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The Simplicity of Being: Awakening to the Full Circle of Life, Death, and Success · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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My name is Terry Messenger and I am hey, hey, hey and welcome,
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welcome to Terry Messenger's Genius Zone.
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And you know, this is the place in the space where you are going
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to get your own free master class.
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Absolutely free. Hey, hey, hey, and welcome.
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Welcome to this week's edition of Terry Messenger's Genius
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Zone. So this is all about the
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simplicity of being awakened to the full circle of life, death
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and success. And I don't know about.
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You guys, but I tend to struggle a little with the word death.
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You know, it may be because I haven't had a lot of, you know,
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experience in this where I've been touched by it, but you're
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going to see the journey of, you know, life and death and and
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your success in a whole different way by the time you
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finish this episode. So this is going to be
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incredible. And Vanessa, the beautiful lady
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I'm about to bring on board, this lady, Vanessa Pereira, she
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is an incredible woman who really looks up to the greats
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such as Neville Goddard. And so that spirituality that
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she has mixed with that natural inborn intelligence and her way
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to be able to see life through a different lens and bring you
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into that real fulfilment of life.
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And what's a bet? You might just find the missing
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link. And if you're feeling like
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something is missing, what to bet you might find it.
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So with no further ado, I bring you the beautiful Vanessa
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Pereira. How are you, Vanessa?
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I'm doing really well. Thank you.
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Thank you for having me. It is an absolute pleasure.
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And whereabouts in this world are you?
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I'm in Toronto. It is bright and early.
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It's 8:00 AM now, so yeah. Wow, that's amazing.
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So you know you are really going to expound on beliefs in this
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episode. And it's interesting how beliefs
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shape our reality so much. But what I wanted to do is I
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wanted to kick off by a little closed eye meditation so that we
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could really ground in because I love to do this with all the
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incredible gifted coaches, healers and leaders that come
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onto the show. But I'm going to ask everyone to
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experience this. So if you just put your feet
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flat on the ground, I want you to take a deep breath in through
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your nose, hold it at the top, hold it at the top and breathe
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out. Now this time what I'm going to
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do is I am going to ask everyone that is listening to this, who
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is going to hear this and experience this, to be invited
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to call in the greatest sensations of energy that would
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really lift you up and awaken you and bring you into this
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expanded awakened knowledge. So that you are going to take so
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much from this show. You are going to be so inspired.
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So it could be feelings like confidence, fulfilment, peace,
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joy. So whatever they are, it could
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be love, laughter. I want you to set the intention
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that you're going to bring these in and call them in and take a
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deep breath in now, 123 in. Now as we breathe them in, we're
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going to expand it all the way through our body.
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And I want you to imagine as you exhale out, your whole body
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fills up with love and light and all of these energetic,
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emotional feelings that are so good and awakening your
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fascination, your curiosity and empowering you so that you are
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going to be able to listen to this show.
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You're going to be able to participate in this show.
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You are going to be able to completely expand to your
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fullest potential during this show.
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So one last deep breath and breathing in and hold at the top
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and breathe out and expand it all through your body and bring
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love and light. And thank you so very, very
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much. And so now with the first part
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of your story, you know, I always say on the genius side,
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there is always something that will link the person in with
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their zoner genius that by the time I get to know them, we do a
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full circle. It always usually begins with a
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point of time in our existence where something happens in our
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life that's very significant. And that can be a trauma, a
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loss, a a moment where we've been really, you know, faced
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with something that may have been life changing in one way or
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the other. But I want you to talk to our
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audience about the moment that you lost your father, what that
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meant for you. And, you know, beside the fact
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you were a young woman when it happened, it could have been a
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tragedy in in many people's eyes, the way that you see it
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now. So over to You Beautiful lady.
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Thank you. Yes, I was 32 when my dad passed
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away. He had two different types of
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cancer and I was with him the moment he transitioned.
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So I was the only one among. I have such a huge family and it
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just so divinely happened that I was that person to be with him.
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And I don't really know what happened at on that day, but now
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looking back, I'm 40 now. So eight years have gone by, and
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each year I've just expanded my relationship with grief.
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I love talking about it, and I love that we're diving into it
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today. So in that moment on that day, I
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did have a spiritual awakening, but I didn't know it at the
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time. And the day after, literally the
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day after he passed, I started asking the question of why am I
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here? What is my purpose?
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What is this life mean? We're all going to die.
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So what am I? What am I supposed to do for the
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rest of my life? You know, I just feel like I'm
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not doing something. I'm not doing enough or I'm not
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doing enough of what brings me joy.
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Like am I just going to go to work every day and come back
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like that doesn't it's not filling me in any way.
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And this is what my dad's death brought to me as a gift.
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And I just went down this path of what I now call self
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discovery. But at the time I didn't know.
