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Hypnosis to Let Go of a Past Relationship and Move Forward Wiser, Stronger, and More Confident · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi. It's Adam here, and you're about
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  to listen to a hypnosis session all about getting over a past
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  relationship. Now, it doesn't matter if a past
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  relationship was four days ago, 4 weeks ago, or even 4 years
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  ago. What really makes a difference
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  is not how long ago it was, but the emotional attachment and
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  the. Type of thinking that goes on.
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  And for a lot of people that are still trying to get over a
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  previous relationship, quite often they will take a first
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  person perspective when they go back to memories.
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  So memories that might have. Been.
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  Weeks or months ago they're. Reliving them.
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  And then there's a feeling of contrasting those relived
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  memories with the present, which feels very different.
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  And that might. Link to a feeling of loss.
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  Or frustration or a. Contrast if if they were joyful
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  moments, feeling unhappy in contrast.
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  All of this is very natural, but it doesn't have to take a long
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  time. Some people can end a
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  relationship on one day and as far as they're concerned, the
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  moment that relationship is over.
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  It's over and it's. Almost like it happened but it
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  doesn't emotionally affect them. In the present.
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  And that doesn't mean that these people are robots, or kind of.
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  They don't have. Emotions.
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  It just means that there is a. Way of thinking.
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  About the relationship which enables them to.
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  Move on quickly. Other people might reminisce and
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  get nostalgic and connect to certain emotions.
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  Again and again. And sometimes.
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  The breakup can mirror the grief cycle, where there's an element
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  of bargaining. Of.
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  If only I didn't say that I should never have done that, you
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  know, and and almost like replaying history to see if that
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  would have changed. Things.
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  But the purpose of that is not to punish yourself, or even to
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  change the past. It's to extract wisdom that
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  might be useful for the future, and not just for a future
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  relationship. It might be that there are
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  things that you can refine and evolve in you that have nothing
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  to do with a relationship but just enhance the quality of your
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  life. There might be certain
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  characteristics or the client I was working with, for example,
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  very quick to come to a judgement, to come to a
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  conclusion without gathering all the information first.
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  That's excellent wisdom to extract from that relationship.
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  It doesn't necessarily mean that that can only be applied in a
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  future relationship. Seeing the Shades of Grey,
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  seeing the nuance, taking an element of empathy and other
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  people's perspective is all very useful refinements anyway to
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  make them more compassionate, understanding and be able to
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  connect in a real way. There's a bit going on here, but
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  at its core this involves an element of sub modalities of
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  really putting the past behind them.
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  Not just metaphorically, but shifting the location of that to
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  use parts therapy to acknowledge that there was a positive
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  intention behind this constant thinking of the relationship
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  without needing to be attached to it.
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  And then creating a compelling vision of the future where they
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  imagined themselves improving as a result of this relationship,
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  but also that they are receptive and open to a relationship if
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  the right relationship comes along.
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  You might resonate or connect with some of these suggestions,
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  not necessarily all of them because it was created for an
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  individual client with individual circumstances.
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  Ignore any suggestions that aren't quite right.
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  Lean into the ones that are. And if you do like the idea of a
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  bespoke. Session.
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  Curated and collated and tailored exactly to you and your
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  situation. There will be a link in the
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  description where you can schedule a completely free
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  consultation call. For now though.
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  Find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep. Breath in, and as you breathe
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  in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  Breathing in relaxation and as you exhale, feel that wonderful
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  feeling of release, as if any tension, stress or worries just
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  starting to leave your body every time you exhale.
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  That's it. And now take a slow breath in
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  through the nose and gently exhale, this time through the
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  mouth and again breathing in calm and breathing out anything
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  you no longer need to carry. With each breath your body
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  remembers how to relax, and in doing so your shoulders loosen,
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  your jaw relaxes and your mind doesn't need to do any hard work
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  right now. Nothing to fix, nothing to
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  analyse, just allowing yourself to be here, to be fully present.
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  And as your body settles, your mind can drift and wander
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  comfortably, naturally, into that receptive, reflective
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  state. And I want you to hold perhaps
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  an image, a name, an idea of that past.
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  Relationship but place it. Somewhere behind you.
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  Not close and not overwhelming. Simply behind because I know
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  you've been reliving that relationship, playing out all of
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  the what ifs. What if I did that?
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  I should have done that, but that means it's still in the
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  present or in front. There's a place, any words,
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  images, memories behind you. You're not inside it and you're
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  certainly not reliving it. I want you to feel.
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  That you are. Observing it from a place of
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  safety perspective and time. And you've done that before.
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  Something happened way, way back and you could think about it
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  knowing that it is in your past. And the point of thinking about
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  it is not to change the past, but to change the future.
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  So when you think of that relationship all the way back
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  behind you in your past, notice something feels different.
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  When you are. No longer in an experience, it
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  empowers you to learn from it, to gently bring your attention
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  inward. Now maybe the pace, the rhythm
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  of your breathing, a subtle pulse or heartbeat.
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  And as you bring the intention inwards, I want you to notice
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  that somewhere inside you is a part.
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  A part of you that keeps thinking about that past
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  relationship and it's not because it wants pain, I think
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  it's because it wants clarity, safety and meaning.
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  And what if this part. Believed that holding on might
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  protect you, might help you understand, might prevent future
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  hurt. I want you to get a sense that
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  the point of a regret is not to punish, not as a tool to judge
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  yourself, but as a way that you can extract the value of that
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  regret, to make refinements, adjustments within you.
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  So acknowledge that art that has been thinking back with kindness
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  rather than judgement. You don't need to judge that
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  part. You can empathize with it.
