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How to Teach Kids About Energy: Simple Tools for Spiritual, Highly Sensitive Families · The Spiritual Parent: Mindful Tools for Raising Spiritual and Conscious Kids

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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And so when we talk about energy for ourselves and as we discuss it with our kids, we really need to talk about how everything is energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You are energy, I am energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We are all made up of energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The tree outside is energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The plant over in my garden is energy, water even has energy and a lot of people are even talking about blessing water with energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's really cool, and a lot of people are even talking about blessing water with energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's really cool, and as I took Reiki, I learned about how we could bless different things with positive can flow with it, or we can disconnect from it, which is a really important tool to teach our highly sensitive, our empathic kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi, conscious Parents, it's Keri here and I am here with a little info about raising our mindful kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got some tips and tricks about breaking free of the box and becoming who you are and teaching your kids how to do that along the way.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Join us.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Hi spiritual parents, welcome back.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm so excited to talk about the foundations of spiritual parenting.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So, as we start to grow and learn and continue on our spiritual parenting journey and our journey of awareness and spiritual connection, I want to think about energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I know that's like a buzzword for me.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I talk about energy a lot.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Energy is something that I was recently reintroduced to.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I heard about it a lot growing up, but as a 20-something, 30-something year old, you just go into your own knowing.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I'm coming back to all of these pieces that I had foundations of as a child, and I hope that you can come back and open yourself up to this as well.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So when I think about energy, I also think about the pieces that we have to heal within as parents.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So every time we're talking about energy, we can share pieces of energy work with our kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: For sure.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Let's do that now.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Let's not do that when they're 40.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We we also have pieces that come up in our parenting journey and awareness about our healing from within, and so when we talk about energy for ourselves and as we discuss it with our kids, we really need to talk about how everything is energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You are energy, I am energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We are all made up of energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The tree outside is energy, the plant over in my garden is energy, water even has energy, and a lot of people are even talking about blessing water with energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's really cool, and as I took Reiki, I learned about how we could bless different things with positive energy and reset spaces with energy, since Reiki deals with energy, so that's a tool that I have used with energy in our house.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: When we are talking about energy with our kids, we want to think about the flow of energy, how we can feel it, how we can flow with it or we can stop it and put a kibosh on it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We can disconnect from it, which is a really important tool to teach our highly sensitive, our empathic kids A huge piece that I have learned about.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's interesting because I learned it in speech therapy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We talked about capacity and demands when we were talking about stuttering.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It was really interesting because we would talk about.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, actually, let me share a story with you guys, first about capacity and demand.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So it is currently summer and I am home with my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I've put a little hiatus in some of my parenting podcasts because I want to be present and active with my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm really lucky I get to do that and so during summer it can get really intense at times in our house.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I am fully present, fully active with my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: They're not in camps.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We've decided we just want to be home with them this summer and see what everything, how everything goes in that way energetically.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So this summer I decided I need to create boundaries for myself.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I am a recovering perfectionist, but I dropped that perfection label a few years ago and one of the things that I had to learn in doing that was allowing my house to be in the state that it is.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you are watching the video, you can see a airplane in the background.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That just goes along with where my energy boundaries are.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: My house is not perfect and I had to learn that I had to follow myself energetically.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Do I have the energy to have a perfect house?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I did for a while, but then I learned that as I was trying to keep the perfect house, I was starting to come down on my kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was starting to get upset with the messiness.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was starting to feel anxious and nervous and then that would bubble up into being short tempered or short with my kids, or being extra perfection.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was pushing this perfection onto my kids because the house it, just it gets exhausting, trying to keep up with it all the time.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Raise your hand if you're going through this.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I see you parents.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I learned I had to focus my energy into where it mattered.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Sometimes that can look like stopping, putting a hand on your heart, tuning within and saying what within me needs the house to be perfect.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It didn't happen overnight where I was like, okay, the chaos is the chaos, I'm fine with it, I'm just going to move on.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: No, it's been a healing, growing journey in that I have learned sometimes people that come over are offended by my mess.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Sometimes my parents will come over and maybe they're like, geez, this house is really messy, carrie, you need some help.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: What's going on?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm like, well, it is what it is.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Guys, I'm a happier mom.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm a loving mom.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I am happier in my skin when I can let certain things go.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And so, looking at some of those inner child pieces of why do I have to have perfection?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why does this have to feel controlled?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Why do I feel like, why do I have to feel like I can control this perfectly, those were things that I had to look at and it's really cool.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Now, as I have learned to follow my energy in the summer, I will.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I have learned that I sometimes I completely put down the podcast on a day.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I don't do any recording that day because I want to be present with my kids and I know they'll turn on the TV if I'm going to podcast, so it's.