Can We Really Give Altruistically?

Nitzotzos: Inspiration to Keep Your Spark Alive with Rav Mordechai Burg · Sep 13, 2019 · 4m

Question:

1. Rebbe, is there really such a thing of loving someone or doing something for someone else just because you want to give to them in the purest sense? I know that Ahava comes from the word Hav, which is give, but I think that according to psychology the only reason why we would give is because we get something back in return.

2. Isn’t it the same in a marriage. It’s not just giving because if you would only give and your spouse does not give back then you would not want to stay with them. So then wouldn’t it be a codependent relationship in terms of giving and taking, and therefore…