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You overate, now what? · SAY GRACE | Weight Loss + Health for Overwhelmed Women- Stress, Busy, Consistency, Realistic, Motivation, Starting Over, No Restrictions

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  Okay, y'all, there is a first time for everything, and today is the first time,
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  and maybe the last time, that I'm actually recording this podcast from my car.
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  So, long story short, I had a podcast on deck to record, and we had to,
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  on that day, we had to end up going to see a vehicle.
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  We are shopping for a big mama car for
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  this third baby on the way and it was a drive and so to see this vehicle and
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  say I'm like okay well I'll just everything else for work is wrapped up so I
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  will just do this podcast on
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  the road and so here we go the auto might or the audio might be terrible.
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  But I'm gonna do my best and so I even have
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  like I brought my little fancy I have a tiny mic and I
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  brought that but it does not want to stay connected
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  correctly in my car so anyway we were just doing it all school and
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  if y'all know and I think I think it's a great example of
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  the topic of this of this podcast conversation which
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  is perfection is impossible and so like how
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  are we going to move forward anyway right and
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  so I think that's a really good foundation to stand on as we head
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  into talking about this topic now I
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  know some of y'all are going to ask me if I did get the car
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  and I did not we got all the way over there and
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  they just you know how
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  when you get the ick like some people just give you the ick and
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  this car finance guy just gave
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  us the ick gave me the ick big time was really
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  trying to manipulate us with numbers and I was like bruh
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  you have you have
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  come to the wrong ones for that because jess.
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  Is such a numbers guy so just
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  i didn't love the vibe i did i didn't you know and we weren't
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  desperate enough for the vehicle and so we did
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  not get a car and i'll say we're we're headed back and
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  jess is like i feel like i mean
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  i took i feel like i took an l today babe you know like he's
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  just kind of feeling frustrated because we've been looking for a specific type of
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  vehicle for a while now with the baby
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  on the way and i'm like
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  dude you didn't take an L like it just wasn't meant to be like this just wasn't
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  meant to be and he stopped and he looked at me and he said who are you like
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  who even are you these days and it's true you know like the me in fact the vehicle
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  that I'm in we bought shortly after I had glory and,
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  That version of me was so anxious to get the vehicle that, like,
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  I was ready to pay more money.
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  I was ready to, you know, get it without even, you know, worrying about all
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  the important things to, you know, make sure you don't get a lemon or whatever.
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  Like, I was just so anxious to get it. And then that, in turn,
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  makes him as my husband and the leader of our home anxious, right?
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  And it makes him in a tizzy and whatnot.
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  And so this time around, it was seriously so different.
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  On the drive down there, I'm like, okay, it'll be what it's going to be.
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  I'm a podcast in this car either way you know and so I think that's just such
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  a testament to I love little reminders like this I'm just a testament to the work that I.
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  Did on myself and I'm continuing to do on
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  myself to keep my nervous system at bay
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  and and I mentioned this because I think this this matters
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  in this topic today and so I'm going to go ahead and dive on into
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  the topic and we're going to talk about when you
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  overeat right like when you
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  feel like you blew it because you overate like
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  what do you do next right because we
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  can see it going you know one of two ways we
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  can either get on over it and get
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  back on track or we can put ourselves in
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  a tizzy and make it worse right and so
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  a lot of times if we are dysregulated or
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  if our emotions are out of whack or you
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  know if we are just all up in our fields or
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  really distracted or whatever we can
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  allow ourselves to continue that road destruction
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  instead of just saying hey let's get
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  back on track and so today I kind of want to just talk through that
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  and hit some points with you you know and this may be something you listen to
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  now but then you come back and you listen to it again on the day that you actually
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  do experience that overeat or you know the weekend or the week that you experience
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  that overeat you know it's not always one meal it can be like a whole week of
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  a free-for-all and then you're like, oh my gosh, what have I done, you know?
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  Okay, so the first thing that I think is super, super important in this entire issue.
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  Is, why did it happen? Okay. And I know, like, who wants to reflect back on
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  their mistakes? Not me, right?
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  But it can often be the most beneficial thing you could do for yourself in this situation, right?
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  Is to say, okay, I over ate, instead of running from it and hiding from it and
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  trying to pretend like it didn't happen, right?
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  Or instead of starting to just tell myself all these negative,
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  horrible things about myself.
