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EP 11 - SECRET ONLINE AFFAIRS?? · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables.
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  Speaker 2: What I found instead was something I was absolutely not
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  Speaker 2: prepared for. There were multiple registration emails from different websites.
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  Speaker 2: Most of them looked similar to dating or content platforms,
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  Speaker 2: but they were clearly designed for affairs, sexting.
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  Speaker 1: Or escort type services.
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  Speaker 3: Relatable.
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  Speaker 2: The Relatable podcast is hosted by Jake Craig aka Daddy
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  Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, mister Ottie Clark aka Ummy.
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  Speaker 4: Welcome back, Welcome back, baddies. You guys are, of course
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  Speaker 4: the baddies because you are all bad. Yeah, correct, And
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  Speaker 4: Jake is Daddy because he's good of his hands.
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  Speaker 2: Mate, You got a little cut on the end, on
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  Speaker 2: the edge of the end of my finger. Do you
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  Speaker 2: wish you had a nearly drilled a hole in a
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  Speaker 2: two hander butt? Do you wish you had a two hander?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have a two and.
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  Speaker 1: Unless Beth big hairs.
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  Speaker 3: Beth has pretty big feet.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. For some reason, it's her, not you. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know why.
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  Speaker 2: The other night she's been coaxing me into watching a
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  Speaker 2: few tiktoks with her at night, trying not to and
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  Speaker 2: then she was was watching this video on this ma
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  Speaker 2: masks her two kids and to preface, I need to
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  Speaker 2: say they are black because you'll see why.
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  Speaker 1: And she goes, if I was lost, what.
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  Speaker 2: Would you say to the police, like to find me,
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  Speaker 2: We'll just say look like And the first kid goes,
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  Speaker 2: you know, ex whatever, said some mean ship, and then
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  Speaker 2: he goes big brown feet, and I was like, okay, interesting,
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  Speaker 2: And then the next kid goes, yeah, like beautiful eyes,
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  Speaker 2: long black curly hair, kind of big hips, big feet.
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  Speaker 2: And for some reason it sent me that both of
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  Speaker 2: these kids think their mom has the biggest fucking feet.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why, but I was like, that's so mean.
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  Speaker 4: I rate that actually putting you on the spot that's
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  Speaker 4: been kidnapped, police officer, So.
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  Speaker 3: What does you have a partner? Look like, what's a
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  Speaker 3: description of her?
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  Speaker 1: Alright, something cool? Calm collect five ten?
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  Speaker 4: You sucked up? You should be crying. What's wrong? What's
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  Speaker 4: what's what's wrong with you?
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  Speaker 1: What do you mean? You should be crying? Because that's
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  Speaker 1: missing a moment.
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  Speaker 2: So you go, five ten, she's fit build, but like
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  Speaker 2: she's five ten fit build.
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  Speaker 3: He said, slopping.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I mean, like I guess that.
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  Speaker 4: They pointed at that point, you're trumbling under the pressure you.
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  Speaker 1: Have to be completely honest if you want her found.
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  Speaker 1: And so the honest just came out policy.
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  Speaker 2: And then I would say, she's got like her hair's
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  Speaker 2: going a bit past shoulder length. It's getting a bit long,
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  Speaker 2: and it's kind of got like blonde streaks in it,
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  Speaker 2: but mainly brunette. Like you'd argue she's got big ass feet,
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  Speaker 2: huge fucking hands.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, I'd be stressing.
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  Speaker 3: I'd be stressed to it under the pressure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, i'd have to say, ask her mum, like I'm struggling.
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  Speaker 3: I forgot.
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  Speaker 2: Also, you're stressing about someone that's missing in the police
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  Speaker 2: co what do they look like?
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  Speaker 1: I't ask me, like seriously.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, wait, oh wait, that's so funny, good answer.
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  Speaker 2: You know the job that the person is so like,
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  Speaker 2: oh you've seen someone, oh wait for a missing person
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  Speaker 2: that you know probably never actually mattered.
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  Speaker 3: But like if you've seen the crime, it's almost like,
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  Speaker 3: what do they look like?
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  Speaker 1: You don't know that.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like you could be like it look like
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  Speaker 4: it looked like a junkie mrgo Rubbie or something.
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  Speaker 2: You know what we should It would be really fun
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  Speaker 2: is if we had one of those guys or girls,
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  Speaker 2: man or woman. Sorry, I should say that are the
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  Speaker 2: police sketch draw and then we get shown a random
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  Speaker 2: photo like I show you a random photo for a second,
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  Speaker 2: as long as you would see a crime a criminal,
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  Speaker 2: And then they don't see the photo, and then you
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  Speaker 2: explain to it as best as possible, and like they're
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  Speaker 2: they're supposed to be wicked good at getting it at it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the whole job.
