: enough to get all this money on OnlyFans no matter
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  Speaker 3: what weight I am. That's the mindset you have to
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  Speaker 3: take into the real world where it's like, I'm working
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  Speaker 3: on losing a couple pounds but in the meantime... I'm
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  Speaker 3: still that bitch. Y'all still want me. Y'all would still
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  Speaker 3: eat my ass if I allowed you to. That's the
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  Speaker 3: mindset you got to have. As I said, it's not
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  Speaker 3: about false confidence or delusions. This is real life shit.
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  Speaker 3: Men would literally eat out the crack of your ass
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  Speaker 3: if you seduced them the right way. Your body is
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  Speaker 3: not an issue for 80% of the men out there.
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  Speaker 3: For that 20% that say, oh, I don't like girls
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  Speaker 3: that big or, oh, that's not my type.
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  Speaker 1: Fine.
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  Speaker 3: They exist. They will let you know. They will be
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  Speaker 3: on the internet calling you fat. They will give you
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  Speaker 3: looks in the street. But for that 80%, they're looking
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  Speaker 3: at you like a snack. They want to flirt with you.
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  Speaker 3: But if you're so stuck in your head, how can
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  Speaker 3: you even look up in his eyes and see that
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  Speaker 3: he's giving you those fucking eyes? How can you even
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  Speaker 3: muster the courage to go over there and flirt with
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  Speaker 3: him if you think you're fat? You have to push
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  Speaker 3: past that shit and just take a risk. Here's what
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  Speaker 3: I want you to do. Keep working on your diet.
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  Speaker 3: But in the meantime, fall in love with how you look.
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  Speaker 3: Put yourself out there to be appreciated instead of assuming
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  Speaker 3: you'll be made fun of. By the time you fall
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  Speaker 3: in love with yourself, those thoughts of why would they
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  Speaker 3: want me on their arm won't exist. It'll be like,
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  Speaker 3: why wouldn't they want me on their arm? That's the
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  Speaker 3: mentality you have to start developing now, not wait until
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  Speaker 3: you lose weight. Trust me, I've gotten emails since 2015.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of these women had body issues. And when
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  Speaker 3: I see how they found boyfriends and a lot of
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  Speaker 3: them even found husbands, it wasn't about me telling them
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  Speaker 3: what to do. It was about them falling in love
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  Speaker 3: with their self enough to go out and do the
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  Speaker 3: Spartan things that I write about on my website and
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  Speaker 3: write about in my books. Because if you don't have
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  Speaker 3: confidence in how you look, you're not going to be
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  Speaker 3: able to do any proactive tactics that I write about.
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  Speaker 3: Fall in love with that mirror and work on it
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  Speaker 3: every fucking day. Every day that you get up, look
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  Speaker 3: at yourself. See a sex symbol. Stop seeing a fucking whale.
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  Speaker 1: You'll get there.
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  Speaker 3: Our final question before we get into the interview is, Hey,
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  Speaker 3: I enjoyed the last podcast and I started Ozark this week. Hey.
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  Speaker 3: And I watched Clerks. 37 dicks though, lol. Could you
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  Speaker 3: tell me some books you recommend? Also, what other dating
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  Speaker 3: books outside of your own do you enjoy? Shout out
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  Speaker 3: to the Clerks reference. 37 Dixie is epic. Ozark, I've
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  Speaker 3: been catching up with. I'm on the last two episodes.
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  Speaker 3: I'll probably finish it this week. To your question, books, books, books.
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  Speaker 3: I read a lot of nonfiction books. I think the
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  Speaker 3: last fiction book I read was Fire and Blood by
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  Speaker 3: George R.R.
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  Speaker 1: Martin.
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  Speaker 3: It's a prequel to Game of Thrones that I highly recommend.
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  Speaker 3: Other non-fiction books i enjoy i like philosophy books i
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  Speaker 3: like autobiographies i recently listened to one on the rapper
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  Speaker 3: prodigy who's now um past one of my favorite biographies
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  Speaker 3: was on gypsy rose lee she kind of invented the
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  Speaker 3: striptease so it's a book about a stripper but not
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  Speaker 3: about a stripper it's it's amazing it's called american rose
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  Speaker 3: or american gypsy I highly recommend that one. In terms
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  Speaker 3: of dating books, I don't really read other dating books.
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  Speaker 3: I think the last one I even touched was Steve
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  Speaker 3: Harvey's Think Like a Man. I had just finished Solving Single,
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  Speaker 3: so I wanted to make sure I wasn't treading on
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  Speaker 3: anything he talked about. When a reader asks me about
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  Speaker 3: a philosophy or they say, Derek Jackson said this, Robert
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  Speaker 3: Greene wrote this about seduction. I get a lot of
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  Speaker 3: stuff like that, but I've never read any of those books.
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  Speaker 3: The stuff I write about dating is based off of
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  Speaker 3: personal experiences. friends experience, and reader experiences. At this point,
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  Speaker 3: I have 10 years of stories where this is where
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  Speaker 3: you went wrong and this is where you went right.
