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Episode #171 w/Mark Winters · Kickin’ It With KeKe: Life, Love, & MINDSET

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Kicking In with Kiki. Kicking it you Ki
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  Speaker 1: Ki kicking it the ki Ki for a little personality,
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  Speaker 1: switching up the stormy inline on God we making this
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  Speaker 1: story and hooks changing Oris one day at the time.
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  Speaker 1: Much problems to the side. Enjoy yourself, freezing your mind
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  Speaker 1: cheek in it with ki Kee. Hello and welcome back
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  Speaker 1: to another episode of Kicking and Wikiki Life, Love and Mindset,
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  Speaker 1: the podcast where mindset meets movement, healing meets action, and
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  Speaker 1: conversations create transformation.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, thanks for having me Kiki. I really appreciate it.
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  Speaker 2: Love your energy, and I love your shirt too. That's
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  Speaker 2: a pretty amazing thing. I am Mark Winters. I'm a
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  Speaker 2: singer songwriter from uh beautiful Sugarland, Texas. I am uh
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  Speaker 2: just freshly back from the Good Vibes Highway Tour Spring
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  Speaker 2: the spring edition, and uh just had a great time
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  Speaker 2: out on the road. And I love writing about all
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  Speaker 2: the people that I meet and places I visit. Uh
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  Speaker 2: but the positive spin and maybe maybe a little bit
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  Speaker 2: nerdy too, So that's uh, That's what I'm all about.
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  Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you for being here today. So
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna go into the mindset moment because our experiences
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  Speaker 1: kind of shift how we see life and how we
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  Speaker 1: go through mindset shifts, aha, moments and all the things.
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  Speaker 1: So what mindset shift change the way you approach life.
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  Speaker 2: So I would say, uh, you know a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of a backstory my history. I started off I love math,
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  Speaker 2: I love science. I love understanding how the world works.
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  Speaker 2: I'm very curious and that led me to be an
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  Speaker 2: aerospace engineer. So doing the thing over there, enjoying myself
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  Speaker 2: and uh then, uh, you know, I decided to do
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  Speaker 2: something musical. I had never done anything musical in my life,
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  Speaker 2: and so I picked up a guitar to play a
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  Speaker 2: song for my wife for our anniversary. Uh surprised her
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  Speaker 2: in our favorite Italian restaurant, and uh, man, the connection,
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  Speaker 2: the I don't know, the transcendence, just the just the
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  Speaker 2: ability to sort of get on another level with someone
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  Speaker 2: was so profound when I sang the song to her
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  Speaker 2: that it just really made me consider music more seriously
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  Speaker 2: as as an endeavor pursuit, you know, as a passion.
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  Speaker 2: And I started writing my own stuff. And uh, So
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  Speaker 2: I would say that the shift for me was this,
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  Speaker 2: this movement.
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  Speaker 1: I had a.
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  Speaker 2: Small piece of my personality that was creative, but most
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  Speaker 2: of it was sort of you know, science, engineering, business,
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  Speaker 2: that sort of stuff. And then you know, this little
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  Speaker 2: art the little flame of artistry in my in my
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  Speaker 2: head bloomed, blossomed in that moment, and it's become a
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  Speaker 2: huge part of my life. Now that's all I do
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  Speaker 2: is music. And so I would say, my my aha
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  Speaker 2: moment was that moment. I'm chasing that feeling all the
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  Speaker 2: time now, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is so amazing. I love to hear stories
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  Speaker 1: like that, So thank you for sharing it with us.
