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692. The Truth About Quitting Without Guilt · Be It Till You See It

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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, the employer employee relationship does not inherently require a lifelong debt, meaning that, like, of course, when you're working for someone, you know, do do everything in it and everything that's part of your role, but you don't owe them your life.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Welcome back to the Beat Till You See in a Viewer recap on my coast and life, Brad and I are going to dig into the gracious convoy habit Claire Solie in our last episode.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If you didn't listen, you missed out on the third time Claire Solis, but she's one of a few people who've been on three times.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: She is, but I think she's been on way more than that because she's done like, she's standing in the recaps.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, and all sorts of stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So as a guest, three times.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, but you know, longtime listeners will definitely know who Claire is Claire and Leslie go way way back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Go away at the way before I was in the picture way back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like you go back to like 2001.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like wave, you go back to 2001, yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So like I think I was still, what does one, we were graduating from high school?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I went to college in 2001 as well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's when you met your first year in college.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, I got a job.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I was broke.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was B-Roke.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, amazing.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I have a job to go on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, well, anyway, I can, I was listening to your pod and the two of you are hilarious.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because it's like,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, I just can't see why people are like, I'm gonna have pop my best friend of mine.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We're just gonna talk about things.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, like, because inevitably something good is gonna come out of it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You just have to be organized to like, what do we talk about?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Which is like, so we originally had a team was like, do you wanna have a pop on us?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, when we talk about, and then she and I were like doing whatever recastered is like, we shouldn't talk about ending, whatever it was like, and I was like, okay, great.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Exiting.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The team will be thrilled.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we've thought about that like having a second one that's free no ads like like all these different things.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Go to OPC.me, such 4-0.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Just go to OPC.me.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, great.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Even easier.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Today is June 11th.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And it's certified nurses week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I K A C N A week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It takes place on Thursday of the second full week of June.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I really do love the others day.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These are the second full week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I love when it's like it's not the third month of June can't be it can't be the second Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It has to be the second Thursday the Thursday of the second full week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So Thursday can't be it can't be the eighth because if the week starts on Wednesday that first Thursday does not count.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If the months first week starts on a Wednesday or like not a full week, right?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Then the first Thursday might not count.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the second.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the third day of the second full week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I think that's complicated.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's because I'm just the second to instead of the instead of saying because what there might not be the second Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But what they, well, they could say the second Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: No, it might not be the second Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: No, if June 2nd is a Thursday, then June 9th is a Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That's the second Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, I think they made it complicated.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But that wouldn't be it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It would be on the next week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So, call listener, hold on.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You mean to tell me that people don't grab the 30-day calendar and go one, two.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: not necessarily if the if it's not a full week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the caveat here.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I think that's crazy.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I've telling you I always when we do FYFs, I don't go skip in the first Friday because it wasn't a full week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I do all the Friday.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I am with you on this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I am agreeing with you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is not simple.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like that's where we got to.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So it takes place on the simple to be a CNA either.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So it takes place on the second full week of June.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you like that?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do that lead back?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Is a week full?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, because I also want a week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: No, it's a full week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a full week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's a full week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's a full week.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's a little bit of starts on Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, is a fully summary since honoring the hard work.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you all want to know why I think I'm audio HD?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There's the autism.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm so stuck on this second Thursday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: This year, it has held from June 11th to June 17th, certified nursing assistants began working under the Red Cross program during World War I and have served alongside US Army nurses.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Hundreds of young women were trained to care for wounded soldiers in reserve, field-based and civilian hospitals.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Did you know that before 1987 nurses' systems were not required to have a formal education?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I did not know that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, so who's seen the pit because there's actually a whole episode on the medics?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But this is why I was asking you what the name of the show is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it watching right now?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I yelled at across the house earlier when I was talking about this.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I was like, let's talk about the show.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm hyper vigilant, but okay, what I'm not doing.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm not new to the pit.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's already like, I don't know, filming season three or something like that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And so I'm in many awards.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: All of my friends talk about it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, we get after we quit if you're new to it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm new to it because I, as much as I appreciate the nostalgia of a weekly show that we all talk about.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't have that capacity.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I want, if I'm going to sit down and watch a show, I want to like, I want to binge through like I really like that I can.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And I, I, all that stuff anyways, because I will the next week I'll forget and then I'll, and then I'll be like spoiler alerts.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And I'm trying not to watch like when love is why I was like dropping in increments.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm like, fuck, I have to get off my Instagram because the spoilers are coming.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So like, I, so because it spoiled and I didn't pay attention to it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because it wasn't as quick and on, I sat on a plane yesterday.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I watched 10 episodes on a row.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm obsessed.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And the head nurse is like kicking ass, but they did have a whole episode on the sky talking about like what's the first like Feel better and feel medical it's more on how they got became one.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, I also believe it may be it wasn't the nurses that might have been the women who were doing the phone lines But they had to pay for their own uniforms
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  [SPEAKER_01]: and things like that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So there's all this different stuff.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, you guys, we have a nursing shortage in the United States of America because it sucks to work in health care.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The only people making money in health care is CBS and the insurance companies.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So the real, this is not sponsored by them, but you know, they've got the money.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So come on over.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So the reality is, please be kind to your nurses.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We need every single one of them.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We need, I know it's frustrating when you have to go to the, like, when you have to go, like,
• 7:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't even want to see them in the hospital, I was at a doctor's office and they make me fill out this online check and cheat every single time.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I have to fill in my allergies, my first period, my family stuff, every single time, every single time.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And I literally the second time I went in a month, I said, hey guys, is there any way where I can just tap a box that said nothing has changed?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Everything is this thing nothing there's zero like the only thing guys I just don't know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't filling it out.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, like the only thing that's different is like My last cycle.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I'll give you that because it's a female doctor and anyway But I said I said look I'm not trying to cut under just here But be nice to them be nice to them.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It is their DNA week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So go so so they're apparently on average 190,000
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  [SPEAKER_00]: annual openings for registered nurses each year projected through 2032.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Wow.