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  Speaker 3: So I would rather rely on that than go through
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  Speaker 3: someone else's dating book to see what they're talking about,
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  Speaker 3: which doesn't mean these books are bad or whatever. If
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  Speaker 3: someone recommends a good dating book and you think it'll help,
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  Speaker 3: you definitely read it. But for me personally, I don't
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  Speaker 3: like when people read a lot of dating books. I
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  Speaker 3: think if you've read more than five dating books and
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  Speaker 3: you still haven't gotten the message, you need to stop
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  Speaker 3: reading books and start actually doing the work. Take one book,
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  Speaker 3: apply it to your life for at least 40 days,
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  Speaker 3: see how that book helps you or doesn't help you,
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  Speaker 3: and then start with another book. If you keep trying
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  Speaker 3: to apply these different philosophies and techniques, you're going to
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  Speaker 3: be a fucking mess. Your center is going to be
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  Speaker 3: off and you're going to be way out of alignment
• 11:46
  Speaker 3: because you're trying to serve too many masters. Don't try
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  Speaker 3: to do what Robert Greene says and then try to
• 11:52
  Speaker 3: do what GL Lambert says and think like, oh, now
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  Speaker 3: I figured it out because I got the perfect mishmash
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  Speaker 3: of things to do. That's not going to help you.
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  Speaker 3: And men don't love women like you. There's a section
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  Speaker 3: where it says, stop reading. Come back in like 24 hours.
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  Speaker 3: And I had a woman write me saying, hey, I
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  Speaker 3: read your book in one day. And I DM'd her back.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, well, you didn't file directions, did you?
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  Speaker 3: So that shows me that You're not really reading and
• 12:21
  Speaker 3: internalizing it the best way you know how. You're basically
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  Speaker 3: just speed reading, trying to find an answer to your
• 12:27
  Speaker 3: current problems. That's not how you read a book, especially
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  Speaker 3: a book that I wrote. I don't know about the
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  Speaker 3: other authors, but don't read my book like it's a
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  Speaker 3: fucking speed test. It's meant to be read, thought through, applied,
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  Speaker 3: and then you can hit me with a message or
• 12:45
  Speaker 3: you can leave a review or whatever, but first try
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  Speaker 3: it out. What I've found is that any woman... has
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  Speaker 3: actually spent over a month with any of my books,
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  Speaker 3: their life changes. That's not me kissing my own ass.
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  Speaker 3: That's real talk. I get these messages of success stories
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  Speaker 3: and I'm like, why can't all of you have the
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  Speaker 3: same story as her, her, and her? Because the rest
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  Speaker 3: of you aren't actually reading. You're fucking racing through shit
• 13:12
  Speaker 3: trying to find an answer. You're missing so much of
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  Speaker 3: the point when you just race through books or you
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  Speaker 3: read the book, put it down, and grab another book.
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  Speaker 3: So take your time. Like, I recently did the coronavirus
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  Speaker 3: dating book that all the members can get for free.
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  Speaker 3: That's not just for the quarantine. There's things in that
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  Speaker 3: book that will help you for life. But you need
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  Speaker 3: to take time and read through and think about this
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  Speaker 3: shit and then actually apply it to your life going forward.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of you don't want to apply. You just
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  Speaker 3: want to read and like, hmm, that was fun. Hmm.
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  Speaker 3: That was entertaining. Fuck entertaining and fuck fun. This is
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  Speaker 3: meant to change your life and help you for the better.
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  Speaker 3: So treat it seriously and stop reading so many fucking
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  Speaker 3: books like you're a librarian.
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  Speaker 1: All right, I'm done with my book rant. So let's
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  Speaker 1: slide into the interview. Black leather glove, no sequins. Buckles
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  Speaker 1: on the jacket, it's a leech shit. And we're back.
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  Speaker 2: I'm here with Nita.
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  Speaker 1: Say hello.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, guys. And today we're going to talk about what
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  Speaker 3: it means to be young, single, sexy.
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  Speaker 1: And free. You think you're young, single, sexy, and free?
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  Speaker 2: Definitely.
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  Speaker 3: All right. Part of finding somebody that's right for you
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  Speaker 3: is getting right with yourself. And a huge part of
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  Speaker 3: getting right with yourself is learning how to be happy
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  Speaker 3: and single. A lot of people, I can't find a
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  Speaker 3: man or I can't find a woman. It's like, won't
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  Speaker 3: you chill the fuck out? live your life, focus on yourself,
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  Speaker 3: and you know someone's going to pop up and voila,
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  Speaker 3: there you go.
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  Speaker 1: You find somebody when you're not even looking for them.
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  Speaker 3: Who are you mentally? Where are you going mentally? And
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  Speaker 3: what have you gone through mentally in terms of growth? So, Nina,
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  Speaker 3: how long have you been single?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, man. Four, maybe five years now.
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  Speaker 1: Five years?
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  Speaker 2: Holy shit.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: After, you know, like everything that's been happening in my
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  Speaker 2: life with, you know, exes and stuff like that. Like,
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  Speaker 2: like you said, I just been focusing on me and
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  Speaker 2: just trying to figure stuff out. Like, what's the next step? Like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to waste time anymore. I'm 26. So
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to just jump into nothing. I'm just
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  Speaker 2: like day by day, like just talking to people and
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  Speaker 2: seeing where things going to go.
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  Speaker 3: So being 26, five years, four years single. So like
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  Speaker 3: you haven't really had a relationship since your early twenties,
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  Speaker 3: like fresh out of teens.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: That's my first basically turning 21 being legal and stuff,
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  Speaker 2: I guess. So, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And, How did your last relationship end?
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  Speaker 2: Basically because he got locked up. We didn't break up
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  Speaker 2: because he was locked up. It's just being young and
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  Speaker 2: having to deal with somebody being locked up. After a while,
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  Speaker 2: it's just like, what am I doing? I'm young. Do
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  Speaker 2: I just sit here and wait? How long am I
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  Speaker 2: going to wait for? It's just so many questions that
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  Speaker 2: you got to ask yourself. You just don't know the outcome.
