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048 - Social media in the garden w/ Ashley Abedini · Here's to You

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  No, yeah, I think you are pretty stoic in general.
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  Maybe. Yeah, like I I could see that.
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  I feel like, yeah, I'm like always the person who's just
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  like, subtly saying jokes and it's like very sarcastic.
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  I'm a I'm a sarcastic as hell too.
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  Like when I become sarcastic, I get very like, yeah, I know what
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  you're saying, you know what I mean?
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  Like, and that's when I get very stoic.
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  And then like a lot of people don't like that because they
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  think that I'm. You're not as bubbly.
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  Well, they think I'm being for real.
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  Oh, I guess so, because I'm not as bubbly.
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  I feel like I like being around people that are very out there
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  and super expressive and like, like, I don't know, I like being
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  around those people 'cause like they bring me to the light.
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  Like they force me to be like out of my shell a little bit,
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  you know? So I like, I like that you have
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  the balance. It seems like you know.
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  I think I just have like a lot of dark jokes too.
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  That's yeah. And.
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  And so like, I like the best, Yeah.
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  And I love when people just, it's kind of like we just, and I
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  am like this too. Like I take life seriously, but
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  I also don't, you know what I mean?
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  Bitch, I feel that. You know what I mean?
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  You know, life is hard and you gotta make the most of it.
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  Yeah, and you gotta be able to have like, fun and I gotta be
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  able to joke. And I don't always wanna be on.
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  I don't always wanna be on. I mean not people are too real,
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  but life is too real. Life is too real.
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  Life is way too real to just like, like at the same time like
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  where I'm very like, this is the moment that I care a lot or
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  whatever. Like there are a lot of topics
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  that I get serious on, you know, but then also like there's other
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  topics like being able to be sarcastic that I'm not going to
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  get serious on. Yeah, I mean, even serious
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  things I think you can be humorous about, you know, and
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  deliver it in a way that's funny.
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  And I try to do that, you know, 'cause it's like, I don't know,
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  I'm afraid of like posting just like politics all the time.
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  So it's like, how did you got to come from it from like a fun
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  angle? Or yeah.
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  Because I know. Yes, Yeah.
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  Have we hit record already? OK.
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  I think I'm just going to like what we're going to do right now
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  because this is just going and then we're going to continue
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  this. Who is this weird person that
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  we're hearing right now that is stoic and just, you know, also
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  sarcastic and takes life serious, but doesn't take life
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  serious. So that's why she's a content
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  creator, but she's also a marketer and that's why she's a
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  foodie. But she also likes to garden
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  because we need to have both things in order to have good
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  food. You know, that's how you
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  experience good food. It's all.
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  A balance. Yeah, it's all a balance and
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  she's weird, but she's not weird, right?
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  Do I use weird a lot? I hope that's not.
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  No, not at all. It's not offensive.
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  OK, Good, good, good. I always say that it's normal.
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  Yeah. What's normal exactly?
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  I don't know. Exactly.
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  We have Ashley here today with ICT girls and Abedini social.
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  I just can we angle it so she doesn't see it.
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  I don't want her to look at it and think like, can you see
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  that? I can see it, but I'm not gonna
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  like it's not. You're not going to look at it,
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  are you? Sure, You promise?
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  I'll be like, we've only been talking for a minute.
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  Oh, I'm just kidding. I'll be fine.
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  OK. You sure?
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  Yeah. OK, OK, good.
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  Good. That's why I've.
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  I've been thinking about the so we finally have a clock here or
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  timer or whatever. It's legit.
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  It's legit. It's getting legit, y'all, It's
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  getting real. Like shit's getting real and I
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  hate it. It's getting.
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  Real. You guys got a little?
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  Bit I mean. I'm legit.
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  Yeah, we we had to get the clock because I get tired of trying to
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  update her of the time, like secretly without you knowing.
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  Yeah, and then that's true because like you can hear
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  lately, you can hear me tapping in the thing, you know, like I I
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  can. Hear fat fingers.
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  It's my you know, I'm just kidding.
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  You got very dainty fingers. They're very feminine.
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  Sausage fingers. Fanister McAllister here.
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  You know that shit. No, you're too skinny.
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  I'm just kidding. I don't, I don't mind, right?
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  I love a good shit talking. I love like this is the type of
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  stuff that I love. If your friend can't say it, who
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  can? You know.
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  If you have bad eyebrows, your friends don't love you like they
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  don't. They don't.
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  Because you're so important. They are and like so if you have
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  bad eyebrows, you're from some. Point.
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  I mean you're kind of fucked like if somebody over tweezed.
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  Yeah. Or like, let's say somebody just
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  did one of these and like that's just their face.
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  Like what do you do to that? Yeah.
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  Well, I mean, but yes, really. No.
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  Yeah. Well, I mean like all I'm saying
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  is that like, if your friends can't tell you.
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  I mean I I get the point. Yeah, 'cause like.
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  You're free, Yeah. Your friends don't love you.
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  I feel like my friends, too. It's like, if you're really my
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  friend, it's like we're just blunt.
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  Yeah. You know, like, I don't take
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  subtleties. Very.
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  Well, I don't either. You know.
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  I can't read between the lines. I'm like is this a jar?
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  Like what else is you know? I can't.
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  I can't read between the lines and sometimes I can.
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  But you know what? I choose not to on purpose
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  because we're grown-ups. So say it with your chest
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  please. Yeah, and I mean, I'm pretty
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  blunt myself. I am too.
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  I appreciate a good person who can be candid.
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  Yeah. Like, of course, like, let's be
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  nice to each other, like. Astrology sign.
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  I'm a Libra. OK, I honestly don't know too
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  much about Libras. Are they known for being honest?
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  Like, brazenly honest. No, no, I don't think so.
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  Yeah, we're known actually typically like balance.
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  So like you're always looking for justice and then also like
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  love. That makes sense for me.
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  OK. And typically you're a people
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  pleaser and typically you're very flirty or like that's just
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  kind of what is the, do you think I'm flirty?
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  I I could get that fine. I mean, I didn't think you were
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  like flirting with me, but I mean.
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  Should I? Maybe I'm flirty.
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  I mean, it's not a bad thing. I already think, should I I need
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  to make her feel good? You know, yeah, I'm
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  unfortunately not a bisexual. It.
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  Expands your. Option.
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  Hold on, do I look bisexual? Is that why you you can?
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  Say straight vibes, but you do have blue hair so you never
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  know. Why do these lesbian allegations
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  continue? I'm tired of them.
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  I just do you. Do you get allegations?
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  That yeah, I do. It's it's always the hair.
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  It's the hair like people I. Feel like there's a look, like
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  it's a, you know, a conservative look in Kansas.
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  And if you don't fit that, look, people may, you know, give
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  allegations that you're a lesbian or something.
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  Yeah, well, like, OK, no, not lesbian.
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  They're. Bisexual.
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  Yeah, yeah. Who isn't?
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  We're all on a spectrum. Exactly like what is normal You
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  you get me. I mean, the Kinsey scale, like I
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  do believe that we're all on the spectrum.
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  Kinsey scale, Yeah. What's that?
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  Look into it, it's so fascinating.
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  What? What is it?
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  Dusty, 'cause it sounded like you knew.
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  I mean, I don't know, I was laughing about something.
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  Oh, what's do you want to share? Yeah, what you like?
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  What's happening? Yeah.
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  Do you have an experience? You want to talk about 'cause
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  you said you said that, you said that, you know, everybody's on
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  like the a spectrum of sexuality.
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  And it just reminded me of a story that I heard earlier today
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  about some Nazis like this is. Interesting.
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  World War. Two Nazis?
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  Were they lovers? No.
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  Well, so they had the concentration camps and along
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  with a lot of the torture that they used to bestow upon the
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  Jewish folks, they also made the guys like, you know, be naked
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  and like they would like hit, hit them with sticks and stuff
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  in their genitals. But then also they would make
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  them jerk each. Other off Fuck dude.
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  You know how you guys gave me an edible before?
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  This yes my. Eye is God.
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  I am sober. That's not where I thought you
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  were going to. Go with me.
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  Either I don't know where I thought I was, like, I don't
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  know him very well. We'll see.
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  Yes, he's still in left field. Yeah, so I mean, yeah, you know,
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  even the Nazis were on the spectrum a little bit, man.
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  You're not going to make your prisoners jerk each other off
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  just because. That's a good point.
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  Yeah. I mean, I'm sure there was like
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  humiliation aspect of that. Yeah, a lot of those, like top
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  three dudes next to Hitler, they're gay.
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  That makes sense though, because they're really pissed off.
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  It's always a powerful white man.
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  It's. Always.
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  Actually, I was just talking to a friend about this about how is
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  this racist? Tell me guys about.
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  I'm like, don't get me involved in this.
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  This is pretty impressive that we're like 5 minutes in and we
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  could probably scrap this whole. 1st I don't think we should.
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  I don't think we should. Oh, I see what there's no hair
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  at. What age have you adjusted your
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  age range? Listen, I adjust my.
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  I told. I asked my mom once, I was like,
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  hey mom, like if you were me, like what should be the age
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  range 'cause I was like, you know, she married my dad.
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  He was 10 years older. OK, I, I've dated older too, you
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  know, totally get that. But the idea of dating somebody
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  that's over 40 is wild. But I'm 36.
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  You've never dated somebody older than you.
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  Like significantly older. OK.
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  What's significant? Well I've dated people about my
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  age, like 2-3 years older. OK.
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  And I'm open to anything. I feel like, you know, it's too
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  old when they look like they're kidnapping you.
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  Oh. For sure, for sure.
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  Like if it's a sugar daddy situation.
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  Of course, yes. But aside from that, it's kind
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  of like everyone's about the same, like everyone has the same
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  challenges. Like we go through the same
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  shit, you know what I mean? Like, I probably have more in
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  common with like, an older person than like someone who's
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  too young. So I don't know.
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  I'm still trying to figure out my age range.
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  OK? OK.
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  Because it's like, how old is too old?
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  Like, I don't want homie to be like, you know, I got a
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  retirement plan that's like active next month, you know,
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  like that's a lot. Yeah, I don't, I wouldn't do
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  that either. I I think like. 30s Forties.
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  The oldest I'm I just entered 30 the welcome.
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  Thank you. Thirty 30s.
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  I feel like I've been in my 30s for a while though, like I just.
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  You know, like I've lived a long.
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  Life. Yeah, I've lived a long ass
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  life. That's actually that's that's
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  exactly what it is that I just said.
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  Like, OK, if life wants to chill, that'd be really fucking
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  cool. Like you want to give your
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  toughest battles to someone not here man.
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  Jesus, I'm not a strong soldier. I am not a strong soldier.
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  Get out of here. I'm tired of it, but I, I think
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  like I've just I, you know, you grew up fast.
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  I think also like first Gen. tends to grow up fast a lot.
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  So you feel like you need to balance that with someone who's
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  a little older maybe? Sometimes, I guess.
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  Typically I have always dated older.
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  I've never. I used to be like my cap was
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  gonna be 10 years and then I met somebody who did not look old
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  and then and then they told me they were age.
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  How much? Older.
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  Were they like 15 years? No, 10 years.
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  Oh, that's not bad. That's why I'm I used to say
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  that was my cast. No.
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  No, actually I used to say, I used to say it was five years.
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  And then I met someone who was 10 years older than me.
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  And then I was, but like this person, homie, also did not look
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  that much older. And they're like, at that age,
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  there was a moment that I thought he was younger than me.
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  I was like, what the fuck? And then I, one of my good
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  friends goes, remember that one time that you were like, I think
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  he's younger than me. And I was like, yeah.
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  Well, maybe men don't have the stress that women do.
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  Maybe. Well, it depends.
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  If there's some melanin tune, that's when they don't.
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  Look no 100%. That's what it is.
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  And 'cause then so again, at first I thought it was 5 and
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  then the 10 happened and then I thought that was my cap on mine.
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  I'm never doing that again. Like, and then it wasn't a bad
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  experience. I just was like, that's a lot,
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  you know, I guess in relative terms, the count, it's on your
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  fingers. And then I met somebody who was,
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  I think like 12 years older than me.
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  I also did not look. Yeah, I mean, I guess 12 isn't
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  that bad. I feel like if if you were like
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  in your early 20s or something, that'd be different.
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  Or there was like a power imbalance.
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  Yes, but I'm all about whatever, like whatever works out.
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  And I think too, it's like, do you want kids 'cause that's a
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  whole nother aspect of it, you know?
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  And it's like. Well, both of them didn't.
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  I didn't have to so like. Or maybe you'd want to be a
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  stepmom and then like if they already have kids.
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  Don't give more. Elevation to these.
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  People they're. Just saying like, not everybody
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  wants to have kids. I don't want kids.
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  I think like for the longest, like OK, and I want to hear your
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  thoughts on this too. And then the age stuff too.
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  Well, you know, both. That's why I was just like, then
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  that happened and then I 'cause they don't, you know, like, but
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  everyone, everyone does not look like fucking.
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  They just don't crack. No, what is it?
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  Asians don't reason anyways. You're not wrong.
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  And that's that and. My people don't age well.
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  Yeah, same. I'm Mexican.
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  That's what I think everyone's always like Mexicans ate, donate
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  or they also hide their age. And I'm like, I don't know what.
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  I know lots of Mexicans who I know their age.
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  Yeah, maybe because you just know a lot.
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  Of them, it just, it just hits us all at once.
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  At a certain age, yeah. It does, that's what.
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  They're that's funny. I've.
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  Explained this concept because like for someone who maybe
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  doesn't have a lot of I'm not saying you don't, but like
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  explain this concept I love. Asians man, I love Asian.
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  Population. I fuck with them.
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  I don't know. There's like, I don't know if
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  you want to call it like theories or hypotheses of like
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  scientific. Experiment.
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  The more like like having like more melanin and skin tone to
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  you like it somehow keeps you younger.
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  Yeah, but most people who are, yeah, they don't tend to show
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  their age until just a certain day, then all of a sudden years
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  old. It's it's especially true with
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  Asian folks and. I feel like you think about that
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  when you think of like Asian media.
