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- 0:00Okay, resh lamer bet hos nadarim your bet.
- 0:04OK, so here we have the 4th of the arba nadarim nidre onsen.
- 0:10So now these are Nadarim where you have circumstances beyond
- 0:16your control. Let's see what does that mean
- 0:18that that's right. These are cases where it's not
- 0:20called to begin with and you do not need to do Ataris Nadarin
- 0:23Kate said Pediro caviro shiokhal etzlow.
- 0:26So you you basically you make a neder or a Shua, whatever it is
- 0:30in order to get your friend to eat over your house.
- 0:33And if he doesn't come eat, then your neder, whatever you decide
- 0:37to make or Shua, whatever you say is going to be called.
- 0:40And we're we're talking about a case where it's again, it's not
- 0:43a neder zeros. So you make a serious neder for
- 0:46your to come over. But vihala.
- 0:49Oh, Shakala Bono, right. You invite them over for
- 0:51Shabbos, whatever during the week, and and they don't come
- 0:55because they're not going to come without their son or your
- 0:58friend himself is sick. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 1:00Your friend ends up getting sick or your son gets sick.
- 1:03So you invite them over, but they get sick so they can't come
- 1:06anymore. Oh, Shiko Nahar or there's some
- 1:09kind of a flood or you know, the river that they normally
- 1:13crossover with the bridge is extra high and that bridge is
- 1:16not safe. They can't cross an act of God,
- 1:19but love Dafka an act of God. It could be any kind of an onus.
- 1:23Another friend holds them back or whatever.
- 1:25It takes them and they can't get to you, right?
- 1:27Sometimes you go somewhere and your friend says come with me.
- 1:30It'll just take an hour and then it takes 3 hours to get back.
- 1:33It started out as a serious nether.
- 1:35Exactly. It's not a Zeros nether, but
- 1:38something happens beyond your control, something unexpected.
- 1:43If it's a normal something that normally happens, then when you
- 1:47made that you assume that there's a chance it's gonna
- 1:50happen. So it would still be hull and
- 1:53you would need to do a Tarrus and Dime.
- 1:55If you don't want this neither or should want to be Hull, we're
- 1:58talking about a case where it's something beyond your control
- 2:01that you that's unforeseen, something you didn't expect.
- 2:03You didn't expect him to get sick.
- 2:05You know? Exactly.
- 2:05I invited him 2 days ago. But I don't know where the limit
- 2:07is because people do get sick at least once a year usually, or at
- 2:11least some people do, some people more.
- 2:13You invite somebody a few days before Shabbos.
- 2:15That's a real simple example. They don't usually get sick
- 2:18within a few days, right? You don't expect that to happen.
- 2:21Of course it could happen. It's not something that's like,
- 2:24you know, one in a million, but it has but something that's
- 2:26unexpected and then so all of a sudden they can't come.
- 2:29So you didn't make a net there to make yourself haya for
- 2:33something, you know, seriously unexpected.
- 2:36So then it's not called at all. Harry elu nidre onsin.
- 2:39These are nidre onsin beyond your control and it's not
- 2:43called. This is even the shock points
- 2:45out. Even if you didn't make any kind
- 2:47of a tonight, you don't have to stipulate that oh, but this is
- 2:51not a Ned there. If something beyond my control
- 2:54happens, you don't have to say the words.
- 2:55If we all know that this is beyond your control, not
- 2:59expected, then it is not called. Told everybody.
- 3:04This is no joke. This is not a motivational
- 3:06speech over here or Ned there. This is a real Ned there until
- 3:11you find that it becomes and tells him what happens.
- 3:15OK, yeah, you might find out after the fact.
- 3:17You know, a day later it wasn't called.
- 3:21But he didn't know that it wasn't called in your situation.
