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Yoreh De’ah 234:36-43. Vows: Historic Purim Message; Annulling Partial, Mentally or Verbally, How · SHULCHAN ARUCH YOMI: Own the Halacha in 25 minutes a day!

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  The happy Shushan Purim we are today on Raish Alamedalid.
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  We're starting with Saif Alamed valve.
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  I'll just for one moment, I just want to make a real quick
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  digression just to point out that number one, thanks for
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  Koresh sparkle. We're living through tremendous
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  miracles. Thanks for the the IDF, the Air
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  Force, thanks for Trump and all those who are supporting.
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  We are still in those day. We are living in historic times
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  wherever we are. Obviously, if you're in Israel,
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  you can actually see the fireworks as they explode.
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  But otherwise we just keep on davening as we learn in in in
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  the story of Megillis Esther that even the wife of Haman and
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  his friends told them that when they begin to fall, they're
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  going to keep falling. We just have to pray that Hashem
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  allows and wants them to finish falling all the all the way AD
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  herself. And just one quick other message
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  that because it's so important when we learn the halacha, it's
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  so important. Why is it so Why are we spending
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  so much time worrying about all these details because I heard
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  from a Yeshua Landau last night. So I won't, I won't make this
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  long that when you want to do it, Mitzvahs our way like the
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  eagle. So unfortunately, sometimes the
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  lucos have to break. But if you want to do things the
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  way a Kurish bark who wants us. So then that's why when we learn
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  the halacha, we're learning the way a Kurish bark who wants us
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  to always happen and everything should have a everything
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  supposed to be done. Same thing when you want to help
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  someone else. Right now you want to make a
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  tikkun. Hopefully it'll get closer to
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  the mashiach. So it's important that when we
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  do anything, we do it. One of the main focuses should
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  always be a Vas Israel and helping someone else the way
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  they want to be helped. It's not about you.
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  It's about believing in a Kaddish barku.
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  It's about doing it the way he wants.
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  It's the way helping people the way that they need or want to be
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  helped. And you know about the historic
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  times. I just want to point out we
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  we're speaking so much about Mehudu Veltkush, the beginning,
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  the end of the Megillah. It's just interesting historic
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  times that happened to be about a week ago, the Prime Minister
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  of India, we call Hodu, was here giving us brachos and our
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  President Herzog was in Ethiopia, commonly known as
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  Kush, giving them brachos to each other.
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  And it's just hopefully we're living in times what's going on,
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  the wars in the in the sky far beyond where we are on land or
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  in Iran outside. It's worthy of being written in
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  Tanakh. And it's Dafka Purim that will
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  not end nor say for Yoshua that doesn't end, even the Mosa
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  Mushiya. And just one little, one last
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  little comment that we spend so much time working on the words
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  of Yosef Karl, but this is our Dala dama Shahlakha, where the
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  Shriner resides. And it's really based on his
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  works, him and the Rama. And that's why it's so
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  important. The Mashiach might come today
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  and then in a couple couple days or years, the halakhos will
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  change. Interesting enough.
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  But until then, we're still till that happens.
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  Even when the Mashiach comes, we're still going to be the
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  halakhos of the Shorten arc and the Rahman until things change.
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  Anyway, let's let's learn inside La Mirvaab.
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  This is the topic of partial. Can you do a partial Hafara
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  Salaam evaab Astra atsuma bataanium anavim vein veneter
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  vein bishvua. So a woman, she makes another
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  and she does it on let's say figs and grapes, right?
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  Neither shivua Ben shastra atsuma.
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  Behold, I mean, or you know, the entire type of food Ben Shamra
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  to anium venavim, whether she says to anium or ananavim a Lou
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  these or or the entire mean, whatever it is the kiyam
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  litanium, the heifer la anadum. So now the husband, he's saying
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  I'm the kayam, your neder Shuva on this, but not on that
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  antanium, not grapes or vice versa.
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  Or these are not the others, the ones in the basket, the ones
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  outside the basket. He can break it up however he
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  wants and it's and it's a proper kiyum and a proper hafara.
