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Why You Keep Attracting Unavailable Men (And How to Call in Real Commitment) · Mindful Success Path

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  If you are a powerful feminine woman and you keep attracting men who will not commit, then this is a video that you need to see.
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  Because in this video I'm gonna teach you the real energetics behind masculine commitment.
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  That's right.
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  I'm gonna tell you what makes men commit and how to embody this shift in a way that magnetizes.
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  High level aligned love into your life.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  We've been talking a lot about feminine energy, masculine energy, dating dynamics, male psychology, and you guys are loving it.
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  Women we're getting women commenting from all over the world, and there just seems to be a lot of confusion when it comes to understanding men, understanding energetics, understanding masculine and feminine energy.
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  As always, if I have extra trainings or resources, for those of you who want to go deeper into what I'm gonna be talking about in this video, I will share them throughout.
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  Off the top of my head, I can already tell you I have a new program that is up for sale right now called The Magnetic Commitment Program.
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  In the Magnetic Commitment Program.
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  I go through the first 90 days of dating and so we're talking about, you know, dating for marriage, right?
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  We're talking about.
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  According, not just dating to date, because that doesn't really work when you are looking for commitment, and it goes through each of the stages, the conversations you're supposed to be having in each of the stages.
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  And for those of you who are asking, okay, well, I've been with this guy for a long time.
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  How long should I wait for commitment?
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  Well, the Magnetic Commitment Program is going to give you an answer.
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  There's a whole assessment to help you make a decision.
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  You can grab that below.
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  I will also put a QR code here if you know immediately that you wanna grab it.
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  And for those of you who have been asking about private coaching, you can apply in the first link in the description.
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  So here's what we need to get into first and foremost, if you are in a position where you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.
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  The first thing that you need to understand is that you are not actually doing anything wrong.
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  You're not broken.
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  There's nothing wrong with you.
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  Most women have no idea how the psychology of men actually works, right?
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  In addition to that.
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  There is a lot of confusion all over the world, but especially in Western culture, there's extra confusion in terms of the dance between the masculine and the feminine and how it works in other parts of the world.
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  They pretty much got this down.
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  They understand it.
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  In the West, we're having a huge problem with understanding this right now.
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  Uh, both women and men have received a lot of confusing messages over the last a hundred years or so about, you know, equality and whose role is what.
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  And you know, woman, you shouldn't be worried about kids and a family.
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  Go focus on your career and then that's.
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  That's causing a lot of internal conflict in a lot of women and a lot of confusion.
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  And in addition to that, of course we have a generation that got raised on TV shows like Sex and the City and Friends and Desperate Housewives, and a lot of people.
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  Unfortunately took their relationship advice from tv, right?
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  So again, a lot of confusion going on in the world.
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  So it is not your fault if you are in this kind of a situation.
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  In addition to that, there's a lot of confusion about what feminine energy even is.
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  So a lot of you are coming to this concept for the first time in your lives and you're like, whoa, nobody ever told me this.
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  So give yourself some grace.
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  And for those of you where this is the first video that you're watching, or maybe you've seen a few of my videos and you really want to understand what feminine energy is, then I recommend checking out the Feminine Magnetism Mastery Program for only$27 below.
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  It's a good starting point.
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  And I've structured it in a way where, believe me, it's going to land and you're going to understand exactly what I'm saying because it's rational.
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  Okay?
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  So you can grab that below.
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  So here's a part of the confusion, right?
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  While grace and softness and feminine energy are really beautiful, um, a lot of people have a very surface level understanding of what that is.
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  They think it's just looks, they think it's just the way that they talk.
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  Um, you know, that's a part of it.
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  You know, men are physical.
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  Creatures and the tone that you use when you're talking to men does matter.
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  Most women don't know that.
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  Um, you know, but the reality is that the only thing that's happening here is that there's a gap in your understanding of masculine psychology.
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  That's it.
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  So when a woman tells me, oh my God, I'm doing all the right things, normally, I start to ask her questions about how her dates are going, or how her relationships have been going, or what the specific situations are right now.
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  And it's not that she's not doing, um, all the right things.
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  She just makes a lot of very well-meaning.
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  Stakes.
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  And by the way, in both, uh, I think in both programs, in the Magnetic Commitment Program and also in feminine Magnetism Mastery, I go through all the mistakes that women make in dating, not because they're malicious.
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  And most of the time women think they're being good people and they're being nice.
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  And what they don't understand is in, in doing these actions, for example, like planning a date, instead of letting him do it because you think you're being nice and you think you're being helpful, actually is a turnoff.