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  Speaker 1: How did that all come about? Like when did you
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  Speaker 1: know that that was a part of your passion or
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  Speaker 1: your purpose?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? You know, growing up in school, I had this
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  Speaker 2: affinity dual affinity, right, So I love sports, and so
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  Speaker 2: you find me out on track or playing football or
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  Speaker 2: tennis or whatever. So I was I was was involved
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  Speaker 2: in athletics, and then I had this aptitude for math
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  Speaker 2: and science and understanding the world. So that probably so
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  Speaker 2: that I could enjoy my athletics better. Probably, But yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so I had these two aptitudes and that really shaped
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  Speaker 2: kind of how I thought about the world. And then
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  Speaker 2: my grandparents were influential as well. You know, my my
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  Speaker 2: dad's parents, my mom my grandma was a nurse and
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  Speaker 2: my grandpa was an engineer.
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  Speaker 1: Uh.
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  Speaker 2: And then my mom's dad, I was a truck driver,
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  Speaker 2: but extremely mechanically inclined. And so I remember often sitting
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  Speaker 2: out in East Texas. Winnie was where my grandparents were from,
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  Speaker 2: and so sitting out there, Uh that's sort of right
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  Speaker 2: near Beaumont and Dix and stuff in my grandpa's garage
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  Speaker 2: and uh, you know, doing woodworking in my other grandpa's garage.
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  Speaker 2: And so I think I had this, I got this
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  Speaker 2: really great foundation of encouraging and to tinker and explore
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  Speaker 2: and and so that all sort of left me led
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  Speaker 2: me to, you know, aerospace engineering. I really love applied physics, mathematics.
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  Speaker 2: I love the feeling of flying and racing motorcycles and
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  Speaker 2: downhill skiing, anything that you know, roller blood anywhere there's
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  Speaker 2: where I can kind of get in a groove and
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  Speaker 2: feel the gravity pulling me right. And so that I
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  Speaker 2: think that just love of that feeling helped me pick
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  Speaker 2: aerospace too. And then the math in aerospace is very mysterious,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it doesn't there's not a lot of solutions still,
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  Speaker 2: even with all this massive AI everywhere. They still can't
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  Speaker 2: solve some of the equations to understand atmospheric flight, and
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  Speaker 2: so there's a mystery to it still.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I love that you described that as mysterious
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  Speaker 1: because it is English. But I love how your eyes
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  Speaker 1: light up when you talk about it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah. I had the worst English teacher on
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  Speaker 2: the planet in middle in elementary school, and that really
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  Speaker 2: jaded me against I mean, I love writing, but it
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  Speaker 2: just jaded me against uh, you know, I guess being
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  Speaker 2: more serious about you know, English and such. So yeah,
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  Speaker 2: my hat's off to you. I had a bad mentor
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  Speaker 2: over there, so I ended up going a different direction.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it happens. It happens, and it's unfortunate because
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people miss out on their true calling
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  Speaker 1: because they take the words or opinion of somebody else
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  Speaker 1: who just had to settle in what they were doing,
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  Speaker 1: so they couldn't pour in to the person to pursue
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  Speaker 1: their dreams because they didn't get a chance to pursue
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  Speaker 1: their own.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's unfortunate. I think you're right there said
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  Speaker 2: teachers are so influential in your life. Just uh, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's sad if you could the wrong one you know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so what life experience wish you to grow to most?
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  Speaker 2: Ooh, I would say, you know, having my daughter. You know,
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  Speaker 2: you might think you're a selfless person, and you might
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  Speaker 2: think that you know, you understand what you know, what
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  Speaker 2: love uh really can make you do. But yeah, I'd say,
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  Speaker 2: you know, the most transformational for me was was, you know,
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  Speaker 2: watching my daughter come out of my wife as like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god. Yeah. Phenomenal on so many levels, and
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  Speaker 2: transformational from a life point of view and from a
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  Speaker 2: just a mentality point of view, like, you know, life
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  Speaker 2: isn't about you anymore. And as much as you love
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  Speaker 2: your spouse, having a child dependent on you is a
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  Speaker 2: whole nother level of response.
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  Speaker 1: Daughter, you know, absolutely, I agree, Like my greatest joy
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  Speaker 1: is being a parent.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, having that? How many? How many kids do
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  Speaker 2: you have?