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  Oh shakim la not being behafra, let's say anymore.
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  Vice versa, Mashakim kiim, whatever he upholds is upheld
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  and it's a binding. It's remains binding for
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  Mashafir move for and whatever he does afara on, that's what he
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  ends and stops it right there. So you can't do Benvictas,
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  right? We learned we cannot do in
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  general to do Hatara doesn't work the mixes.
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  But if you're not undoing it retroactively, you're cutting it
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  off where you are. So say take a scissors and you
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  can cut out whatever you want to cut out the Ain, the Ain Omri
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  and Behafara. We do not say the principle
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  neither Shufar mutasa, hufar kulo.
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  Just because you were did have Farah on part of it, that
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  doesn't do a Farah on the other part.
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  OK, Paga, no, the ish kulking. Some argue with severe Aluhu,
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  the EM Yeah, I believe this is a Mahocus in the Gemara.
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  And the question is can you do partial?
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  So it's today actually, or today maybe also tomorrow we're going
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  to see a a few things are really a Mahocus in the Gemara too.
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  And anyways, we'll see how how it lands out the in kiem Sato
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  kiem kulo. So there are paskins like the
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  opinion that says no. If you're you do kiyum on part
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  of it you are makayum olivet. But if you do have fara on part
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  of it, so then you didn't do how fara at all but the AFCO.
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  But neither. Everything we're talking about
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  is only if it's one nether and in one nether you specify an
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  ovum and in one end and grapes together.
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  For example, figs and grapes together, but it's one editor of
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  Amra Konamanagi malai konam to any malai.
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  But if you make 2 separate nadaram, even though it's one
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  right after the other, it's two separate Nadaram.
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  So then shanadaram him. Those are two nadaram in shayak
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  ekhadl Cabiro and there is no shyakas from one to another.
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  Yeah, they they point out even according to the Rama could be
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  in some gilma later on that maybe you can keep kiyum only
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  partial, unlike this Rama. So the Marshall points it out
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  and he mentions it is a stira in the Rama.
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  It's a question, at least according to the Rama.
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  Fine, Lahmed Zain me for Adam omakayyam nidre ishto ubito, the
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  whole lasha. OK, this is interesting.
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  A man can do kiyum or afara in any lashon, the alpha piche a
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  Mama karis, even if she doesn't understand what he's saying, as
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  long as he has the intention and he verbally right, he has to
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  verbally do it at least for the how far apart has to be verbal.
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  So then it's Mukuya, the coalition, Shiomar Shimura,
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  Shakyama, any wording that shows that he wants to be a kayam
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  afilo ASA kadila tsara, even if he has intentions, he just wants
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  to punish her. You know, make her think that
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  it's it's sorry, but he's but he says it right.
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  Maybe he wants to change his mind later in in an hour, but
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  right now he just wants to tell her that he's Makayam.
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  He's or he is joking will be a question.
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  Your Kavana needs to also be the same as what you're doing.
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  So let's I'm not sure about that, but certainly if you mean
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  it, but you just want to do it maybe for a couple hours or
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  whatever it is, have a queue. As soon as you were Makai amid
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  you uphold her nether then it's too late and it's hot.
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  OK, yeah, we're going to see. You have to have Kavana leave
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  over the peer shoving. OK, the Kate son Mayfair Omer.
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  So how do you do? Sorry Kate said Mayfair, how do
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  you do hafara? Right.
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  We kept talking about doing hafara.
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  How do you actually do it? So we've mentioned you have to
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  verbally do it. Let's keep reading.
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  So Omar Shalosh, I mean mufar, you say 3 times the word mufar,
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  which means it's you're basically severing and
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  cancelling her or or you say the word of batal 3 times.
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  Oh you say the words ain't neither zek Klum.
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  This nedder that you made is nothing.
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  So by saying the word zek Klum, that's like saying the word of
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  mufar or batal. We'll see.
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  It's a machlokas or any similar type of wording.
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  Shahin ya Nam akirat haneder MI ikaro.
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  Now you have to read the word MI ikaro with a grain of salt.
