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What's Happening at the Courthouse 8 Oct 2026 · "What's happening at the Courthouse?" with Rameez Khan

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  Speaker 1: For some, prison is where it ends. For all, court
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  Speaker 1: is where it begins. This ain't no TV show. This
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  Speaker 1: is the real world. And this is what's happening at
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  Speaker 1: the courthouse on KFM Mornings with Ramiz.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so out in the city yesterday, Remy?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, indeed.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, this is what is happening in our city. The
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  Speaker 2: mother city. This is what's happening on them streets. Rami's
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  Speaker 2: out there on the steps asking everybody one simple question.
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  Speaker 1: What are you doing at the courthouse today?
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  Speaker 3: I was with the family court now just to try
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  Speaker 3: and get some paperwork. I haven't seen my daughter in
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  Speaker 3: three years.
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  Speaker 1: How old is she now?
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  Speaker 3: She is now 15 years old.
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  Speaker 1: Why the divorce?
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  Speaker 3: I was married at 26, very young. So I helped
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  Speaker 3: her out with the visa to get married.
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  Speaker 1: You from the UK originally?
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I was born in the UK.
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  Speaker 1: And she just married you because she wanted that citizenship?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she wanted the passport.
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  Speaker 1: You're joking.
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  Speaker 3: It happens all the time, dude. So I divorced her
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  Speaker 3: 10 years ago in 2015.
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  Speaker 1: But then she got the citizenship already.
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  Speaker 3: She wanted to come back to South Africa. We've got
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  Speaker 3: a kid. Let's go back.
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  Speaker 2: It's easier.
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  Speaker 3: Then we had a second kid. Things got even worse.
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  Speaker 3: She actually went into depression after the second one was born.
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  Speaker 3: And I think she didn't realize it.
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  Speaker 1: But the citizenship is still hers though now.
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  Speaker 3: She's got the British passport now. And the kids have
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  Speaker 3: all got their passports. Why do people want to leave here?
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  Speaker 3: We've got the sunshine 360 days a year. The UK
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  Speaker 3: is grey and it's bleak.
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  Speaker 1: But that passport is strong.
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  Speaker 3: The passport gets you into the country, which is great.
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  Speaker 3: But you think that's a land of opportunity. The interest
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  Speaker 3: rates are 0%. Nothing is growing. Nothing grows in the shade.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: What's the reason that you haven't seen her?
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  Speaker 3: When you're in maintenance court, obviously there's a lot of
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  Speaker 3: tension between.
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  Speaker 2: The two parties.
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  Speaker 1: Of course.
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  Speaker 3: What's happened, I think, is my ex has slowly turned
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  Speaker 3: the children away from wanting to see me. So I've
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  Speaker 3: just come now to try and find a way of
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  Speaker 3: enforcing the parenting part of the contact arrangement.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: The maintenance is very separate from the care and contact.
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  Speaker 3: They're held in different courts.
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  Speaker 2: Correct.
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  Speaker 3: So if I don't pay maintenance, I can go to jail.
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  Speaker 3: But my ex-wife withholds my children, nothing happens. I'm trying
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  Speaker 3: to find out what the right process is to get
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  Speaker 3: the court's help to try and force her to let
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  Speaker 3: me see my children.
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  Speaker 6: If there is a parenting plan in place, if it
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  Speaker 6: is broken, then there are consequences to it.
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  Speaker 1: But do you have that?
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  Speaker 3: There is a parenting plan. Unfortunately, it's 10 years old.
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  Speaker 3: So what happens is the needs of the children change
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  Speaker 3: over time and the needs of the parents. So what
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  Speaker 3: I'm asking the court for is permission to address the
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  Speaker 3: matter and bring the ex-wife into mediation.
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  Speaker 2: She's refusing mediation.
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  Speaker 1: And why not just Speak to your ex directly.
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  Speaker 3: She won't communicate with me. And also, I blocked her
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  Speaker 3: on WhatsApp because I was getting 30, 40 messages a day.
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  Speaker 3: This is from the ex. You know, you haven't paid this,
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  Speaker 3: do that. Bombarding me, you know, like you're trying to
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  Speaker 3: work a day job and you're getting all these messages.
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  Speaker 3: I had to block her. We're now 10 years not talking.
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  Speaker 1: It's a problem. And then your kids are in the middle.
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  Speaker 3: They say the kids are the ones that are suffering,
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  Speaker 3: but as far as she's concerned, she's protecting them from me.
