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Luis Montoya: Nobody Is Coming to Save You · Becoming

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Speaker 1: How did you become this man that you wanted to be.
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Speaker 2: I took a knife and I was having a conversation
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Speaker 2: with myself, looking at myself in the mirror. There's tears
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Speaker 2: coming down my eyes. I took the knife, put it
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Speaker 2: on my wrists and as soon as that knife hit
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Speaker 2: my wrist, the only thing that I can do is
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Speaker 2: just get on my knees and start talking to God.
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Speaker 2: Or the first time in my life I actually had
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Speaker 2: a conversation with God. If there really is a God
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Speaker 2: out there, I don't know why this is happening. And
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Speaker 2: if you want me to go through this, help me.
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Speaker 2: When we do fall, we want people to be there
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Speaker 2: to hold us up right, But if your family is
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Speaker 2: not going to be there, then who.
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Speaker 1: Are you going on to? Well, hello, everybody, thanks for coming.
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Speaker 1: This is the Fatherhood Movement podcast you guys today. My
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Speaker 1: name is Bubba Paige. I've got Louise Montoya and I
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Speaker 1: want to make sure to introduce this right. Look, and
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Speaker 1: he and I connected online not that long ago, but
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Speaker 1: it was immediately attracted to some of the content he
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Speaker 1: was preaching about Jesus, about his family values, about his
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Speaker 1: boldness and being able to go preach truth out there
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Speaker 1: and helping men come in and be the masculine that
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Speaker 1: they need to be. So make sure you go and
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Speaker 1: find him on Louis Montoya Fit on Instagram and Louis
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Speaker 1: Montoya fit dot com to be able to understand, and
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Speaker 1: he even mentioned to be able to help you guys
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Speaker 1: out if you guys wanted to participate in any of
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Speaker 1: his programs or whatever, just say the name Bubba and
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Speaker 1: he'll help you out in that process. So look, you guys.
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Speaker 2: You guys know me.
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Speaker 1: I love Jesus, I love my kids, I love fatherhood,
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Speaker 1: and I think today is one of those days that
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Speaker 1: I want to be able to dive in and hear
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Speaker 1: even more from his transformational least. We got to hear
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Speaker 1: you had a true transformation in your life. I got
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Speaker 1: to hear I've I've been able to hear part of it.
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Speaker 1: I want you to share with others how did that
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Speaker 1: come about? How did you get there, and how did
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Speaker 1: you become this man that you wanted.
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Speaker 2: To be as absolutely, thank you so much for having me.
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Speaker 2: First of all, it's a pleasure to be able to
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Speaker 2: share this space with you and your audience. It's true honor,
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Speaker 2: and more important, it's an honor to be able to
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Speaker 2: you know, speak life to people, speak truth and speak
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Speaker 2: you know, the name Jesus Christ, and to people who
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Speaker 2: who need it right now because we all know the
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Speaker 2: world it's it's a spiritual warfare out there right now,
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Speaker 2: you know. And men need to put the armor of
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Speaker 2: God more than ever right now. So my transformation, it's
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Speaker 2: a huge transformation. It wasn't just the physical transformation. I
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Speaker 2: transform physically, mentally and spiritually. And I do believe that
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Speaker 2: if you truly want a sustainable transformation, it has to
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Speaker 2: be those three areas in your life. Right. A lot
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Speaker 2: of the people when they come to me, they come
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Speaker 2: for a physical transformation, right because of the fitness aspect,
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Speaker 2: my fitness background. But this is more than just the
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Speaker 2: physical rate. It's a mental state. You got to be
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Speaker 2: able to renew the mind, just like scripture says, right
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Speaker 2: and transforming your identity. Be crystal clear with who it
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Speaker 2: is that you want in life. And if you're not
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Speaker 2: building on the foundation, the foundation is Jesus Christ for me, right.
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Speaker 2: And I'm not here to preach religion on anybody. I
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Speaker 2: speak what works for me, what I believe in, and
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Speaker 2: what my family stands for. Which is traditional values and
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Speaker 2: obviously Christian values. Right, So my transformation, you know, just
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Speaker 2: from the very beginning. I came here as an immigrant.
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Speaker 2: I was born in Mexico. I came here as an
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Speaker 2: immigrant roughly around the age of two. So I was
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Speaker 2: raised in California, San Diego. You know, I come from
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Speaker 2: a neighborhood where, unfortunately, we didn't have any good role models.
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Speaker 2: There was a lot of gang members, a lot of
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Speaker 2: you know, poverty, prostitution back in the late eighties, that's
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Speaker 2: what it was, you know. So I started smoking marijuana
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Speaker 2: at the age of eight, got my first tattoo when
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Speaker 2: I was roughly nine years old, had my first beer
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Speaker 2: around that time. That was the environment that I had,
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Speaker 2: just because I didn't have any good mentors. My father,
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Speaker 2: my parents were hard working there. I don't come from
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Speaker 2: a dysfunctional family. I do come from a little bit
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Speaker 2: of a childhood trauma, just because my dad was, you know,
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Speaker 2: just in his masculine, but it was in a divine masculine.
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Speaker 2: My dad, you know, he was he knew of God,
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Speaker 2: but he didn't have a good relationship with Jesus. He
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Speaker 2: didn't know who Jesus really was, so he didn't have
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Speaker 2: an actual blueprint to be able to lead his family,
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Speaker 2: you know, And I'm very compassionate towards that, just because
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Speaker 2: I mean, how do you know what you don't know?
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Speaker 2: You get what I'm saying. So all he knew was work,
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Speaker 2: provide for your family, and lead as you can, right,
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Speaker 2: based off of the obviously teachings that he got from
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Speaker 2: his father, so hard working family. Parents were always working
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Speaker 2: two to three jobs, mid class, low mid class. You know,
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Speaker 2: it just got into a out of trouble after that,
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Speaker 2: you know, I started rebelling. I ended up getting kicked
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Speaker 2: out of my house when I was like fifteen years old,
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Speaker 2: so kind of just found my way around, kind of
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Speaker 2: in and out a different home and out of my
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Speaker 2: own parents' house. Ended up falling in love with my
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Speaker 2: high school sweetheart. Fast forward, she ended up getting pregnant
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Speaker 2: and I that's when the you know, the beginning of
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Speaker 2: the transformation happened. I didn't have my life in chech,
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Speaker 2: you know, I just I didn't have my priorities straight.
