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Episode #273: Love in Your Mirror · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev. Hello,
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Speaker 1: good day, How I'm good. Just the reason why most
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Speaker 1: times when we hop on here and we're laughing or
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Speaker 1: smiling or being goofy is because just before hitting record,
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Speaker 1: I have to remind Bev that we can't start talking,
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Speaker 1: because otherwise we'll get into a conversation and roll with
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Speaker 1: it and like stop talking.
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Speaker 2: I gotta hit record, and then I wouldn't be recorded.
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Speaker 1: And then there's times when we end recording and we
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Speaker 1: start chatting about just our life in general, about other
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Speaker 1: things and I'm like, oh my gosh, we should have
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Speaker 1: recorded this.
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Speaker 2: That happens a lot.
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Speaker 1: Capturing those conversations is uh, it's a it always comes
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Speaker 1: back around in one way and that and we hear
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Speaker 1: it when when it's time, and I'm okay with that.
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Speaker 3: So it keeps you because we just don't plan it.
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Speaker 2: So there's no planning of any any of this conversation.
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Speaker 3: We might think about something that could be discussed or whatever,
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Speaker 3: like oh, hey, I got a topic or whatever.
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Speaker 2: And then you mentioned it when you come on.
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Speaker 3: It's like we find out that there is it's quite
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Speaker 3: relevant to our personal experiences.
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Speaker 1: Yes, I was listening to Robert Grant on an interview,
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Speaker 1: and wow, I always love listening to him. He's got
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Speaker 1: such great insight. He does a lot with numbers and
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Speaker 1: the patterns of numbers and shapes and all the things,
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Speaker 1: and it's just really fascinating. Some of this stuff is
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Speaker 1: beyond my comprehension, which is okay. I'm okay with that.
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Speaker 1: It's just it's great to listen to it and his
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Speaker 1: philosophies of how math and geometrical shapes show up in
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Speaker 1: our lives, in all facets of our life. But one
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Speaker 1: of the things he said, because they were talking about
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Speaker 1: a point of attraction, and hope they can say this correctly,
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Speaker 1: we stop attracting what we judge when we stop judging
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Speaker 1: what we see. And I was like, oooh dang, because
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Speaker 1: I realize the things I attract and I'm like, all right,
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Speaker 1: I attracted that, and I'll own that. And I think
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Speaker 1: about it and how it my thoughts and my emotions
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Speaker 1: evolved around it and how it came to me, and
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Speaker 1: I get that. And then I sit back and I
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Speaker 1: watch other people, especially people I spend most of my
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Speaker 1: day with at work five days a week minimum, and
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Speaker 1: I notice how they do the same thing. They judge
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Speaker 1: things or start talking about things, they get them riled up.
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Speaker 1: When those people or situations aren't happening, they're nowhere in
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Speaker 1: our vicinity. We haven't heard from the people in weeks
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Speaker 1: or months, But as soon as any kind of conversation
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Speaker 1: or energy is put towards their name or their behavior,
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Speaker 1: they show up, like within twenty four to forty eight hours.
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Speaker 1: It is wild and I'll just as soon as they
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Speaker 1: start talking, I'm like, stop talking about it. You want
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Speaker 1: to talk about this, you need change the subject, don't talk. Nope,
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Speaker 1: they keep going on, and if it's not they might
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Speaker 1: stop talking about it in that moment because I've said
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Speaker 1: something and I'm sitting there or with them, But as
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Speaker 1: soon as I leave the room or they start talking
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Speaker 1: to somebody else, it comes up again. I'm like, I'll
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Speaker 1: just sit and I'll just shake my head and like
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Speaker 1: let them, let them do what they're going to do,
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Speaker 1: and they'll see and then they're like, oh my god,
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Speaker 1: I got this email, Oh my god, this happened, and
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Speaker 1: I just it's one of those I told you so moments.
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Speaker 1: Is like I told you, don't talk about them, don't
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Speaker 1: give them your energy. Won't you any of that. Just
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Speaker 1: let them be, let them do what they're going to do.
