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The Boring Thing about Babies with Justine Lupe · Dear Chelsea

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  Speaker 1: Okay, High and Mighty Tour, guys, is continuing. October 16th
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  Speaker 1: is Boise. Spokane is the 17th. Then San Francisco, November 7th.
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  Speaker 1: And November 13th is Salt Lake. November 20th is Austin,
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  Speaker 1: then Houston, and then Irving. November 20th, November 21st, and
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  Speaker 1: November 22nd, I will be touring Texas. December 5th is Denver.
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  Speaker 1: December 6th, I am shooting my special in Vancouver, Canada.
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  Speaker 1: I have two shows that night. There are tickets available
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  Speaker 1: for the second show. Then I'm going to Palm Beach, Florida,
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  Speaker 1: December 16th by popular demand. Then Hollywood, Florida, December 17th.
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  Speaker 1: And then two shows in Tampa, Florida on December 18th.
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  Speaker 1: So I will see you guys on the road. Come
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  Speaker 1: and see the High and Mighty Tour. I'll give you
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  Speaker 1: some LSD.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Catherine.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, Chelsea. I have a new member in our family.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, my God.
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  Speaker 1: Watch out.
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  Speaker 3: There she goes.
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  Speaker 4: Incredible.
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  Speaker 1: Dougie came over to protect her. Dougie, was that a
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  Speaker 1: protective move? I have added to my family.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone, I've given birth. Her name is Denise.
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  Speaker 2: When I saw her, I just like gasped.
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  Speaker 1: It is a live mashed potato. She is not real.
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  Speaker 1: I can't even believe it. It's like what you fantasize
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  Speaker 1: about when you're a little girl and you want a puppy.
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  Speaker 1: She is so perfect and she already fits in nicely.
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  Speaker 1: I slept for about 12 hours yesterday and guess who
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  Speaker 1: slept by my side? And then she was on my
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  Speaker 1: chest at one point. I'm like, how long is this
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  Speaker 1: going to last? I better enjoy it.
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  Speaker 2: It just like, it makes your heart swell three sizes.
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  Speaker 2: Like it's just, it's just the best when they snuggle
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  Speaker 2: with you.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my God. She's so delicious. She is an angel.
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  Speaker 5: I know.
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  Speaker 6: And she's like a nice, perfect creamy color.
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  Speaker 3: Dogs all black. They coordinate so nicely.
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  Speaker 1: I just think from all of my dogs, I must
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  Speaker 1: have good dog karma because look at this.
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  Speaker 3: Look what I'm bringing to the table. And she's very
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  Speaker 3: chill for a puppy.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 3: Well, she's chill.
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  Speaker 1: She can play or she can relax, which are two
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  Speaker 1: of my favorite qualities. You need to be able to
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  Speaker 1: get down to business and then shut the fuck up.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be in Spokane this weekend. Spokane and Boise. Boise's
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  Speaker 1: Friday night. Spokane is Saturday night.
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  Speaker 3: I'm on my last... No, no.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, she's trying to eat our computer. Yeah, she does
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  Speaker 1: try to eat some things, but that's the least.
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  Speaker 3: Of my worries.
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  Speaker 1: She can eat a book if she wants. I have
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  Speaker 1: enough books to go around.
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  Speaker 4: She's so cute.
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  Speaker 2: Now, can we just take that from I'm on my
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  Speaker 2: last leg?
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Yes. Yes. I'm on my last leg, everybody. It's a wrap.
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  Speaker 1: Come see me on tour before I film my next
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  Speaker 1: Netflix special, which I'm filming in December. I hope to
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  Speaker 1: see you in the great state of Texas if you're there.
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  Speaker 1: I hope everybody's getting ready for the midterms, no matter
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  Speaker 1: what you hear or reading about. Fucking vote. This is
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  Speaker 1: the most important election of your lifetimes. We've heard this before,
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  Speaker 1: and it just keeps getting more and more important.
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So make sure you are registered and that you go
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  Speaker 1: in person because now there are people stealing ballots out
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  Speaker 1: of mailboxes.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, and like who knows when the mail-in ballots will
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  Speaker 6: actually arrive, be counted.
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  Speaker 7: Right.
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  Speaker 1: So if you can go, please go on Election Day,
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  Speaker 1: November 3rd. And we have a special guest today. You
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  Speaker 1: know her from Mr. Mercedes, from Succession, and from Netflix
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  Speaker 1: breakout hit, Nobody Wants This, now in its third season.
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  Speaker 1: Please welcome Justine Luke. Hi, hearing you get set up
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  Speaker 1: on your Zoom is very similar to every time I
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  Speaker 1: have to get on a Zoom as well.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, it was worse before you got on. It was like,
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  Speaker 2: I just am. I don't know. I feel like I
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  Speaker 2: shouldn't be this bad by this late in the game,
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  Speaker 2: but I still am.
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  Speaker 3: So I mean, you're 37. I'm 51.
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  Speaker 1: So I have more of an excuse because I'm older.
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  Speaker 1: But you're in the exact, I don't understand.
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  Speaker 3: You're a digital native. I know, you're a digital native.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, you don't have an excuse really.
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  Speaker 1: I was also dating somebody who was 37 who also
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  Speaker 1: didn't get tech.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So I guess it must be a younger age that
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  Speaker 1: is the demarcation age of people who know how to
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  Speaker 1: do things and people who don't.
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  Speaker 2: Or it just has to do with what you do.
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  Speaker 2: Like I'm sure that all these people with, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like office jobs who have to use a computer every
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  Speaker 2: day really understand it. But I'm like barely on a computer.
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  Speaker 2: So for me, I just need help with like all
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  Speaker 2: the things. I don't use the computer that much.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you feel like we're going to be like a
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  Speaker 1: lost generation? I don't even know if we're in the
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  Speaker 1: same generation, but we're all going to get left behind.
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  Speaker 2: I'm okay with that. I'm okay with that, aren't you?
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  Speaker 2: I don't really want to be with my head suspended
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  Speaker 2: in a different place for too long. I kind of
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  Speaker 2: want to be on planet Earth. I feel like that's
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  Speaker 2: the whole problem right now is everybody's brains are just
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  Speaker 2: so tied into an imaginary place. space that it's like
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  Speaker 2: hard to get anything done here on the ground. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I've chosen massive or I should say major escapism. I
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  Speaker 1: have read more books in the last month than than
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  Speaker 1: I've ever read in my life in that short a
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  Speaker 1: period of time because I refuse to spend time reading
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  Speaker 1: about what's happening. There's nothing I can do. So I've
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  Speaker 1: decided to disengage and putting my phone away and reading
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  Speaker 1: books reminds me of what it's like to be a kid,
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  Speaker 1: like the escapism. I know you're reading The Correspondent.
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  Speaker 3: I read that. That was a great fucking book. I
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  Speaker 3: loved it. I read that in like two days. I
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  Speaker 3: love that. I love the whole framework.
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  Speaker 1: I like an older woman who's an interloper getting involved
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  Speaker 1: in other people's business.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 1: That's exactly how I am. I like how nosy she was.
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  Speaker 1: I like how fucking organized she was. And I like
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  Speaker 1: that she had relationships with people of all different kind
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  Speaker 1: of like walks of life.
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  Speaker 3: I thought that was good.
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  Speaker 2: Good. I did, too. And I like that you could understand, like,
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  Speaker 2: why this person would be, like, insufferable to a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people. Yes. And, like, why her daughter hates her or, like, feels, like,
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  Speaker 2: so estranged. And yet, like, because you're, like, in her perspective,
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  Speaker 2: you really have some empathy and sympathy and you understand, like,
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  Speaker 2: kind of the loneliness that she's stuck in and the
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  Speaker 2: trauma that has brought her there. I just thought it was, like,
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  Speaker 2: really good. Really fun to read, really easy to go through,
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  Speaker 2: and also kind of, like, heartbreaking, you know. Like, it's just, like,
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  Speaker 2: horrible to, like, wrap your mind around, like, what this
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  Speaker 2: poor woman went through with her son. And I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I just thought it was, like, such a sweet little
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  Speaker 2: portrait of life, like a woman who's lived her life. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And also a love story, a late in life love story.
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  Speaker 1: I really appreciate because I think, I think the older we,
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  Speaker 1: I know you just got married, but well, not just,
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  Speaker 1: but this year, right?
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  Speaker 3: You got married?
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  Speaker 2: Last, not this last February, but the February before. So
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  Speaker 2: it's fresh.
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Congratulations.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't a, I thought it was a shotgun wedding,
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  Speaker 1: but then I realized you had your baby there and
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  Speaker 1: your dog at the wedding.
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  Speaker 3: So what is that called?
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  Speaker 2: It was like, it really could have been a shotgun wedding.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I didn't have my parents there. I had
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  Speaker 2: no relatives there. It was what we call like a
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  Speaker 2: cheap wedding. Like I just kind of wanted to like
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  Speaker 2: get him on my health insurance. And so.