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  Speaker 1: I have to have a daughter and a son. My
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  Speaker 1: daughter is the artist the paintings that you see artist
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  Speaker 1: and a writer. My son is going into his senior
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  Speaker 1: year of high school and he loves music to make
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  Speaker 1: I'll stay in choir last year. So I'm excited to
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  Speaker 1: see where that journey takes him because he's very serious
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  Speaker 1: about it. He's very good at it too, not being
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  Speaker 1: biased as his mom. Uh huh. He's just really really
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  Speaker 1: good at it.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, that's cool.
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  Speaker 1: I think being a parent it just it makes you
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  Speaker 1: look at yourself like, wow, I didn't notice about myself,
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  Speaker 1: but now I do.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. Yeah, I need to start thinking about
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  Speaker 2: what you're going to teach them, right, Like what what
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  Speaker 2: parts of your personality do you want to not expose
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  Speaker 2: them to?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: You start start of censoring yourself a little bit, like
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  Speaker 2: all right, I need to clean it up a little
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  Speaker 2: bit here, you know, absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So we want to throw some long questions. A
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  Speaker 1: love question the mayor hall is love, Whether self love
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  Speaker 1: our relationships shifted your mindset?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, my parents got divorced when I was a teenager,
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  Speaker 2: and it was a very traumatic thing for me. And
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  Speaker 2: so when I was, you know, thinking about, you know,
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  Speaker 2: finding somebody myself to you know, connect with and make
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  Speaker 2: a family with, that was in my mind like, don't
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  Speaker 2: make don't make a bad choice, And so I was
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  Speaker 2: very thoughtful, and uh, I don't know, I got h
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  Speaker 2: I got probably into my mid twenties and I hadn't
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  Speaker 2: really found a high quality person that I really liked,
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  Speaker 2: and so I decided to I guess I just won't
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  Speaker 2: get married. Uh, and then eureka, my wife shows up
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  Speaker 2: and uh just takes me on this journey that I
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  Speaker 2: never would have gone on, right, I'd sort of given
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  Speaker 2: up on love, right, and uh, you know she's she's
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  Speaker 2: a nurse and a wildlife rehaber, she's got all these
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  Speaker 2: amazing compassion traits and you know, she's such a perfect
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  Speaker 2: puzzle fit for me. Right, we just complete each other.
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  Speaker 2: So well, it's a you know, it's been a journey
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  Speaker 2: I never thought I would go on, and it's brought
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  Speaker 2: me the greatest joys of my life with her and
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  Speaker 2: with my children. And then it's you know, I make
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  Speaker 2: this career pivot from a real job to music, which
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  Speaker 2: is now a passion, a job and a passion, and
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  Speaker 2: she's like, hey, we're gonna make it work. You know,
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  Speaker 2: you you chased your dream and you know, just be
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  Speaker 2: who you need to be and and uh, and I'll
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  Speaker 2: be right there for you. And it's been an amazing
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  Speaker 2: expression of the love that someone says they have, but
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  Speaker 2: then you see it in action, You're like, wow, that's
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  Speaker 2: very awesome.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is awesome. So I'm so happy for you.
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  Speaker 1: Mark and I could tell that Eureka is very special
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  Speaker 1: by the way that you talk about her dance a
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  Speaker 1: little bit. Yeah, I hope she gets the chance to
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  Speaker 1: watch this interview and see that.
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  Speaker 2: I'll share it with her for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. So let's talk about finding joy in the small moments.
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  Speaker 1: How important do you believe that that is for life?