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  Speaker 2: Things just went a whole different direction.
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  Speaker 1: He was arrested for something he didn't do.
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  Speaker 3: It was like uh fraudulent charge so they're probably like
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  Speaker 3: okay he's in jail but he didn't do anything wrong
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  Speaker 3: so he kind of felt guilty to leave somebody who
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  Speaker 3: was like you know innocent.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah and that was probably one of the hardest things
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  Speaker 2: like you know him just being like you know i
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  Speaker 2: don't know when i'm leaving here you know i didn't
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  Speaker 2: do this or but people tell you everything too it's
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  Speaker 2: like you know the story but do you know the
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  Speaker 2: whole story type thing and so it's just like how
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  Speaker 2: much can you believe like how much do they really
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  Speaker 2: know how much do i really know but you know
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  Speaker 2: from his family standpoint his standpoint you know he wasn't
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  Speaker 2: innocent by a sander and I still believe he was innocent,
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  Speaker 2: but he was in there for like two years. So
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  Speaker 2: that's like a long time for somebody that was innocent.
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  Speaker 3: So it was kind of like- How long were you
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: with him for the whole two years?
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: Of him being locked up?
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah. What, a year?
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, a year. Like after a year. And I did
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: the whole visiting thing and being faithful for like a
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: whole year. And then after that year ended and there
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: was no change in him coming home or any questions
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: or answers, I was just like, I don't know what
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: to do from there. I don't even know. I love him.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: I care. I'll still be here for you, but- The whole, like, oh,
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to talk to other guys. I'm not
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: going to do this. I'm not going to do that.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: After a year, my mindset was just like, I'm just
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: going to have to do whatever. Just to benefit me.
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: So, did you go into single life being guarded about,
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to get into another relationship?
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Or was it like, whatever happens, happens?
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: The first mindset I had, it was just like, whatever happens, happens.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: But when I was working, there was always somebody that
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: was interested in me. And I think that kind of
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: helped me move on a little bit, too. Somebody was
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: interested in So yeah, so it was like a guy
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: that I knew, he always wanted to talk to me,
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: but I was always in a relationship. So I'm just like,
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: you know, and then I guess I kind of used
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: that as like, well, might as well talk to somebody
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: that I kind of know. I see him every day
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: at work already, so I could ease my way into something.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: And that kind of helped me.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: So what was the biggest difference from like, all right,
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: you got back in the game, you're single. It's like,
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: did you miss like, okay, I don't have anybody to
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: call every night. I don't have somebody to go out
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: on dates with.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: Like, how was the adjustment of like, becoming single and
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: going from like having somebody up under you to like,
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: there's no man in your life.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: So the transition was, uh, it was different, but I
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: was older at that time. Now, once we broke up,
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: so the guy I was talking to kind of had
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: a different aspect on the things that he did and
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: wanted to talk about. So, you know, yeah, it was,
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: it was, it was different. It made me look at
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: life and in a relationship different. Cause I'm like, I've
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: been doing this for five years with this guy. And
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: then I met him and I'm like, This is interesting.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: Now I make you want to know more and do
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: more and just be interested in what's next or what
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: other people can offer.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: A big thing that I see a lot is that
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: when you're used to dating a certain level, especially when
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: you're young and you're teenagers and you're in your early 20s,
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: those type of men, they're just big kids. They don't
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: really know how to date on a level. You come over,
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: you hang out, you chill, and that's your life. These
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: girls are going on actual dates. We don't really fucking date.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: We just hang out. I think a lot of women
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: become guilty in their minds like, am I getting robbed?
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: Is this motherfucker not really giving me the treatment I deserve?
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: The answer is mostly yes. It's not about arguing about
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: the treatment. It's like, look, receive what your woman's saying
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: to you and take her the fuck out yeah it's
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: like yeah chilling is cool we could chill anytime but
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: like let's keep stuff fresh and go the fuck out.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: Or have ideas i think that's like a big thing
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: like being in a relationship i came up with like
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: a lot of stuff like the trips we went on
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: i you know i thought about it and stuff like
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: that it was just him just existing and not like
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: my type of bubble i guess i don't know it's
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: like going on for the ride yeah you know yeah
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: and Then somebody, like you said, somebody else come along
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: and be like, you ever did this? You want to
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: go this place? I'm like, yeah. Like, you know, like
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: for somebody to just come up with the plan and
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: you just go with it instead of you just thinking
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: about it and somebody just going with the flow. Like,
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: are you really interested in what I'm like coming up with?
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: Or are you just, again, along with the ride, being
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: somebody else being like, you never did this before. Listen,
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: let's do this. Like, you know, so, yeah.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: So you break up with your long-term boyfriend of five years.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: You start dating this guy from work.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: And then. What's the transition after him?
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: After the gentleman from work?
