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This Is How I Finally Got Out Of Survival Mode (I Didn’t Work Harder) · Business Energetics® with Lenka Lutonska

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  Welcome to the Business Energetics podcast where we dive deep into the new way of growing your business using the most powerful currency on the planet. Your energy, not effort alone. My name is Lenka Lutonska. I'm a creator of Business Energetics and bestselling author of Energetic Selling and Marketing. And after losing my first business, I went from £7.30 on my bank account to creating millions on repeat by doing what I love, using the power of energy.
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  And now I want to show you how to do the same. In each episode, we'll dive into the different aspects of your energy so you can activate the next level of your business, revenues, life and even that sense of aliveness. Welcome and let's dive into today's episode.
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  Hi my powerful one.
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  If we don't know each other, my name is Lanka Lutonska. I'm an author of Energetic Selling and Marketing and a founder of Business Energetics. And today I want to talk to that part of you which we all have. The aspect of us that struggles, the struggler in us, the one that is a little bit sometimes, perhaps even in survival mode where abundance doesn't exist. Because here's the thing. Before I started to quote unquote, make million or on repeats by doing what I love and before business energetics reach 180 plus countries, there was a period in my business and life where I truly was struggling. Where my normal was not enough, when my normal was a lack. Where I was waking up each morning with a knot in my stomach because I wasn't sure whether I will be able to pay bills. This period, even though it was roughly speaking, two years after I lost my first business, it felt like never ending. But there were certain things. Five decisions if you make or choices or changes. Five specific changes I made that made all the difference. That finally got me out of this struggle mode into abundance mode. This is not a very popular topic. Who wants to talk about struggle? Who wants to talk about lack? Who wants to talk about hardship? But you know what? It doesn't matter where you are in life and in your business.
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  We all sometimes find it hard or we all sometimes find ourselves struggling for something. So yes, I want to talk to that aspect of you today and help you to really get out, finally get out of struggle mode and get yourself into a lot more abundance mode and a lot more flow mode. Okay, So change number one that had to happen was this.
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  I simply stopped tolerating playing small and I declared who I am. Let me explain. There's a story behind it. I will share a Few stories from my past. I always wanted to coach people, and I been a coach forever and ever. I studied coaching to the highest level. I was training others to. I love, love, love coaching. But at that time, at that two year period of struggling, I had hardly any coaching clients. And I remember literally crying out of pain because I wanted to serve so much. And anyway, so when I had some client, oh my goodness, I was so grateful and I invited this particular client to a local hotel and we had afternoon coffee together and she was receiving intensive coaching. And it was amazing. At the end of this coaching intensive, I asked a waiter to take a picture of us for a memory. And later on, when I looked at that picture on my phone, when I was going to send it to my dear client, that picture touched something deep inside of me and made me realize, oh my goodness, how I've been playing small. You see, on that picture you can see my client standing tall and you can see me next to her shrinking, closing my body language, accommodating her bigness and me making myself smaller. So I was clouching a little bit. I was essentially with my body making myself smaller than I am. So it looked like I was the one who really, really needed confidence coaching. And that picture really showed me so clearly, wow, Lenka, you really are thinking small. And when you think small, that translates into absolutely everything, including how you carry yourself, how you take pictures.
