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Do narcissists ever THINK about you when it's over? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be answering the question, do
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  narcissists ever think about you when it ends?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist And what was another episode of the
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  Narcissist Code. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back. So yes, I am shooting in the
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  car. If you watch my morning video,
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  you will know that I am on current vacation right now with
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  the family before go back to school.
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  But yes, yes, yes. So let me go ahead and say this.
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  I know y'all saw the title, I know y'all saw the intro where
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  the question is, do narcissists ever think about you?
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  Let me say that. Let me start off by saying this.
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  This is in no way, shape or form if when I answer these
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  questions, if I say yes, they think about you don't take that
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  as well Lisa, they thinking about me.
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  So I should go back. No, no, that is absolutely that.
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  That is the exact opposite message you should take from
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  what this video right here. Do not go back based on this
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  video. Do not reach out or break no
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  contact based on what you may hear in this video.
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  Hell no don't do that. Do not do that.
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  This is your warning. This is Lee Hammock warning you.
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  Seriously. But yes, mindset wise
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  narcissistic people do they think about you.
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  And this is from personal experience y'all.
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  This is anecdotal and I think but a lot of other narcissists
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  in these self aware narcissist groups on Facebook and stuff
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  like that say the same thing. Yes, they think about you.
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  Yes, all the damn time. Regardless of how it ended, even
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  if they ended it with you, even if they broke up with you, said
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  the most horrible, vile things to you on the way out of the
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  relationship. Yes, they think about you.
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  So is it possible that some some don't think about you at all?
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  Absolutely. It is absolutely possible that
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  there are narcissists out there that once the relationship ends,
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  it ends, they're done. They never think about you
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  again. They never break you up.
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  You might not ever cross their minds, but those are probably a
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  little bit darker than narcissism, right?
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  There might be some sociopathy or some psychopathy, you know
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  what I mean? There might not just be some
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  normal narcissism right there. Just think if I'm, if I'm
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  keeping it hot and ready, like y'all would love for me to do,
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  there might not be no normal narcissism right there.
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  That's that's something that's something a little darker.
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  If they could just forget about you completely.
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  But for me, and you know, I guess the, for lack of a better
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  word, the normal narcissist, which is a stupid word to use
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  for me. Your your your regular
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  run-of-the-mill narcissist. I would say not normal.
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  Normal is a kind of weird word to use.
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  Your regular run-of-the-mill narcissist, yes, Hell yeah,
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  years later. Possible you pop up in my you
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  pop up in their heads like you might leave a lasting effect on
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  a narcissist's mind. You really might do it no matter
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  again, no matter how the relationship ended, it could
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  have ended on a horrible note where they left you for somebody
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  else had a baby with somebody else.
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  They're married and traveling the world.
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  They might still think about you going down to them.
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  The Tines tines the river in Paris, one of the rivers in
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  Paris or Egypt or somewhere that might be going that going
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  through Cairo or going to see the great pyramids and they
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  think about you. You know, they might see they
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  might see a pyramid and a pyramid is the shape of a
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  triangle and they think about how they triangulated you
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  against their new supply or against against a lot of their
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  friends and family, something like that.
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  Look at that triangle. I remember I remember my ex.
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  I triangulated my ex. They might think about you,
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  stuff like that. You know, for me, I've dated
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  those. Y'all know I've dated
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  narcissistic women before, right?
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  And yes, women can be narcissists.
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  I think this, that's one of the thing on my channel, like, I've
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  very rarely try to make it, you know, I'd rather try to pinpoint
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  just one sex or one gender or the other.
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  Everybody can be narcissistic, right?
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  Everybody can be toxic detail. Everybody can be cheaters and
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  lies and manipulators, right? But in this space right here,
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  like, narcissistic people, like, sorry, yeah, my mind literally
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  went blank. But that's how it goes.
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  Narcissistic people can think about you like I made
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  narcissistic women. That's I was going, yeah, the
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  narcissistic one in my life. She pops with my head every once
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  in a while. She had a very, I'm not say her
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  name, but she had a very unique name.
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  You know, her name is on churches and stuff like that.