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Nothing.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: Nothing. I just literally been working, talking to people, like
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: friend with benefits type thing, just to, you know, because,
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: you know, people who have needs or whatever. But the
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: whole relationship thing, my whole mindset was just like, I
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: don't want one. I just didn't want one.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: No, why? Name one specific reason you didn't run a relationship.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: Okay, well, after the guy being locked up, the guy
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: from work, you know, his past and stuff, I just
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: didn't want to get close to nobody.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: So you basically had one guy go to jail, do
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: two years for a charge he didn't do. And then
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: you had another guy from work who was treating you properly.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: And he dies. Randomly.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. Gun violence.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It's like he's going to pick up his kid
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: from school.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: He was picking up his daughter. Well, he picked up
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: his daughter and he was on his way back to
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: his house with her. And he was on the phone
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: with the baby mom. I picked up our daughter. She
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: wanted to speak to him. He turned around and gave
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: her the phone and was shot clear in the head.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Jeez.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah. And it was like the car went an extra
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: block and it crashed. And they had him on life
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: support or whatever, but the family just was like, what's
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: the point? He's shot in the head. He's like a... Yeah,
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: he's done. Then hours later, everybody was at work crying.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: He was gone. That was it. It was like getting
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: to the good part. You start talking to people. You
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: start easing your way into stuff. We were like the
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: friends for those couple months. Then things started getting serious.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: The more it got serious, then after that, bam. It
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: was done. I was like, wow. A herpes is like
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: every time you get close to somebody, something bad happens
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: or they get taken away. It was just like, I
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: don't want to get close to nobody. I'm going to
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: get taken away. Like that's, and that's like the mindset
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: I had for a while.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: So I think that's like, you almost feel cursed. Like, wow.
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: It's like, that's a crazy mindset. I can understand like
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: not wanting to get close to somebody. You still have
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: needs and wants. It's like, how did you navigate? Like, okay,
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: I probably want to be in a deep relationship, but
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: I still need to be social and meet people. And
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: of course you got, um, guys coming up to you,
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: want to talk to you because how you look. So
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: how did you kind of juggle? Like, I don't really
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: want that, but, I can't be totally closed off.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: I don't put my feelings in the thing anymore. I
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: don't know if that's like a help type thing, but
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: I'm still kind of closed off and stuff. I kind
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: of just, you pick a person that you like talking
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: to and if you find like a chemistry thing, you
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: kind of just go with the flow and I let
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: them know from the beginning like, I don't want anything. Like,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: I just want what I want here and there, but
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: Do you guys believe that when you say that?
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Because it's a lot of women, they all say the
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: same thing you're saying, but they're not coming from the
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: same type of trauma. It's basically like, Your hurt is
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: different because you went through like some tragic hurt.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: Their hurt is more on the surface. It's like, I
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: can't say surface because, you know, heart broke is heartbreak.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: But what happens is they tell these guys, I don't
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: want anything serious.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: It is what it is. And men often say, okay, well,
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: I've heard that before.
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: So, I'm going to tread lightly.
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: But then, after a few months, it's like, so where
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: is this going? Yeah. And the guy's like, well, you
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: just said you didn't want anything serious. And they're like, well,
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: we got closer.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah. How can I not want something serious? Yeah.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: I think that's because people allow them to get close.
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: If you're going to say you don't want something, then
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: that's what you got to mean that they'll hit them
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: up or they'll text them like every hour on the
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: hour type thing. It's like, if you only want sex
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: or whatever, then why are you constantly texting them all day,
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: caring about anything? I show people like, I really just
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: don't care. And then they either get with it or
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: they don't. And that's, and that's basically just me. Like
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: I tell them like, you know, I don't want anything
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: right now. Like, I just look for a friend that
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: I can talk to here and there. And if I
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: want to hook up, I want to hook up. So
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: I'm not going to blow up your phone when you
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: talk to somebody. I'm not going to be like, oh,
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: who is this bitch? That's not me. And I think
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: that kind of actually attracts guys to be closer to me.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: So it's kind of like a you can never win
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: type thing with me. Oh, you're so different. You say
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: you don't want this and you really mean it, but
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: it makes me want you more. And it's just like,
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: I told you, so just leave it at that. And
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't know. I can ignore your texts
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: all day. I won't text you a week later. I
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: can do stuff like that because, again, I don't want
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: my feelings involved whatsoever unless I'm ready to. Yeah.
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: Like you said, you push them away and it's kind
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: of like sexy almost. The more you don't want me,
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: the more I want you.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Because what am I doing wrong or how dare you
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: not be on my dick like the average girl? Men
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: are competitive.
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: If she's not on me hard, what am I doing wrong?
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: How do I get her on me hard? What advice
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: would you give women who are in the same mindset
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: as you? Like, I don't really want anything serious. Kim
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: meets a man and she doesn't want a boyfriend, but
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: he's on her heels. What's the etiquette in terms of
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: like texting, calling, sex? How does she navigate that?
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: Well, first, Kim got to believe herself. Like if you're
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: going to say something, you got to go off of
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: what you say. Your word is, you know, like... Word
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: is your bond. Yeah. So that's basically key. The texting thing,
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: like I said, it's just like a good morning text. Hey,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: how was your day? Everything good? All right, cool. What
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: day are you free this week? A basic conversation type thing.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: And plus work help. I keep myself busy. So I
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: don't really think about people too unless I need to
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: think about them.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: So.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: I just being, being true to your word and just,
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: What do you do if a guy starts to, uh,
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: call you a lot? Like he called you, just send
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: him the voicemail, send him the voicemail.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I'll probably just send him the voicemail. Yeah, definitely. And, uh,
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: text them like even FaceTime people like you don't FaceTime. Like, no,
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: like don't, don't. I don't like people knowing like what
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: I'm doing, where I'm at. Like, I don't like none
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: of that. Like if you're not my dude, like don't
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: ask me what I'm doing every hour. Don't FaceTime me.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: Don't call me unless, unless something bad, but. I don't
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: really have none of those problems. Cause like I said,
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: in the beginning, I kind of lay it down on
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: the line. I let him know, like, I'm not a
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: phone person. I read the text. I do take hours
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: long to take back. So it was like, everything is
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: literally upfront. Like I'm not, there's no surprises. None whatsoever.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: I don't know. It's gotta be true to yourself.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: So what's the craziest thing a man's done to try
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: to bring you closer to him?