- 3:24OK, another case in the Shah says, let's say you make a
- 3:28nether that you're going to pay somebody by a certain date and
- 3:32that date comes. And if you if that date comes,
- 3:35he says in the nether, I'm going to take upon myself this nether
- 3:38or Shiva if I don't pay on time. But then it comes the day and
- 3:43the day passes and of course no payment.
- 3:45We all know what that feels like.
- 3:46We've all experienced that. And he made a nether on this
- 3:48case. The shock says if the guy says
- 3:51had money to pay him back, so he was planning to pay him back.
- 3:55It was a real nether he he meant it.
- 3:57He was serious, but then something happened in business
- 4:00and he lost all his money, right.
- 4:03Or the spouse spent all the money, they went shopping, he
- 4:06had money set aside and all of a sudden the money disappeared.
- 4:10So then that's also a case or one is putter from the Shiva.
- 4:15That's also a case of onus because at the time you were
- 4:19serious and it was going to be called, but then when the time
- 4:22comes for it to be called, it was an onus over here.
- 4:25You have no way to pay. So one's putter from Meshua.
- 4:29OK, let's read the Haggah, the irolo onus vahaya escherla salko
- 4:35aide mamon Harvey sheitin mikre onus.
- 4:39Now something happens. But there is a way to be
- 4:42Makayanda tonight, but it's going to be very expensive, You
- 4:45know, way, way beyond what you expected to pay.
- 4:47Exactly how you determine that, I don't know, but it's a lot
- 4:50more and it's expensive for you. It's a lot of money.
- 4:53That's also called an onus. OK, so I don't know how to
- 4:56quantify how much money. Maybe it depends on the
- 4:59circumstances. Partially by a percentages,
- 5:02partially by your financial standing behind Imceva Allah
- 5:07Hassar Shaloya kayam shivato venidro.
- 5:12If let's say the ruler in town says I heard about your Shivua,
- 5:17your Ned there and I'm and I'm telling you you're not allowed
- 5:20to be a makayamit, you better listen to what I say or else
- 5:24Afilu lohaveh Kanas Rakumama, even if we're only talking about
- 5:29a money Kanas Mikreonas, if certainly if you're afraid for
- 5:34your life, you don't have to keep it.
- 5:35That's an onus. But even if you're only worried
- 5:38about him giving you a, a financial penalty, Kanas So then
- 5:44it's still called a case of onus.
- 5:46Mikko makko in the Niklaya Holim lista del lo mikre onus.
- 5:52But if it's something that you can easily pay for, that's not
- 5:56called an onus. That's something that
- 5:58inconvenience came up or a little fee, that's not
- 6:02acceptable. You made another, it is within
- 6:05your reason. OK, it's a little bit
- 6:06unexpected, but it's within your reason and it's not such a big
- 6:10deal. We do not call that an onus.
- 6:12It has to be where it's something substantial.
- 6:14This just says look back and raise what we saw by Bindin
- 6:17Kharim, she goes there. So there we just mentioned that
- 6:22when there's a case of a kharim, so you didn't make the net there
- 6:26itself. So generally speaking, if
- 6:28someone tells you not to be Makai, if the ruler in town
- 6:31tells you not to be Makayim and it's going to create a problem
- 6:35with the theorem. So we said you don't have to
- 6:36follow the theorem per SE. You can follow the ruler because
- 6:40it's a case of onus. You don't know what he's going
- 6:42to do to you or you do know and it's very severe uncomfortable.
- 6:46But the theorem there we learned still stands because that was by
- 6:49the Seabor and it's not up to you.
- 6:51The theorem stands and you say you need to get the Hakamim of
- 6:54the town to be a mature you from the the shock says if it's
- 6:58something that we all see and we owned in adivarium that we see,
- 7:00we assume and everyone else can make the same assumption if if
- 7:03it's an onus or not. If it's not in a case where you
- 7:06wouldn't have made if it's not a case of a nidre onus.
- 7:11So then and you made a neder. So in general, we say again, if
- 7:15it is called, if it's not a case of an nidre onus, a whole neder
- 7:20was was beyond your control, but you made a proper Neder and then
- 7:25later on you're stuck with the neder.