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  So that was a very, very powerful moment in my entrepreneurial journey and one of those big change moments that got me out of that struggle into abundance. Because I told myself, no longer am I going to tolerate playing small effort. Like literally, eff it, I'm no longer available to it. I'm declaring myself to be a world class, world renowned coach. So that was essentially a moment of my own identity shift where I literally refused to see myself as the one who struggles, as the one who doesn't have enough money, as the one who this, this and that. And I simply told myself, this is who I am. Full circle. Stop. That was a very powerful moment that led me to, of course, make many courageous changes, physical changes and choices and decisions and actions. But that was the moment when really, really everything changed. Because I told myself, no more. And you know what? That picture showed me that I really was settling for smallness, for playing small. And that's so common amongst even the most powerful change makers, leaders and entrepreneurs. We simply settle for being small, for playing small, because we believe circumstances do not allow us otherwise. And so because that picture was painful, it was painful to see myself like that on the picture and it, and it was painful to see the other costs of playing small, such as the daily struggle, such as this or that. So I simply told my myself, no more, no more playing small. I'm not small. I'm a world renowned coach. And from now I'm going to make choices that match that identity, even if it scares me. And in fact that was the change number two that led me to finally got out of that struggle and not enough mode and into abundance. And that was that. I started to make choices out of my vision rather than my current choice circumstances, out of my bigness, out of my declared identity, who I am, world renowned coach, rather than my current self, rather than out of my fear. Because there's always these two aspects of us, two parts of us. One I call this aspect of us little human, which of course includes our programmed subconscious mind. And it includes all of our past decisions, past experiences, all that we know. So our little human, or if you like, ego, mind, identity, will always try to protect ourselves, protect its sense of identity. Stay where you are, stay where you are, stay where you are. It's safe. So this aspect of ourselves does not like, quote unquote risk, doesn't like big changes, doesn't like big leaps and so forth and so forth. That's how we're wired physically, neurologically, psychologically. But each and every one of us will have the bigger part of ourselves. That inner voice that whispers to us, hey my darling, you can be this, you can have this, you can do this. Something bigger, something more meaningful. Trust it, trust it, trust it. It goes without saying that that moment when I stopped settling for playing small and declared myself a world renowned coach, I started to make far bigger courageous choices, decisions and actions that were vision based, not fear based. For instance, one of those choices was completely shut down. My only source of income, which at the time were a few offline entrepreneurial groups, like a networking mastermind groups. And I closed it all because I declared who I am. I'm a world renowned international coach, a global coach. So no longer I'm going to quote, unquote, play in my backyard. I'm opening myself globally. Was it scary? Oh my goodness, it was so, so scary. I didn't have just myself, I had my young family at the time, we had two boys. My husband was on a very, very modest salary, which just wasn't enough.
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  And those little entrepreneurial networking groups were giving me this little income, but that's all I had. So it was incredibly scary to shut it down and go Online. In fact, I just opened a Facebook group and I said, hey, here I am, I'm a global international coach.
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  It was a huge leap of faith for me. But that was example how I started to make choices out of my vision, out of the new identity rather than my current circumstances, my little human and of course fear. A big change number three was this.
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  I started to take my vision, my desire as universal guidance rather than fantasy. That helped me so, so much to actually start making those courageous, big bold vision based choices.
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  And there is a story behind it. I was at certain point driving home from number million and one or it felt like million and one networking event where I was speaking and during that talk I was speaking to others on a stage. How I can help you with X and how I can help you with Y and how amazing coach I am and this and that. So successful Persona on a stage. And when I got off the stage, I heard it all again, like it was amazing. You're so inspirational. But really I walked away with zero. Business as usual. And as I was driving home, oh my goodness, I cried again. The struggle in me just cried because I literally was asking God, what does it actually take? I work so, so hard and I'm so dedicated. I'm so committed to rebuild my business and to actually do what I love. I'm not asking for much. I just want to earn good money by doing what I love, by doing what I'm good at, by using my gifts. So what does it actually take? And maybe at this point, maybe it's not meant for me. Maybe what I'm imagining in my mind running this incred events, having this amazing company, maybe it's just a fantasy. Maybe it's not meant for me because if it was, I would already leave it. Maybe there is something seriously wrong with me. What is wrong with me? I was crying my eyes out. And in that moment of desperation, I cannot describe it any differently than hearing inside of me divine voice or message, call it what you like. And it said this Lanka, I would never ever plant a desire in your heart if you were not meant to live it.
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  In other words, it's in that moment when I understood viscerally, not just cognitively, that desires that we carry in our hearts are voices of our souls showing us who we are meant to be. They're showing us these authentic desires, expanding our hearts who we are meant to become next. There are our future identity markers. There are our doors through which we need to walk. I declare this is who I am. I declare this is who I am. And that's how the universe will be able to express itself through us the way it's meant to. I learned in that moment, viscerally with my full body, that the desire is how the universe wants to express itself through me right now. And I started to trust it, you know, I started to trust the knowing that if I truly desire it is not just because I selfishly want it. It's not just because I think it will be easier or whatever it might be. It's not just a matter of maybe, it's not just a matter of will it happen or not.