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I was just trying to find answers that I started with
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traveling and just doing spontaneous things because I'm
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like, OK, well, maybe I'm going to die tomorrow.
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Like, I don't know. So let me just do, let me just
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do what I really want to do. And then I just started
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exploring doing what I really want to do and doing what lights
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me up. And I, you know, I just started
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doing these things that I never in my life before thought I
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could do. Wow, isn't that now?
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Isn't that incredible? And I, I really hear you and I
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am taking so much from that conversation because, you know,
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because you don't realize how precious life is and what is
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super important until you meet with this kind of a, a death
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experience through someone very close or you have, you know,
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something in your life. Like I, I'm this kind of person.
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I've always kind of worried about everything.
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You know, I'm just a serial worry wart.
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And, you know, since I have met with my most recent crisis,
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which is about my husband and, you know, his diagnosis, which
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is, you know, said to be fatally serious, I have changed the way
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that I view things, too. And even though there's that
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grieving, slow goodbye kind of thing happening within me, when
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I listen to what you just say, it resonates that now when I
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hear someone talking about a problem where usually I'd get
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rolled up, I'm like, huh, don't worry about it.
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You know, don't worry about it. You know, life's here to be
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lived. You suddenly it, it matures you,
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it kind of opens your eyes, It, it gives you this reality check.
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But I'm going to really borrow your beliefs here because you
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are, you know, someone I would say is a a very good authority
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on this. Plus you follow Neville Goddard
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so closely. And I would love to borrow your
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belief Vanessa on you know how I can turn and I'm sure I'm not
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the only one. You know, I, I always say I'm
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gonna speak for my listeners and all that, that are praying for
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you. How can I turn this thing around
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called death, You know, and, you know, sort of make it so gloomy
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and and so terrible. And if you can talk me through
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and what you said backstage about the birth and then the
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death and the cycle of life and, and just, you know, share how we
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can change our perspective on death.
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Mm hmm. Yeah, I think the first question
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I would ask everybody to, you know, just close your eyes and
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ask yourself, well, why do I celebrate birth but I don't
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celebrate death? And really just listen for the
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answer. And you'll notice, you know, in
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your everyday life. Like I have so many friends
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giving birth and clearly I have seen so many babies being born
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and we celebrate our birthdays every year.
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And but then on the flip side, you look at death and you know,
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in my culture, I'm, I'm Catholic and I'm also from a South Asian
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culture. And for us, death seems very
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like, it's like a, like a bad thing that you can't celebrate
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it. We can't be happy about it.
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We can't, you know, even the songs that are chosen are.
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It needs to be somber and it needs to be.
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It's quite interesting. That's what fascinates me is we
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do, we celebrate birth, but we don't celebrate yet.
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But really, I mean, this is no, I'm not saying anything that
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nobody knows. The fact is that we are born to
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die. OK, Like this is not revelation.
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I just have to pause you right there.
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Yeah, so. You can land We are born to die.
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Wow, that is a belief changer just in itself.
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Yeah. And I think that when you tap
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into that space, it's not about, you know, we are here having a
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human experience, right? How special.
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How amazing. And when we talk about, I talk
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about leadership all the time and I think people think that
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leadership is, oh, I need to have this, this, this X number
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of dollars in my bank account, titles this and that.
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But let's all be clear. We're all going to die one day,
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right? We're born and then we're going
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to die. We don't know when that date is
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going to arrive. We don't know nobody don't
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nobody can pinpoint. I mean, there's so many cases
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where you're healthy and then you're dead.
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You know you're sick and then you're dead.
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Like it's, it's no nobody. Look at Charlie Kirk boom, 31
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years old, you know, and living by the sword, dying by the sword
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shot in the throat. So many spiritual connotations
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around that one, and his legacy has multiplied.
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Yeah, and, and you can look at people on in, in the media, or
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you can also look at, you know, look at people in your own life.
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For me, it's my dad. You know, my dad was, he didn't
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come from money. He didn't have any titles he
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didn't like on paper. No, you would like he doesn't
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meet any of those criteria. But it is 8 years later now that
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he he has passed and people still come up to me talking
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about my father and talking about him in a way.
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You know, when we talk about legacy, I think people
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misunderstand that legacy means that you got to leave something
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tangible for your future generation.
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And to me, my father didn't have any of those things, but what he
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left was who he was. This is why I talk about, it's
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not about what you do, it's about who you are being.
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To me, that is what true leadership is.
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So when you step into work, when you step into your workplace,
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and we operate from this, knowing that, look, my life is
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so precious, but why? Why am I really afraid to speak
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up in this meeting right now? What am I really afraid of?
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Why am I really afraid to go after the thing that I want to
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go after? Because who cares, We're all
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gonna die. Why not do it?
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Why not do it? Did you hear that?