- 7:27Any normal, normal case that we've learned until now before
- 7:30this Simon where the neder is Khal and now you want to be
- 7:34matieret. So either you do a Taurus
- 7:37Nadarian, but if you don't do a Taurus Nadarian, he points out
- 7:40you really, if the nether is Khal, if it wasn't a nether of
- 7:44onus or any of these categories, then you must give all your
- 7:48money. You must whatever it costs in
- 7:50order to be to fulfill the nether Shivua or to do a Taurus
- 7:55Nadarian. Obviously, it'd be easier to be
- 7:57Mati, right? So how do we have a case where
- 8:02it's in so which case is an onus that it's still call in which
- 8:06case it's not? I have to clarify.
- 8:08That's a good question. Need to think of a good couple
- 8:11examples to clarify the difference.
- 8:13Me Now this part, the next part of the Rama we're going to read.
- 8:18It's a few lines of the Rama. Now I believe it's not according
- 8:23to the halacha, according to the the show Kanara and then no, say
- 8:28Kaylin right, including the Shokanara from the GRA shock and
- 8:32toss. But we'll let's just read it
- 8:33inside Misha Nisha onadar la sotavar BEI Yom ploni.
- 8:39So this we had previously in Raish Kafkhat and they're also
- 8:45in the in the in the sief mem olive that we all have over
- 8:48there. So there we had a case of it
- 8:51makes a difference if you give a expiration date for your shibua
- 8:57and it's if you say let Yom or bayon.
- 9:01The question is if you say bayon.
- 9:03So we learnt according to Shal Khanarak that once bayon comes
- 9:07on that day and you don't pay on that day, then the shivuah is
- 9:11over because that Shiva was only for that day.
- 9:14But if it's Leon then that means that's your that's when you need
- 9:18to pay by. But the shivuah is still
- 9:21continues afterwards and you still have to pay afterwards to
- 9:25not violate the shivuah. Regarding the deadline, even if
- 9:30you go past the deadline, everyone says you're still
- 9:32higher to pay. When there's a Hove, there's a
- 9:34Hove. It doesn't the the
- 9:35responsibility and the obligation to pay back your
- 9:38money doesn't end on the expiration date.
- 9:41The whole suit is talking about. Does the shivua, the extra love
- 9:44of the shivua, does that end or not?
- 9:47So here in the Rama he writes Misha nishbuana de la
- 9:51subdevarbiyomploni. You make another right?
- 9:53Or she wants to do something on a particular day Venetanas and
- 9:57then you don't have and then something happens in onus.
- 10:00Kagong Shanish Bala Shalim and you make a a shahruwa to pay.
- 10:09OK, Shihagi Azman. I'll just say it right now
- 10:12because it's today, but I want to think of a better way to
- 10:15explain it. If a person makes a Shavua and
- 10:18it's it's call and it's it's not an onus, but you feel you're
- 10:22upset about your decision, you're upset about we have
- 10:27Karata on the nether. So then that's when we say you
- 10:31have to do a Taras Nadarim or pay up and make sure you don't
- 10:36violate the love. But in and what we're learning
- 10:40now is the nether itself. It's it's the onus.
- 10:46Clarify that better. But it's a difference of Karata
- 10:49and the onus. OK, anyways, so here what we're
- 10:52saying over here. OK, go and shaniche Bala Shalin.
- 10:55OK Shaggy, Azman and a la Shalin, let's say you have a
- 10:58onus when it comes time to pay, right?
- 11:00You say you're going to do something or pay something at
- 11:02such and such a date. Bayonne So then and that date
- 11:06passes Pater Mishawata. So the Rama holds over there and
- 11:10over here that once the date passes, then you're putter to
- 11:17pay in this pattern, right? But right, so on that day you're
- 11:38putter from your Shiva because you're onus.