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  Can I really, honestly, like, detach from the feelings, detach from,
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  you know, what the state that I'm in right now, if I was a friend of the person
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  that did this, right, if I was on the outside looking in,
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  could I ask myself, why did this happen, okay, like, what has been going on
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  that may have led to this, for instance,
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  were you hardcore on trying
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  to quote diet this week right and so you were
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  really tight with your calories you were trying to eat like mainly vegetables
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  and lean proteins you know things that weren't like you didn't have as many
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  filling things as maybe last week would have entailed you know were you were
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  you trying to really tighten up with your nutrition and maybe.
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  The volume wasn't quite
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  enough that you needed to stay full and then
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  that turned into what full-on hanger but cut
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  because of it you know a lot of times when people try to lose weight they go
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  all in and they truly under feed themselves in a in a like huge effort to try
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  to see like some major weight loss in a short amount of time and you feel like
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  oh you feel so good about it at first You're like, oh,
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  look at me. I'm so strong. I have so much willpower.
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  But we know from, you know, if you've ever listened to another episode of mine,
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  willpower is not infinite.
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  It is not everlasting. And so as you are not eating and not eating and saying
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  no to the donuts and no to your co-workers to Mexican and no to your kids forever.
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  Driving through chick-fil-a and you know your willpower is
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  diminishing and could you
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  have just hit the bottom of that willpower tank you know because we use our
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  willpower for other things as well like you know stress at
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  work and whatnot emotional things you
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  know we're all constantly burning through that willpower and so could that have
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  been the case like could you have hit the bottom of your willpower tank or could
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  you just have truly truly not eaten enough like your body finally was like dude
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  you've got to feed me some more food you know could that have been the case.
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  Were you okay this happens to a lot of
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  my clients oh a lot were you busy
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  like did you have a super busy day or even
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  a super busy week and you just didn't have much time
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  to check up with yourself with your
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  food like there was no way you had time to meal prep or think
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  about anything so you're just kind of grabbing snacks or hardly eating
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  like I cannot tell you how many of our ladies and
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  myself included sometimes right will just get so caught up
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  and so busy in their day and be like crap I
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  worked through lunch or you know I forgot my afternoon snack and
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  then they get home and they're ravenous right
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  you're you're winding down from the day you're feeling that
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  release from the day and you're also cooking dinner
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  and so then what happens you binge out on snacks
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  while you're cooking dinner you're like shoving the cheese in your mouth it's
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  supposed to go on top of the casserole also while you're cooking dinner right
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  and then you eat way too much of your dinner portion as well this happens so
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  often and so it's like instead in that moment instead of feeling like oh my gosh oh,
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  why did I do that? I'm such a failure. Like, can you just honor,
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  honor yourself and give yourself some grace, like truly look at that situation
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  and say, okay, I can understand why I did this.
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  You know, it was a crazy day.
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  Like I can understand why I did this. Right.
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  Or this is a big one for me lately is, are you not getting enough protein?
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  Okay. Protein, all of our macronutrients work together to
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  keep us full y'all know this by now but like protein really
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  does help us like keep the
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  fullness longer so if
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  you were eating like a bunch of carbs or a bunch of fat or
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  whatever and not much protein you can
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  find yourself hitting that bottom and being ravenous before
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  you know it and so for me this is the thing right now because
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  protein is just not really my jam it never has
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  been but when i'm pregnant it's really not and so
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  then i'm like oh my gosh why am i wanting to eat the house
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  down and then i'll realize okay because you've had probably 20 grams of protein
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  all day and it's 4 p.m you know what i mean and so really just like looking
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  at that okay could that be an issue for you or this is another really big one
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  i see okay are you going throughout maybe your day,
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  your week, heck, your month, I don't know, you know, are you smothering out your emotions?
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  Like, are you, are you feeling emotions and feeling feelings trying to bubble
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  up in you and you're just like, I cannot look at that.
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  I do not have time for that. You know, I cannot face that right now because
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  emotional eating is a for real life thing, right? And so if your emotions cannot escape.
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  If you cannot release your emotions and you just continue to shove them back
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  down, shove them back down, baby, they are going to fight harder and they are
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  going to fight in different.
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  And so this is why sometimes you've had a really hard and stressful day,
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  but like your co-workers don't know it because you are Miss Peppy at work and
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  your husband doesn't know it because, you know, he's got his own stuff to worry about.
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  And your kids don't know it because you want to be the excited, happy mom.
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  And then guess who finds out? Guess who's the one that finds out?
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  Your pantry cabinets, right? Like the doors to your pantry at 10 p.m.