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Did you hear that, y'all? It's like the next time you're
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shrinking yourself back and not doing what you know, that you
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feel very cool to do, just say, what's holding me back?
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I'm going to die anyway. One day, I might as well live
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without any regrets. I absolutely love that.
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And look, I just have to say this too.
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When you were talking about what comes to mind, you ask the
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audience the question, what comes to mind when you think
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about birth and death? And and then you put us into
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that kind of a scenario where we're we're happy and joyful
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because we're celebrating, you know, you know, the birth of a
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new baby. And then we flip to the other
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side. Do you know the word that came
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to me? Selfish.
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And I say this with all due respect, but I'm going to speak
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from myself. And that is that I don't want
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anyone that I love to die. And when I think about it, it's
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just selfish because I want them to stay here on this face with
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me. But if we look at it from where
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you're coming from, you know, we, we are born so we can die.
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I mean, that changes everything. And you know, like you were
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saying to me also backstage that in some cultures, they literally
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celebrate it because, you know, they believe that they're,
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they're upgraded, which I mean, Christians, I believe that we
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are, we, we're going somewhere bigger and better than here on
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Earth. This is kind of just to practice
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rehearsal. And I think, you know, just one
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more point about grief. Look like I'm not saying that
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you just somebody dies and everything's let's just la di da
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and move on with their life. No grief is such a sacred to me.
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It is the sacred experience that I would never take away from
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anyone. But the point is that we don't,
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we don't witness that experience, you know, we just
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see somebody's dead, OK, Now my life has changed.
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I miss them. OK, fine.
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But that's just one part of the grief.
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But if we look at it from a different angle, if we look at
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it from everybody here comes into our life with a specific
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purpose and they are meant to be here for whatever time that is
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meant to be here. In my journey for me as an
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example, my dad was here there for zero to 32 years old of me.
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And what was he was meant to be here for a very specific purpose
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in my life at that point and same with whoever he touched in
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his life. But just because his body is
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gone does not mean his soul is not here.
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I dream about my dad all the time.
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I know that he's here. He's here right now.
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Like, you know, it's all he's in me as well, right?
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I am a product of him. And so it is having your own
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relationship with grief and not listening to what other people
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tell you about grief. I've been told, oh, shouldn't
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you be over it by now? Shouldn't what?
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How come you still talk about it?
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Like, shouldn't you be OK with it?
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It's been so many years. Don't don't laugh at the
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funeral. Don't play happy songs at the
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funeral. Be careful what you say at the
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eulogy. I wrote his eulogy and I and I
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spoke about it. That was my first speaking gig
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that I talk about in front of so many people.
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And what I wrote about him was unlike any other eulogy that
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I've heard because it it's not what I wanted it to be.
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I wanted this to be a celebration of this human being
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that is here in my life that was given to me as a gift and for
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nobody knows this, but my dad and I didn't have your typical
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father daughter relationship. So if you look at it again on
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paper, it's not like we were closed.
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It's not like we were best friends or anything like that.
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My relationship with him started after he passed.
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Wow, that is, that is special. I mean, that's legacy right
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there. And it sort of brings me to, you
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know, some of the gold Nuggets that you imparted with me behind
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the scenes. And I'm going to be paraphrasing
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them, but we talk about aligning.
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So you talk about the element of obviously your, you know.
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Even working with corporate people, people that are very
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logical people that are, you know, working 9:00 to 5:00, they
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have the house, they have the car, they have the children,
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they have all of the things, but they still sense there's
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something missing. And you said it yourself, you
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know, we are spiritual beings and we're having a human
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experience on this planet. But when you align your inner
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state, your consciousness with the vibration of that which you
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desire, and I know you'll be able to bring something of great
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value here, you bring heaven to earth as much as possible.
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Or the missing link, so to speak, of what quite often
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people are searching for and they don't quite know why it's
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not there or what's missing. And it's about, you know, you
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talk about it like it's an embodiment of awakening that
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truth. And you know, that's when
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success is really achieved through that embodiment.
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Can can you please share that? Because there's a lot of people
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out there that may be in the corporate world, they might be
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steering away from the spiritual component.
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But listener, you know it could be the very essence of what's
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missing in your life. Yeah, so I've been in corporate
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for 18 years of my career, and I reached a point a few years ago
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before I transformed. I reached the point where I said
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I actually said out loud to my boss, you know, I really can't
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be one way at work and then leave work and be a completely
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different person. Like it's too exhausting for me
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to come into work and have to wear a mask and pretend and be
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all buttoned up and, you know, be quote UN quote good and the
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good employee or perfect in whatever that means and then
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leave and finally feel that, oh, I've left the building to now
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wait. It's been I can be myself now.
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And I'm like, no, this is not right.
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I didn't know the answer, but I knew that it wasn't right.