- 11:41But the next day, let's say all of a sudden you get your
- 11:43paycheck or you win the lottery, whatever the case is, and now
- 11:46you have the money. After that particular day, are
- 11:50you hired to pay? So you didn't you mamanus.
- 11:53Again, you might be hired to pay depending on the case usually,
- 11:57but you didn't Shiva. So the Rama holds afterwards.
- 12:02If you get the money after that Bayonne Paloni then and you
- 12:07choose not to pay, then you're higher, you're still higher.
- 12:10So that's the Rama basically said Das Yahid, it's the
- 12:14Shaktas, the Gran and Rama. They all, I mean, not they all
- 12:17argue on the Rama and they over there and over here they say it
- 12:21makes a difference. If you say Leyon, then the field
- 12:23of the Shiva continues afterwards.
- 12:26And if you say Bayonne, then that's when it ends.
- 12:27But that's the only day you have to pay, OK, the E miguia has
- 12:32manifroa and then the time comes to pay, let's say now if that
- 12:44day comes, right, this is the Mahloukis is if you said Byom,
- 12:49right, the wording of Arama is Byom, so that's why it's a
- 12:51Mahloukit. Would it said Liom, it wouldn't
- 12:53have been a Mahloukit. But anyways, so then if the
- 12:57ruler makes you give him extra time beyond the Bayonne
- 13:02expiration date, the due date, or it makes you forgive, forgive
- 13:07him completely. So then they're on Mahuls, the
- 13:10Shuwa continues Ulakuli Almat Sari Khlifroa.
- 13:14And he says, but regardless, you still have to pay, you have to
- 13:18pay him back. Kharkov you still have to pay
- 13:21him. That's that's we're not coming
- 13:23to absolve you from pain. OK, now the kahal SU Herim, Oh
- 13:30Hamesh Shanim, the Qaboosman shiyat khel hakharim.
- 13:34Now, if the sibor makes a herim for five years and they give a
- 13:39you know, they establish a time when it should start and finish
- 13:42or whatever the Oto Azman are you anousing and when it was how
- 13:47they were anous Oh shogigim or they were shogig the Lloyd Hilu
- 13:53akaiyam Neder and they weren't able to be Akaiyam the neder.
- 13:57So then srikum lekaimo. So then they still have to
- 14:01akaimoharkka. They still have to do the
- 14:03makaiyam the neder afterwards Keanu Batal mishumze.
- 14:08It's not batal, even though they couldn't do it when the
- 14:11neighbors. So in this case, the Kahalmeda
- 14:13Khairam, I think it wasn't Khal yet because of the onus they
- 14:17weren't able to be Makayam Dakarim.
- 14:20So they're they're putter. But then when they are able to
- 14:23be Makayam Dakarim, So here he says you still have to be
- 14:28Makayam Dakarim. Yeah, if it's within the Karim,
- 14:32if it was a five year period and they're onus the whole five
- 14:35years, then they're putter. But if in the first three years
- 14:38they were put they're onus, then for the last two years they're
- 14:41high have to be Makayeman. And on this I don't think
- 14:43there's any Maklokas. They were never a mature.
- 14:46You don't you only say hitrum, Hitrum excessive Mr. Kulos.
- 14:50If they were a mature part of it, the harem, the Kahala never
- 14:54mature their harem, their harem was always there all five years.
- 14:57But but for your but for you, you were on us.
- 14:59So for you, you didn't get the harem on you, but their harem is
- 15:02still hanging up, you know, in the air.
- 15:04Even if the whole group is on us, it doesn't.
- 15:06Even if everyone's on us. Misha Nishba or another lasso
- 15:10davar talk Shana bion bionponi person makes a Shiva another to
- 15:16do it within a year or on a particular date.
- 15:18Yeshua lasso Miyad. So the Rama says, you know what,
- 15:21you should just do it right, right away.