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  Speaker 1: Love and mindset?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I used to not pay attention to any of that.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I'm extremely competitive and goal oriented and so like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, go go, go, go, go go. And and
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  Speaker 2: I'm also extremely durable. I've just been through a lot
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  Speaker 2: of things in my life, and so you know, I
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  Speaker 2: really never thought about, you know, the small moments are
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  Speaker 2: taking care of myself or anything else. And I think,
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  Speaker 2: you know, uh, my wife is very much the opposite
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  Speaker 2: of that, right, and so she makes me slow down
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  Speaker 2: and she makes me, you know, breathe in and so
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  Speaker 2: over time it's really helped me become more mindful. And
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  Speaker 2: I'm so thankful that I I have this mindfulness. You know,
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  Speaker 2: we do yoga together, we you know, we do uh,
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  Speaker 2: you know, some other you know, breathing things together and
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  Speaker 2: whatever else. And it's a as I got as I
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  Speaker 2: as I moved more into this artistic or creative side
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  Speaker 2: of myself. You know, I think it it exposes you
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  Speaker 2: to a lot more emotional journeys that you go on
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  Speaker 2: and you end up you know, yeah, you you know,
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  Speaker 2: the way you ground yourself feels so different in this
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  Speaker 2: artistic expression. I'm performing for people, I'm connecting. It's an
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  Speaker 2: emotional thing I'm sharing and so very different than engineering
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  Speaker 2: and business, right, and so for me, I think having
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  Speaker 2: an awareness of the small moments, the small victories. You know,
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  Speaker 2: it's not you know, when I put a song out,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it's it's nice when you know thousands of
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  Speaker 2: people listen to it or comment on something, But it's
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  Speaker 2: it's the individual moments, the small moments where someone tells
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  Speaker 2: me a story about something happening. And I wrote a
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  Speaker 2: song about, you know, losing my brother and the journey
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  Speaker 2: you know, guild remorse and and and and the journey
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  Speaker 2: to find you know, peace in those moments, and some
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  Speaker 2: people share their stories with me when they hear the song,
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  Speaker 2: and and so, you know, whether it's digitally I'm hearing
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  Speaker 2: I'm interacting with people, or when I'm playing a show
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  Speaker 2: a show live, and there are small moments in the
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  Speaker 2: show a small smile from someone in the crowd or
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  Speaker 2: someone who's vibing with what you're doing, and so you
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  Speaker 2: you find people that you're connecting with. I think those
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  Speaker 2: small moments when I'm out on tour, I get a
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  Speaker 2: chance to go hiking or enjoy the community I'm in.
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  Speaker 2: Uh So, I think I've become much more appreciative of
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  Speaker 2: the small moments and the small moments of joy that
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  Speaker 2: really make you know, I guess, fill up the well
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  Speaker 2: inside me right of of of need for for love
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  Speaker 2: and and and companionship on the journey. And that's really
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  Speaker 2: been pretty cool. And I don't think I would ever
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  Speaker 2: would have gone there if I hadn't taken up music,
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  Speaker 2: you know as a profession.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. And I love to hear you talk about it
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  Speaker 1: because I try to always fine joy in the small things,
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  Speaker 1: like the small things matter most to me in life
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  Speaker 1: because I am an Earth Sign, so I'm all about
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  Speaker 1: being grounded and having that balance and and experienced. I
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  Speaker 1: could see a little ladybug on just walking along something
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, Wow, I wonder where she's going or
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  Speaker 1: he's going, you know, something like that.
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  Speaker 2: I love that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, when when the trees dance I say, when the
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  Speaker 1: wind is blowing, the trees are dancing. I just I
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  Speaker 1: love to hear that are just listening to the sound
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  Speaker 1: of rain. It's those small things that matter so much
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  Speaker 1: to me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's amazing. So all right, So just because they're
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  Speaker 2: now we're on the same wavelength.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 2: So I wrote a song called uh find by Love,
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  Speaker 2: and it's about all the little things that we do
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  Speaker 2: for each other that nurture relationships and strengthen them.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And then on top of that, and you mentioned the trees,
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  Speaker 2: I wrote a song called Dancing Tree. It's exactly that
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  Speaker 2: moment they're dancing and I just sort of become one
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  Speaker 2: with them in the song. It's pretty cool. Yeah, here
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  Speaker 2: we are vibing together already, Kiki.
