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Rabbi Moshe Haber Chaye Sara -Sarah's Wholeness, Abraham's Steadfast Faith 11.14.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  No, you're right. All right, let's go through now
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  by Shah. Thank you.
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  One of the big things just tell you a theme that we're probably
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  not going to speak out of wish about is that the pressure was
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  up with the fact. Firstly by you, Haya Sada Sada's
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  life was 100 years, 20 years and seven years Schnee.
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  These are the years of her life. That's the basuk opens up and we
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  know if you look at that first basuk right away, you'd
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  bewildered. That's a funny way of talking.
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  She lived 100 years, 20 years and seven years just tall.
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  She lived 127 years. And secondly, you repeat Schneer
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  Hayez Sarah. Those are the years of her life.
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  You already said about you, you Hayez Sarah was that amount of
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  years. Why you're repeating yourself.
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  So this is a classic opening by soup to Parasha, which has
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  classic lessons and that is or she tells us and she was 120 and
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  seven. That means that at 100 she has
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  certain qualities that I did or just similar to 20 and at 20 she
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  has certain qualities which is similar to seven and that is 100
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  years old. She's already older woman and
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  she has a quality of like a 20 year old, 20 year old
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  acquaintance. What I is not responsible does
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  not get punished. Person does not get punished
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  until 28 younger a person is done about own.
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  She does not get punished for what they do, man or woman,
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  until 20 years old. Vomits, vomits vow we are
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  responsible for our sins, but we don't really actually I don't
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  know who gets a man, maybe parents, someone we don't get
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  out of punishment until 20 years old.
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  That's Part 1. She's 100, like 20.
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  She's as empty a punishment as a 20 year old is.
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  It's an odd point. And then we say 20 was like 7.
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  She's as beautiful at 20 as she was at 7.
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  It's also a difficult point and hopefully understand it.
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  OK, 7 year old. I don't think you're defining
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  them as beautiful. You define them as young girls
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  but not really beautiful. So both these points are
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  interesting. Let's take and analyze the first
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  point, this idea of 100 like 20. Why is someone only punished by
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  20 years old if they're in bar mitzvah at 13?
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  Bob mitzvah at 12 years old? I don't know the exact answer,
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  but the overall theme is that 20 is considered the age of more
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  responsibility. I'll pick up a lot.
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  There's a depth to it, but also considered more the age our
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  responsibility. That means the universe becomes
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  bar mitzvah, which is every action that they do carries
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  weight. Responsibility.
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  Only his thoughts. You still live in your parasol.
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  Exactly things like that since they do only his thoughts at a
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  later age. So we're trying to say about
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  Saddam. And so again at 20s when you
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  start, you know, piling up the punishment, sadly or maybe not,
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  and Saddam and was as empty a punishment at 100 years old as
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  she was a 20. OK, now about the seventh thing.
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  I don't know the answer. How is What does it mean she's
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  20? As beautiful as 20 as she was
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  when she was 7? Complexion like that, you know.
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  Skin OK, so I think the answer is like this.
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  We're not talking about we are talking about beauty, but we're
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  not talking about simple beauty attraction.
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  What we're talking about is I think is my answer.
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  Maybe it's right, maybe it's wrong.
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  You find throughout Cazal this reference to the greatest of our
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  people, that they were so handsome and so beautiful and so
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  strong and all these physical traits.
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  And you know, we're not busy with physical whenever you're
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  not busy with material, right? You look at the rabbis today,
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  you look at the gadolin, they're not, you know, strapping young
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  way. So the whole idea of talking
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  about beauty and complexion even, and strength and all these
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  concepts in a different way. So people say he's beautiful and
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  hot people say that too. That's not exactly right either.
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  It's true, but it's not the the trap means what it means.
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  It does mean. We had a note this week in the
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  Gamera when we're learning the Pasuko Torv one says 12/1
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  doesn't. So the note was saying Torv
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  means good in a match. Two things go good today.
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  Good. It's not just doesn't mean you
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  know playing it means two things match together.
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  Work good, so that's. Just you add two ingredients
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  together, they taste good. Daxed off.
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  You put a man, a woman together, they last 50 years.
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  Golf very good. So in a similar sense, I'll take
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  that and segue the word the idea of beauty across the entire it's
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  what AI saw this for the name of Rabbi Abirahan above it.
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  That's how he said beauty and these definitions doesn't mean
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  only the physical thing. It does mean physical, but it
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  does mean only vision. What it means is it's a certain
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  level of complete that God made these people or that these
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  people became either one. And that level of compute
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  complete is so complete that it's reflective even in their
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  physical way. It's not the symbol definition
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  today of attractive. That's a different concept.
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  Attractive today something else. Beauty is sort of a
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  wholesomeness, and that wholesomeness is and very
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  similar to Tamim and also similar to the word hen.
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  Hen is that the person has hand, the person has certain charm.
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  Charm is a very Gray word. What does it mean?
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  It's a beautiful thing, but it's a Gray word.