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  Speaker 3: It's the opposite of your wedding in succession, basically.
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  Speaker 4: Totally.
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  Speaker 1: When I was doing research on you, I looked up there.
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  Speaker 1: I can't find it, of course, now on my iPad.
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  Speaker 1: I was just looking for it. But the description of
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  Speaker 1: your character in succession is so funny.
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  Speaker 3: It's like. She plays a woman who is not there
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  Speaker 3: for traditional reasons.
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  Speaker 2: That's a really generous way of describing her.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I thought. I'm like, let's catapult into the
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  Speaker 1: future and identify what this is called because there's definitely
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  Speaker 1: a word for it.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a work-for-hire situation.
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  Speaker 3: A work-for-hire. How did your family react to not being
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  Speaker 3: invited to your wedding? Were they upset?
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  Speaker 2: They were totally sweet about it. They knew the kind
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  Speaker 2: of you know, like you're constantly, I'm constantly dressed up.
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  Speaker 2: I'm constantly like playing like people who have to wear
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  Speaker 2: like a lot of hair and makeup and there's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of pomp and circumstance. So like for us, it
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  Speaker 2: was just, we already had a baby and it was
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  Speaker 2: just like, let's go down to the courthouse, like take
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  Speaker 2: care of this, like very cheaply. I'm sure my parents
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  Speaker 2: like loved that because they didn't have to put a
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  Speaker 2: dime into the whole thing. And then we just went
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  Speaker 2: out to dinner with a bunch of friends. So it
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  Speaker 2: was so casual that I don't feel like they felt
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  Speaker 2: like they were missing out I feel like they actually
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  Speaker 2: would have had more of a problem with like a
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  Speaker 2: big like massive wedding I mean my brother's going through
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  Speaker 2: that right now and I feel like that feels like
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  Speaker 2: way more out of their comfort zone than like what
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  Speaker 2: we did which was just like let's just like take
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  Speaker 2: care of this on a on a Wednesday you know Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I like that.
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  Speaker 1: I like that transactional, even though it's not trans, it
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  Speaker 1: is transactional slightly, but I guess every wedding is kind
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  Speaker 1: of transactional, but I would also, I would, I'm with you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't need any more celebrations about myself. Like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm with you on that front.
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  Speaker 2: I understand why women who don't have those days to
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  Speaker 2: like really feel like the princess, like want that moment.
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  Speaker 2: And I just don't have that desire at this point.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 7: Right.
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  Speaker 3: I'm with you.
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  Speaker 1: Speaking of desires, I want to talk about some of
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  Speaker 1: your co-stars and who you have. The three I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to mention, I want you to choose who you had
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  Speaker 1: the biggest crush on before you worked with them. And
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  Speaker 1: then also who you have the biggest crush on after
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  Speaker 1: working with them, if any.
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  Speaker 3: So it's between, I guess, Adam Brody. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So he's on your current show with you. Alan Ruck
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  Speaker 1: or Kathy Bates.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so by far, I had the biggest crush on
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  Speaker 2: Adam just because he was like, he was like injected
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  Speaker 2: into my veins when I was like 15. So I
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  Speaker 2: was like a very aware of him in the time
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  Speaker 2: where that was like the thing, like boy crazy obsession.
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  Speaker 3: I could just tell by the way you touched your
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  Speaker 3: hair that that.
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  Speaker 4: you back.
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  Speaker 1: It brought you back to those days.
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  Speaker 3: I see you.
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  Speaker 2: And weirdly, I didn't even watch The O.C.
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  Speaker 4: Regularly.
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  Speaker 2: I just, like, knew about him as, like, a star.
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  Speaker 3: Totally.
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  Speaker 2: He's, like, exactly, like, my vibe. Like, I just think he's, like,
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  Speaker 2: got that kind of, like, boyishness that, I mean, if
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  Speaker 2: you look at my husband, you can see, like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: she likes that kind of guy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Right, right, right. And then I'd say afterwards, I'm deeply, like,
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  Speaker 2: in a platonic relationship with Adam. I just feel like he's, like,
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  Speaker 2: brotherly energy now that we work together. And he's, like,
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  Speaker 2: just there's such proximity to him. I would have to go.
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  Speaker 2: With Alan, maybe because Kathy just felt like this intimidating
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  Speaker 2: presence who was like so wildly talented and like such
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  Speaker 2: a like an icon. And so like, I guess I
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  Speaker 2: just knew I knew her work so well, but I
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  Speaker 2: never really felt like I got close to her. And
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  Speaker 2: for me, intimacy is like something that I really need
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  Speaker 2: to get like a crush on someone unless it's just
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  Speaker 2: based on like pure attraction like I was with Adam.
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  Speaker 2: So I would say Alan, I feel like after working
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  Speaker 2: with him, I have a little bit of a I
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  Speaker 2: would I would say he's the most crushable to me
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  Speaker 2: just because we became like very, very close friends. And
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  Speaker 2: and and he's so charming. And he's I have like
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  Speaker 2: such a talent crush on him. I think he's like
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  Speaker 2: makes the hardest stuff seem so easy. And he's kind
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  Speaker 2: of he's just like because he's kind of had this like.
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  Speaker 2: the blue collar version of a celebrity lifestyle, I guess,
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  Speaker 2: like kind of just like working without like being this
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  Speaker 2: like movie star guy. He's just like super grounded and
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  Speaker 2: really normal and totally, I just really, I just love
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  Speaker 2: being around him. He's great.
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  Speaker 3: That's nice. That's a nice compliment.
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  Speaker 1: What was it like going from a show like Succession
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  Speaker 1: to Nobody Wants This?
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  Speaker 2: It was a very different kind of joy. I think
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  Speaker 2: also like both of them are tied to different parts
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  Speaker 2: of my like times in my life succession. I was
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  Speaker 2: in my 20s when I started and I ended at
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  Speaker 2: like 32, I think, or 33. And and I was
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  Speaker 2: like kind of virtually single through that time. I had
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  Speaker 2: like a boyfriend, but I didn't have a kid. And
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  Speaker 2: I like wasn't my boyfriend. It wasn't like like a
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  Speaker 2: thing where I felt like I couldn't just like go
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  Speaker 2: out and party and have fun. And so that cast
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  Speaker 2: like we would be in croatia and we'd be in
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  Speaker 2: italy and we'd be like jumping off of boats and
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  Speaker 2: going swimming and then going out to dinner and it
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  Speaker 2: was like the best material i'd ever worked on just
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  Speaker 2: like really incredible writing with like really incredible actors where
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  Speaker 2: i got to like stand back and just watch like
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  Speaker 2: these kind of like powerhouse murderers row of actors just
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  Speaker 2: like do the most remarkable work and then moving to
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  Speaker 2: um nobody wants this i feel like the joy has
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  Speaker 2: been that i get to like be on a um
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  Speaker 2: a show that's got like levity and fun. And then
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  Speaker 2: I'm working in LA and I get to like go
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  Speaker 2: home to my baby and my husband and like be
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  Speaker 2: done by like five or six and have like a
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  Speaker 2: life that feels like it is normal to some degree.
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  Speaker 2: I think Kristen like really protects the fact that like
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  Speaker 2: everybody gets to have a life and not have to
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  Speaker 2: be there for like 16 hour days. So It's just
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  Speaker 2: like really been a gift to be able to like
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  Speaker 2: drive home in 12 minutes and go to bed like
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  Speaker 2: next to my husband and not be like on the
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  Speaker 2: other side of the world working till like one in
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  Speaker 2: the morning, you know?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like you got those jobs at the
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  Speaker 1: perfect time, both of those jobs at the perfect times
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  Speaker 1: in your life for those jobs.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. That's how I feel too.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really lucky.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so you have a baby. Let's talk about parenting.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about the highs and lows of parenting. What
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  Speaker 1: would you say is the most boring aspect of parenting?
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  Speaker 2: I think the most boring.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not one that, like, loves sitting around. So, like,
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  Speaker 2: when we're just, like, home and she's just kind of, like,
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  Speaker 2: we're just trying to keep the ball in the air, like.
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  Speaker 2: It's pretty bad. It's, like, it's just deeply boring. And
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  Speaker 2: I'd say part of, like, the other side of the
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  Speaker 2: boring coin is kind of speaks to what you were
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  Speaker 2: talking about. It's, like, it's a great escapism because you're just, like,
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  Speaker 2: putting your brain into things that, like, kids put their
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  Speaker 2: brain into.