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: It was like, you know, like, I just, I like
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: your vibe. I like how true you are. It kind
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: of sucks that you like, you just randomly stopped talking
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: to me. Like, we should go out or they like
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: wait a couple of days or a week or so,
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: then they'll come back and just be like, Hey, did
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: you think about this? Like, I still be thinking about you.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: They'll just like reminisce, try to like throw stuff at you.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: But again, I really just don't care. Like anybody can
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: say anything. You can bring me flowers. You can do this. Like,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: I probably won't want to just be like, Oh, okay.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: Thanks.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: But are you willing to like, if somebody really want me, like,
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: are you going to like, are you going to jump
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: through hoops? Like, what do you want to do? That's different.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: That's going to make me be like, I'll change my
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: mindset for you.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: You don't want a relationship.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: Right. but are you open to somebody, like you say,
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: jumping through hoops and actually convincing you otherwise? Can your
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: mind be changed is what I'm asking.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: I mean, like I've been single for five years now.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: So at this point, yeah, someone could definitely change my mind,
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: but it would have to take a strong, good somebody. Like,
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: like I really don't want no more nonsense.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: No. What will you have to have?
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: Um, definitely like ambition. Like they got to know what
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: they want to do in life. I'm not expecting like
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: nobody to have like, their shit 100% together because we're
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: all perfect. None of us are perfect. We all got
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: stuff that we need to work on.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Plus, you're in your mid-20s. The quarter life thing is like,
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: you're going to probably date men that's probably from 25
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: to 32, I would say.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: Right. They should be at the point where you almost
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: got your stuff together. You know where you want to go.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: You know what you want to do. You're ready to
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: settle down. A lot of people, they aren't ready to
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: settle down. They aren't done with their ways. Guys have
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: childish ways, for sure. It takes a long time for
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: guys to grow up. At the end of the day,
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: I just want to be happy. I want to be
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: happy with somebody else that just wants to just live
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: life with me and be happy. We don't need the
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: fancy cars and stuff. I just want somebody on my level, chill,
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: get money, do this, do that, and just have fun.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: Just enjoy life. I don't know.
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: Do you think your mentality of, I don't need you,
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: this is going to be the deal, do you think
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: that hinders you in opening yourself up, though?
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: It could.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: It could.
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: How I see it is like, understand you're hurt. But
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: at the same time, if a guy does meet some
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: of those qualities on your list, she's a perfect candidate.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: We had a good conversation. We vibe.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: But here I am trying to text her and she's
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: giving me like two weird responses. Is it fair to
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: put a man through the fire?
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: Right. And I mean, that's a thought too. And that's why,
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: like I say in the beginning, I'm kind of like
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: an open book. Some people don't care to know like
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: why you are the way you are. So it's like,
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: if you don't ask those questions, then you'll never know.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: And if you don't care to know, then obviously we don't,
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: we're not going to move anywhere. Cause you really don't like,
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: do you really care? So, and that's just, I don't know,
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: but I don't want everybody to have to like, you know,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: reap the benefits of my like past. Cause it's like,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: after a while you do have to get over it.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: You got to learn to let people win. But I
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: feel like the person that wants to get let in
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: will ask to get let in. And if you don't ask,
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: then you're not getting in.
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: And I think that's actually a good test. If a
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: man is digging a woman, He should be like, why
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: is it like this? Why don't you want a relationship?
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: Because as soon as someone would tell me like, hey,
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: here's what it is.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: I don't want anything serious. We can have fun. We
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: can do whatever. But I'm not looking for a relationship.
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: Instead of saying, okay, cool. it would be more like,
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: so why is that? When you talk to these guys,
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: do they ever venture down and say what went on
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: in the past? Or they just keep it on a
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: surface level?
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I think because I come at them with my mentality that, again,
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: people really don't ask. People don't really dig deep or
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: they don't want to know and i think that's what
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: you need you need somebody that's going be willing to
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: like pick your mind and just make you like open
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: up more and it's just like if y'all don't care
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: enough to try to get me open then i'm not
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: going to open up i'm gonna just use you for
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: what y'all use people for like this is what i
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: want and that's that so you get what you want
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: i'm okay with that right now.
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: I think going forward the ultimate advice i can give
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: to you is to ask because do you ask them
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: about their their life and their past because sometimes it's
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: like it's tick for tat if like if you don't
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: care enough to ask me i don't care enough to
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: ask you and if it's just gonna be like a
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: friends for benefit type thing it's like now i.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: Can't say they don't ask like why you're single they
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: don't get like we just don't get to the point
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: where it's like a deep conversation everybody be like oh
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: why you single oh like the guy's typical response oh
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: she's crazy she did she did you know everybody just
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: stick to like basic stuff and it's just like they'll
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: ask me it's like you know i just went through
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: some stuff Like, and if I'm not comfortable, like, you can't,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: you don't just tell everybody everything, you know, head on.