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Speaker 2: I ended up I was like, Okay, I don't think
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Speaker 2: I'm ready to be a dad, right. I wanted to
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Speaker 2: step up to obviously versability, but I wasn't in a
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Speaker 2: place where I can provide for a family. So at
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Speaker 2: that time, I was selling drugs. I was actually stealing
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Speaker 2: my my mother in law's oxy cotton and I would
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Speaker 2: sell it to kids at school in high school, and
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Speaker 2: you know, just try and find ways to you know,
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Speaker 2: level up. I had a clothing line around that time,
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Speaker 2: and I was just looking I've always had an entrepreneur mindset,
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Speaker 2: so I was always trying to find ways to replicate money,
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Speaker 2: how to turn you know, fifty cents into a dollar
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Speaker 2: and try to get by. You know. Unfortunately, we ended
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Speaker 2: up losing the child. After that, my whole life change
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Speaker 2: in a lot of different ways, for the worst, but
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Speaker 2: also for the best. I ended up losing the relationship,
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Speaker 2: you know, because who prepares you to lose a child?
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Speaker 2: You know, nobody talks to you on how to be
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Speaker 2: able to manage situations like that. So I thought to myself,
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Speaker 2: if I don't speak about it, maybe we'll just get
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Speaker 2: over it somehow. So unfortunately, around that time, I just
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Speaker 2: didn't have a blueprint on how to leave my own relationship.
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Speaker 2: You know, there's a lot of resent that was being built,
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Speaker 2: and you know, just don't I don't blame her, you know,
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Speaker 2: just I didn't show up for her when she needed me,
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Speaker 2: and I take full accountability for that. Unfortunately, I ended
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Speaker 2: up losing that relationship into a very toxic relationship. In fact,
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Speaker 2: I think God actually liberated both of us from that
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Speaker 2: relationship because it is starting to get really really bad
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Speaker 2: after that, you know, just when it rains, it pours.
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Speaker 2: I ended up having to declare bankruptcy. I you know,
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Speaker 2: so I lost the FS. I lost everything, man, I
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Speaker 2: you know, I lost my job, lost my finances, lost
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Speaker 2: my girl, lost my my kid. Family, you know, ended
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Speaker 2: up turning against me in the sense of, like I
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Speaker 2: you know, when I lost it all, I reached out
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Speaker 2: to my family for shelter and they were like, I'm sorry,
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Speaker 2: you know, we got a full house. You can't stay here,
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Speaker 2: so you're going to have to figure it out. And
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Speaker 2: that was the very beginning to a very valuable teaching
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Speaker 2: where I've realized that, you know, unfortunately it's going to
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Speaker 2: come to save you. Nobody's going to save you, like
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Speaker 2: not your girlfriend, not your wife, not your your brother,
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Speaker 2: your mother, your sister, Like nobody is going to come
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Speaker 2: to save you. Like you need to wake up and
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Speaker 2: take responsibility for your own actions. And you know, at
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Speaker 2: that point I realized that, you know, I can't hold
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Speaker 2: that against them. It's not their problems, it's my problems.
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Speaker 2: I created a lot of the problems in my life,
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Speaker 2: right But community is everything that's so worn for men,
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Speaker 2: you know, to have that. At that time, you know,
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Speaker 2: I did have a couple people in my corner who
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Speaker 2: gave me shelter for a couple of days. But after that,
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Speaker 2: you know, obviously that kind of gets old. So I
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Speaker 2: went homeless. I was homeless for a couple of months,
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Speaker 2: in fact, and I was sleeping at a park. It
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Speaker 2: wasn't like I planned to sleep there and to be homeless.
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Speaker 2: One day, I just I was in a you know,
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Speaker 2: I found this bench and I was hanging out there,
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Speaker 2: and you know, one day turning to two days, two
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Speaker 2: days into two weeks, two weeks into two months, and
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Speaker 2: before you know it, you're homeless, you know. And I
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Speaker 2: was in a really rough patch after that. One of
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Speaker 2: my high school friends found my mom and they're like, hey, like,
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Speaker 2: you should probably reach out to your son, like he's
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Speaker 2: in really bad shape. And at that time, I just
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Speaker 2: started I was contemplating, you know, taking my own life.
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Speaker 2: I lost it all. I didn't have any desire to live,
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Speaker 2: and you know, I just I started falling into depression,
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Speaker 2: you know, And I do believe depression. For me, My
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Speaker 2: my view depression is it's a I don't believe depression
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Speaker 2: is real. I do believe it's a spiritual battle. I
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Speaker 2: do believe it's a spirit of confusion. I think, you know,
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Speaker 2: when we lower our frequency, lower our energy, and we're
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Speaker 2: vibrating out of low frequency, it opens doors for the
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Speaker 2: enemy to come in and deceive you and to you know,
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Speaker 2: lie to you.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 2: If he can't control you and destroy you, what is
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Speaker 2: he going to do. He's going to distract you and
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Speaker 2: he's going to lie to you right, telling you you're
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Speaker 2: not enough, you're not worthy. And you know, everybody who
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Speaker 2: claimed to love you, where are they? Where's your God?
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Speaker 2: You give what I'm saying. So at this time I
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Speaker 2: didn't have a good relationship with you. My parents found me.
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Speaker 2: They took me back to their house, and I had
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Speaker 2: already made up my mind that I was going to go,
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Speaker 2: so I just didn't know how. I ended up going
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Speaker 2: into their bathroom and I took a knife, and I
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Speaker 2: was having a conversation with myself. Looking at myself in
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Speaker 2: the mirror, there's tears coming down my eyes. And I
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Speaker 2: took the knife put it on my wrist, and as
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Speaker 2: soon as that knife hit my wrist, the only thing
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Speaker 2: that I can do is just get on my knees
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Speaker 2: and start talking to God. I wasn't thinking about praying
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Speaker 2: or anything. I just, for the first time in my life,
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Speaker 2: I actually had a conversation with God. And I got
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Speaker 2: on my knees and I was like, God, if there
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Speaker 2: really is a God out there, I don't know why
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Speaker 2: this is happening, And if you want me to go
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Speaker 2: through this, help me, because I can't do this alone.