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  Because you cannot continue to just push it down, push it down,
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  push it down and not expect it to still try to come up in some way or another.
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  It presents itself in some form or fashion, regardless of, you know,
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  how hard you try to keep it down.
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  And so I see this a lot. And this is why I'm with IPFM Plus Ladies.
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  We we really dive into this because
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  they they want to like ignore
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  that part like they just want to be like okay why can I not choose to eat healthy
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  every day why do some days go and I get a salad and then some days I eat endless
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  baskets of chips and queso and a margarita and just so happens those some days
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  turn out to be like Thursdays or Fridays or Saturdays right And I'm like,
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  well, you probably was struggling all week long emotionally and mentally,
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  but weren't allowing yourself to feel it, right?
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  And so thinking about that, like, do you find yourself at the end of a stressful
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  week or in an emotional period, like overeating more often too?
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  Those two go hand in hand. There's a ton of science behind it, right?
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  Or did you just set your bar too high this week?
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  And this is something we talk about a lot here but like did you
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  say you were going to stay within your
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  calories and you were going to work out every day and you're going to drink your
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  water and then you also signed up to work your kids class party and then you
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  also you know had to help your husband organize something for work and then
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  you also were going to your mom's to help her decorate or like you just had
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  so many things going on and you you had great intentions when you set out to do all of this, correct?
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  But we do not hold an endless capacity.
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  We are not robots. We are not superhumans. And this is something that the world,
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  baby, it will tell us that we are.
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  The world will say, you are a superhuman. You can do more, more, more, more, more.
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  You can consume more, more, more, more, more. But what happens is we want to explode.
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  And so sometimes we explode with our food, right? Like we just like binge out to numb out, right?
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  Because everything feels so heavy and so stressful.
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  And so just did you set that bar too high? Do you need to zoom out and say,
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  okay, I have got to say no to something. I have got to...
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  Take some time to rest. I have got to ease up, right?
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  Another thing is our hormones. And this is one, this is something so funny that
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  I did not realize I was going to get to know about RPF and plus ladies.
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  But like, I have gotten very, for my ones that have been around for a little
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  while, I've gotten very in tune with when their cycles are about to come on.
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  Like, I'm like, okay, I feel like you're about to start your period next week.
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  Like, what's your, what's your app say and they're like oh my gosh yes I'm
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  supposed to start Tuesday or whatever and and so you
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  I can just tell because again they find
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  themselves slipping more you know that they
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  they are going over their calories more often and also the
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  mental frame the mental mindset their
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  frame of mind that they're in is different
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  it's not as positive it is
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  you know a little more highs and lows and
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  so again that is like we always
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  want to fix it right like I'm gonna say okay yeah
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  I'm about to start my period but still I should be losing I should be doing
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  this I should be no like can we just offer ourselves like some grace can we
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  just say man these hormones we got we got Eve to thank out here you know for
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  these hormones and like I'm just gonna be gentle with.
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  This week. I'm going to have some compassion with myself for the next few days.
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  Being gentle with yourself and having compassion are not the same things as
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  just saying, I'm going to have a free for all and I'm going to forget about my goals.
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  Like you can still have goals while also being gentle with yourself and having compassion, right?
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  Like those are two things that can coexist.
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  And so the next question that I would like really encourage you to ask yourself after,
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  you know, why why did this happen the next question would
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  be what happens next right like what you
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  have the power to choose what's going to happen next okay you may feel like
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  your your thoughts and your emotions are dictating your next step but they're
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  not you have the power to stop that okay and so what i see a lot of women doing
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  is spiraling after this they're like oh i'm such a failure.
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  You know, I can't do this.
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  Like, this is the pattern I always choose.
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  You know, I'm never going to lose this weight. Like, just, they,
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  yes, they overate and it may affect their weight loss, right?
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  Like, it may affect their weight loss, depending on how severe it was.
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  A lot of times it's not as severe as you think it is.
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  You're just so disappointed in yourself for not doing what you set out to do, right? Right.
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  But that like the the swimming and the
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  in the disappointment in yourself is doing nothing to
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  move you forward it is steadily holding
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  you in place or moving you backwards in the goal that you set and most of you
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  listening right now I know without a doubt you have done this so often that
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  you know it like you know well I'm gonna sit here I'm gonna have a pity party
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  for myself for the next few days.
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  I'm going to eat the house down for the next few days in the midst of my baby party.