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: But it's like, the more time going on, it's like, okay,
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: if I'm talking to this person for a couple months,
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: you know, like, let's really talk. Like, you know, no
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: one's ever like this, like, let's really talk. Like, everybody asks, oh,
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: why are you single? You just give the basics, but
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: nothing like a deep conversation. So it's never been that.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: That's interesting. Yeah.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: It's like, it's so weird that we live in a
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: world where no one really talks for real, for real.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: Everything's like on the surface level stuff. And then when
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: you have, like, semi-deep talks it's probably about other people
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: or other shit or like you know you're talking about
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: music or celebrities or um plans for the future like
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: oh I plan on doing this business or I want
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: to start this up but like that's not real shit
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: about like yourself tell me about your father tell me
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: about your mother um you got brothers and sisters or
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: how was that growing up what part of the city
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: you from I did the book uh she ain't it
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: it was mostly about these are the things you should
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: do when you meet a woman.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: These are the things you should ask.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: Because what I found out just from the few men
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: that come to me for advice, they don't really ask
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: much and they get sucked into these women with dominant
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: personalities who basically use and abuse them. And we like
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: to think like men are tough, but a lot of
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: guys will seek advice. It takes a lot to seek
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: advice as a man because men think they know everything.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: And so the men that would come to me, they'd
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: be like, well, I'm taking care of her two kids.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: I give her money all the time for her work stuff.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: And she treat me like this. And it's a lot
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: of cheating.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: It's like, oh, she cheated on me and I'm still
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: sticking with her because I really love her. And it's like,
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: it's the opposite of what you see a lot of
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: times with men. And I think their problem is when
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: they go on dates, they're not thinking about who is
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: this woman. They say, oh, this is who she is
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: on the surface. This is what I'm attracted to, but
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: they don't go deeper. And then they find out You're
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: a good person even though you're going through a lot
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: of shit. Some women go through similar things to you
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: and they're complete fucking savages where they don't give a fuck.
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: And they will like use a man to do all
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: kinds of crazy shit while they're still fucking other dudes.
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: And they'll get in a whole relationship and still do
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: all kinds of crazy shit. And those conversations are never
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: had in the beginning because these men don't think they'll
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: ask questions. It's fucked up because either you're going to
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: get played and used because you don't know this woman
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: or in your case you're going to miss out on
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: some mic Decent because you're afraid to push her beneath
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: the surface. I can understand being shy and introverted, but
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: if you really like a person, get the fucking on.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely. And you got to be worth knowing. And
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: I feel like nowadays people just, again, no one really
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: caught my attention to be like, I'm going to get
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: past the phase and really show you who I am.
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: Nobody is really worth that. Or is it just me
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: just assuming that or thinking that? So again, I don't know.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: You would know if somebody really tried to talk to you. Like, hey,
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: let's sit down and talk. Or, hey, let's go somewhere
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: and just have a deep conversation. If they don't do that,
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: if it's all surface level bullshit, then they're not... You
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: know they're not doing that. It's not you assuming it.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: My biggest question is this to you. Do you feel
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: like you're not living your best and true self when
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: you talk to people? Because it's like you almost have
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: to put on a facade. Because no one knows the
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: real you.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: So it's like, you know what?
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: Someone goes to work and they work around people in
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: a cubicle. So you got to put on that work
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: mannerisms like, oh, hey, how are you? You got to
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: be very phony to be in that environment. And for you,
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: it's like when you go on dates or when you
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: talk to these guys, it's like you're being yourself, but
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: at the same time, you're not able to talk about
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: real shit about your own experiences or talk to them
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: about their experiences to see if you actually have a
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: lot of shit in common in terms of like, childhood
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: and background or whatever so do you feel like you're
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: almost not living a hundred percent because you gotta just
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: keep everything like on that basic.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: Level that's a good question i mean things could change
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: with life if i wasn't like on that basic level
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: i mean because there's always opportunities for something different right
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: so it's like it's a good question though do.
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: You long for those type of conversation where you can
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: like Sit around and actually talk about real shit? Or
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: it hasn't happened in so long, you just don't miss it?
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I kind of just live my life and do
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: what I want. I don't regret anything. You really can
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: talk to anybody. You don't have to be in a
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: relationship to talk or vent to people, because sometimes you
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: got guy friends or just friends that just... Friends that
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: you can really just talk to without no type of
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: chemistry or whatever like that, that you can just vent to, but...
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: my family, my sisters is who I talk to. Like
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: if I really had like an issue or something like, again,
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: because it's like, you want to, if I'm going to
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: talk or if I'm like, let my heart out, the
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: people were just open up. It's like, I want to
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: talk to somebody that's going to care.
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: And the biggest question when you're, uh, happily single, it's like,
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: I can't be single for that long because I need sex.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: I need the comfort of having sex with the same
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: person who knows my body and knows my mannerisms. And,
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: A vibrator won't do it for me like that forever.
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: Good sex doesn't have to be with somebody you've been
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: with for a while. You can have good sex with
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: somebody for the first time that you just met them.
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: And they're like, oh shit, you knew what to do
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: in that.
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: No, I mean, I'm 26. So you definitely have the
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: urge to have sex and hook up with people. I
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: guess you just got to be careful. You kind of
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: take a risk with just hooking up with somebody that
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: you kind of just met. Because you go from hooking
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: up with the same person for five years And then
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: once that stops and you start talking to somebody else
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: and then y'all start hooking up and then a year
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: you stop and it was like, all right. So now
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: I was like, do I just pick somebody out the blue?
