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When Opportunity Knocks Do You Answer? · Natty Unfiltered

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Foreign.
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Hey, it's Natalia. Welcome back to Nadian Filtered
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podcast. The space where we get real about identity,
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confidence and rediscovering yourself beyond motherhood.
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Here's the thing nobody tells you. You will never feel a
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hundred percent ready, ever.
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So when opportunity knocks on your door, you have a choice.
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Do you wait until you feel ready, which might never come,
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or do you answer the door with your, you know,
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your heart pounding, you shaking your knees,
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but knowing this might be the exact moment that takes
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you on to the next level. Did you
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know that the average millionaire has seven streams
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of income? Take a minute to think about
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that seven. Not one, not two,
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seven. That means that they
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did not just stick to one safe path. They opened the door
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again and again. And people who are
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successful, I promise you they have failed
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numerous times. So today we're talking
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about the opportunities that show up in your life and what
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happens when you either shut the door or decide to run with it.
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I think a lot of times when we think about you want to open
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up the business. You have
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to have all your ducks in a row before you actually launch it.
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And then you wait. Then you have a year, 2, 3, 5, 10, 15 years,
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et cetera pass by and
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your idea is just an idea on a piece of paper and
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you're not going after it because you feel like you're not ready. You don't
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have all the facts, you don't have all the information. You're just not ready.
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And you can come up with gazillion excuses or why
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you're not starting something because you
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just don't feel like you're ready.
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The thing is, is that you will never going to be ready,
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100% ready. You just need to start.
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And that's why the average millionaire has different streams of
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income. They have seven because they started, they failed.
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They start, they failed and they something
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worried. They move on to another business opportunity and get that
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going. It's all in how badly
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do you want it ready.
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Readiness is a myth. You'll never feel fully
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prepared. And that's not a reason to wait. It's the
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reason to start. You have to remember
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that confidence doesn't come before action. It's, it comes after
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action.
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Now ask yourself a question. What opportunities have you ignored
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because you were waiting for that perfect I am ready moment?
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I mean, I can relate to this a thousand percent.
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I've had so many different ideas of the
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businesses, but it's, I've, I remember started multiple
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and I guess I didn't go all the way through like I wanted to have
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an E Commerce to sell a baby clothes. That's when my first
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child was born. And because of fear of failure, I went at
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it about. I went into it like 70% and
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I didn't completely launch it because I was afraid to
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fail. Fail. I didn't have that confidence in
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me that I can succeed because of it.
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I had to work through my fear of failure for
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years. I wanted to be a health coach because
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health was very important to me.
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And I, you know, got a certificate to become
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a health coach. I didn't fully took
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this off the ground, not completely
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again, because I was afraid. I was
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afraid that if I have a client sitting in front of me and they'll ask
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me a question that I don't know the answer to, I would feel dumb.
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That was the stupidest thing that I could think.
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If I look back at it, because we never know. You're not,
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you're never going to know the answers to all the questions.
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The point is, is that if you don't know something, you just let
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the person know that I don't have the answer for you right now.
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But I'll be sure to find out and I will get back to you
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and get back to the person with an answer.
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But you know what? I learned that later on I
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had to go through different steps in my life to get to where I am
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now. I had so many ideas which I
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started but didn't fully. They didn't fully take off
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because I was afraid to fail.
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But if you are afraid to fail, you're never going
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to start. How do you know you're gonna. How do you gonna know if
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you're gonna fail or how do you gonna know you're going to
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succeed if you are not even going to start?
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And I realize it all comes from the mental state. And that's
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something that I had to work through for years to get stronger,
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to have a stronger mindset and to realize that I have
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to use the fear to my advantage and work through it and
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do it scared and not be 100%
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ready, but just do it. If I feel passionate about something that
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I just need to start and I'll figure it out along the way.
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In real estate, when I got back to
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real estate, there were question when I would go out with
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the clients and if I did not know the answer,
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I would, you know, reach out to my friend, other agents.