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Speaker 2: And at that very moment, Brother, that was the very
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Speaker 2: first encounter that I had with the Holy Spirit. The
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Speaker 2: Holy Spirit literally picked me up and I got like
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Speaker 2: a flash forward of my mom walking into that bathroom,
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Speaker 2: and I saw the pain in her eyes, and I
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Speaker 2: realized how selfish ill is being that I was willing
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Speaker 2: to add more generational trauma, more generational curses onto my
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Speaker 2: bloodline by taking my own life. It's not their fault
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Speaker 2: that I made those choices in my life, and it's
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Speaker 2: not their fault that I was going through that. You know. Unfortunately,
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Speaker 2: when we do fall, we want people to be there
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Speaker 2: to hold us up, right, But if your family is
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Speaker 2: not going to be there, then the whore you get
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Speaker 2: want to this is where we need to run to
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Speaker 2: the source, which is God. You give what I'm saying,
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Speaker 2: And sometimes I do believe that God allows us to
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Speaker 2: go to trials to break us. So then that way
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Speaker 2: we can surrender to him, right because he gives us
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Speaker 2: free will and He's not going to intervene unless we
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Speaker 2: allow him. And that was the very first moment that
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Speaker 2: I want to make clear that the transformation happened when
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Speaker 2: I submitted to the Lord Jesus Christ and I gave
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Speaker 2: him authority to work. And I said, if you want
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Speaker 2: me to go through this, help me because I can't
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Speaker 2: do this alone. And that was the beginning of the transformation.
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Speaker 2: I went back to the park, and you know, I
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Speaker 2: took a cell phone from my mom's house and I was,
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Speaker 2: you know, just browsing through YouTube and people were talking
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Speaker 2: about this law of attraction, manifestation and all this stuff,
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Speaker 2: and I was like, sounds like a bunch of wooloo,
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Speaker 2: But okay, why all these people that are successful they
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Speaker 2: keep talking about this, right, and I started kind of
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Speaker 2: making I started studying it, and I'll think to myself, okay, great,
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Speaker 2: so if I think about it, I write it down.
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Speaker 2: I put it out to the universe, the universe. For me,
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Speaker 2: it's God. God is going to align me with the
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Speaker 2: right people to be able to you know, build it.
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Speaker 2: Then I started making references to the Bible, and I like,
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Speaker 2: now I understand that was Matthew six thirty three. You
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Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, But seek the Kingdom of God first,
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Speaker 2: and it's righteousness and everything that your heart desires will
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Speaker 2: be added to you. Right. So I was like, okay, perfect,
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Speaker 2: So let me create this, this image, this version of
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Speaker 2: who I want to become. I was one hundred pounds overweight, right,
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Speaker 2: I was obese, I was homeless. Right, I was broke.
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Speaker 2: I had zero dollars in my bank account and I
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Speaker 2: lost my family.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 2: So I thought to myself, Okay, let me create the
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Speaker 2: best version of myself. So I started creating like this
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Speaker 2: blueprint of like this ultimate gentleman that I wanted to
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Speaker 2: become in life.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 2: So I started dreaming big and I started I wrote down, Okay,
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Speaker 2: I needed I was one hundred pounds overweight. I need
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Speaker 2: to lose weight. I want a six pack. But then
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Speaker 2: I heard the Holy Spirit say no, no, no, no,
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Speaker 2: think bigger. And what I did is I wrote down,
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Speaker 2: this is where sky's the limit. I wrote down that
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Speaker 2: I wanted to be one of those guys on the
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Speaker 2: magazine cover, right, like one of the Mense Health magazine
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Speaker 2: fitness models. So I wrote that down. I want to
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Speaker 2: be a magazine cover model. So I wrote that down.
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Speaker 2: I was broke. I mean I hadn't showered for like
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Speaker 2: two months. I said, this is where. This is where
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Speaker 2: I want you guys to understand that I don't know
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Speaker 2: about you guys and the God that you serve, but
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Speaker 2: I serve the King of Kings, and I know my
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Speaker 2: God wants me to be abundant. I wrote down, I
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Speaker 2: want to be successful. I want to live in a mansion.
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Speaker 2: I want a beautiful wife. I want a celebrity type
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Speaker 2: of lifestyle. But I want to be able to inspire
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Speaker 2: other men to be good men. I want to promote family.
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Speaker 2: I want the family that I fell at that moment
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Speaker 2: that I didn't have right And I put all that
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Speaker 2: stuff down on a piece of paper, and I didn't
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Speaker 2: know how I was going to become it. But I
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Speaker 2: understood who I needed to become at that very moment
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Speaker 2: to be able to take steps, practical steps to be
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Speaker 2: able to build this life. And as life started getting better,
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Speaker 2: you know, I started sharing that vision with people, and
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Speaker 2: people laughed at me. They were like, what do you
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Speaker 2: mean you're going to be in a magazine cover? Brother,
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Speaker 2: You're fat? And I was like, it doesn't matter, Like
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Speaker 2: I'm going to do it. I put my own mom. Unfortunately,
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Speaker 2: my own mom told me, like a son, like what
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Speaker 2: are you trying to do? I see you working out?
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Speaker 2: And I was like, well, I'm going to be like
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Speaker 2: one of these guys on you know, on stage competing
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Speaker 2: in bodybuilding. And you know, unfortunately my mom, my mom,
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Speaker 2: you know, she's very humble. We come from like the country.