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  Speaker 3: She says that I'm an abusive parent. I'm very disciplined,
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  Speaker 3: so with my children, I always try to have open conversation,
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  Speaker 3: a firm hand. I've never raised the hand of my children,
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  Speaker 3: but she accused me of verbally abusing my daughter. I
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  Speaker 3: had strong words with her, as a father should, because
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  Speaker 3: she was swearing at me and acting out of tune.
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  Speaker 3: I put her straight, and then her mother took me
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  Speaker 3: to court.
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  Speaker 1: Ektik.
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  Speaker 3: I have a full-time job. I spent the whole day
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  Speaker 3: here yesterday. I had a lawyer with me. I must
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  Speaker 3: have spent 20,000 Rand just sitting around waiting for the
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  Speaker 3: magistrate to show up. So they finally saw us at
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  Speaker 3: 6 at night. So what they've done is they've attached
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  Speaker 3: the sale of my property to an arrears order. She
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  Speaker 3: says I owe her money. It's not as big as
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  Speaker 3: she's making out. They've attached the property to that. The
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  Speaker 3: proceeds of the sale are 1.9 million, which I'm using
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  Speaker 3: to pay my Sars bill and to back pay the
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  Speaker 3: school fees, which I've left behind. and also to catch
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  Speaker 3: up on the maintenance because I've fallen behind I'm only
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  Speaker 3: one month behind and now the magistrate has attached that
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  Speaker 3: so I can't now pay maintenance I'm actually stuck I'm
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  Speaker 3: self-employed and I'm not working at the moment so sir
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  Speaker 3: wow I just want to see my kids at least
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  Speaker 3: let me see my kids yeah that's the real story Thank.
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  Speaker 1: You very much for your time, sir. I really appreciate it.
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  Speaker 1: It's a pleasure. What are you doing at the courthouse today?
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  Speaker 7: I'm here for my son to give an affidavit witness
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  Speaker 7: that I put him into a rehabilitation center involuntarily. And
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  Speaker 7: in doing that, he's missed court appearances.
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  Speaker 6: But he obviously can't prove that he was in rehab.
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  Speaker 1: Why would he be here?
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  Speaker 7: The one is a verbal assault between him and his sister,
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  Speaker 7: my youngest daughter. Okay. Who actually has a rare disease
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  Speaker 7: and so trauma and things like this affected her and
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  Speaker 7: she called the police for help one day because they
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  Speaker 7: got into an argument and about two weeks after that
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  Speaker 7: the police came to the house and actually arrested him.
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  Speaker 2: And took him to Paul's home.
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  Speaker 1: We were shocked.
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  Speaker 7: We didn't expect that was going to be the outcome.
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  Speaker 7: But at that time, he was caught in a life
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  Speaker 7: of addiction.
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  Speaker 6: And then what was the next case? I heard he
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  Speaker 6: said something about fraud.
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  Speaker 7: So somebody asked him to buy something at the shop
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  Speaker 7: for them. One of the street people, he was always
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  Speaker 7: on the streets, being an addict. So he went and
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  Speaker 7: tapped the card, and the card was a fraudulent stolen card.
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  Speaker 7: And then there's a third case for a drug.
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  Speaker 2: Charge, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: He's unfortunate.
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  Speaker 7: Unfortunate in his life choices, and this is unfortunately what
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  Speaker 7: happens to addicts. And I was just saying to him
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  Speaker 7: now in the court, what's happened to him has been,
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  Speaker 7: in a way, unfair. Like, his time spent at Paul's
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  Speaker 7: Wall should never really have happened because... I don't want
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  Speaker 7: to discredit that in any way, but she was doing
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  Speaker 7: it out of love to try and get him assistance
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  Speaker 7: to put him into a rehab because we know the
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  Speaker 7: other side of him. Him having to sit in Baltimore
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  Speaker 7: for five weeks, that was extreme. So that was one
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  Speaker 7: of the reasons why I booked him into a rehabilitation
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  Speaker 7: center so that I could get him back to his
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  Speaker 7: normal life.
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  Speaker 1: Person he's looking much better now.
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  Speaker 7: He's looking wonderful i have my son back it's him
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  Speaker 7: i can't explain what addiction actually does to a loved
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  Speaker 7: one the way in which they act towards you and
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  Speaker 7: that that's completely different it's like it's scary.
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  Speaker 1: How what would you tell other parents out.
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  Speaker 7: There Never give up if they're not giving up on themselves.