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  Sometimes I'll be like every time I this is very damn near
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  common name, you know, they're celebrities with the same names
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  out here or I'll be doing a coaching call with somebody with
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  the same name. Oh my goodness, here we go
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  again. You know, it's just certain
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  trigger points. Narcissists have triggers too,
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  right? Narcissists have a lot of
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  triggers. A lot of narcissists have these
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  short fuses and whatnot. So these are the type of things
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  that help, you know, I just like they don't help.
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  But like narcissists do think about you, but a lot I'm just
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  say be, I'm be right here. And This is why I say don't take
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  the word in this video and break no contact because just you
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  know, just because they are thinking about you doesn't mean
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  that they miss you to treat you better.
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  I'll say that they can be thinking about the horrible
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  stuff that they did to you and smirking.
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  You know, they can be thinking about like that.
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  I can. I cheated on her like 10 times.
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  Crazy. She forgave me.
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  I got the juice, man. I'm crazy.
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  Yeah. Wow.
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  I'm good at this. You know, they might be thinking
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  to you, even in a negative context of how much they got
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  away with, how much you might have forgiven them, how much
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  they, they can gaslight you and confuse you and have you believe
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  in some kind of false reality. You know, that happens a lot as
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  well. So this is the part I was just
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  trying to tell people. Like they're going to do what
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  benefits them. They're going to do the
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  manipulation, the gaslighting, the toxicity, the crazy
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  behaviors. They're going to keep doing this
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  type of stuff because at the end of the day, they feel like they
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  get great benefit from it. So yeah, they could miss you.
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  Absolutely. But like I said, under work,
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  under what circumstance, under what pretense, What do they miss
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  about you? You know, So what do they
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  absolutely miss about you? What are they thinking about?
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  They could be thinking about just the, the, the last time.
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  Mel clapped cheeks. Like, if I knew that, if I would
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  have knew that, if I would have knew that was going to be the
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  last time, I would have put her in a the Hucklebuck or I would
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  have broke out the Kama Sutra, or I would have tried to put a
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  baby in her. I would have tried to get
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  pregnant by him. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's the type of stuff narcissist thing.
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  They might regret not trapping you with a baby.
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  They might regret not marrying you so you could just break it
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  with them. They might be regret not buying
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  a house together with you or moving in together with you
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  because they it allows you to separate from them easier
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  because y'all didn't have anything together.
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  They might regret and miss and think about that type of stuff
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  right there and then you, I'll say this right here.
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  They use certain things, right? They use certain things like did
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  they learn from you to treat the to use against the other person,
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  like the things that a narcissist misses about you,
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  right? The things that they miss about
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  you, they could use that to entrap the next person.
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  You see what I'm saying? If I missed the fact that I
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  didn't get you pregnant and I've it allowed you to just break
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  with me easier and just ghost me and now contact me.
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  This person right here, I'm not going to make the same mistake.
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  So they could be using the stuff that they learn from you.
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  You see what I'm saying? The stuff that they get from
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  you, they could be using that stuff to learn how to be a
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  better manipulator. They could be using the stuff
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  that they miss about you, the stuff that the things that they
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  think about you, they could be using that type of stuff to
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  become worse people. That's what I'm trying to,
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  that's the that's what I'm trying to reiterate to you.
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  Just because they miss you is not under the best pretenses.
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  They're like, damn it, I didn't get her pregnant.
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  Why didn't I have a baby wire? She was it's so easy to get away
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  from her. So the next person that they're
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  love bombing, they're telling them they're doing the same
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  sound, they're doing the same song to dance.
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  They're love bombing to manipulate it, But guess what?
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  Now, because they missed that about you, they could take that
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  and you know and use to the next person.
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  They're going to get this next person pregnant quick as hell.
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  You see the thing about this right here?
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  Y'all you let's say you get pregnant by this person right or
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  you get them pregnant y'all again, because we look we we,
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  we, we talk about all the genders and narcisses right here
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  right. You get pregnant by them or they
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  get wait, you get pregnant by them or you get them pregnant
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  OK, and they move on very quickly.
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  So if you are like I said, so you right are thinking about
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  them and you see online that y'all, y'all been broken up for
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  two months and now they got a baby on the way with somebody
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  else. You like what the hell?
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  They were not going to make the same mistake twice.