• 8:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: Due to retirements, burnouts and rising care demands, and while the workforce is growing, it cannot keep pace with the needs of an aging boomer population.
• 8:54
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this boomer population, man, they just love you because I'm a viewer boomers, but man,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, nurses are very important and it's a high stress job.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So we are we all the all the props all the props to the nurses out there.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Upcoming travel and that's you guys were around.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We're sticking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we're we're home for a minute, and it's nice.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Although, when you're watching this, what what days is we are June 11th.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, yeah, do I'm home?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, we're in the house.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: June and July.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We're even foster a puppy or something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, we're going to go take some dogs and hikes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're rebuilding the van right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We mean spread.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We means Brad, Brad is rebuilding the van right now from the inside out, obviously.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Well, the outside's done.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
• 9:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, not necessarily.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, actually, I guess I'm adding a roof rack and amounting all solar and all this extra stuff.
• 9:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So like we're getting fancy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I got some really cool specs done for the interior and we're going to be completely overhauling it before the summer tour, which is coming up.
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• 10:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like Leslie said last week that that was hilarious.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, I think the point is we're going into circles with the top of my circle.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's a sweet circle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah a couple of hours several subs of a couple of hours a couple of miles But anyway, the go to opc.me slash tour.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're doing 14.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I think it's 14 stops and we're no idea I haven't even seen the list yet.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's gonna be great.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're we're excited.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're visiting some new spots revisiting some old spots and can't wait to see everyone so if you want to come
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• 11:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then if you're new here, Leslie teaches a mentorship program for teachers.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: almost completed the full project here of these flashcards that we've been on a mission for for six years, the last that came out last year.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now we're working on like, you know, like, collectors box that has like a cute little stand.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't have got some ideas.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It might take us a little longer than we thought.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's not as much of a priority.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's for sure.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But you should go check out the cards themselves because they're epic.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Go to opc.me slash flashcards.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Opc.me slash flashcards.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You know what I wish?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Maybe it's more of like,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: somehow it's a stand where you could put the card on the front or the back of this clear thing and the back could be a magnifier.
• 12:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, so that's interesting.
• 12:10
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, like you put the card on the front and of the slot and it would just hold it up to pretty cute.
• 12:15
  [SPEAKER_01]: But if you put it on the behind, it would magnify it for our payment of puzzle ladies.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I cannot get enough words on there.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I need to get the font attend.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's why we linked back to the website on every card because the website we can write as much as we want.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And you can make it bigger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, and you do that too.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Cool.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Go to opc.me slash flashcards.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so this week's charitable organization.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, we made this chain a couple weeks ago.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Go back and listen.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If you want to know why we made the change, we don't have time for today.
• 12:45
  [SPEAKER_01]: June is Pride Month, you guys, and that means I wanted to, I thought it'd be interesting on our recaps to just talk about different LGBTQ IA charities that are doing great work for that community, because that community right now needs all the support I can get, because it is fighting the good fight and trying to help people.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The whole community is just being hit with laws, left-right and center in the country.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So I wanted in the US anyways, and so I wanted to
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So the Trevor Prado was found in 1998 and West Hollywood, California by James, less than it, less than, less than, less than, less than, less than, less than, less than, or you don't think it's less than me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Actually, I think it's less than me.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, less than me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, by James.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: James, Peggy, Peggy, Richie, Rajki, I'm Richie, and Randy Stone.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Creators of the Film Trevor, the Trevor Project is an American non-profit organization as a leading national organization providing crisis intervention,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: young people aged 13 to 24, that's a really, really tough at age, but you know, you, it's a really important that they have support and the organization offers a confidential telephone helpline, the Traverse Base Forum and the educational programs will reporting increase revenues and dedicating 80% of its budget to programs.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That's huge for a big charity as them, 80% to go like that.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: This is what we're looking at when we're looking at charities.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, it has face criticism regarding its promotion of gender ideology and allegations of mismanagement.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So okay, no, it's perfect.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But I do, I do, I've heard of the project with different groups of different podcasts talking about how it can be helpful.