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  There's always like a really young, beautiful woman and then
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  you see an old woman. There's like not a lot of
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  transition. Yeah, no, yeah, there's not a
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  lot of transition. It's just one day we look like
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  we're 40 and then the next day we're 68.
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  You. Know that that and like Don
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  would always tell me that too. And I was like, well, I guess
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  maybe I just haven't like my friends, like your guys's
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  parents are look like their age. But then like my other friend's
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  parents, like Emily's parents, Selena's parent.
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  We're talking about the age difference, right?
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  Like they do, they look so young, like, man, like mom, like
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  Selena's mom. She looks exactly like Selena.
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  Like I'm just like, damn, dude. Like her skin is so good.
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  It's like, yeah. And I always want to be like,
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  what's your secret? But it's probably just like
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  there's no secret. Yeah, they just wash it.
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  They just wash their face with Dove Dove soap and everything is
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  fine and they don't eat and they barely even and like like
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  Grandma de la Campana and then everything's fine.
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  Everybody around me is getting Botox, you know, OK.
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  And I'm just like, I don't want to be that person, but it's
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  like, I don't know, everybody's getting Botox, you know what I
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  mean? And it.
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  Is a trending thing. We actually that was the spam
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  thing that came to us in the mail, in the mailbox, not in the
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  mail which I do have some ranting about the mail, but.
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  Post office sucks. I'm just tired of fucking
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  getting mail. I'm tired, I think.
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  I'm sorry. I'm everything.
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  Yeah, hold on. Yeah, let's go to the spam.
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  We had a spam account and so we don't lose that Botox comment.
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  We had a spam. Account really important shit
• 17:40
  we're talking about right now. Anyway, some somebody was
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  pitching a guest to come on to the show and it was a doctor
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  lady. Oh.
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  And they did Botox. Based on a Florida Yeah, Botox
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  along with some other stuff. I think, 'cause I did look her
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  up. It's like, is this a real
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  person? And then, you know, are they
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  even in Kansas? And they weren't.
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  Well, I. Mean does if they want to fly,
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  If you want to fly and get on the podcast, come over.
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  If you want us to drive, we're only drive.
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  We're not flying to you unless you want to pay us then OK.
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  No, it probably would have been pitched as legazine thing.
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  Oh fuck no. Well, I'm sorry, Depends.
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  Well, maybe until she got the vibe, it was like very
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  promotional about your business, you know, like, there's so many
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  podcasts where it's like, this is what I do and that's it, you
• 18:32
  know, Which there's nothing wrong with that.
• 18:34
  Yeah, but those get kind of boring, I think.
• 18:38
  I think so too. That's why I think we just talk
• 18:40
  about a lot of random shit, but with guests.
• 18:42
  And then we always still talk about the guests.
• 18:44
  So Speaking of Ashley, tell us about ICT Broke Girls.
• 18:50
  And then also what gets you into your Abedini business?
• 18:57
  I'm trying to go back to we're gonna be jumping around a lot.
• 19:00
  That's. That's fine.
• 19:02
  So. PhD Yeah, so I have ICT Broke
• 19:06
  Girls, and I actually started a food account way back when when
• 19:11
  I was living in Austin and it was ATX Broke Girls.
• 19:14
  ATX broke. Yeah, and I started it 'cause I
• 19:17
  mean, I felt like everybody in Austin was really rich, OK, you
• 19:20
  know, but it's. Like what does ETX stand?
• 19:22
  For Austin. Austin.
• 19:23
  Texas, you said? EATX.
• 19:27
  OK, OK, that helps me now, 'cause I heard, I heard.
• 19:30
  I understood the Texas part, but then you said ETX, I heard.
• 19:34
  I heard a. I mean, I think I'm high, I
• 19:37
  think. My mind filled in.
• 19:39
  It's all your meme. It's not doing this.
• 19:43
  But no, I mean, I realized like, I would go to these cheap happy
• 19:48
  hours and like everybody around me would go to these like bougie
• 19:52
  dinners and bougie stuff. And I'm like, how are people
• 19:54
  affording life right now? So like, I created an account
• 19:57
  that was like making fun of this pretension in Austin, you know,
• 20:01
  like it's a lot of like. Tech Bros and it's a lot of
• 20:04
  like, just like I've never met so many spoiled people and not
• 20:09
  like, I mean people just who had money that you just don't meet
• 20:11
  in Wichita. So I was like, this will be a
• 20:13
  relatable account. And I created that.
• 20:15
  And then I COVID happened and I decided to move back to Wichita
• 20:21
  and I was like, you know, I can create this account in Wichita
• 20:23
  there. At the time there wasn't like a
• 20:25
  ton of foodies. Now it seems like there's a lot.
• 20:27
  There's a lot. Of there's a lot, but at the
• 20:30
  time, like there was a few people that were doing it for a
• 20:34
  long time, but there weren't a lot of people on Instagram I
• 20:37
  found. So I tried to break into
• 20:38
  Instagram and I was like, I would love to get clients.
• 20:42
  I do social media management. So I was like that would be a
• 20:45
  great way to meet people in Wichita is to make a food
• 20:47
  account. And it helped.
• 20:49
  I feel like when I went out, I'm kind of an introvert.
• 20:53
  Like I'm not the most talkative person.
• 20:56
  Like I won't go up to somebody and just introduce myself.
• 20:58
  But like a lot of people were recognizing me for my account.
• 21:01
  So that really helped get some business, you know.
• 21:03
  But I feel like you've been good at not like your account is
• 21:07
  still very I. Don't show myself that's.
• 21:12
  What I'm saying? I think people know what I look
• 21:15
  like, but I don't show myself all the that much.
• 21:17
  I don't want it to be centered on me so, so much except like, I
• 21:21
  just wanted to feature restaurant owners.
• 21:23
  But I find, you know, people want to know who I am.
• 21:26
  Yes, and I hate it. Yeah.
• 21:28
  But it's like people want that, you know?
• 21:31
  And it's like, I think if you can try to be vulnerable in an
• 21:34
  authentic way, that's a really rare thing, you know?
• 21:37
  And it's like, I don't know if I'm like the most authentic
• 21:41
  person online, but I try to just be myself.
• 21:43
  And I think that's gone a long way, you know, 'cause it's like
• 21:46
  a lot of people are, are kind of similar.
• 21:49
  Like they post about food, but they don't necessarily show an
• 21:52
  insight into their life, you know?
• 21:54
  And it's like on my stories, I'm always joking.
• 21:56
  I'm always like showing clips of my life.
• 21:59
  So it's like, I don't know if you know everything about me,
• 22:02
  you might not see a picture of me every day, but you still have
• 22:05
  a good idea of who I am. Yeah.
• 22:06
  You know, yeah. That's the vibe I'm trying to go
• 22:08
  for anyway. Yeah.
• 22:09
  You know, but I've been trying to parlay that into social media
• 22:14
  success. And like I've been able to meet
• 22:16
  some people here in Wichita to help them with, with social
• 22:20
  media. A lot of restaurants when I
• 22:21
  first started, which I feel like it's really fun to like market
• 22:25
  restaurants. It's easy, you know, you just
• 22:27
  post pictures of food and people love it.
• 22:30
  Well. I mean, I guess on the, well,
• 22:32
  good pictures, I guess on the census, you don't have to think
• 22:35
  of too much of the, you do have to think of how you're going to
• 22:40
  talk through the content I'm talking about.
• 22:41
  Like you don't have to think about how to like where to find
• 22:45
  the pictures, where to find the stuff to be able to do this.
• 22:48
  Because I think like if we only posted pictures of us talking,
• 22:52
  that wouldn't go is great, yeah. Versus posting a plate of food.
• 22:55
  It's a mix. I think, you know, people want
• 22:57
  to experience a restaurant before they go in it, so they
• 23:00
  want to see like the is it Instagram able?
• 23:02
  Yeah, like that's ambiance, like the stuff about it, because a
• 23:05
  lot of times people won't even go into a new place if they
• 23:08
  haven't seen it online, if they don't know what to expect.
• 23:11
  That's a good, you know. Yeah, like now and now I'm
• 23:14
  hearing that a lot of people, a lot of Gen.
• 23:16
  Z does not Google as much they TikTok.
• 23:19
  So like their way to search is or that's.
• 23:21
  Their search engine? That's just crazy.
• 23:23
  I thought so too. Like I didn't know that.
• 23:24
  Like I remember when I start to feel better and I start
• 23:27
  traveling more, I'm asking friends like hey, I'm going to
• 23:29
  go over here. Where should I go?
• 23:31
  Or like, what restaurant should I hit up?
• 23:33
  And they're like, dude, just like go to TikTok and I'm like,
• 23:37
  what do you mean? And like, yeah, they're like,
• 23:40
  why are you Googling? And I'm like, because that's
• 23:43
  what we do. And then they're like, no, it's
• 23:46
  TikTok now. And I was like, what?
• 23:48
  And so it's funny, 'cause like on the TikTok account, we are
• 23:52
  posting things and sometimes I'll even post some stuff about
• 23:54
  my life. I'm trying to get Dusty to post
• 23:56
  some stuff about his life. We're both very much like, I
• 23:59
  don't want nobody in my life. We're like, but we have to.
• 24:03
  It's a balance, you know. Yeah, and TikTok.
• 24:07
  I'm just not on it. I'm at.
• 24:09
  All really. I don't post very much.
• 24:12
  I'm like chronically online TikTok but I'm not posting on my
• 24:16
  food account or. Anything.
• 24:18
  Yeah, but I I love it. Well, I mean, what I was going
• 24:20
  to say by that is like I had one low level video that I made
• 24:26
  about like it was like, oh, you seem happier.
• 24:30
  And then like, you know the trend of like you seem happier.
• 24:32
  And then it's like, thanks, whatever just happened.
• 24:34
  And so mine was like thanks my Pristiq just hit cause for real
• 24:39
  dude. Like an antidepressant?
• 24:41
  It is like dude like it. I'm feeling joy.
• 24:46
  It's crazy, but I'm also. Friends you know.
• 24:48
  Yeah, but now I'm also, I'm feeling all of the motions and I
• 24:52
  don't like. Like how do I feel something
• 24:55
  without feeling everything? Yeah, I'm like, I'm getting off
• 24:58
  the meds. Fuck that, I said.
• 24:59
  I'm staying on the meds 'cause it was cool, 'cause of the.
• 25:01
  Are you off meds now? No.
• 25:03
  Oh, you're on meds? That's.
• 25:04
  No, I'm saying like that's my new stance.
• 25:07
  Oh, OK. Like for the listeners, I'm
• 25:10
  talking about this stuff all the time.
• 25:13
  And I said stay on the meds guys, they work, get off the
• 25:16
  meds because I'm tired of feeling.
• 25:19
  That's relatable. That's relatable.
• 25:21
  I'm bipolar. So like, oh, you, you don't like
• 25:25
  bipolar? People don't want to take their
• 25:26
  medicine, you know? Oh, that's funny, that.
• 25:30
  Makes sense. So are you on meds for the
• 25:32
  bipolar? Yeah, I'm on meds.
• 25:34
  Meds are good. Let's take your meds.
• 25:37
  I got the best. I don't want to pull a Kanye,
• 25:40
  you know what I mean? Like I don't want to be an.
• 25:42
  Asshole. That's somebody I also heard
• 25:44
  about earlier today. That's funny that you're talking
• 25:47
  shit about. I mean I was this is related to
• 25:50
  all the Nazi stuff, but how are? You getting on these topics?
• 25:54
  Unfortunate for Kanye, I guess. Or maybe not.
• 25:57
  Unfortunate for him because he's the anyway.
• 26:02
  You know what's sad? I love Kanye's music.
• 26:05
  Like I just posted a reel to like one of Kanye's song, but I,
• 26:08
  I felt conflicted because I was like, he's a like a Nazi, right?
• 26:11
  Like yeah, saying some crazy shit, but I mean.
• 26:14
  Yeah, his new album had a song called Hill Hitler.
• 26:16
  No fucking way I have it I. Didn't know that to.
• 26:19
  Be honest, I didn't know that I didn't either.
• 26:21
  But everybody knew this. No.
• 26:22
  Well OK, I am a Kanye fan too. I feel the same way.
• 26:25
  He even made a music video and. He's bipolar and I love like the
• 26:29
  fan. He's bipolar.
• 26:29
  He has some songs that talk. About it.
• 26:31
  Oh my God, I just realized I just did that on camera.
• 26:35
  Edit that. One said.
• 26:37
  It wasn't me, it was Kanye. If I get cancelled guys.
• 26:44
  This is going to be the episode that gets us cancelled.
• 26:46
  We've been looking. We've been.
• 26:47
  Searching for it actually it was a food account it almost took us
• 26:51
  episode 48 to get. Here and I think.
• 26:54
  That's a really good thing you. Know I'm going to put out a
• 26:57
  press release once I get out of here I'll be late so.
• 27:02
  It's a good thing you're a marketer, you know you know how
• 27:04
  to manage this. I'll.
• 27:05
  I'll just be like, PR crisis averted.
• 27:07
  Oh. Man, you know, I mean his old
• 27:09
  music was really good. It was really good and that OK,
• 27:13
  it's hard when do we do the full cancel culture because I feel
• 27:18
  like cancel culture isn't good right but there and but then
• 27:22
  there's. Some ask.
• 27:22
  I don't know cancel culture's like that's, that's a loaded
• 27:26
  thing, you know, it's. Such a loaded thing.
• 27:28
  It's getting crazy. I mean, it's getting crazy.
• 27:30
  People get passionate about just cancelling someone just to like,
• 27:34
  I feel like we want, we praise people, we praise celebrities
• 27:38
  all the time and we get them on the status and then we love to
• 27:41
  watch them fall, which there's something sick about that.
• 27:44
  Like I get it. Yeah, you know, especially do I
• 27:46
  love that. That's why I love Island is like
• 27:48
  that too. Like I watched the whole.