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  What it means is that both physically as personality, it
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  all comes together and it is somewhat the beauty of the
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  person physically, but it's also the beauty of the person inside
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  the whole package, the whole person, whole picture.
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  And what we say about if or we say about Saddam, who's going to
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  shop right now that she was 20, like 7.
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  I think it means the same wholesomeness that made-up a 7
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  year old, A7 year old girl is a very wholesome girl.
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  Now we have to use the numbers and make up her life.
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  We couldn't say sick. We couldn't say 10 because 6 and
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  10. Wholesome and pure, you'd.
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  Think of a 7 year old. Perfect.
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  So the idea is at 20 years old when a 20 year old is literally
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  at the peak. Or maybe coming into the own of
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  yetzada and of different things and the different ideas and
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  different desires and different individuality and all those
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  things that I break a person out of the wholesomeness.
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  At 20 years old, she was carrying the purity and
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  therefore the overall beauty of a 7 year old.
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  Follow me. So the beauty we're referring to
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  is not simply physical, nor is it simply inside.
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  It's the combination. And the combination is something
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  you see in children who have this sort of charm and this sort
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  of style. And that's what she carried as a
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  20 year old. Is that cute?
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  It's not beauty outside alone. It's the whole package, all the
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  pictures as you had it at 20. Why, when she was coming into
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  her own, right, When she's coming into into the sort of the
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  problem of your life between those days and coming into your
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  strength and she's still keeping that innocent slash, charm,
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  slash overall beauty. And then we're saying that Kyrie
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  with her that stayed with her and that 20 that also and $100
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  stuck with her. And she was always the same idea
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  of the same person, this wholesome perfect person, never
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  building punishments and the building and destroying her
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  charm, never destroying her overall beauty.
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  That said, I'm in and she ends by saying Kulan, Neshavin,
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  Litova, her life was all equally good.
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  Now that's a classic question. How can you say about this woman
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  her life was equally good, Joe equally good outlook answer is
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  her perspective and her approach to life.
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  Exactly. Her respective perspective,
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  outlook and her approach to life were always the same.
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  Every single day was the same. And that's what creates for a
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  person this sort of overall beauty.
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  Her every day was the same. Every day is up and down.
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  She had 90 years without children.
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  She had ten years after that child was born.
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  She had to deal with Ishmael 100 years of problems, but still her
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  outlook of every day was the same.
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  So we're describing to you set up and I'll give you 2 points,
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  her toward the people at 100, like 20, at 20, like 7 overall
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  perfection. That means she carried the same
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  innocence and the same beauty and the same therefore charm
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  throughout her life to people and also to Hashem, never
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  building sin. And also her toward others was
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  always the same. Her toward life was always the
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  same. She attacked like the same way.
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  Her outlook was always the same. That's the opening.
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  Good. Are we being recorded?
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  Yes, we are. Had a question on.
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  Where OK we got to we have to all right and the bazook says
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  the question bazook says Sara passed away Sara passed away and
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  Abraham came to eulogize her to cry on her behave.
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  What does it mean he came where was he's her husband?
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  Where was he doing the as some say he came from Akhadiah's hawk
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  that Amban says that's not the perfect shot.
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  I think if you correlate the ears a little wolf says that a
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  ban he came from somewhere in between and that is says that a
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  ban in between after Akhadiah's hawk Abrahami or travel.
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  They believe it was 2 bear chevre or somewhere and Arvan
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  took a little stop a little detour on his way back home.
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  What was the detour? What was he doing picking?
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  Up. Oh God.
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  Thanking Hashem thanking Hashem for the survival and the success
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  of Akadai Itzhak and all that worked out stop to thank Hashem
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  and then said I mean, who died? That is an interesting fact.
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  Why I think should I even do it there because he went back to
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  thank Hashem somewhere else and then on the way back home she he
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  found that she while it was in other places that I'm bought and
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  I bought not one for you know, crazy push.
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  I think while he was in that position around thanking Hashem
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  for the success of Kadai Itzhak so that I may not pass the way
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  he gets the news. Now here's my question.
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  Isn't it a little bit interesting He is thinking
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  Hashem for the success of a gnae's hawk.
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  How'd Saddam die Would she hurt the basuk says the word live
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  caught out with a small hop of Raham cried for with a small
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  hawk says Rashi. Why is Mokhab and why is this
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  story of a Saddam basically right here?
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  Because the story of Saddam in a passing way comes right in.
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  After a Qaeda, Itzhak Muhammad succeeded.
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  OK, we know where he's doing right now.
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  They Satan going to different Bishop team.
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  Some say it was Satan, some say it was a random messenger.
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  Does anyone say it's the 10th test?
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  Some say it's the last Test, 10th, but one of the tests.
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  You think he would tell his wife what he's going to do?
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  No, but he knew he she couldn't handle it and he came back.
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  What was he going to tell us? He's trusting how she was going
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  to figure it out because she knew she can't handle it.
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  Clearly we see she can't handle it.
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  So before after the Arkadya's clock, the Satan or a different
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  messenger comes to Sarah and says and she says in this order
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  the husband had taken his son on the altar to slaughter him.