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  And imagine acknowledging and then saying to that part, thank
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  you for trying to help understand that it has positive
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  intention. And then scan for a different
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  part because somewhere else inside you, it's a part that is
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  ready to move forward, a part that wants peace, openness, fun,
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  emotional freedom. And this new part knows.
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  That your future. Deserves your energy more than
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  your past and both parts have wonderful intentions.
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  And what if they simply need an update?
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  I want you to imagine stepping into the role of your wisest
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  self all knowing. Some people would call it the
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  Super consciousness, the higher self, but just know it as your
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  wisest part, the version of you that has grown through
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  reflection, time and insight. Imagine speaking through the
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  voice of your wiser self, and from this part you can
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  communicate to both parts. To the part holding on to the
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  past, you were right to seek understanding, and now the
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  understanding is complete and to that part ready to move forward.
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  You don't need to reject the past to be free of it.
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  It's possible to carry wisdom without carrying weight, shame
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  or judgement. Perhaps you can already notice
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  how both parts begin to relax because the the role, the job
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  has changed and now allow the lessons of the past to surface.
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  You already know what they are to be less judge mental.
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  They're not to jump to conclusions.
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  So allow those lessons to bubble up to the surface, not as
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  criticism and not as regrets, but as quiet, integrated wisdom.
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  You learned that life is not black and white.
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  You learned that it's layered, contextual, human, every
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  possible shade of grey. And you learn to be more
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  flexible, more trusting, and more willing to give the benefit
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  of the doubt. Maybe you learned that empathy
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  creates understanding, and that understanding creates
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  connection. And what if you learned that
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  jumping to conclusions narrows reality while curiosity expands
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  it? Suspending judgement until you
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  have all the information from all sides?
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  That's not weak. It takes courage to not know
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  what's what to figure it out like a detective.
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  And what if you no longer need certainty to feel safe and that
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  you now trust the nuance? Children like to watch a movie
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  and know someone is good and someone is bad.
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  But as we get older we see everything is yin and Yang.
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  There is good in the bad and bad in the good and everything in
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  between, and allow yourself to see the nuance, the Shades of
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  Grey and what. If in those shades, you.
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  Find the balance and instead of right or wrong.
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  What? If you look for look for
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  emotional payouts, intrigue, interest, far and excitement
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  instead of good or bad opportunities to learn.
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  So now let. This truth?
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  Settle deeply. You are not worse off because of
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  that relationship. You are much, much wiser.
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  Because of it. Not hardened, not closed, but
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  certainly more discerning. You understand yourself more
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  clearly now, and you recognize emotional patterns sooner.
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  And you know what alignment feels like in your body.
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  And what if that relationship didn't take something from you?
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  What if it refined you? And as all.
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  Of this wisdom plus more integrates.
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  You may notice a natural easing, loosening, releasing, not
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  forgetting and not erasing, simply releasing what no longer
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  needs to be carried. Feel that sense of detachment.
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  The emotional charge dissolves, the attachment detaches, and the
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  past becomes the past. It no longer pulls at you, no
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  longer asks for your attention. The past has already given you
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  what you needed opportunity to reflect, to refine, to evolve,
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  and all of that is behind you in your past.
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  But now think about your future. And not just any future, but a
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  desirable future. And when you think about that
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  desirable future, maybe you see a desirable future where all the
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  lessons from the past have been learned.
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  Maybe, maybe there is more of an ease, an acceptance, A
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  curiosity. And I want you to think maybe
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  one or two years further into the future and notice when you
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  think of that version of you. How different?
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  It seems you are then calmer, perhaps more grounded, more
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  trusting of yourself, and maybe that version of you feels less
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  compulsions, not needing to rush, not needing to assume.
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  You seem to have broken free of old patterns.
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  And see that version of you pausing, sensing, evaluating the
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  nuances the. Shades of Grey.
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  The context and maybe in that future you are receptive to a
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  relationship without needing a relationship.
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  I want you to. See that future?
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  Version of you seeming more balanced, more open, more at
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  ease within your own skin. And that future version of you
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  isn't looking for certainty and guarantees.
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  That future version is looking for synergy, compatibility,
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  empathy, connection and resonance.
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  And you recognize it easily. This future version of you does
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  not lower your standards to find someone that may be interested.
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  A future version of you holds higher standards, and I want you
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  to feel an amplification of appreciation spreading through
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  you. Appreciation for your
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  resilience, for your growth, for the way you turned experience
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  into wisdom. You can even feel proud.
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  Not because everything was perfect, but because you adapted
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  and you evolved. And whether it's now or soon,
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  you will trust yourself more and more, trust your judgement and
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  trust your ability to choose well.
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  And the idea of love or connection companionship feels
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  lighter, safer, more natural, because it begins with you.
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  Nobody can love you more than you love yourself.
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  The next few days and weeks and maybe even months is a mission
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  of self love, of kindness, of acceptance, of encouragement.
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  And the more love you show to yourself, the more you are
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  training you're unconscious as to what kind of love you desire.
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  I want you to think of a moment that hasn't happened yet.
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  That when that moment happens, everything from the past
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  suddenly makes sense. You needed the past to create
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  the future, and as you hold that idea, it's time to leave this
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  place. But you leave.
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  With those conflicted parts working in harmony, extracting
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  all the wisdom from the past to be more discerning.
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  Open and understanding in your future to unleash any
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  frustration or regrets into empowering self love, self
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  respect and kindness for yourself.
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  But let's float. Back now to the present.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers.
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  Wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the
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  now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  You will awaken feeling that the past is the past.
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  You can learn from it without needing to live there anymore.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910.
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  Wide awake, Wide awake. Wide awake.
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