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__BONUS EPISODE___DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ HOST APOSTLE TAMELA LUCUS · DA CREW Podcast

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  I just want to say thank you for joining me tonight. I am
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  going to be talking about parenting and family because it has changed over the years.
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  I remember when growing up, you know, we will go down the
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  neighborhoods and everybody you know was family. You know you could trust people,
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  and you can leave your children home and go to work with your grandparents and
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  cousins, and you know, family can watch your children and you can just
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  be free. But family has changed, parenting has changed. So before we
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  go on more detailed, Lord Lee and got me and what you want me
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  to say and all things and everything, And I'm going to start off with
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  Ephyesians chapter five, Verse twenty one. Be subject to one another out of
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  reverence for Christ. Wives be subject to your husbands as to the Lord.
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  For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head
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  of the church, his body and is himself is savior. As the church
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  is subject to Christ. So let wives also be subject and everything to their
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  husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave
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  himself up for her that he might sanctify her. Having cleansed her by washing
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  of the water with the word, that he might present the Church to himself
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  in splendor, without spot or wrinkle, or any such thing, that she
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  might be holy and without blemish. Even so, husbands should love their wives
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  as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no
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  man ever hates his own flesh, not nourish and cherish it, as Christ
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  does the Church, because we are members of the body. For this reason,
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  a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,
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  and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is a profound one,
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  and I am saying that it refers to Christ in the church. However,
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  let each of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife
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  see that she respects her husband. Let me tell you the family has broke
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  down so many kinds of ways. You know. First of all, we
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  don't have the support of family like we used to. You know, now
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  Grandma has to work. Everybody has to work just to survive. So you
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  can't leave your children home with family members. Now you have to find people
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  that you have to trust. You know, they can be your friends or
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  a complete stranger. And you have to leave your children with these people.
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  So family has broke down so much. It used to be a time where
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  the women will stay home and watch the children while the husband work. But
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  then that the fathers were disappearing from the home. And we can blame the
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  government for that too, because they put you know, they help with that
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  too. When we went through the warfare era, you know what I'm saying,
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  where you was not allowed to have men in the house. So that
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  was a breakdown. So there was so many breakdowns, and now the family
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  has changed. The family is no longer like how it used to be.
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  And then we think it's strange when we see ten, fifteen, twenty people
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  in one house working together, we think that's strange. But if we just
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  be honest, wouldn't that be wonderful we could just get along. Wouldn't that
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  just be awesome? If we could just work together, you know, put
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  our money together as a family. Pay that house off, then go get
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  another house, pay that house off, then go get another house and pay
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  that off. I mean, that's what family is supposed to be, right,
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  We're supposed to be working together. But family has just broke down to
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  a lot of stuff, and we just I just want to be here to
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  encourage parents and encourage family because family has changed over the years. So I
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  had went to this website and it talked about the different things, how family
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  has changed, how parenting has changed. And number one, they said that
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  a lot of couples now they are getting married, but now they are decided
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  not to have children. And it's like wow, like wait, why but
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  they just enjoying life. I can you know, I can see that when
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  you're in your twenties, you enjoying life, but you don't want any children.
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  But they you know, they did a study and that's what a lot
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  of people are doing it just traveling. And then number two is that more
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  parents are I'm married but living together. And it's all the kind of reasons
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  why they're doing that. Some because you know, you get more money when
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  it comes to when you do your Texas, you know, and if you
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  say you single, you know he can get his refund check, you get
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  your refund check. And you know, and then too, a lot of
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  people don't want have commitment. You know, it's easy to say, you
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  know what, I can leave because I'm not married to you deuce you know,
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  you know what people do, they leave and so that has changed.
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  So a lot of people say, you know, I don't want to get
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  married. And then another point they said it said new parents have video monitors
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  to watch their kids, and so I was thinking about that. You know,
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  when we was growing up, we didn't have all this technology. You
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  know, when the child got quiet, we ran room to make sure they
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  was still alive. But now you get all this new technology. You don't
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  even have to be in the same room with your children. You can monitor
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  them in the next room. Also, what I love now there are some
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  schools now you're gonna actually look in the classroom see how your children are doing.
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  So that's good for parents because I am a helicopter parent. I'm gonna
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  tell you that right now. And a lot of people say, what is
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  a helicopter parent. Helicopter parent is I want to know what's going on my
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  child at all times. Yah know, I don't want to hear, well,
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  your child's all right. Okay, you said my child's all right?