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  And then I'm going to find the motivation to start back up again and try to
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  reach my goals again, right? Because I'm going to get sick of it.
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  I'm going to get sick of the fact that I let myself go, you know?
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  And that is a repeating cycle. And that is the exact reason you are not seeing progress.
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  That is quite literally the exact reason. If you would get out of that cycle,
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  those multiple days, weeks, months of cycle of saying, I'm going to hit it hard
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  versus, well, I'm just going to feel sorry for myself and let myself,
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  you know, do whatever I want to.
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  If you would stop that cycle and just say, yep, I overate, but that meal doesn't
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  have to dictate my next meal, right?
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  Like I can still choose for this meal that it's going to look the way I want it to look.
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  I can still choose to make the right decision, right?
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  And so it's thinking about.
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  What comes next and how you
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  in an ideal world want that to look and a
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  lot of times it's thinking about it now it's thinking about it before it happens
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  when you're in the midst of your pity party after the overeat it's going to
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  be 20 times harder to like pick yourself up off the floor but if right now you
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  say to yourself okay next time I overeat you know if I can catch myself mid-over-eat,
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  that would be amazing. But if I don't catch myself, okay.
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  But next time I do it, I'm not allowing myself to take that behavior into the next meal.
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  Not tomorrow, the next meal. Okay. A lot of people are like,
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  oh, I'll just start over tomorrow or I'll start over Monday.
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  No, no, we don't have time for that.
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  We are starting the next meal. The next thing you put in your mouth needs to be thought about.
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  It does not need to be emotion-based and it
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  needs to be something that you feel like was a
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  wise choice because then you are that is you
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  taking that effort to correct your behavior
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  and it's it's not even really about
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  like the weight loss or the calories or whatever it's about
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  your brain when you take that next step to
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  correct your behavior you're telling your brain this
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  is not what we do anymore no like gone
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  are the days that we overeat and
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  then sit in that for for days and weeks and
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  you know continue to eat calories in
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  excess and choose you know unhealthy foods and
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  and go against every single thing we're trying to strive for
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  food wise right gone are those
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  days brain so get used to this because this
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  is the new me the new me knows she's not
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  perfect and yeah may have an overeat every now and then but she is going to
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  get right back on track at the next meal at the next thing that she puts in
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  her mouth right and so that is like it's it's a course correction and what you'll
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  notice after you do it a while is.
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  You start to be able to course correct in the midst. Like you start to,
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  you know, you see yourself going down that same rabbit hole.
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  Like I'm about to go back for my second plate or I'm about to continue eating
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  even when I'm full or whatever.
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  And you are, you have, it's like, I told a PFM Plus client this today.
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  This was about something different about her showing up for her exercise.
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  It's like flexing a muscle, right? The more you do it, the more you set out
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  to do something and then follow through with it, the easier it becomes to course correct as you go along.
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  And so you are training your brain to change its direction and do the right thing.
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  Do the thing that you know you would be more proud of tonight when you went to bed, right?
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  And so another thing that I just, I want to talk about here just before we kind
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  of wrap up, well, a few, two more things, but I want to encourage you when you do have an ovary,
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  to move your body and not from a, not from a perspective of like,
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  I got to burn off these extra calories that I ate, you know,
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  cause that, that seems like a punishment mindset,
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  but more from a, a perspective of when we move our body, we release endorphins.
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  Things just don't feel as heavy anymore.
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  When we, in our body, we feel, we feel emotions inside of our body.
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  We feel the things inside of our body, right? And so if you've had an overeat
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  and you're disappointed in yourself, you feel that, right? Like it shows up.
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  You have tightness in your chest. Your shoulders feel like they're squeezed up to your ears.
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  You may be clenching your jaw, right?
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  You just may notice yourself being a lot more tense or you may notice yourself
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  being a lot more like slumped, you know, like that posture of just defeat and
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  I've given up and that kind of thing.
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  And so we feel those emotions in our body.
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  And so sometimes we just need to take that time to reset those feelings and
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  getting out, taking a walk,
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  even doing like a 10 ass chat GPT to write you a 10 minute full body workout,
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  something easy, moderate or hard, you know, whatever you want to do. I don't know.
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  But just to get your blood pumping and get your mind on something different
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  and let your body kind of release some of that stress,
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  some of that weight, some of that overwhelm that otherwise you would just sit
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  in, right? And then what would you do?