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Speaker 1: We keep doing what we're doing, we keep showing up
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Speaker 1: on our best versions of ourselves, we keep being supportive
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Speaker 1: of the businesses we keep doing. And so I I
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Speaker 1: to have such a clear statement that he said, and
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Speaker 1: it just like really resonated. I had to because the
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Speaker 1: lady the interviewer said, could you repeat that? That was
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Speaker 1: so good? Could you repeat that? And I'm like, then, yeah,
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Speaker 1: please repeat that. And so just to hear that in
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Speaker 1: that way, and a lot of times that's what we need.
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Speaker 1: We need to hear it in a certain way for
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Speaker 1: it to really sync in. So anyway, I thought that
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Speaker 1: was a good, good statement for this morning. Nice.
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Speaker 3: There's so much to impact from that. I mean, just
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Speaker 3: the Robert Granting. That's pretty huge, sharing the name so
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Speaker 3: that people can go look at it. The other thing
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Speaker 3: is we listen to some things and maybe we don't
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Speaker 3: understand all the things. But as planning seats for us too,
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Speaker 3: just like it is for anybody else, judgment has come up.
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Speaker 3: I've actually thought about some of the things that I
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Speaker 3: probably even have said on our recordings and how and
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Speaker 3: I've referenced my kids and my son in law and
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Speaker 3: all you know, all these people that I love dearly,
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Speaker 3: But in those moments I have a judgment. So it
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Speaker 3: goes back to that whole judgment thing, and it's recognizing
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Speaker 3: the judgment for me starts within because I have been,
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Speaker 3: I still have been so critical of myself.
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Speaker 2: That how can I love I thought about this last night.
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Speaker 3: How can I truly love my kids and my grandkids
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Speaker 3: and Freeman and everybody so much much?
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Speaker 2: But I can't show myself that love?
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Speaker 3: So how am I possibly loving them to the fullest
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Speaker 3: because I'm not loving myself to the fullest at this time.
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Speaker 3: So it's just this whole journey that I'm embarking on,
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Speaker 3: and I find it fascinating. But I also find it
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Speaker 3: in this time space reality that going within and being
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Speaker 3: more following my passion instead of being the nurture the
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Speaker 3: the I want to say nurture because the fixer part.
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Speaker 3: I recognize it that I have that still or I
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Speaker 3: operate from that space sometimes, but I'm less and less
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Speaker 3: and it changes the dynamics of everything. When you become
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Speaker 3: not that fixer, it almost it almost puts you. It's
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Speaker 3: not because I don't care, but it's it almost puts
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Speaker 3: you into that space of someone else from wherever they're
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Speaker 3: receiving the information or however they're perceiving things, might see.
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Speaker 2: It in a different way.
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Speaker 3: But for me, it's not my stuff anymore, and it's
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Speaker 3: not my job to go do this stuff.
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Speaker 2: And it's like, but then the scary thing is when massage.
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Speaker 3: Is in there and when everything else is in there,
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Speaker 3: I'm left with myself.
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Speaker 2: I'm left to process these things.
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Speaker 3: So I'm essentially removing distractions from my current reality. And
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Speaker 3: I recognize how much I pick up of someone else's energy.
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Speaker 3: I know, I talked about that a lot, and I
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Speaker 3: have an awareness of it. So I'm just saying that
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Speaker 3: because there's so many out there that are doing the
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Speaker 3: same thing.
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Speaker 2: And they don't even recognize it.
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Speaker 3: I was trying to even explain it to one of
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Speaker 3: the kids recently about well, you're at that moment when
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Speaker 3: that when an adult or a person comes in and
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Speaker 3: they're angry, And I said, and then as soon as
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Speaker 3: you go ahead and latch into that or you're like
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Speaker 3: hooked into that, because now they got all this energy
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Speaker 3: going to you, I said, there's an opportunity, right in
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Speaker 3: that moment to not take it on or to take
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Speaker 3: it on.
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Speaker 2: It's that simple.
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Speaker 3: And so and he started to say something and I
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Speaker 3: under stood at that moment that he wasn't understanding. So
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Speaker 3: it's like, again, I'll go back to this, the conversation
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Speaker 3: about Robert Grant. He may be saying a lot of
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Speaker 3: information that you do understand, and that's the only reason
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Speaker 3: you're listening to it to even open up to more.
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Speaker 3: Maybe not the only reason, but you're opening up to
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Speaker 3: more information that's coming out there and knowing that my
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Speaker 3: family or anybody that's in our vicinity, they're going to
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Speaker 3: receive that information the best way they possibly can in
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Speaker 3: that moment.