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  Tell me how is my child is alright? You know, I am one
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  of those parents that when my children were small, I was at the school.
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  Oh here she come again, yep, here I come again. That's
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  right. I'm here because you got to understand I want to know what's going
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  on in my child's like what are you teaching or you teaching them something that
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  I'm not teaching at home. And a lot of times it's okay to be
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  a helicopter parent, but some takeing go overboard, because I seen some parents
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  go overboard, and I just prayed that I wasn't one of those people who
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  were overboord. But I will tell you I am a helicopter parent. But
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  you But let me tell you something. Parents, it's okay to get involved
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  in your children's schools. Why because there's a lot going on. There's a
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  lot going on. I remember parents was allowed to go sit in a classroom.
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  But now some schools they act like, oh my god, here they
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  come. So what if you are allowed to sit in the classroom, Go
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  sit in the classroom, pay attention to what is being taught, and look
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  at the walls. What does that teacher have on the wall. Because that's
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  your child, that's your baby. You have that right to see what's going
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  on, to see what they putting in your child because you have to train
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  your child up to a good citizen. That's right. Families are different,
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  and you have to accept the family for who they are and love on them.
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  So as parents, we have to learn how to just love on each
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  other. And said, girl, I got you. You know you need
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  a babysitter. I got you. But a lot of us don't want to
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  step in. We don't want to step in anymore because through I think,
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  like the early two thousands, the early two thousands, we went through a
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  stage where when you would say something to people's children, Oh, my goodness,
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  don't be talking to my child. Don't be correcting my child. And
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  he's like dad because when I was growing up, the neighbors was able to
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  correct and if somebody saw me doing something wrong, Girl, you better stop.
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  Don't you do that. That's not good for you. Now you stop.
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  But now we can't even say anything to anybody's children. You know,
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  you just supposed to just look and be quiet. Well, I was blessed
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  with the eye. I was blessed with the eye. Hear me, And
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  let me tell you, I just take my glasses off and I just look
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  at the child. When I see the child doing so, I just stare
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  at him. And I know when I was teaching in the classroom, the
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  students will say, missus Lucas stopped. It's like you're staring through my soul.
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  You're looking through my soul. Yeah, I want you to stop because
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  your behavior is unacceptable. And I'm reading author Halloween Black Diamonds. She said,
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  that's right. When I put my children daycare, I wanted two kay
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  is the director's license plate numbers, social security number and the mother's social security
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  right, because that's how I was. I'm a helicopter, helicopter parent.
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  I just want to know everything because my child's safety is in your hands and
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  I want to make sure that when I drop my baby off, I'm going
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  to pick them up in the afternoon. So you know, it has and
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  parents have to think more now. And I'm praying for y'all. My children
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  grown, my children grown, hallelujah, thank you Jesus. What but I'm
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  praying for parents now. And then also on this list, it said parents
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  can now tell the sex of their baby prior to birth. And this is
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  a wonderful thing. You know what you're gonna have. I'm gonna have a
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  boy. What you're gonna have, I'm gonna have a girl. Then you
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  can get prepared to buy all the little boy's clothes and girl clothes and get
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  all, you know, happy, and then you can think of different names
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  that you're gonna name the child, and you know, you get excited,
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  you know, and now you got to reveal the Jenner revealed play. I
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  mean parties and all that stuff. You know, it's fun to do that.
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  And I went to some parties like that. It's fun the guests.
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  You know, who's right, Is it gonna be a boy or girl?
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  And you know how we do. We look at people's stomach or if it's
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  just uphishs this, if it sit down low is this? You know how
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  we do. But we're here to encourage mothers. Were here to encourage fathers.
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  Be in your children, live love on your children. Don't allow the
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  government or anybody else to dislike your children. Because there's so much stress in
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  the world. It's just so much stress that I see the parents to stress
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  out and they like, I don't know what to do. That's when you
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  go to these PTA meetings and you learn the different parents, and you learn
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  who you can trust and who you can't trust, and you form a coalition.
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  Y'all get together and say let's have you know, mother's night out.
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  Father's night out and you get together one per and watch the children. Way
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  y'all go, and why the rest of y'all go out, Well, you
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  gotta do some self care parents. Why because that stress is a lot on
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  a parent. It's stressful trying to make sure your children are safe, but
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  it's extra stressful when you don't take care of yourself. So parents, take
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  care of yourself and get groups and learn how to work together, work with
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  each other, and love on each other and be there for each other.
