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Season 3 - Episode 18 - You are a part of a puzzle · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about the fact that we have a sometimes a
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  self-imposed sense of everything is about us.
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  You know, like we're we think it's you know, part of our
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  questioning in our minds is always comes back to what does
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  this mean to me? Because we are all
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  self-centered, we have to be in order to survive.
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  That's just the human brain. We're never going to get past
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  that. It's our condition to be safe
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  and we have to understand that that's part of it.
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  So when it comes down to being part of a team, when you come
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  down to saying, OK, I'm part of a family, I'm part of a couple,
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  I'm part of a business, I'm part of an executive team, a
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  leadership team, whatever it is, the keyword in this all is part.
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  You are part of something. You are not the whole of
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  something. You are part of something.
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  And that is a huge problem because most of us operate from,
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  we are not just part of it, it's all about us.
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  So that's why we get so worked up about the fact that when
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  we're part of something and some pieces of it are not working the
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  way we want it to work. Meaning you're on a team.
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  Actually, let's use the example of going back to like 7th grade.
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  When you're in 7th grade, 8th grade, you're in a Group, A
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  science group, you get assigned and right away you feel
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  overwhelmed because you know there are people in this group
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  that are not necessarily going to work at the level you're
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  working out. We've all had that experience
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  and we all know it's like I'm going to do all the work and
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  this person is not going to do any of it.
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  And this really is part of where another trigger in this process
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  is. Because if you're part of the
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  team and you know part of the team is going to lack and you
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  still want the outcome, you start to pick up all the slack.
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  You start to make sure the outcome is going to happen.
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  And before you know it, you're frustrated as hell that you know
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  you're not getting the accolades maybe or you're not getting and
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  you have to share the accolades. So understand that's part of a
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  trigger that's been wired into US ever since we were kids.
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  Now Fast forward to where we are and understanding that you are
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  part of a team, you are part of a puzzle.
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  You are not the whole puzzle when it comes to everything.
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  Now you yourself are a whole puzzle to put together, but when
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  you are part of something, you are a just a part of the puzzle.
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  And it's important to remember that you don't have to take on
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  all of the duties, all of the activities, all of the thoughts
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  of that bigger piece, a bigger puzzle that you are essentially
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  taking part in. And this is where we get so hung
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  up, because especially those of us that are very certainty
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  driven and want certain outcomes, we just will work
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  ourselves up because we know we see pitfalls, we see all these
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  things that could potentially go wrong.
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  We see better ideas, different directions.
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  But it this all leads back to you can't care more than the
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  person who owns the puzzle, the people in charge, and you are
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  just part of it. So there are times when you can
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  share and there are times when you just have to surrender to
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  the process. And this is probably the hardest
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  thing that I have ever, ever had to learn in my world is when I
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  am part of something, I have to remember my puzzle.
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  My totality of my puzzle can come to their puzzle, but then
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  it becomes part of it. And I am not going to be able to
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  shift those who do not want to be shifted.
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  If they're asking for help, great.
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  Do I have, Am I requiring them to say you have to use my help?
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  I used to and I was always frustrated.
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  I was always pissed off. I always had these Oh my gosh,
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  why won't they listen? What is the issue?
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  It's right in front of you. But maybe their lesson is they
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  have to suffer in order to learn.
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  Maybe their lesson is that they have to have these incidents go
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  wrong so that then they can make a decision about what they want
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  to do next. Some people really do, My
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  friends have to crash and burn before they say, OK, there's a
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  different approach here. There was a different way to do
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  this here. Or maybe I am following false
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  prophets and I am not listening to the people that I should be
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  listening to. Because there are a lot of false
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  prophets out there and they will try to steer you wrong.
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  And it's your job to really sift through the information and
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  decide what resonates in your soul, in your gut, as if you
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  feel something off, pay attention to it.
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  If you know something's not a great idea, stay away from it.
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  If you feel like, oh, I can't even put my finger on it,
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  remember there's a reason. So keep in mind you are part of
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  a puzzle when you are working together.
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  You do your part and you do your part well.
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  And that's the part I really want to focus on right now for
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  the end. I want you guys to recognize
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  when you are part of a puzzle, don't stress yourself out about
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  the whole puzzle. Stress your put the stress on
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  the fact that you want to do the best you can do for the what
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  you're supposed to be focused on.
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  And then you can walk away with your head held high knowing
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  well, I did my part. I shared everything that I
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  possibly could. But I refuse to take on the
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  stress of everything else and add it to me when I had no
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  control over it. Hear what I just said?
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  You had no control over it, so why put that stress on yourself?
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  Very important piece, extremely important piece.
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  Please hear what I say because this is the biggest part of what
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  I talk to people about all the time is that they can see
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  something happening and no one will take action.
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  And This is why you have to separate yourself and say, I am
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  only part of this puzzle. I am not the whole puzzle.
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  My part looks perfectly put together.
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  My pieces have been done the right way.
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  I have put myself under the right conditions to thrive in
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  that. And if it doesn't work with the
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  rest of it, that's because the rest of it is not working.
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  So hopefully this is helpful and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a very blessed day. Bye.