• 14:18
  [SPEAKER_01]: And so, you know, I definitely hope it, I hope it helps people who are listening, who have friends, who's kids, or loved ones who need this help.
• 14:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, well, if you want to support them go to their website, the Trevor project dot org, the Trevor project dot org and I was looking at the website and learning a little more about them and a pop up happen and it said, hey, if you need a quick exit from our website, you can just hit the escape key three times and I was like, what I'm really interested about this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: the tab that I was on with the Trevor Project and it opened Google and so if you are looking for support from the Trevor Project and you're concerned about someone barging in on you or you don't want to share that information with the people that you might live with or be around what an amazing way for them to think ahead and I mean it's pretty awesome.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Speaking of the pit, there was this one episode about human trafficking and they were giving this girl a pen before they gave her the pen because I thought the person that she was with was trafficking her.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They opened up the pen to show her that on the, in the ink part is the phone number.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So the pen just looks like this like stupid pharmaceutical pen, but when you open it up, it actually had a help line.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And so I just think that like,
• 15:42
  [SPEAKER_01]: I love that groups are getting really creative with how can they actually help people because just putting, you know, a flyer in a place like, here you go, it's like, you know, and can take that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, it's like it's like in the, when we fly around the world and we're in the airports.
• 15:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: there's not just signs everywhere, but there are hidden posters on the inside of the bathroom stalls that are about trafficking.
• 16:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: And it says, hey, and it's in multiple languages, like half a dozen languages, it's like if you are being trafficked, here's the help line how to get support right now.
• 16:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you can call a number if you have access to a phone, of course,
• 16:20
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh my gosh, there was a bar in Miami that's like, all these bars, they have, if you order an angel drink, they call it the drink is called angel like, oh, I'd like to order the angel shot, then it tells the waiter that you feel unsafe with the date that you're on and they will help.
• 16:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: you know, you get out of that situation, which is amazing.
• 16:39
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like they, like, I don't know how they're helping.
• 16:40
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, I, I maybe they call you a writer, something like that, something like that.
• 16:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: I don't quote quote me.
• 16:44
  [SPEAKER_01]: But I know the word with like Angel.
• 16:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: I guess if the men find out what the word is for, you know, I don't, that's probably not so, the street was probably the women's restrooms.
• 16:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: But yeah, the Angel shot.
• 16:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a coded phrase used to signal bar stuff that you feel unsafe and need help, such as a bad date.
• 16:59
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, going back to the travel project, you know, there's different things you can do.
• 17:02
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, if you want to do things more local to you, we, whenever we order, whenever you come to a retreat at our house, if you're an elevate, things like that, we actually order from Bronze Cafe and proceeds from their restaurant go to support the mental health of LGBTQ community in Las Vegas.
• 17:17
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, it's June is Pride Month.
• 17:19
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, you're going to find all these different things around where you are, that are going to help people in this community,
• 17:25
  [SPEAKER_01]: Obviously, try to do it all year long because they need it, but I just think that it's a real shame that this group of people is being marginalized and made the reason why people's lives are so difficult.
• 17:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: The transmuni specifically, they are 2% of the population in the actual 2% that is ruining people's lives across the world are the billionaires those are the welfare people those are the people who like I shared a post was showing like.
• 17:49
  [SPEAKER_01]: Amazon pays like 1.87% in taxes or something like that.
• 17:53
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's like something stupid.
• 17:54
  [SPEAKER_01]: Alpha that actually pays 10% that shocked me.
• 17:57
  [SPEAKER_01]: I was like, they're not getting the best deal.
• 17:59
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like so.
• 18:00
  [SPEAKER_01]: So anyways, if we all got together and supported people who are different than us and actually took out the small amount of people who are getting rich off of us, there will be a much different place and then this group of people would actually get to live.
• 18:12
  [SPEAKER_01]: with human rights like the rest of us get to have.
• 18:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, I just wanted to quickly check that stat in the US roughly one out of 10 identifies as LGBTQ as of 2024.
• 18:23
  [SPEAKER_01]: Right, but trans is two percent trans.
• 18:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, okay.
• 18:26
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yes, but yeah, what I'm saying, you know, oh, I know where spots was spent all a time on this, but the internet really pisses me off when these men are like, I'm not going to have a gate
• 18:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: Right, like it's there.
• 18:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I shared this thing with you.