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And that to me was my nudge. And the leader of the other end,
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she clearly, clearly we were not vibrating on the same frequency
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because she said, well, you know, some you just have to do
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that. Like, you just have to be one
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way at work and another way outside it.
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That's how it is. And I knew, even though she was
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a leader, I knew not to listen. And I knew that she was wrong.
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So then I went down a path, I got myself my own coach and
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really all the work that we were doing.
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And what now I impart with my clients is this work around all
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of the shame and the self judgment and the guilt that we
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walk around with, right? So for me it was why do I care
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so much about what other people are thinking?
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Even when I know it doesn't sit well with me, I still do what
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they want. And in our corporate
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environment, we feel like we cannot be ourselves, our true
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selves, which is why topics like authenticity, topics like how to
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deal with your inner critic, topics like self doubt,
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everybody's Googling those because everybody wants to,
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everybody's craving that because they, I have heard this from so
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many of my clients. They come in, they say, oh, I
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have to be like this at work. But then when I'm outside of
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work, I can, I can be myself. But why do we need to choose?
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Why do we need to choose? Absolutely.
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It's it's almost like being a jack-in-the-box, you know, mm,
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hmm. You, you're holding that big
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piece of yourself back. And you know, so guys, if you're
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asking yourself the question, why do I feel like something is
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missing? Well, that was the question that
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Vanessa asked herself. And you know, if you're
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thinking, well, I really should have it all together and you're
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putting expectations on yourself, I think that causes a
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lot of the hollow feeling. And of course, the comparison
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art is true. So if we're looking at the
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Joneses who look like we're living the life, they've got the
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children, the fancy car, the fancy home, and then we, we're
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feeling like, oh, we're not taking into consideration all of
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our incremental wins. And I'm going to get you to open
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up on this because this is your topic.
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Then all as we're doing is we're putting in our, our, our firing.
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We're putting ourself in the firing line for something that
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is so self sabotaging. So talk to us about celebrating
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the incremental wins and why integrating them is so vitally
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important. Yeah.
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So I just want to touch on one, one thing you said just before,
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maybe throw a little nugget to the audience.
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When you see someone like the Joneses, when you see them have
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whatever it is that you desire inside of you.
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All that means is that it's available for you and the
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universe, God, divine source, whatever you name you want to
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give it doesn't matter the name, but that is a sign, a direct
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sign for you to know that it's available for you.
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Because if they have it, I can have it.
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It's already here. Oh, you know.
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That is, that is so, so, so powerful.
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And I think how many people do we know anyway that fall into
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the trap of then envy, you know, and envying instead of seeing it
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as being joyful for them. And if you can see it, then it
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is in you. And I know you're going to talk,
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you know, us through this as we go through this sequence because
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this is about knowing that everything that we truly want is
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already within our grasp. But I'm, I'm going to wait for
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Vanessa to lead us through that very powerful conversation.
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So yeah, why is incrementally integrating all our wins so
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important? Yeah.
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You know, I think, and again, I'll just take it back to
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corporate and my experience with corporate and what I've seen is
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that we don't, we don't track our wings.
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We wait for that big milestone. We wait for all.
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Let me wait until the product is launched.
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Let me wait until I've done a big project.
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Let me wait until I've done this big, grand, masterful thing.
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And then, then maybe I am worthy of celebrating all my hard work.
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You know, we use these words and I think for me in my, in my
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coaching with my clients, I'm very careful about the words
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that we use. So I'm always nitpicking the the
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word, so I will cut the mid sentence to say why.
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What is this word mean to you? You know when we say the word
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hard work, I need to work hard and I've worked hard.
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What are you making that mean about yourself?
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That if I work hard, then now I'm worthy?
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What about somebody who doesn't need to work hard?
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And what if they just attract everything to them very
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seamlessly, very easily? Now you're jealous, Now you're
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envious of them because they didn't work hard.
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Like, I think these are all the nuances of why this work is so
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deep. So when what I practiced with
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what I get my clients to practice and to get good at is
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when you're doing the embodiment work, an embodiment just means
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whatever we do in our coaching session now you're going to take
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it out into the real world and you're going to practice.
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And when you practice, maybe it's going to work and maybe
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it's not going to work because this is not a linear work.
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It's not do this and then this will happen.
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This is try this, see how you feel, see what comes out of it
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and see your reactions, how you respond.
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It's a whole jumble of things. It's not a linear path.
28:50
And so every session I start the session saying, what are you
28:54
celebrating most about yourself this week?
28:57
And my clients will just come in saying, you know what?
29:02
I did something for the first time this week.
29:06
I responded differently this week than I ever have before in
29:10
the same situation. But now I didn't freak out.
29:13
I didn't have anxiety, I was calm.