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: Like you take a risk, you take a risk with
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: somebody and he's like, all right, is it going to
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: be good? Is it going to be something? Cause it's
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: like you have a friend with benefits and everything is good.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: And then, then you stop and it was like, Oh,
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: I got to find another friend with benefits. But, um,
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: I'm not the type of person that has to like
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: have it every day, all day type thing. So I
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: think that's kind of like, like a help, like I'm
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: not like a nepho type thing. Like some girls be like, oh,
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: I gotta have it. Like, how can you, like, I
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: gotta sleep with somebody. I gotta cuddle. And it's just like, no,
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: actually even friends with benefits, like after I'm done, I
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: want you to get out. Like, I don't know. Like,
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: I'm not trying to be like a savage or anything
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: like that. It's just like, I'm just a female that
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: just don't want no parts and no bite. And if
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: I want sex, that's all the hell I want. And
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: it's just like, all right, we're good. Smoke something. We
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: roll up, have a little conversation. Do what we need
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: to do. And we just go about our business.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: You can separate the sex from the emotional state of it.
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Sex usually leads to feelings getting involved. But when
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: you can say, okay, it's just sex and you don't
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: put any other weight behind it or any projections behind it,
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: you can do that. But it's so difficult, I've noticed,
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: for a lot of women to do that because I
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: think they really do want love. And sex is a
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: replacement for love. But love and sex aren't ever going
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: to be the same thing. And so it's hard for
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: them to say, okay, you got to leave.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Go get in your car and we'll call it over because...
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: Your time is done. Yeah.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't do the whole, like again, I
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: put everything forward, like right up front, like I don't
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: do sleepovers. We do what we need to do and
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: we go our separate ways. You might can lay there
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: for a couple minutes, get yourself together, let me know
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: how it was.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: Get your rag.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, right. You want some water? Yeah, I know. I
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: have you like some nice water so your throat not dry.
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: Wipe off just in case you got to go somewhere
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: else afterwards, whatever. None of my business.
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: Go back home to your baby mama.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: It's something. But yeah, like, I'm just, I don't know.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: I really just, I separate everything and I really just
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: mean what I say. So I don't think anybody could
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: be mad at me for just being 100% honest.
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: Do they ever get mad at you? Especially after sex,
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: do you like guys get emotional?
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: The guy that I'm like, that I'm like, you know,
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: doing my situation with now, like he definitely wants like
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: more time. Like the guy that I'm talking to now
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: is probably like literally the best I ever had. Number
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: one on like the top of the scale. And it's like,
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: even still, it's just like, Whenever I want it, that's
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: about it. But he's like, oh, I want to come
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: over more, you know, maybe two or three times a
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: month instead of this. And I'm just like, oh, no,
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: it's okay. Like, I'd rather, because the more you, the
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: more you start.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: And why do you do that if he's that good?
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: Age, he's a little older, got kids. Like, I don't
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: want nobody, I really don't want nobody with kids. So,
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's another, like, a blockage, too, because my
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: guy could be with somebody with kids. Everybody got kids. Well,
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: most people got kids nowadays, but. his age and the
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: fact that he got kids. So that's a deal breaker.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: That's kind of like a bad thing. Not saying that
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: maybe as time go on, things could change. But me, again,
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: with my mindset, it's kind of just like, not really.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: Just want to have some fun with you. You're good.
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: If he checked the boxes where it's like, he was
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: a little younger, he didn't have kids, would you be
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: more receptive?
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: Maybe.
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: But again, I don't really know him to say 100% yes,
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: because all we do is smoke and do what we do.
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: So it's like, I can't really just fall for.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: The sex like yeah that's definitely like a like that's
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: the number one thing like one of the number one
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: things but I can't just say oh I want to
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: continue something because I really I don't know I'm like
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: I know your personality I know like you're really chill
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: but like do I really know you like does he
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: really know you yeah that that too right I'm pretty
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: sure he wants to get to know me.
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: But texting you like hey I want to see you
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: more often that's not isn't the same as saying look
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: we're going to see each other more often I don't
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: care how busy you are boom but let's figure out
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: a time and date because I think That's the proactive
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: shit a lot of people want to see.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: It's like, don't tell me something. Show me something.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: Action.
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: You know? Actions are very important.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: So, yeah.
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: Maybe if you chose something, like you say, like an
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: action point and not just, oh, I want to see you.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: I like being around you. Then things could possibly change.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: But it's not like that. So, I just stick with
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: what I know. And that's what I do.
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: Keep it moving.
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Your rules to being happily single sound like this.
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: Tell them up front that you don't want anything and
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: mean it. Yeah.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: Because you got to mean it. Two, when you do
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: hook up and have sex, don't stay the night.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: For what?
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: No nightstand. What's the point of staying the night? Yeah.
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: So you're like, oh, I want to get it again
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: in the morning. No.
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: No. If you want it that bad again in the morning,
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: then call them and say, hey, wake and bake. Let's go.
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: Roll up. Let's come back and let's start fresh. But no, dude.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: I mean, unless you want it night, night, morning type
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: thing like that, then I mean, go for it. But yeah, don't.
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: What do they need to spend the night for? They
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: got their own bed. And if they don't, then.
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, something wrong. Yeah, right.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: But then the last thing I would say would be.
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: To be really happy. It's easy to just say like, oh,
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: I'm happy and I'm single. But you got to mean it.
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: You can't lie to yourself, right? Like, everybody wants somebody
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: in the future, but I feel like I am content
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: with everything that I'm doing, how things go, and if
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: things change, then it'll do so. But just be honest.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: Be honest with yourself. Be happy.