• 18:38
  [SPEAKER_01]: This guy got this person to, like, like, like, he's like, oh, no, you choose to be gay.
• 18:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: He's like, oh, okay, we'll be gay right now.
• 18:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: He's like, be gay right now.
• 18:47
  [SPEAKER_01]: He's like, oh, no, he's like, he's like, he's like, well, you said you could choose.
• 18:49
  [SPEAKER_01]: You choose to be gay.
• 18:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: So be gay right now.
• 18:51
  [SPEAKER_01]: So the guy's like, okay, I choose to be a tragedy right now.
• 18:54
  [SPEAKER_01]: He's like, yeah, well, I'm not gay.
• 18:55
  [SPEAKER_01]: I can never choose to be gay.
• 18:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: But you, you just chose to be gay.
• 19:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: He's like, I'm only gay for like 10 seconds.
• 19:02
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, well, you're gay.
• 19:03
  [SPEAKER_01]: So actually, you're bisexual.
• 19:07
  [SPEAKER_01]: It was such, it was so well articulated, it was so great.
• 19:09
  [SPEAKER_01]: I didn't mean it just shows that a lot of people have idiocy's ridiculous years, all the different stuff.
• 19:15
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I think like the realities that we have to make sure that children today, especially this group of people, have love supporting community, know that they are, there's nothing wrong with them.
• 19:25
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, you know, yeah, so I could never imagine like I was bullied in school for having a big nose for having a big lips for being poor for my clothes being like not so like I could never imagine Because that when you're bullied like for that it changes.
• 19:39
  [SPEAKER_01]: They change people.
• 19:40
  [SPEAKER_01]: They get to somebody else that changes all the time to be bullied for Clear attracted to or how you identify Holy fuck that is relentless that'd be non-stop foundational.
• 19:52
  [SPEAKER_01]: I
• 19:54
  [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, okay.
• 19:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, we'll be right back.
• 19:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for sticking.
• 19:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: Say what else here.
• 19:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, all right.
• 20:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: So let's talk about Claire Soli.
• 20:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: Claire is a New York city based actress singer novelist and creative multi-hiphon it.
• 20:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: She has self-published three women's fiction novels is on the board of two theater companies in New York City and currently works a day job she genuinely enjoys.
• 20:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: Claire is also pursuing a PhD in creative writing, adding another chapter to her already wide-ranging creative career.
• 20:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't even know she was doing that.
• 20:32
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, she is.
• 20:33
  [SPEAKER_01]: We're going to call her Dr. Claire.
• 20:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: Dr. Sally.
• 20:37
  [SPEAKER_01]: I remember she said, I think I do this.
• 20:38
  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you think I'm crazy?
• 20:39
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I was like, you're going to do it anyways.
• 20:41
  [SPEAKER_01]: So I'm just going to say that.
• 20:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: That's when you know you have a real friend.
• 20:48
  [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't matter.
• 20:48
  [SPEAKER_01]: I know you're going to do it anyways.
• 20:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: So it doesn't matter.
• 20:52
  [SPEAKER_01]: All right.
• 20:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: So, yeah, so like I said, the two of you just beat off of each other.
• 20:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: So what was one of the one of the things that she said?
• 21:03
  [SPEAKER_01]: We got through so much, I think.
• 21:04
  [SPEAKER_01]: So I also feel like, by the way, it's exiting and it's a fair, it's I find out of all the podcasts, it has like that we've done.
• 21:12
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not just a theory, like she gave like actual tangible things throughout the whole pot.
• 21:17
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, it was great.
• 21:18
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, and I've made me realize that like we do the B at action times because in case someone's a little ethereal or a little esoteric, I wanted you to have tangible things to do.
• 21:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah, that's very true.
• 21:26
  [SPEAKER_01]: That's why it exists because of the woo woo people are just like, get to know yourself, love everyone.
• 21:31
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I wanted like, okay, well, what do I do today?
• 21:34
  [SPEAKER_01]: But this whole episode is like that.
• 21:35
  [SPEAKER_01]: So we should talk about employee relationships.
• 21:37
  [SPEAKER_01]: So that's really what this is.
• 21:39
  [SPEAKER_01]: We know not everybody works for someone else, so, but this is a great episode to
• 21:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes you end up in one, right?
• 21:47
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, I've a girlfriend who's been entrepreneur for decades and now she's an employee again.
• 21:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: So she said the employer employee relation does not inherit, inherently require a lifelong debt.
• 21:56
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I think a lot of people who listen to this podcast, maybe not young kids day because they've just seen it happen, like they don't, they've not even, well, what their scene is that the jobs won't even exist when they get older.
• 22:05
  [SPEAKER_01]: But for those elder millennials in Gen X, like, we're our parents at the same job forever.