29:17
They said this to me and I didn't make that mean anything
29:20
about myself. I asked my husband to help me
29:24
with the chores for the very first time and he helped, you
29:29
know, so it's so simple. I think we think that wings are
29:33
something you have to do something grand.
29:35
And I always thought that as well for myself.
29:38
And so then I was looking at my life and like, oh, well,
29:41
obviously I'm not winning because nothing big is
29:42
happening. But when I started to do this
29:46
practice for myself, like I have AI, have books, I did once a
29:51
challenge for myself where every Sunday I would write my wings
29:55
for the week and I did that for 100 weeks in a row and I would
29:59
love. You write, you write Your what?
30:02
My wings for the week. Oh, wow.
30:04
OK. Oh, so you rejected it?
30:07
You actually wrote the wings that you hadn't yet had, but to
30:12
call them in. Wow.
30:14
OK. No, no, I wrote the wings that I
30:20
that happened to me during the week, but my wings that I track
30:24
are not your big. They include that, but they're
30:28
also in the small micro moments. And that's really what I teach
30:32
my clients is it's not about the big wings.
30:36
Sure, count those great. It's about the small micro
30:40
moments. And when you start to track
30:42
that, you will actually see how much you are progressing because
30:45
we're so focused on the end state or this goal, but we don't
30:51
focus on the progression or how we are progressing and how do we
30:57
track our wins in the progressing stage of where we
31:01
want to be, You know, And that's really what we do.
31:05
And I had this challenge for myself and I did it for 100
31:08
weeks in a row. And I would love for the
31:10
audience to try it, even just for one week and see how much
31:15
you can write on your paper. Little wings, even if it was
31:20
that you smiled at your next door neighbor who you couldn't
31:24
stand and you did it anyway. Which leads me to saying this,
31:29
because all of this is the gold that I was able to extract from
31:34
this beautiful lady. You know, you've talked about
31:38
obviously the the birth and death cycle.
31:43
You've talked about the spirituality, you've talked
31:46
about, you know, the these incremental wins.
31:52
And also you've talked about the power of language and how you do
31:59
pick up your clients and you really do ask them what that
32:05
means for them because it is the words that you speak.
32:10
Your words are your wand, and it is your words that shape your
32:17
reality. So when it comes to then,
32:21
because I know you keep your clients accountable and I would
32:26
love to know about the activation process, which you
32:31
beautifully call embodiment. So let's talk about embodiment
32:37
and how that practice is so powerful for people that really
32:43
want to feel that that level of fulfilment.
32:47
Yeah, so I'll share a story in my own experience.
32:52
I went down this path of doing self help and I did therapy and
32:57
I did, you know, I listened to all the podcasts of all the
33:00
greats and then I read all the books and I was doing doing all
33:07
the things that that, you know, that were told to me that, yeah,
33:13
if you do these things, then your life is going to change.
33:17
But my life wasn't changing. You know, I was just repeating
33:20
the same patterns and the same cycles.
33:22
And sure, maybe I made a little bit of changes here and there,
33:28
but essentially I was calling in all the same patterns in
33:32
relationships at my work and outside of work.
33:36
OK. And then I was like, why am I
33:39
not able to move the needle? I'm doing all the right things.
33:44
And then I got into, I got my coach and all the work that we
33:49
did together had nothing to do with doing anything.
33:54
There were no checklists to do. There were no exercises.
33:57
There were no anything. It was all about like I always
34:02
talk about looking at your beliefs, looking at how much
34:06
shame you are holding on to yourself.
34:09
We work on it in coaching and now embodiment happens the
34:13
moment you leave the coaching session.
34:17
So let's say we end our coaching session.
34:20
Now you have to go to work, Now you have to take a meeting.
34:24
Now you have to have a conversation with your friend.
34:26
Now you have to go on a date, maybe whatever the case is.
34:31
And that's where embodiment happen outside the coaching
34:35
session. Take what you learned, right?
34:39
Knowledge is just knowledge. Knowledge is actually not power.
34:42
Knowledge is just knowledge. Power is when you take the
34:45
knowledge and you actually apply it.
34:48
You can read a book. You can.
34:50
I've read Atomic Habits, right? Everybody I think has read that
34:53
book. It's a great book, love that
34:56
book. But you just read the book,
34:58
nothing's going to happen. You got to read the book, take
35:01
something out of the book and do it, apply it and then see it.
35:06
That's a very simple example, but with coaching it, OK, now
35:11
I'm in a meeting and am I going to speak up now?
35:15
Am I going to speak up? Am I going to face my fear and
35:18
maybe ask one question? Am I going to do something,
35:21
maybe just micro shift that is different than how I was
35:26
operating before? And let's say I do it, you know,
35:30
and let's say it doesn't. Let's say there was pin drop
35:33
silence in the meeting. Now I come back to my coaching
35:36
session the following week with my coach, and that's a win.