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Speaker 2: And that's okay because guess what, it took me to
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Speaker 2: fifty five.
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Speaker 3: And I recognize the kids, not that I because I'm
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Speaker 3: still growing through the process, but I recognize how evolved
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Speaker 3: all the kids are in the younger adults, and I
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Speaker 3: can see all the evolution.
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Speaker 2: I can see it.
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Speaker 3: And they may not be doing any exactly the way
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Speaker 3: I think it should be done, but my way that
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Speaker 3: I think it should be done, or the way that
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Speaker 3: I used to think it should be done, are from
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Speaker 3: programming that I've received.
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Speaker 2: In this lifetime and so then I know that it's
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Speaker 2: not true.
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Speaker 3: So then it leaves me in the space of, well, shit,
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Speaker 3: I don't know what I'm going to do anymore, because
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Speaker 3: I just have to be quiet and listening and hear
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Speaker 3: the next process or the next step, or the next wisdom,
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Speaker 3: the words, whatever, however it comes forward.
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Speaker 2: So it's been it's been interesting.
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Speaker 3: And then you come in, of course talking about the
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Speaker 3: judgment thing, and that's what I've been processing. So it's like,
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Speaker 3: that is a process. It's a process I feel like
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Speaker 3: for a lot of us because that's what we grew
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Speaker 3: up in. And and if you think about it, if
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Speaker 3: we just don't do the judgment thing, we're creating from
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Speaker 3: everything that we're looking at. Right, goes with the same
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Speaker 3: the statement that Robert Krant made. We're creating everything that's
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Speaker 3: around us, all of it. And it's wherever you want
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Speaker 3: to put your eye on, whatever you want to look at,
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Speaker 3: whatever you want to if you want to sit and
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Speaker 3: talk about that person. I've learned as soon as you
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Speaker 3: talk about that person, you know that person's in a call.
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Speaker 3: So someone might pop into my head and I'm like,
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Speaker 3: all then them last, that's right, that's right. It's like, no,
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Speaker 3: I don't think so.
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Speaker 1: Yep. I want to go back to to what you
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Speaker 1: were saying about loving yourself, and it's been said multiple times,
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Speaker 1: and the more I lean into the statement, the more
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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I can see that that you can
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Speaker 1: only love others at the level you love yourself. And
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Speaker 1: so when somebody says to me I love you, I've
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Speaker 1: been particular. I would say, particularly with people that are
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Speaker 1: close to me, is where I think about. Because I've
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Speaker 1: been around them for many years, I got a sense
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Speaker 1: of what their relationship with themselves is. And it's like
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Speaker 1: knowing just from observation and my perspective, right, my perspective
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Speaker 1: is completely different from their perspective of themselves. But from
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Speaker 1: my perspective, it's a seeing or observing that they don't
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Speaker 1: love themselves or there's a little bit of it. And
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Speaker 1: again this is my perspective, how I'm viewing it from
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Speaker 1: an outside viewpoint. And so then I think, when they
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Speaker 1: say I love you, what is the level of love
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Speaker 1: that is being given towards me? Because they can only
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Speaker 1: love me at the level they love themselves. So it
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Speaker 1: becomes very interesting when you start to play with that
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Speaker 1: dynamic and really look at so you look at somebody
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Speaker 1: who doesn't eat healthy, is well over one hundred pounds overweight,
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Speaker 1: uses puts a lot of toxins in their body, and
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Speaker 1: gess has like runs from themselves because typically when we
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Speaker 1: when we're when we're ingesting things that are not healthy
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Speaker 1: for ourselves at a very high level. Then to me,
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Speaker 1: because I know that's what I did for myself, I
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Speaker 1: was suppressing the emotions and the the experiences I had
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Speaker 1: so I didn't have to face them or deal with them,
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Speaker 1: or I was tired of it just keep replaying in
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Speaker 1: my head. And and so alcohol was a way for
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Speaker 1: me to escape all that. And so tis to apply
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Speaker 1: that to what they're doing to themselves. It's like, what's
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Speaker 1: what's really the level of love that they have for me?
