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6 Reasons why the narcissist hides the new supply · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammett
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is your first time here.
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  See my face or hear my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for NPD, get more
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  people into therapy and also validate the victim, survivors
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  and thrivers of say, disorders, say tox people say toxic traits.
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  Today's episode y'all is going to be about why do some
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  narcissists hide the new supply. The narcissists new supply.
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  Why do they hide them? Why they Why the deception?
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  Why they why they hidden this why they hidden nature of hiding
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  the new supply. Why can't you just be open and
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  honest with me? You know the new supply But
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  before what happened today's episode y'all make sure y'all
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  their self love and authenticity before going or after a types of
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  relationship. Y'all but yes.
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  Yup, Yup, Yup, there we go. So why do some narcissists hide
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  the new supply? Not all narcissists are going to
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  be out there with the new supply.
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  They're just not going to do that.
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  They're not going to hide. They're not going to be out
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  there showing off the new supply because that doesn't that
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  doesn't benefit them. Y'all.
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  One reason the narcissists hide the new supply is because
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  plausible to deniability. It allows me to just deny it,
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  deny the existence of the new supply.
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  I don't get look out. I don't care if you have
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  evidence that I'm just clapping the cheeks of somebody else.
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  I do not care. I don't care.
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  You mean I do not care. I if if I don't admit to it,
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  then it's not real. And that's how a lot of
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  narcissistic people think right there.
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  Y'all. If I do not admit to it, then I
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  am not guilty of it. If there is no admittance of
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  guilt that that person does not exist.
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  If I don't admit to having a new supply, I don't care if you
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  catch me. I don't care if you catch me out
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  on a date with the new supply. I don't care if you catch me in
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  the bedroom, on a flight, in a picture together.
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  I don't care if I don't admit to it that is not real.
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  I can always say, have plausible deniability.
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  I can just deny the person that exists.
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  I just always because they they can save my reputation.
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  They can protect me in different situations like that.
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  I can always just like, oh, Lee has a new supply.
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  No, I don't. But what about these pictures?
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  Like those pictures? That's just a friend.
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  I don't know who that person is. Like somebody wanted to take a
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  picture with me. The same person who's in the
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  picture. Did you quote us at dinner?
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  That's just some friend who I met.
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  I only know their names. Gotcha.
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  You see what I'm saying? Gotcha.
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  They just give me clause by deniability to keep you
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  guessing. And because guess what happens?
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  Y'all. If it keeps you guessing and you
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  worried about me having a new supply or a new partner in my
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  mind, guess what happens in my mind if you keep asking me do I
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  have a new partner? You keep trying to prove to me
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  that I have a new supply. That means you still want me
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  anyway. That's how I think and that's
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  how a lot of people would think. If you can't just if you keep
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  asking me about my new partner, my new partner that might or
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  might not exist, then in my mind you still want me.
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  In my mind, you want to be with me.
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  In my mind, you love and you still you love and care about
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  me. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's how my mind works right there.
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  So if you're asking me these questions about the new supply,
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  then yes, absolutely. I think, like I said in my mind,
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  I just absolutely think that you, you still want me.
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  You know, another reason narcissists hide the new supply
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  is to protect their reputation. You know, to absolutely protect
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  their reputation. Because if it gets out that I
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  have a new supply, especially if I if people, you know, if it
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  gets out that I have the new supply so fast after the
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  relationship or just in general, whoever depending on who this
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  person is, it could have, it could have rolled my reputation,
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  You know, I want my reputation to be intact.
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  I wanted my reputation to be protected.
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  Especially, like I said, if this new supply isn't a fair partner,
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  if this new supply, like if I'm still with you or if the
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  narcissistic person is still with you and the new supply
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  isn't a fair partner, then yeah, they they can destroy their
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  reputation. So they want another.
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  It's another reason that they will hide the new supply is
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  because they protect the reputation.
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  Another reason why narcissist will hide the new supply is
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  because who The Who the new supply is, Is that the identity
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  of the new supply? Yeah, the identity of the new
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  supply plays a role in this right here.
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  And if a narcissist is hiding a new supply, sometimes it's
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  because you know them, sometimes it's because you because you've
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  dealt with this person before. Sometimes it's because you have
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  a history or a past with this narcissistic person.
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  You see what I'm saying? You see how that mind works
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  right there. Sometimes you already know this
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  person. You know who I'm dealing with.
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  You like. There's a lot going on right
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  here. Like, you know who I'm.
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  You know who I'm dealing with. You know this person.
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  So I don't want to. I want to keep their identity a
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  secret because I keep their identity a secret.
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  You know, because you know them. Like, could be your cousin,
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  could be your family member, Could be your friend, Could be
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  your mom, Could be your dad, Could be your best friend, could
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  be your worst enemy, Could be my coworker, could be your
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  coworker. The identity is important.
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  So I want to protect their identity and that right there
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  sucks because like if they're protecting their identity, that
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  hurts the the current person, the old, the X or whatever, that
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  hurts you because like am I not good enough to tell for you to
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  tell who I'm who you're talking to?
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  Am I this, I'm not. Like I said, they'll they don't
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  do a number If you're dealing with a narcissist, if you're the
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  victim of a narcissist and you the old supply of the X, this
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  will mess with you. Because they they they're
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  protecting their identity. Because they're protecting their
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  reputation and maybe their own. So that'll hurt your.
