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Control Yourself: Discipline is the Key to Unlocking Potential · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Look at all the things that you could do and
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  Speaker 1: ask yourself, do you want to win? You see, to
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  Speaker 1: win is.
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  Speaker 2: To know what's important.
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  Speaker 3: Now.
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  Speaker 1: The challenge is to just get started, not now, but
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  Speaker 1: right now. Bring on the resistance, bring on the challenge,
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  Speaker 1: and allow yourself to have the feeling of elation when
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  Speaker 1: you've got started and you've done something that you said
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  Speaker 1: that you were going to do. And the more you
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  Speaker 1: do this, the better you will feel, the more adept,
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  Speaker 1: and the stronger you will become at moving through the
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  Speaker 1: resistance that we all face. You see, how you do
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  Speaker 1: anything is how you do everything. And the fact is
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  Speaker 1: it all comes down to one thing. That one thing
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  Speaker 1: is choice, and what's the easiest choice to make.
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  Speaker 2: Well, the easiest choice to make is to choose what
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  Speaker 2: you've chosen before. If you always do what you've always done,
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  Speaker 2: then you'll always get what you've always gone. Ultimately, your
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  Speaker 2: attention is your superpower. Your attention to focus on now
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  Speaker 2: what needs to be done. And this is the difference
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  Speaker 2: between success and failure.
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  Speaker 4: We put ourselves in this great box and in that
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  Speaker 4: box there's no suffering in it.
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  Speaker 1: So what we do is.
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  Speaker 4: Result to ourselves from greatness and on the other side
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  Speaker 4: is where you start to really start your journey. People
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  Speaker 4: think they start their journey because you're born. There's a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people in graves who have lived one hundred
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  Speaker 4: years and have never started their real journey. Your real
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  Speaker 4: journey starts when you go outside that box and you
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  Speaker 4: start climbing mountains, and it goes on, and it goes
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  Speaker 4: on and it goes on, and there you are.
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  Speaker 5: You have to have a plan, and you have to
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  Speaker 5: spend all your waking hours outside of whatever job you do,
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  Speaker 5: planning your escape. And you have to come to the
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  Speaker 5: realization very clearly that you've you got yourself stuck. So
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  Speaker 5: whatever you're doing, you have to do it like your
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  Speaker 5: life depends on it.
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  Speaker 6: Pick something, aim at it. As you move toward it,
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  Speaker 6: you'll get wiser than Maybe your aim will change, that's okay,
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  Speaker 6: but at least it will change in an informed way.
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  Speaker 6: It's like discipline yourself in one dimension, see what happens.
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  Speaker 6: That's exciting, and I think that's something that's open for everyone.
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  Speaker 6: And I think you can find yourself in a situation
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  Speaker 6: that's so dire that there's no escape from it. But
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  Speaker 6: that doesn't matter, because the best we have might not
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  Speaker 6: always work, but it's still the best we have. And
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  Speaker 6: the fact that it might not work doesn't mean you
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  Speaker 6: should throw it away. It's still the best we have.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, everyone dies and so we fail in some sense.
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  Speaker 6: The fact that the symphony doesn't mean that it wasn't
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  Speaker 6: worth listening to.
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  Speaker 7: So you must think negative when it's positive. You must
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  Speaker 7: think winter when it's summer. Here's some of the best
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  Speaker 7: advice comes from classic tradition. A great story says, don't
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  Speaker 7: build your house on the sand in the summer. Why
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  Speaker 7: be given that advice? Because it's easy to get faked
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  Speaker 7: out in the summer. You must not be faked out
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  Speaker 7: when it's nice. You must think storm in the summer
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  Speaker 7: and not get faked out. And if you think storm,
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  Speaker 7: now you'll look for a rock on which to build
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  Speaker 7: your house. Now you're gonna be safe. So you can't
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  Speaker 7: think nice when it's nice. You gotta think storm when
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  Speaker 7: it's nice. The seasons are gonna come and change. And
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  Speaker 7: if you're not educated to that degree, now you suffer
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  Speaker 7: a great loss. Now here's the next philosophy. The time
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  Speaker 7: to think positive is when it's negative. Why because the
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  Speaker 7: negative won't last long. How long is the winter. Isn't
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  Speaker 7: that long on it's not going to take that one.
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  Speaker 7: How long is the night? It's only a few hours.
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  Speaker 7: There's never been a double night. Couldn't you make it
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  Speaker 7: for a few more hours? And the story says, yes,
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  Speaker 7: the night just can't last for Sometimes it seems like
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  Speaker 7: it's gonna last forever. And when you have insomnia, right,
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  Speaker 7: it seems like the night will never pass. But I'm
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  Speaker 7: telling you, sure enough, it will pass. So learn to
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  Speaker 7: think day when it's night, and then you must learn
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  Speaker 7: to think night when it's day.
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  Speaker 3: So you had to get it.
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  Speaker 7: Going, get it in before the night came.
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  Speaker 8: Commitment shows up in your life through action. You can
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  Speaker 8: tell people who are committed and those people who don't
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  Speaker 8: feel worthy. The people that are committed are busy doing it.