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  Speaker 6: I guess I can do it with your job, like
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  Speaker 6: this is your career, I'd be I'd expect you to
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  Speaker 6: be good at it.
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  Speaker 4: I love that saying, hey, when someone's doing something bad,
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  Speaker 4: like it's their career, can't they do that.
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  Speaker 1: Something?
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  Speaker 3: What the hell is full time?
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  Speaker 1: Full time?
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  Speaker 3: What the fuck but bad is?
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  Speaker 4: Today we're going to start with the relatables voice mail,
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  Speaker 4: with the prompt being what can men do to be better?
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  Speaker 4: I forgot the prompt for a while, so let's not
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  Speaker 4: waste any time and get straight into it.
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  Speaker 7: To be better, men could consider the female experience, so
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  Speaker 7: even just open your mind to it being scary to
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  Speaker 7: be outside when it's dark, or to be somewhere that's unfamiliar,
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  Speaker 7: because we fear a lot of the time that we're
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  Speaker 7: going to be We could be victimized in some way,
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  Speaker 7: shape or form.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's a great outlook to have, and
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  Speaker 4: a lot of men struggle to have that sort of
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  Speaker 4: perspective thing through someone else's eyes, how they would live.
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  Speaker 4: I think having a partner has opened my eyes up
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  Speaker 4: a lot. I would like to think I was quite
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  Speaker 4: aware of a lot of the issues, but.
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  Speaker 3: Even having a partner, I definitely have can say I've learned.
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  Speaker 1: Quite a lot. Oh yeah, I've definitely went way more.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: My girlfriend even best said that, like she would go
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  Speaker 2: early to pilates. This is before she had a license too.
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  Speaker 2: She would sometimes walk all the way to polarates.
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  Speaker 1: This is that five thirty am.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, five five point thirty and it's like a thirty
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  Speaker 2: minute walk. And she would walk in the middle of
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  Speaker 2: the road so she could see someone coming.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god, that is Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I've never experienced that. Yeah, no, it wouldn't cross my mind.
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  Speaker 1: I walk with headphines on them.
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  Speaker 3: It's a completely different experience.
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  Speaker 1: I'd walk with head friends. Yeah. That's the thing which
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  Speaker 1: goes into number two.
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  Speaker 8: I think there are a lot of things that men
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  Speaker 8: need to do better. That could be a whole hour
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  Speaker 8: long voieout.
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  Speaker 3: But that's what I podcast is.
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  Speaker 8: I think the main thing is that men need to
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  Speaker 8: understand that women are complete human beings that have a
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  Speaker 8: fundamentally different experience with the world and with men. I
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  Speaker 8: think there are a lot of men who are really
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  Speaker 8: well intentioned or they're not like bad people, but they
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  Speaker 8: don't take the time to understand what women have to
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  Speaker 8: go through every day, or what the expectations are or
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  Speaker 8: the safety fears that women have to go through on
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  Speaker 8: a daily basis. Just to feel like they have some
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  Speaker 8: semblance of control over their safety like that is one
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  Speaker 8: thing that I think even the most well intentioned man,
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  Speaker 8: the nicest man, still might need to work on that.
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  Speaker 8: I have experienced. Having to explain why as a woman
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  Speaker 8: I wouldn't feel safe in X, Y or Z situation
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  Speaker 8: is interesting to say the least. But again, could be a.
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  Speaker 1: Whole list, could be a whole list.
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  Speaker 2: It could When you are a man, one thing that
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  Speaker 2: you can do is so it's like really trying to
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  Speaker 2: think about how women experience the world differently, And it's like,
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  Speaker 2: if you're a man going for a walk at not
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  Speaker 2: you're not scared might be one of the assume you're
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  Speaker 2: going to be one of those men that has zero
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  Speaker 2: ill intent, good man or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like I'd say I'm guilty of it, Like
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  Speaker 1: going for a walk at night and maybe there's a
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  Speaker 1: woman coming the opposite direction, Like it would probably make
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  Speaker 1: her feel a whole lot better if you just cross
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  Speaker 1: the road, Yeah, because then she knows that she doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have to cross paths with them. And it's like the
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  Speaker 1: good men almost take a fence to that. I find
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  Speaker 1: I'm not the problem.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's I think it's like something men
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  Speaker 2: can really do to be better is like the men
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  Speaker 2: that are quote unquote good need to stop taking a
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  Speaker 2: fence to the fact that women are pretty much just
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  Speaker 2: scared of men as a whole.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel like one fact that we could definitely
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  Speaker 4: become good role models for and where a lot of
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  Speaker 4: men go wrong is the problems have been there. We're
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  Speaker 4: educating ourselves a lot more now with this podcast and
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  Speaker 4: our partners as well, but also like it needs to
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  Speaker 4: come from other men because the problems have been there.
