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Season 4 - Episode 295 - How are you serving the hotdog? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the Coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Let's talk about delivery.
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  And I'm not talking about food delivery or you know, Uber Eats
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  or something like that. I'm talking about how you
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  deliver information that you have you want to share with
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  somebody. And this, this could not be a
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  more important conversation because everything matters with
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  how you put it out there. Everything matters with the
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  delivery system in which you're giving it meaning, the emotion
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  it's wrapped in. It's kind of like a hot dog.
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  Think of it this way. If I say to you, let's have hot
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  dogs and then I just put a hot dog on a plate, you're going to
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  have a strange look. You're going to look at me and
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  be like, why did you give me a hot dog on a plate?
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  Do you, do you have a bun? Do you have a piece of bread?
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  Is there something I can do with this?
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  I mean, even if you don't, you know, a bread person and you
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  don't want the hot dog that way, you're going to look for
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  something else, like maybe beans.
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  Because I grew up in a town where hot dogs and beans were a
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  thing. They would cut them up and put
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  them in the beans. And that was like a side dish
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  that you would get. Sometimes it was even dinner
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  when my mother was in a hurry, but it was all chopped up and it
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  was in the beans. It wasn't just a hot dog on a
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  plate. And the lesson of this is
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  profound when you stop and think about it, because you can have a
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  message, IE the hot dog that you need to deliver to somebody, but
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  how you deliver it, how you package it, matters as to
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  whether or not that person is going to consume it or kick it
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  back to you and say, no, I don't think so.
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  I don't like this and I'm not going to accept this.
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  I'm not going to eat this. I'm not going to consume this.
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  I'm just going to argue with you about the fact that the message
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  is not the way I like it. And I cannot begin to tell you
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  how many times I've had conversations, especially as we
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  get closer to the holidays, about how people are showing up
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  and how they're saying things about what they're going to be
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  doing, where they're going, who's willing to go where,
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  travel times, this, that, the other, you name it.
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  It's a a giant conversation about this.
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  And people get frustrated because one person delivering
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  the information is coming out and being rough.
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  They're not being considerate of the other person.
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  They're not being considerate of the length of travel, the time
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  of travel, whatever it is. The fact that a lot of people as
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  they grow up have to break up with the traditions of one
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  family to try to assimilate into another family.
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  Like we all wish that our children would grow up and get
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  married and have beautiful things.
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  I mean, in fact, I'm, I'm not going to see my daughter over
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  Thanksgiving because she's going to her father's family and OK,
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  right. I mean, listen, that's part of
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  the consequences that are unintended when you get
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  divorced. It happens.
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  And we all have unintended consequences.
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  And guess what? We have to swallow that.
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  We have to take that in and say, OK, And it's all in.
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  How it's delivered it everything comes back to how you say
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  something to somebody. If you say it in a harsh way,
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  you're going to have pushback. There's no question about it.
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  There's honestly nothing wrong with that.
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  I mean, if you deliver something in a way that is not
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  considerate, you're going to get pushed back.
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  You're going to say something and somebody's going to bite
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  back at you. It's being considerate and
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  saying, how can I deliver this information so the other person
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  can hear me? What do they need to hear in
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  order for me to be able to convey this to them?
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  And yelling is just a matter of like, we get to the point where
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  we're so frustrated, all of a sudden we yell or we get like,
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  this can't be, we start to panic.
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  So panic shows up and panic starts to take over.
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  And before you know it, the panic is running in the
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  situation and not the fact that you want that outcome that
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  you're trying so hard to get. I mean, it's a it's a very real
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  thing. So my suggestion is that if you
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  have something that you are are considering that you have to
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  deliver to somebody and you really want to make a point with
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  it, consider all the aspects before you do it.
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  Consider what you're going to say to the person.
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  Write it down. Consider the language you're
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  going to use. Consider the the person when
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  they're listening. Like if you message someone when
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  they're at work, is that really a good idea?
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  No, but people do it all the time and then they expect that
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  person to be able to respond, even if that person is in a
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  stressful job. It doesn't matter if I messaged
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  you now, you should answer me. And this goes on and on and on.
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  So it's there's something called sensory acuity.
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  And it's just basically using all your senses to be wide awake
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  and realize, hmm, maybe I shouldn't be doing this quite
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  the way I'm doing it. So just remember the analogy of
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  the hot dog. How are you serving the hot dog?
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  And then you can really decide how you want it to be.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.