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EP355: Albert Bramante - From Brain Deficient To PhD · Respark Your Life

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  Speaker 1: What is some evidence of that feeling okay you say you feel like a fraud have other people told that will now okay well very often when we get constructive criticism we exaggerated we have a tendency of delete distort and generalize.
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  Speaker 2: I bring you stealth wisdom from people you'd never find out about. That's my genius and whom
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  Speaker 2: you today, another person who's one when I tell you his name,
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  Speaker 2: you'll say, who's that? But 20 minutes from now, you'll be in
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  Speaker 2: love with him. And you'll be much illuminated and enwisened.
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  Speaker 2: And here is Albert Bramante. He Hi. I'm glad you're here to
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  Speaker 2: hear my intro. Okay. Okay. He helps performers, educators and
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  Speaker 2: and creators unlock their potential
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  Speaker 2: by blending psychology, performance strategies,
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  Speaker 2: and artificial intelligence to fuel unstoppable momentum.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: With 20 years at the crossroads of entertainment
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  Speaker 2: and a higher education,
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  Speaker 2: he has coached actors to land life-changing roles,
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  Speaker 2: mentored students to become high-performing professionals,
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  Speaker 2: and develop systems that help people break through fear,
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  Speaker 2: imposter syndrome, and self-sabotage.
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  Speaker 2: As the CEO of Bramante Artists,
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  Speaker 2: he represents a diverse talent roster
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  Speaker 2: working across Broadway, film, television,
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  Speaker 2: commercials, and print.
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  Speaker 2: He doesn't just book roles, he builds careers
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  Speaker 2: using psychology, insights, and industry strategy
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  Speaker 2: strategy, he helps talent, that's you, develop long-term purpose-driven success.
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  Speaker 2: Wow!
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  Speaker 2: Wow!
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  Speaker 2: So, Albert, are you going to be able to live up to all of that?
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  Speaker 1: >> ALBERT: I sure hope so.
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  Speaker 1: That was a stellar introduction.
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  Speaker 2: >> CHANIN: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: So, let's get started.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get started with the how you got into this.
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  Speaker 2: So, did something happen to you when you were a kid?
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  Speaker 2: Did some parent say that you'll never amount to anything?
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  Speaker 2: Did some teachers say that you'll never succeed?
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  Speaker 2: And then you struggled against that and succeeded?
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  Speaker 2: What was the genesis?
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  Speaker 1: - It was actually a combination of a lot of things.
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  Speaker 1: So when I was born, I was born premature baby.
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  Speaker 1: So I had a lot of, I'd say the first few years of my life,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of health problems, a lot of health issues.
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  Speaker 1: And more chronic pneumonia.
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  Speaker 1: I was in intensive physical and occupational therapy
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  Speaker 1: 'cause I had trouble walking.
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  Speaker 1: I had trouble communicating.
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  Speaker 1: And the doctors kind of told my parents
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  Speaker 1: not to have much hope for me.
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  Speaker 1: This was back in the late '70s, early '80s.
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  Speaker 1: Did not have much hope for me in that.
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  Speaker 1: If I was lucky, I would pass the mentality of a 10-year-old.
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  Speaker 1: - Ouch.
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  Speaker 1: - So thankfully I had parents who didn't give up on me.
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  Speaker 1: they didn't listen to the doctors.
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  Speaker 1: And I thanked them for that.
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  Speaker 1: I also had a couple of teachers that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, in kindergarten as well as when I was
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  Speaker 1: in seventh grade, kind of almost said the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you should look into like special ed,
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  Speaker 1: you should look into, you know, I still,
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  Speaker 1: my seventh grade teacher was kind of like the driving force.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I was removed from her class immediately afterwards,
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  Speaker 1: but she had told my parents, you know,
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  Speaker 1: that I should be in a self-contained classroom.
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  Speaker 1: 'Cause at this time we were in junior high,
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  Speaker 1: which is a transfer into classes.
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  Speaker 1: So she told my parents that I should go on a special individual class
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  Speaker 1: for because I was lower of the lowest.
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  Speaker 1: Geez. So that was kind of like the driving force for not only just for her,
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  Speaker 1: but even for me, or it's like I've got to be the high achiever.
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  Speaker 1: And it really wasn't until high school where I woke up, so to speak,
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  Speaker 1: because I was always like a B.C. student.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't a fail. I didn't fail in the classes,
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  Speaker 1: But I never was really the high achiever up until my junior year in high school
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  Speaker 1: to where I just woke up and I went from pretty much overnight
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  Speaker 1: for my B's and C's to straight A's. Wow.