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  Don't take that. The way we usually use it, it
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  means you have to completely uproot the neder from here on
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  in. It doesn't mean me.
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  In other words, like totally. If you know, if you flip it
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  over, like you flip somebody up from the ground, you just uproot
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  it. You completely, but not
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  retroactively in time. OK, so usually me Cara, we refer
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  to Le Mafreya from the original time.
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  That's when you do Hatara again afar.
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  That's not what it means over here.
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  Bang befanea, bang shilo Befanea.
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  And you don't have to do it even in front of her face.
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  She could be she can't she doesn't have to be even able to
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  hear you right now. Good question, but it's a the
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  point is right now. And when you do Afara, that's
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  when it when it, that's when it's called.
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  And anything that was done, if it was done to ISR or if she
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  doesn't know about it, she needs Kapara also the for for what she
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  doesn't know about, but it's not in the Vera.
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  It's not the same as nether. And then she will and she
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  doesn't need it. She wouldn't get malchus.
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  OK, fine, Ava E amarilla, but if he says the words EF she
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  shatidori, if she said if he says the words to her, I don't
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  want you or I don't let you make another.
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  It doesn't do anything. Oh, inconeder, this is not
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  another. Harry is the lo hafar.
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  He didn't do Afarah. He's he might be telling you
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  what he his wishes are, but that's not a severing.
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  You have to like take the scissors and cut.
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  You have to sever. You have to use the word words
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  that are undoing and canceling out, not just giving your
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  wishes. If he says to her, you're
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  forgiven, you're like I'm forgiving your nether or
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  Mutallah or I'm allowing you to do what you want now or to to
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  violate the nether. I'm permitting you.
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  That's not how far because it's not we're not having you
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  forgive. It's it's he has to cancel.
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  It has to be something a little bit more OK with more than that.
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  And as we mentioned before that there is an opinion who argues
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  on the expression of the Omer, the Omer, the Omer, a nether
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  Zeklum, that if the husband would say a nether zeklum lower
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  have a hafara. So the Shokanora says no, when
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  you say zek Klum, that's the same as saying mufaram.
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  But but I just pointed out to you that there is a dissenting
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  Mahmar opinion that's good to be koshishwar.
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  Let's go on la merchant cliche Vashon hafarah believable.
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  Now if a person had a mind mentally to do hafarah and he
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  says but tell in his mind I'm canceling out your nether, but
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  he never just said so verbally. Ain't no clue, doesn't count.
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  Now Torah says to Dua Farah it means bidibor only by medevari
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  memoriam shalo amarla. So we touched upon this, but
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  that's if you didn't say anything, you didn't even say to
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  leave the akhli, take it and eat.
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  We're talking about the nether was not to eat.
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  So he's saying here taking it, which shows that he wants to
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  undo the nether. So if well, I'll just read about
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  IM Ammar Allah Tali Akhli, the key shave lashon Hafara bulibo
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  hafarah. So interesting.
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  We learned that the proper lashon is to say mufar or or
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  bata, but not necessarily if you had kavana in your mind, it's
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  basically like to say those words or accomplish those words
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  of cancelling, but you didn't say those words.
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  You have kavana of the Lushan of Bittel, which means cancelling.
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  It doesn't have to be dafka, one of those two words, but you have
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  kavana to cancel. But you said, 'cause there has
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  to be in your mind, there has to be cancelling, and in and
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  verbally there has to be something that follows that
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  that's similar enough. So you just have to tell her
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  verbally. Go ahead and eat, and that's
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  good enough. That works.
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  You can combine the two and that works.
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  OK now until you actually do Hafarah.
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  You can't force her, you can't tell her.
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  Go eat. You can't shove the food in her
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  mouth. You're not allowed to because
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  you didn't do Hafarah yet. I like in Kane Amar to leave
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  Akli, the actual believable Lashanafarah, but you can tell
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  her eat this food and in your mind you're doing hafara and
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  that's good enough and that's called hafara and then she's
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  allowed to eat fine. Now the next 1 1/2 sea theme is
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  only the opinion of the Rambam. So obviously Ashokanarak is
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  telling you it's good to be Koshish, but that's not the
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  Ikarhalaka Rambam. What is this?