- 15:23This way you avoid problems. You don't want to be over a
- 15:25Shiva or another in general we say anyways, you're not supposed
- 15:29to make nadarium and shivas. It is good advice, but it's like
- 15:32you said, it's more than just good advice.
- 15:34It's very strong advice because you're not even supposed to make
- 15:38nadarium and Shiva. You're supposed to.
- 15:40And if you do, we, we pass and you're supposed to be a mature
- 15:42them. And unless it's let's talk
- 15:45mitzvah and Nina da Vera. Yeah, I read that a regular oh,
- 15:48the shahrid kishagiya O to hayom.
- 15:52Or if at least you're going to wait for that day, do it in the
- 15:54morning as soon as you get up. Shama yishka akharka 'cause you
- 15:58might forget later. Veloya seno via voral nidro
- 16:02ushivuato and you're going to be over.
- 16:04You're neither in Shivua now the imloa Sao miyad.
- 16:09Now this happens. What?
- 16:10This is a common phenomena. What happens if a person says
- 16:13I've got time, right? Half of us are procrastinators,
- 16:16Half of us do things right on time.
- 16:18We're yuckies. We do things early, right?
- 16:20If an event is called there, some people come half an hour
- 16:23before and some come an hour later.
- 16:25You have different types of people.
- 16:27We're about to get there. What about Minneka, right?
- 16:29You're pushing it off till later and then Or chakras, But yeah,
- 16:34Minneka's or Marev pushing off the minion and the Imola.
- 16:38Salmiyad. Kiyamar dying.
- 16:40Ashley Penai, La Soto. I have lots of time.
- 16:42But Shaka and then he totally forgets about it.
- 16:46He looks at his watch the sunset.
- 16:48I can't believe what happened or I'm indoors.
- 16:49You don't even see Onanas Akharka or a real onus happens
- 16:54either 1 you forget or you have an onus.
- 16:57Oh and you didn't do it in time now all morning or all year, you
- 17:01know, whatever their case is all morning you were able to do it,
- 17:04but you just waited to push it off to you know, I don't have
- 17:07until Skia. I'm going to wait for the last
- 17:09minute and then yeah, so then but then in the end or shaka or
- 17:15onas and yes, doesn't do it. Yesh omrim, the mikre onas, some
- 17:19say that that's also called onas because you honestly intended to
- 17:24do it later. And when it was your time to do
- 17:26it, it it was an onus at that moment, the yesh omrim dolo
- 17:31mikre onas. And some say no, no, no, that's
- 17:33not called an onus. You had all day, all year.
- 17:36You pushed it off. Now it's you violated it.
- 17:40OK, now how do we pass can so the Shokanara, the Magin
- 17:47Avraham, the Gras, the Taz, they all hold.
- 17:52It's we go like the first opinion and we hold.
- 17:55It's an onus and that's exactly that's how they pass can either
- 17:58here and in Orachaim, I think it's in Kovchet or talks about
- 18:03Tashlumin. Kovchet maybe anyway, So over
- 18:06there it talks about Tashlumin for it to feel exactly your
- 18:09case. And it's the same exact same
- 18:11halakha that we Paskin. It's that you have you're
- 18:16allowed to dove in Tashlumi over there.
- 18:18And here it's called an onus. So you're not you don't violate
- 18:21the Shiva and right. So a person was planning to dove
- 18:24in and then all of a sudden something came up or he was
- 18:27really taroued with business and he was planning to dove in later
- 18:31and it just it just didn't happen.
- 18:34So you're allowed to dove in. You're a Tashlumi Velo mikre
- 18:37onis bashvua al inka naya maggiolo EZ raa imoya nishva.
- 18:44Now when do we say a Shiva was an onus?
- 18:47That's your partner. It's when something bad happens.
- 18:52Loya nishva aval. I am lohaya maggiola tova
- 18:56venishva. But if he was, he made a shvua
- 19:00because he was expecting something good to happen.
- 19:04And I'm making a shivua and I'm hoping to split this.
- 19:08I'm gonna, you know, win the lottery today.