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Speaker 1: Or is it the idea that I'm here and all
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Speaker 1: the things that I do for them? Really is it
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Speaker 1: just the love of the idea that I'm here as
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Speaker 1: a as a grounding mechanism, as a safe space, because
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Speaker 1: the level of love that they have for themselves again
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Speaker 1: from my perspective, is not that much. So then is
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Speaker 1: it love or is it just the idea of my presence?
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Speaker 1: So anyway, I just find that interesting. And it's not
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Speaker 1: that I'm like, oh, well, you don't love me that
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Speaker 1: much because you don't love your I don't do that.
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Speaker 1: I'm just like, it's interesting to think about just what
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Speaker 1: that really. If we were to actually have a really
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Speaker 1: deep conversation about their level of love and what that
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Speaker 1: means to them and the way I perceive it, and
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Speaker 1: just really went deep with it, I think they would
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Speaker 1: find a much deeper and impactful truth for themselves. And
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Speaker 1: of course I would too, no doubt what the person
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Speaker 1: or people are not ready or willing to go that deep.
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Speaker 1: So I take it for face value. I take it
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Speaker 1: for that's what they know how to do or say,
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Speaker 1: and that's okay, and we just accept. And again I mean,
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Speaker 1: if you come to the judgment part is there's no
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Speaker 1: judgment around it. It's just an acceptance of this is
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Speaker 1: where they're at with themselves, and this is this is
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Speaker 1: how they know how to operate. And I've done it too,
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Speaker 1: I still do it.
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Speaker 3: So and how valuable is it to recognize all that
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Speaker 3: and then recognize the higher that we raise our vibrational
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Speaker 3: frequency by loving ourselves that we now actually give someone
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Speaker 3: else permission or give them an idea what that looks
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Speaker 3: like and what that might feel like, because it's probably
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Speaker 3: at this.
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Speaker 2: Point they don't know what that looks like.
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Speaker 3: They've it's been all these people that you know, you
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Speaker 3: go to the restaurant and you just say thank you,
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Speaker 3: but you don't you just say thank you because that's
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Speaker 3: what you're trained to do.
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Speaker 2: You just say I'm sorry, because that's what you were
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Speaker 2: trained to do.
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Speaker 3: You just say There's so many things that we do
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Speaker 3: because we were trained to do that way, or we
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Speaker 3: do it because and then this is even an instance,
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Speaker 3: we do it because we want something out of it.
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Speaker 3: We say we're sorry because we expect a sorry back,
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Speaker 3: or you know, and because I've been that person and
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Speaker 3: I've said I love you a million times. We don't
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Speaker 3: make eye contact. We just say I love you, love you,
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Speaker 3: and it's not a big deal.
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Speaker 2: You can you can feel it.
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Speaker 3: It feels flat, it doesn't feel full, and that's okay.
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Speaker 2: That's not a judgment.
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Speaker 3: It's a recognition from my space that you know, I
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Speaker 3: can recognize how things feel when someone genuinely says they're
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Speaker 3: sorry or they give an apology, or how do I
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Speaker 3: genuinely feel when I'm doing that, do I feel like
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Speaker 3: I'm supposed to? You know, do I feel like that's
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Speaker 3: a necessary thing? And it's really just looking at how
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Speaker 3: things feel again, it's right, it's paying attention to all
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Speaker 3: those things.
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Speaker 2: And then it goes back to.
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Speaker 3: Well, gosh, I could probably have a lot of apologies
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Speaker 3: just for bringing up people's stuff. It's like, it's not
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Speaker 3: not my stuff to be bringing up. But it was
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Speaker 3: my conversations. It was what I knew and then made
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Speaker 3: that made me recognize. You know, I would have considered
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Speaker 3: those narcissistic values honestly, a lot of that stuff. It's
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Speaker 3: talking about that stuff, and like, how look how this
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Speaker 3: is affecting me. So it's like my whole dynamics has
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Speaker 3: changed because it's like it's not it's not about any
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Speaker 3: about stuff. It's that doesn't ring true. It doesn't it
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Speaker 3: doesn't even feel good when I get done with the conversation.
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Speaker 3: If it doesn't feel good, I'm recognizing real quick, where
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Speaker 3: did I start not feeling good in that conversation. If
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Speaker 3: I'm watching something and I don't feel good, I just
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Speaker 3: don't watch it, you know.
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Speaker 2: You know, it's just paying attention to all those little things.