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  Speaker 7: And always try and find them help. Like, I put
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  Speaker 7: my son on the streets.
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  Speaker 1: You put him there?
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  Speaker 7: Yes, I put him out of the house. It was
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  Speaker 7: the hardest thing, but he's never given up on himself.
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  Speaker 7: So I could not give up on him.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you very much for your time, ma'am. I appreciate it. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: Sure, there's two fantastic examples of a mother and a
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  Speaker 2: father's love, eh?
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  Speaker 5: Mm-hmm. The theme of parenting today came out very strongly.
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  Speaker 6: And they're always backing or always saying that the mothers
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  Speaker 6: that back their kids, even though they do wrong. But
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  Speaker 6: this mother decided to do tough love for her son.
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  Speaker 1: And she put him out.
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  Speaker 2: Because someone just handed him a credit card on the street.
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  Speaker 5: But also that thing of you've got to take control
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  Speaker 5: of your own life.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, that's right.
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  Speaker 1: And that first story, having... Not.
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  Speaker 5: Spoken to your ex for 10 years, but you share children.
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  Speaker 2: But you got the passport.
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  Speaker 1: That's it.
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  Speaker 5: But I can't imagine how difficult that is because you
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  Speaker 5: can't co-parent if you've blocked... With your ex on WhatsApp.
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  Speaker 2: It's heartbreaking. And then when that kid's grown up, the
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  Speaker 2: kid doesn't even know you. It's a different person, you know?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yo, hectic stuff, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So many good stories, though.
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  Speaker 2: Good job, Ramiz.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you very much.
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  Speaker 2: That's what's happening in the city. It's new religion from
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  Speaker 2: Bibi Rexha here on KFM Mornings. Okay, we got your
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  Speaker 2: comments here from this morning's What's Happening at the Courthouse.
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  Speaker 7: Guys, there's dads that's not even interested And their kids.
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  Speaker 7: This guy is fighting to see his kids, man.
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  Speaker 4: That first guy is lying. So your ex-wife is hounding
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  Speaker 4: you because you're not obviously paying your maintenance. And then
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  Speaker 4: you blocked her and then you wonder why you can't
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  Speaker 4: have an amicable relationship with her. Please.
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  Speaker 5: Much respect to that father trying to get access to
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  Speaker 5: his children. You can really hear that he wants to
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  Speaker 5: be there for them and care for them.
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  Speaker 7: That first guy that Ramiz spoke to, some things don't
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  Speaker 7: add up there.
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  Speaker 5: During that dad, I don't know, there's something fishy going
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  Speaker 5: on there.
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  Speaker 2: 90 day fiance, hey, just with a green card.
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  Speaker 4: And then that other lady, Ramiz, there's always one that
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  Speaker 4: has more to the story that's sleeping it out here
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  Speaker 4: for us. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Interesting responses to that first one.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's very clear that the ladies are going, they're
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  Speaker 2: summing up with this guy and the guys are going,
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  Speaker 2: great dad.
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  Speaker 5: And Rameez, you should have gone harder on him. I
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  Speaker 5: think you handled him with kid gloves there. Because really,
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  Speaker 5: some things weren't adding up there.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to handle people with... Because I guess
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  Speaker 1: also it's an emotional... Sensitivity, yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Story.
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  Speaker 1: But, yeah, no. I'm not... It's not make sure.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you know what? We can all jump to conclusions,
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  Speaker 2: but that's the surface level anyway. So it'll be interesting
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  Speaker 2: to see what the judge finds out. Some of these
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  Speaker 2: we need to know the conclusion.
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  Speaker 5: I know.
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  Speaker 1: How do you get the sequel now? How do you
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  Speaker 1: get the next episode?
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  Speaker 6: I honestly think that that's the beauty of what's happening
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  Speaker 6: at the courthouse.
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  Speaker 1: Make up your own sequel.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you know, the bottom line is... that, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: the wheels of justice turn very slowly. In five years' time,
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  Speaker 2: you'll get a resolution. All these cases, they're still five
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  Speaker 2: years away from any conclusion.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Because it was a delay today. Many years. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Sure.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, like an average divorce. When
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  Speaker 2: there's kids involved, I think it's about four or five years.
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  Speaker 7: Crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Is a divorce. Of just, boom, up and down and
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  Speaker 2: fight and court and back and forth and roll. I
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  Speaker 2: don't think there's such a thing as amicable. No. I
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  Speaker 2: don't think so.
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  Speaker 1: Might be rare, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: With a few caveats.