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  That really hurt your feelings right there.
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  Especially like, say, if y'all are not together or if you are
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  together, you know you want to know identity.
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  Like they hide, they hide the new supply because you know they
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  want to hide the identity of that person because the identity
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  is important. It could be their best friend's
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  spouse. You mean it could be my best
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  friend's spouse, my best friend's husband, wife,
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  girlfriend, boyfriend, whoever it is, my best friend's sister,
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  brother, whoever it is. You see what I'm saying?
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  It could be in that space right there.
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  The identity is important of the new supply, so they hide it.
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  They could be absolutely a reason why they hide the new
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  supply, you know, which is kind of wild.
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  Another reason why they hide the new supply, Y'all, and this is
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  the simplest reason, is because they want to balance.
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  They want to have multiple supplies.
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  That's it. They literally want to have
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  multiple supplies. They want to have multiple
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  people in there. I tell this to people all the
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  time that one person, one supply, one source of supply is
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  not enough for a narcissist. It just doesn't work that way.
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  One source of supply is not enough on narcissist.
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  So what if narcissist are getting supply from people?
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  Then one person, one source of supply of validation is not
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  going to be enough, right? So I need multiple people around
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  me. I need multiple sources of
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  supply. I need multiple sources of
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  validation. I need multiple people, multiple
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  people to validate my emotions to how I feel.
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  I need multiple multiple people to validate my existence.
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  I need multiple people to validate myself.
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  Work, you know what I mean? So I need multiple people.
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  I need a backup plan in case plan A who is the new supply
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  doesn't work out. I need you to be plan.
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  I need you to be Plan B. It can be as simple as that.
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  You could be, you could be there Plan B, which sounds horrible,
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  you know, especially see what Plan B is the the the actual
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  over the counter or is that over counter.
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  I think it's over counter. You know the actual Plan B is in
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  real life to appeal. It's just like makes you feel a
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  little less worthy. You know narcissist, new supply,
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  you know like I said it just in that space because they could
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  just in that instance like just want you to keep you as a backup
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  in case this new one doesn't work out.
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  I need a backup plan. You know what I mean?
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  And the last reason that we're going to cover the narcissists
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  hide the new supply is because they could absolutely be
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  embarrassed of them. The new supply could make me
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  look bad. The new supply could quote, UN
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  quote be a downgrade to you. Because like I said, Willy, how
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  does this happen? How do they downright the
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  narcissists whereabout looks and stuff like that.
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  Yeah, the notice is the new, the nurses new supply.
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  There's something about them that makes them the new supply.
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  It's not always going to be looks.
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  It's not always going to be physical attraction and stuff
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  like that. Sometimes it's financial,
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  sometimes it's whatever, Sometimes it's emotional.
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  Whatever it is, whatever supply they get, New supply doesn't
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  always just mean new love, new emotional connection.
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  It could be new financial connection.
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  You mean it could be a new financial connection, new
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  financial supply. The new supply does not have to
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  be a new person, so to speak. The new supply can absolutely be
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  a new source of financial, new finances.
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  You mean the new supply could have a lot of kids, could have a
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  lot of baby Mamas, could have a lot of baby dads, could have a
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  lot of debt. The new supply is could hurt my
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  reputation, but it's something about them that has drawn me to
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  them or has had me pulled me into the relationship space with
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  them. The new supply is going on right
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  here, Y'all. And like I said and a bonus
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  reason, Bonus reason, The one reason the narcissists hide the
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  new supply, this is the bonus reason.
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  Y'all. And I said last reason.
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  This is the bonus reason. They don't want the new supply
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  contacting you like or you to reach out to the new supply like
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  they don't want the new supply. The new supply might not know
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  that you exist. Like they say, the narcissistic
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  person is married to you or the narcissist has been lying to the
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  new supply about how y'all what about y'all relationship status
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  or how y'all live or how y'all coparent or whatever the
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  whatever the lie they do, they don't want y'all connected.
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  So they hide the identity of the new supply.
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  They hide the new supply because they don't want the past and the
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  future or the present or whatever connecting the present
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  and the future connected. The present and the present
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  connecting. Because like I say again and
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  like y'all these reasons right here that I gave this list of
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  reasons don't have to be singular.
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  These can mix and match. They can be multiple reasons.
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  It doesn't have to be just one particular reason why they hide
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  the new supply. It could be a multitude of
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  reasons. It could be two or three
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  together, could be all of them together.
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  It could be just a mixture of them together.
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  I don't know if all of them pick together, but it could be a
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  mixture of them together, you know?
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  It could be absolutely be a mixture of things, of these
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  things together, why they hide the new supplies.
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  Not just always going to be one reason, It could be a few
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  different reasons. Y'all, There were a few
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  different. I'd say the identity is super
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  important. Could be, could be your kids
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  teacher, you know what I mean? Could be your kids, you know,
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  the the CEO of a company. Could be somebody famous.
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  Yeah, you just never know who the narcissist's new supply is.
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  But sometimes you do know, you know, but sometimes the
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  narcissist is going to hide them.
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  For those. The reasons I've listed here and
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  possibly other reasons. If you can think of another
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  reason that the narcissist will hide A new supply or something
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  that I missed. So I can do Part 2.
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  I can do Part 2. I gave you what was it 6.
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  I gave you 6 today. If you can do a Part 2.
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