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Speaker 3: And then recognizing, you know, I'll stop for a second
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Speaker 3: and I'll look at the kids, my kids and tell
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Speaker 3: them I love you, you know, And then it's like
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Speaker 3: I think I told said recently, one of my grandkids
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Speaker 3: will say I love you. But I almost feel like
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Speaker 3: it's a reassurance thing, just like I need a reassurance.
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Speaker 3: So I'm recognizing things and how which you've talked about
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Speaker 3: a million times, how they're helping me to transform and
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Speaker 3: helping me to see things differently and helping me to
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Speaker 3: see the bigger picture, because all of it is how
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Speaker 3: how is this showing up for me? Like what do
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Speaker 3: I do with this information? And how am I processing this?
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Speaker 3: What am I doing that? Similar to this? Millions of
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Speaker 3: things right? And I will just go back to a judgment.
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Speaker 3: How can I, you know, have these amazing friendships and
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Speaker 3: stuff if I'm judging myself, because that means at some
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Speaker 3: point there's a judgment that's going on there too, because
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Speaker 3: it's to present to me an opportunity to either stay
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Speaker 3: the same or to evolve and see things a little
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Speaker 3: bit differently, or ask gosh, Amy you're doing that, how
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Speaker 3: did you get to that point? Or how do you
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Speaker 3: feel when you do that, or just sitting back and
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Speaker 3: observing and recognizing.
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Speaker 2: When Amy has these interactions with people, how does it feel?
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Speaker 2: What does it look like?
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Speaker 1: Oh?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, she really did. She did say that. If you
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Speaker 3: keep talking about the person, you know, it's like the
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Speaker 3: it's like beatle juice, you know, you say the name
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Speaker 3: three times and it's like he just shows up right.
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Speaker 3: It's almost like the same thing. And we don't recognize
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Speaker 3: that we're doing it. We just start thinking about a
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Speaker 3: situation and there's a person attached to that situation. Now
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Speaker 3: you're bringing that person right back into the situation again,
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Speaker 3: instead of looking at it like you would look at it,
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Speaker 3: like how can I grow from this? Because as soon
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Speaker 3: as you put yourself in that space of asking that question,
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Speaker 3: you've totally shifted gears and you're not even feeling the
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Speaker 3: same way. And now it's not about the person that
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Speaker 3: was even involved in the first place. It was about
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Speaker 3: how is this triggering me? It triggered me for a reason,
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Speaker 3: but why? And the only way you're each person's going
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Speaker 3: to figure that out is by going internally and asking
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Speaker 3: themselves those questions.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yep, true that. And when when you're talking about
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Speaker 1: the judgment when we when we were judging others, we're
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Speaker 1: placing conditions on the on the relationship, which is conditional love.
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Speaker 1: And what we can do with the information in the
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Speaker 1: is when I'm thinking about people saying I love you
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Speaker 1: to me, and then if I choose to process or
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Speaker 1: think about It's not like I analyze every single person
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Speaker 1: who says I love you. It's just an awareness that
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Speaker 1: I have, And it's not a matter of judging them
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Speaker 1: at where they're at with themselves and their own self love.
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Speaker 1: It's a how do I feel receiving that from them?
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Speaker 1: And then when I say I love you to somebody else,
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Speaker 1: how deep does that self love go for me when
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Speaker 1: I share that with somebody? So if I look at
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Speaker 1: Bev and say I love you Bev, how much do
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Speaker 1: I feel that within myself? That now she's a mirror
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Speaker 1: of me? So she what's my level of love for
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Speaker 1: her as a mirror to me of what she represents
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Speaker 1: as my external being a reflection. So that's that's what
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Speaker 1: we can do, is improve on ourselves of the level
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Speaker 1: of love or the level of judgment that we have
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Speaker 1: when we're interacting with others, or when we're thinking about
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Speaker 1: other people or talking about other people having a self awareness,
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Speaker 1: what is the depth of my self love? And how
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Speaker 1: much am I judging others? Because I'm judging others, I'm
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Speaker 1: judging myself, which affects my self love. So it's a
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Speaker 1: it's a tool, it's a it's a tool to recognize
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Speaker 1: that you could use to improve yourself if you choose
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Speaker 1: to just be into better within yourself and when you're
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Speaker 1: you're you're better within yourself, that just automatically pours out.