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  Speaker 3: So, like.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to like a music class and I'm just
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  Speaker 2: like listening to like lively music and watching like children
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  Speaker 2: like clap and dance. And I'm like reading a children's
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  Speaker 2: story and I'm going to a playground and like putting
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  Speaker 2: my head into like that kind of, it's just like
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  Speaker 2: a very sweet spot to put your brain into like
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  Speaker 2: in a very dark time. And that's kind of like
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  Speaker 2: a reprieve that I'm finding. And it was like, it
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  Speaker 2: was kind of a surprising, a surprising thing that I
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  Speaker 2: found where I was like, oh, okay, this is like,
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  Speaker 2: is not necessarily like where I wouldn't be putting my time,
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  Speaker 2: but like, I love that, that these things have such
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  Speaker 2: like gentleness and like sweetness to them. And I get
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  Speaker 2: to like put my brain here a lot of the time,
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  Speaker 2: you know?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It's, it's fun to see kids brains light up too.
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  Speaker 1: And like watch their development process in those environments, especially
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: when there's multiple children, it feeds your soul in the
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: right way. Not that I'm at those classes very often, but.
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: It's like such a small moment, but it bores the
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: fuck out of me. And I just hate it is
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: like the process of getting out the door and like
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: putting her into a car and putting on her shoes
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: and like getting all the shit that you need to
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: get to get out the door. Like I'm such a
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: type B person as a person. And so like trying
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: to like get all the things that you could think
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: of to put in a bag to bring with you
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: every time you go out and like Getting her prepared.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: And then, like, something about putting a baby in a
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: car seat is just, like, the worst. Like, I don't
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: know why it, like, bothers me so much. But it's just, like,
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: such a bore and so lame. And, like, all the
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: little clicking things and the arranging around her body. And, like,
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: it just is laborious and probably, like, my least favorite.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: favorite part of being a parent, truly.
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: Whenever I'm skiing, I ski a lot in the winter.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Whenever I'm skiing and I see a two or three
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: year old on the slopes wrapped up in all that
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: fucking shit that they have to put, they have to
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: put baby ski boots.
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: It's hard to get a ski boot.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: On if you're an adult and you have control and
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: mobility over your body. Imagine putting ski boots on a
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: baby and then wrapping them up in like three layers
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: of clothing and then carrying their little two by four
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: skis around And I mean, every time I see parents
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: skiing with their kids, I'm like, you're a fucking hero.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: I'm like, why? Like, don't do it. Just like, just wait.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: Don't do that.
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: Just like, why?
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: I mean, even like we've gone on a couple trips
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: and I'm like, we are not doing this unless it's
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: absolutely necessary. I'm like never doing this again. It's just
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: not worth it. Like this whole, like getting things ready
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: and packing them up and putting things on and taking
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: everything out and putting it. It's just like, I just
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: decided it's a no for me. Like, unless it's like 100%
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: we're doing it. Like vacations are just like, we're not
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: doing it for a while. I'm not interested. I'm not
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: interested in all the stuff that you described. Yeah.
• 17:18
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: I hear you. I hear you. Definitely.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: So you based your character on Sarah, right? Aaron created
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: the show, and it's based on Sarah. Did you do
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Sarah watching research? I think I heard you talking about
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: that once.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: I did.
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: Sarah Foster and Aaron Foster, the Foster sisters, for people listening.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I kind of, to say that it's
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: based off of Sarah, I feel like she's offended by that,
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: and I understand. I kind of, like, used her as, like,
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: a light approximation. Like, she's definitely... I like kind of
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: dug into their podcast. I listen, I've listened to every
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: single episode since I was cast and kind of like
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: went on a deep dive before that, just because I
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: knew it was semi-autobiographical and I was like, oh, I
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: can get some of the essence of who this person is.
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: I think Morgan is like less, she's a little bit
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: more sloppy than Sarah. Like, you know, Sarah, like Sarah's
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: like this kind of specimen. Like it's just like insane
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: what's happening with her. And I remember also I was
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: growing pregnant on the show while I was shooting it.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: I just remember being like, well, my body has left
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: the doc. The Sarah Foster doc is back there and
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: my body is on a different plane. And I kind
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: of feel like that's the case with everything about her.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: She just feels so presentable. And Morgan's got a little
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: bit of me, a little bit more me in there,
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: which is just a little bit more like loose and
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: a little bit more, I would just say sloppy, you know,
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: like a mess. She's a little bit more messy.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: To clarify, Sarah is a mess.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: She looks beautiful and she is gorgeous. And like you
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: look at her and she's like, it is really a
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: sight to behold. But she's also a hot mess.
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: I mean, she DM'd me.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: This is so funny because my trainer just was talking
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: about her yesterday morning. He goes, Sarah texts me every
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: week and is like, are we going to train this week?
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: And he goes, I go, yeah, whatever days you want.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: He goes, and then I never hear from her again.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: And I go, that's so funny. She DM'd me or
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: texted me like weeks ago going, would you ever do
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: my podcast?
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: I go, absolutely. Absolutely. Of course.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: I don't hear from her for three weeks. And then
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: she DMs me and goes, what about my podcast? I go,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: I already said, I'll do it.
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: And I said, here's my assistant. I go, I'm not
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: pawning you off. Like I follow through on shit.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Like I'm very regimented about making sure I follow through,
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: especially in this town. And then I saw them at
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: the Netflix. I'm like, you're a hot mess. I'm like,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: you asked me, like, I wouldn't do it.
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: I said, I'd do it. And I've never heard from
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: you since. She's like, what?
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: I've heard this and her texting that it's just like
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: the least consistent, just like drops off. I have friends
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: like that. And I, so I know what you're talking about.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: I guess I just don't know her too well interpersonally.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: So I'm just like seeing the like version of her
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: that is like presentable, you know, like we don't really.
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: Right, right.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: Well, but that track, I like, I like. That's good
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: to know. Maybe there's more of a similarity between the
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: characters than I know.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can pick that habit up for your character.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: You wrote an article about the best way to spend
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: time or to spend a Sunday in LA.
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: So I want to talk about that.
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: And what are the things in LA that everyone's doing
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: that you would never do? And I think we have
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: some insight to that from your talk about leaving the
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: house with your child.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: Strapping a baby in the car.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: But there's a lot of things like I, because I
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: struggle with LA a little bit in terms of atmosphere
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: like I feel like it's a little bit soulless and
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: it's like you really have to make things happen here
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: when you're in New York it's literally no problem wherever
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: you go has character or soul most of the time
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: I find but in LA I find it to be
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: a little bit like stunting I'm always like uh where
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: do you live I live in Brentwood which is part
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: of the problem yeah but now I can't leave because
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I just built this house so I'm stuck here for
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: a while.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's beautiful. It's beautiful. But I do feel
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: like I'm on east, east, east side of things, which
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: I do feel like has a little bit just a
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: tiny bit more of that on the table.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: Maybe, you know.
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: But yes, I understand the feeling for sure. I think
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: that's why I've like gone further and further and further
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: away from like L.A. proper, I guess I would say.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: Yesterday I went to pick up. This is a great
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: example of L.A., I went to go pick up my girlfriend.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I had sets last night at like the comedy store
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: and the improv. And I went to pick up my
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: girlfriend for early because we were going to dinner. She
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: lives in Mar Vista. It took me, and I live
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: in Brentwood. It's a 20 minute drive. It took me
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: one hour and 15 minutes. So I'm on the 10
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: and there's some nonsense happening, some accident or no, they
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: close off the freeway because it gets too packed. So
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: they close it off to create more. And so I
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: just give up. Like I'm laughing. I'm like, well, we'll
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: probably won't make.
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: It to dinner.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: We'll make it to my sets. And then I was like,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: let me do a social experiment. I was like, there's
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: like men on the shoulder. There's cars all over the
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: shoulder and people trying to get in because there was
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: a car stopped on the shoulder.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: So it was misleading.
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: And then people are trying to get back in. And
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: I'm like, none of us are going anywhere. This is
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: a parking lot. I'm going to let people come in.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: What else do I, who cares? Let's spread good vibrations.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: So I waved to a man and I was like,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: do you want to go in?
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: And he's like, what, what?
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, come on in, go in, go in
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: front of me. And he goes in, no thank you.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: Just goes in, nothing, nothing. I do it to another
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: guy and no thank you, gets in front of me.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: A third guy, I go, okay, third time's a charm.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Let's see if this guy says fucking thank you. He
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: gets in front of me and doesn't say thank you.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: I go, okay, that's enough with the men. So I
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: look around for a woman. I look around for a
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: woman and I'm like, I see a woman. I'm like, hey,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: do you want to get in front of me at
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: this point? The guy behind me is like, fucking stop
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: letting people in front of you.
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: But I was like, you know, none of us are
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: going to do it.
• 22:56
  Speaker 5: I know.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: I was like, let's try it. Make this fun. And anyway,
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: and then the woman's like, thank you so much. And
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: I was like, oh, God. I mean, it's unreal.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: It's just a wave.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: It's just unreal. He didn't say thank you.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: But when my friends were asking, we were away, and
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: my friends were asking what the biggest, they were asking
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: my assistant what the biggest acclimation to L.A.