• 27:49
  Season too fast. I feel like I've watched love
• 27:51
  island on TikTok. OK fair which is embarrassing.
• 27:54
  I haven't watched like the whole episodes.
• 27:56
  I do think that's fine. You're getting well, unless
• 27:58
  you're seeing. I'm probably getting like an
• 28:00
  edited version I'm sure. Yeah, or you're not seeing like
• 28:02
  the whole episode where they also do a lot of the challenges.
• 28:06
  I don't know if you. I haven't watched like the Love
• 28:08
  Island Challenge. OK, no.
• 28:09
  So they so they also have to do challenges and they're very
• 28:12
  sexual. Or OK, I've seen OK as part of
• 28:15
  the Love Island show. OK, Yeah.
• 28:17
  But what I'm trying to say by that is like I and I watched it
• 28:21
  too. I didn't stop watching it, but
• 28:23
  like looking at how they go through it and like forcing them
• 28:28
  into these situations where they have to go and make these deep
• 28:31
  connections supposedly, right, But you have to go do this deep
• 28:35
  connection. They're they're there I think
• 28:38
  for like a month or something. It's a short amount of time.
• 28:42
  It's not a lot, but. They're supposed to find the
• 28:44
  love of their life. Yeah, and they're supposed to
• 28:46
  also. So they don't have any contact
• 28:49
  to the outside world. The phones that they have are
• 28:51
  not like they can't talk to their family.
• 28:53
  So it's only them and they're with them.
• 28:55
  They're told when to wake up, when to go to sleep, and you're
• 28:58
  not allowed to feel your feelings.
• 28:59
  So like, how does crash out kind of make sense?
• 29:02
  Like honestly, all of them. Like I just kept thinking like
• 29:06
  they're really pushing them like to do a lot of these things.
• 29:10
  And I'm not saying that that's a bad thing, but like it's you
• 29:13
  start to normalize certain. Stuff 100%.
• 29:15
  And and it's like could. You imagine living with your
• 29:18
  partner. Yeah, like.
• 29:19
  Or like, you're the love interest you have and you're
• 29:21
  living with them and all you do is hang out with them because
• 29:23
  there's nothing else to do. Yeah.
• 29:25
  So it's like you're gonna feel very strong when it's weird that
• 29:29
  a lot of the couples, when they get out, they won't even say
• 29:32
  they're in a relationship, which is real because if you've only
• 29:35
  known somebody for a month, maybe you don't want to like,
• 29:38
  rush into that. But it's weird because it's Love
• 29:40
  Island and your whole premise of your success is who you partner
• 29:44
  with. Yeah.
• 29:44
  Afterwards, Yeah. Like I was watching.
• 29:47
  It's weird. I was telling a friend about
• 29:48
  this, but on TikTok, I'm everything is pro Huda.
• 29:53
  But like I was going to a watch party with some friends and
• 29:55
  everybody hated Huda and like the IT was like had people had
• 29:59
  such an opinion about her and. Everyone has opinion.
• 30:02
  On on my TikTok, all I thought saw was like good things about
• 30:04
  her. So I was like pro Huda.
• 30:06
  But then I went into the watch party and everybody was like, so
• 30:08
  anti Huda. Yeah, she is.
• 30:10
  I think she's narcissistic. She is.
• 30:13
  She is. But I mean, for sure, they're
• 30:16
  all reality stars. Aren't they all kind of
• 30:18
  narcissistic? Maybe yes.
• 30:19
  She's definitely. I mean she was annoying in a lot
• 30:23
  of the episodes I think. I think that I think her crush
• 30:26
  shot was valid though. Which one?
• 30:28
  I mean like the first one, you know?
• 30:33
  That's fair. That's fair.
• 30:34
  I think the first one is valid in terms no, like it's valid in
• 30:37
  the fact of that she's feeling her emotions.
• 30:40
  I'm not saying. 'Cause that's such good TV.
• 30:43
  The the the other part of emotions right is that they they
• 30:47
  are always valid in like, but that doesn't mean that they're
• 30:50
  logical. I mean, I'm not.
• 30:52
  Saying that she's logical for going crazy, I'd.
• 30:54
  Probably come off as a crazy bitch, honestly.
• 30:56
  Yeah, so I get it. Editing's probably not great
• 30:59
  either. Yeah, but.
• 31:01
  Yeah, what I don't know what I'm trying to say is she cracked
• 31:04
  like dude, as in there was a lot of pressure that they get on
• 31:08
  there. And then I think the UK one,
• 31:12
  there were like a couple of them that committed suicide after the
• 31:14
  show. Like like just the the mental
• 31:17
  shit that goes with that. Like you're forcing someone to
• 31:19
  go and get a deep connection, but you're pushing this on them.
• 31:23
  But you have to do a multiple of them.
• 31:24
  You're not allowed to process any of.
• 31:26
  It, I feel like frankly, people shouldn't be that hot.
• 31:32
  I'm just being real. Like if I was like, as hot as
• 31:35
  some of these people on Love Island, like, I would be a
• 31:38
  menace, you know what I mean? Yeah.
• 31:41
  Just, I mean, I don't think I'm ugly, but I don't think I'm
• 31:44
  like, I don't think I'm getting scouted for Love Island 25 or
• 31:47
  whatever the fuck they're on, you know what I mean?
• 31:50
  Like. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 31:53
  It's just how God or the universe made them I guess.
• 31:57
  A joke that I look like of the farms.
• 32:01
  You don't. You don't even mean by that.
• 32:02
  Like why? I could be living in maze, you
• 32:06
  know what I mean? And I don't mean that as a put
• 32:08
  down a maze. This.
• 32:09
  Is so hilarious but you know what I mean.
• 32:12
  Y'all need to follow I? Think in more of like the
• 32:14
  countryside of Rhode Island. Oh, that's, I love that.
• 32:18
  That's a compliment. Yeah.
• 32:19
  Like you're like, but you don't belong in.
• 32:22
  You got Like Maze, you go to, you got.
• 32:24
  Like 2 cows and you take your yard dog on a walk next to the
• 32:30
  coast. Yard Dog.
• 32:33
  I love it. That sounds.
• 32:34
  Nice. That's true, because the dog
• 32:35
  can't go inside the house. Because you live on a farm, you
• 32:37
  love your animals, but they all live outside.
• 32:40
  It's OK because he hangs out there.
• 32:42
  And I'm just chilling with my animals.
• 32:45
  Honestly, it doesn't sound too. Bad garden.
• 32:47
  Yeah, yeah, like real gardens and fake gardens.
• 32:52
  I think real garden. Check on.
• 32:53
  Check on the tomatoes and. The corn I love that I'll turn
• 32:57
  into like my mom, my mom gardens.
• 33:00
  I want a garden but I just you do.
• 33:01
  Garden. It's in your jeans.
• 33:03
  It is in my jeans. Wait, like how my ancestors
• 33:10
  wanted, you know, so. What wait you have to do us now?
• 33:15
  Do what? Like what?
• 33:16
  Dusty just said. I don't know what my is.
• 33:18
  Yeah, yeah, you can go. I don't know.
• 33:24
  Yeah, I feel like the blue hair, yeah, is a characteristic that
• 33:28
  will go with you somewhere. Yeah.
• 33:30
  I feel like I can't escape. I love it though.
• 33:32
  I love it, don't get me wrong. How?
• 33:34
  Long Have you had blue hair? For like 2 years maybe now.
• 33:37
  Shit, that's dedication. Or maybe over a year, right?
• 33:42
  Yeah. Over a year.
• 33:43
  You meet a corporate lesbian wife and you both live in West
• 33:46
  Virginia. Hell yeah.
• 33:50
  But I don't have a Pixie haircut.
• 33:51
  Why West Virginia, though? Yeah.
• 33:53
  Cuz you have you both have corporate jobs.
• 33:57
  OK, I wanna be out of corporate. And you get sushi every other
• 34:02
  Friday. OK.
• 34:05
  Is that like a what she looks forward to?
• 34:08
  Yeah, like the the social event of them.
• 34:11
  Because you do. I do anything else.
• 34:15
  How can we make a lot more? Excited your corporate job is in
• 34:18
  your social nonprofit area that you want to be in, but your
• 34:21
  lesbian wife is still straight major corporate and because of
• 34:25
  how busy she is at her job, you guys can only go get sushi in
• 34:29
  the. Future Everyone's gay, you know.
• 34:32
  I like where this goes, but I also don't.
• 34:35
  I feel like OK, they'll keep you.
• 34:36
  Down to be straight hetero. Get out of here.
• 34:42
  I have seen a lot of those trends really popping up lately.
• 34:45
  Like our daughter is a heterosexual you.
• 34:49
  Know. What the fuck but.
• 34:54
  What are you going to? Do it's because I'm imagining my
• 34:59
  life, I think like it could be like a skyscraper, apartment
• 35:03
  building, maybe a loft. I see.
• 35:05
  I see a loft in this scenario. Hell yeah.
• 35:09
  Well, I mean, I'd be OK if she has a Pixie cut and she's super
• 35:13
  corporate. I'd be OK if it was like a it's
• 35:16
  not Amber Rose, but the other girl, you know what I'm talking
• 35:19
  about. She's lesbian too.
• 35:20
  And she, no, Amber Rose is not lesbian.
• 35:22
  I think she's bisexual, but she's a white girl.
• 35:28
  Like surprisingly that I'm saying her.
• 35:30
  I know. She's what?
• 35:31
  She's a white girl. Well, I don't know what side of
• 35:35
  white. I guess very soon she's white.
• 35:38
  What pigment? What?
• 35:39
  Pigment. Yeah, I don't know what pigment.
• 35:41
  I don't know what pigment, but Oh my God, it's going to kill
• 35:44
  me, you guys. Like she.
• 35:47
  Oh, she was on. Yeah, we need more clues.
• 35:49
  I. Know OK, she was in Orange is
• 35:52
  the New Black, she goes into pitch perfect three and she's
• 35:55
  playing the song Zombies. You know what I'm talking about.
• 35:59
  I love Orange is the New Black. She's in like season 6 of Orange
• 36:04
  is the New Black. She has hella tattoos.
• 36:06
  She has a Justin Bieber haircut. She looks more.
• 36:10
  Like I don't know, I'm chronically online but can't
• 36:17
  think of this one I know. Rose actress, This is gonna
• 36:24
  bother me 'cause I can't. Oh, I found her.
• 36:28
  Ruby Rose, yes, I you you guys want to know what I googled.
• 36:35
  I didn't go to TikTok. I put in lesbian Rose actress
• 36:41
  and it it popped up Ruby Rose anyways that that's as long as a
• 36:47
  lesbian is like Ruby Rose type of lesbian like as in she has to
• 36:52
  be hella tatted. I don't think I'm going to go
• 36:54
  for a budget. Yeah, I don't want, I don't
• 36:55
  think I'd go for a budget. But like, you're so pretty.
• 36:59
  You'd be the pretty like, well, there's pretty, pretty lesbians.
• 37:02
  There's a lot of. Yeah, I've.
• 37:04
  Met a lot of feminine. Ruby Rose is hot.
• 37:07
  There's a lot of yeah. I don't know.
• 37:09
  I can't honestly picture her, No.
• 37:12
  And orange is the New Black. She looks great there too, and
• 37:15
  she just looks great in general, like.
• 37:16
  She's like one of those. I don't know she's.
• 37:18
  Just really, she should be on Love Island, you know?
• 37:20
  She should be. She's a yeah, but she also seems
• 37:23
  like, not like, she seems like she's very much like fuck out of
• 37:26
  here type of vibe, which I love. Yeah, she's too bad for.
• 37:30
  Yeah, yeah. Like she's too much of A.
• 37:32
  Body she or like, she's just a bad girl.
• 37:35
  Oh, OK, that's Ruby Rose. I love her tattoos.
• 37:37
  Yeah, she's pretty tatted. I love that look even though
• 37:41
  it's like. Did you know she DJ Ed for a
• 37:43
  little bit? No.
• 37:45
  How cool You You love the look of tattoos?
• 37:47
  Yeah. I well, I have a client that
• 37:50
  they produce piercing needles for piercings and so I've been
• 37:54
  like getting into piercings, not like doing them, but I think
• 37:59
  piercings and tattoos are so cool.
• 38:01
  Yeah, you know, Yeah, it's become an aesthetic for sure.
• 38:04
  Yeah, I mean, it's more acceptable.
• 38:06
  You can have more piercings and tattoos.
• 38:09
  And yeah, you know, back in the day, like, you really weren't
• 38:12
  able to have much tattoos in like, corporate.
• 38:14
  Settings. No, no, you know.
• 38:17
  Yeah, but I mean at the library even like everyone's tatted.
• 38:20
  Yeah, I do love to see that. I love to see that people even
• 38:23
  have like just one or something that they're allowed or allowed
• 38:27
  or feel confident, comfortable to be able to express
• 38:30
  themselves. Like I do like that too.
• 38:31
  Yeah, yeah, I know. I'm like thinking of getting
• 38:34
  another tattoo. All mine are like covered, OK,
• 38:36
  you know, but it's like, I don't know where I'd get it.
• 38:41
  Are you at the point where it doesn't matter but.
• 38:44
  I don't. I think I was raised.
• 38:47
  My dad's from. You're looking at Iran.
• 38:49
  I don't know that. I saw it.
• 38:51
  Don't look. You can't look there.
• 38:55
  I was just raised conservative, man.
• 38:57
  Like when I told my parents that I like, got a tattoo, that was a
• 39:00
  big deal. Oh, my dad stopped talking to
• 39:02
  me. My dad stopped.
• 39:03
  Talking to me for six months, so I get it.
• 39:06
  That's crazy. I'd go to Dodge and I'd be like,
• 39:09
  hi dad. And you'd be like, he was very
• 39:12
  mad at me. And see, I was like also the
• 39:14
  first essentially of the cousins too that got 1.
• 39:18
  So I'm the first of the kids. My dad's the oldest.
• 39:21
  And so, you know, he kind of has to like push us to set examples
• 39:26
  too, in a way, but not really like a lot of, I have a lot of
• 39:28
  cousins who are my age too, and some that are older.
