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Season 3 - Episode 98 - Our beliefs about time and where does it go? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. Today I would like to talk to
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  you about taking inventory of your time and figuring out what
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  the heck distracts you. Because this is probably one of
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  the toughest things that most people, most families, most
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  clients, everybody that I talk to talks about time in some
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  manner at some point in time. No pun intended there.
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  This is a a sensitive subject for everybody because time is
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  something that we all have. We're all given it and it and it
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  ends. And some of us have a lot less
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  time than others and some of us have a lot more time than
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  others. And it it is a daily occurrence
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  where we feel like we don't have enough time.
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  So where do you begin when you're trying to figure this
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  part of yourself out? Like, you know, it's just we run
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  around telling to ourselves, I don't, I don't have enough time.
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  How do you expect me to have the time to do that?
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  Where am I going to find that time?
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  We all have these reactions to time that are intense, that it's
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  not just a little, it's intense. And I know, myself included, I
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  used to be that way. And I had to really pull back
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  the reins on myself and say, OK, what's the very first thing that
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  I need to know in order to fix this?
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  Well, that's taken inventory of your time.
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  Where is your time going? Where are you spending your
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  time? What are you doing that doesn't
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  add value to your life and has become something that you use as
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  a tool to desensitize yourself. Where are you wasting time where
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  you could leverage out to someone else?
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  Where are you putting your time? That's most useful.
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  Now don't just do it for the things that are on the negative
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  side of stuff. Look at the positive sides too.
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  Where are you spending your time that is actually healthy?
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  What are the things that are are healing your soul every day?
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  What are the things that make you feel good doing them and
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  really take a full blown inventory of it?
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  Now, sometimes this exercise is really hard because we'll say,
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  well, those are things I have to do.
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  I have to do them. And those take adjustments to
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  your stories. Like, you know, it's sometimes I
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  tend to look at things and I'll go, well, I have to do that and
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  then I'll stop and I'll pause and I'll go, no, I don't have to
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  do that. I get to do that.
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  Like I actually like doing laundry.
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  I know this sounds insane, but I like cleaning.
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  I like daily chores, but I've conditioned myself to not be
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  annoyed by having daily chores. Partly because I like to do them
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  and partly because I feel like that's my contribution back to
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  my family, so they don't bother me.
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  But some people absolutely don't like them.
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  Some people should try to leverage them out.
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  Some people should let their kids do more things.
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  Because we have this insane belief that we have to do
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  everything for our kids and we don't.
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  And we should be giving them chores to do.
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  And we should be letting them learn how to care for
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  themselves. And we should be letting them
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  fold their clothes and put them away, even though it's not
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  right. Which we will take up in other
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  podcasts. But right now this is all about
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  just taking the inventory of the time because it you can't fix
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  what you don't understand to a certain extent.
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  Sometimes we don't have to understand at all to fix it
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  because we can draw the line. But in this case with time we
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  can really see where we are spending it when we have the
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  inventory list. OK.
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  So the exercise that I want you guys to go through as to really
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  sit and write out where am I spending chunks of my time.
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  Now you'll be able to do this immediately just based on the
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  fact that you have a an understanding of your daytime or
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  your day, right, Your schedule for the day, you'll be able to
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  look at it. But I'm talking about all the
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  little time thieves that are out there, like getting lost on
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  social media and someone will say, well, that's just my guilty
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  little pleasure. I love doing that.
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  And that's totally fine. If you love doing it and it's
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  not bringing you pain and it's not taking you away from other
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  things that you could be doing or should be doing or want to be
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  doing, then it's not a big deal. But for most of us, it's more of
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  a sickness when we go down that road and we go too much.
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  So you allow yourself some time but not tons of time.
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  You know, one of the great things that my grandparents were
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  great at was always being on point with allowing yourself a
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  certain amount of time to do it. I remember my grandmother
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  sitting there and watching her stories, her soap operas, and
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  she would say, well, no, I only do this in the afternoon and
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  it's only for an hour. And then I I go and do other
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  things. But I would see her also
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  knitting, I would see her doing baking, I would see her doing
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  other things that she enjoyed as well.
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  So she always gave herself that schedule of time to throw other
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  things in. And I think now most of us don't
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  do that. We'll say, well, I don't have
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  time for that. And that's just sad because we
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  can make time for whatever we want.
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  We just have to schedule ourselves and take back the
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  time. That does not add value.
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  And when I say schedule ourselves, I don't mean overbook
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  yourself. I mean look at your schedule and
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  say, OK, where is all this time going?
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  Where is it being spent? Where am I putting energy that
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  it doesn't need to go? So today I would love you to do
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  your exercise within time inventory.
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  And maybe it's not just one day. Maybe you need to do this for a
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  period of two or three days because days aren't always the
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  same. Like a day off is not the same
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  as a day working. And a day working might not be
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  the same as if one day you're in the office and one day you're in
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  your Home Office. So you might have to spend some
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  time actually pouring into this and saying, hey, I've got to do
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  this on a couple different levels so that I can see where
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  it's all going and then I can decide what's working, what's
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  not working and where I can shift.
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  So hopefully you get this exercise done and you can start
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  to see where do I want to put my time instead of just having it
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  kind of be random. All right guys, have a great day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.