35:42
That's a win that I'm going to call out because I'm going to
35:45
say, you know what? I spoke up for the very first
35:48
time in a room full of leaders and nobody said anything.
35:52
But I don't care because I spoke up and I did the hard thing and
35:57
I faced my fear. And to me that's a win.
36:00
That's a huge win. I don't care what anybody else,
36:04
you know, I don't care what the outcome is.
36:06
I don't care what the outcome is.
36:07
But that was my win. And that is embodiment.
36:10
And then we practically do it once and then we start to do it
36:13
again, and then we start to do it again.
36:15
And then next thing you know, it's just a part of this is now
36:19
my life. This is who I am.
36:21
This is how we transform. Transformation is not some big
36:26
grand reveal red carpet. Look at me, I transformed.
36:30
Transformation happens through the small micro moment in the
36:34
shift. Even just listening to someone
36:37
where maybe before you didn't listen to me, there is a huge
36:42
win in shifting your way of being.
36:46
So many so many things that I could say, but these are just
36:49
some examples. I'm, I'm hearing you, girl.
36:51
I'm hearing you. I mean and, and what I'm really,
36:55
what I've taken in and and really learnt from you is that
36:58
this is not about performing at. All.
37:01
You know, I think we all go out there burning ourself out and
37:05
hustling like mofos just wonder why we're not achieving the big
37:11
thing and looking for the big, you know, Nirvana or the big pot
37:15
of gold on the other side. But we're really missing the
37:19
moment. And you know, when you come back
37:21
to your spirituality, 2 of what's really important in life,
37:27
I, I think that's when that full spring can really come from
37:32
within. And I can't wait to, to really
37:35
pick your brains in a moment and find out about, you know, all
37:41
these things, 'cause I know so many people in, in my community,
37:45
they're constantly putting things out there on their vision
37:47
boards. They're they're constantly the
37:51
goal that they can't achieve and then beating themselves up year
37:55
after year because they haven't got it.
37:58
But Vanessa is going to talk about that in just a moment.
38:01
However, I wanna just echo what you've said about, you know,
38:08
really living it, embodying it, becoming it and understanding
38:15
that success is not about the performance.
38:19
It is about the beingness and with or without the external
38:26
validation, which is what you just said.
38:28
So if you went to your boss and you laid your cards down on the
38:33
table and you spoke your truth, but then you didn't get your
38:37
way, that is when that's what you want, right?
38:42
Am I right in saying that? Absolutely yes.
38:46
That's amazing so honor the process, track the micro wins
38:51
and celebrate, you know the the growth daily.
38:55
So let's talk about now activating our identity and how
39:02
you help rewire people who are looking for their so-called
39:09
dream goal. But let's make a, a very big,
39:15
hard, arduous story and make it short and sweet and your
39:22
favorite word, which is simple. And I'll get open up on the
39:28
simplicity. And then it's bound on, you
39:33
know, what we're putting out there and why we've got it all
39:37
wrong. Mm Hmm.
39:39
Yeah, and I know you mentioned Neville Goddard.
39:43
He's, he's just a very fascinating man that I have
39:48
listened to over the years. And his teachings are just at
39:55
the end of the day, very simple. If you ever listen to him,
39:58
they're very simple, but it's very profound.
40:02
And you almost look at yourself and you wonder, you know?
40:07
It is actually very simple. All the things are very simple.
40:11
We make it complicated and you're here right now.
40:15
This is what I walked through with, you know, my clients, this
40:18
exercise of here's where you are right now and here's where you
40:22
desire to be, whatever that state is, your desired state.
40:26
And then it's a bridge that you know, the line between here and
40:31
here is the gap or whatever word you want to use.
40:34
I call it a bridge. And what's lying under that
40:37
bridge is all of your doubts, your worries, your
40:41
procrastination, your comparing, comparing yourself to others,
40:49
judgment, shame, guilt, perfectionism, tendencies.
40:54
I need to be busy in order to be productive.
40:57
All of these are lying in that bridge.
41:00
And so if you want to be here, this is nowhere far.
41:04
Like this is not weeks, months, years.
41:08
Oh, it'll take me years to get there.
41:10
No, no, like let's just squash that right now.
41:15
I changed my life within less than three months of me working
41:20
with my coach. Like literally the instant I
41:22
started working with her, I started to notice things shift
41:25
around me. So let's just squash the belief
41:28
that you have that says it needs to take a long time for you to
41:33
get to your desired state. It doesn't.
41:36
It doesn't need to take a long time.
41:37
That in itself is a belief that we can look at, right?
41:41
And really all the work that needs to be that that we do is
41:45
unlearning all of these things that we tell ourselves.
41:50
Of course, it's ingrained in us through our upbringing.
