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Lessons - Accountability, Ownership & Choosing the Right Partners | Ben Nemtin - #1 NYT Bestselling Author · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  In this lessons episode, explore how accountability and shared ambition turn bold goals into lasting progress.
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  Discover why pursuing challenges with the right people increases follow-through,
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  understand how community supports a stains momentum through setbacks and failure,
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  and uncover practical ways to find inspiring peers who raise standards and expand what feels possible.
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  Actually, we didn't even need to jump there right away, but I think it was an important lesson,
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  the accountability piece, and I was actually curious about when you were doing your own bucket list.
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  Did you find that you had more success immediately because you were doing it with friends,
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  and also an add-on to that question, that bucket list, I've listened to some other interviews
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  have been in, and some of those items were shared items, and some of those items were solo items.
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  Did you find it was easier to accomplish the shared items versus the solo items,
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  or was there any differentiation there when you were doing that own bucket list?
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  So we had individual items and shared items, as you said, but we all did all of them together,
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  and it's actually the first time I thought about this.
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  So, for instance, ride a bull. I had no interest in riding a bull. I had heard any
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  disc from Rugby, you know, I wasn't getting on one. Dave, one of the guys, was very passionate
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  about riding a bull. He called dozens of outfits in Idaho and Utah. No one would let them on a
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  bull. They're like, it's too much liability. You never, like, no, we're not going to let you put
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  that into your documentary. Finally found someone, and he did it, and Duncan ended up doing it
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  last minute, and Johnny, I did not. But we all did a lot of these most list items together,
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  even if it was just one person's dream. Most of them were collective dreams, but the
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  the accountability of having those other guys with me, even you for them when, yeah,
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  exiting the bull. And even, there's no way I would have done some of the things.
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  Streetcafeel and getaway, I have no chance. Unless I was forced into that position because they
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  were like, we're doing this, you know, being a crump competition in LA. I can't dance. Like,
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  this is a nightmare for me, you know, survive on a deserted island, you know, and just have to
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  figure out a way to make a bet on the sand and live off coconuts. Like, ask out, try and ask
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  out Megan Fox on the Transformers premiere red carpet. Like, these things made me so nervous.
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  I almost threw up. But because I had those guys with me, and there wasn't an option to not do it.
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  There was, there was no option. And the other thing that I think is more powerful is like, when I
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  tell the story of starting that road trip in 2006, and getting to, you know, these big,
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  bigger list items and make a TV show and all that, it really sounds like a great startup story.
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  You know, it's just a rocket ship. From 2006 to the television show was three, four years. And
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  we had many times when I wanted to give up, right? When we, we got offered a show in Canada,
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  by the way, a lot of people don't know this, but MTV Canada, after the first tour, we went to
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  Toronto. We had made a trailer. We put it on YouTube. It got the front page of YouTube. We met with
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  production companies in Canada, MTV Canada offers a show. They wanted to own the IP. They
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  went to own Barry. And we were like, we just kind of want to keep doing this on our own. Like,
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  we don't want to, we want to make a show, not sell a show, basically. So we politely, you know,
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  declined the next summer, 2007. We got lots of sponsors on board. We got Palm Pilot at the time.
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  We got Levi's. They helped us buy the bus. We must, you know, we race a lot of money for sponsors
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  to enough to get a full crew from LA to follow us for two months on the road. Put all this money into
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  the dock, got back home, realized how expensive post production is. We've spent 90% of our money. We
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  hadn't paid ourselves a dime. And we had turned on a show. We were broke. I started working in a bar.
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  Didn't even know how to bartend in Vancouver. And I was like, we blew it, dude. We turned down a
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  show. We spent all our money on this dock that no one will ever see. And now I'm working in a bar.
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  I dropped out of school. I dropped out of school. And it was the three other guys, right, that in
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  those moments, when I felt so down that we're like, get back up. You know, we're going to, we're
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  going to keep doing this. I randomly met this girl that knew my, she, her, her parents were friends
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  with my parents. And I was on a random trip to Mexico. And she lived in LA. And she was like, oh,
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  this is kind of cool. You know, like, I can maybe introduce you to some people on a way my
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  flew down to LA by myself, met some people, instead just coming down to LA, learning the entertainment
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  business, need, realize I need an agent, realize we needed a production company. We caught our own
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  pilot from the footage we filmed. So this documentary footage, we're like, oh, let's, let's cut a
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  pilot. We had crashed the MTV video wards in Vegas, snuck in the whole thing, filmed it. We used
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  that as a pilot. Ironically, we got in pretending we were filming an MTV pilot. And we used that footage
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  to cut a pilot and end up selling the show to MTV with that footage. But a lot of sundowns. And
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  if I was trying to do this by myself, I would have stopped after the first year, 2007.