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  Speaker 1: And and it was really an amazing achievement.
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  Speaker 1: And then my senior year in high school, I was in honors classes,
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  Speaker 1: pretty much the honors track and straight A's.
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  Speaker 1: And I was in college prep classes.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember at the which really felt good.
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  Speaker 1: I sent a copy of my transcripts of my senior year
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  Speaker 1: and with the highlight of the honors class and I just read ace
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  Speaker 1: and sent it to my seventh grade teacher and to my doc
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  Speaker 1: doctors at the time and thank them for their support.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. But I also, you know, and in the sense
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  Speaker 1: it was sarcastic and not sarcastic because their motivation kind of helped me to.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Really prove them wrong.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. That's a tough story.
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  Speaker 1: And yeah, so I think ever since then, I was like, I'm just going to prove to myself.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't want to say I was like totally 100% motivated and proven them wrong.
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  Speaker 1: I was also proving to myself that I can do this.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why I went to college, graduate with honors
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  Speaker 1: and then went for a master's and then, you know, and then to my doctorate.
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  Speaker 1: So just to kind of show like, look, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: and I'm the first person in my family and my immediate family to go to college.
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  Speaker 1: I only go to college, but I have a doctor.
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  Speaker 1: So it's an amazing achievement.
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  Speaker 1: But yes, I was motivated by, you know, personal experiences.
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  Speaker 2: OK, so that's an amazing story in itself.
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  Speaker 2: But let's see what you did with it.
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  Speaker 2: I want to talk about the imposter syndrome,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm sure my clients know what it means.
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  Speaker 2: It means that on the outside, but inside, you feel like you're worthless.
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  Speaker 2: And a friend of mine makes her living coaching people on getting rid of negative beliefs.
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  Speaker 2: And she coaches lots of people in C-suites, like CEO, CFO, in Fortune 500, Fortune 100, Fortune 10
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  Speaker 2: companies. And no matter how much these C-suite executives earn, like $5 million a month,
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  Speaker 2: no matter how much they earn on salary, they always confide in her. If only the board of
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  Speaker 2: directors knew that the stock went up because of what the previous CEO did, or the product
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  Speaker 2: would have sold on its own. It wasn't my idea. They always have some excuse for why they're
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  Speaker 2: so successful, but they don't take credit for it because they don't believe it.
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  Speaker 2: So how prevalent in your experience is the imposter syndrome amongst successful people and what do you do how do you help them how do you clean up this inner garbage.
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  Speaker 1: Well and it's true and it's very often very multi layered so the one thing i will say i think is a misconception of imposter syndrome high achievers often have imposter syndrome peak performers often have.
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  Speaker 1: Imposter syndrome and sometimes can be driving force so the first thing i would say is it's a normal process i think it's not.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really like the fact that steam and i sometimes it's a problem it is it can only back but it's also.
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  Speaker 1: No i don't want my whole thing that i want to be stigmatized it's a actual process we go through so i can reframe the look you're growing you're changing your growing your and this is no part of things to fear.
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  Speaker 1: And then to kind of move past it where it's not going to hold you back.
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  Speaker 1: Let's look at your previous achievements.
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  Speaker 1: You know, even for myself, because I've, I've, you know, and, and, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I was off.
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  Speaker 1: I joke about those hair replacement commercials where they say, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: only president, I'm a client.
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  Speaker 1: So I have my own, you know,
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  Speaker 1: have my own imposter syndrome a lot of times too,
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  Speaker 1: where I was basically hearing these messages of at times.
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  Speaker 1: of, you know, maybe this isn't for you or and they were self imposed.
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  Speaker 1: So what I do for what helped me
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  Speaker 1: is looking at my previous achievements.
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  Speaker 1: So one thing I would do is, you know, work with someone, say, go, what?
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about your past.
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  Speaker 1: What have you done?
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  Speaker 1: You know, and well, I graduated high school.
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  Speaker 1: That's a great thing.
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  Speaker 1: I graduate where I graduated from college.
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  Speaker 1: I went to trade school. That's great.
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  Speaker 1: And so you work on the previous achievements and then look how far you've come now.
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  Speaker 1: If you were necessarily that way, you know that, you know, a fraud or what, you know, or,
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  Speaker 1: you know, not that deserving of it, look at what you come.
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  Speaker 1: Look how far you've come.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the first thing that I would really say is like, take a look at that
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  Speaker 1: and take actions because small actions can actually help you get to your goal.
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  Speaker 1: So and then I would also kind of ask, what is some evidence of that of that feeling?
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  Speaker 1: OK, you say you feel like a fraud.