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: Was.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: And he was like, traffic. Traffic.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, yeah, because we're so used
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: to it that you don't even think about it.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: But it's absolutely absurd. It's just so.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: It's bad. It's bad to the point where I'm like,
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: I'm like scrambling because, you know, all the doctors are
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: in Beverly Hills and I'm all the way in Eagle Rock.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, just I'm like, I guess like the
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: great experiment of my life or the great thing that
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: I'm like, like the constant question is like, who are there?
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: Is there anyone else? Like, is there any other way?
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: I just like don't want to drive over there anymore. Yeah.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Like I'm so done with the like cross track, like
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: cross town trek to go see doctors, especially like when
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: I was pregnant and you're at the last like stretch
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: and you have to go back like every single day
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: at the very end. And I was just like, this
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: is torture. Like just being like a pregnant woman in
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: a car, like for two hours every day, at least
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: two hours, like an hour there, an hour back just
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: to get to a doctor's office. Like this is so dumb.
• 24:13
  Speaker 7: I hate it.
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: I know.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: It's so funny that they don't have doctor's office spread
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: out throughout the city.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: Not really.
• 24:17
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: I should actually just move into a medical building. That
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: would make my life a lot easier.
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: You're pretty close, right? And I'm not even pregnant.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: You're pretty close.
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: I am close. I am close. In the daytime, it's easy.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: But at nighttime, if I have dinner, tonight I have
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: a dinner at 7.30 and I have an appointment at
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: 4.30 and I'm like, why better just.
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: Stay on that side of town?
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, really.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Because it's going to be a hot mess. But what
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: are your favorite things to do in LA? Like talk
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: more about that. What are some of like the highlights
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: that you would make sure you do when you have
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: somebody in town or recommend to people?
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say Olympic spa. is one of my
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: favorite places. I love like a full day at Olympic Spa,
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: just like basically just soaking, getting my body scrubbed, feeling
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: like I'm just like being manhandled by the masseuses. I
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: don't know if you've ever been to like a Korean
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: spa experience, but it's just like amazing. They like kind
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: of just like flip you around and scrub you and
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: like you don't, you feel like a piece of me
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: and it's kind of like this like amazing experience and
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: it feels like so singularly LA.
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: I feel like.
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: Food. There's really good food. I feel like there's good
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: sushi here. So I would like if you're into sushi,
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: maybe do some like sushi in Studio City. I mean,
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: it's so hard now because I'm I'm like all the
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: things that I used to do, like I don't do
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: as much anymore, like go to movies and go on
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: walks and go on like hikes and stuff. I like
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: it's just not. As like now my whole life is
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: like we're going to the library on Tuesdays and Thursdays
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: for this like singing class or we're going to like
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: kids space, which is like an amazing children's museum or
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: we're going to, you know, like in the free time
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: that I have, we do so much her and I
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: together that it's hard. There's amazing museums in L.A. I
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: would say like. LACMA is pretty stellar. The Getty is amazing.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: I feel like it's some of the best art in
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: the country is in LA.
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: So that would be- Have you been to the Broad? Yes,
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: I have been to the Broad. I love it.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: I love that.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: And Hammer is great.
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: It's funny that some of the things that people talk
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: about in LA are some of the most ridiculous activities,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: like some of the tentpole things.
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: What do you think of?
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking of like the Magic Castle and the tarp
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: and like the Brea Tar Pits. Like People do these
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: things when they come here and you're like, what are
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: you doing?
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: Like people talk, there are people that take, is it,
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: what's it called? Medieval castle?
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Magic castle.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Matt, people talk about that.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, I remember being 19 years old when I
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: moved to LA and someone taking me there. And me
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: just seeing like the decor and I was like, no,
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: this is not happening at all.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: No, I'd heard about it for years and years and years.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Everybody talks about it. It's like, and also they make
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: it seem like it's like this like really special place.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: You've got to get like a connection to get in
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: to go there. And then I went there one time
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: and I thought it was going to be like, I
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: treated like four people. I was like, let's go. Like,
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: this is going to be amazing. Like it's the magic castle.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: And I went there. And it's, like, all, like, icky feeling. Like,
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: everything feels like it's sticky. Like a magician. A magician
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: during the daytime. That's what that place feels like. And
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: it's not even, like, I mean, our time that we went,
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I just remember being, like, this is, like, I love magic.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: I actually am, like, into magic. I've had.
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: Oh, I'm sorry to hear that.
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: I'm a nerd. I... But like good magic. I'm like, great.
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: I'm in like I love a good magic show. I
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: thought that was like kind of mediocre pedestrian magic that
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: was kind of like, what are we doing? We spent
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: this much money and then we have to sit in
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: this like kind of gross restaurant and eat pretty bad food. Like,
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: it was just a weird experience for me. And I
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: feel like the people that I went with had fun
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: because they just, like, got drunk. Like, they just, like,
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: got drunk enough that they were like, this is a blackout.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: Alcohol is a heavy component there. You have to get
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: drunk at that place. Do you like magicians? Like, do
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: you like David Copperfield and, like, those types of people?
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: I like a.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: David Blaine kind of guy.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: The ones that just do like the crazy like street
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: magic where you're like, what the fuck? How did you
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: even do that? I do. I do kind of like
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: that kind of magic. I'm not as into like the
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: grandiose like I like street magic more than I like
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: the like, it's a magic show.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: You know, I like that phrase or the term street magic.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess I haven't really realized.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know if it's an official. I
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: just made that. I just I just said it. But
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: you know what I'm talking about where it's like. They
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: just it's like it's like they're like kind of casual
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: guys that are just like want to see something crazy.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: And it's like less of like the whole like magician.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: OK, copy that.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: How do you feel about Universal Studios and Disney World
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: or Land?
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: Are we in Land? We're in Land.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: Love for kids. Loved it as a kid. not into
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: it as an adult. I think I would like, I
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: I'm waiting for the day that I get to bring
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: my daughter there just to see her excitement around it.
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: But when I've gone as an adult by myself, it
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: does not do it for me. It's too much of
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: a production. I feel like I just like, I'm so
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: tired by like hour three. So that's my, that's my
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: hot take. I have, I have a friend who literally
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: like his idea of a good time is, is to
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: like go there every weekend and like go on a walk,
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: like just go on a walk. Like he has one
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: of those passes and he's like, it's the best place
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: to go on a walk and like just loves Disneyland.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, wow, that's not for me. Do you
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: like it? No, no.
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: And I also, as a child, did it. appreciate it either.
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: Oh, really?
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: As a child, I loved it. I remember my parents,
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: I think I was maybe five, and we drove. I
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: remember them loading me into the car in the middle
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: of the night with a bunch of pillows and my
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: little brother, and they drove from Denver to LA and
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: we like stayed at Disneyland and we did the whole thing.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: And I still remember just like being like, this is
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: the most amazing place. Like I remember the Peter Pan ride.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: I remember Pirates of the Caribbean. Like I really, it
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: made an impact on me as like a kid. So
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: I was also just obsessed with Disney when I was
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: little though. So maybe that was part of it.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think we all are obsessed with Disney
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: as a kid. That's what we grow up on. Everything
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: is Disney adjacent or related, right?
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 30:32
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I mean, a lot of stuff.
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: I remember just going and being like, what?
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: I just remember being disgusted by it.
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: What a shithole.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: Just a shit show. I just thought, what a shit show.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: You know what I thought? I thought, what a racket.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: No, it is that.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: And then I also had the thought, and I remember
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: because it was a very older person's thought, but I'm
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: the youngest of six kids, so I was older before
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: I was older.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: I remember thinking, this dynamic is off. That's what I remember.
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: I remember thinking.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: So tell me about working with Kristen and tell me,
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: has her biohacking rubbed off on you?
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: All her biohacking?
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: I know. Not really. I know. No, it hasn't really
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: rubbed off on me. I like I think prior to
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: meeting her, I already liked a cold plunge sauna situation.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: So like that is kind of where it begins and
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: ends with me. Like the glucose monitor. I had like
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: a curiosity about it, but I like it was like
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: another one of those technology things where it's like all
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: the steps that you have to take to like get
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: this program and get it set up and get the
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: like the right setting where it's not for diabetes. It's
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: just a glucose thing.
• 31:42
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: It just felt hard for me. Again, technology.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Do you wear an aura ring?
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: No.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Uh-uh.
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: You?
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: No, but I had a guy I was dating give
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: me one Oura ring as he brought it for me.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: And I gave it straight to Yamanika, my friend. I
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: was like, here's an Oura ring. I don't like obsessive behavior.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: My brain, it doesn't go well with checking stats or
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: sleep scores or how many steps. I mean, steps are
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: fun once in a while. If I'm in the city,
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, how many steps? Or if I'm
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Walking a lot.
• 32:14
  Speaker 8: Okay.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: That's fun to look at, but I know the way
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: I get and I become consumed. So it's better to
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: disengage from too much information for me.
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: Like I don't like the data. Yeah.
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: Cause you could go there. You can go there and
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: you're like, I don't want to go there. I don't
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: want to be that, that gal.