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  Yeah. So they really, that's super important. But that's that's that's also a sort of like a hidden
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  facet and being successful in your bucket list and your goals because you have to find that support
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  group. So yeah, if somebody is building out this list, they probably have people in their life.
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  Of course, they have their family. They probably, they could have a partner, a spouse, whatever,
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  boyfriend, girlfriend, but not always. So if somebody does want to radically improve their life,
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  you mentioned a few things that could maybe detract from them being successful at this. And I
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  want to actually walk through those so people can understand fear the deadlines and the waiting
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  to feel inspired, those three items. But I think the other item that could stop somebody from
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  being successful is lack of accountability and that and those partners in their life that can
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  hold them accountable. So I would ask you, how can somebody find people that can hold them accountable
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  to the level where you held your friends accountable, they held you accountable?
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  I think this is, I like a very common question, maybe because I get it a lot and you know,
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  it's like, I don't know anybody that's inspiring or how do I find these people? And I think that
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  that's why a lot of people move to different cities like L.A. or New York because it feels like
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  there are creative inspiring people there. It doesn't mean that you're going to find those people
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  though because there's also a lot of other types of people in these cities and you can get caught
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  up in the wrong types of crowds. So the, I'll give you my experience of what led me to this and
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  then what I think would help. So even before I called up Johnny on the phone who was a filmmaker
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  and I was like, you're inspiring, I want to hang out with you. Let's make something.
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  About a year before a guy that I knew from high school, he was younger than me and he was in high
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  school and I was in university, he started a clothing line out of nowhere. I was like blown away,
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  a really cool clothing line and I was so flabbergasted. I was like, how did you do that? You don't
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  have any experience in fashion. He's like, what do you mean? I just took out a loan and I did it.
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  I was like, wow. I was like, can I get involved? So immediately I was drawn to this person.
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  I was inspired by him and I asked if I could help. Not thinking about anything other than
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  I was drawn to this dude because he was doing this thing. And so I asked him if I could help.
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  And he said, yes, I need press. Maybe you can get me some press. And these are the days of
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  like cool hunting blogs. People would just post stuff if that was cool and they would just get,
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  it was a great, great gig of all time. You just get sent all this cool stuff. And if you really
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  liked it, you'd post a photo of it. Right? So there's this guy Josh Spear who had a website
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  joshspear.com and he was, I saw him on the front page of the Toronto sun style or Toronto star.
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  It was like the style section or cool. It was the lifestyle and it was like, it just says it's
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  cool. It's cool. So this is early 2000s and I was, I was like, I bet you he would like this.
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  My friend's clothing line. Anyways, got in contact with him. Just send him an email. He got back
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  to me through his website. I was like, wow, I got in contact with this guy. We sent him my friend's
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  clothing. He did a post about it. I was like, holy crap. Like that was easier than I thought.
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  I was like, if my friend made a clothing line, I wonder what I could do. And I was like, I want
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  to make a movie. So you found a way to get into into his life. Like through providing tons of
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  value, through associating with him, through, through you build a relationship by being listened.
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  Like, and then you showed up too, which is another important thing too. Like when, when he asked for
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  help or whatever it is, like you showed up. Exactly. And then, you know, he was friends with Johnny.
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  So I started hanging out. So with his friends. So, you know, like mine and people tend to hang out
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  with each other. So my advice is find one person that you think is doing something cool or that
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  is inspiring you, you know, in some way, shape or form. And if you know them a little bit,
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  just try and get to know them a little more. And see if you can get to know their friends.
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  Because likely they run in a circle of like minded people. And you sort of try and go down that
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  rabbit hole to open up your circle to these types of people. And you're following your energy.
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  So you're not following. It's not necessarily tactical where you're like, this person's successful.
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  I need to hang out with this person. They're making a lot of money or doing this. Like, what are the
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  people that make you feel more alive? Who are the people that give you energy and inspire you?
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  Because by surrounding yourself with inspiring people, by osmosis subconscious, you feel that you
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  can do good, great things because you see your friends doing these things and you realize, well,
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  if they did it, well, I wonder what I can do. The flip side of that is if you see people you don't
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  know do incredible things. I think your initial reaction is, oh, they're smarter than me.
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  They're better than me. That's why they're doing those things. But when you know them,
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  you're like, I hang on this person all the time. They're not that smart. They're not that great.
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  You know, I can probably do this stuff. And so the high tide rises to the both. You believe
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  that you can do great things just because you know these people. So your level of thinking subconsciously
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  rises. And that's the power of surrounding yourself with inspiring people.