• 39:31
  No, I get that my mom was like hide your tattoo from your dad
• 39:35
  and like I never, I mean my dad's past, but like I never
• 39:38
  told him that I had a tattoo. You didn't.
• 39:40
  I think he just, I mean he found out.
• 39:42
  Yeah, OK. But I think it was something
• 39:44
  like he didn't want to talk about it.
• 39:45
  He didn't want to ask me and I never wanted to tell him, you
• 39:47
  know? Yeah, well, my first one, I got
• 39:49
  this one. And then like I told my mom I
• 39:51
  was going to get it. I hadn't been prepping them for
• 39:53
  years because I've always been kind of weird.
• 39:56
  I was 18 when it happened. Are you like the black sheep?
• 39:58
  Kind of. Yeah, I'm definitely the black
• 40:00
  sheep of the family. And yeah, yeah.
• 40:04
  I get that. But I've been prepping them for
• 40:07
  years about this and they're like, they're telling me that.
• 40:14
  Oh yeah, no, I tell my mom like, I'm going to get the tattoo now.
• 40:17
  I it's the first week that I move out of the house too.
• 40:20
  And I'm like, I'm going to get the tattoo now.
• 40:22
  And then she's like, no, right. You know, she's finally like,
• 40:25
  whatever you're gonna do, whatever the fuck you want.
• 40:27
  But she doesn't really want me to.
• 40:28
  But she's like, OK. And then I sent her a picture of
• 40:30
  it. She didn't realize how big it
• 40:31
  was gonna be. I just told her I'm getting it.
• 40:34
  She. She.
• 40:34
  Probably thought it was like a small little bass thing and then
• 40:37
  and then it's and. Then and then it's a, it's a
• 40:40
  dragon wrapped around a spade. There's words in it, you know
• 40:43
  what I mean? And then so she's like, she
• 40:47
  calls me right away. What the hell?
• 40:49
  Whoa. In Spanish, obviously, like and
• 40:52
  she's like Porcade said the menu.
• 40:54
  Why that size? And Porcade, you're not pinching
• 40:57
  my report like she's cussing. I mean, my mom does not cuss,
• 41:00
  which she's like, you couldn't even get a fucking butterfly.
• 41:03
  Like you go and get a fucking dragon.
• 41:06
  What the fuck is wrong? Like she's mad.
• 41:08
  She's like, your dad's gonna freak.
• 41:10
  Out. Yeah, she's so mad.
• 41:12
  No, I mean, she's freaking out, she's mad at me, she's getting
• 41:14
  me in trouble. And I'm like, mom, I told you I
• 41:17
  was getting this. Like, I don't know why you're.
• 41:19
  She like didn't really ask a lot of questions so.
• 41:21
  Yeah, You know, she was just like, OK, yeah.
• 41:24
  And then after the first, like my, my grandparents were pretty
• 41:28
  good about it. My dad was very mad.
• 41:29
  So it's also, again, it's the first week I move out.
• 41:32
  And so my siblings are like. Well, I like you're like, fuck
• 41:35
  it, I'm out. Exactly because I wanted to get
• 41:39
  it. I was supposed to get it.
• 41:40
  Well, no, I'm not. I'm about to be 19 because I was
• 41:43
  supposed to get it last year and or a couple of months ago.
• 41:47
  And I was just like, you know, I've been waiting because of
• 41:50
  them. And out of respect, I was, I was
• 41:53
  under my father's roof. Those are his rules.
• 41:56
  I have a new roof. Those are my rules.
• 42:00
  I get that. I get that.
• 42:02
  You know, I didn't. I waited.
• 42:04
  I don't know how old I was. I was in college OR.
• 42:07
  My my mission was always. Painted them at that point so
• 42:10
  it's like what's? In my mission was always to get
• 42:12
  tattoos like when I so like in high school, I get into youth
• 42:17
  entrepreneurs, the classroom. Do you know the class what I'm
• 42:20
  talking about? I'm familiar.
• 42:23
  I get. From Wichita.
• 42:23
  Yeah, I never, I went to like a small school wouldn't have that,
• 42:27
  but I'm familiar. I know a lot of schools had
• 42:30
  entrepreneurship yeah programs, which is really neat.
• 42:33
  Yeah, so like there was a moment too, when I like, I just really
• 42:37
  like art. And so I had gone real into the
• 42:41
  tattoo artist route and like, wanting to do that.
• 42:44
  And so like I was like I've been telling you for years, like I
• 42:48
  plan and get pretty that too. Especially if you're like the
• 42:51
  black sheep of the family. I feel like I am.
• 42:53
  And it's not that I do crazy things.
• 42:55
  Yeah, at all, really. I think these are mild things.
• 42:58
  I've done, I'm like kind of impulsive sometimes and that
• 43:01
  scares my family. Yeah, you know.
• 43:03
  It's cuz your impulsivity is just not as calculated as
• 43:08
  theirs, you know what I mean? But it doesn't sound like it's
• 43:10
  impulsive because I get what you're.
• 43:11
  Saying my family is just not impulsive, like they plan stuff
• 43:14
  out. Like the thought of like, me
• 43:16
  starting a business was kind of wild.
• 43:18
  Oh, OK. You know, And it's like for
• 43:20
  them, yeah, I flew out of a plane once, which, like, was
• 43:23
  wild like, you know what I mean? I just.
• 43:25
  Did you say you fell out of a plane?
• 43:26
  Not fell. Oh, you jumped.
• 43:29
  Jumped. Jumped.
• 43:31
  I mean, did you do that was. Like like skydive.
• 43:33
  Yeah, Skydive, I should have specified.
• 43:35
  Did you do a? That makes it sound bad.
• 43:37
  Like doesn't sound less dangerous.
• 43:39
  Do a flip. That's my.
• 43:41
  Dark humor you're. Gonna go out man, just do a
• 43:46
  flip. Now you probably wouldn't feel
• 43:48
  it. I gotta do.
• 43:49
  That. It's that far, but you know,
• 43:52
  just stuff like that. But I mean, I was a good kid.
• 43:54
  I like I was all, I don't know, like I didn't.
• 43:57
  I was a really good kid too. I didn't do anything bad.
• 44:00
  Austria days, I'm like my class was like 450 graduating class
• 44:05
  and I'm top 50 and you're like, I was a good kid like and I was
• 44:09
  all in honor and I mean. You know, I've had some issues
• 44:11
  with like bipolar. I have scared my parents for all
• 44:14
  so. Yeah, like a.
• 44:17
  Valid. There's some valid things, you
• 44:18
  know, and I don't know, my sister, my older sister, she's
• 44:22
  just like does everything by the book.
• 44:24
  And I love my sister. She's very organized, you know,
• 44:28
  like she has a goal, she sets it, she makes it.
• 44:31
  It's just, I don't know how to describe it.
• 44:33
  It's like she has a 20 year goal, you know what I mean?
• 44:36
  And I'm just not like that at all.
• 44:38
  I'm not organized. I don't think in like details.
• 44:41
  I don't know. I do.
• 44:43
  I used to even I used to have a plan out like that.
• 44:45
  I used to do that. I used to be very like this is
• 44:47
  when I'm doing this, we do need a transition at some point.
• 44:51
  This is when I'm going to do this and the transition was to
• 44:53
  him as a sidebar. I feel like I have goals.
• 44:59
  I I they're not structured as like.
• 45:01
  I need to accomplish this by the time I'm 40.
• 45:04
  Or no, I did. That, you know, and I think
• 45:06
  there's nothing wrong with that. Like people are different, but.
• 45:09
  I don't do that anymore. I used to be very like.
• 45:12
  That I used to think I'd have my life like together at a certain
• 45:18
  age and I would like have my person, you know, and it's like,
• 45:22
  you know, I'm 36 and I don't and I don't, I, I think I have my
• 45:26
  shit together to some degree. Yeah, but like.
• 45:28
  What is shit together? That's what is normal.
• 45:32
  There is no normal. There is no get together like
• 45:36
  that's true. We're always constantly going
• 45:38
  through shit like that's just the reality and we're constantly
• 45:43
  changing and growing. And if you're not changing and
• 45:47
  growing, life is changing and growing, and you're going to be
• 45:52
  stuck because it's going to keep.
• 45:54
  You need to evolve, and sometimes having that specific
• 45:57
  idea fucks it up a little bit, you know?
• 46:00
  But, you know, yeah, it's good to have a goal in mind, I think.
• 46:04
  Yeah, yeah, I used to be very like, and I'm going to do this
• 46:08
  and I'm going to day by day, I'm going to do this and I'm
• 46:10
  building the habits like this and I am very habitual like I
• 46:13
  am. But also that a lot of that
• 46:17
  stemmed from, I think, like I just felt like I had to be an
• 46:20
  overachiever. I had to go and prove myself.
• 46:23
  I had to go. Like the expectations people put
• 46:25
  on you. Yeah, yeah, Especially with how
• 46:27
  I am, how expressive I am, how weird I am, how black sheep I
• 46:32
  am. It was like, oh, she's going to
• 46:33
  fail. I like, it was a lot of like,
• 46:35
  oh, she's going to get pregnant. But when she's in high school
• 46:38
  and I'm like. That's horrible that somebody
• 46:41
  would even say that. Yeah, you know.
• 46:42
  Yeah, it is. It is very mean.
• 46:44
  And so like I felt like I just never even wanted a like date
• 46:47
  either. Like I just always felt like too
• 46:50
  young, too dumb, like I don't want to date because like, and
• 46:54
  then I didn't want anybody to look at me because of that
• 46:56
  either. And then I don't know, like it
• 46:58
  was just anyways, whatever. But all that to say, it's like I
• 47:02
  realized that I used to put my value to my output.
• 47:05
  Like that's how I used to equate my value, that it was like, if I
• 47:08
  did this, then I'm valuable. If I do this, then I'm if I own
• 47:13
  this, if I open this, if I get this certificate, if I whatever.
• 47:16
  Like I used to think like that. And I mean really and learned
• 47:20
  that. 100% I think at the end of the day, we're valuable people
• 47:23
  regardless of our output. Yes, yeah.
• 47:25
  You know, and it's like we, we live in a society where we're
• 47:28
  always on this hamster. We all like we have to get a ton
• 47:30
  of shit done to determine our worth.
• 47:32
  And it's like. No.
• 47:34
  There's that. I mean, that's just one aspect
• 47:36
  of our life, you know, But I don't know.
• 47:40
  We need a transition for a drink.
• 47:42
  That was my transition. Great, let's.
• 47:45
  Get it? Great transition.
• 47:47
  Thanks guys, this is a good conversation.
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  it on the first segment. Ashley, we made a drink for you
• 49:36
  today. How are you feeling about it?
• 49:39
  I'm feeling pretty good. Yeah, I like it.
• 49:42
  Famous Sir, what do we make for today?
• 49:44
  We made a bloody Pineapple Mary, which I don't really love, but I
• 49:50
  do it because I love you guys. I'm just a person of the people
• 49:56
  I just give. And no, I'm kidding.
• 49:58
  I like it. Well, it's just, it is good.
• 50:01
  It is good. But you had said that you like
• 50:04
  Bloody Marys, you're a foodie. And then like your other option
• 50:07
  was something sweet. But I was like, no, we can't
• 50:09
  make a simple basic sweet drink. Like it has to have substance.
• 50:13
  And I do. I feel like Bloody Marys have
• 50:15
  substance. They do.
• 50:17
  You know they're complex. Not complex, but weird.
• 50:20
  It's the Oprah of cocktails, I guess.
• 50:25
  Yeah, you know, and it's good for recovery, I guess.
• 50:27
  But today we also had some high post vodka in there because we
• 50:30
  haven't had a chance to use the high post vodka.
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  Shout out to One Life Spirits for that.
• 50:35
  And of course, we had to add some, you know, pineapple juice
• 50:39
  because we need some sweet. We had to add that complexity.
• 50:42
  Yeah. We'll see if Dusty puts this in
• 50:46
  the video. And if you do, you're going to
• 50:49
  enjoy it because I ran off in the middle of it.
• 50:52
  I think you should post it, but I mean, of course, all depends.
• 50:56
  Anyways, we were talking about overachieving and overdoing
• 51:01
  things right before we went to break.
• 51:04
  So I kind of want to talk a little bit about even just like
• 51:06
  how do you balance that with owning your business, still
• 51:08
  doing ICT broke girls, Where do you draw the line between like
• 51:12
  what's hobby, what's what's like your passion project?
• 51:15
  Because I think they're still a little different between hobby
• 51:17
  and passion project, right? And then when your business
• 51:21
  comes in and then when do you still, you know, well, I guess
• 51:23
  yeah. And when do you need to still do
• 51:25
  the part time stuff? Like when do you have time?
• 51:27
  When do you do the gardening? Like, how do you make sure that
• 51:30
  you're not overachieving or like only overachieving some things
• 51:35
  like gardening, you know? Yeah.
• 51:37
  I mean, I think it's it's totally a balance.
• 51:39
  We were talking before about how I recharge.
• 51:42
  I have to recharge a lot. And I find that especially with
• 51:46
  like, social media, you know, so much of it is the social aspect
• 51:50
  of it. So I do have to recharge.
• 51:52
  Yeah. You know, and I think it's kind
• 51:54
  of all connected. Like my food account is is just
• 51:58
  pictures of food. But it's like, that's how I get
• 52:00
  a lot of my clients, you know? So it's all kind of connected.
• 52:03
  And I try to think about that because, you know, like figuring
• 52:07
  out what to do, that's most more important.
• 52:10
  It's kind of hard because, you know, you have to do client
• 52:13
  work. But aside from that, it's like
• 52:14
  what's getting you leads? Yeah, you know, and I don't
• 52:17
  know, I mean, I think it's just, I don't know.
• 52:20
  That's that's a loaded question. It's hard.
• 52:23
  It is, you know, but you make time for what's important to you
• 52:26
  and. So aside, so tell me a little
• 52:28
  bit about your recharge day a little bit more.