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  I took it as inevitability. It's something that was more true than what I see with my physical eyes now. And that changed of course, everything because it's that would help me to practice that courage and take those bold choices. It's that what helped me to really go. You know what? That little income I have, I'm letting it go because I'm opening myself to so much more. It's that what helped me to follow that internal guidance. This is the next choice, this is the next alliance. This is the next decision and action that will help you to focus, fully become who you're meant to be. So I'm here today, lovingly remind you yet again that which you feel in your heart and you truly desire it. It's not random, it's not just a fragment of your imagination or it's not just selfish desire. This is the voice of the God of universe within you, your soul, whispering to you, this is who you're meant to be. This is what you're meant to have. This is what you're meant to do. And my question to you is what possibilities are opening up in front of you if you allow yourself to believe this. Change number four that was so essential for me to finally collapse, struggle and get into abundance was this one. I stopped letting my inner victim lead again. I will share a story with you.
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  You may or may not know that what led to my first business collapse was business partner and a mentor who essentially was a corporate psychopath. And in a space of few months, he ripped me of my first business. And I found myself at the bottom of the bottom. It's unfortunate, of course, and this is what caused those two long years of struggle. During those two years I kept of course, sharing with my friends and with whoever would listen, how this pastor robbed me of my beloved business. And where could I be if that didn't happen to be. And I just wish my business was where it was before that would be enough. And, and so on and so on and so on. And one of my dear friends, she listened, she patiently listened and she would listen again and again. And then when she would listen to the same thing, I don't know how many times, one time she said, lenka, but are you not tired of that story?
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  Because I've heard this story I don't know how many times. By now I'm getting really tired of it. Are you not tired of it? Who wrote it? It's you.
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  And at that moment I thought it's true.
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  I, you see, didn't want to admit that I got my victim very active. Nobody wants to acknowledge it, but it was true. It was the victim within me that was for almost two years blaming the lack of my success on the loss of my business because of that bastard.
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  Do I think I had zero right to complain? No. In fact, I think it's very, very healthy to let our inner victim, the one that's suffers to speak. Today I do teach energetic alchemy and part of it is letting our inner victim express herself himself fully. However, I let my inner victim for two years make choices and stop me from rebuilding my business or building a brand new business on a new foundation. Because I remember these thoughts. Oh, if I only could be where I was before, that would be enough. I could move on. If I only have as much money as I had before, I would have enough to get this software. I remember I wanted this software, infusionsoft and it was quite costly for me at the time and I couldn't afford it. And I thought if I only could, that that infusionsoft that would help me to grow my business.
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  But I can't afford it because of him. Well, let me tell you, no software can ever grow anyone's business. In fact, later on I got that infusion soft and got rid of it after all, because it's not software, it's not external person, it's not anything that can make us grow our business or get us out of our current situation. If you don't like it, it's none of that. It's us, our identity, how we see ourselves. And throughout the time, yes, I still saw myself as victim of someone else. And I saw myself powerless, full stop.
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  So in that moment where I realized, oh my goodness, I've got to stop doing this and blaming that one person for all of my lack of success.
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  So that was the moment where I finally took more responsibility and started to self empower myself. And of course that made all the difference and finally, the fifth change that made all the difference and helped me to collapse that struggle and get into abundance is this. I started to ask and allow support to the point of my discomfort.
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  Let me explain. Up till that point because of all the combination of factors including I thought I couldn't afford it and when my business will have that much money as before then I will be able to offer this etc etc.
