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Our Minds Keep us Trapped-Ego doing it’s Thing! · Lavender Mind

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  Hey. Welcome to Lavender Mine podcast,
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  a podcast to help anyone remember.
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  How to live only in this moment because,
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  you know what? It's the only 1 we
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  have.
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  Hey. Welcome to Lavender mine.
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  press that check above or write a review.
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  I don't know about you, but sometimes life
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  can really make me very tired,
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  especially when
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  I'm only using my thinking mind, and I'm
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  not tapping into the quiet stillness
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  that is always available to me. Sometimes we
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  get so busy,
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  and we get on that hamster wheel that
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  we have no idea
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  how to jump off. And maybe you really
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  don't know how to jump off. And today,
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  I wanna talk about
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  how we can do that because our thinking
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  mind is often trap.
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  It's sometimes referred to as the ego. It
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  doesn't really matter what we call it
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  if you're new to this idea, it's your
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  thinking mind, it's...
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  You can call out your frog in your
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  pocket, whatever you wanna name it. It's the
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  thinking mind created by your identity and your
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  past experience and beliefs.
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  It's made of
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  peers, society.
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  It is the part of your mind that
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  has doubts and speculate on everything.
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  It's driven by fear of being nothing, which
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  tries to alleviate through thoughts about material things,
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  and
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  we can be imprisoned by it, especially when
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  we are unaware that it's even a thing.
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  It causes
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  limited
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  thinking,
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  limitation and our thinking.
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  It operates from fear instead of love, and
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  it holds us back.
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  This
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  frog in our pocket ego, whatever you wanna
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  call it,
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  does this dropping by using our judging mind
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  and resisting,
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  fighting the present moment.
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  It causes negative emotions And when we resist
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  the present moment,
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  we know it because our physical feelings,
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  we start to feel resistance and our hearts
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  and also physically in our bodies.
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  So how do we deal with this? A
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  lot of times we,
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  might be saying to ourselves. I'll be happy
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  when blank. I'll be happy that sometime in
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  the future.
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  When we are not living in the present
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  moment, we often think that we're gonna be
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  happy when, and this is a very
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  common
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  trap, this chasing of the future happiness trap.
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  You know, I'll be happy when the house
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  is built. I'll be happy when the car
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  is fixed, or paid off. I'll be happy
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  when
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  my kid gets the sixth grade. I'll be
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  happy when the house is clean, or you
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  get the idea, but true happiness
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  really has nothing to do with the things
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  happening in our exterior world, but it's... Actually
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  an inside job. And don't get me wrong.
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  I love to have a clean house, and
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  I like when my kid passes sixth grade
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  and it's awesome when that house is built
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  because it frees up a lot of time
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  or whatever you have going on, whatever your
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  thing is, your future happiness trap. Maybe at
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  school. Maybe it's... I don't know. Those stories
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  that we tell ourselves really are not
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  what caused true happiness. True happiness is really
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  only found in the moment that we're in.
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  Our society definitely does not talk about this.
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  This is definitely something that is very opposite
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  of what
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  we see on social media, what we see
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  on the new. And what we hear every
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  single day. This is completely opposite of that.
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  2 years ago, my daughter Friend who's had
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  adopted some ducks, but she lived in a
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  dorm, and, of course, they were like, hey,
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  give that to miss Katie.
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  She'll take any...
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  Any animal on. And so I had these
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  3 little duckling,
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  and I wanted to keep them safe, so
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  I kept him in a kennel, and
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  when I went to go release some in
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  our pond, they did not wanna go in
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  the beautiful pond, they wanted to stay in
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  the kennel
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  and oftentimes our minds can keep us trapped
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  just like these dogs who had the opportunity
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  to live freely in this pond,
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  They chose not to. They wanted to be
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  trapped in that kennel, which made me sad.
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  I had done it to protect them,
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  but
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  now they live with my chickens and live
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  a great life. They do identify as chickens
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  though.
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  But I say this backstory story just to
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  say that we can often be trapped in
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  our own minds and I'm gonna give some
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  tips on how to quickly
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  remember that we don't have to be trapped
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  in our minds. But... We can use the
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  present moment to deal with this ego
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  that has been built over time.
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  And it's that thinking mind that often causes
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  us to have to stress and anxiety. I
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  came up with some bees. It's
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  4 bees to being present. And they all
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  have to do with coming back to the
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  present moment, but these are just some tips
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  on how to do that The first b
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  is to breathe and pause.
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  The second 1 is to be here now.
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  The third is to be okay with what
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  is happening.
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  Love what is
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  even when that's hard.
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  The fourth 1 is to be okay with
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  your wandering mind and to be okay with
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  your thoughts moving around because that's what your
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  mind does.
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  And to not judge that.
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  And if all of that is too much
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  to remember, just say to yourself in this
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  moment, I am okay.
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  The quieter we get in our minds, the
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  more we can
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  hear that inside voice that's still awareness,
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  intuition and our true self
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  under all these loud voices.
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  With practice, this this type of still awareness,
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  can become the predominant voice.
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  This is how we cultivate that still awareness.
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  All misery
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  on the planet arises due to a personalized
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  sense of me and us. This is a
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  quote from Ec toll. It covers up the
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  essence of who we are when we are
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  unaware of that inner essence in the end,
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  we always create misery. It's as simple as
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  that
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  and you don't know who you are, you
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  can create a mind made self called ego
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  as a substitute for the beautiful,
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  divine being that you are. And when we
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  do this, we cling
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  to that fearful and needy self protecting
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  and
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  embracing
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  that false self
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  that becomes your predominantly
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  motivating force.
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  Please remember that you have beauty
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  The easiest fast track to this is coming
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  back
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  to only the moment that you're in and
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  trying to live that 1 moment to the
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  fullest, as best as you can at the
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  time. I hope this helps. I hope together
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  we can plant some seeds of resilience, and
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  joy
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  Have a great day.