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Speaker 2: And she was like, son, like, you're throwing rocks at
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Speaker 2: the moon. You're never going to hit it. And that
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Speaker 2: broke my heart, brother, but it also lit a fire
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Speaker 2: inside of me. Right and at this very moment, the
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Speaker 2: Holy Spirit was telling me, you can't blame them. I
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Speaker 2: didn't show them the vision that I'm showing you. I
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Speaker 2: gave you the vision. How can they understand the blueprint
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Speaker 2: that I'm giving you. If they don't, they haven't seen it.
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Speaker 2: And if they haven't seen it, then you need to
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Speaker 2: become it so that way they can understand it. And
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Speaker 2: at that very moment, there was something that shifted, and
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Speaker 2: this is where the transformation really relies on. There is
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Speaker 2: a shift of identity. At that very moment, I stopped
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Speaker 2: being the fat version of Louise and I became successful Louise.
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Speaker 2: I identified with a millionaires. I identified with the man
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Speaker 2: of God. I identified with a good man who's a
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Speaker 2: kind man, right, a man who's resilient, a man who
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Speaker 2: was bold, a man who was willing to do whatever
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Speaker 2: it takes to get to that vision. It was almost
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Speaker 2: like that warrior mindset right and fast forward to now.
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Speaker 2: You know, God literally gave me everything that I prayed for.
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Speaker 2: In fact, you know, I tell my wife, who's here
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Speaker 2: with me, every day that I wake up, it feels
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Speaker 2: like a dream. I feel like I'm like in a dream.
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Speaker 2: And if this is a dream, like this is a
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Speaker 2: dream that I don't want to wake up from. I've
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Speaker 2: been on five international magazine covers, so I've been on
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Speaker 2: the cover of five magazine Society. I built a seven
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Speaker 2: figure fitness coaching business. It's got a beautiful wife, right,
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Speaker 2: beautif wife who's literally my my all. She's a believer
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Speaker 2: in Christ. She's, you know, the second half to the
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Speaker 2: foundation of my you know, my purpose, my legacy. She's
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Speaker 2: my first ministry I've got. I've got three children, I've
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Speaker 2: got a newborn who's a month old. And I live
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Speaker 2: a life where I'm able to literally wake up every
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Speaker 2: single day and inspire other men to be better. And
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Speaker 2: that's what I want for everybody. And my whole life
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Speaker 2: just revolves around talking about God and how God saved me,
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Speaker 2: you know, and it's really interesting. Everybody asks me like wease,
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Speaker 2: like how did he get here? There's a quick little story.
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Speaker 2: There's a there's someone who's All these homes around me,
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Speaker 2: they're all like custom homes.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 2: There are some some guys that were working on the
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Speaker 2: house next to me. I was fixing my fence. They
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Speaker 2: came up to me and something, you know, there's something inside.
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Speaker 2: The gentleman who there's a need to talk to me
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Speaker 2: came over and we started talking and he was like, wow,
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Speaker 2: like what do you do for a living? And I
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Speaker 2: was like, well, I do coaching. He's like, what type
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Speaker 2: of coaching? Life coaching? Life coaching and life coaching gave
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Speaker 2: you all that, the cars, the house and everything. And
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Speaker 2: I was like, no, Jesus gave me that. Jesus gave
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Speaker 2: me the wisdom. And he was like, well, what do
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Speaker 2: you mean. I was like, well, you see, once you
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Speaker 2: start leaning into God and you start you know, hearing
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Speaker 2: the Holy Spirit, he'll give you a vision. I'm sure
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Speaker 2: you've had a vision right, like you've had you know,
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Speaker 2: ideas of things to create. He's like, oh, tons of them.
18:33
Speaker 2: And I'm like, why haven't you taken action. He's like, well,
18:36
Speaker 2: because I don't have the resources. And I was like,
18:38
Speaker 2: well that's the problem. You're worrying about the how when
18:41
Speaker 2: you should be worrying about the who. Who do I
18:43
Speaker 2: need to become to be able to build the plan
18:45
Speaker 2: that God gave me? Like, God will bring the clients.
18:48
Speaker 2: You just got to move and you're waiting on God.
18:51
Speaker 2: When God is waiting on you get what I'm saying.
18:54
Speaker 2: And it's amazing. It's amazing. So you know the kid
18:58
Speaker 2: it was it was two gentlemen, right, one was younger
19:01
Speaker 2: than the other, and he goes, well, how do I
19:03
Speaker 2: start a relationship with Jesus. And I'm like, it's simple.
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Speaker 2: You first, you know, you accept the Lord Jesus Chritis
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Speaker 2: as your lord and savior, you know, and you obviously
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Speaker 2: understand that he died on the cross and he rose
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Speaker 2: after the third day, and you make him the center
19:19
Speaker 2: of your life, and you just start talking to him
19:22
Speaker 2: like you would with the as a father. And he
19:25
Speaker 2: was like, well, I've never had a father, so I
19:26
Speaker 2: don't know how to build that. And I was like,
19:28
Speaker 2: think about your best friend. All you got to do
19:31
Speaker 2: is just start talking to him. Ask him for wisdom,
19:33
Speaker 2: ask him for guidance. There's no special prayer that you do.
19:37
Speaker 2: You know, he knows you better than you know you.
19:39
Speaker 2: He created. You give what I'm saying. So all you
19:42
Speaker 2: got to do is just look in your heart and
19:43
Speaker 2: start a conversation with them. For me, sometimes it's a
19:47
Speaker 2: ten second prayer, sometimes it's a ten minute prayer. Sometimes
19:50
Speaker 2: it's an hour prayer. You give what I'm saying. Every
19:52
Speaker 2: day it's different, and he and one is not more
19:55
Speaker 2: powerful than the other. They're all just as equally powerful.
19:59
Speaker 2: And you know what's interesting is, you know I told
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Speaker 2: him go find a church. You know, community is everything,
20:06
Speaker 2: go get baptized if you haven't, and he was like,
20:08
Speaker 2: how do I do that? I'm like, well, you know,
20:10
Speaker 2: you can go to your local church, but if you want,
20:13
Speaker 2: I've got a I've got a tumongous pooll in my backyard.