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  Speaker 1: Have other people told you that? Well, no. OK, well,
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  Speaker 1: I'm also someone like, no.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, and and and then even if someone said,
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  Speaker 1: well, I get criticized in the past or OK, well, what was it about?
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  Speaker 1: Because very often when we get even critical feedback
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  Speaker 1: or what they call constructive criticism, it's very often exact.
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  Speaker 1: We exaggerated.
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  Speaker 1: We have a tendency of our mind to delete, distort, and generalize.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: So by deleting, we take out the good things that we've done, which is
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  Speaker 1: what really Imposter Syndrome is all about.
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  Speaker 1: We're deleting the previous achievements that we had.
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  Speaker 1: We distort, so we may distort things by distorting, you know,
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  Speaker 1: someone says that critical remark.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, we will just, well, that doesn't mean they don't like me.
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  Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that that means my work is inadequate.
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  Speaker 1: Well, did they say that?
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  Speaker 1: And most of them said, well, no.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, why are you internalizing it like that?
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  Speaker 1: So that's part of it.
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  Speaker 1: That's part of that too.
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  Speaker 1: And then generalization, we generalize.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I can't do anything right.
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  Speaker 1: And then usually I'll sit there and analyze it.
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  Speaker 1: You mean everything, anything?
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  Speaker 1: Or it's like, I'll never, no interviewer's gonna like me.
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  Speaker 1: See, you've interviewed with everybody on the planet
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  Speaker 1: and they don't, you know?
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of times I'll laugh and say, "No, that's silly."
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  Speaker 1: So we general, you know, it's getting rid of that deletion,
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  Speaker 1: just fortune and generalization.
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  Speaker 2: - Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Well, maybe you can help me.
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  Speaker 2: I have been successful on stage every minute for 42 years.
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  Speaker 2: I'm one of the highest income earners on stage now by Zoom.
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  Speaker 2: And I teach great principles, great workshops.
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  Speaker 2: My test, I have a mountain of testimonials.
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  Speaker 2: I earn well, but most important, my clients love me.
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  Speaker 2: I have a hundred thousand clients who love me.
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  Speaker 2: But Albert, when I get a letter,
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  Speaker 2: like a handwritten letter in the mail through my office,
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  Speaker 2: I say, "Oh no, it's a lawsuit.
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  Speaker 2: "Oh no, they hate me.
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  Speaker 2: "Oh no, they're gonna demand their money back.
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  Speaker 2: What have I done wrong?
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  Speaker 2: And I have evolved enough to laugh at it,
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  Speaker 2: to say, oh, for gosh sakes, Raymond,
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  Speaker 2: you've said that a million times before,
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  Speaker 2: and it's always a glowing testimonial.
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  Speaker 2: And that calms me down a lot.
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  Speaker 2: But I still say, well, let's just check inside the envelope
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  Speaker 2: to see.
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  Speaker 2: And so it's not all-consuming.
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  Speaker 2: It's not gigantic.
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  Speaker 2: It's tiny.
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  Speaker 2: But damn it, Albert, it's still a little bit there.
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  Speaker 2: When I get a handful of I don't say, oh, yippee, another testimonial.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I would just say, like, rather than saying, look, OK,
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  Speaker 1: just just go with the mind. So let's see what this is.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what's in the end a little first and then we'll worry about it.
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  Speaker 1: Could be a testimony.
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  Speaker 1: It could be an advertisement.
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  Speaker 1: It could be a spam mail message.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you don't know that. Right.
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  Speaker 1: And so I would just go back, look, look, this will be what it is.
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  Speaker 1: I got I got five letters in the mail.
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  Speaker 1: Let's see what these five are.
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  Speaker 2: And then worry later. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that's good. Worry later. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Right. OK, good. That's very good.
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  Speaker 2: Now, I want you to tell me your most interesting
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  Speaker 2: coaching client experience, coaching experience of the client.
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  Speaker 1: I would say just watching people have breakthroughs is really important.
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  Speaker 1: So I was working, you know, because I work I represent actors as an agent.
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  Speaker 1: So even though I wasn't this person wasn't really a paying coaching client of mine,
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  Speaker 1: I was also unofficially coaching.
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  Speaker 1: But I do that a lot with with my acting clients and an unofficial capacity.
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  Speaker 1: So there was this one client who I have
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  Speaker 1: Wonderful lady, very nice, very, very in her life.
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  Speaker 1: When you speak to her, she has a gravitas towards her.
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  Speaker 1: That's strong and powerful.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, my car.
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  Speaker 1: She has a gold, but she's strong and powerful in her acting and performing work.