• 52:29
  I understand that it that means that it's probably just you
• 52:32
  time, but like, walk us through your recharge day.
• 52:34
  Do you get on? Is there a day where you just
• 52:37
  are like I'm not doing social media, I'm not doing any
• 52:39
  consumption from a social media aspect, or I'm only doing
• 52:43
  consumption in the, in the way of like maybe a movie or show or
• 52:48
  whatever that might be. Or like I want to go to a museum
• 52:50
  or nature consumption or gardening consumption or
• 52:53
  whatever that might be, you know?
• 52:55
  So what is your recharge day? Yeah, I mean, I feel like to
• 52:58
  some degree I always have to be on social media because I'm, I
• 53:01
  have clients and it's like I have to respond within a day to
• 53:04
  Instagram. So I try to just be off of it as
• 53:07
  much as I can and. What is that?
• 53:09
  I want to know what your screen time is.
• 53:11
  Oh, girl, it's it's probably crazy.
• 53:13
  Like it's embarrassing. I'm like, am I sleeping?
• 53:16
  Like OK. OK, I have to know because my
• 53:18
  ever since we've done. What's normal?
• 53:20
  I don't even know. Ever since we've switched to,
• 53:24
  you know, video now and also putting up more things like my
• 53:28
  consumption has gone so high on social media.
• 53:31
  I used to have two hours Max and I had even blocks on them and
• 53:34
  now daily. That was daily and now it it's
• 53:39
  embarrassingly high, like 6-7 hours and then also my screen
• 53:44
  time on my phone 'cause I use my phone for a lot of things for
• 53:46
  work for. Dude, it's like every 13 hours,
• 53:49
  okay you. Better feel better because mine
• 53:50
  was 9. I'm getting during the week.
• 53:53
  That's and that's This is why I'm asking the recharge today
• 53:56
  because Saturdays and Sundays, that's when my consumption time
• 54:00
  is finally low. Like it's like 5 hours, four
• 54:03
  hours, whatever. But like, it's during the week
• 54:06
  because that's also when I'm posting.
• 54:07
  Yeah, I, I mean, I work part time at the library, so I work
• 54:11
  for myself like during the day. But Friday and Saturday are my
• 54:15
  off days, so I just try to be offline as much as I can, like
• 54:18
  being outside. I love walking, going on long
• 54:22
  walks. I love gardening before my
• 54:23
  walks. I love that, you know, and it's
• 54:25
  just so relaxing. Yeah, gardening's fun.
• 54:27
  You know, and it's like when it's beautiful weather, I try to
• 54:30
  take advantage of that. You prefer botanical gardening
• 54:33
  versus like, like grinding into a drink type of thing, right?
• 54:38
  I don't fuck around with like a lot of this stuff.
• 54:41
  Yeah, you, you, you just stick to the basics.
• 54:44
  Smoke. I have a pipe.
• 54:45
  Yeah, you know, just an apple or an orange, whatever's at home.
• 54:51
  I'm trying to get into edibles because like I don't want to
• 54:53
  smell people like judge you if you smell like weed.
• 54:57
  You know that's true. That's.
• 54:58
  True, so like I'm trying to do edibles for a few reasons but
• 55:01
  I'm I'm just not there yet. I just, I like meet you, you
• 55:04
  know, I just thought of somebody at my day job.
• 55:08
  I was going out to lunch the other day and I walked past the
• 55:12
  vehicle and it's like, oh, it's really.
• 55:15
  Hot bugs. I could, I could smell it before
• 55:17
  I even got to whatever vehicle it was.
• 55:20
  But as soon as I walked past that vehicle, definitely could
• 55:23
  smell it. There wasn't even anybody in the
• 55:25
  car. They just had their like sunroof
• 55:27
  tilted open and it's like, dude, your thing must reek.
• 55:30
  If the doors are shut and your things open, I can smell it and
• 55:34
  it's like you're 10 feet away. When you're like a Stoner, it's
• 55:36
  like when you have a cat, you don't realize you have a cat and
• 55:39
  it smells like a cat. What do you mean?
• 55:42
  Yeah no my friends, y'all better tell me.
• 55:45
  And, you know, I'm so self-conscious of that, that my
• 55:48
  house is gonna smell like cat because of the litter.
• 55:51
  I have two cats. Yeah, two.
• 55:52
  I love my cats, but like Tibs has had problems and so.
• 55:57
  But how small? They have good shit now.
• 55:59
  Like good. Yeah, and right now I think I'm
• 56:01
  trying to switch. So if anybody knows of good
• 56:03
  Kitty. Litter.
• 56:04
  I mean, I get ads for like all these automated cat litter
• 56:07
  things, but I'm like, do they think I'm just like this old
• 56:09
  woman who's just like, dying alone with cats?
• 56:13
  It's like the lesbian allegations for me.
• 56:15
  I hate when everyone's always like, you look like you're
• 56:18
  interesting and I'm just like. For me, it's like you look like
• 56:23
  you will die alone and it's like, all right.
• 56:26
  I don't know what's worse. I hate it though too because I'm
• 56:28
  one and you're getting overly sexualized and then another and
• 56:31
  you're like getting underly. Sexualized.
• 56:33
  Yeah, I'm underly sexualized. I like that word and.
• 56:37
  I don't mean. That how dare you not sexualize
• 56:40
  me enough. How dare you sexualize me too
• 56:43
  much? Trying to get trying to get
• 56:44
  under sexualized. You're like asexual I guess.
• 56:52
  I wish I was a starfish because starfish are asexual and I mean
• 56:57
  they can just. Repopulate I feel like.
• 56:59
  Asexuality is. Like probably a power.
• 57:03
  No. Because what do you do with all
• 57:04
  that? Time.
• 57:06
  So you're not like in a relationship or seeking a
• 57:09
  relationship or you care about a relationship?
• 57:11
  Well, I mean, that's what friends are for.
• 57:12
  That's what family's for. Like I value my friendships a
• 57:15
  lot. The relationships that I take
• 57:17
  your coven. OK, I'm.
• 57:20
  Single. Hey, it's out there.
• 57:23
  How would somebody be able to reach out to you for that?
• 57:25
  DMS? I have an Instagram account like
• 57:30
  it's not hard to find me. Right, right, right.
• 57:32
  Yeah. So what is your can we get well
• 57:36
  and anything is off topics. I forgot to tell you guys that,
• 57:39
  Ashley said. We can talk, I feel.
• 57:40
  Like I'm going to be like, oh wait, it's a backpack.
• 57:46
  Which is totally fine. But yeah, what as you're dating
• 57:51
  or wanting to date, what is one way that you like to be called
• 57:56
  upon? What does that mean?
• 57:59
  Called upon, I'm trying to say like Bridger, Ted Bridger, Ted
• 58:03
  Netflix. Whereas like they're doing,
• 58:06
  they're doing, they're calling girls as in like they're, oh,
• 58:10
  you have a gentleman caller. Yeah, this early 1900s.
• 58:14
  Like how do they? They used to so they had to like
• 58:18
  announce to the mom and ask the mom's permission because the mom
• 58:21
  was kind of like the one of the the decision for that of when I
• 58:26
  mean my daughter should have to procreate and she needs to be a
• 58:29
  good. Mother, what she's trying to say
• 58:30
  is how do you like to be wooed? Yeah, you.
• 58:33
  Know I was explaining it. Thank you.
• 58:35
  Food I feel like if I feel like that's a good, I have like a
• 58:40
  prompt on one of my dating apps, like what's your favorite
• 58:43
  restaurant? And I feel like I've gotten
• 58:45
  really good answers and like I've checked out places from
• 58:48
  people's prompts. So like if you like trying new
• 58:51
  foods, like that's cool. You know, there's a lot of
• 58:54
  people that don't eat a lot of like.
• 58:56
  Things. No, I hate that too.
• 58:59
  They're just very picky. It's very sad for them, like it
• 59:03
  makes me sad for them because they're missing out on some
• 59:06
  really good. Shit, a lot of people just eat
• 59:07
  like chicken, you know, and. I eat healthy, I meal prep a
• 59:11
  lot, but I'm also good for you. Thank you, but I'm also you're
• 59:14
  brave. I'm.
• 59:15
  So strong. It's just no, it just makes my
• 59:18
  life easy. I'm trying it just I'm trying
• 59:20
  for me it makes my life. It's more about making my life
• 59:23
  easier because I it's one less thing I have to worry about.
• 59:26
  It's true because I can easily hyper focus on.
• 59:28
  Something. Do you make like one thing and a
• 59:30
  lot of that one thing, or do you make different things?
• 59:33
  I had the same breakfast and then I had the same lunch and I
• 59:37
  had the same dinner and then I always I also do 2 snacks and I
• 59:40
  do that for five days. So my breakfast is the same for
• 59:43
  five days and. I feel like that's kind of
• 59:45
  boring. It's really not, but I like,
• 59:48
  well, The thing is that I don't do boring food for meal prep
• 59:52
  like I do a lot more like the meals that I would actually
• 59:55
  enjoy. Like I'm doing a lot of Asian
• 59:57
  food. I'm doing a lot of Mexican food.
• 1:00:00
  I for my breakfast, I do make it pretty plain, which is overnight
• 1:00:05
  oats. I do like to do that just
• 1:00:06
  because it's so easy and. It's.
• 1:00:08
  Mobile. Yeah.
• 1:00:08
  And it's mobile and it makes my life easy, so I'd like to do
• 1:00:11
  that. But like, my lunch and my dinner
• 1:00:13
  definitely have to be Asian food or Mexican food.
• 1:00:16
  That's typically typically my favorite.
• 1:00:18
  Stuff. That's a good tip, yeah, Because
• 1:00:19
  I feel like I've meal prepped before and it's like basic
• 1:00:23
  boring shit. No, Yeah.
• 1:00:24
  And it's like I. Don't want to eat this right
• 1:00:25
  now, let alone in five days. You know, and well, when I was
• 1:00:29
  in college, one of my really good friends put me on to meal
• 1:00:32
  prepping in terms of put me on as in like she used to get on to
• 1:00:35
  me about like I'm. Just trying to get healthier.
• 1:00:37
  You know, get healthier. She used to get on to me about
• 1:00:39
  getting healthier. Yeah.
• 1:00:40
  Yeah, exactly. And she would be like, I'm not
• 1:00:43
  such a. It takes years, bro.
• 1:00:46
  I hate it here like that. Hate it here.
• 1:00:51
  Just another thing to complain about.
• 1:00:52
  Like guys usually I'm more upbeat.
• 1:00:58
  You're like, Are you sure the meds are working?
• 1:01:01
  Who's your doctor? I'm telling you, I'm just
• 1:01:05
  feeling the feelings. That's.
• 1:01:07
  What life is it's feelings and. And stuff.
• 1:01:11
  But anyways, no, I used to there was a time that like I would
• 1:01:14
  always do salmon and I, I fucking hate salmon now.
• 1:01:16
  Like I can do salmon for a minute but like I just got burnt
• 1:01:19
  out on it. And it's like leftover salmon.
• 1:01:22
  Yes it's disgusting and just fish too for a while anyway.
• 1:01:27
  So now like all my meal preps are food that I want to eat, but
• 1:01:30
  I adjust the macros and I, I've recently got myself a fitness
• 1:01:35
  person who does it for me. So every six weeks she makes my
• 1:01:38
  whole recipes. Yeah.
• 1:01:39
  And I and she's always asking me what do I want?
• 1:01:41
  And I'm always like, and I send her like Instagrams a lot in tik
• 1:01:44
  toks and I'm just like, I want this food.
• 1:01:47
  And, or sometimes like if I want a very traditional Mexican dish,
• 1:01:50
  I tell her this is what typically I need to make it.
• 1:01:54
  And so she manages all my macros and I just follow it.
• 1:01:58
  That's awesome. So that's that's the only reason
• 1:02:01
  that's trying to help work for me, I mean.
• 1:02:03
  It's hard having a food account and like, not well, the thing.
• 1:02:06
  Is, you know, Yeah. The thing is that everything is
• 1:02:09
  good in moderation. Anything, anything is bad in
• 1:02:12
  excess. Even water is bad in excess.
• 1:02:14
  We should not be drinking too much water.
• 1:02:16
  Our liver's going to fuck up. We're going to drain our liver,
• 1:02:19
  and it's not going to be able to process stuff for us.
• 1:02:21
  And once your liver dies, you die.
• 1:02:23
  And don't ask me why. I know that.
• 1:02:24
  Because life sucks. Kidding.
• 1:02:27
  Wow. I need to.
• 1:02:28
  Stop. I mean, moderation is
• 1:02:31
  everything. Yeah.
• 1:02:32
  So you know, I went on a tangent and.
• 1:02:35
  I feel you. We're.
• 1:02:39
  Going to have to scrap a lot of this shit, yes, so I know.
• 1:02:48
  And so anyways, what I'm trying to say by that is like, you can
• 1:02:52
  still have pupusas, you can still have your good food, you
• 1:02:55
  can still have the malaise, you can still have gorditas, you can
• 1:02:58
  still have all of this stuff. You just need to adjust it to
• 1:03:01
  fit you. And yeah, you know, some people
• 1:03:04
  do have gluten intolerances or what have you, but or anything
• 1:03:08
  else. And I bring up gluten because
• 1:03:11
  it's it's really hard to find or even soy or whatever, but things
• 1:03:18
  are just relative. Everything's relative as long as
• 1:03:20
  you're also doing things. I've already lost I I've gained
• 1:03:23
  a lot of like over the last few years and it's like I lost 30
• 1:03:29
  lbs but man, I'm trying to lose like another 20 but like 20
• 1:03:32
  doesn't sound that hard. You think?
• 1:03:35
  That's a lot of weight. It is a lot of weight.
• 1:03:36
  I was trying to, I didn't have a number in mind because I didn't
• 1:03:40
  want to think of it in that sense.
• 1:03:42
  But like I, I was trying to lose like an area of my body where I
• 1:03:49
  had a lot stored a lot of body fat in my stomach.