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Speaker 2: I can do that for you. And he was like,
20:17
Speaker 2: are you serious. I'm like, yeah, absolutely so. Now I've
20:20
Speaker 2: got uh, I've got them too coming and I've got
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Speaker 2: one of the guys. He's bringing his whole family to
20:26
Speaker 2: get baptized. So that's that's how God works. Oh my gosh,
20:31
Speaker 2: that's how That's when you do it God's way, that's
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Speaker 2: what you get. That's Jeremiah twenty nine to eleven.
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Speaker 1: Oh man, you know what this is. I love thank
20:40
Speaker 1: you for sharing your story and being vulnerable, and also
20:43
Speaker 1: for the accountability that you've taken. You know, sometimes I
20:47
Speaker 1: hear stories like this and there's blame right putting fingers
20:50
Speaker 1: of this is why this happened to me, and this
20:53
Speaker 1: is why I made these choices. And what I just
20:55
Speaker 1: heard was total accountability for the choices that you had
20:59
Speaker 1: made in your life and that rebirth, that awakening process
21:04
Speaker 1: that happened. Now you know, our backgrounds couldn't be different.
21:08
Speaker 1: Couldn't be more different, you know, from my upbringing and
21:12
Speaker 1: your upbringing and the life that we've had to go through.
21:15
Speaker 1: And what's beautiful is that the where we are connected,
21:21
Speaker 1: you know, clearly, is when God is in our lives
21:24
Speaker 1: as that core component. And so I've got to ask, like,
21:29
Speaker 1: now that you've got this beautiful family and things seem
21:32
Speaker 1: to be clicking, how are you keeping God at the
21:35
Speaker 1: forefront as an entrepreneur, as a father? Are there certain
21:39
Speaker 1: things you're doing every day or every week you know,
21:43
Speaker 1: to be able to keep Him there at the forefront.
21:45
Speaker 2: You can help us out absolutely. First of all, marriage
21:49
Speaker 2: is the hardest thing that you'll ever do in life.
21:52
Speaker 2: Marriage is the biggest mission that you'll ever embark on.
21:55
Speaker 2: But it's the most rewarding if you have the right
21:58
Speaker 2: partner in your life. Life Right now, what you have
22:01
Speaker 2: to understand is nobody said that marriage was going to
22:04
Speaker 2: be easy, and I've found that out for myself. Right
22:07
Speaker 2: this isn't just about picking the right partner. This is
22:09
Speaker 2: about leading your partner back to the kingdom, right back
22:14
Speaker 2: to Jesus. So how do we do that? What are
22:16
Speaker 2: practical ways we do that? You stay in prayer, I
22:18
Speaker 2: do Bible studies with my wife. I lead my family,
22:22
Speaker 2: you know, I cover them, I cover my home and prayer.
22:26
Speaker 2: I speak life and authority because I do have the
22:28
Speaker 2: authority to do that. Right, So you need to understand
22:31
Speaker 2: what your role is as a leader, like you are
22:34
Speaker 2: a warrior who is in the front of a spiritual
22:39
Speaker 2: warfare that's happening right now. Give what I'm saying. So
22:44
Speaker 2: I'm not going to paint a perfect picture of this
22:46
Speaker 2: perfect family because my wife and I we probably argue
22:50
Speaker 2: more than most people out there. But I understand it's
22:54
Speaker 2: because it's because we are a threat to Satan. We
22:58
Speaker 2: are a threat to the world to the agenda that
23:03
Speaker 2: you know, Satan's pushing in the world, which is division
23:06
Speaker 2: right now. Right They're trying to separate family, They're trying
23:10
Speaker 2: to separate male from you know, female and confuse children
23:14
Speaker 2: about their gender. Right, So we are a target. So
23:18
Speaker 2: I have to remind myself that every single day. In fact,
23:21
Speaker 2: currently right now, I'm going through that. Right now. You know,
23:25
Speaker 2: my wife and I we're you know, we're we battle,
23:28
Speaker 2: we battle against each other, but we have to remind ourselves, hey,
23:31
Speaker 2: this the battle is. It's not in flesh. It's in despair,
23:34
Speaker 2: and you're not battling me. You know, you're battling what's
23:37
Speaker 2: in me right now. You. So we have a prayer room,
23:41
Speaker 2: and we actually got the idea from the movie War Room.
23:45
Speaker 2: So if you don't have one, you need a space.
23:48
Speaker 2: You need a space to be able to go and
23:51
Speaker 2: go in there. And the hardest thing is not just
23:54
Speaker 2: going in there, is going in there as a couple
23:57
Speaker 2: when things are hard. The hardest thing is praying over
24:01
Speaker 2: your partner when you're upset. But trust me, when you
24:06
Speaker 2: bring Jesus into your argument, into your problems, those burdens
24:12
Speaker 2: they go away. Why Because you're now you're given authority
24:16
Speaker 2: to cover your family with peace, with love. So that
24:21
Speaker 2: would be my advice to you bring God when it's hard,
24:25
Speaker 2: bring them in there with prayer, stay prayer up.
24:28
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that. I think that's fantastic. I think
24:32
Speaker 1: one of the best best ways. I think a lot
24:34
Speaker 1: of us forget these simple small things when we're talking
24:38
Speaker 1: about prayer, scripture, study, worship, like forgiveness. These seem to
24:43
Speaker 1: be so simple and easy, and a lot of us
24:46
Speaker 1: forget to do them on a on a frequent basis.