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  And then another point they said, they said, now you got different families
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  where it's same sex and it's the child treated right. Oh my god,
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  you know that's against the Bible. Is they raising the children right? That's
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  my concern? Or the children safe or they love? That's my concern because
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  these children are These children are our future. They you know, when we
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  get old, who's gonna take care of us? Because some of us,
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  if our children don't take care of us, we're gonna have to go in
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  to nursing home. Who gonna take care of us? These children that we
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  raising? So I want to know all the children being raised safe with a
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  clear mind, not being tortured. So we you know, we get caught
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  up in who raising the children. I just want to know all they safe,
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  all they love. Then another point, it says, now it has
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  reversed where a lot of women are going to work and men are staying home
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  taking care of the children. I love it. You know, sometimes people
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  try to make men feel bad. But I remember when Daddy Daycare came out
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  and I just laugh. I love that video, Daddy Daycare. It showed
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  men being compassion and sometimes we think men don't have compassion, but they do.
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  There are a lot of men out here that love their children, that
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  don't mind spending time with their children. They have fun with their children.
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  When I watch TikTok and I see all these men taking care of their children
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  and taking care of their babies, it brings me joy because it's all right
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  to be a man and love on your children. You don't have to,
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  you know, get caught up in this world to tell you you're not a
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  man you take care of your children. You're more of a man when you
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  do take care of your children. So, single men who raising your children
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  by yourself, keep on raising those children and loving on them and being there
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  for them. Then you got another point, they said, Now more families
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  are working more, yes, because the cost of living has went up.
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  And I'm telling you a lot of these children, Blessing Little Heart, are
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  raising themselves. They call them the leatch key children where they're watching TV and
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  the TV is raising them. And if you can set your television to a
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  point where they don't, you know, they're not watching all this crazy stuff
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  and going in their system and their spirit. Do that because if you know
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  that your children are going to watch TV, make sure they're watching something positive
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  because everything that they see goes inside brain and guess what they acted out everywhere
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  they go. You'd be like, where that, y'all? Why that child
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  ain't like that? They saw something on television and they acting it out.
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  So be careful what your children watch. You know, be careful what your
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  children watch because they will imitate. They imitate you, and they imitate what
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  they see. But it's okay, hollowed to put restrictions on the children,
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  and it's okay to say no parents. I know some parents be like,
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  I don't want to say no to my baby. That's my baby. But
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  you know what, your baby will survive if you tell them no, They
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  will survive. It's okay. They will live another day. No, you
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  cannot have that, and no, you cannot go over there. I remember
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  when my brother because I raised my siblings, and I remember my brother.
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  He's about eleven or twelve years old. He wanted to go over his friend's
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  house and I said, no, you can't go over there. He said,
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  oh, you so mean? You did you that? And I said,
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  first of all, I don't know who those people are. I never
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  met them, so you can't go over there. Now, when I meet
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  the parents, then you can go over there, but until then, it's
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  no. And within four or five days later, on the news the same
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  area, he wanted to go another boy one of his friend house and lost
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  his life. And I looked at my brother and I said, this is
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  the reason why I said no, because, like I said, I have
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  to meet the other parent. I cannot just let you go anywhere because that's
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  my friend. No, as a parent, it's okay to say no.
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  It's okay to say no, you can't go over your cousin's house. But
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  that's my cousin. But you don't know your cousin like I know your cousin.
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  It's okay to say no to the ice cream cookie is in a candy.
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  It's okay to say no. Sometimes as parents, you know, our
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  children try to make us feel bad because we say no. But it's okay
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  because we know the other end. Hallelujah. We probably already experience it and
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  we know better than them, So it's okay to say no. And don't
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  you know, I've seen parents cry because they ain't want to tell that girl
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  bad boy. You better tell that child no. You're raising that child.
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  That child's not raising you. You already been through the storm. You already
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  been through the rain. You have experiences. You're trying to prevent your children
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  from going through those experiences. So yeah, go ahead and say no.
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  It's okay. And then on this list it say a lot of parents are
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  not speaking their children anymore. Guess what, we don't have to be our
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  children like our parents be us. We could just talk to our children.