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I have other things to do. You know
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: what I mean? Like, I don't want to spend my
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: time doing that.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: I already feel like I've been robbed of some of
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: my intelligence from social media and our reliance on that.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: So I'm like really trying to take the power back.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: But yes, I don't like monitoring sleep. I don't like,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: you know, I don't, first of all, I don't want
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: to hear about anyone's sleep score, to be clear.
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: Like, I'm not interested.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: That's great for you to monitor, but it becomes a
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: like competition with yourself.
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: How much did I sleep? I didn't sleep.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: And what are you going to fucking do about it anyway?
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: I guess alter your behavior, but I'm not really going
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: to alter any behaviors.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: I imagine for me, it would, I would like, it
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: would create a little bit of like anxiety around like
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: what I need to do to create the best environment
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: to get the sleep.
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: It's just never gotten, it's never been something that I'm like, uh,
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: that interested. I think I'm interested in things that feel good.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: So like, I like the cold plunge sauna thing. I like,
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: I mean, I like eating healthy because I just feel
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: better when I eat healthy. So like there's like things
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: that I do that are just like smart, but I
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: wouldn't call them like biohacking. I'm not into the peptide
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: thing yet.
• 33:39
  Speaker 6: Didn't you play like a bit of a biohacking based
• 33:41
  Speaker 6: prank on Kristen at some point?
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: So she's like because she's so obsessed with biohacking and
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: she does like every single thing. Like she's done the peptides.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: She's done the like the glucose monitor. She's done She's
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: like obsessed with the cold plunge, the sauna, the I mean,
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: it's like anything that's like kind of on the table
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: she's interested in. So I was like, oh, what would
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: be like a funny, fun thing like that kind of
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: feels like one step away from like reality that someone
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: could do. And so like I spent like three months
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: convincing her that I was drinking my own urine as
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: a bit. Just because it was fun for me to
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: see how much she would buy in and how she
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: would respond. I never thought she would actually drink her
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: own pee, but I was like, how curious can I
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: get her about the benefits of this made-up thing? And
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: I created fake articles about it.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: And.
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: I didn't know that part. I didn't know you created
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: fake articles.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: I would like call a PA and like the PAs
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: were all in on it. And like, like pretty much
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: everybody was in on it but her, but I would
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: call a PA and be like, hey, can you grab
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: my water bottle from my trailer? And like full disclosure,
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: like I do feel like I should tell you if
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: you don't feel comfortable, there is like my own pee
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: in there. So like, if you don't want to bring
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: it to me, like I really understand. And she would like,
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: she'd be hearing all this. And so there was like
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: a whole like bit about it. And then it ended
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: with me bringing her six like large jars of chamomile
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: tea that I told her was like my best pee
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: that I had gotten ready for her. It was like
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: so dumb. The whole thing was so dumb, but I
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: was just like, this is fun. And it's, I don't know.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: It was, it was, it was the only long game
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: prank I've ever played. And it was like a pretty
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: satisfying one.
• 35:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: That's a good one.
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: That's fun. That's fun when you're on a set and
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: you can do stuff like that. That reminds me of, yeah.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: I like that kind of nonsense.
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's like it sounds like you're like, wow,
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: you're a really committed actress that this is what you're
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: spending your time on set doing. But it was fun.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: It was fun. And it's like a relaxed environment. So
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: it lent itself to stupid stuff.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds like an ideal situation and an ideal
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: job at the exact right time in your life.
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: Did you have a difficult pregnancy, by the way, or
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: was it easy?
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: The first trimester was really exhausting. I didn't have any nausea,
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: but I just felt like I had like what I
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: imagined mono was like. I just pretty much like canceled
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: everything and just like was flatlined for the whole thing.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: And I luckily I wasn't working during that trimester. The
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: second trimester was amazing. And I did like the whole
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: first season during my second trimester, which was like the
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: best because you just have this like kind of like
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: renaissance after that terrible three months and you just feel great.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: And you're like, I kind of feel like, I don't know.
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: I just really enjoyed that time. And then the end
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: of it, uh, is psychologically like for me, my body
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: felt okay with like a few exceptions of like some
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: sciatica that was like pretty crippling. Um, but by the
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: end of it, I was just like, I was just
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: so ready to get the baby out of me. Like
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: I was loose. I think that was like the hardest part.
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: stretch for me and my husband like I was just
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: like a miserable person and that was like crying all
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: the time just being like I'm done I'm over it's
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: over for me I'm like we've got to it's got
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: to happen now do.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: You remember what your first drink was after you or
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: do you drink.
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: Uh I I do like a little bit I I
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: come from like a family of alcoholics so I try
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: not to drink much.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: Wonderful I'm actually a first generation alcoholic in my family.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: So I'm taking the tour. I'm creating a new lineage.
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: Thank you. It's the final frontier or the first frontier.
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: I'm not sure.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Um, yeah, my parents didn't drink at all, but we
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: all drink except for my one sister.
• 37:35
  Speaker 3: She pretends to drink. She can't really handle it.
• 37:37
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: You all drink and they didn't at all.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: No, they didn't drink anything. I mean, my dad once
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: in a while, uh, But it's so, yeah, it's so funny.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: Like people are like, oh, they assume our parents were
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: just heavy drinkers because we all like to party.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: And we're like, no.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: We were so bored in our childhood. We're like, let's
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: get the party started. When is the party start? Like
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: it was always just boring. I kind of, I know
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: I not to be, it's silly to be envious of
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: people who grew up with parents that were alcoholics. But
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: when every book, I don't know, have you ever read
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: Lily King? This author, Lily King, writers and lovers. Like
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: all of her books always have the, I'm reading one
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: of her books right now, Father of the Rain. And
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: all of her backdrops, somebody's an alcoholic because obviously she
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: grew up like that. And I'm, I just think it's so,
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: it's colorful to read about much more than I'm sure
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: to live it.
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: But as a reader, I'm always like, this sounds fun
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: and juicy.
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: Not, not as fun. Not as fun. But I mean,
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: even myself, I find when I was listening to, um,
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: I was just listening to a song by Casey Musgraves
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: and Zach Bryan or whatever his name is, this huge
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: country singer. It's about these two lovers that are wasted
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: all the time. They're wasted all the time and they're
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: talking about how they would just get drunk and you
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: only smile like that when you're drinking. And I was
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: just like, this is so hot.
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: Like, this dynamic.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: I was like, I want to write a movie. I
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: want to be in a movie about this story. But
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: the reality of it is just, like, far more, like, just, like,
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: kind of, like, ugh, God. It's not that. It's not it. So, yeah, I, like,
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: I honestly, I don't remember what I drank after. I
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: also drank a little bit during my pregnancy. I would
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: have like a glass of wine here and there. And
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: I just like because it wasn't an issue for me,
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: I was just kind of like a little bit more
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: relaxed about it. I read a really great book by
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: Emily Oster, who's this like incredible. She like basically is
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: does like incredible research on pregnancy and and prenatal health
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: and all that stuff. And she was basically like one
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: glass of wine is fine. One glass of coffee is fine.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: One is like. Pie and sushi, a little bit of
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: that is fine.
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: One glass of anything is fine, pretty much.
• 39:57
  Speaker 7: True, right?
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, what's going to happen? Unless, I guess, maybe
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: not fentanyl or something like that.
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: But you can't really. That's not really a glass anyway.
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: One little hit of the crack, it's fine. One needle
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: is fine. Yeah, one glass crack pipe.
• 40:11
  Speaker 4: One syringe full.
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: Okay, we're going to take callers, Justine, and we're going
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: to give advice, okay?
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, great.
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: These are real people. Is the first one a caller?
• 40:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: Okay, great. Yeah, we're going to start with callers.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: Awesome.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: Let's hit it. Okay.
• 40:30
  Speaker 6: Okay, so let's start with Demetrius.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: Demetrius? Demetrius. Is that short for Demetriosis?
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: I think so. He is a fun one.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: So he says, Dear Chelsea. My name is Demetrios. Quick recap.
• 40:43
  Speaker 6: I was born and raised in Greece, moved to Dubai
• 40:45
  Speaker 6: and traveled with work globally for seven years, fell in
• 40:48
  Speaker 6: love in San Fran, quit my Dubai job, moved to NYC,
• 40:52
  Speaker 6: won the green card lottery and cut to today. I've
• 40:54
  Speaker 6: been living in West LA the past five years, pursuing
• 40:57
  Speaker 6: my acting and standup career. As I focus on my
• 41:00
  Speaker 6: personal growth, I always feel like my dating life in
• 41:02
  Speaker 6: LA is imaginary. Dating is terrible in LA. And on
• 41:05
  Speaker 6: top of that, it's harder to date when I work
• 41:07
  Speaker 6: in hospitality, weird hours and weird days off.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: Also, I'm not the king of England.