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  So the Rambam has an extra level or an extra way of doing hafara.
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  It's called hamavatal nidro ishto Vito in Sarik Lomar Klum.
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  You don't. You could actually do batala.
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  In other words, hafara. If you're doing what we call
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  hafara, it has to be verbal. If you're doing what we call
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  batala, it doesn't have to be verbal.
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  OK, Shulkanara, we hold it must be verbal.
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  Verbal, like we said, can be telling her to eat, but there
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  has to be a mental hafara and a verbal something, right, And
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  that's In Sync with that the round bum holds.
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  If you do what we call Battala, then you don't even need any
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  verbal at all. You don't have to say anything.
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  You can just have in mind that you wanted to do Battala or have
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  It's have. It's the same.
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  I believe you can have. I mean, it's the same thing.
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  You have a mind. You want to cancel a null, you
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  know, sever any of those expressions in your mind I
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  believe works and you do an action to have her eat or to
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  break her nether. You're doing an action and
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  that's good enough. So let's read it inside.
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  And so if you do that, then it's about Luko and Nadarian and then
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  you undo all of her Nader that way.
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  So Mao Bittel, what is the Bittel according to the Rambam
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  Shiaku Fatala Soto Dover shastra Otto, you force her, you shove
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  it down her throat or you don't even have to actually be so
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  forceful, but you like give it to her, tell her to take it,
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  tell her to eat it. And she's, if she's obedient,
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  then that counts. If it's aval hafar enocofelota.
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  When we say hafarah, the Rambam says that's when you do a
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  hafarah verbally. And then it's up to her to
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  decide if she wants to enocofelota pay for Allah.
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  You don't force her. You just do alfaro verbally and
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  you leave her alone. Imransta OSA.
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  She wants to eat, eat, doesn't want to eat.
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  She doesn't eat. That's what she wants.
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  You're not you're not pushing her.
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  I don't think you have to force it down her just you don't have
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  to even push her, just hands off completely.
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  So that's how far. But if you do bittel, it's
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  kaitza natra and ishba sholotish that she makes another issue or
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  not to eat, not to drink the amarilla mufar lek.
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  And if you just and if you just tell her move her lekha, raise
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  the hafar, then it's and she could eat and drink if she wants
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  or ven not tell venaten lavi Amar teli akhli telishti.
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  Or is the alkhali vishoto vener batal me a love?
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  So here you can just tell her to eat and tell her to drink and
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  you you have in mind and it's and it works.
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  Let's keep reading them this. You'll see this is also the
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  Rambam Amaefer Anidre Beto or Ishto.
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  And here if you do afara for your wife or daughter.
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  So then sarclod CB Svatav, you have to say it verbally.
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  EM heifer bilibo ain't no mufar. And if you only do it hafarah
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  and then allow her to do whatever she wants, in your mind
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  it's not a hafarah avala mvatal. But if you want to do bittel, if
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  you don't have to say anything from your mouth, you could or
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  could not ella mvatal bilibo. It's all in your mind.
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  Bilvat biko felta. But you have to encourage her.
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  I don't think. I don't think again, I don't
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  think shoving down your throat is what's necessary.
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  It means you have to push her into it.
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  Like encourage her. OK, How strongly?
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  It's not so clear. Fine.
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  Haga kozes usvaras arambam. And everyone agrees that the
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  Rama over here is this point is mukuli alma.
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  He's saying mem. This is what we just read.
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  That's according to the Rambam avali savara harishona and
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  khilogbi nafara labito. But according to the opinion of
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  the Sholkhanarak, there's no difference between Afara and
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  bittal Ubishnehum Eno mufarabatel rak.
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  I guess you may feel about to bilibo the amoral to leave akhle
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  bacaini car. It has to be verbal.
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  There has to be a verbal an element and then it's and then
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  it works fine. Everything ikar and that is I am
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  believable. I raise akim.