24:50
Speaker 1: But I think these small and simple things, such great
24:53
Speaker 1: things can come to pass once they've been implemented in
24:56
Speaker 1: our lives. And I know for me, put putting God first,
25:03
Speaker 1: whether it's in your business, or in your family or
25:05
Speaker 1: in your personal life, it doesn't mean your life is
25:09
Speaker 1: going to be perfect, right, it doesn't mean that you're
25:10
Speaker 1: not gonna have challenges, but it definitely means that you'll
25:15
Speaker 1: receive what you need to receive in that process. And
25:17
Speaker 1: I just try to when hard things come, I'm looking
25:20
Speaker 1: at what can I learn from this hard challenge? What
25:22
Speaker 1: can I learn from this difficult thing? Hopefully that God's
25:26
Speaker 1: teaching me through that process. I wanted to transition a
25:30
Speaker 1: little bit, so for the men that are listening, or
25:32
Speaker 1: even for the women who want to, you know, help
25:35
Speaker 1: their man become this divinely masculine person. I think there's
25:41
Speaker 1: a divine masculine. There's a divine feminine, Like, how do
25:46
Speaker 1: you find that? Because to me, it doesn't just mean
25:50
Speaker 1: or sometimes the masculine here is cigars and guns and
25:56
Speaker 1: muscles or tattoos or whatever it is, right, but like
25:59
Speaker 1: the divine skill in how would you even describe that
26:03
Speaker 1: to somebody so they can understand what that looks like absolutely.
26:08
Speaker 2: Look, I can tell you this. I've got the guns,
26:11
Speaker 2: I've got the cars, I've got the cigars, I've got
26:13
Speaker 2: the whiskey and all that. But that doesn't make me masculine.
26:16
Speaker 2: You know what makes me masculine bending my knees first
26:20
Speaker 2: thing in the morning and submitting to Jesus Christ, putting
26:25
Speaker 2: him first, putting him inviting him, and everything that I do.
26:28
Speaker 2: I do everything with my wife. I do business with
26:31
Speaker 2: my wife. I do podcasts with my wife. I do
26:35
Speaker 2: entertainment stuff with my wife. I bring her everywhere. And
26:38
Speaker 2: I understand why I do that. It's because in relationships, right,
26:43
Speaker 2: there's always going to be one person who wants to
26:45
Speaker 2: grow right a little bit more than the other person.
26:47
Speaker 2: But I don't want to outgrow my wife, so I
26:50
Speaker 2: bring her in right. So how how can I teach
26:54
Speaker 2: other men to be that divine? Masculine? First? Submit to Christ,
26:59
Speaker 2: first thing in the morning. You can do this alone,
27:01
Speaker 2: trust me, you can't. I've tried doing this alone. And
27:04
Speaker 2: if you're not prayered up, if you are not connected
27:07
Speaker 2: to the source, the enemy will control you, and he,
27:10
Speaker 2: especially if you're an entrepreneur, he will give you so
27:13
Speaker 2: much business make you so damn successful that you stop praying,
27:17
Speaker 2: that you're too busy for your family, that you're too
27:19
Speaker 2: busy to take care of your wife, that you're too
27:22
Speaker 2: busy to go on those date and iights that you
27:24
Speaker 2: used to do. You give what I'm saying. So, yeah,
27:27
Speaker 2: being masculine isn't about the cars, isn't about the guns,
27:31
Speaker 2: isn't about the muscles. It's about what the mission is
27:34
Speaker 2: and understanding what the blueprints that you know, a man
27:37
Speaker 2: of God is a warrior of God, right, and what
27:40
Speaker 2: is that we got to lead, We've got to provide,
27:42
Speaker 2: we've got to protect, but we also have to be firm.
27:46
Speaker 2: You can't be passive, right all these like where in
27:50
Speaker 2: the Bible does this show us how to not be
27:54
Speaker 2: passive and how to actually have a backbone? You give
27:58
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. So those are things that we all
28:00
Speaker 2: have to understand. That's Christians, because I've seen so many
28:02
Speaker 2: Christians stay in really toxic marriages because they want to
28:06
Speaker 2: do it God's way, They want to do it the
28:08
Speaker 2: right way, right, But we also have to understand that,
28:11
Speaker 2: you know, that's what leadership is. Leadership is also learning
28:14
Speaker 2: to say no to your wife. When it's not it's
28:18
Speaker 2: not what you want and it's not the direction that
28:21
Speaker 2: the Holy Spirit is guiding you.
28:23
Speaker 1: Right.
28:23
Speaker 2: So you know, having a balance of you know, being
28:28
Speaker 2: masculine but also being kind and being firm and standing
28:33
Speaker 2: in your ground is what will get you to that result. Right,
28:37
Speaker 2: And how do we how do we know what that is? Well,
28:40
Speaker 2: who's the most masculine man to ever walk the earth?
28:43
Speaker 2: Jesus Christ? Right, he was not a passive guy. He
28:47
Speaker 2: was he wasn't a people pleaser. Right, he was firm,
28:51
Speaker 2: but he was also kind. Right, he was a masculine agreed.
28:55
Speaker 1: Now, I love the example that he gives to because
28:57
Speaker 1: he can have so much mercy or let's say the
29:01
Speaker 1: woman that was caught in adult tree, but then also
29:03
Speaker 1: on the so that merciful you know, you know, God
29:07
Speaker 1: Jesus is able to then go to the temple and
29:10
Speaker 1: throw tables and you know, get a whip out to
29:13
Speaker 1: be able to protect the truth.
29:15
Speaker 2: You know.
29:15
Speaker 1: I talk to my kids, and I've got four boys,
29:18
Speaker 1: I've got four girls, and I try to help them
29:21
Speaker 1: understand the spiritual battle that we're in because every day
29:26
Speaker 1: were we are going to be attacked, you know, by
29:30
Speaker 1: the by the opposition. And it feels to me like
29:33
Speaker 1: if we at least acknowledge that there is opposition a
29:37
Speaker 1: step one and then too trying to put on the
29:39
Speaker 1: armor of God, and the armor of God, like the
29:42
Speaker 1: scriptures you're talking about, if we say our prayers and
29:45
Speaker 1: we're reading scriptures, if we're forgiving others, trying to figure
29:48
Speaker 1: out ourselves. To me, those that armor is what's going
29:52
Speaker 1: to help us to defeat, you know, every single daily
29:55
Speaker 1: battle that we may have. And you know, for my kids,
29:59
Speaker 1: even though are you know six almost sixteen to sixteen,
30:02
Speaker 1: six to sixteen, they're starting to grasp that understanding that
30:09
Speaker 1: the adversary, Satan himself, wants to tear them down, wants
30:13
Speaker 1: to tear us apart in any way, shape or form,
30:16
Speaker 1: and having that armor is one of the only ways
30:19
Speaker 1: that we can survive. And so I love that you're
30:22
Speaker 1: talking about, like getting on your knees in the morning,
30:24
Speaker 1: having a connection with God, having that spiritual guidance to
30:29
Speaker 1: know what is true and how to go after That's
30:35
Speaker 1: that's just unbelievably important for all of us. I've got
30:38
Speaker 1: to ask. So when you're you know, thoughts on like
30:42
Speaker 1: leadership relationships, so you've shared a lot of that on
30:45
Speaker 1: your feed and even masculine identity. So how do these
30:51
Speaker 1: areas connect with the physical fitness component. It's like, I'm
30:55
Speaker 1: a crossfitter, I'm not a bodybuilder, been on a magazine
30:58
Speaker 1: for definitely, how I look? Not yet? But how do
31:04
Speaker 1: you connect like leadership, relationship, masculine identity to the areas
31:08
Speaker 1: of physical fitness.