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  Oh yeah, you gotta know how to talk to them. You gotta say,
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  you know, this is the cause and the fact the reason why you
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  can't do this and do that because and this the fact, because there are
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  some children you just look at them. Then there are some children you gotta
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  put them time out. And then there are some children, you gotta talk
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  to them. We don't have to beat or trining upside their head like our
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  parents did. Our parents did what they knew. You know, so we
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  know better. And when you know better, you do better, right,
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  and it's okay. It's okay parents, And then parents, you know,
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  when it comes to homework, if you don't know it, don't feel bad
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  because you don't know it. Because when I was teaching, and I was
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  teaching first grade, I ain't know that math. I said, Lord Jesus,
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  I'm a professional in math, this new math. And I went to
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  the principale, I said, how are supposed to teach your math that I
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  don't I can't even comprehend it. How they're supposed to comprehend it? Like
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  this is ridiculous. Y'all changing the rules and changing them. So it's okay.
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  Parents if you don't. If you can't help your children with their homework,
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  guess what you got YouTube? Go to YouTube. Type in whatever that
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  lesson is, typing in. Somebody on YouTube knows how to do that homework
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  and watch your over and over again til you get it. Because I had
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  to do that because I was, like, I'm supposed to be teaching this.
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  I can't comprehend it. So it's okay to use YouTube. Parents.
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  Yeah, whatever you have to get or use to help you to better and
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  help your children do that. Don't let anybody shame you. You know,
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  we're living in a time where social media is everywhere and syper bullians everywhere,
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  and people try to shame parents. Oh, you should do this. Don't
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  let anybody shame you. Hallelujah. If you're doing the best you can,
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  do the best you can with what you know. And if you don't know
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  something, look it up, get a book, get YouTube. Now you
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  can go TikTok, you go to any social media and look it up.
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  Somebody out there has already experienced what you have experienced, what you're going through,
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  and it's okay, it's okay, so go ahead and look it up
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  and learn from that. And you don't have to be a shamed. You
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  don't have to be a shamed at all. And then they said they said
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  that when it comes to grandparents raising grandkids, that is true. More grandparents
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  are raising their grandchildren because of so many awful things that have happened to this
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  country. I would go into detail, but then I'll go on a tangrum,
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  and I don't want to go on a tangrum today because today is to
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  encourage parents and family. Glory be to God. But I'm telling you,
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  we just need to support our grandparents because they already did the job. They
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  raised their children. Now they gotta raise their grandchildren. So if you see
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  a grandparent raising their grandchildren, batting some flowers, take them out, love
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  on them, get them a hug, wave at them and say I see
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  you, do you need anything? I'm here for you. Support them because
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  when you become a grandparent, that's your time to lay back with your feed
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  up. You know what I'm saying. That's your time, your time to
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  lay back, put your feet up and rest. But no, they can't
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  even do that because they have to raise their grandchildren. So support them,
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  be there for them and say I got you what you need, I got
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  you. Be there for them. And now a lot of parents now,
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  even though they have to take care of their children, guess what they got
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  to take care of the adult parents. So families have changed over the years.
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  Things have changed over the years. But it's okay if we just learn
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  how to just be there for each other, help one another, and don't
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  judge the family, because like I read in Ephesians, the family supposed to
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  be with a husband a wife, support each other. But guess what,
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  that support is not for everybody anymore because the families have changed, and so
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  we have to deal with We have to deal with and support people and be
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  there for them. Pro Verse twenty two, verse six says, train up
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  a child in the way he should go, and when he is old,
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  he will not he will not depart from it. So train your child up,
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  and that's right. For terrees. It does take a village. It
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  takes all of us to be there. You see a child running the street,
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  Hey baby, get over here, sweetheart, come on, get out
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  the street now that parents might cush you out, because you know, that's
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  what kind of this kind of time we're living in, because you know,
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  people don't want you to say anything to their children. But don't sit there
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  and just don't say anything. And if Physians chapter six, verse one says,
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  children, your parents and the Lord for this is right, honor your
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  father and mother, which is the first commandment, with a promise, so
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  that it may go well with you, that you may enjoy long life on
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  the earth. Fathers, do not provoke your children unto wrath. Instead,
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  bring them up into training and instruction of the Lord. Train them up,
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  how love on them, show them what true love is. Be there for
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  them. If they ask you to help them with homework, be honest,
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  three hearted. I want to help you, but I don't know how to
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  do that. Let's learn together. Let's do this. Let's go to the
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  library. Let's ask the librarian to help us. But be honest with your
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  children, because children they like when you're honest. That's how it was in
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