41:53
It's ingrained in us through society pressures through social
41:56
media now. And you almost don't know what
42:00
to believe, who to believe. And that in itself can feel
42:03
overwhelming. But everything is all if you
42:08
desire it, it is meant for you to have.
42:13
You cannot have a desire if it is not meant for it to be
42:17
available for you already. And that's the single biggest
42:22
thing that I carry with me every day.
42:25
And that's what keeps me going. Even if I don't see it tangibly
42:30
in my reality right now, that doesn't mean it's not available.
42:35
And this is where we connect from our earthly sort of logical
42:39
brain and we connect it to the spirituality, right?
42:45
And it's really looking at how big and how expensive this world
42:52
actually is. But our thinking sometimes is so
42:56
limited. You know, our thinking can be
42:58
like this. And when we do the work in
43:01
coaching, we expand the thinking.
43:04
So, you know, then your thinking becomes like this, like this.
43:08
And then next thing you know, oh, there are no limitations.
43:12
I started like this. I started like this thinking
43:15
that, oh, there's only one way to do this thing.
43:17
If I don't, if I don't do it this way, then it's not going to
43:22
work. Like, I don't know, there's no
43:24
other way. And now I'm literally here.
43:27
Now it's like, oh, you're going to tell me, no, it's OK.
43:30
It's going to come to me another way.
43:32
There is an infinite number of possibilities for me to do
43:36
whatever it is that I desire to do, and I have experienced
43:39
miracles in my life. I'm talking miracles of things
43:45
that I never thought were possible, and it just comes to
43:47
me in other ways because I'm open.
43:53
I'm detached from a specific outcome of the way it needs to
43:57
be. I don't force anymore.
44:02
I've learned to take action from an aligned place, not from a oh,
44:08
I need to do this because if I don't do it, then it won't
44:11
happen. And there's a chasing energy
44:15
inside of us. So it's not about doing less
44:19
doing more. It's not it's not not about any
44:22
of that. It's about your vibration and
44:25
the frequency that you pair with you everywhere you go.
44:29
So if I, I was in corporate and I was not a leader, I by title,
44:34
right, Like I was in a leader, I was at your what you call some
44:40
people call like the worker V level, the ground level,
44:42
whatever you want to call it. But I was sitting in rooms where
44:46
I was speaking up all because I started to open myself up and I
44:51
didn't care what anybody. I would just say things with
44:54
kindness, obviously. And I had people messaging me
44:58
who were at my level. They were messaging me and
45:00
saying thank you Vanessa, for saying this in this meeting.
45:04
Because nobody, nobody says this like us, like us meeting at my
45:08
level, right, Our level. Because only leaders say that
45:12
kind of stuff. Only leaders challenge the
45:15
status or say an opinion. Yes, yes.
45:21
And that is? That to me is a leader.
45:23
That is me embodying my leadership.
45:26
Exactly, exactly. Rather than limiting yourself
45:31
and, and, and you know, I feel that anybody that's listening to
45:36
this that really wants the true, true, true gold of
45:42
manifestation. If you haven't heard this entire
45:46
broadcast, you've got to listen to it because it, it goes, it
45:50
does the full circle of life, birth, death, to the way that we
45:56
look at every single element of our life, what meaning we give
46:01
it, where that meaning comes from, what that meaning actually
46:06
means to you, right through to the practice of embodiment.
46:12
And, you know, really celebrating those incremental
46:17
winds, echoing what this beautiful lady has just spoken
46:21
about right through to understanding that in actual
46:27
fact that when we are vibrating at an element where we know that
46:34
everything we desire is actually desiring us, it has that
46:40
wonderful element of turning things around.
46:43
And you know, I believe that brings me to, I feel that you've
46:47
answered that question beautifully as far as, OK, well,
46:51
maybe I'll challenge you as the last question here.
46:54
But you know, you have a person and they want the life that they
47:00
feel that they desire of maybe a majestic house and a majestic
47:05
partner. And you know, all of those
47:09
elements. What would you say to them?
47:13
I would say they came to me saying exactly that.
47:16
I would first get them to get clear on what is this majestic
47:21
life that you want? I would make them get clear on
47:25
give me some details of this. What does majestic you when you
47:30
are taking a relationship, what kind of relationship are you
47:34
looking for? Like give me details because I
47:38
think we all say I want love and I want money and I want, but
47:42
when I ask you how much money you want, you don't have a
47:46
number or you get something happens inside of you.
47:49
You're like, maybe this number is too much, maybe it's not
47:52
enough. Like can I say this number?
47:55
Like I've never asked for this number, you know, and we money
47:58
is a whole other topic that we can talk about, right?
48:02
But you notice that people say this.
48:04
I want to be successful and I always doubt what does success
48:06
mean to you? Yes.
48:09
I want love. What does love mean to you?