• 22:11
  [SPEAKER_01]: So like,
• 22:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: My dad just retired from 43 years at the same and just I know we I think we had it on the pot already, but how many people have retired since that person took over my dad retired he asked the exit interview HR lady, hey how many people Have you had this interview with and she said since COVID five five.
• 22:35
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, five only five five and six years.
• 22:37
  [SPEAKER_01]: So
• 22:39
  [SPEAKER_01]: That's how many people are retiring, which means a lot of them are leaving.
• 22:41
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, oh, we're getting back.
• 22:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, but it does not inquire inherently require a lifelong debt.
• 22:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I think that's really important because I think, especially majority of this app, but most of our listeners are women.
• 22:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: We tend to worry a little bit.
• 22:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, I think if you qualify that, what does lifelong debt mean?
• 22:55
  [SPEAKER_01]: Okay, in this context, I'm going to just say your parents on their vacation were worried about when they should tell their bosses that they were retiring and I was like, you don't because somebody had left and I was like, you don't owe them that information, you're on vacation right now.
• 23:09
  [SPEAKER_01]: You shouldn't even know
• 23:10
  [SPEAKER_01]: That that person is like I was like literally like arguing with them.
• 23:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm like why would you eat like why would you even go oh I'm going to retire to so look for two people no not your responsibility it's their responsibility be thinking about if people leave and so that's what I would say yeah I mean life long debt I would say is just your entire life or your audience around the company that's for and I know how.
• 23:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I operate, and that would be to pour myself into this company.
• 23:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever company that I'm working with.
• 23:41
  [SPEAKER_01]: I did that for every company I worked for.
• 23:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: I just kept being promoted because I poured so hard.
• 23:45
  [SPEAKER_01]: They're like, this girl doing so much.
• 23:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: We should give her this next job.
• 23:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and so yeah, the employer and play relationship does not inherently require a lifelong debt, meaning that, like, of course, when you're working for someone, you know, do do everything in it and everything like anything that's part of your role.
• 24:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: But you don't owe them your life.
• 24:04
  [SPEAKER_01]: right right we were in Paris for four days let me tell you right now they enjoy their life they go to work yeah and like our my girlfriend our friend of ours who lives there we like oh like she's like oh it would be rude to not to it's rude to eat at your desk you literally have to eat in the lunch cafeteria she works in home and she goes into the office to have lunch with the group
• 24:24
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, that's not even on her team.
• 24:26
  [SPEAKER_01]: They're just the people of that office that she's at because it's like rude to not be part of it.
• 24:31
  [SPEAKER_01]: And like, and she's like, yeah, you have a full hour long lunch.
• 24:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: And you, no matter what you've got going on, you sit there and you enjoy it and like people really have a life.
• 24:41
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I think like there is a way to give a hundred percent.
• 24:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: at work and then have a life and I think that's a balance we're missing if you're in the States.
• 24:51
  [SPEAKER_01]: If you're outside the States, we travel a lot.
• 24:53
  [SPEAKER_01]: I see you, you're doing a great job.
• 24:55
  [SPEAKER_01]: You were living your life.
• 24:56
  [SPEAKER_01]: But so let's go back to one thing she's at.
• 24:58
  [SPEAKER_01]: So she explained that you don't actually owe the company anything.
• 25:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: And she clarifies like telling them where you're going unless it like like she was talking about actually in this case quitting and you know, if they asked you like, well, where are you gonna go work next?
• 25:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like you don't need to tell them that.
• 25:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: You don't actually have to.
• 25:14
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not part like it's not a thing.
• 25:16
  [SPEAKER_01]: And so and you In fact, somebody asked L on demand our agency member because they were like making a plan to leave and they're like, well, how do I do I tell them what I'm doing?
• 25:25
  [SPEAKER_01]: And she wrote, no, you can just say, as thank you so much as of this date, I'm no longer doing available for this role.
• 25:33
  [SPEAKER_01]: I am still available and can excited to do this part of my job.
• 25:37
  [SPEAKER_01]: and like because you actually don't need to tell them that you're going to go run your own thing.
• 25:41
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like especially like it's not it we tend to feel like we have to give them an excuse or reason.
• 25:47
  [SPEAKER_01]: It can just be that you're done.
• 25:48
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like done is a reason.
• 25:49
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
• 25:49
  [SPEAKER_01]: So it's your business.
• 25:51
  [SPEAKER_01]: She also said like you can be fully paying to transparent about your feelings.
• 25:55
  [SPEAKER_01]: But like leaving is it like it's when you're it's not required.
• 25:57
  [SPEAKER_01]: You can be but you don't have to be.
• 25:59
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not required.
• 26:00
  [SPEAKER_01]: So
• 26:00
  [SPEAKER_01]: The best policy she said is to just walk in and say, I'm so sorry, I found X-WI-RZ or I found another job, and then keep it short and sweet.