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  Speaker 1: She was very meek and soft spoken.
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  Speaker 1: Uh huh. So and
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  Speaker 1: it almost like playing very small, like hiding in a corner,
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  Speaker 1: even when she's performing.
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  Speaker 1: And throughout time i was like what can you personal power when you speak when you're not on camera you're not performing your powerful because she was actually a.
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  Speaker 1: She worked for a major company she was like in a high rank in the purchasing department in addition to being an actress but she was a very powerful.
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  Speaker 1: You know her very powerful persona to her when she was not so.
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  Speaker 1: Let's take that to the rules you playing let's take transform that persona to the world you play and.
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  Speaker 1: Add this time she really tell me but when when this was happening in beginning of the shoes contemplating giving up your shirt good corporate job.
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  Speaker 1: Make great money but was just not making what acting didn't book anything for nine or ten years straight and by all metrics you might even consider that might be understandable walk away.
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  Speaker 1: They have a great job there successful in their job but it's not the acting was working out.
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  Speaker 1: So let's just try this i said what the worst second happen is two years from now we're gonna be the same position.
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  Speaker 1: get a great job i said so let's try something different and through time to coaxing working in conjunction with her acting coach let's try out this distant persona so.
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  Speaker 1: Few months after doing this she went on your first major tv audition for the netflix series oranges new black and she wound up getting the role.
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  Speaker 1: Wow a month later she got an audition for CBS show FBI.
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  Speaker 1: A small role planted that role wow you later on or as for you landed that role so it was an amazing process.
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  Speaker 1: Add when i was hooked to touch so that's emotional like reflecting on it like how powerful just a little shift can be,
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  Speaker 1: Add one of the premises my book is that they all are all worth enemy is staring at a thousand a year a lot of times it's not other people it's ourselves haha wow i love your question.
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  Speaker 2: Do other people actually notice that you have the imposter syndrome inside.
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  Speaker 2: i can other people actually said that you're worthless or that you don't deserve it and when they say no it's hard to keep the imposter syndrome when no one notices that yeah that is fast.
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  Speaker 1: It's like i can't do anything right you mean anything did you get dressed today did you get well.
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  Speaker 1: Or you know even even in the relating to like you know they go on 5 interviews.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody likes me. I'm like nobody. Nobody likes you. That's wonderful.
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  Speaker 1: And because we have a generally tendency to generalize this, you know, goes back to deletion, distortion, generalization.
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  Speaker 1: We delete, you know, important information, we distort and we generalize.
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  Speaker 1: One or two experiences to make it the whole thing.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I loved your example of
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  Speaker 2: Changing a small thing with your client who wanted to be an act and suddenly everything changed
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  Speaker 2: That's so wonderful. That's so wonderful. And because you told that story
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  Speaker 2: I've noticed something about myself that I never noticed before so I'm thanking you for this
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  Speaker 2: Just for fun. I
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  Speaker 2: Auditioned to be in a play. It's a little amateur theater
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  Speaker 2: company that's actually been around for like 40 years. And it was Sense and Sensibility by
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  Speaker 2: Jane Austen. Oh, great play. Yes. Okay. And I got the smallest part. It was Thomas the Butler.
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  Speaker 2: So I come in and out, in and out, in and out, but I'm always in the background.
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  Speaker 2: Because I'm, I'm the butler, I have to be silent. I say very few things. I sometimes bring in
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  Speaker 2: something or take something out or deliver cookies or something. But Albert, I loved it.
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  Speaker 2: And I became Thomas the butler. I just became it. And backstage, when us actors were talking to each
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  Speaker 2: other, we would use our human name, except for me, they would call me Thomas, because I so
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  Speaker 2: wiggled into inside the part that I stood taller.
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  Speaker 2: I wore a tuxedo on stage.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, man, I just loved it.
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  Speaker 2: And what I noticed when you told the story about the woman actress
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  Speaker 2: is that I never have the tiniest imposter syndrome for acting,
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  Speaker 2: even though I'm not a professional.
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  Speaker 2: I've never earned a penny at it, but I never worry that when the show is over,
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  Speaker 2: there's going to be several people in the audience that said, boy,
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  Speaker 2: What a lousy butler that was never, never an occurred.
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  Speaker 1: And that's when you would adopt that mindset,
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  Speaker 1: even as any professional actors that are listening to this,
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  Speaker 1: where you take the stakes and put it aside
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  Speaker 1: and just look at this as performing.
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  Speaker 1: And the same thing goes with auditioning.
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  Speaker 1: What one of the advices I tell a lot of that actors is to just pretend
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  Speaker 1: that you're performing for two minutes.
