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Reasons Why You Don't Like Being Around Other People · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: You're walking into a crowded room and it makes you
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  Speaker 1: want to withdraw and find a place where you can
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  Speaker 1: be alone. Does it sound familiar? If it does, you're
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  Speaker 1: not alone. Some people love being around others all the time.
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  Speaker 1: They might have huge friend groups or be at parties
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  Speaker 1: every Friday night. You might be wondering, how are they
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  Speaker 1: able to do that? Do you find it difficult to
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  Speaker 1: be around others even if you just can't put your
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  Speaker 1: finger on why? If so, here are five reasons why
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  Speaker 1: you might not like being around other people. you surround
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  Speaker 1: yourself with the wrong people. You might not like being
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  Speaker 1: around most people, but is it really everyone? Perhaps it
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  Speaker 1: has something to do with the people you surround yourself with.
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  Speaker 1: There might be a group of people that you typically
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  Speaker 1: hang out with, but at your core, don't truly like.
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  Speaker 1: Whether it's because their morals or beliefs don't align with yours,
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  Speaker 1: you feel like people aren't being genuine or because you
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  Speaker 1: simply don't have anything in common with them. Being with
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  Speaker 1: the wrong crowd may have led you to believe that
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  Speaker 1: you don't like being around people Are you still friends
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  Speaker 1: with people because you feel obligated to or because you
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  Speaker 1: genuinely like them and want to spend more time with them?
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  Speaker 1: If it's the former, then it might be a sign
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  Speaker 1: that you should start hanging around new people. Stress. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: stress and anxiety can cause us to dislike being in
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  Speaker 1: the presence of others. According to research at the Dartmouth
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  Speaker 1: Social Neuroscience Lab, people who experienced more stress on one
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  Speaker 1: day socialized with others less the next day. If you've
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  Speaker 1: been frequently stressed, whether it's because of assignments, a job,
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  Speaker 1: or anything, it might be contributing to your social avoidance
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  Speaker 1: and withdrawal from interactions with other people. Stress can be
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  Speaker 1: a big factor in a lot of mental health conditions,
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  Speaker 1: according to Dartmouth assistant professor Megan Meyer. If you're stressed
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  Speaker 1: and withdraw socially as a response, you may be missing
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity of using social interactions to mitigate your mental
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  Speaker 1: health issues, especially during a time when you did the most.
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  Speaker 1: After all, we humans are social creatures. You're an introvert.
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  Speaker 1: While this one might be a little obvious, there are
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  Speaker 1: a lot of misconceptions about introverts simply not liking other people.
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  Speaker 1: For introverts, being around others can be draining and there
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  Speaker 1: could be a biological reason for it. A study in
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  Speaker 1: the Journal of Cognitive Neuroscience found that introverts process social
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  Speaker 1: stimuli in the brain differently from extroverts. When exposed to
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  Speaker 1: images of human faces, extroverted people were associated with having
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  Speaker 1: 300 brain waves with higher amplitudes. The study also found
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  Speaker 1: that extroverts were more sensitive or attentive to and found
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  Speaker 1: greater motivational value in social stimuli than introverts. Introverts tend
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  Speaker 1: to keep to themselves a lot more often than their
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  Speaker 1: extroverted counterparts. After a certain time, their social battery runs out,
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  Speaker 1: which is when being around others can be tiresome. The
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  Speaker 1: study might explain why, for introverts, being around other people
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  Speaker 1: might not provide as much value as for extroverts, making
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  Speaker 1: them prefer being alone more with other people. You're a
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  Speaker 1: highly sensitive person. According to Psychology Today, a highly sensitive person, HSP,
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  Speaker 1: is someone sensitive to sensory processing, processing and increased emotional
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  Speaker 1: sensitivity or reactivity to external and internal stimuli. It's estimated
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  Speaker 1: that 15 to 20% of the population are HSPs. If
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  Speaker 1: you're an HSP, you might find it difficult to be
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  Speaker 1: around others because there's so much information to process. The conversations, actions,
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  Speaker 1: or even emotions of others can be overwhelming. Issues with
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  Speaker 1: processing might even make you upset in social situations. For instance,
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  Speaker 1: being around too many people can lead you to feel
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  Speaker 1: oversimulated or overwhelmed, even irritable or anxious. Sensory processing sensitivity
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  Speaker 1: is not something that can simply be switched off, which
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  Speaker 1: is why HSPs might avoid overly social settings. Eye intelligence.
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  Speaker 1: Research suggests that highly intelligent people actually prefer to be
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  Speaker 1: alone instead of around others. in a paper published in
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  Speaker 1: the British Journal of Psychology by Lee and Kanazawa. It
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  Speaker 1: was discovered that highly intelligent people experience lower life satisfaction
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  Speaker 1: when they socialize more often with friends. These findings were
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  Speaker 1: based in evolutionary psychology. In groups, the more intelligent members
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  Speaker 1: were able to solve problems without needing help from their
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  Speaker 1: friends and are happier being alone to solve challenges on
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  Speaker 1: their own. Solitude is a way for highly intelligent people
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  Speaker 1: to reset themselves after being in highly stressful urban environments. Still,
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  Speaker 1: even though highly intelligent people might feel like they don't
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  Speaker 1: benefit as much from friendships, you still might socialize just
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  Speaker 1: as much or even more often than less intelligent people.
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  Speaker 1: This isn't to say that highly intelligent people don't socialize,
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  Speaker 1: but if you find yourself able to thrive and solve
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  Speaker 1: problems better on your own, it might be one of
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  Speaker 1: the reasons why you don't like being around others. It's
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  Speaker 1: important to understand why some people may not enjoy being
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  Speaker 1: around others and not shame them for it. Which one
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  Speaker 1: of these reasons resonates with you the most? Are there
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  Speaker 1: multiple that you relate to? Let us know in the comments.
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