• 1:03:52
  And I mean, really, I've only since I started this last
• 1:03:57
  August, more of a slow cut. And I'm finally switched to a
• 1:04:02
  just to I forgot the word because I'm high.
• 1:04:05
  But I need to stop doing this for the podcast too.
• 1:04:09
  I have a life, you guys. I really don't do bad things, I
• 1:04:13
  promise. Lies, lies.
• 1:04:19
  And I'm just vulnerable and authentic, right?
• 1:04:23
  Because that's what you're supposed to do over here.
• 1:04:24
  We're. So authentic.
• 1:04:25
  Right now we're so authentic. Oh my God, we're so aura.
• 1:04:29
  The aura is coming. The aura is.
• 1:04:30
  So real right now. Ong on God.
• 1:04:34
  OK, I'm done. I'm done.
• 1:04:36
  I can't fit in with these people.
• 1:04:38
  I mean, what do the kids say? They say I'm God a lot and
• 1:04:43
  that's all I know. If I I say these things to my
• 1:04:45
  nephews and they make they make fun of me every time.
• 1:04:48
  One of my nephews is 13 right now.
• 1:04:50
  He's about to be 14, I think. And he's always just like, oh
• 1:04:53
  God, I was trying to say the Skippity, the Skippity, whatever
• 1:04:57
  thing, see. I'm not.
• 1:04:59
  Even Skippity toilet, something I don't know but there was I'm.
• 1:05:02
  Not even cool enough to. Know I found out pretty recently
• 1:05:04
  anyways, food. Hell yeah food.
• 1:05:09
  It doesn't. I mean, yeah, like as long as
• 1:05:12
  like you just adjust. Oh I was trying to say like I
• 1:05:15
  think I've lost 8 lbs total. It's a lot.
• 1:05:19
  But it's not over. It's open over.
• 1:05:21
  Not overweight, yeah, but it's been over a long period, like 12
• 1:05:26
  months. That's awesome though.
• 1:05:28
  But that's what I'm saying. It's so small, small incremental
• 1:05:32
  change. Yeah, and but also like because
• 1:05:35
  she would make me do before and after pics or should it make me
• 1:05:38
  do pics every week? Oh, that's real.
• 1:05:41
  Yeah, and you see the difference?
• 1:05:44
  Oh yeah. Pictures.
• 1:05:45
  Oh yeah, Like I have fun. I.
• 1:05:46
  Don't want to take a picture of myself.
• 1:05:48
  I like hated that first picture, but it's like you see change in
• 1:05:51
  yourself that maybe the scale doesn't show immediately.
• 1:05:54
  Oh, 100. Percent it's but that's why I'm
• 1:05:56
  saying like I I've only lost very few pounds the number wise.
• 1:06:00
  But it looks so significant. It's a huge difference.
• 1:06:03
  Like my. That's awesome.
• 1:06:04
  Yeah, it's crazy. And it's like, you know, I had a
• 1:06:08
  kidney transplant a while back. So I'm just trying to do all the
• 1:06:12
  things, you know, I'm not trying.
• 1:06:15
  I don't expect to live to be 100, but at least I'll be a
• 1:06:18
  healthy. What's your?
• 1:06:20
  Goal age to live too. Girl, I don't know.
• 1:06:23
  God'll, God'll determine that. You know, I don't think I don't
• 1:06:27
  know. I mean, real talk, like I have
• 1:06:30
  this rare disease and I mean, people don't get that old
• 1:06:34
  really, you know, And it's like it's kind of complicated because
• 1:06:37
  like people didn't have medicine like me and me and my sister
• 1:06:42
  took medicine really when we were really young.
• 1:06:44
  So we have a chance at being old, if that makes sense.
• 1:06:47
  Good job. But there's just, you know, I
• 1:06:51
  mean, I just feel like you never know.
• 1:06:53
  And like, if God wants to take you out, he will, you know, and
• 1:06:56
  it's like we can go in a car accident later today and, you
• 1:07:01
  know, you have in the, in your mind what you're going to die
• 1:07:03
  of, you know? But it's like, who fucking
• 1:07:06
  knows, man? Life is crazy.
• 1:07:08
  So yeah, I don't know. I feel like once you realize
• 1:07:11
  that it's such a freak thing though, is it not?
• 1:07:15
  Like as soon as you realize that like.
• 1:07:18
  Once you're free of expectation, I think, yeah, I think that's
• 1:07:21
  really freeing. It's.
• 1:07:22
  So freeing. You know, but I don't know, I
• 1:07:25
  mean, it's kind of a scary thing to know that I probably won't be
• 1:07:28
  like super fucking old. But that but what I'm saying
• 1:07:32
  though, at the same time, I think like it makes you want to
• 1:07:34
  live life to the fullest. That's what I'm saying.
• 1:07:37
  It's like, it's such a freeing thing because like you.
• 1:07:39
  Realize what's important. Yes.
• 1:07:41
  And you really work on it. Like you're cultivating it.
• 1:07:43
  Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:07:45
  And you're just not afraid to give in.
• 1:07:46
  Whatever you're cultivating it. You might be afraid in other
• 1:07:49
  things. Like again, we're human and
• 1:07:51
  we're. But like man, some of my things,
• 1:07:53
  good friends that had my disease like already passed.
• 1:07:56
  Oh shit, I'm so sorry. I mean, I know a lot of people
• 1:08:00
  that have my disease that are healthy and I mean, but healthy
• 1:08:03
  means something different, you know what I mean?
• 1:08:04
  It's like they take a lot of medicine and they've had kidney
• 1:08:07
  transplants and like they're doing well, all things
• 1:08:10
  considering. But I don't know, it gives you a
• 1:08:13
  different perspective. I think when you have a health
• 1:08:15
  issue, you know, you think you see things a little differently.
• 1:08:19
  Yeah, you know, but. What are a couple of the things
• 1:08:22
  that you'd say? I, I don't know, I think you can
• 1:08:24
  like just slice through bullshit easier when you have something
• 1:08:27
  wrong with you, you know, cuz it's like, see people put all
• 1:08:30
  these this pressure on themselves to have like
• 1:08:33
  superficial goals by a certain time or like settle down.
• 1:08:37
  And it's like, what does that even mean?
• 1:08:39
  You know, and it's like, I don't know, you kind of realize what
• 1:08:44
  matters maybe and. What would you say matters to
• 1:08:47
  you? I don't know, just authenticity,
• 1:08:52
  having that like relationship with people, like that real
• 1:08:54
  relationship where you're talking to people, you're
• 1:08:56
  getting to know people, you know, I, I'm kind of an
• 1:08:59
  introvert in some ways, but it's like I really like connecting
• 1:09:02
  with people. That's why I like social media.
• 1:09:05
  You know, you're helping people with their business and super
• 1:09:08
  social media seems so superficial sometimes, but it's
• 1:09:11
  like it's truly helping someone, you know?
• 1:09:16
  So yeah, I don't. Know, yeah, 'cause you're,
• 1:09:17
  you're doing it from a connection lens, yeah.
• 1:09:21
  Where I mean there is a superficial side because it, it
• 1:09:25
  is pictures or it's videos or whatever and it is a look into
• 1:09:28
  your life or a part of your life which feels very vulnerable,
• 1:09:33
  whatever it might be. I mean, like still like if you
• 1:09:35
  own a business or if you're whatever it is that you're
• 1:09:37
  promoting, it's vulnerable. Yeah, like some person who tells
• 1:09:41
  you it's nice, like you're putting out things that you're
• 1:09:43
  you don't feel is perfect and people are already feeling so
• 1:09:47
  insecure or so or feeling whatever about that perfection.
• 1:09:51
  And I mean, I've shared a lot on my account with time, you know,
• 1:09:54
  I'm trying to be a little more open and like not talk about
• 1:09:57
  just food, you know, cuz there's a story behind all of us and
• 1:10:01
  maybe showcasing like restaurant owner story too.
• 1:10:04
  You know, like I made a post I'm really wanting to focus on like
• 1:10:07
  immigrant owned cuz I feel like Wichita is such a cool
• 1:10:11
  immigrant. Like it is exact place.
• 1:10:14
  It is and it's not cuz you have to go find it.
• 1:10:16
  So again, back to your point that you made earlier on the
• 1:10:19
  show about like how people now go and look for food online,
• 1:10:23
  you're not really you're unless you see a video, unless you see
• 1:10:27
  some pictures, it's really hard to know what you're going to get
• 1:10:31
  or you're going to go and kind of look it up ahead of time.
• 1:10:34
  So I do agree with that. So like one good thing about you
• 1:10:36
  doing that is like especially the immigrant owned restaurants,
• 1:10:39
  I mean, they're going to be more in outskirts.
• 1:10:42
  You're not going to be in outskirts as in like certain
• 1:10:45
  ends of the town that you probably don't.
• 1:10:47
  I say all the time the South Side is like the best food, you
• 1:10:50
  know, And it's like people are very scared of the South Side.
• 1:10:53
  Yeah. You know, I live on the South
• 1:10:55
  Side. I don't think it's that bad.
• 1:10:56
  But, you know, there's probably a lot of like, you know, racial
• 1:11:04
  element, You know, if people don't see themselves in that
• 1:11:07
  area, they might not feel safe, which is sad.
• 1:11:11
  It's really sad, you know, But it's a very mixed neighborhood.
• 1:11:16
  And I, I feel like I see a lot of Mexicans, blacks, whites in
• 1:11:19
  my area, you know, but maybe that's threatening to some
• 1:11:23
  people. You know, I live South side too
• 1:11:26
  or like just not super S but like literally barely.
• 1:11:30
  But I love that. Yeah, humbles you.
• 1:11:33
  We have good food. Man, yeah.
• 1:11:35
  And it humbles you. I mean, I live southeast side,
• 1:11:37
  but still, yeah, like not just straight down the middle, but
• 1:11:41
  yeah, like I would say I don't know, like, yeah, I I like
• 1:11:45
  seeing different. People, it keeps you real, you
• 1:11:47
  know what I mean? It keeps you real.
• 1:11:49
  Keeps it real, and I mean truly some good food, you know?
• 1:11:54
  I was just taking a look at, I've been scrolling through your
• 1:11:58
  Instagram here and when you said Southside, I just happened to be
• 1:12:02
  looking at this picture of egg rolls and sweet sour chicken
• 1:12:04
  from Egg Roll Express. I love.
• 1:12:06
  Egg Roll Express. They're so good.
• 1:12:08
  They are good. See, but like even that name is
• 1:12:10
  basic, I wouldn't think to go there.
• 1:12:13
  Like World Express, you know. Yeah.
• 1:12:15
  Yeah, and they, I don't think they even have like a social
• 1:12:17
  media really. Not really.
• 1:12:19
  It's more just like, hey, we're open, we're not open and.
• 1:12:22
  My favorite place is. Like Chiang Mai.
• 1:12:24
  Have you ever been to Chiang Mai?
• 1:12:25
  I love Chiang Mai, it's so good. I don't.
• 1:12:28
  Think I've been to Chiang Mai I. Love.
• 1:12:29
  I just, I'm obsessed with Thailand in general.
• 1:12:32
  I went once and I'm like, I wanna go back.
• 1:12:34
  Really. When'd you go?
• 1:12:35
  I went like 7 years ago, it was my first, a solo trip outside
• 1:12:40
  the country and so it was really fun.
• 1:12:42
  It was just me. I got a good deal so it was like
• 1:12:45
  $600.00 or some crazy shit. I love that.
• 1:12:48
  Yeah, the round trip flight is yeah.
• 1:12:50
  Damn, I know I had to. How?
• 1:12:52
  Far in advance, did you book that flight?
• 1:12:54
  Quite a bit like 5 months or something.
• 1:12:57
  That's not bad though. Not too bad.
• 1:13:00
  I I like was following this guy. His name was Scott Key's Flight,
• 1:13:05
  Cheap flights, and he would send out like flight errors and they
• 1:13:09
  don't do it as much as anymore, but people would just make
• 1:13:11
  mistakes. And you can book that price and
• 1:13:14
  probably get redeemed for that. So that's what I did and it was
• 1:13:18
  really fun. I feel like I learned a lot just
• 1:13:22
  how to be on your own a little bit in a different country.
• 1:13:25
  How long were you there for? There are probably like two 2
• 1:13:28
  1/2 weeks. That's that's still a really
• 1:13:30
  long time yeah and especially when you don't know the language
• 1:13:33
  cuz it's not like it's majority English I.
• 1:13:35
  Mean a lot of it, was it? Was OK, yeah, like I went a
• 1:13:37
  tourist. I went.
• 1:13:38
  To a lot of tourist spots. I went to some that were remote,
• 1:13:41
  but even they knew some English a little bit.
• 1:13:44
  Cuz that yeah, OK, a little bit to like enough to get enough to
• 1:13:48
  like understanding. Yeah, cuz Thailand is a big
• 1:13:52
  tourist country so yeah OK, OK. A lot of their main part of
• 1:13:56
  making money is through the tourist industry, so.
• 1:13:59
  But Southeast? Asia is coming in.
• 1:14:02
  I've been wanting to go to Thailand.
• 1:14:03
  English is. I wanna go to all of Southeast
• 1:14:05
  Asia. Honestly, I don't care about
• 1:14:07
  Europe at all. I wanna go to Vu.
• 1:14:09
  I wanna go to Laos. Like I wanna go to back to
• 1:14:14
  Thailand, like all the places you know.
• 1:14:16
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, what I like or where I
• 1:14:19
  want to do Europe for sure like that I don't want to miss out on
• 1:14:24
  is definitely Greece, just mostly because of the history in
• 1:14:28
  Rome too, so there. Used to be a lot of places I
• 1:14:31
  would I would enjoy, but like, maybe it's just not the first
• 1:14:33
  time I. Lived yeah that's what I'm
• 1:14:35
  saying too like it's not like if I but if I prioritize other
• 1:14:39
  countries like I I want to go to Thailand too I really want to I
• 1:14:43
  know it's not southeast because or is it so yes like I really
• 1:14:46
  want to go to Japan. I really want to go to Korea
• 1:14:49
  too. And yeah, like I'd love to go to
• 1:14:55
  Laos, but yeah, I don't know. Thailand's been calling too.