- 19:10And then he doesn't win the lottery.
- 19:12He didn't say it's on the tanai or anything like that.
- 19:14He just, he wanted something good to happen, but he made a
- 19:18shivua. So then we don't call that
- 19:24venispa kadeshihe la toba miza in mikre Anas bishwa.
- 19:29That's not called an Anas. The shock, as you mentioned the
- 19:34word, the shock. He's saying even if you said you
- 19:36said why I think that example wasn't good.
- 19:39Let's say you wanted to win the lottery and you're saying
- 19:43because I want to win the lottery, I'm taking upon a
- 19:46shivua, a cabala on myself. And the reason why I'm doing the
- 19:50Cabala or a Shivua Neda really, then it's to win the lottery or
- 19:55I don't know, I should have this or that, whatever you want to
- 19:57make up. And you're saying that's why
- 19:59you're making the Shiva and then you don't win.
- 20:02It never comes out. And you wanted to make this, you
- 20:06wanted to win this, get this within a month or a year or the
- 20:10lottery to scratch the ticket right now.
- 20:12And it doesn't happen. Even if you say that's why you
- 20:15made your Shiva, that Shiva is 100% call.
- 20:19We don't call that Nidre ones here.
- 20:22You're making a Shiva, and it's not all tonight.
- 20:25You're telling us what's your motivation behind that shivua?
- 20:29But it's a shivua. It's not, there's no tonight.
- 20:31There's no it's not on the condition.
- 20:34So then the shivua is kaul. And if you don't win, that's not
- 20:38called onus. If you do it tonight and it that
- 20:40changes everything we're talking about.
- 20:41And there's no tonight over here.
- 20:43You may have admitted why you're doing it, but that's not enough.
- 20:45It has to be a tonight. In order for it to be a tonight,
- 20:48you have to verbalize The Tonight.
- 20:49By next case call shivu onus, whatever is in onus.
- 20:52Bishwa Alfa bisha almoraldas rabi almodas Malcolm.
- 20:56Even though you say al das rabim, al das Malcolm, it
- 21:00doesn't matter if it's a nidre onus, it's not khal doesn't
- 21:03matter if you use das rabim. OK, next issue now I'm on Adam
- 21:09Lomar Shiwato. A person is a person is
- 21:13trustworthy. If he tells you right afterwards
- 21:17that haita, the onus, his shavua that he made was the onus, oh
- 21:22altonai kak vakak or his shibuwa was on it tonight, right?
- 21:26So we just learned it wasn't on it tonight.
- 21:29But let's say it was on it tonight.
- 21:31I didn't hear it, but he knew it.
- 21:33We trust him to tell us. He claims that right after the
- 21:36fact, that's fine. Or if it was a case of an onus,
- 21:40we trust him, gaddaf khoden shabar al shibuyatov.
- 21:43But we only trust him if he explains this to us before he
- 21:48violates the shore aval in Kavar Avar Eno Nelman, the Potromi
- 21:52Malkos. I believe even if he's in the
- 21:55Shiva zone it's called, we still believe him unless he violates
- 21:59the Shiva right? The tenaya passes, so now he's
- 22:02stuck with this shavua. We still believe him.
- 22:05If he says none of the old shavua was on a tanai and
- 22:07therefore it shouldn't be Hal, then we believe him.
- 22:09But once he's high of malchus, already everything went through.
- 22:13It was Hal. We saw him violate it.
- 22:16Then we don't say, oh, you know, after the fact.
- 22:19You know, I was thinking this not shut.
- 22:22My heart was somewhere else. And da da da, if we say dvarium
- 22:26should believe anam dvarium, right?
- 22:28That's we only believe him if it's before he gets malkus.
- 22:31Unless of course, the shock points out Yeshwag lying Madavar
- 22:34again. Every case you have to judge and
- 22:37see what's what's appropriate, what makes sense.
- 22:40Think better. Just stop.