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  Speaker 8: The people that don't feel worthy of are like a
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  Speaker 8: guy I talked to last night who told me, Hey,
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  Speaker 8: I should like to do what you're doing. However, I
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  Speaker 8: just don't want the responsibility. The company I work for
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  Speaker 8: they're taking good care of me. I say, let me
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  Speaker 8: tell you something. Once you incre he's your sense of worthiness,
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  Speaker 8: you won't even be able to open your mouth think
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  Speaker 8: that somebody is taking care of you, you want to
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  Speaker 8: take care of yourself the same because he doesn't feel worthy.
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  Speaker 8: He's intelligent, seventeen years from major corporation that's spent thousands
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  Speaker 8: of dollars training him. He knows he has the book knowledge,
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  Speaker 8: but his attitude is his vision of himself, his sense
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  Speaker 8: of deserving. This says, you can't have that, so he
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  Speaker 8: will fabricate all kinds of excuses on why he can't
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  Speaker 8: have it. You can only have two things in life,
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  Speaker 8: reasons or results. Notice, reasons don't count.
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  Speaker 3: We as individuals control to an altogether unsuspected extent. Our
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  Speaker 3: lives here on edge that each one of us is
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  Speaker 3: the architect of the structure of fashion by our years.
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  Speaker 3: The failure of most people that live successfully is not
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  Speaker 3: caused by their lack of abilities, far from it, but
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  Speaker 3: rather in their failure to decide what it is they
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  Speaker 3: want and understanding that our wants are governed by our
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  Speaker 3: talents and abilities. Success is the progressive realization of a
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  Speaker 3: worthy ideal. That is, anyone who knows where he is
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  Speaker 3: going in life is a success.
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  Speaker 9: The great paradox There is an interesting and important paradox
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  Speaker 9: in life that you need to be aware of. It
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  Speaker 9: is that If you are an intelligent person, you do
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  Speaker 9: everything possible to organize your life in such a way
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  Speaker 9: that you minimize and avoid adversity and disappointment. This is
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  Speaker 9: a sensible and rational thing to do. All intelligent people,
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  Speaker 9: following the path of least resistance to achieve their goals,
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  Speaker 9: do everything possible to minimize the number of difficulties and
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  Speaker 9: obstacles that they will face in their day day activities.
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  Speaker 9: Disappointment is inevitable, yet in spite of our best efforts,
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  Speaker 9: disappointments and adversity are normal and natural, unavoidable parts of life.
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  Speaker 9: Benjamin Franklin said that the only things that are inevitable
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  Speaker 9: are death and taxes, but every bit of experience shows
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  Speaker 9: that disappointment is also inevitable. No matter how well you
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  Speaker 9: organize yourself and your activities, you will experience countless disappointments, setbacks, obstacles,
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  Speaker 9: and adversity over the course of your life. And the
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  Speaker 9: higher and more challenging the goals that you set for yourself,
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  Speaker 9: the more disappointment and adversity you will experience. This is
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  Speaker 9: the paradox. It is impossible for us to evolve and
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  Speaker 9: grow and develop to our full potentials except to the
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  Speaker 9: degree to which we face adversity and learn from it.
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  Speaker 9: All of the great lessons of life come as the
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  Speaker 9: result of setbacks and temporary defeats which we have done
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  Speaker 9: our utmost to avoid. Adversity therefore comes unbidden in spite
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  Speaker 9: of our best efforts, and yet with out it we
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  Speaker 9: cannot grow into the kind of people who are capable
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  Speaker 9: of scaling the heights and achieving great goals. Adversity is
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  Speaker 9: what tests us. Throughout history, great thinkers have reflected on
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  Speaker 9: this paradox and have concluded that adversity is the test
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  Speaker 9: that you must pass on the path to accomplishing anything worthwhile. Herodotus,
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  Speaker 9: the Greek philosopher, said, adversity has the effect of drawing
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  Speaker 9: out strength and qualities of a man that would have
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  Speaker 9: lain dormant in its absence. The very best qualities of strength, courage, character,
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  Speaker 9: and persistence are brought out in you when you face
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  Speaker 9: your greatest challenges and you respond to them positively and constructively.
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  Speaker 9: Everyone faces difficulties every step of the way. The difference
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  Speaker 9: between the high achiever and the low achiever is simply
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  Speaker 9: that the high achiever utilizes adversity and struggles for growth,
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  Speaker 9: while the low achiever allows difficulties and adversity to overwhelm
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  Speaker 9: him or her and leave him or her discouraged and dejected.