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  Um.
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  To men, because that's not how masculine psychology actually works.
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  So in both of those programs, you will get a deep dive on masculine psychology.
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  In feminine magnetism mastery, you're gonna get an overview of masculine psychology.
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  What drives men in this day and age, in addition to all the mistakes that women make because they don't understand masculine psychology.
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  And then the, uh, magnetic commitment program, you'll learn more about the masculine psychology in relation to commitment and actually getting.
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  The ring or whatever commitment it is that you like.
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  So a lot of times, right, women are just making a lot of well-meaning mistakes because they just, there's a gap in their understanding of how a male brain works and also how masculine energy works.
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  And I know that there's lots of polarity coaches and stuff out here that make it even more confusing'cause they're talking about this energy and that energy and integrate the energies within you.
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  And there's a part of that that's true.
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  But what we like to do in this channel, in our trainings is we also like to combine it with.
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  Psychology, um, in terms of, you know, actual stats and data that we have in terms of how men and women operate in the world.
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  And when you understand both of those things, that's when magic really starts to happen.
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  In relationships now, here's why men don't commit.
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  Now.
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  Contrary to popular belief, masculine men are not avoiding commitment.
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  Masculine men love to commit masculine.
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  Men know when they have found a good one and they will swooper up really quickly.
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  Okay.
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  And if you saw the interview I did with my husband, uh, recently, we talked a little bit about this, that, you know, masculine men will commit very quickly, but they have to commit under specific conditions.
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  It's not that they're running away from love.
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  It's not that they're commitment phobic.
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  Most men are not.
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  Most men are out here looking for their wives and looking for their partners, just like there's women out here looking for their husbands and their partners.
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  It is just that there's a specific set of conditions that actually makes men commit, and most women haven't been taught how to activate the five core masculine commitment triggers.
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  I'll tell you what one of them is right now.
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  One of them is the hero trigger.
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  He wants to be your hero.
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  He wants to give to you.
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  He wants to solve your problems.
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  He wants to be your knight in shining armor, and a lot of women don't let men be their hero.
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  A man tries to solve a problem.
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  She's like, oh, how much do I owe you?
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  Or, or, you know, you shouldn't have done that.
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  Or, you know, I could have fixed it myself.
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  Or You're mansplaining.
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  You know?
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  That's what most women end up doing because again, they're totally confused about how these things work because of the messages that they've been receiving over the last several decades now, in the Magnetic Commitment Program, I actually go through each of those five triggers.
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  There's a huge guide with a training that goes into each of the five triggers and how to trigger those in a man.
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  Now, here's what high value men actually crave beyond beauty and beyond softness.
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  High level men, what they desire is emotional maturity, inner stability.
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  And a woman who knows she's ready, a woman who knows what she wants.
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  Now masculine provision flows when your energy is safe to lead or safe to be led.
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  So essentially what that means is a lot of you have to do work on even feeling safe around men to begin with.
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  A lot of you have a lot of.
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  Stories about men.
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  I'll give you an example.
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  One story, and when I was being interviewed by Shaman Patrick, this came up.
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  A lot of women in the nineties, for example, at least in Western culture, got these ideas through TV and, and uh, pop culture, that men are idiots and that men are stupid, and that men are lazy, and that women are far more intelligent than men, number one.
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  Absolute bs.
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  There are lots of really intelligent men out here.
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  They're quite smart.
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  Their brains work in a different way than a female's brain, but they are very smart and very intelligent.
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  What happened is that women, women bought that, right?
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  Women are like, oh yeah, you know, I have to solve all his problems because, you know, he's just less than smart when it comes, um, to me.
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  So what happens, right, is that because women got fed this story that men are idiots and you see it in movies and all that stuff all the time, and you see it kind of all, I don't know if it's all over the world, but definitely in Western culture.
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  And I've noticed that you'll see it a little bit here in Latin America as well.
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  In case you don't know, my husband runs a global relocation company.
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  We're spending a lot of time in Mexico right now.
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  Next year we'll be bouncing to Europe.
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  So we, we get this perspective where we see a lot of things.
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  Uh, globally, and one of the things I've noticed here in Latin America, I'm currently in Mexico, is if you watch De La NOLAs, there's like a typical trope, uh, of a, of a male lead or a male actor, and he's usually hot and rich, but stupid and easily manipulated by women, right?
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  So I can tell you that it also exists, uh, here in.
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  Latin America.
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  So what happens is that women, you know, bought the story.
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  And then because of that, they don't trust men.