• 26:09
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I would say, the shorter and sweeter, the better, and try to do it in a succinct way that they're not the enemy and you're off to a greener pastures you never know if you have to come back.
• 26:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, I mean, you guys were talking even about the, oh, they're paying me more or whatever, like, you know, this other company offered me this role and they're offered me more money, but like you don't even need to say anything like that because Because that would then open up the conversation with the current company of like, oh, we could pay more.
• 26:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, what if we want to really want to say what if you actually just wanted to leave, you know, so you don't need to be building in an excuse.
• 26:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, you can just say, hey, you know, I have to move on.
• 26:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can give an excuse, but you don't need to.
• 26:52
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, like I had a very difficult time leaving my job because my old boss, he liked to sue people.
• 27:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so I needed to come up with a reason that was acceptable so that he didn't think that I was going to go try to compete with him because if that happened, he was going to sue
• 27:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: gonna focus on my family and I left that open-ended.
• 27:18
  [SPEAKER_01]: No, what?
• 27:20
  [SPEAKER_01]: My last, the job that I left, they were a litigious ish because if certain trainers took clients because they had a non-compete, which is not enforceable, the non-solicitation as well.
• 27:32
  [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, you couldn't solicit, but I was so afraid that they would think I was soliciting that I also said, I'm focusing my husband, he's, I don't need to work this much anymore.
• 27:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: But like I just wanted them it wasn't their business and I didn't want them to be looking for something You know, so and we're still friendly.
• 27:50
  [SPEAKER_01]: I still talk to everybody one of my bosses there like it's so great So it doesn't have to be a big deal as I get I think the gist of that topic is like yeah You can literally in two sentences or less like exit Given the information that they need to process the paycheck and and get to your next thing
• 28:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and when I was listening through the whole thing, I like the idea of being gracious with the exit like graceful, I mean, you know, like short to sink and
• 28:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: clear.
• 28:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's what Claire was talking about.
• 28:22
  [SPEAKER_00]: When she she was talking about that when exiting not on your terms, yes, basically, meaning you're fired.
• 28:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: She said, if you really want to hand grenade things, you can, but that it's a small world.
• 28:33
  [SPEAKER_00]: The industries we all work in are small.
• 28:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone knows everyone.
• 28:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you have a...
• 28:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: tumultuous exit, word will get around, right?
• 28:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: So she said, well, being fired is definitely an ego stabbing your heart.
• 28:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: It is crucial remain polite because the professional world is very small, even if the human instinct is to internalize blame.
• 28:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: And what we will do, effectively, because it's the human instinct, is to internalize the blame.
• 28:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: What did I do wrong?
• 28:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, and we keep like,
• 29:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: reviewing it over and over and again in our own minds, you know, what like picking out ourselves effectively.
• 29:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: She said, hey, you know, let's turn it around to a positive.
• 29:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of sitting there picking yourself apart, maybe you can go and take this new time and learn new skill or, you know, alternatively, you can
• 29:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: evaluate your peers by asking yourself, like, what are the skills that I have?
• 29:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: What can I add to my resume that makes me more excitable as a hire for the future?
• 29:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: So, like, really shifting back to working to put yourself back out there.
• 29:34
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
• 29:34
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
• 29:35
  [SPEAKER_01]: I think, like, you've just going back a couple episodes.
• 29:38
  [SPEAKER_01]: I got you have to fill your feelings.
• 29:40
  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, it's important to grieve that it's a loss, like, even if you're leave on your own terms, it's still like a closure of something.
• 29:46
  [SPEAKER_01]: So definitely do that.
• 29:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: But I always think about people who are like, I guess almost arrogant.
• 29:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I think almost in this, especially in a situation like this, how lucky are they that they can look at someone firing them and God, well, it's your fucking loss because I'm awesome.
• 30:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
• 30:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like imagine that.
• 30:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: Imagine that perspective of like oh my god.
• 30:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: What did I do wrong?
• 30:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: Why are you firing me?
• 30:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's my fault.
• 30:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: I fucked up somewhere.
• 30:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't even sure what I did wrong versus really you're going to fire me.
• 30:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, like those are the I think the two extremes.
• 30:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, maybe we can land in the middle and do ourselves a fake a kindness and not beat ourselves up over it because I had to fire someone.
• 30:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, was this person perfect that they're job?
• 30:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: No, were they coachable and teachable and that we actually enjoy having them on the team?
• 30:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
• 30:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, ultimately, it wasn't because they like fucked up a spreadsheet or a document that I had to fire them.
• 30:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had to fire them because our company couldn't sustain paying them at the time.
• 30:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: There's many years ago, right?
• 30:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so it was like, it was a shame and not fun, right?
• 30:57
  [SPEAKER_01]: No, and like for the most part, especially if you're a bosses in this, most people know if you do it right and you're coaching correctly, people know that their job is not safe.