31:09
Speaker 2: Absolutely? Look. I always tell people life is about finding
31:14
Speaker 2: your purpose. Right. If you don't know where your purpose is,
31:17
Speaker 2: start with yourself. Start working on your body. Your body
31:20
Speaker 2: is your temple, right, You got to look good to
31:23
Speaker 2: feel good. If you feel good, you look good right,
31:26
Speaker 2: So get into a routine. Start working on your temple.
31:29
Speaker 2: Become the best version of yourself to create the best
31:33
Speaker 2: body possible. Get what I'm saying. You don't have to
31:36
Speaker 2: be on a magazine cover. You don't have to be
31:37
Speaker 2: a bodybuilder, but be fit right, have a low percentage
31:40
Speaker 2: body fat. Pay attention to what's going in your mouth
31:45
Speaker 2: because food is an energy source, and it's also a
31:49
Speaker 2: source that will lower your frequency, lower your testosterone, and
31:53
Speaker 2: also confuse you. Right leads to depression, It leads to
31:56
Speaker 2: high blood pressure, It leads to a lot of different problems.
31:59
Speaker 2: Get the body moving right. When you look good, you
32:01
Speaker 2: feel good. But you also become more confident. The more
32:05
Speaker 2: fit you are, the more confident you're going to become,
32:08
Speaker 2: which also translates to putting in the work right, having
32:12
Speaker 2: discipline in your life right, which ties into a lot
32:16
Speaker 2: of the masculinity traits. Right, You've got to be physically fit,
32:20
Speaker 2: financially fit, spiritually fit, and you know, have a full,
32:25
Speaker 2: well rounded life right. Like, you can be the most
32:29
Speaker 2: fit guy, but if you don't have your finances in place,
32:33
Speaker 2: if you don't have purpose or direction in life, you're
32:35
Speaker 2: never going to have the right relationship or the right
32:39
Speaker 2: partner or attract that into your life. Women want security,
32:43
Speaker 2: They want provision. They want to be led by a
32:46
Speaker 2: man who knows who he is, has his identity, and
32:50
Speaker 2: has focused on where he's leading her to. Right, So
32:54
Speaker 2: where are you going? If you don't know where you're going?
32:56
Speaker 2: How are you able to lead the daughter of Christ?
33:00
Speaker 2: You give what I'm saying, Women respect men who respect
33:03
Speaker 2: themselves right. Women need security, So financial security is important.
33:10
Speaker 2: A lot of men think that women are gold diggers, right,
33:14
Speaker 2: and maybe some of them are. But this is where
33:17
Speaker 2: you should have discernment to understand who is really on
33:20
Speaker 2: your corner for the right reasons. You shouldn't be leading
33:23
Speaker 2: with money, but you should be able to sustain your
33:26
Speaker 2: own household, be able to sustain your family, and you know,
33:30
Speaker 2: be in a financial position to be able to create
33:33
Speaker 2: a better life for them. Right. Women need that. If
33:36
Speaker 2: you do not have your finances in place, you shouldn't
33:39
Speaker 2: be dating personally. I don't think you're not ready to
33:42
Speaker 2: date because you can't even take care of yourself.
33:45
Speaker 1: Right.
33:46
Speaker 2: Once you have your finances in place, that definitely gives
33:48
Speaker 2: you more confidence and you're able to do more because
33:51
Speaker 2: you're able to create experiences for your partner. Geve what
33:54
Speaker 2: I'm saying, and which relates to a lot of the
33:57
Speaker 2: foundation that you know gives women safe women run off of.
34:03
Speaker 2: They want to be, you know, led by a man
34:05
Speaker 2: who's emotionally intelligent as well. Right, So you've got to
34:08
Speaker 2: learn how to control your feelings, your emotions, your anger, right,
34:13
Speaker 2: I mean First Corinthians, chapter four, verse thirty. I think
34:16
Speaker 2: it's a chapter thirteen, verse four says you know, love
34:20
Speaker 2: is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it's
34:22
Speaker 2: not easily angered. So you've got to know how to
34:25
Speaker 2: control yourself, you know how to be able to lead her.
34:29
Speaker 2: But they want safety, They really want safety. They want
34:31
Speaker 2: a man who they can admire. Right and respect. That's
34:34
Speaker 2: what we want. We're after respect, right, admiration, And there's
34:38
Speaker 2: nothing more beautiful than you know, creating the best version
34:41
Speaker 2: of yourself and being well rounded where you understand that.
34:45
Speaker 1: Right.
34:45
Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of us men we
34:48
Speaker 2: have a lot of those areas. Right. We might be fit,
34:50
Speaker 2: we might be successful, but we're not emotionally intelligent. We
34:54
Speaker 2: don't know how to stabilize their emotions. Because women are emotional, right,
34:59
Speaker 2: we match enter when we should be stoic, when we
35:02
Speaker 2: should be able to leave the relationship and not be
35:05
Speaker 2: in emotional and be like, hey, we're not doing that
35:07
Speaker 2: right now, We're not okay, this is not what we're
35:10
Speaker 2: signed up for. Okay, So if you can't speak to
35:14
Speaker 2: me right now with respect, we're gonna have to put
35:17
Speaker 2: a pin on this and we'll come back when you're
35:20
Speaker 2: ready to talk. Right. Look, how many people are in
35:24
Speaker 2: such toxic relationships because of that? Right? Because men don't
35:28
Speaker 2: have a backbone, they don't know how to lead properly.