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  They don't trust men to lead them.
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  They don't trust men, uh, to make decisions.
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  They don't trust them at all.
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  And that programming starts from a very young age.
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  But healthy masculine men are leaders.
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  They want to pour into you again, if you saw the.
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  The interview I did with my husband, the q and a that we did, he talked about that.
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  He talked about how when, um, we first met how I allowed him to pour into me.
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  Men love that because what happens with men is that they fall in love with you when they are investing in you and the way that men invest in you.
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  Yes, money.
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  That's one of the ways in which they do it.
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  Solving your problems and being your hero is another way.
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  In which they do it and leading you is another way in which they do it.
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  Because a lot of times when men are trying to lead, most of the time, what they're trying to do is they're trying to either find a more efficient way of doing things.
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  I've noticed this with my husband, right?
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  Or a safer way of doing things.
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  Um, and or they're trying to conserve energy.
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  They're trying to get to like a result in a way that's going to, um, mitigate problems.
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  Right.
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  And that's a part of the male psychology, but most women don't understand that because that's not the programming that they got.
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  So as a lot of you are going to have to kind of reprogram your brains around what you actually think about men and do you feel safe being led by a man or do you think they're all idiots because that is what you were, you've been programmed with.
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  And by the way, this applies to the married ladies too, because sometimes.
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  As married ladies will forget.
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  Uh, actually when you're married, some of these things are even harder because you're running businesses together.
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  You're managing a household together, you're raising kids together.
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  So I, I know I've got videos coming out, uh, for the married ladies because it does change things when you're actually, um, you're actually, you know, lifeing, uh, together.
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  Now here's how you actually start becoming magnetic to commitment.
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  So you want to embody the woman who receives deep love.
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  So she trusts herself.
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  She feels safe within her own body.
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  A lot of times with my private clients, a big portion of what we have to do is a lot of nervous system regulation work.
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  Um, and the reason why I focus so much on regulating the nervous system.
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  And a lot of ways of doing it is because that's what helps you feel safe in your body.
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  That's what rebuilds self-trust, and that's also what helps you put yourself in a position where you can receive more and more and more and more with each passing day.
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  Um, I still have to do nervous system regulation a lot of the time because my husband gives to me so much.
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  I'm like saying Thank you.
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  All freaking day long.
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  Right.
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  And I still have to catch myself and regulate my nervous system because it's, it's not like a one and done, uh, kind of thing.
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  I'll give you an example.
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  My husband just, um,'cause of my husband's business, like I mentioned, we travel a lot and we've lived in different countries and, um, we just booked plane tickets to Europe, uh, for next year to, do a bit of, research and development for his business.
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  Uh, researching a specific country that's become very popular with Americans moving overseas, Albania, uh, and Eastern Europe and that whole area.
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  So he just booked, uh, that trip and he's like, Hey, we might be moving next year.
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  And I'm like, ah, right.
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  So here comes my, my nervous system.
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  Like, what?
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  What do you mean?
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  We've been in Mexico like two years and we're already gonna moving it.
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  So again.
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  There's my nervous system, um, wanting to go off because something within me felt unsafe with change, which is very common.
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  Most people, it's interesting'cause we're like afraid of change, but our brains love change.
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  So it's a weird dichotomy that we have as humans, but I'm one of those, right?
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  Like I don't always do great with change.
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  Um, and because of the nature of my husband's business, of course I manifested this.
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  There's a lot of change right now.
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  Of course, I already know that my husband knows what he's doing.
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  Um.
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  I already know that my husband's very smart and resourceful.
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  I already know that my husband's already figured out all the money, um, for it, and I already know that of course it's gonna help my husband make more money through his business and that I'm gonna get there and, and, uh, get, it's the first trip is just to scope it out to see if we want to move there.
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  Or not, and also see what else is available in the region for my husband's clients and stuff like that.
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  But I mean, as much as I complain about it.
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  And my, my immediate reaction is like, what do you mean, right?
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  Like, we just moved from the city to the country.
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  I feel like I just got to Mexico and now we're looking at Europe.
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  As much as my immediate reaction wants to be that because something gets triggered within me, the truth is that once I regulate my nervous system.
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  And I teach you all the ways in which I do that in my Hustle to Harmony Masterclass, which you can find below as well.
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  There's like a four step process that I use.
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  The reality is that I actually really love it.
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  I love to travel, I love to experience new things.
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  It's something I've been wanting to do for many, many years, and now I get to do that thanks, uh, to my husband, but.
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  You know, my immediate reaction is not always, yes, let's go and I feel great with this.