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  You would scroll your phone looking for, you know, easy, easy ways out or,
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  you know, you would, you would ruminate on all
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  the negative of things there is to ruminate on in the world you
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  know like you wouldn't make it any better but if
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  you could just say like okay I I agree and
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  like no I'm not proud of it no and honestly Constance I can't even feel like
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  forgiveness for myself right now I do feel a lot of guilt you know but I can
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  go move my body I can release some of this tension that is inside of me so that Hopefully,
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  I'm able to clear my brain and walk forward in a more positive mindset so that
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  I don't continue on this path of tension and frustration and guilt and shame
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  and probably make it feel even worse. Right.
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  And so that and obviously, yes, moving your body is going to burn calories.
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  It's going to make you feel better totally across the board. Right.
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  About the whole thing. But but for me, moving and that is releasing.
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  The thing inside your body that you're feeling that doesn't feel so great.
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  And it's a game changer. And so I will say I'm in the midst,
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  if you've been following me on social lately, you know, I'm in the midst of
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  like really trying to work through some things with the business and just how
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  I want the programs to look and how I just feel this coming upon a season of change.
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  And I'm like, OK, what does this look like?
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  And I am so frustrated because I can't get clear.
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  Like I cannot find the clarity of what this
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  actually looks like for us right now and I'm
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  in deep prayer about it and I think that's part of it I think God's
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  going we're gonna see you know let's just let's just hang around and see how
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  long we can we can you know look to me for this and we can surrender for this
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  I don't think I'm going to get the answer immediately and I think that's part
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  of my surrender process with the Lord right but it still doesn't stop the fact
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  that I am I'm frustrated.
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  I'm annoyed. And I think that could be said for so many of y'all with your weight loss journey, right?
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  Like, you know, this is a walk in discipline.
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  You know, your weight loss journey is a walk in daily, like surrendering food
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  to the Lord, daily surrendering, like your control to the Lord and daily trying
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  to, you know, have more of that discipline and.
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  For not only the health of your body, but for the Lord, right?
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  And so I know you can relate to what I'm saying. And so I found myself in a
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  lot of frustration. And so I will literally just, like, when I can, stop and go for a walk.
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  And it can't be long all the time, right? Like, I can get on my walking pad
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  for a few minutes. I can go maybe make one lap outside in my neighborhood.
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  But, like, it can't be, you know, a 45-minute walk. And that's okay.
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  We don't need 45 minutes. to still
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  feel that good release that can come from moving your
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  body and even if you can't do that y'all you can
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  if you're stuck in an office all day or somewhere you can
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  go to the bathroom do 10 squats when
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  you stand up do 10 push-ups against the wall
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  you can do that circuit like three or four times like you can
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  you can find something to move your body you know
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  and so I just wanted to
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  throw that out there because I think oftentimes all
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  we need is that quick reset and we
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  just don't make the effort like we just don't put that
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  first foot in front of the other to make the effort to do the reset but once
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  we do we're so glad we did and we noticed that things don't feel as heavy it
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  doesn't feel as miserable like we don't feel as big of a failure and we are
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  we kind of reset our brain to say,
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  okay, I can do this, right?
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  It's not going to be perfect, but I'm not going to give up on myself.
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  And that truly is the end game.
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  There is absolutely nothing you can do after you've overeaten that will course
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  correct it or, well, that will.
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  Erase it how about that there's nothing you can do after an overeat that will erase it,
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  and and that's that's part of the frustration right like we're just
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  like oh if I could just go back and fix that you know what I mean and you can't
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  you cannot and so a lot of times we go to this punishment mindset like I shouldn't
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  have done that so I need to go do xyz or I need to not eat tomorrow and that
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  really doesn't help because it still keeps you in that negative frame of mind.
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  And so all you can really do is do your best to release it and then walk in
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  the way you know that you want to walk.
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  Decide that you're going to show up at the next meal as the person that you want to show up as.
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  Okay. And so that is with any goal, any, anything, it's, it's every,
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  small step we are choosing to show up
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  as the person that we want we want to be the person we
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  desire to be and part of that includes
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  letting go of maybe the
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  person you didn't love you know three hours ago when she was eating the row
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  of Oreos in the pantry you know you didn't you didn't love that version of you
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  and so you've got to let go of it because it's stewing on it isn't going to
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  help so anyway I hope you guys enjoyed this episode Lord have mercy I hope it don't sound I'm like,
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  who knows what out here on this podcast this week.
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  But as always, and y'all, oh my gosh, especially on the topic of overeating, remember to say.