35:30
Speaker 2: They don't I mean, I don't have to raise my
35:32
Speaker 2: boys to be able to do that. Right. It's not
35:35
Speaker 2: about being much of it's about being emotionally intelligent and
35:38
Speaker 2: protecting your kingdom to your household. But yeah, the physical
35:42
Speaker 2: aspect plays a huge role, if plays a huge role
35:45
Speaker 2: in determination, dedication, goal setting. Being more confident and looking
35:51
Speaker 2: good and feeling good. And the man who looks good
35:54
Speaker 2: and feels good, the man who is financially fit and
35:58
Speaker 2: adds spiritually fit down there well when the game, she's
36:03
Speaker 2: the best choice. Yeah, I believe.
36:06
Speaker 1: I love that. I mean, knowing that our body is
36:09
Speaker 1: a temple and that we need to take care of
36:10
Speaker 1: it totally. Number you know, that's it's such a critical
36:14
Speaker 1: component I've found for me. I've always loved sports, so
36:19
Speaker 1: being an athlete in different you know, areas of my life.
36:22
Speaker 1: But it wasn't I know, when I was building my
36:24
Speaker 1: first business, I let that part of myself go and
36:28
Speaker 1: because I was just working and working and working, and
36:30
Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't make a priority of taken care
36:34
Speaker 1: of my body like I should have. And it wasn't
36:37
Speaker 1: until i i I even had to. I had one
36:40
Speaker 1: business that was continuing to run and having success. I
36:43
Speaker 1: tried another business and it didn't pan out, and it
36:46
Speaker 1: was like the wake up call of having to shut
36:48
Speaker 1: that business down, looking at myself and saying, Okay, who
36:51
Speaker 1: am I? You know? If I am I an entrepreneur?
36:56
Speaker 1: Am I you know?
36:56
Speaker 2: What?
36:57
Speaker 1: Of my father? A husband, son of God? Like all
36:59
Speaker 1: of these components. And when I started physically getting my
37:03
Speaker 1: life back in order, it's almost like that helped the
37:07
Speaker 1: process of spiritually waking up as well. It was almost
37:12
Speaker 1: like I had to begin in that problem that was
37:16
Speaker 1: just for me. I'm sure people can have it in
37:18
Speaker 1: different ways, but the spiritual rebirth or awakening came as
37:24
Speaker 1: I started down that path of learning a little bit
37:27
Speaker 1: more physically. Anyway, thank you for sharing that. I think
37:31
Speaker 1: some of the pieces around leadership, relationship, masculinity, the physical components,
37:36
Speaker 1: it all ties in. And if we can be a
37:37
Speaker 1: well more well rounded masculine man, we can be a
37:41
Speaker 1: better provider, a better protector, a better husband, father, all
37:46
Speaker 1: of those areas in her life. And to me that
37:48
Speaker 1: it affects our business and our ability to have success,
37:52
Speaker 1: and so I know our times running out and there's
37:55
Speaker 1: so much more that, so many questions that I have
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Speaker 1: prepared for you. To be able to walk through. Maybe
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Speaker 1: we'll have to do another one of these, but Louise,
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Speaker 1: thank you for coming and like sharing just your bold,
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Speaker 1: honest self and being vulnerable with us, taking accountability and
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Speaker 1: speaking some truth that that can help a lot of
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Speaker 1: people who are listening. Hopefully they're sharing this with others too,
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Speaker 1: He'll help you out and seriously thank you for taking
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Speaker 1: the time. I know you've got your family right. He
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Speaker 1: didn't even show this, but his wife is literally right
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Speaker 1: there on the couch with his newbornments. I think it's
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Speaker 1: so cool to have you guys right there is there
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Speaker 1: If you were to leave one last thing, do you
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Speaker 1: want to say one last thing for everybody who's listening,
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Speaker 1: and then we can we'll call it a day.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, I'll do that with my wife present. Can you
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Speaker 2: bring my baby over? Our baby?
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Speaker 1: I love it? Okay, Sorry you weren't we didn't prepare
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Speaker 1: you for this, but you're a willing participant.
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Speaker 2: I love it.
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Speaker 1: Okay, Oh my gosh, look at this, you guys. It's
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Speaker 1: been a few years since I've had a newborn mine.
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Speaker 1: Mine are almost six years old, my youngest.
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Speaker 2: The best advice in the last words that I can
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Speaker 2: give people is family is everything. Okay. This is what
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Speaker 2: the enemy wants to rob you from your purpose. This
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Speaker 2: is your legacy. This here will force you to grow
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Speaker 2: in all areas in life. With the right partner in
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Speaker 2: your life, you can become everything and anything that God
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Speaker 2: has designed you to be. God gave you purpose. Okay.
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Speaker 2: This is your first ministry. Lead her, actor, guide her,
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Speaker 2: love her in every single ways, even when it's difficult
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Speaker 2: to do so. Marriage isn't about perfection. Marriage is about
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Speaker 2: making the conscious choice to forgive, to love, to be kind,
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Speaker 2: and to lead, to lead our family back to the Kingdom. Okay,
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Speaker 2: when you feel like giving up, think about them, because
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Speaker 2: sometimes it's difficult to look at your partner and remind
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Speaker 2: yourself why you're doing this. But look at your children.
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Speaker 2: Your children holds your legacy. What they see you do,
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Speaker 2: they will replicate. Okay, So again the truth I love them.
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Speaker 1: That's it, Ah, this is a great man. Well, thank
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Speaker 1: you so much for coming on. It's great to get
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Speaker 1: to know you a little bit better. And thank you
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Speaker 1: to your beautiful better half here there with us and
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Speaker 1: your newborn. I love it.
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Speaker 2: Thank you, brother, I appreciate you.