• 1:14:59
  Thailand's been calling. It's.
• 1:15:00
  Beautiful. Yeah, Ireland.
• 1:15:02
  I'd like to go to Ireland. What's over in Europe?
• 1:15:04
  Like that's what I'm thinking of or like.
• 1:15:07
  There's so many places, you know, yeah.
• 1:15:08
  Sometimes I really just kind of go like in this amount of time I
• 1:15:13
  wanna travel what is cheap and then I'm like.
• 1:15:15
  Cool. That's what I'm I go on Google
• 1:15:17
  Flight. It's like all the time I do for
• 1:15:18
  like not having a lot of money right now I'm just like, I do
• 1:15:21
  too. I go on Google Flight.
• 1:15:22
  It's like. I said I wasn't leaving anymore,
• 1:15:25
  I already booked a flight but also I'm sad so that's why I
• 1:15:29
  did. That I mean, I get that.
• 1:15:30
  You know. Retail therapy.
• 1:15:32
  But yeah, I feel like, you know, travel's important.
• 1:15:35
  It is. It keeps you humble.
• 1:15:36
  You know, my family didn't really travel too much when I
• 1:15:38
  was younger, and so I think it was just like exciting to be
• 1:15:41
  able to have that opportunity. You know, I Daydream about,
• 1:15:45
  like, quitting my job and just like, moving to Thailand.
• 1:15:49
  But then I realized, like, it's actually very hard to become a
• 1:15:52
  citizen. Oh, it is.
• 1:15:53
  Yeah, if you have health issues at all.
• 1:15:55
  Like they really don't fuck around with you.
• 1:15:58
  Oh, you want the population of VLA?
• 1:16:01
  They're. Like we all want to one kidney
• 1:16:04
  man like go home. So I mean, I think my best bet
• 1:16:07
  is to find a Thai man. So if you know a Thai man who
• 1:16:12
  like has. Citizenship.
• 1:16:13
  Have you? We don't, we don't know any Thai
• 1:16:16
  men do or I don't that I know from you, right.
• 1:16:18
  I have family in Thailand. OK, but I don't know any.
• 1:16:21
  From brother, I'm just kidding. No.
• 1:16:23
  OK. I was going to say, I'm like, I
• 1:16:25
  don't think any of them are Thai.
• 1:16:26
  Have you seen the show The White Lotus?
• 1:16:29
  Yeah, that Thailand travel has gone up since that show Which?
• 1:16:34
  Is that's why that's exactly what you're trying to do is be
• 1:16:38
  season 3 that Lady that it was gonna open her business, but
• 1:16:44
  then the old lady ran or the old lady something happened to her.
• 1:16:47
  So then she tried to open it with that Thai guy.
• 1:16:50
  Oh shit I haven't seen that show but I've like, I'm aware.
• 1:16:53
  Of it, check it out. Check out season 3 because
• 1:16:54
  they're in Thailand. Season 1 and 2, they're in
• 1:16:57
  different like Season 1, they're in like Hawaii.
• 1:16:59
  I love how they're in like a. Season 2, I think, beautiful
• 1:17:02
  resort. I think they're in like Greece
• 1:17:04
  or somewhere. That's like fancy, but it's
• 1:17:06
  like, you shouldn't go to Thailand for a fancy resort, you
• 1:17:08
  know? Well, if it's in the jungle,
• 1:17:12
  what's the difference? Should go for the experience,
• 1:17:14
  you know, like not the I don't know, I don't really do.
• 1:17:17
  Resort I don't do the resort the real experience I.
• 1:17:19
  Mean, first of all, that's expensive.
• 1:17:20
  Sleeping on the one pad on the floor.
• 1:17:24
  I don't know what like I want it.
• 1:17:26
  I want it balance. I love that real.
• 1:17:27
  One and see This is why I fuck with like first Gen. people or
• 1:17:31
  fresh off the boat people because like they get it.
• 1:17:34
  I don't gotta explain this shit and.
• 1:17:36
  Hang when? Someone says that about Mexico
• 1:17:38
  too. Over your floor pad so the bugs
• 1:17:41
  don't get at you while you're sleeping.
• 1:17:43
  Yeah. You're gonna squat.
• 1:17:45
  Keep. Going I love this.
• 1:17:46
  Keep going. Dump, yeah.
• 1:17:48
  I don't know about that Airbnb, but.
• 1:17:50
  Manually flush your turn down the toilet with the water, Yes.
• 1:17:54
  Well, Basin, it was an adjustment when I went.
• 1:17:58
  To town, no AC. The lack of toilets, it's just a
• 1:18:05
  lot of squatting. It's better now.
• 1:18:08
  I went to some remote places and it was like, good luck.
• 1:18:10
  Yeah, don't have IBS, not a lot of IBS people going to Thailand.
• 1:18:17
  That's what I'm saying, yeah. Yeah.
• 1:18:18
  Yeah, but I don't, I don't have IBS, by the way.
• 1:18:22
  Plus you I. In case you were still
• 1:18:27
  interested in dating me and you haven't weeded yourself out.
• 1:18:33
  Yet only when you have hot sauce.
• 1:18:40
  The shit that we get into on here or something you.
• 1:18:42
  Know. So so impressed by this stuff.
• 1:18:49
  Yeah, Thailand's amazing. I wanna go back.
• 1:18:52
  We're gonna get it together. It was a beautiful.
• 1:18:54
  Dude, not a lot of places, mainly in the US.
• 1:18:56
  Yeah, You know, I wanna go back to Austin.
• 1:19:01
  I'm going back to Austin for my birthday in December, which I'm
• 1:19:04
  excited about. I haven't.
• 1:19:06
  I've gone back once in the last five years, so that'll be fun,
• 1:19:11
  but that's not really exotic. Yeah, it's actually very basic
• 1:19:14
  for. Like like for what you're?
• 1:19:18
  Like dude, kids are very basic. I mean.
• 1:19:21
  Not, you know, that's where I'm going.
• 1:19:22
  Allison is pretty basic. I'm going, I'm thinking about, I
• 1:19:24
  want, I really want to go there for a month for what?
• 1:19:27
  Just to like, live, you know? In this Austin.
• 1:19:30
  I do, I miss it a lot. But again, so you so OK, this is
• 1:19:35
  for me. Like I'd, I'd like the, I know
• 1:19:38
  that everyone hates on Wichita, but I do like that I can afford
• 1:19:42
  to live here and I can afford to travel to out of the country, I
• 1:19:47
  mean. I think it's it was on the list
• 1:19:49
  last week of like the most affordable city.
• 1:19:50
  Yeah, so like even though it's in the middle and yeah, like my
• 1:19:53
  flights are still not the best, I'm still not in New York.
• 1:19:56
  Like I have a lot of a good friend who's in New York, shout
• 1:19:59
  out to Jebby. And he's like, yeah, I can get
• 1:20:02
  round trip flights, like direct flights to a lot of countries,
• 1:20:05
  but like he is holding down. Yeah.
• 1:20:08
  Exactly. Holding down hella jobs.
• 1:20:11
  So it's like. With a balance.
• 1:20:12
  It's hard. So it's like versus like I'm in
• 1:20:14
  Wichita and I I can, yeah, I mean, my flights might not be
• 1:20:19
  the best prices and I do have to connect a lot, but I can go
• 1:20:25
  still spend more on the experience and I still have
• 1:20:28
  enough money to actually cover yeah, when I come back home.
• 1:20:32
  I feel like we save enough money that we are able to travel.
• 1:20:34
  And you know, if you live in New York City, you probably aren't
• 1:20:37
  even able to travel even though you have really good tickets.
• 1:20:41
  So I mean, it's a balance. I feel like I really like
• 1:20:43
  Wichita, you know, I think it's, it offers a lot.
• 1:20:46
  I mean, there's a lot of events going on.
• 1:20:48
  Yeah, right now it's like finally booming up.
• 1:20:50
  Like what first attracted me to Wichita.
• 1:20:52
  Like it was like, and I've said this multiple times, but like I
• 1:20:55
  think like before 20/20 it was, it was booming quite a bit.
• 1:20:58
  Like there was a lot of businesses that were constantly
• 1:21:00
  opening that people were gravitating to go and support
• 1:21:03
  these businesses pretty often. And then I'd say like 2018, it
• 1:21:08
  starts to die down and not even before 2020, like 2018, like
• 1:21:12
  people are just not supporting people anymore.
• 1:21:14
  And then now I feel like it's booming or not booming, but it's
• 1:21:18
  getting there. You know what I mean?
• 1:21:19
  Like there's kind of people who are maybe just not as afraid to
• 1:21:22
  go and do these things. I feel like there's resurgence
• 1:21:24
  for entrepreneurship and there's a lot of like women business
• 1:21:27
  owners that are out there now, which is cool to see.
• 1:21:30
  I feel like there's a lot more women business owners than there
• 1:21:32
  was when I was here like 10 years ago or something.
• 1:21:37
  And I feel like Wichita's a great place if you are an
• 1:21:39
  entrepreneur. They have a lot of great
• 1:21:40
  resources. They do, yeah.
• 1:21:42
  You know, I agree with that. And a lot of free like.
• 1:21:45
  Free resources for entrepreneurship, which is so
• 1:21:48
  hard in a big city. Like, I think like a lot of
• 1:21:51
  people don't recognize how much opportunity they have here and
• 1:21:55
  you're just not tapping into it because, yeah, there's.
• 1:21:57
  So much there really is a. Lot like at the library alone,
• 1:22:00
  just like all the free resources that they have, like when we're
• 1:22:03
  talking about all the nonprofits that are here too that like are
• 1:22:07
  just providing these free, like it's like y'all kind, I don't
• 1:22:13
  want to say this, but for some of the people who have the
• 1:22:15
  means, you're struggling because you want to struggle because
• 1:22:18
  there's a lot of good. Resources.
• 1:22:19
  I think it's all about connecting here and it can be a
• 1:22:22
  little clicky. I think you got it is clicky.
• 1:22:24
  Yeah. It takes a while to navigate it
• 1:22:26
  because you kind of got to know people.
• 1:22:28
  And if you're new to Wichita, it's hard to know people, that's
• 1:22:31
  true. But there's a lot of really
• 1:22:32
  friendly people here, you know? When you find them.
• 1:22:35
  When Yeah. And it's like, you know, we get
• 1:22:37
  out. Yeah.
• 1:22:38
  You know, and like that's with anything, you have to just be
• 1:22:40
  open to it too. You have to just, I think like
• 1:22:43
  to your point, I've always kind of been very talkative.
• 1:22:46
  I've always been very easy to make friends with.
• 1:22:50
  And then I didn't for a little bit, but then also I was just
• 1:22:53
  really entrepreneurship and like, and, you know, networking
• 1:22:57
  is a skill set. Even if you're an introvert,
• 1:22:59
  like you can learn to network, you can learn what this means.
• 1:23:02
  You know, the social cues, you know, when somebody is sitting a
• 1:23:06
  certain way, when they're not, you know, even just the non
• 1:23:09
  physical cues where you're just like, I'm or the, yeah, the
• 1:23:12
  physical cues where I'm like, am I making this person feel safer?
• 1:23:15
  Am I not? Like, there's a lot that you can
• 1:23:17
  analyze about all this. Stuff and you know, it's not
• 1:23:19
  natural for some people to pick that up, like a lot of people
• 1:23:21
  don't. So if I think if you do well
• 1:23:23
  with that, like that's a skill. But it's a learning skill is
• 1:23:26
  what I'm saying. Like, I mean, there's an aspect
• 1:23:27
  to that. Yeah, cuz like I, I.
• 1:23:29
  Met a lot of very weird people too, you know what I mean?
• 1:23:32
  Like some people I'm just like, like, have you ever had a
• 1:23:36
  conversation with someone? I don't hate to say it cuz
• 1:23:38
  there's a lot of charismatic people, but I've been to so many
• 1:23:41
  networking events too, where it's like, I'll meet somebody
• 1:23:43
  and like, they don't even hear me.
• 1:23:45
  Like all they're doing is talking about themselves.
• 1:23:47
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I hate to say it's always
• 1:23:49
  men, but usually it's men. That makes sense, you know, No.
• 1:23:52
  So I feel like if it's. Definitely one that happens on a
• 1:23:55
  date. Dude I'm I'm at the point where
• 1:23:59
  on a date. That's bad if they don't ask you
• 1:24:01
  any questions. I mean they do in a little bit,
• 1:24:03
  but not that much. But like in a date, I'm just at
• 1:24:06
  the point where I'm just like are.
• 1:24:07
  You are you currently going through it dating?
• 1:24:09
  No, I'm just trying to say that like if I'm doing a date like
• 1:24:12
  that, like I will be very much like I'm like, oh man, listen,
• 1:24:20
  communication and listening is a skill set and I don't want to
• 1:24:25
  teach you it. Like, I'm not going to teach you
• 1:24:27
  it, I feel like. It's hard, like on a date, you
• 1:24:31
  know, you want to have, I don't know.
• 1:24:33
  I feel like I have really good conversations with people and
• 1:24:35
  then I meet them in real life. And it's not like they don't
• 1:24:37
  have that candor or that sense of humor, you know?
• 1:24:41
  And it's like, you know, immediately if you don't fit in
• 1:24:43
  someone's sense of humor, they don't get you.
• 1:24:46
  Yeah, I feel like that's hard. Like, that's hard to find
• 1:24:48
  somebody who's like, you can joke with that you have the same
• 1:24:52
  kind of brand of, like humor, you know?
• 1:24:54
  That's true. Yeah.
• 1:24:56
  And I think guys, like, that's part of dating too.
• 1:24:58
  Like, there's a lot of times where, like, some people will be
• 1:25:01
  like, you are too, whatever, because of that.
• 1:25:05
  Oh, yeah. You know, like, too stoic or too
• 1:25:07
  sarcastic or too blunt, too candy.