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: And what I've noticed, you don't need outside validation to
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: be happy. Like, you're not searching for anything or anyone
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: else to come in and fill that void.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: In your heart because there is no void. I mean,
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: I'm sure, like, you would like to be with somebody
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: that's nice and loves you and all this other stuff.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: But like, it's not something that you're craving for longing
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: for where a lot of people like, Oh, I need that. Oh,
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: I can't sleep. It's that romantic, like Cinderella type shit. Like, Oh,
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: I wish I could live this life.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: You don't have that.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: You don't think my fairy tales ended.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah. You don't, you don't, you don't care about the
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: fairy tale existence. And I think that's a part of
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: the situation.
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: Everything that doesn't happen. So it's just like, Like you said,
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: from your first relationship, 16 to 21, I used to
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: tell my sister and him all the time, like, that's
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: my husband. I'm going to marry him. I'm in love.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: And then things go on down the line. Like you said,
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: it's just like, life's not a fairy tale. Life is
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: not like the movies. And shit always happens. So, you know,
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: you just got to be happy, live for the moment,
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: and stay true to yourself. Stay true to what you
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: believe in, what you mean, and just go from there,
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: I guess.
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: Y'all be Nostradamus right now.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: I'm going to pull out the card.
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: I'm going to pull out the tarot. I'm going to
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: read your tarot. I think you being the way you are,
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: she's a nice person.
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: She's chill. She has an energy to her. You're going
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: to meet somebody that actually shows you something different.
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: Just like that guy you met from work who you
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: knew for a little while. You're going to meet somebody
• 43:23
  Speaker 3: that comes into your life and they will be about action.
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: It won't be all talk. It's like, look, I hear
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: what you're saying, but this is what I want. Your
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: no is kind of like a half no. But for
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: somebody to come in and kick those doors down and say, look,
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: I understand what you went through, but trust in this
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: process and we're going to try to make this shit work.
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: Maybe it will, maybe it won't.
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: I think you're going to meet a guy like that,
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: but you can't be so hardcore that you dismiss somebody
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: who's putting in work.
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: And I think you may try to push him away.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: Because that's what.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's natural. And it's going to be
• 43:58
  Speaker 3: on him to say, you know what? I know your
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: story because I asked your story. I know why you're running,
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: but I'm not going to let you run away. And
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: I think that's when you're going to say, let me
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: stop being a brat and let me stop running away
• 44:16
  Speaker 3: and let me face my fears.
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: Open up a little bit.
• 44:18
  Speaker 3: Because it's not all on the man to break down
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: your walls. Your walls have to be broken down on
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: your own. You got to be cognizant of like, there's
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: going to come a time and place where.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: I have to let somebody in. And I can't run.
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: Again, with time, stuff like that will happen. I'm getting
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: older now. The situations that happen, again, they start to
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: fade away. So definitely, if somebody's willing to really just
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: take that ax and knock it down, then I have
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: no choice but to try to be open to it. Yeah.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: Optimism is key. It's hard to be optimistic in this
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: type of world. But optimism is key because I get
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: a lot of people come to me saying, like it
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: won't work out for me.
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: Oh, that doesn't happen or that's all bullshit and love
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: doesn't exist anymore. There's always the possibility that you can
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: find love and love can find you, but it's not
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: on somebody to come in and just make you feel
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: that warmth. It's like you got to be able to
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: open your arms and receive that warmth. And if you're
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: not willing to open your arms, if you're like, oh,
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: everything's pessimistic and everything's negative, it's never going to work.
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: And then you're going to, as you get older, you're
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: going to be like, damn, Now I'm 36 and I
• 45:32
  Speaker 3: did meet a couple cool guys and I didn't really
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: embrace them.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: I got to take responsibility for stuff like that, right?
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: Exactly. Yeah.
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: No, I definitely get that and I believe that.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: But you'll be good.
• 45:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And for anyone else single and maybe not as happy,
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: there is gold at the end of the rainbow, but
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: it isn't like the movies. It isn't someone just falling
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: into your lap and loving you and everything's better. It
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: will be a combination of you saying, I'm single and
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: I'm happy, but what am I working towards with myself?
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: What am I learning from being single? You got to
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: be proactive in your own life. So any last words?
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: This was fun. I liked it. Thanks everybody for listening.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: And yeah, single ladies, just stay true to yourself and
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: love yourself first. That's that.
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: On gang. You want to get your phone number out
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: for any boys out there?
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Thanks for listening.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: GL Lambert Explains It All is brought to you by SolvingSingle.com.
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: And make sure to subscribe.
• 46:39
  Speaker 4: You definitely don't want to miss the next episode. You
• 46:42
  Speaker 4: just played me for the last time. I'm done fucking
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: with you. Keep coming with the same lines.
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: Everything but the truth.
• 46:53
  Speaker 4: You picked the wrong one, yeah, yeah. You picked the
• 46:56
  Speaker 4: wrong one, baby. You just played me for the last time.
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: I'm done fucking.
• 47:03
  Speaker 4: With you So no, I'm not the one for the
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: bullshit I empty out the closet like a full clip
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: You're trying so hard to get at me I wish
• 47:12
  Speaker 4: you would've left me when you met me Whole squad
• 47:16
  Speaker 4: said you was a ho-do Let Breezy know these niggas
• 47:19
  Speaker 4: ain't loyal Blowing up my phone, turn my phone off
• 47:23
  Speaker 4: Can't take no bitch I won't call you, just blame
• 47:27
  Speaker 4: me for the last time I'm done fucking with you,
• 47:31
  Speaker 4: keep coming.
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: With the same lines Everything but the truth, you picked
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: the wrong one, yeah, yeah