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I would have the answer and I will make sure to get back to
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my clients as soon as possible. Sometimes I would even
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got back to with an answer still being
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out with them showing homes. So it's
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about and I was not afraid to tell
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them, hey, I don't have the answer to it, but I will find out and
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I make sure that I got back to them with an
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answer and they appreciate it for me to getting back
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to them quickly with an answer. I didn't just drop them or
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drop the ball and never got back to them.
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So it's okay that you might not know everything.
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It's just about getting back to people,
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learning and continue to improve yourself
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and your confidence is just going to come with experience that
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that's all it is. You want to do it because you
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think you can't. When you hear yourself say I can't do this,
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that's the exact sign that you should. I a
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lot of times I tell my kids, my youngest one will say mom,
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I can't do this. And I will tell him,
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well, you need to try. Because if you don't
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try, you're going to continue to say that you can do this.
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If you getting ready for a test and
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you say, oh, I can't, I can't do this test well,
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you need to then go. You need to study. You need to know the
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material so you can go out and take that test and say that yes,
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you know, I can do this. Now.
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Fear doesn't mean that you stop. Fear means that growth
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and something that you always need to work through. You have fear
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of something, learn what it is and just
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grow from it, but still push through it.
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You have to reframe your mind and say
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if it terrifies me, it's probably the direction I need to go.
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Not to go backwards, not to just completely stop
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and not go after your dreams and your goals. You need
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to face it head on and work through it and reset
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your mind when
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the opportunity shows up. Ask does this bring me closer
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to how I want to feel?
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You. You, you need
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to stop saying am
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I good enough? And start filtering through.
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Does this move me towards my vision? What is
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your vision? Write it down and then you work towards
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that. Now bring me to the next talking point. Is the
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comfort zone trap Falling
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is part of the journey. The difference is whether you retreat
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to the comfort zone or pivot into
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the unknown. I remember when I
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was getting into digital affiliate marketing.
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Affiliate marketing. I knew what, what it was about.
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Digital marketing was completely new. I couldn't really understand what
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it was. And digital marketing is, I mean you can really see anything.
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It's, it's the courses.
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It's. If you ever taking the
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fitness classes online on
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app, those are digital products. Um,
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I did not really know what it
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was about. And when I started to learn it and I wanted, okay,
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you know, I want to get into it. I wanted to make this my online
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business. And through that journey, like, I had to
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pivot so many times because I needed to get my
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point across to my
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audience. I needed to get out
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of the comfort zone of making the videos different
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than what I'm used to showing,
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showcasing what I made for
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dinner for my family, or for lunches, or showcasing
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the travel, or showcasing the fashion
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outfits. It's completely different than looking in the camera and
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speaking to somebody that's across from
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the screen and try to get your point across
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within a certain time frame.
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That was something that I had to suck at. I had to pivot.
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I had to learn how to better do videos,
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how to better get my point across.
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I didn't give up. It took
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me out of my comfort zone, but I continued to learn
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and get better. I asked for
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advice from my closest friends and
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to give me pointers, what I should or should not be doing,
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and I took them in. I wasn't upset
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or mad
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at what the feedback I was hearing because I
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asked for the feedback because I wanted to get better. How am I going to
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get better if I don't ask for a feedback?
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So that's something that I had to learn. So you need to
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get, you need to step out of the comfort zone and pivot
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if you want to be better and get to
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your final destination of where you want it to be. In your
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business, your identity isn't
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built on how you feel. It's built, built on the choices you make.
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We all have choices in how we approach life, how we
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approach different situations. So you have to remember that the
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choices you make are very important.
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Every time you choose the comfort zone, you reinforce
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fear. Every time you choose courage, you reinforce
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possibility.
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You, you need to kind of think about that for a second.
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If you just kept going even after the last no,
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where could you be one year from now?