• 1:25:10
  Yeah. Too bossy or too funny or not
• 1:25:13
  serious, too serious, whatever. But but to my to what I'm trying
• 1:25:18
  to say is like, yeah, I think like that's true even with
• 1:25:21
  friendships. But I guess like, I don't know,
• 1:25:25
  I feel like I've met really good people though.
• 1:25:27
  Like I like it's very few times that I remember and maybe it's
• 1:25:31
  just because I'm not remembering or I'm not paying attention to
• 1:25:33
  or caring to remember the fact that like I've met maybe a few
• 1:25:38
  people who are not, who don't get you, I guess like it's just
• 1:25:42
  at this point where you're like, I don't really care and.
• 1:25:44
  I feel like you weed them out with time.
• 1:25:46
  Yeah. You know, I feel like I'm one of
• 1:25:48
  those people that it's like you either kind of like me or you
• 1:25:49
  don't. Yeah.
• 1:25:50
  You know, and that's OK. Yeah.
• 1:25:52
  I think it weeds people out quicker when you have that kind
• 1:25:55
  of personality a little bit, you know?
• 1:25:56
  Yeah, because why? Why do you want to keep
• 1:25:58
  explaining yourself? Yeah.
• 1:26:00
  Because it's just been hard and draining.
• 1:26:03
  Yeah, on both ends, you know. Because you're like, I'm not
• 1:26:06
  trying to do this, but OK. You know you'll have you'll find
• 1:26:12
  your tribe. Yes.
• 1:26:14
  You know, yeah, I had a funny. Little story I have.
• 1:26:18
  I have tribes. We're telling it to the people,
• 1:26:21
  right? I have the tribes.
• 1:26:22
  OK, You'll find your tribes, guys.
• 1:26:25
  Looking at the cameras. I love my tribes.
• 1:26:27
  I have, I have my little tribe, you know, like we chill.
• 1:26:30
  Yeah, I love my tribe, you know? Yeah.
• 1:26:32
  Yeah. But I don't know.
• 1:26:35
  I don't know where I was going with.
• 1:26:36
  That you were going to tell a story.
• 1:26:38
  I was just like, you know, you'll find your tribe And I was
• 1:26:40
  like, there's just some people that you don't vibe with.
• 1:26:43
  Somebody invited me to Zubilee, which was awesome and was really
• 1:26:46
  nice. And I they picked me up and
• 1:26:48
  like, they're like, it's, it was a long thing, but they're like
• 1:26:52
  your neighbor smells like weed. And I was like, no, that was me.
• 1:26:55
  And then, and I should have said that and I didn't realize that,
• 1:27:00
  but when I got in the car, there was like a Jesus thing, which is
• 1:27:02
  great. I love Jesus.
• 1:27:04
  I love that guy. But I probably wouldn't have
• 1:27:07
  said I was high if I saw the Jesus thing.
• 1:27:09
  That would have been a context clue.
• 1:27:11
  And so you just especially. Especially in Republic, KS.
• 1:27:15
  Oh yeah, conservative Kansas. That's a good point.
• 1:27:19
  Like if you were to say this in a different and if you were to
• 1:27:22
  say that in Austin, that'd be it hit different.
• 1:27:25
  Yeah. And then somebody came in.
• 1:27:26
  It was her friend who came in the car and she was complaining
• 1:27:29
  about a guy she was dating who like, I was a loser and smoked
• 1:27:33
  weed and I was like, oh, what a loser.
• 1:27:38
  I played along at that point, you know?
• 1:27:40
  And I was like, what a fucking loser.
• 1:27:43
  Who does that? I, I, I get it though, 'cause I
• 1:27:45
  think you, you go through the experience where you date
• 1:27:48
  somebody who was like that, as someone who doesn't try, who
• 1:27:51
  didn't try this until later on in my life.
• 1:27:53
  Dude, better to date a pothead than an alcoholic.
• 1:27:56
  I've dated both. I prefer.
• 1:28:00
  The one that one transition pretty bad, so both in one
• 1:28:05
  person. In that's bad.
• 1:28:07
  Just different people. Good for you.
• 1:28:09
  Thank you on a bingo card, you know?
• 1:28:14
  But like, at least if you date a pothead and it doesn't work out,
• 1:28:17
  you'll never see them again because they don't leave their
• 1:28:20
  house, right? But like, if you date an
• 1:28:21
  alcoholic, they're everywhere. They're going to be at every
• 1:28:24
  club, every bar. That's fair.
• 1:28:27
  So think about that next time. I'm not thinking about myself.
• 1:28:32
  Am I an alcoholic, you guys? I'm not an alcoholic.
• 1:28:35
  Like if you don't wake up and drink.
• 1:28:37
  No, you're good. OK.
• 1:28:39
  What makes you a pothead if you're smoking every day?
• 1:28:41
  Do you smoke every? Day.
• 1:28:42
  Oh yeah, I think a pothead is like you can't function without
• 1:28:45
  it. And can you function without it?
• 1:28:48
  I don't want to, but I could. I have before.
• 1:28:54
  I've gone a long time without weed before.
• 1:28:56
  Yeah, just for fun. Like like I have done.
• 1:28:58
  That when we say a long time, we're talking months.
• 1:29:00
  We're not talking about like, like I'm not going to get high
• 1:29:05
  every day. I'm only going to get.
• 1:29:06
  High, I mean I gotta get a drug test for my job, so I had to
• 1:29:09
  like, you know, true and hopefully it don't fire me.
• 1:29:14
  That'd be funny. Honestly, like I can't even
• 1:29:17
  imagine library people listening to this podcast.
• 1:29:19
  Nothing against this podcast, but like where?
• 1:29:21
  How are they going to? How are they going to find me?
• 1:29:24
  Social media. I, I don't, yeah, I don't know
• 1:29:27
  if all of them follow me, but fair in my head, I'm like, like
• 1:29:30
  in my library job, like nobody sees me as a food person.
• 1:29:33
  But like, they probably follow. Yeah, I don't know.
• 1:29:35
  No, I totally hear that. We usually do this thing called
• 1:29:39
  lightning round, which I think is what we're gonna do, which
• 1:29:41
  we're gonna do very short, OK, because we're gonna wrap up
• 1:29:45
  pretty soon. Man, I have a lot of good things
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  in this. So like, no, I had really good
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  things in what I wanted to go with that.
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  I wanted to continue that conversation.
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  But I also want to be mindful that we need to eat because
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  we're talking to a food person. We have to get some food in
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  here. But yeah, so in lightning round,
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  we're just like going to ask a bunch of random questions.
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  We are probably going to keep it pretty minimum.
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  And you just kind of off the cuff whatever comes to you.
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  So you were saying you're both on Instagram and TikTok.
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  So Reels are Tik Toks, which is which is winning for you right
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  now? What's better for you?
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  Reels. Reels so you're talking content
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  creation but TikTok is more just like or like that's the reason
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  you're saying reels or why are you saying reels?
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  Sorry, I assumed. Probably because I'm on
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  Instagram or low key. I have a burner account on
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  TikTok that's doing kind of well.
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  So if you're on TikTok, I think it does well.
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  Yeah, I'm just not on it. Like I don't post it.
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  I'm on it a lot but I don't post on my TikTok.
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  Yeah, yeah. Go ahead, Dusty, your term.
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  What is 1 social media myth you're tired of hearing, if any?
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  The more you post the. I think the more.
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  Followers you have. The more followers you have,
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  like the more successful you are, you know, And there's so
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  many dormant accounts that have a lot of followers, but like
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  nobody's like liking their stuff and commenting on their stuff.
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  They get very good likes. They hide their likes.
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  Yeah, I have a question about that.
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  Yeah, it doesn't work to hide your likes or what do you mean?
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  Work. I guess like work in terms of
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  like, do you feel like you get more engagement when you hide
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  the like count? I don't just keep that.
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  I I, I don't think it matters, yeah.
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  Yeah, cuz me personally, when I'm scrolling by like I notice
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  if they have that feature on or not like you know, to hide the
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  likes and I don't care. If it's good content that I
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  like, then I'm gonna hit like on it.
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  If not then I don't. I just keep scrolling.
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  It doesn't really matter to me, yeah.
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  And it's like, you probably see a lot of the comments still,
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  even though it says there's not a lot of likes, which indicates
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  like it's doing well subconsciously, maybe.
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  Yeah, I don't know. I don't know.
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  From a social or from a marketer?
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  I'm surprised you didn't know that.
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  What works better? What's your top algorithm hack
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  that people underestimate? If you know 1.
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  I mean, I think just people don't utilize the stories, you
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  know, because it's like only a fraction of the people will see
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  your news feed, but like more than likely they're probably
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  going to see your story, even if it's very passive and they're
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  just like going like this. So you have a better shot in
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  your story. And I, I see people put a lot of
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  effort into their post feed, which makes sense.
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  But like, chances are less than 5% of people are going to see
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  that, you know, So if you engage with them ahead of time in this
• 1:32:49
  story, that helps, you know. And so in the stories that where
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  you're thinking it can be more of the low level content that's
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  on TikTok, but then your feed that's maybe more of your high
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  level production stuff. Yeah, yeah.
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  I think like the stories are more behind the scenes, you
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  know, like sometimes I'm like, I don't know if this is ready for
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  a post in my feed, but like, this is for sure going to be a
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  story. Yeah.
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  And like stories, people don't think about it that seriously,
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  you know? So it's like more culture, like
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  behind the scenes kind of stuff like that.
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  That's a good one. Hashtags in stories, Do they
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  work or do they not? So hashtags kind of don't work
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  in general anymore like they used to in Stories.
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  It's really not worth putting like the effort to put it in
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  because you don't see it. I think it's OK to put it in the
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  caption, but keywords are more important than anything.
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  So just make sure like think about the keyword that's more
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  important. Like if someone's going to be
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  searching Wichita restaurant, you know, cheap Wichita
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  restaurant, put that in the caption.
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  You don't necessarily have to put a hashtag.
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  It can help, but like, it's not gonna help you like it used to.
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  Used to. You can put hashtags and people
• 1:33:56
  would find you that way. Yeah.
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  And it doesn't really work like that anymore.
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  Yeah. You know.
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  Yeah, these are good tips and I hope you all are writing this
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  out. Or maybe this is just me because
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  I need the work, or I'm thinking of like, what's working, what's
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  not? If, well, I think I already know
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  that or whatever. You go ahead and ask Dusty,
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  sorry. What's 1 trending challenge or
• 1:34:20
  meme that you secretly love or hate?
• 1:34:25
  There's this picture of what's that big guy in Kings of Queens
• 1:34:31
  and he like, looks like. Yeah, he is Paul Blart.
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  Yeah, there's this meme and it's like.
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  Yeah, where he's like, shrugging his shoulders with his.
• 1:34:41
  Hands in his pocket. Yeah.
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  I, I used to do like a meme series every few weeks and like,
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  it was one of the main meme ones.
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  I just love that. Oh.
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  I yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what you're.
• 1:34:49
  Talking about you. Know I know what you're talking
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  about. I love that one.
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  It's like when you go to a place and they don't have, they don't
• 1:34:55
  take cash and you're just like, I don't know.
• 1:34:57
  It was relevant. I do love them, yeah.
• 1:35:01
  Which local business or creator deserves more love on which?
• 1:35:06
  That's in Wichita. I think Gabby's Peruvian, yes.
• 1:35:11
  It's so good. It's like one of my favorite
• 1:35:13
  restaurants and it's so unique. I think it's I love Peruvian
• 1:35:17
  food and I go like I try to try Peruvian food wherever I go and
• 1:35:21
  it's Gabby's I think is one of the best Peruvian foods I've
• 1:35:24
  ever had. So I think I don't know why
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  sometimes I go there and it's just not busy and it makes me so
• 1:35:30
  sad because they're so good. And Gabby is awesome.
• 1:35:33
  The owner, she's the sweetest lady.
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  I did this KWCH like immigrant owned feature and I got to know
• 1:35:38
  her and like all the people that work there and they're just
• 1:35:41
  really sweet. So go go check them out.
• 1:35:46
  What would you say is your favorite thing to garden?
• 1:35:52
  What strain, what strand? Whatever.
• 1:35:56
  Sativas. OK.
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  Like OK. Indicas are like, I call them in
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  the couch. Yeah, indicas.
• 1:36:04
  I don't like indicas. They just bring you down, you
• 1:36:06
  know? How many times a day do you
• 1:36:09
  check your analytics? I try not to check it every day
• 1:36:14
  cuz really it's kind of a long term thing.
• 1:36:18
  I think it's like looking at the stock market every day.
• 1:36:21
  Like it just freaks you out. Like look at, look at like I try
• 1:36:25
  to do it every month. Like really look at all my
• 1:36:27
  posts, especially for my clients.
• 1:36:29
  I do a monthly report and that it's like a good like bird's eye
• 1:36:33
  view of like what what best post for the like the last month.
• 1:36:37
  Don't be super focused on each one because I feel like if you
• 1:36:41
  do that, it's like it gives you mixed results and like mixed, I
• 1:36:44
  don't know. So try to think about it in I
• 1:36:47
  think a longer term and not try to get in the weeds, you know?
• 1:36:54
  Well, Ashley, we've heard a little bit about you and your
• 1:36:59
  stories, your passions, your interests.
• 1:37:01
  Definitely a lot of your stories and interests and passions.
• 1:37:04
  Actually, we talked about all of it.
• 1:37:07
  I love, I love when we do this. So tell us and our listeners how
• 1:37:11
  everyone can find and support you.
• 1:37:14
  Yeah, you can find me online at ICT Broke Girls on Facebook,
• 1:37:18
  Instagram and TikTok, and then my social media agency, Abedini
• 1:37:23
  Social. You can find me at Abedini
• 1:37:24
  Social on Instagram and Facebook and Abedini social.com.
• 1:37:29
  So here's to you, Ashley Barriva Pavajo.
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  I'm out pasentro pasento. Go put it in Y palentro.
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  Put it in I. Bet I've been doing that.
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  None.