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  If a person does kilum mentally then that works.
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  I may for believable ain't no clue.
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  But if a person has hafara mentally it doesn't accomplish
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  anything. So again Kim could be mental.
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  How far is what must be the definition of the Torah.
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  When it says how far it must be verbal IM hafar bilibo.
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  If a person does zafarah in his mind ariza Yahoo laksor lakayam.
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  So a person can. If a person did hafarah only
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  mentally, it didn't accomplish anything.
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  So you still can go back. In other words, you can still
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  decide to be makayam, uphold it, or decide to be a matron to
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  cancel it, to be IM Ki unbelievo.
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  But once you did a kiyom in your heart mentally Eno Yahoo laksa
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  olafa, you can't go back and now decide, no, I want to do
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  hafarah. Because once you did kiyum you
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  can no longer do hafarah again. She can do atara sadharian.
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  You can go do a Hashallah which is like khatara on your kiyum
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  but just to do alfarah now it's too late.
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  And if you wait till the next day it'll also be too late
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  because you can't do alfarah the next day.
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  Hello IM hazar bataka de divor. Unless the only time you can do
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  hafarah after kiyum as if you do it within talk the dibor, we'll
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  say maybe 2 seconds Max. OK, Membet this is not membet is
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  not so much a halacha of hafarah, it's really halacha of
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  Nemanas. So let's read Amrullo ishka
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  nadra of Amar bilibi haya hafarlava farti shamimo.
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  If a woman makes a Nader, they tell him by the way, to Aden,
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  whatever they tell him, your wife made a Nader and he says to
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  them, you know, I really wanted to do a fara on it and I did.
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  I did a fara the same day. But show me lo, we believe him,
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  OK, I'm a lo nadra, Omar lo nadra.
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  If they tell him, you know, we just heard your wife made a net
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  there. And he says, no, it's not
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  possible. She didn't make another.
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  I was there. Whatever didn't happen, they
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  cave on. She wrote a otam, the idu, the
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  idu ale, huh? And then when they see him, when
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  he sees them making a Ada's testimony in Baisden, So now
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  he's in trouble, Ammar Bilibi, because Baisden's going to
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  listen to them. So Ammar Bilibi, Haya La Hafer
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  ain't show me in love. So now it's too late.
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  Now we're not going to believe him because he already said she
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  didn't make another incident and now we're not going to believe
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  him to say that originally he did Hafarah.
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  He can't go back and change his words.
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  He can do right now. He can do Hafarah now, though.
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  He can still do Hafarah going forward, but he can't.
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  We're not going to believe him to change what he said because
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  all right, Because once someone already testifies and you, once
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  they testified and you went against them and now they're
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  coming to Bayesian, it's a little bit, it's too late.
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  Fine, let's go on Mam gimmel amarilla kayam laci ulmufar laci
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  villo Taco la Kama Ali inkin Ali inkin khala hafara.
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  So what's the case? He said at the same the same
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  sentence. He said I'm the kayam you and
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  I'm doing afara to you. And then he also says in the
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  same sentence, and you're the hakama is not going to take
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  place until the Hafara takes place.
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  So think about that. The heck?
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  It's not even letting the Kiyum happen until the Hafara takes
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  place. So once, So then we're going to
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  say like this, I raised a Mufar, the kiyum never happened because
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  the Hafara never happened. And he did say the words
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  Mufarlah lately, same thing. So then the Hafara is going to
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  be called, it's going to take place.
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  And now it's too late for the Kiyum to take place.
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  So the Hafara works yesh yesh and this is a question in the
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  Gemara and this is so the Shokanara has his Zach and the
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  Rama says Vyesh Omrim and Mahak is we've shown him how to how to
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  deal with the Gemara. The Suffolk in the Gemara Vyesh
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  Omrim, they have a kiyum and the Haggad says no, when you say
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  kiyum lehiyum move for Leithi, then it could be then that that
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  that is already called ikeum. And therefore we're going to be,
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  we're going to treat at least on the level of a Suffolk lahumra
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  that we say it's it is McCain.