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The Glow Up No One Talks About · The Voice: Breaking, Believing, Becoming

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  Welcome to The Voice, where breaking, believing, and becoming finally have somewhere to be heard.
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  I'm Kim Munoz, and I'm thrilled that you're here.
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  So I wrote something on my blog this month, but I feel like I need to say some
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  of it out loud, because I think people see this glow-up in me,
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  and they don't really understand what it took to get here.
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  My glow-up wasn't accidental. It wasn't just time passing and things magically getting better.
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  It was a lot of work, both internal and external.
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  Yes, there was healing, and there was growth.
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  And I also know there was something, someone guiding me through it all,
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  even in the moments I didn't fully recognize it.
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  For those of us who are faithful, there's a moment, and if I'm being honest,
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  there's lots of moments where you lean into your faith, and it begins to lean
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  right back into you, holding you up and keeping you steady.
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  The Holy Spirit has a funny way of moving you even when you don't realize you're being moved.
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  And I'm talking about moving you in ways that require you to be present,
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  to look forward, and to trust the place that you find yourself in.
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  But also there was intention, like very real and most times uncomfortable decisions that I had to make.
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  And I think that part gets skipped over because it's not as pretty.
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  No one really wants to talk about those messy, in-the-trenches moments.
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  It's easier to celebrate the result than to talk about what it actually requires.
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  Because a real glow-up, it's not just what you add to your life.
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  More importantly, it's what you stop allowing, and learning to recognize the
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  difference between the two.
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  And for me, that meant finally listening to that quiet voice in me that kept
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  saying, this isn't who you are.
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  This isn't who you're meant to be. There's more for you.
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  And even when you feel paralyzed by the challenges that that may bring,
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  you still have to keep moving forward.
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  I decided, and honestly, when you want to see things change in your life,
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  you have to make choices.
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  So I decided I wasn't going to stay in a version of myself that someone else broke.
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  And I don't think I would have had the strength to make those decisions on my
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  own if it weren't for my faith.
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  Because staying, staying was familiar. Staying was easier.
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  Staying was what I thought I had to do. But rebuilding yourself,
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  that's intentional. It's uncomfortable.
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  And it costs something, and sometimes that cost is everything you've ever known
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  for something you can't fully see yet.
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  That in-between space, that's where faith sits.
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  And here's something that actually happened to me recently. I was listening
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  to someone from my past on a podcast, and they're talking about their life,
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  their journey, and I'm sitting there realizing, hmm, I lived that.
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  I helped to build parts of that. I was there for those seasons.
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  And to be clear, they didn't speak badly about me. They even gave me a little credit at one point.
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  But honestly, they were always really good at doing just enough to make you
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  question whether it was you or them that was the problem.
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  But when it ended, I didn't feel proud. I felt small.
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  Like I got pulled right back into that version of myself that lived in that dynamic for a long time.
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  The one who second-guessed herself, the one
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  who learned how to shrink just enough to keep the peace but never fully take
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  up space and for a second i was that girl again and i had this moment where
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  i thought wait a minute what just happened i thought i did the work i thought
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  i had moved on and then it hit me that is the glow up.
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  And what's wild is, I had just had a conversation with someone I love very deeply
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  about the very same thing, someone who's standing at that same edge right now.
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  And I remember saying to them, you can't keep looking back at something God
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  already pulled you out of.
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  And I didn't turn it into a whole thing, but in my head I kept thinking about
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  Lot's wife in the Bible, how she looked back and turned into a pillar of salt.
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  And what that lesson was really teaching us, it wasn't about punishment,
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  it was about this, what happens to us when we stay emotionally stuck in something
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  we were meant to walk away from,
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  and how easy it is to do that, not physically, but emotionally,
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  mentally, and spiritually.
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  Because before, that feeling of being small, that was my normal.
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  Now, it's unfamiliar, It's noticeable, and it's temporary.
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  I don't live there anymore. I visit, and then I leave.
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  And honestly, that awareness, that's something I've prayed for.
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  Because the glow up isn't about erasing who you are or who you were.
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  It's about no longer confusing her with who you are now.
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  And the truth is, losing and finding yourself can happen in so many different ways.
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  Sometimes it's a breakup. Sometimes it's a divorce. Sometimes it's loss,
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  the kind you never asked for.
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  And sometimes it's after years of being everything for everyone else,
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  being a partner, being a mom, being what was needed, and then one day,
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  you're finally face to face with yourself again, and you realize you get to
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  rediscover who you are at any point in your life, not just in the beginning,
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  not just when it's convenient, but right now.
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  And I think there's another layer to this that we don't always say out loud.
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  My glow-up wasn't just emotional, there was a physical side to it, too.
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  And I made the decision to freshen up my physical appearance,
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  with the help of some incredible people and friends.
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  You can read more about them in my blog this month, but I truly cannot recommend
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  them enough, and I'm so grateful for what they helped me step into.
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  Not to become someone new, but to finally match how I was starting to feel on the inside.
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  Confident, beautiful again, not small.
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  But let me be honest about that, too. That decision came with a cost,
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  financially, of course, but more than that, mentally.
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  Because there's a moment after when you're sitting with yourself recovering
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  and you start asking, what did I just do?
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  And who did I really do this for? And there's a little guilt in that.
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  Because unless something's medically necessary, it does feel self-serving.
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  And for someone like me, who spent most of her life living for other people,
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  that's an internal shift and it's uncomfortable.
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  And I had to bring that to God and really check my heart in it.
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  Was this insecurity or alignment?
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  What I came to was this. For the first time, I wasn't doing something to be
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  chosen. I was doing something because I already was.
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  And I truly believe when your heart is aligned and your intention is right,
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  God isn't focused on the surface. He's looking at what's behind it all.
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  And now, I think about this version of a woman, my version, the one who finally
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  walks away from a life where she wasn't treated the way she deserved.
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  And suddenly, she's different. Not perfect, just different.
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  She's lighter. She's freer. She's not asking for permission anymore.
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  Maybe it's gold bangles. Maybe it's lululemon in a messy bun.
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  But either way, she's finally in her life, not watching it.
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  So no, this glow-up wasn't accidental. It was intentional. It was layered. It was rebuilding.
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  And I know I didn't do it alone. He's always been there, guiding me,
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  strengthening me, helping me become who I was always meant to be.
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  If you're in a season of breaking, please hold on. Believing is coming,
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  and becoming, it's already happening.
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  And next week, we're going to lighten it up a little, because after all this growth.
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  We need to talk about what happens when you reenter this world and think,
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  what is actually happening out here?
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  I'll see you next time, and until then, take care of yourself,
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  grab an espresso martini if you like, and keep becoming.