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  Sometimes my reaction is like, what do you mean I just got here?
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  You know, and it's that trigger point that I sometimes have to work through.
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  And a lot of times what ends up coming up for me more than anything is the fact that I'm expanding my horizons, um, in so many ways when you live in different countries.
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  You expand your horizons and, and you exercise your brain in ways that is very difficult to describe unless you are in the international, uh, lifestyle.
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  But there's a reason why they call traveling and living in other countries the best education in the world.
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  Uh, because the, here in Mexico, they say Teca chip, which means that it changes your chip, uh, in your brain.
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  And then that's what.
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  Uh, triggers a lot of people about it.
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  But you know, again, once I do my own nervous system regulation, I'm like, oh no.
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  You know, sometimes you and change don't do well.
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  You know that about yourself.
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  In addition to that, you're just now expanding to Europe.
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  You've just spent the last couple years in Latin America.
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  Now you're gonna expand even more and you might be expanding to Europe.
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  Oh my gosh, can I receive this much?
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  Can I.
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  Can I have this much adventure in my life?
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  Can I have this much, uh, learning in my life?
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  That's what's really happening.
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  It's not.
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  The fact that I'm scared of going to another country, obviously I've already done it, right?
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  It's not a big deal.
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  The first one's the worst one, uh, the hardest one.
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  And then it gets easier because you gain more experience.
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  It's more about can I receive this much?
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  And that's what gets triggered in most people.
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  And that's why we need to do nervous system regulation because it will help us receive more and more and more.
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  And more.
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  The other thing that you wanna learn how to do in order to become magnetic to commitment, and again, this has to do with nervous system regulation as well, is you wanna practice the energetics of being ready to be a wife, right?
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  You wanna learn how to start taking on the identity of being in a committed relationship, because it's not just about performative femininity, it's also about being powerful and clear and embodied in your energy and your intentions.
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  And that Hustle to Harmony masterclass that I mentioned where I talk a lot about nervous system regulation and how I did it, I talk about how I prepared myself and my nervous system to be married.
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  That's one of the core examples that I use.
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  I talk, I also talk about how I.
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  Prepared my nervous system to travel a lot and be abroad and live in other countries and how I get my brain and my body on board with what it is that I am trying to manifest.
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  Because the other thing that happens here is there's an energetic incongruence.
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  'cause a lot of you will say that you want commitment, but then when it shows up.
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  You're pushing it away, and that tells me that your nervous system just is not on board with what it is that you're trying to do, and it's, you can fix it, right?
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  You just need to understand that your brain is not necessarily trying to keep you happy, it's trying to keep you safe.
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  And once you understand how your brain works, which I go more into in that program and it's, I spend a lot of time talking about that on this YouTube channel, then you can do exercises to expand your capacity and let your body know, Hey, I'm, the change is safe.
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  Everything's okay.
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  So.
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  If you're tired of surface level situation shifts, if you're tired of, of, you know, attracting men who are unavailable or who kind of kick the can down the road and you are ready for sacred committed love, then it's time to shift your energy.
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  Now, I've mentioned a lot of different programs that you can, uh, purchase, which you will find below in the description.
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  But for those of you who want to focus.
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  Specifically on commitment, which was really what this training was about.
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  Then you can join the Magnetic Commitment Program.
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  I will put a QR code here so you can just snap a photo and join us.
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  And then as soon as you join us.
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  You'll get an email with your username and password to our student portal, and you can start training right away.
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  That's the one that makes the most sense.
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  For those of you who wanna understand the psychology of commitment specifically and those five triggers that get a man to commit.
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  Now, all the other ones, you can find them in the description below as well with a description of what each program and each course covers.
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  So choose your own adventure in the description below.
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  Thank you so much for giving me your time today.
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  I really appreciate.
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  That you allow me to be your teacher.
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  It's an honor to teach these things to women.
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  This is something that.
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  I don't know.
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  It was kind of mulling in the back of my head for many, many, many years.
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  And, uh, through my husband's leadership of me surrendering to that and letting him lead, he encouraged me to actually get on here on YouTube and start talking about these things, uh, in my spare time.
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  And now it's turned into a business.
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  It's turned into a global community.
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  It's turned into getting connected to really cool people all over the world.
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  And I am eternally.
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  Grateful, um, that you allow me to be your teacher and kind of help you make sense of this crazy world of energetics and relationships that we are all living in right now.
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  If you liked this video, please give it a, like, it helps us get it in front of more women.
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  And I will catch you on the next one.