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Speaker 3: It's true, and it's recognizing that because they're they're gauged too.
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Speaker 3: And if you if someone's in my experience that maybe
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Speaker 3: I recognize as not loving themselves very much, then it's
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Speaker 3: an opportunity for me for my own experience to look
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Speaker 3: at myself and ask, how can I love myself more?
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Speaker 3: Because this is being presented to me because I'm not
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Speaker 3: loving myself as much as I could be loving myself.
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Speaker 3: I love myself conditionally. How did I perform conditions?
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Speaker 1: Right?
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Speaker 3: It's like all these things that I've put I've placed
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Speaker 3: upon myself. I may have learned it from people that
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Speaker 3: were helping to raise me, but it's like it was
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Speaker 3: my choice to take it on and I took it on. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: and then gosh, even now that we're having the conversation,
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Speaker 3: I can go back because I relieve my mom's been
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Speaker 3: on my mind a lot this week, but it's a
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Speaker 3: processing where a lot of my own personal programming, how
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Speaker 3: it's led me to this point that I've carried my
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Speaker 3: whole life fifty five years of someone else's stuff and
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Speaker 3: recognizing that, but now with this conversation, recognizing she just didn't.
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Speaker 3: My mom was seventeen years old when she had me.
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Speaker 3: It's like she was and go in traumas and you know,
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Speaker 3: things that had happened to her, And it's like she's
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Speaker 3: raising me from her own experiences, which is how we've
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Speaker 3: all been raised and how we've raised a lot of
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Speaker 3: our kids, and sometimes we who've done a lot better
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Speaker 3: job than our parents did, and sometimes not so much.
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Speaker 3: But it's just recognizing all that stuff and recognizing they
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Speaker 3: just didn't. My mom couldn't love herself, No one ever
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Speaker 3: taught her. So how do we change things? It's by
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Speaker 3: asking within, like how can I love myself more? How
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Speaker 3: can I love myself more than I've ever loved myself?
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Speaker 3: Because as soon as we do that, now our capacity
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Speaker 3: to love is so much grander than it ever possibly
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Speaker 3: could have been prior to that. And all that all
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Speaker 3: that stuff did, was created asking within to want to
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Speaker 3: fill that love and then want to share that love
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Speaker 3: with everybody else.
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Speaker 1: So there you have it. People, we're giving you tools today,
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Speaker 1: so use them to check. Look at yourself. What is
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Speaker 1: the level of self love that you have? How much
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Speaker 1: to time, attention, energy are you giving to other people
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Speaker 1: in judgment? And if you're judging them, you're judging yourself.
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Speaker 1: And so take some time when you're interacting with people
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Speaker 1: out in the world, or just practice. Practice with the
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Speaker 1: people in your house, practice with the people that you
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Speaker 1: work with, those people that you're around most of the time.
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Speaker 1: Then that's a good opportunity for you to practice. And
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Speaker 1: that's all it is. And don't judge yourself for where
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Speaker 1: you're at with yourself, because it's a practice. We're here
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Speaker 1: to practice and we're all figuring it out. So and
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Speaker 1: this is why Bev and I come together to have
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Speaker 1: these conversations because we're just sharing what we're noticing about
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Speaker 1: ourselves and what tools we use to help ourselves to
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Speaker 1: be and do better. And we want to share that
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Speaker 1: with you. So you could do the same. You can
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Speaker 1: be resourceful. You can share this video, you could share links,
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Speaker 1: you can share other podcasts, whatever resonates with you, whatever
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Speaker 1: is helping give you guidance. And there's other people seeking
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Speaker 1: this information as well. So we can be bound on
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Speaker 1: many platforms. We're found on YouTube, Speaker, Spotify, Google Podcasts,
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Speaker 1: No podcast addic and Facebook and Instagram. So have or
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Speaker 1: be courageous. Be courageous and have the conversations yourself. So
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Speaker 1: in any aspect of what works for you, be a resource.
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Speaker 1: So with that, do you have any final words.
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Speaker 3: On One thing I would say is ask yourself, how
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Speaker 3: can I love myself more?
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Speaker 2: And see what comes forward?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? All right, my friends, to you time with Amy
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Speaker 1: and Bev. Thanks for hanging out. We'll see you next time. Yes,