• 41:12
  Speaker 6: I'm barely middle class in Greece, but I guess due
• 41:14
  Speaker 6: to traveling in every continent and tasting culture, I'm well-rounded,
• 41:18
  Speaker 6: question mark, but most of the times the people I
• 41:20
  Speaker 6: meet at my workplace or the people I come across always.
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: Seem a bit unpolished.
• 41:25
  Speaker 6: I've been trying to make friendships in LA, but I
• 41:27
  Speaker 6: find it difficult because I've lived like a celebrity without
• 41:30
  Speaker 6: the fame, so it's hard to meet someone cosmopolitan the
• 41:32
  Speaker 6: way I live right now, but I can't dumb down
• 41:34
  Speaker 6: my taste. Also, I'm comfortable alone, but I just believe
• 41:37
  Speaker 6: that life is better shared. Chelsea has been one of
• 41:40
  Speaker 6: the three to four influences in my life that made
• 41:42
  Speaker 6: me want to chase my wildest dreams, leave everything. I
• 41:45
  Speaker 6: lived in Manhattan for five years and was loving it.
• 41:47
  Speaker 6: The pace, the people, I made friends easily. I haven't
• 41:50
  Speaker 6: yet liked LA. I haven't met genuine, nice, and cool people.
• 41:53
  Speaker 6: Sad to say. Any advice, ladies? Kisses, Demetrius.
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: Oh, hi, Demetrius. This is our special guest. Justine Loop
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: is here.
• 42:02
  Speaker 4: Hi.
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: Oh, hi.
• 42:03
  Speaker 4: Nice to meet you. I'm very nervous I'm sorry it's.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: Okay don't worry about it nothing to be nervous about
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: we're just on TV together yeah right First of all,
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Justine wrote, she had a great piece about things that
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: she loves to do in L.A., which you should look up.
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: Is it the L.A. Times? What was that for?
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: It was the L.A. Times, yeah. A thing she likes
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: to do in L.A. I would say, A, L.A.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: Is a little tricky place because there's a lot of, like,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: it's very centered, it's obviously centered around the industry. And
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: so there's, it's, it's, there's a lot of flakiness and
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of weirdos here. So I understand what
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: you're saying, but I think when, when that happens and
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: life kind of presents in that way where you're like
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: not finding your people, you really have to get out
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: of your comfort zone and do things that you don't
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: normally do. So like, what are things that you like
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: to do or, or what are things that you want
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: to do that you haven't done? Like, have you done like,
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: have you done all the museums in LA? Like, have
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: you thought about like joining a tennis club or doing
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: something that's like outside of your comfort zone and in
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: terms of like just socializing with people of different walks
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: of life, like joining different groups of things. I think
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: the dating apps are just a wrap on them right now, honestly.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: I think if you like someone, you should hit them
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: up on Instagram or you should scroll through Instagram. I
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: think that's a more comprehensive view of someone's life anyway,
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: whether it's real or not, you'll find out. But I
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: find these dating apps, the whole nature of swiping, like
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: everyone is complaining about the same thing.
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: So like, what are some things that are outside of
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: your comfort zone that you can think of that would
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: be of interest to you?
• 43:41
  Speaker 7: I haven't done a lot of activities out of like
• 43:43
  Speaker 7: working my way to zero because when I moved to LA,
• 43:47
  Speaker 7: I felt like I was sub-zero for five years. So
• 43:49
  Speaker 7: I was like, take your credit, move to a better house,
• 43:52
  Speaker 7: get this, get that. And now that I reached to like,
• 43:55
  Speaker 7: you know, my surface or my ground floor, I'm like,
• 44:00
  Speaker 7: personal life, where, when, what, and I haven't done, maybe
• 44:04
  Speaker 7: I should take like a class because I will meet
• 44:08
  Speaker 7: people like with the same interests probably. And hit or miss,
• 44:13
  Speaker 7: I'm 42. That's the worst thing when you're moving in
• 44:16
  Speaker 7: your city and you're not like 25. Right. But we'll
• 44:19
  Speaker 7: figure out probably maybe somewhere in the ground links, something
• 44:24
  Speaker 7: I can use on my you know, work life and
• 44:27
  Speaker 7: at the same time, like maybe meet people.
• 44:28
  Speaker 4: I haven't done anything like that. I haven't had the
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: luxury of the time Yeah.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's like the first step. Like
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: when you put efforts out like that, I feel like
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: you always get rewarded. It's not just where your interests lie.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: It's like, what haven't you explored that might be of
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: interest to you? Whether that's, you know, like a dance
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: class or groundlings class, whether it's a pottery class or
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: whether it's like a movie club where you guys all
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: watch the same movie and discuss it in person. There's
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: all sorts of shit going on in the city that
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: we don't know about because everyone kind of, it's kind
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: of like books, right? we always tend to read what
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: we want to read about, right? We don't really tend
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: to read, like you're not going to pick up a
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: book about Russia if that's not of interest to you.
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: But that's where the information lies, where you're getting new information.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: So I would think about just like stretching your muscles
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: in that way and to know that you're not alone
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: in the way that you feel about L.A. And like
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: bringing that up to someone that you might be interested
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: in or finding like a group of people that also
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: feel that way is not going to be hard for
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: you to do because a lot of people feel misplaced
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: in L.A., It's like kind of like what you were
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: saying about college. When you go to college, everyone's nervous
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: about approaching another person, but like everyone's in the same boat.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: You're all brand new to college. So there's a lot
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: of people that are in the same place as you.
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: And is there anyone at work that you would hang
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: out with?
• 45:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we do hang out with some people from work.
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: We do.
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: Well, you don't have to reveal that you've done cocaine or.
• 45:51
  Speaker 4: Anything with them. No, no, no. I'm just very picky
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: as a person. I don't know.
• 45:55
  Speaker 7: After 20 years of living in different continents, rapping with
• 45:59
  Speaker 7: different people, I know who I am and what I like.
• 46:02
  Speaker 7: And it's very tight end. My boundaries are very strong.
• 46:08
  Speaker 7: But most of the times, people are willing. I'd rather
• 46:11
  Speaker 7: stay home or work.
• 46:13
  Speaker 5: Out or make a big joint home and read a
• 46:16
  Speaker 5: book than join them. You know, like, I'm not being difficult.
• 46:20
  Speaker 5: I'm just saying I won't do anything for company. I'm
• 46:23
  Speaker 5: comfortable in my own skin.
• 46:24
  Speaker 7: But I would like a few individuals I can appreciate
• 46:28
  Speaker 7: and we'll spend some time together.
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. I don't think you should be desperate.
• 46:33
  Speaker 4: I'm just saying.
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: you're not desperate.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, if you enjoy your own company, A, that's
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: a huge plus because a lot of people can't even
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: be alone. But just like get a little bit outside
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: your comfort zone and just do a couple things that
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: you wouldn't normally do just to see if you meet
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: anybody of interest, you know, and anybody that is like-minded. Justine,
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: do you have any LA ideas?
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: No, I mean, I would say the same. I kind
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: of feel like you're in a great position because you've
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: got you're in a spot where you feel like you've
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: got all your ground floor has been built. So you're
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: not like overly overwhelmed with trying to focus on other things.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: You're like in a, in the perfect place to start
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: doing these things. And you don't have like a desperation
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: around it. So it's like kind of just like, Oh great.
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: Like this would be in a wonderful, like you can
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: have some ease about it. And I'd say like LA
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: is such a choose your own adventure that like the
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: idea of finding things. And I, I kind of agree
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: with Chelsea. Like, an improv class would be great, but also, like,
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: why not just pursue something that's, like, a little bit
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: out of what you need to be doing or should
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: be doing for your career and more of, like, oh,
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: what do I, like, what am I interested in besides
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: this that will make me just feel like a more
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: well-rounded person and turn me on in a different way
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: and light something up that hasn't been lit up before?
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's when I started feeling, like, most,
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: I guess... at home in LA and at home in
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: myself when it wasn't all about acting and all about work,
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: it was like, who, what am I interested in as
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: a person? And then like the whole thing feels just
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: like a more easy ride, like both like socially and
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: like artistically and ambition wise, like there's just less like
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: tightness around it all. So I feel like you can
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: only like It just sounds like an easeful way to
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: go about it that will just only like liven things
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: up and you can't help but meet new people. And
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: some of those people might be exciting and attractive to you,
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: like as friends who then can introduce you to people
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: or as someone that you're interested in as more than
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: a friend.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: And if you like, like even if you go to
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: like LACMA and you do one of those group tours,
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: we were just talking about museums and like there's really
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: some cool art museums or.
• 48:42
  Speaker 7: I.
• 48:43
  Speaker 4: Used to joke around there. Yeah.
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: Like there's, they have group tours at all these museums
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: and like, that's actually a cool way to meet people,
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: especially when you're talking about like being cosmopolitan and having
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: a very well-rounded background. Like if you want to like be,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: you know, you're looking for people to enhance your life, obviously,
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: and that are more sophisticated, then start with more sophisticated things.