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  Speaker 1: They gave me goosebumps, like, yeah, what, I love it.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. That is so amazing. So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: talk about you being a professional optimist. How why why
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  Speaker 1: why that particular phrase? I get it, But for someone
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  Speaker 1: who's listening, explain what that is and what it means
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  Speaker 1: to you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I guess it's just ever since I've
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  Speaker 2: been born, you know, I always am looking for, you know,
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  Speaker 2: the best in people. That I meet, Right, I want
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  Speaker 2: to know what's what's cool about you? Right already I
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  Speaker 2: can see right, you have such a beautiful smile, and
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  Speaker 2: you have this positive affect, right, and you just have
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  Speaker 2: a genuine joy in talking to people. And so I'm
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  Speaker 2: always looking for that. Right here's you know, Kiki is cool,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm looking for the best of Kiki or other
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  Speaker 2: people that I meet when I when I'm in a place,
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking for the natural beauty in the place. Even
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  Speaker 2: when I get, you know, knocked down in life in
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  Speaker 2: some way. You know, I don't stay down. I just
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking for Okay, here I am, Now where do
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  Speaker 2: I want to go? Let's find the best pathway through it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm always looking for that silver lining in a situation.
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  Speaker 2: And uh, you know, as a matter of fact, when
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  Speaker 2: I write, when I write, you know, have a songwriting
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  Speaker 2: association in town here that I'm a part of. And
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  Speaker 2: when when we're doing you know, sharing songs with each
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  Speaker 2: other in a circle or something like that. You know,
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  Speaker 2: most of my other peers are not positive like that songwriter.
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  Speaker 2: Send to be a little of a more emotional lot.
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  Speaker 2: And so I got a guy singing about addiction and
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  Speaker 2: the guys singing about you know, uh, you knows being
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  Speaker 2: kicked in you know.
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  Speaker 1: My life.
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  Speaker 2: So we go around the circle. You know, everybody's got
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  Speaker 2: some kind of negative thing going on. And we get
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  Speaker 2: to meet and I'm like, hey, guys, I love the world.
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  Speaker 2: Let's go. They're like, all right, dude. Sometimes they tell
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  Speaker 2: me thank you for lifting us up, and sometimes they're like, man,
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  Speaker 2: that's over the top. So I'd say, you know, and
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  Speaker 2: then the scientist in me, you know, thinks about this
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  Speaker 2: natural inclination. And one of the things that I talk
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  Speaker 2: about is sort of, you know, a marriage of my
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  Speaker 2: science mind and my poet mind and my positivity. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I have a signature. I think like a proton, right,
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  Speaker 2: and so if protons are positive and protons are stable, too, right,
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  Speaker 2: and so for me, I try to bring a positive
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  Speaker 2: perspective to people who come to a show. I try
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  Speaker 2: to make sure that people who are coming in, I
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  Speaker 2: meet them where they are, and I try to create
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  Speaker 2: an environment we're we're all a community and we're on
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  Speaker 2: this journey together, and I'm sharing, you know, a lot
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  Speaker 2: of the positive things, like you know, staying in the
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  Speaker 2: rhythm with the people around you, or binding your love
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  Speaker 2: the small things or you know, uh, you know, being
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  Speaker 2: mindful of the signal you're putting out and taking in.