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's been really cool to kind of see where I want to focus my energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I also am learning with energy that I don't just go, go, go, go go.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I took them on a really big hike, which was really cool for us, and the kids wanted to go all the way to the top, which I did not expect.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: But the next day I was like let's go to the beach.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You guys wanted to go to the lake.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We're going to go to the lake, 're gonna go to the lake, we're gonna go visit our grandma and we're gonna go to the lake.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's gonna be awesome.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The third day I was like whoa, carrie, you were going for the best parent of the world award right now and let's tone it down.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So we stayed home.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We followed our energy levels.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I was like I'm exhausted.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I cannot pack another lunch and have you guys only eat half of it, because you didn't want that sandwich.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: But I was trying to do go, go, go and have fun with you guys.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: No, we stayed home.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We heated up some frozen pot stickers and we recharged our energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And it wasn't just me that needed it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: My kids needed it too.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So, looking at our energy, seeing if our bucket has enough capacity left in it for the demands that you're going to place on it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So, if my bucket is already really full and I'm feeling exhausted because I've been home with my kids for four days, am I going to plan a giant hike on Friday?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: No, I'm going to stay home.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to catch up on some of the things.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm going to re-energize and guess what?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Your kids are probably there too, especially if they're sensitive kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So kids are going to be picking up on our energy, right, when we're talking about energy, the kids feel it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: The kids have their own amounts of energy and then they're going to pick up and reflect yours.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Right, I'm really intense.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: They're going to be feeling really intense.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So some of the things that we need to do in order to stay in a zen place with our energy, in a fulfilled spot energetically, is self-care right, it's a big buzzword.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And self-care.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you're doing self-care and you are not actively present, if you are not spiritually connected with yourself during your self-care, it doesn't count, guys, if you're sitting on your phone and scrolling through and then you're like, oh my gosh, this political thing is going on.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Did you see in the news this thing happened?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Oh, so-and-so.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I only got one like on my post.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Whatever it is, that's not recharging, that doesn't count as self-care.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Self-care is when you walk away feeling whole and powerful and connected with the true side of you.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That's real self-care.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Other things that help with all these pieces of our keeping our energy fresh crystals those can help.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I've got my crystal necklace, got my crystal ring.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I love crystals and I recharge them in the sun and it helps me energetically.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It protects my energy, my kids from my kids energy, because they love to take your energy without realizing it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: They love to put their energy on you without realizing it.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So crystals are great.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Meditations are wonderful Meditations.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Even if you can do a bathroom meditation for two minutes as a parent, even if you can do an office meditation as a working parent, and you need that time to connect with yourself.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Two minutes, anything you can get.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Meditations are wonderful for recharging Energy clearings.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That can be one you can do with your kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: When I'm doing an energy clearing guided meditation at night after reading a book with my kids, I'm picturing the same thing myself.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm walking them through a meditation for themselves and I'm picturing the same thing for myself.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: I'm releasing that and then when I walk out of their room that night I'm going to dust off my hands as I disconnect from their energy and give myself my own energy back.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We're clearing our hands as we walk out.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Another amazing way to recharge your energy getting outside, being in nature.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you can take off your shoes, walk in some grass, stand in the grass, open your hands and look up at toward the sun, letting the sunlight shine Cover your face, just feeling that warmth, feeling that golden energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: That's amazing.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: If you can go hug a tree and ground yourself, be connected with that tree, that's amazing too.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: These are ways that we can recharge our spirit, recharge our energy.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: It's so important as a busy parent.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So this week it would be so wonderful if you could hug a tree, if you could get out into nature, if you can think of one, if you could get out into nature, if you can think of one of the self-care pieces and try it out, if you can tell your kids about energy, tell them about where your energy is at in that moment.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Explain to them.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: You can show them, you can create like a visual meter, like okay, so before we went to the library, dad's energy was way up here, and then the library got a little loud and a little intense, so my energy is down here.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So I think we're going to go read a book for a few minutes and then my energy will be recharged.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: What about you guys?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: How is your energy feeling?
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Those are great ways to model it for our kids.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Let's close out with an affirmation prayer today.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: So we're going to put our hands on our heart.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: We're going to say thank you, universe, for helping to guide me along this parenting journey.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you for helping me to connect with who I truly am inside.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you for helping me to see where my energy is at and how to guide my kids so they can know where their energy is at.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you for helping me to feel like the best version of myself, to feel recharged and to help me learn when I need to recharge my heart and my soul.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: And so it is.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thank you.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Happy listeners, happy day, spiritual families.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Well, that's a wrap.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Thanks so much for tuning in change.
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  Carrie Lingenfelter: Bye.