• 31:08
  [SPEAKER_01]: So in California, I have to write you up, like I have to write you up at least three times because the employers HR, when when you let go of someone they want to be like, here are the instances, here's what the thing was that you were supposed to do,
• 31:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: I mean, they should be seeing a coming.
• 31:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: I've got two right-ups already, I know.
• 31:25
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, I've got like, yeah, I'm the hot seat, you know?
• 31:27
  [SPEAKER_01]: And so, no, just because you have to are doesn't even iron.
• 31:30
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, maybe they happen over 10 years.
• 31:32
  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, one of them you fix, whatever, but like, especially if they're happening in a row, like, they're coming for, they're looking for things to come at you with.
• 31:39
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, you could be on, you should be watching for that.
• 31:42
  [SPEAKER_01]: But,
• 31:42
  [SPEAKER_01]: you should also like if I'm consistently having to remind you to do something or I'm questioning like if there's these things that you're being coached on in your job and it's like wow you've been here a year and we're still working on this like what like if you're a boss there should be they they should not be blindsided by it if it has to do with their way that they're doing their job
• 32:02
  [SPEAKER_01]: because they're not my readers.
• 32:03
  [SPEAKER_01]: You actually have to tell them if they're doing their job well or not.
• 32:07
  [SPEAKER_01]: And if they're not doing their job well, you have to tell them how to do it well to give them that opportunity.
• 32:10
  [SPEAKER_01]: And if you don't do that then they're going to be blindsided.
• 32:12
  [SPEAKER_01]: But if you're constantly recoching them on their job and bringing up like, hey, even if you don't write them up, hey, this is the third time we've had to go over this.
• 32:19
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like, what's going on here?
• 32:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: Hopefully, they're aware.
• 32:23
  [SPEAKER_01]: Now, some people are done, so they don't get it.
• 32:24
  [SPEAKER_01]: I fire people who yelled at me and like, that at all the different things, not like my loss, but like, how dare you?
• 32:30
  [SPEAKER_01]: Right.
• 32:30
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I remember going, you didn't see this coming, dude.
• 32:34
  [SPEAKER_01]: This is our third write up.
• 32:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: You're not coming to, you're not on time for your clients.
• 32:40
  [SPEAKER_01]: What are you, what do you want me to do?
• 32:41
  [SPEAKER_01]: You're not on time.
• 32:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: You've not been on time multiple times.
• 32:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
• 32:45
  [SPEAKER_01]: This is on you.
• 32:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, exactly.
• 32:47
  [SPEAKER_01]: If he had been taking the bus, I would have been like, okay, we got to find a new bus route.
• 32:51
  [SPEAKER_01]: We got to find a new shift.
• 32:52
  [SPEAKER_01]: Nope, this is all on him, him driving, you know, so I think for the most, it doesn't always happen that way, but that's always my ideal goal is like people know.
• 33:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had someone try to write me up one time and I had told them that I would not sign the paperwork.
• 33:06
  [SPEAKER_01]: You also don't have to sign.
• 33:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I said, I disagree with you 100%.
• 33:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm happy to talk to you boss about all of this because I will not sign this.
• 33:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: You don't have to sign.
• 33:15
  [SPEAKER_01]: They still, you still got it.
• 33:16
  [SPEAKER_01]: But you know, but like you don't have to sign if you don't agree with it.
• 33:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's true.
• 33:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
• 33:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's fine.
• 33:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's all a combo.
• 33:22
  [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, this is my think fucking God.
• 33:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not enough as Jesus.
• 33:26
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, okay, hold on.
• 33:27
  [SPEAKER_01]: She said more great things about exiting.
• 33:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yes, well stick around really quick.
• 33:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: We'll be we will be right back.
• 33:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: All right, so welcome back.
• 33:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: So let's talk about those beat action items.
• 33:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're new here and you're like, what the hell is that?
• 33:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Beat is the beat until you see a podcast acronym.
• 33:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: Beat, what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo.
• 33:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: Claire said, hey, give yourself space.
• 33:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: She explicitly warns against immediately jumping back into work after making an exit, whether you made it or they made it.
• 34:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: She stated,
• 34:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: make sure you give yourself a week or two off between jobs because in any capacity you you have to decompress.
• 34:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is just good for your mental state.
• 34:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: She cautious against skipping this decompression phase because when you immediately jump back into the next thing you might actually already be angry or sad or frustrated or whatever she warns that Ray she has she said she has rage updated her resume before and it just never works out very well.
• 34:29
  [SPEAKER_01]: It sounds like, like, it sounds like you're getting dumped.
• 34:33
  [SPEAKER_01]: And then you like, oh, go and do your like tender hinge profile.
• 34:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: I probably isn't going to be as great as if you just like waited a moment to be like, wow, that person wasn't so great for me, like, let me.