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  Speaker 2: And so there's all these things that when you come
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  Speaker 2: to a show that we're on a journey together. I
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  Speaker 2: even do some collaborative things where I'll do some you know,
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  Speaker 2: we'll all get in a rhythm together as the audience. Right,
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  Speaker 2: So while I'm playing a thing, right and everybody starts clapping,
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  Speaker 2: and I got people doing the thing, and then I'll
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  Speaker 2: recite like half poetry half poem, or half poetry half
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  Speaker 2: song to the rhythm that we've all created together right now,
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  Speaker 2: I'll get people to join in. And so things like that,
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  Speaker 2: you know, to me help create a sense of community
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  Speaker 2: and a little bit of a some joy, right for
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: all of us being there together. And you leave the
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: room maybe a little with a few extra protons that
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: you didn't have coming in.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. I love it because when I used
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  Speaker 1: to do writing workshops, I would always start off a
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: story and have everybody in attendance add to it, and
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: by the end of it, everybody has written the hilp
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: me write a story, And I said, who knows, it
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: might be in a book, You never know. But it
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: just it just lightens up everything, because people can be
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: a little bit uptight when they're in a new environment
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: around new people and stuff like that. So I love
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: that you find a rhythm in the people that's in
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: that space to create an experience. That's what you're doing.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: You're creating a magical experience for them so that they
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: can take it and share it with someone else that
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: may have not been an attendant. I think we need
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: more people like this in the world. Mark and thank
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: you for leaving your mark on so many people's lives,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: Like in a positive way. We need more people to
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: shed that positive light and be enthusiastic and optimistic because
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: life be lifing and it's hard. We all are going
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: through different things.
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  Speaker 3: So are you gonna be negative about it and attract
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: all that negativity or are you going to do something positive
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: about it and put out something that other people may
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: need in a positive way.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I wish more people thought like the last part
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  Speaker 2: of that, right, let's just think about you know where
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: you are right now? You know, I mean we're all human,
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: you know, we all get down in the dump sometimes.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: But if a friend of yours is encouraging you in
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: some way, while you're down in the dumps. That's always helpful, right.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Right, Absolutely, we're going to go into our reality check
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: segment because growth sounds good, but we know that it's uncomfortable.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: And I really don't think that it's supposed to be
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: comfortable because it doesn't push you. If if it's comfort,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: you know, there's no growth in the comfort zone. So
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: what's uncomfortable? Truth? People need to understand and know about mindset?
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: Wow, I learned this from my wife. Okay, Like we're
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: not perfect, and it's great for us to share our
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: imperfections and failure with our friends and family because not
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: only does it help you in sharing that, it also
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: helps them. They may be going through something very similar
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: and then may be too embarrassed or too uptight to
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: talk about it and think about it, and so they
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: don't end up finding resolution right or or their own
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: way through the situation. And so I just see my wife,
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: you know, she lives and breathes that. She's you might
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: call her brutally honest. She's going to tell you how
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: it is right, but it's all honesty. It's not with malice.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: And you know, so for me, you know, life is hard.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I have a tendency to want to be perfect and
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: to want to present a perfect front. Uh and and
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: that doesn't help anybody, right, authenticity does. And I know
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: our kids and our friends and family have all learned
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: a ton from just my wife's you know, honesty, And
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: so I would say, yeah, you know, we're not perfect,
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: so get over it, right, get out of your own
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: way and talk to people about your imperfections and and
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: and be at peace with it.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: It's that's just a part of who you.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: Are exactly, and that makes you who you are, which
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: is an amazing thing. Like we were not created saying
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: for a reason. Mm hmmm, how born life would be
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: if everybody did the same thing and health the same
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: way and walk the same way. Yeah, I'm glad that
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: I am who I am, right, Okay, what belief or
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: habit keeps people stuck the longest? In your opinion?