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And I always say that I
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hear plenty of times that, oh, I can't do this because I'm not,
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I'm not really into social media or I can't
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really do the videos, or I don't know how to do this, or I don't
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feel comfortable. But then if
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you don't feel comfortable, you need to
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get uncomfortable. If you want to change certain things in your
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Learn how to take the videos, learn how to take better pictures,
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learn about the business about the marketing, ask for
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help, ask for directions from
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somebody that's maybe already been doing it and see if they're willing to help
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And I want to talk about the failure again.
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Failure is not proof you shouldn't try. It's information.
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Every, no, every flop, every wrong
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turn is simply feedback. If you pivot
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with the data, you move closer to your vision. If you
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quit, you stop the process of entirely.
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So I want to ask you, what's one failure that actually taught
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you something essential?
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As I mentioned before, I mean I failed so many times and
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I went on from, you know, like as mentioned trying
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to do E commerce with the kids clothes to a health coach.
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And then I wanted to get into
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online space and I got into the real estate
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and that would really then stuck because then I've learned
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from my previous mistakes, from my failures
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and, and I could see why I didn't move forward.
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But I worked through it. And when I get into online
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space and when things were not working,
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then I pivoted. I got horses,
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I got coaches. And that
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brought me step closer to being
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successful. And there's so many times where
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yes, I would sit and say, well, why am I not closer to where
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I should be? And you have that comparison game again
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in your head and you in online.
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That's something that I had to turn it off. And I needed to
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learn to get better. I needed to make
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myself happy. I needed to be happy with myself, with what
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I'm doing, what brings me joy. Because what brings you joy is
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that what brings going to keep on moving
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parts, keep on moving you to
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do better, to be successful.
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I had to open up to another friend and
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say, this is the struggles that I'm having. Why am I not seeing the success?
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And I feel like I'm so closed, but I just, the doors are not
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opening. And. And she was nice enough to have me
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talk to like her husband who's in
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the, you know, advertising field.
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He's so good at it. And I had this privilege
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to talk to him and also open up and be vulnerable.
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But I was willing to do that because I wanted to be
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better. I wanted to have the success. I wanted to have outside eyes
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on what I was doing and I was soaking in all the
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advice that I was getting and I was so grateful to
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have that opportunity to speak to someone who's been in
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advertising and she knows marketing world to
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give me his consultation
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so that I can move
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forward and I can pivot and not
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be afraid of, continue to put myself out there
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and continue to put myself out there to the audience that
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I was afraid to put myself in front of.
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Not everyone deserves access to your dreams.
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Some people over promise, under deliver or
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simply don't believe in your vision.
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You don't owe your journey to anybody.
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Instead look for those who show up through actions,
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not just words. Let their support fuel
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you but keep moving either way. I would
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tell you I've had people
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in my life who over promised and under
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delivered and it hurt it so bad because you
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believe there you thought that were like your colleagues, your friends and
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I did not put all my eggs in one basket and
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I was being very cautious. But it sure does sting when
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you think that somebody promises you things
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and promise to deliver and they don't
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do any of it. And it does
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keep me guarded and it does keep me
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trying to protect myself not to
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be completely trustworthy, which kind of sucks but
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that's the reality and you just,
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just move on and continue working towards
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my dreams, my goals.
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It's very important to trust and
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believe in the people that do it through actions,
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not just by words.
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Very important.
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Opportunities are doorways and you'll never feel fully
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ready to open them. Fear is not a stop sign. It's a
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green light telling you you're heading into growth.
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So the question I live I leave you with is this.
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What if you just continue on, Continued on.
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What if you stopped retreating to the comfort zone and
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started running towards the opportunities placed in your path?
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Your future self is waiting on the other side of
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the doors you choose to open.
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Don't keep her waiting.
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Thank you for tuning into the Natti Unfiltered podcast.
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If this gave you the push you needed, share it with another
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woman who's on the edge of something big.
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And remember, opportunity does not knock once.
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It knocks again and again. And your job
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is simple answer until
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next time.