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  Speaker 9: We all have goals that we want to achieve in
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  Speaker 9: our lives. These goals may include learning a new language,
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  Speaker 9: eating healthier and losing weight, becoming a better parent, saving
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  Speaker 9: more money, and so on. It can be easy to
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  Speaker 9: assume that the gap between where you are now and
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  Speaker 9: where you want to be in the future is caused
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  Speaker 9: by a lack of knowledge. This is why we buy
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  Speaker 9: courses on how to start a business, or how to
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  Speaker 9: lose weight fast, or how to learn a new language
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  Speaker 9: in three months. We assume that if we knew about
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  Speaker 9: a better strategy, then we would get better results. We
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  Speaker 9: believe that a new result requires new knowledge. What I'm
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  Speaker 9: starting to realize, how whoever, is that new knowledge does
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  Speaker 9: not necessarily drive new results. In fact, learning something new
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  Speaker 9: can actually be a waste of time if your goal
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  Speaker 9: is to make progress and not simply gain additional knowledge.
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  Speaker 9: It all comes down to the difference between learning and practicing.
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  Speaker 9: When we practice something, we are involved in the deliberate
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  Speaker 9: repetition of a process with the intention of reaching a
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  Speaker 9: specific goal. The words Deliberate and intention are key here
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  Speaker 9: because they define the difference between actively practicing something and
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  Speaker 9: passively learning it. Learning something new and practicing something new
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  Speaker 9: may seem very similar, but these two methods can have
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  Speaker 9: profoundly different results. Eer some additional ways to think about
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  Speaker 9: the difference. Let's say your goal is to get stronger
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  Speaker 9: and more fit. You can research the best instruction auctions
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  Speaker 9: on bench press technique, but the only way to build
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  Speaker 9: strength is to practice lifting weights. Let's say your goal
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  Speaker 9: is to grow your startup. You can learn about the
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  Speaker 9: best way to make a sales pitch, but the only
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  Speaker 9: way to actually land customers is to practice making sales calls.
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  Speaker 9: Let's say your goal is to write a book. You
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  Speaker 9: can talk to a best selling author about writing, but
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  Speaker 9: the only way to become a better writer is to
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  Speaker 9: practice publishing consistently. Passive learning creates knowledge, active practice creates skill.
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  Speaker 9: Passive learning can be a crutch that supports in action.
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  Speaker 9: In many cases, learning is actually a way to avoid
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  Speaker 9: taking action on the goals and interests that we say
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  Speaker 9: are important to us. For example, let's say you want
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  Speaker 9: to learn foreign language. Reading a book on how to
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  Speaker 9: learn a foreign language quickly allows you to feel like
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  Speaker 9: you're making progress. Hey, I'm figuring out the best way
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  Speaker 9: to do that this, of course, you're not actually practicing
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  Speaker 9: the action that would deliver your desired outcome speaking the
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  Speaker 9: foreign language. In situations like this one, we often claim
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  Speaker 9: that we are preparing or researching the best method. But
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  Speaker 9: these rationalizations allow us to feel like we are moving
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  Speaker 9: forward when we are merely spinning our wheels. We make
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  Speaker 9: the mistake of being in motion rather than taking action.
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  Speaker 9: Learning is valuable until it becomes a form of procrastination.
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  Speaker 9: Practice is learning, but learning is not practice. Passive learning
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  Speaker 9: is not a form of practice because although you gain
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  Speaker 9: new knowledge, you are not discovering how to apply that knowledge.
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  Speaker 9: Active practice, meanwhile, is one of the greatest forms of learning,
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  Speaker 9: because the mistakes you make while practicing reveal important insights.
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  Speaker 9: Even more important, practice is the only way to make
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  Speaker 9: a meaningful contribution with your knowledge. You can watch an
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  Speaker 9: online course about how to build a business or read
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  Speaker 9: an article about a terrible disaster in a developing nation,
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  Speaker 9: but that knowledge is unproductive unless you actually launch your
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  Speaker 9: business or donate to those in need. Learning by itself
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  Speaker 9: can be valuable for you, but if you want to
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  Speaker 9: be valuable to others. Then you have to express your
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  Speaker 9: knowledge in some way. Practice focuses your energy on the process.
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  Speaker 9: Progress is a natural result of staying focused on the
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  Speaker 9: process of doing anything. The state of your life right
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  Speaker 9: now is a result of the habits and beliefs that
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  Speaker 9: you have been practicing each day. When you realize this
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  Speaker 9: and begin to direct your focus to a practicing better
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  Speaker 9: habits day in and day out, continual progress will be
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  Speaker 9: the logical outcome. It is not the things we learn,
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  Speaker 9: nor the dreams we envision that determines our results, but
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  Speaker 9: rather the habits that we practice each day. Fall in
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  Speaker 9: love with boredom, and focus your energy on the process,
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  Speaker 9: not the product. The bottom line is passive learning useless.
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  Speaker 9: Of course not. In many cases, learning for the sake
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  Speaker 9: of learning can be a beautiful thing. Not to mention
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  Speaker 9: that soaking up new information can help you make more
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  Speaker 9: informed decisions when you do decide to take action. That said,
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  Speaker 9: the main point of this article is that learning by
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  Speaker 9: itself does not lead to progress. We often hide behind
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  Speaker 9: information and use learning as an excuse to delay the
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  Speaker 9: more difficult and more important choice of actually doing something.
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  Speaker 9: Spend less time passively learning and more time actively practicing,
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  Speaker 9: stop thinking and start doing