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: Ooh, I think people people think about progress backwards and
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: they think about Okay, I I don't know, like I
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: don't somebody's like I don't like my job, right, and
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: so I don't like my boss or I don't like
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: what I do right. I can't imagine doing this for
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: another twenty years. You know you here's people have friends
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: talk like that. I say, Okay, well, it doesn't make
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: any sense to me, since I've got such a goal
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: oriented mind. It's like, okay, well, if you don't like
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: your job and you don't the profession or the people
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: that you're working with, it doesn't take a lot of
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: effort to go and pick a new career or find
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: a new job that does have what you want. And
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: so someone will be like my friend will be miserable
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: for two or three years, and they tell you the
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: same thing every time, and it's like, dude, just get
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: a little extra energy one day and do the new
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: thing right and think about the three years of happiness
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: that you just gave up because you didn't realize that
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: you're keeping yourself stiff, right, And so in my mind,
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: you know, I think people's habits sometimes momentum sometimes just
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: just keeps people people in a situation. And if you
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: just find a little bit of courage to get out
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: of that momentum cycle and do and and look for
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: something that's going to make you happier, a better environment
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: for yourself, just a little it's a little bit of
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: extra energy you can take you in a new direction,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: and you know, to this to a much more joyful light.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: So I don't know. I think people think about that
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: in an odd way. I've been told lots of times
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: like I have you know friends who struggle with their weight.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: It's like, okay, well, you know it's a simple formula.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: You know, eat healthy, exercise. Right. If you do these
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: things unless you have some kind of a genetic issue,
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: you're gonna be healthier and you're not going to carry
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: as much weight, and you're going to be happier. But
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: to me, that's the way my brain works. Hey, if
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: you want a thing, go get it right, I mean,
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: but I guess that's not common. So I find to
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: find ways to As a matter of fact, my daughter's
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: taught me the most. Right, We'll go for a walk
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: and she's telling me what's going on in her life,
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: and she's like, you know this and that and the other.
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: And in the beginning I would try to like I
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: would try to tell her how to fix the thing,
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: like we'll talk to your friend this way, and how
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: to talk to your friend that way, and have you
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: thought about it this way or that way or the
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: other way?
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: And at one point she told me, look, Dad, I
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: don't need Bob the Builder telling you how to fix
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: my life. I'm just sharing. I'm denting and I was like, okay,
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: So I said, well, you know what, that's not on
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: my mind works. So I'm going to ask you when
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: you're sharing a story, or you can tell me the beginning.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: I'm denting, dad, and then I'm going to vent that way.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: I know I'm not going to fix it. I'm just
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: there to be your companion and help you vent. So anyways,
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: I don't know a lot. That was a very cidicuous
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: way to get there of it. There you go, That's
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: that's what I think.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: And I agree with you. I agree with you because
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: I we all have a choice. If you don't like
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: the way something is going, you have to at least
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: try to turn it in a different direction that's best
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: for you. I learned a long time ago, because I'm
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: a life coach, that some people just like attention. They
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: don't want a resolution, they just like the attention of
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: it all because I had to drop a client who
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: always wanted to talk about the same thing over and over,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: never did any of the homework that I gave. So
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: that lets me know that you likes being where you are.
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: This is not a good fit because I don't double
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: in excuses. At least show that you're making progress, are
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: willing to do something to change your environment or situation.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: You're wasting my time and your time if you're not
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: doing the work.
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  Speaker 2: I love that. I don't do excuses. I love that well.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: I love that perspective. Get it done, giky, get it done.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, cool. Find a question in the reality chick,
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: what do people romanticize about healing our success that isn't real?