48:13
You know, so I think the first step.
48:15
What does? What does majestic mean?
48:17
I love the word, but what does it mean?
48:18
Because my definition of majestic is different from your
48:23
definition of majestic. And that's great, but we need to
48:26
get clear. If you are not clear, then how?
48:30
How will the universe listen? Because the universe is always
48:34
listening and all we all our job is to get clear on our what and
48:39
our why. What do I, what do I desire and
48:43
why do I desire it? For what purpose?
48:45
For what purpose in this big global space that we live in?
48:50
The how it needs to get done is not my problem.
48:54
The how is the universe's role. I just focus on my what and my
49:00
why. And if we really tap into that,
49:04
the how will work itself out. And I am living proof that this
49:08
is how it works. It does not mean that oh, I'm
49:11
just going to stay and now sit here and lie on the couch and
49:14
not do anything. That's not what that means.
49:17
It means that we Co create with the universe.
49:22
So I come with my part and the universe will bring will bring
49:26
its part and that is the connection.
49:29
It's a Co creation. We are Co creating with the
49:33
universe. And it's so beautiful when we go
49:36
down this path and we start to see things come into our reality
49:42
from this Co creation and then we see it and then we want to,
49:45
you know, be be in so deep gratitude.
49:49
I think gratitude is a practice that we can all get.
49:53
We can all practice at a deeper level.
49:55
It's not like, oh, I'm grateful for my family and my health and
49:58
sure, but tell me something you're grateful for that it's
50:01
not about your family, your friends, your pets, your, you
50:04
know, tell, tell me, tell me something deeper.
50:09
Are you grateful just for being? Are you grateful whether you
50:13
lose your job or, or you have a job?
50:15
Are you grateful if you're in a relationship or not in a
50:18
relationship? Do you really love yourself?
50:20
Like how grateful are you for this breath that is given to us
50:25
every moment of every single day?
50:29
That is absolutely beautiful. You know, you are definitely the
50:33
manifestation queen. I'm going to say that because
50:37
this is probably one of the deepest simplistic ways of
50:43
discovering, you know, the easiest and the most spiritual
50:48
way to really get what you want. And you know, the show just
50:53
wouldn't be the genius zone if I didn't ask this final question
50:57
because I know that you talk about speaking out.
51:02
So I'm just going to put that out there.
51:04
But if there was one last thing that you thought, oh, I would
51:09
have loved to have said that to that person who is really,
51:13
really needing to hear this. What would you say to them?
51:20
I would say that it really is not about what you are doing and
51:26
it's all about who you are being.
51:28
And I promise you that if you are feeling stuck right now in
51:31
your life for whatever reason, it's not because you're not
51:34
doing enough. It's not because you need to fix
51:38
yourself. It's not because you're broken.
51:40
It's not because you're not worthy and lovable or unwanted
51:44
or unvalued. It's none of those things.
51:49
And this is the work we do in coaching.
51:52
Yeah, that's that's. That's that is above coaching,
51:56
that's mentorship, that's thought.
51:59
This is this is what the genius zone is about.
52:02
It's it's not just about expounding on what we coach.
52:06
It's giving our audience the the real deepest gold Nuggets of why
52:13
it's such a good thing to do that.
52:16
And I just want to say from the very bottom of my heart, thank
52:20
you so very, very much for being on the genius side and being so
52:25
generous. And I just want to say, I know
52:29
that you do really advocate for speaking out as well about what
52:35
you want. So can we speak in any last
52:38
words on that one? Yeah, you know, really there is
52:42
nothing to be afraid of. And I, I look, look, I'm nobody
52:49
special. I say that all the time.
52:52
I don't have anything like special inside of me.
52:56
But I went from being this shy little girl all the way through
53:02
my 30s, still being shy and faking confidence and trying all
53:07
those fake it till you make it mumbo jumbo that you know, they,
53:11
they teach us. And I realized it's really not
53:14
about any of those things. And it's really about
53:17
discovering who you are and feeling back all the layers of
53:20
who you are. And then your voice is, will be
53:24
your most powerful asset. And it's not about voice that
53:28
like voice, I speak for the sake of speaking or let me be loud in
53:33
this room. It's not about that.
53:35
It's about I know who I am. I understand the value I bring
53:40
and my word and I speak from that place not to make anybody
53:45
listen to me or not to chase or not to look at me.
53:48
And you know, it's not about that.
53:50
That's not what we mean by voice.
53:52
I can just step into a room and my voice speaks without even me
53:55
speaking. It's my energetic voice, my
53:59
energetic, energetic. Voice, I love that.
54:02
Speak your truth and do it from the throat chakra.
54:06
Vanessa Pereira, thank you so much for being on the genius
54:11
side. Thank you so much.
54:13
This is such a great conversation to have.
54:16
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