• 34:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, don't rage update your resin.
• 34:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's hilarious.
• 34:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: What about you?
• 34:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: What was your big takeaway?
• 34:45
  [SPEAKER_01]: I mean, like personally, I never want to have to date a resume, like that I never want to do.
• 34:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: I know, we've had an update of resumes who like submit for some things for the business and we're like, where is our resume?
• 34:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: What have we spent on it?
• 34:58
  [SPEAKER_01]: I know, so now Lex's job is like every so many months like go, cause like, eventually, like, how long is the resume?
• 35:05
  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, like how many pages?
• 35:07
  [SPEAKER_01]: Cause I'm not buying for a job, but like loans and stuff on things like that.
• 35:11
  [SPEAKER_01]: Anyways, she said,
• 35:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: take a look at yourself and where you are.
• 35:17
  [SPEAKER_01]: Look at where you can improve and create an exit strategy.
• 35:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: So I like this because like you might not like the job that you're at, you might be frustrated with what it's at, but this kind of is like taking a little bit of radical responsibility, like where can I improve?
• 35:31
  [SPEAKER_01]: So that when I find the next place, I'm already a better person for it at the next job, you know?
• 35:36
  [SPEAKER_01]: So like, and that allows you to create an exit strategy as well.
• 35:43
  [SPEAKER_01]: in anything you're wanting to leave.
• 35:44
  [SPEAKER_01]: Like there's a reason you want to leave and some of it's the situation and some of it is ownership of how you could be a better person given the new situation, right?
• 35:53
  [SPEAKER_01]: She compares this action to having an emergency strategy for a house buyer, so you already know where your exits are.
• 35:59
  [SPEAKER_01]: And I like that, right?
• 36:00
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, sure.
• 36:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is like, she has some great tips, especially if you know you're leaving and you had already taken things home,
• 36:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: slowly start to bring the back to the office, not all at once.
• 36:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: And vice versa if you have things at the office, you can slowly start to take them home.
• 36:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, not all at once because you're now trying to like make an up your office to look empty, but just practical stuff, pretty cool.
• 36:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: Because you never, I mean, even if you think you know your employer is the most, like, when I worked in, when I ran retail shops, if you gave us a two-week notice,
• 36:29
  [SPEAKER_01]: our goal was to see how quickly we can get you a paycheck and end your shift before like in your job before two weeks because you as an outwell states we could do that so if you like you put the two weeks in because then you get the better review like oh they left and they gave notice and all these different things but especially in polies and in retail you have clients you have customer so the longer you're there
• 36:53
  [SPEAKER_01]: the longer you can like take client phone numbers, emails like different things like we're protecting stuff so like we would just out.
• 37:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, bye.
• 37:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I think the notoriously Netflix is like crazy.
• 37:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you go in and you quit, you know, before you get back to your desk, you're locked out of every
• 37:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, no, they're, I think it's even in their, it's a snow notorious.
• 37:16
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's like in the handbook of like what happens.
• 37:18
  [SPEAKER_01]: Keith Olderman is the one who, like, it's so funny because like, he's like, I was on the, they let me be on the air for three months.
• 37:25
  [SPEAKER_01]: I could say whatever I wanted, you know, so I, but I do, you never, you just don't know how people are going to react to exits.
• 37:33
  [SPEAKER_01]: So, you know, make sure that you have prepared well for the ex, the ex that you are in control of so that you, if they do decide, especially if you're an hourly employer, so like that, that they're changing it, you're not needing that money as the
• 37:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Leslie Logan and I'm Brad Crowell.
• 37:54
  [SPEAKER_01]: Thanks Claire for being our be a babe ready to jump in.
• 37:58
  [SPEAKER_01]: She'll be back because we're have an interview.
• 38:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: If we're meringue buddy.
• 38:01
  [SPEAKER_01]: Oh, I'm interviewing the person like in two days.
• 38:04
  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm going to finish that book.
• 38:06
  [SPEAKER_01]: I'm interviewing a really great doctor and she and I she's like, I want to be in the be it book club and I want to be the recap person.
• 38:12
  [SPEAKER_01]: So Brad, you're unfortunately.
• 38:13
  [SPEAKER_01]: Unless you want to you can join us for the recap if you want.
• 38:16
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, maybe you can have it anyway.
• 38:18
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's fun.
• 38:18
  [SPEAKER_01]: It's fun.
• 38:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's fun.
• 38:20
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
• 38:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: I love it.
• 38:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
• 38:21
  [SPEAKER_01]: All right, guys.
• 38:22
  [SPEAKER_01]: Go be to you see it.
• 38:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: Bye for now.
• 38:24
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• 38:28
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• 38:36
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• 39:07
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• 39:12
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• 39:16
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• 39:23
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• 39:27
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• 39:31
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