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  They were thinking about you and how you escape so easily.
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  Not so easily. You know what I mean, how you
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  escape because you don't they don't really have any reason to
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  contact you anymore. But now I miss, I've missed the
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  fact that you know, I think about the time that I didn't get
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  you pregnant or didn't didn't have a baby on the way.
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  So the next person gets the stuff that you were the stuff
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  that they use they could have used to trap you.
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  The next person is getting that treatment.
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  The next person is getting those behaviors.
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  So not always under good pretense that they are missing.
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  That's what I'm trying, that's what I'm trying to convey to
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  you. It's not always a good thing
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  that they miss you or that they're thinking about you.
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  They could be thinking about you and anger and want some
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  vengeance on you. I don't want to hurt them so
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  badly. And then sometimes they can
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  become obsessive towards you if they're thinking about you all
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  the time and they can try to come back into your life and
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  Hoover you. You know, not all narcissists
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  that are thinking about you or miss you will Hoover you.
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  Not all of them will try to come back into your life.
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  But sometimes they can get super obsessive and be thinking about
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  you all the time and they can't get you out of their heads.
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  So you know what they do? They start stalking you.
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  You know, they'll start to stalk you.
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  They'll start to pop up at you, pop up on you.
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  They'll start reaching out to you again.
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  They start creating fake numbers and doing things like that so
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  they can get in contact with you.
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  They start doing all these toxic, manipulative things in
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  order to try to win you over, in order to try to to get back into
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  your life in order to try, you know, because they sometimes
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  that missing or thinking about you can become an obsession.
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  Y'all know when people get obsessed with you, it can get
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  very, very dangerous. Y'all know, Y'all know what come
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  out to when they become obsessed with you, they can get extremely
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  dangerous. They became like they can pop up
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  on you, try to ruin your life, try to ruin your new
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  relationship if you have one. They can just try to make your
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  life very, very difficult and try to hurt you and harm you in
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  so many different ways. So that's why I'm just trying to
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  give you all these warnings right here to protect yourself,
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  to, you know, protect your peace, to protect you like that.
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  If they miss you, you know, whether or not they miss you or
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  they're thinking about you, it doesn't mean that they'll try to
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  contact you. Some of them will disappear and
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  gallivant off into the into the into the wild or whatever.
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  You know, they're like a wounded fox or a wounded wolf.
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  They'll look back at you, growl at you and they run off into the
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  woods, you know, never to be seen again.
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  It's like, it's not like we watch what's the movie?
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  This movie Moana Maui dropped this fish hook never to be seen
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  again, Tafeti. But yeah, just because they're
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  thinking about you, y'all, some of them are absolutely thinking
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  about you. But it's not didn't again y'all.
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  Do not twist my words. Keep my words straight to you
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  key. Don't twist them up.
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  Don't manipulate my words. Do not self gaslight yourself
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  because this is me being direct to you.
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  Do not take the fact that they might be thinking about you or
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  they might miss you as a sign to reach out to them.
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  I was asking the Lord for a sign and he sent me this video late.
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  The Lord did not send you this video to reach out to your toxic
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  ex partner, your abusive ex. The Lord did not send you this
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  video. You mean you might the
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  algorithm? The algorithm did.
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  Do you mean somebody? Look, somebody is looking up,
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  not down. Might have sent you this video
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  because the devil, y'all religious folks, the devil might
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  have sent you this video. The devil is working for your
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  toxic ex, the devil. The devil loves toxic
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  relationship. The devil loves toxicity.
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  So it might not be a good thing that your ex is you see what I'm
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  saying? That your ex misses you or is
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  thinking about you. You seen this damn video, but
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  nevertheless, y'all thank you for tuning in.
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  into somebody's lap that that needs it, and I say they might
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  see this video and be like oh they do miss me.
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  You get to the part where it's like just because they miss you
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  doesn't mean that they will treat you better.
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  Sometimes they miss you because they want revenge, they want to
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  hurt you, they want to put you through ringer, they want to
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  ruin your damn life. They're thinking about you
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  because they want to hurt you. They're thinking about you
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  because they want to hurt you and ruin your life and take you
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  to send you send you to meet your maker.
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  So don't go back to the tax ass person.
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