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Or like a cooking class would be kind of great.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Like there's like finding like a cuisine that you're really
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: interested in learning how to cook because then you're like
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: with people who also love food and it sounds like
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: you like being home and smoking a J and like
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: eating you know like having some good food like just
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: like finding things that like oh that fits into my
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: life it's not exactly like on the track that I
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: like imagine you know everything has to revolve around but
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: like that would fit really well into like what I'm
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: excited about you know yeah.
• 49:31
  Speaker 6: And the nice thing about going to a multi-week class
• 49:33
  Speaker 6: or something like that is you can kind of get
• 49:35
  Speaker 6: to know people a little bit before you're like hey
• 49:37
  Speaker 6: do you want to hang out like let me get
• 49:38
  Speaker 6: your number or whatever Or like if you're taking a
• 49:41
  Speaker 6: class that everybody like, let's all go grab a drink
• 49:43
  Speaker 6: afterward and you kind of like suss out who is
• 49:46
  Speaker 6: kind of interesting.
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: I would do like three different activities.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: Like you don't have to do them all at the
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: same time, but like pick a cooking class. take a
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: dance class or if that's not up your alley, like
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: go to the museum and go online and look for
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: things that, you know, you like other like-minded people.
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: And if you're looking.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: For a partner in that area, then be forward about that.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: You know, just, I think it's really good just to
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: be honest and open instead of I know you're like saying,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: you know what you like and everything, but that rigidity
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: kind of closes yourself off to a lot of options.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: So just try to be a little bit.
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: More open-minded and write down like what you're going to
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: do and your intention. Those things kind of come to
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: fruition when you make them happen in your life and
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: you put one foot in front of the other.
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: I've heard a lot of great suggestions.
• 50:33
  Speaker 7: It's nice to know that I'm not like in my
• 50:35
  Speaker 7: head and it's like LA, it's not like the, I
• 50:38
  Speaker 7: was saying like Manhattan was a playground.
• 50:41
  Speaker 4: It was so easy. I loved it.
• 50:43
  Speaker 7: I would hop like bars every night with people like
• 50:46
  Speaker 7: from different aspects and backgrounds. But LA has its own
• 50:50
  Speaker 7: pockets and areas and you have to find your people,
• 50:53
  Speaker 7: your niche. And I should be dipping my feet in
• 50:55
  Speaker 7: different pools that I haven't. But I was kind of
• 50:58
  Speaker 7: in survival mode for.
• 50:59
  Speaker 8: A few years.
• 51:00
  Speaker 7: So it's a weird vibration and I didn't want to
• 51:02
  Speaker 7: share that. And once I got out of it, I
• 51:04
  Speaker 7: was like, again, I'm ready to surface kind of and Yeah.
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: So you've got the whole world at your fingertips. So
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: it's nothing but like positivity and optimism. And find some
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: other Greek people.
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: Hang out with some Greek people because they're going to
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: show you what they like too. And you're probably going
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: to have a lot in common with them.
• 51:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe.
• 51:23
  Speaker 3: Or maybe not. He's like, I fucking hate Greeks.
• 51:25
  Speaker 4: No, I don't find.
• 51:26
  Speaker 7: I just find, like, we have to have more in
• 51:28
  Speaker 7: common than background or language.
• 51:31
  Speaker 3: To hang out. Okay, fair enough. That's fair enough.
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: No, I know many amazing Greeks. Don't get me wrong.
• 51:36
  Speaker 4: I don't hate anyone. I mean, I hate everyone equally.
• 51:39
  Speaker 7: But what I'm trying to say is, like, we need
• 51:41
  Speaker 7: to have more things in common than our background or culture.
• 51:44
  Speaker 7: I lived in Dubai and I had three Greek friends
• 51:46
  Speaker 7: and all my friends were, like, English speakers.
• 51:47
  Speaker 4: But.
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: Go to a comedy club, too. Go out.
• 51:50
  Speaker 4: Last night, I went to a comedy club, but I
• 51:53
  Speaker 4: was late. I was working. I tried to watch the comedy,
• 51:58
  Speaker 4: the horribly funny show. Oh, I was.
• 52:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: Did you.
• 52:02
  Speaker 4: I was.
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: Oh, I was there. You missed it.
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: I'm going.
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: Come on Thursday. I'm doing a set on Thursday.
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: Tomorrow. You're the main liner, right? So it's like you're earlier.
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: So I missed it. No, no.
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: I'll go on later tomorrow. Come to the improv tomorrow. Yeah,
• 52:16
  Speaker 3: that'll be fun. That's a fun night.
• 52:18
  Speaker 7: Oh, great. That's my favorite nights are like movies. Stand-up nights,
• 52:23
  Speaker 7: the rest are like hit or miss. If it's an
• 52:25
  Speaker 7: event or a dinner with friends, yes. But stand-up and
• 52:27
  Speaker 7: movies are my favorite nights out. Oh, okay.
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: Well, that's an easy way to meet people. Go to
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: the comedy store, the improv, the laugh factory. You get
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: seated next to strangers. Like that is a perfect way
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: to meet people.
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there we go.
• 52:39
  Speaker 7: And I wanted to say to... To wrap it up,
• 52:41
  Speaker 7: because I don't want to take too much of your time.
• 52:43
  Speaker 7: I'm not doing the main thing here. Chelsea, you've been
• 52:46
  Speaker 7: an influence for real. I remember flying in. I used
• 52:49
  Speaker 7: to live in Dubai, fly in LA and just go
• 52:52
  Speaker 7: to watch your show. And it's one of the few
• 52:54
  Speaker 7: people that made me want to quit my job, find
• 52:58
  Speaker 7: a way, do a lottery visa, move here. And the
• 53:02
  Speaker 7: way you live your life, it's respectful.
• 53:05
  Speaker 3: Oh, thank you.
• 53:06
  Speaker 4: Thank you. Such a pleasure. Of course.
• 53:09
  Speaker 3: Oh, thank you.
• 53:10
  Speaker 7: All right.
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: Well, hopefully I'll see you tomorrow.
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: I'll be there.
• 53:14
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: Well, then I'll see you. I'll be there too.
• 53:17
  Speaker 4: Great. Sounds amazing.
• 53:18
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: Bye.
• 53:20
  Speaker 3: Thanks for calling.
• 53:21
  Speaker 4: Have a lovely day.
• 53:22
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: You know, like people need to be reminded of the advantages.
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: I'm glad you brought that up, Justine. It's like you,
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: he's settled financially, which is everyone's biggest stress when they
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: moved to LA.
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: You know, like that is the biggest hurdle I think
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: for anyone living today is like to be financially stable.
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: And then you can actually have a good time and
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: pick and choose what you want to do.
• 53:40
  Speaker 6: And I like that you brought up like movie clubs
• 53:42
  Speaker 6: because there are actually a ton of those here in L.A.
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: And that's not just like going to a movie by yourself.
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: You actually meet people that way.
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, there's a lot of activities that I would never–
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: like participate in that would probably yield a lot of
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: like interesting people, not, not for participate, but that just
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: wouldn't occur to me. But if like I had to
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: really hunker down in a new city and meet people,
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: I would do those things.
• 54:04
  Speaker 6: And I like what you said about like pick three,
• 54:06
  Speaker 6: even if it's not at the same time. So that
• 54:08
  Speaker 6: way you have like, all right, if this one didn't
• 54:09
  Speaker 6: really work out, I've got some other backups.
• 54:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I think that's great.
• 54:17
  Speaker 6: Our next caller is Veronica and she says, dear Chelsea,
• 54:21
  Speaker 6: I need help figuring out whether I have healthy boundaries
• 54:24
  Speaker 6: or if I'm being too rigid in a relationship that
• 54:26
  Speaker 6: keeps pulling me back in. Four years ago, I met
• 54:29
  Speaker 6: a man I really connected with. He was funny, kind,
• 54:31
  Speaker 6: and I saw real potential. A few months in, his
• 54:34
  Speaker 6: insecurity started showing up as jealousy, suspicion, defensiveness, and accusations
• 54:38
  Speaker 6: that weren't based in reality. I fell in love with him,
• 54:41
  Speaker 6: but it ended because I knew I couldn't build something
• 54:43
  Speaker 6: healthy like that. Over the next few years, we stayed
• 54:46
  Speaker 6: in loose contact. He went to therapy, apologized, and eventually
• 54:49
  Speaker 6: asked for another chance. I believe people can grow, so
• 54:52
  Speaker 6: I gave it another try. Even after his progress, it
• 54:54
  Speaker 6: feels like the same dynamic is still there. I'm 47,
• 54:58
  Speaker 6: I raised two kids on my own, I'm financially independent,
• 55:00
  Speaker 6: and I'm finally in a place where I can focus
• 55:02
  Speaker 6: on my career and building for retirement. I have a
• 55:04
  Speaker 6: demanding job, a dog, and my days are very full.