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  The goal didn't say he slaughtered him, didn't say he
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  slaughtered him. The goal was to say the full
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  story and shooting and fly him. But the order that he said it
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  was in a way either by design or not by design was in a way first
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  mentioning the fact that he's hawk was ready to be stored.
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  However, Harvey does not want to stop midway.
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  So when she is a story, she thinks it happened.
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  And then she says, but Ahana Shahdad broke her heart.
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  She passed away because of our news.
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  And that's why Abraham had to make sure to cry, but only a
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  little because he didn't want to show any regret or any remorse
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  of the Arcadia's hawk because he might have that feeling right
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  now. Look what it caused.
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  He didn't want to show any remorse, and therefore he
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  deliberately cried a little less than he normally would have
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  because he was afraid of making it seem like he had a a question
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  on Hashem or remorse on what he did.
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  He wanted to avoid. I have his interest.
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  But he could have cried because he lost his wife.
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  Yeah, that's fine. But she did.
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  But she did. But he avoided over crying
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  because you didn't want to seem like he's crying based on the
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  cause of the treasury. That would be, in his mind, a
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  question of faith. Now, here's the thing.
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  Isn't it interesting? Abraham was in the midst of
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  thanking Hashem for the success of Arkady Itzhak and Saddam, you
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  know, passes away because of the knowledge of Arkady Itzhak.
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  What is this interesting point? So I believe that the Today is
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  trying to push for Abraham, you know, push him to the limits.
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  I mean that it's Haq, you would have thought is the limits.
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  There's no further than that. OK, You can handle it.
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  If the Arkady is Haq, He's in the celebration point.
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  He's fully enjoying the moment and appreciating having clarity
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  in life. I shouldn't put me through the
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  test, but it worked out. I see why God did I see the
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  whole thing. I'm good at that very point.
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  Or is it the pinnacle of clarity comes Hashem and throws in his
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  mind and it's like the most extreme of confusion where his
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  wife passes away after the fact because it's something that
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  never happened because of a test that never existed because of a
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  situation that was appreciating its clarity and that some throws
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  another level of funk. And the reason for that is is
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  that every harm can be thrown one last Test on that issue in
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  that area. And that right there where
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  there's final point when you say that the FIFA city Satan de
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  Faneu, please remove from me the Satan in front of me and the
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  Satan behind me. I once saw that the idea is and
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  the Satan in front of you. It's clear he stops you from
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  doing what you need to do. He gives you different issues
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  and different fun. You breakthrough, you push
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  through. Could you succeed?
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  So that after you is there's a level of guilt that a person has
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  a love of regret that someone has.
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  I overspent on that mitzvah. I overdid over there.
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  I gave too much time to that. And Yan, that's not good to have
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  regret and what he did is not good.
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  And Satan was trying an Abraham vino to get him to regret by
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  giving him some confusion. Abraham is too strong.
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  And so it's specifically while he was celebrating the success
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  of akada is when he found out about, so to speak, the failure
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  of the akada. And he still didn't give.
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  And he still didn't give. And that's why I didn't cry so
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  much because you want to show that I stand strong.
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  I remain steadfast in my faith and I never, ever have
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  questions. And the reason maybe that the
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  Torah in the first past week says Schneck, yes, these are the
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  years of her life. And it says it twice basically
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  by you, Hayes. These are his life.
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  And then it says it again, easy to tell you.
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  You think she passed away because of the Satan.
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  You think she passed away because of her heart losing
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  herself because of a tragedy. It was literally exactly her
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  time to the second and of Rahama did strengthen the clarity of
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  mind to know that, to notice that, and therefore you lose it.
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  How do you draw the strength not to lose it after all this
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  because he knew it was exactly her time to the minute.
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  It was perfect, it was exact, and everything is on time.
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  That's the opening two person game.
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  So again, you have Sara's life, which is a beautiful life image
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  to look at, and that is beautiful in the fact that at
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  100 she was without saying like she was a 20.
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  You have the fact that at 20 she was as beautiful as seven.
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  We're explaining the beauty is not plainly physical.
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  It's rather in a sense wholesomeness, perfection.
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  And even when the person comes into the strong years of
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  temptation and different things, you mean it's impure.
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  She carried that to 100, 120 and seven will combine and then you
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  have the fact that she died and she died or she is telling us
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  right after we hear about Kadaiya Khaki.
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  We had that she died because she died from a seemingly tragedy.
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  Abraham cried with a small Hoff to tell us she did not die from
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  tragedy. She died because it was a times
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  and in life a person has to realize everything is being
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  orchestrated. Even though Abraham was thrown
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  the greatest test 1 can think, which is a test of regret, of
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  second guessing himself, of questioning what he was doing.
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  What I do this while he's celebrating Al Qadiah talk
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  success, he is told about the greatest failure of Al Qadiah
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  talk and he still doesn't flinch.
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  That is an indication of his strength and that is the way a
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  person has to be. Always carry the same clarity,
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  even while you see confusion. That's the idea, all right.