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it kind of thinks making me think about your
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: your journey question and the small things Like I hear
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: people say, yeah, you know when I get this promotion,
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: or you know, when I get this tax refund, or
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: when I if I could only have a few extra
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: dollars for this or that or the other, then I'd
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: be happy, right, And I'm like, oh, that's so wrong, right,
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: you need to you need to go see Kieky right here,
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: it is right. Find those joys in these small moments,
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: right enjoy Like, Okay, so I have this, I have
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: this uh conversation with myself sometimes, like there are certain
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: I just don't like about being an independent artist. I
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: have to do social media. I didn't do any social
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: media before I became an artist. And you can't. You
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: can't just play at it and you can't be bad
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: at it, just like you can't be bad at your music. Right,
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: But I don't like it. You have to do it.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: You have to do it in a way. There's a
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: certain intent that has to be behind it. There's a
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: branding element. So if you're not a good student of it,
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: you're going to harm your project. And so I had
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: to get over myself and get over my objection and like, like,
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: you should just do it. I don't do excuses, right,
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: I want to do it. Get good at it, Get
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: good at it, so you spend less time at it, right,
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: but get good at it and be a student and
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: stay a constant student. And so in my mind, I
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: think there's no one that I know of that's happy,
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: that doesn't take joy in the small moments and then
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: the beauty around them. They could be, you know, super
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: successful financially, or they could be just getting by. But
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: the people who are happy, they wear it. You can
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: when you talk to them, they wear it and you're like, oh, yeah,
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: you're a happy person, right, That person the joy is
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: not coming from their money right, or their spouse or whatever.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: The joy is coming from them and their ability to
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: enjoy those small moments. So I think, to me, success,
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: you know, to me, is is someone who's that sort
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: of wearing that mantle of happiness and compassion to other
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: people around them, and they're just sort of a balanced person.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: And I think that to me, it's not you know,
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: you're not going to get it thinking oh I need
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: you know, if I want the lottery, i'd be happy
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: or whatever. You're not going to get it there, right,
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: Your success you're going to find you in your everyday life.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, I agree, because I think happiness comes from in
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: like with the self love, self care, self compassion, shelf discovery,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: all the things self. You have to take accountability of
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: your own happiness because putting that on somebody else is unfair.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: If you can't be happy with yourself, how can you
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: expect somebody else to make you happy?
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: And it lasts yeah, one hundred percent with you. Yeah,
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: I think that's a good way to think about it. Yeah,
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: lots of life lessons in there.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, absolutely, So. Where can we listen to the music,
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: how can we support where do you hang out on
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: social media, website, go ahead and plug.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: All things Mark Oh you know it. You can find
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: me Kiki. You can find me at Mark Winter's Music everywhere,
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: so you can find me on your swimming platforms there.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: You can find me on social media or even on
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: the web if you look up Mark Winter's Music. And
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm on the Good Vibes Highway Tour. I
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: just finished the spring leg of it on the tour.
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: I leave for tour in late August and I'll be
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: going east and north, and I've got sixty eight shows
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: on the list for the fall tour, so I'd love
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: to see folks out there. They'll they'll, they'll be sure
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: to catch a few extra protons out at a live
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: show with me. And yeah, just just released a new
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: song called Can I Rise, and love for people to
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: take a look at that and listen to that, and yeah,
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: I'd love to have them along for the journey here.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: If you're really feeling the need for positive energy the
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: Good Vibes Highway, I'm sorry. The Positive Vibe Tribe is
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: my email list, so you can sign up for that
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: and and catch catch a few extra notes from the
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: Road Tribe.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: And all of this information will be listed in the
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: show notes, so you can connect with Mark and see
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: where he's going. If he's in a city near year,
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: go check him out and get, you know, get some
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: of those positive vibes put on you in and become
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: like a poton love it. Okay, so we're gonna go
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: into our mic drop moment. Find no segment of the podcast.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: I'll ask the question and you just answer the first
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: thing that comes to mind, but lead with the thought
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: of a mic drop moment for the listeners. Okay, all right,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: what is one sentence about life you want people to remember?
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Find something kind to do today for a person that
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: you like.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: NYE, what is one truth about love everyone should.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Understand Love takes a purposeful motion to be sustainable.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Cool. What mindset belief can change someone's life?
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: Look for the positives that are happening around you every day.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: And the final question, when life challenges you and love
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: stretches you, what mindset keeps you grounded?
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: Be aware of what you need and your capacity to
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: give every day?
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: And the microdroft Thank you one that amazing. Thank you
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: guys for tuning in to another episode of Kicking It
• 34:54
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• 35:13
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• 35:17
  Speaker 1: and keep being your best, most authentic self. Become like
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: a proton, be steady, you know, be grounded, and just
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: remember that your vibe will attract your tribe. Take it
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: one day at a time and you will get to
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: where you need to be. We don't do excuses, so
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: stop making them. All right, until next time, Purple Huts
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