• 55:07
  Speaker 6: He works from home, and there's often tension when I
• 55:09
  Speaker 6: don't respond to texts quickly enough during work hours. I
• 55:12
  Speaker 6: end up managing his insecurity, reassuring him, and feeling like
• 55:15
  Speaker 6: I have to be careful not to trigger his jealousy
• 55:17
  Speaker 6: or suspicion.
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: Hi, Veronica.
• 55:19
  Speaker 4: Hi, Veronica.
• 55:42
  Speaker 8: Hello.
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: I'm so excited.
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: I love you, Chelsea. Hi.
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: And this is our special guest. Justine Loop is here today.
• 55:47
  Speaker 4: Hi.
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
• 55:49
  Speaker 4: Hello.
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: Well, it sounds like the writing's on the wall here.
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, giving somebody a second chance is generous, A,
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: and I think the work there is done.
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: I had this conversation last night.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: I had the same conversation three nights ago, all with
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: different girlfriends.
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: When men reveal.
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: There is a honeymoon phase, obviously, which we all are
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: aware of, where people are on their best behavior. And
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: when that subsides, and the pain starts to chip away,
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: you start to see the real person, and their front
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: isn't working anymore because their real insecurities.
• 56:24
  Speaker 3: Come to the fore. And we, as women, and as
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: a 47-year-old woman... have no time.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: To be dealing with a man that is insecure and
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: not understanding that you're at a job and that you're
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: not going to be responsive to his texts in 30 seconds. Like,
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: it's just, I don't have time for that. And I
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: don't think you have time for that either. I don't
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: think women are down with this anymore.
• 56:47
  Speaker 3: It's just too much.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: We're dealing with too much other stuff happening in the
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: world to have to make somebody feel secure.
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: That is a grownup. I agree.
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: I agree. I just kind of feel like it sounds
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: so exhausting. And I've been in relationships like that. And, um,
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: and it's just like, it's like now it's just like, it's, it's,
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: it's not, oh, he's a bad guy or whatever. It's
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: just like, it's just not, it's just not something that
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: you need to be putting your brain and energy into.
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: And it feels so much nicer to be with someone
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: who has confidence and trusts you. And I kind of
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: feel like that's like the main thing is like respect
• 57:25
  Speaker 2: and trust. And in terms of like sustaining a relationship.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: So if you don't have that, like if there's not
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: like this kind of innate feeling of trust, then it's like,
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: what are we, why, why even do it? Like, what
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: are we doing?
• 57:38
  Speaker 6: And I don't think there's anything you can do to
• 57:40
  Speaker 6: make someone else feel that like they either have to
• 57:43
  Speaker 6: have it intrinsically or learn it through therapy or, you know, it.
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: Seems like he needs, he needs more therapy and that's
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: also not your problem either.
• 57:51
  Speaker 3: Like he's got to go, that's an inside job.
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: He has to go deal with it and you just
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: need to let him know nobody wants this.
• 57:59
  Speaker 8: Well, and there's a little bit of an update on the,
• 58:02
  Speaker 8: on the therapy issue as well. I found out just
• 58:06
  Speaker 8: through conversation that, Because I was kind of curious, like,
• 58:10
  Speaker 8: are you seeing a psychologist? Like, what is their, you know, what,
• 58:14
  Speaker 8: what's the program here? And he was actually meeting with
• 58:19
  Speaker 8: a life coach.
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: So not the same, but yeah, there you go. Yeah,
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: not a therapist.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: So that's not going to help with his insecurities or
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: anything like that. And yeah, so very, these are, I've
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: had this same kind of conversation, like I said, with
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: various different women over the past few weeks. It's a
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: recurring theme for some reason that's happening right now. Men
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: are feeling pretty insecure and we, I don't think that's
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: our job to, you know, like fix them.
• 58:48
  Speaker 3: And I don't, I think.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: There's just, we're just like, we have so much to offer.
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: Like don't, it's a drag.
• 58:55
  Speaker 6: Do you guys live together? Do you live separately? How
• 58:58
  Speaker 6: back together are you? Are you totally back together at
• 59:01
  Speaker 6: this point?
• 59:02
  Speaker 4: No.
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: No, so we're not.
• 59:04
  Speaker 8: Um and it's you know i've dated other people like
• 59:06
  Speaker 8: since i've met him you know we kind of had
• 59:09
  Speaker 8: our first you know the first meeting in the first
• 59:11
  Speaker 8: few months together and it was great and then you
• 59:15
  Speaker 8: know i kind of i i saw the red flags
• 59:17
  Speaker 8: kind of right away and was just like this isn't
• 59:20
  Speaker 8: for me i don't again i don't have time.
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: For this right agree with that.
• 59:24
  Speaker 8: And then I think the, I think the thing that
• 59:27
  Speaker 8: got me was him reaching back out.
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: And apologizing and saying, you.
• 59:31
  Speaker 8: Know, I know I've got these issues and I'm working
• 59:33
  Speaker 8: on them in therapy and I want another chance. And
• 59:36
  Speaker 8: so that was really, I think the thing that has,
• 59:39
  Speaker 8: has hooked me back in, like, should I give this
• 59:43
  Speaker 8: guy a chance? Like he's trying, but then.
• 59:45
  Speaker 3: But you did, but you did give him a chance.
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: You gave him that chance. It's a wrap.
• 59:50
  Speaker 4: It's a wrap. That's it.
• 59:52
  Speaker 3: That's like, you can't, yeah.
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: You have to live your life and be, and, and
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: be selfish and think about yourself because as a woman,
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: like you have to think about yourself and your happiness
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: and the energy you're expending.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 3: And your bandwidth.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: And it's like, you gave him a second chance and
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: he didn't. And then he went to, you know, it
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: turns out he went to a life coach that kind
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: of says it all, you know?
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 6: And also he kind of like made it, he tried
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 6: to either said or made it seem like he was
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 6: seeing an actual therapist. Like He probably knows the difference.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: It feels a little shifty.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 8: Yeah, no, he totally did.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 2: I think the other thing I would say, and this
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: might be a little like woo-woo for this crowd, I
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: don't actually know, but I'm just going to put it
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: out there. Like what I believe is I kind of
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 2: think that whether it's woo-woo or not, I think that
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: like the energy of saying like, this is not something
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: that I need to be tolerating right now. And like
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: clearing that space invites in the right thing and like
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: I do kind of I don't know I believe in
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: like the the universe kind of like or the energy
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: around making these kinds of decisions then like eliciting like
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: new stuff coming in that feels like it's more aligned
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: with what you're saying hey I I'm interested in this
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: like this is actually what I know I'm interested in
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: and I'm inviting that in and I'm actually going to
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: like not make space for that kind of stuff right now.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: And I, whether it's energy or it's just like you
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: knowing what you're not interested in anymore, I do feel
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: like it invites in something that is less toxic and
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: more rewarding and less time consuming and less energetically draining
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 2: than what you're dealing with right now.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 7: You know?
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: Agreed.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 4: Agreed. Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 8: I've definitely been kind of holding space for him. So
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 8: I haven't been open.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Oh, yeah.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: Well, I'm glad you called in and you got it
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: from three women.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 3: So you, you know, what more.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: Do you need?
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 8: Nothing else.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 3: So maybe a glass of wine.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 3: Have one in your car. All right.
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: Good luck, Veronica.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 3: Thanks for calling, Veronica.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: And good luck with everything. And, you know, let us
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: know how it goes. Thank you.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: It's exactly what I needed to hear.
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 3: Take care. Bye. Did you like giving therapy, Justine?
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, I like it.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 2: It's like so tricky because you forget that like, this
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: is like actual, I mean, I know that it's a
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 2: real circumstance that people are actually going through, but I'm like,
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: as she was getting off, I was like, oh, this
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: poor thing. Cause it's like hard. Like it's, I like it's,
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: she needs to get, that needs to be over. But
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: I'm like the reality of like walking through the like,
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: and we're done. It's over.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: Like break up.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: But I mean, it's really valuable to get information that
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: from people or get feedback from people who have nothing
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: to do with your life. I think it's much better
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: than asking advice from people who are enmeshed with you
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: because that's always shaded and it's less subjective.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 3: So I do find that.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: I find it like it's kind of freeing because then
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: you can be a harsher critic too.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 3: You can be like, this is absolutely unacceptable.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: Well, Justine, thank you so.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 3: Much for today.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: Thank you for having me.
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 3: So much fun talking with you. And season three, we're on, right?
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 3: Of Nobody Wants This?
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's really fun. I think it's funny.
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: I think it's romantic. I think people will really like it. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 2: I feel excited.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 3: Okay, great.
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: Everybody go watch it. And thank you so much, Justine.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: I hope to bump into you somewhere around LA on
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: the east side.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 4: Oh, yeah.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: Come on over, girl. Come on.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 3: Okay. All right.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: Bye, guys. Have a good one.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 3: Bye-bye.
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