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  I did not have anyone supporting me in my business. I didn't have a mentor, I didn't have an assistant, I didn't have a cleaner at home. I didn't have any support around me because I couldn't afford it. And when this series of moments happened, me driving in a car and getting the message viscerally that desire in your heart is there for a reason. When my friend reminded me to stop letting my inner victim lead, when my client on that picture reminded me to stop playing small, of course I started started to make different choices and one of those was I'm not doing this alone, I deserve the best support I can get. So I started to really stretch myself to the point of what I now call divine discomfort to ask for support. So first it was, oh my goodness. I remember how deeply uncomfortable it was for me. I started to call past clients and I asked them essentially if they have recommendation for anyone who is looking for coaching or training, the services that I could provide, if they know anyone, if they could recommend me to anyone. I felt so deeply uncomfortable to do that because I thought oh my goodness, what they're going to think of me. They're going to think I'm desperate, they're going to think I'm in luck. Well guess what, I was desperate and I was in lack. But the point is I really started to practice the asking muscle and guess what? I had so much response from my clients even if they couldn't help me, they gave me encouraging words and some of them recommended me to other people. It did lead to more business but that was just one way how I was really, really stretching my asking muscle and my support muscle. Then I hired my first coach for the money I thought I don't have. All the while there was a credit card with the funds available. But because I was struggling financially anyway, I told myself no way I'm going to get myself into debt. So I cut that credit card. So I used that money on that credit card to get myself a first mentor. I resonated, resonated with, got myself into that energy of thinking big into that, into that community. Oh my goodness, did that help Me massively, massively. I got return on investment back very, very quickly. I went and hired my first assistants, in fact two assistants in a matter of few months again to the point where I was feeling uncomfort a cleaner. So I felt like oh my goodness, but can I afford it? I can't afford it. Well I told myself no, I can't afford it. It's a mindset and I'm while I'm paying my support, I'm going to really focus on activities that actually create money, that actually create clients. So I was practicing again, more asking and selling. So I was practicing with my humble, humble heart, picking the phone, calling people, asking for business, offering my services, writing newsletters and so forth and so forth while claiming more support, asking for more support, allowing myself more support to the point of discomfort. Huge, huge difference. This allowing myself to be supported really led me from there from those humble beginnings all the way to running this incredible international business and making business energetics. What is it today?
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  And I still, even today I'm always asking myself, am I supported as powerfully as I can or am I holding back somewhere? Am I falling back into oh, I can do this myself or I don't need more support? I always check on this because it's so very easy to fall into what I call prostitute archetype pattern where we want to do it all ourselves because we'll do it better because we can't afford it because blah blah blah blah because there is no need. But you see the most incredible limitless success and abundance is not built on isolation, is not built on proving and I've got to do it myself. It's not, it's a co creation, co creation with the universe within and co creation with all the support that is available to you. We just got to learn to claim it and that sometimes is divinely uncomfortable. So with that I will close this video by inviting you to check on your current level of support.
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  Are you supported as powerfully as you deserve? Look at your support at home and look at your professional support. And what about your business and energetic support? Is it as powerful as it's meant to be? If not, you know where to go. This is what the Business Energetics Collective and Business Energetics Academy is for in Business Energetics Collective, which is our membership based community, the global heartbeat of Business Energetics. I run monthly activations around the six pillars of Business Energetics that will help you to activate your next level of income, impact, abundance and that self of yours that you're meant to be inside of. Business Energetics Academy and its three core pathways. You do the full work the Business Energetics in its fullness so you can become a full reflection of it and let every aspect of your business and life reflect it. I have a little news if you haven't heard yet. I'm so pleased to say that one of our programs, the final pathway of Business Energetics Academy, Limitless Millionaire has just been accredited by Coaching Association. Meaning that if you would love to receive a professional accredited diploma in Business Energetics, yes you can absolutely do that as part of Limitless Millionaire program.
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  But most powerful change makers, leaders, CEOs and women and men like you are not inside of Business Energetics Academy for the purpose of accreditation. But simply put, they know they deserve the most powerful support when it comes to their energy and who they are. And they deserve the most powerful knowledge how to work with their energy which is the most powerful currency on this planet and how to let it work miracles through all the veil veins of your business and life.
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  So I invite you to explore Business Energetics Academy. We have an introduction webinar around the different pathways and what Business Energetics really is. You can check the link in the description below. And for now I'm sending so much love your way and I want to hear from you. Which of these five things are whispering to you. Hey listen to me, adopt me, change this, let me know. And oh guess what, I have an idea for follow up on this video where I would share my tips, what to do when things feel hard, what tools I personally used when I found things like this is really really hard in the moments or in the moments or periods of hardship because that too is a part of a healthy entrepreneurship and development. So let me know if you would like that video. Again, not very popular topic but I'm here to serve you. So if that's you would like, let me know in the comments below. All right. So much love your way for now and I'll see you next time.