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  Speaker 1: That's all it is.
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  Speaker 1: Don't worry about the outcome.
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  Speaker 1: Don't be attached to the outcome.
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  Speaker 1: You're going in for two minutes.
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  Speaker 1: It's your time to showcase your ability and you're there to work
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  Speaker 1: and to and to play where we think about it.
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  Speaker 1: So if you use that mentality rather than worrying about what is going to be
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  Speaker 1: the outcome, worrying about, am I going to get the part?
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  Speaker 1: No, you're going in for two minutes and you're acting.
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  Speaker 1: You decide to become a professional actor because you like performing.
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  Speaker 1: Well, here's your chance to perform for two minutes and do what you love
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  Speaker 1: and get in, get out, let it go.
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  Speaker 1: And, you know, if if it if it turns out something great, if not, you're able to perform for two minutes.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Which you love doing anyways.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. So it's a win win.
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  Speaker 2: Now, my subscribers are on the edge of their seat right now,
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  Speaker 2: or maybe they're walking their dog, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: But I think they are intrigued by you.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: And I think that they want to buy your book.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: And I think they may want you to coach them.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: And so I'm going to give them a link right now that they can go to
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: and they can scour around what they find there
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: and they can find the link to buy your book.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: Tell everybody the title of your book.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Your it's called Rise Above the Script, Confronting Self-Doubt
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: and Mastering Self-Sabotage for Performing Artists.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Now, I want to make another thing clear is that it's geared towards everybody.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: So we're all performing artists to some degree, whether we're a speaker,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: whether we're a coach, whether we're in sales.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: We're always kind of performing.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. And that's that.
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  Speaker 1: So there's a lot of information that can be applicable to every anybody.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody.
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  Speaker 2: I missed the title.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: You said it too fast.
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  Speaker 2: Just the title, the subtitle.
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  Speaker 2: Rise Above the Script.
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  Speaker 2: Rise Above the Script.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I love that.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: Rise Above the Script.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: What a delicious title, Rise Above the Script.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, man, that is so illuminating and empowering.
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  Speaker 2: So if you're interested in Rise Above the Script,
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: of course, you can just go to Amazon,
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: but there is a website that you can go to,
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: a LinkedIn site, that's Albert's LinkedIn site,
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: and you can get lots more information there,
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: and you can ask to be his coaching client if you wish,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Or you can ask him to be your talent agent.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: And the message.
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  Speaker 2: LinkedIn.com/in/AlbertBramante.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: A L B E R T, of course.
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: Bramante.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: B R A M A N T E.
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  Speaker 2: So it's LinkedIn.com/in/AlbertBramante.
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  Speaker 2: His book is Rise Above the Script, a delicious title.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: Or you can just go to Amazon if you wish in order to learn
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: more about him, because you've spent 20 minutes with him
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: and with me, and I think you like him because I really
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: like him.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: Albert, if we were neighbors, we'd be dear friends.
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: We'd be out in the backyard barbecuing right now.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: Sure.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Right on.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: Well, Albert, I'm really glad that your mummy was so powerful
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: that she ignored messages from distinguished people like
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: medical doctors who had evidence.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: They had evidence.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: And we didn't know much about neuroplasticity as we do now.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: So I might have been showing a lot of those signs that we're
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: going to have problems.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: So I'm not saying that they were completely wrong.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: they might have made judgments too fast.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: I might've been showing that signs,
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: but I worked hard to overcome them.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: - Yes, and my guess is that those doctors are right
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  Speaker 2: 99 times out of a hundred.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: And you are the exception because of your powerful mom
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: and because of your own powerful mind and will to.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: So bravo, congratulations, I honor you for it.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: And I am so glad that you've created a career
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: that helps a lot of people, and I'm glad you're on my show.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: And I'm glad you and I appreciate you inviting me and inviting me to be on.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: I don't want you to leave yet.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: I've got to ask you another question.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: This question you have no ability to answer, but I use it on some of my more
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: interesting interviewees, and you are definitely in the category of mucho
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: The question is, would you rather be a birthday cake or a fortune cookie?
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: Fortune cookie.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: Tell me. Tell me why.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of possibilities in there when you go to the center.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: So a fortune cookie is possibilities about the future, but a birthday cake is about the past.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, or present moment, and only the present moment.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: Because once it's consumed, it's gone.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: But a fortune cookie has that little piece of paper in there that can last forever.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: I love your answer and I have your reason why.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: Thank you for delivering such a powerful message to my clients.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: I honor you.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: I respect you.
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: I salute you.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: I appreciate it.
• 25:44
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• 25:47
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