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  Speaker 4: Women have been vocal about them for years and years
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  Speaker 4: and years, hundreds of years, and a lot of them
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  Speaker 4: are getting better, but there's still a lot of problems
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  Speaker 4: and if they come from us, that's where the change starts.
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  Speaker 4: Whereas like a lot of men don't like to admit
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  Speaker 4: that there's something there. And then if some woman comes
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  Speaker 4: over and says, oh, l X, Y and Z, like nah,
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  Speaker 4: you don't understand if it comes from there's something or
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  Speaker 4: like she said, the male and female experience is so different,
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  Speaker 4: and within that difference is coming from the same gender
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  Speaker 4: for some reason, I don't know. I don't think it's right,
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  Speaker 4: makes you understand it more coming from the same gender, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. Do you mean like women
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  Speaker 1: understand it way more than yeah, so yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And the way to solve that is men tell other
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  Speaker 3: men ah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah yeah, which is like crazy, that's getting a Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's like crazy that men will only listen to other men.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and I don't know, it's kind of
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  Speaker 1: I know what you're getting at now.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like the way men will understand it always
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  Speaker 2: by hearing it, Yes, like hearing another man admit it
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  Speaker 2: and then being like, oh, that's something he admitted, Like fuck,
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  Speaker 2: men are just sheep.
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  Speaker 1: B yeah, they are. Men are the biggest sheep. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they jump on the bandwagon.
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  Speaker 4: I also think they don't like to obviously admit when
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  Speaker 4: they're wrong, but when they're put in.
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  Speaker 1: Their place, they hate it.
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  Speaker 4: So if the rather than admitting there's a problem, they'd
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  Speaker 4: rather be unbeknownst.
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  Speaker 2: To said problem. Yeah, which is a problems. That's that's
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  Speaker 2: amassive and that's that's the problem.
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  Speaker 1: Pretty much, you know what I mean. Because it's like the.
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  Speaker 2: Guys that are bad enough to commit the heinous things,
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  Speaker 2: you're not going to change them. You can try your best, right,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you could do your best to change them,
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  Speaker 2: but like they know they're doing a bad thing.
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  Speaker 1: So it's not up to them.
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  Speaker 2: It's up to the men that know what the right
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  Speaker 2: thing is to stop the next generations from getting like that.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it needs to be a cultural change, and it
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  Speaker 4: starts with our generation or the generations before us, but
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  Speaker 4: to impact it more and more and more, it's generation
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  Speaker 4: of the generation.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, we've got one more.
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  Speaker 9: I've noticed a lot of guys do not like admitting
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  Speaker 9: deep emotion, whether it be sadness, happiness, I guess, like infatuation,
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  Speaker 9: lust or anything. They just try to play their emotions
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  Speaker 9: off and say they're very like calm and collective and
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  Speaker 9: that's fine. If they want to look that way, it's
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  Speaker 9: absolutely fine. But in some situations it's nice to know
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  Speaker 9: how the male is feeling because women are in tune
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  Speaker 9: with their emotions and they just want to make sure
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  Speaker 9: that they are comfortable in the scenario or situation they
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  Speaker 9: might also be dealing with. I've noticed that a lot,
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  Speaker 9: and probably like the last three years that a lot
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  Speaker 9: of I would say, guys in their twenties and thirties
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  Speaker 9: feel very insecure with saying how they feel emotionally, and
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  Speaker 9: I think that society has made them to feel like
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  Speaker 9: they can't say anything. And I think that is horrendous.
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  Speaker 9: And I mean, I don't know, maybe that's just me,
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  Speaker 9: but yeah, thank you, oh thank.
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  Speaker 1: You, You're welcome, thank you.
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  Speaker 10: I think that's relatable, though I would agree, like I really,
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  Speaker 10: I guess you feelin saying this out then this out
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  Speaker 10: loud is like some sort of crazy realization as wow, like.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really be if I'm on.
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  Speaker 2: A date with Beth, I'm obviously very happy, but like,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm obviously having a great time, but I can't
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  Speaker 2: really remember a time I've said like like when we
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  Speaker 2: get home, maybe it'll be like, yeah, that was fun.
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  Speaker 2: But while it's going on, like there's why not just
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  Speaker 2: be like I'm so happy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because you said obvious twice? Yeah, is it obvious exactly.
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  Speaker 1: She's not in your head. Its obvious to me, not her. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 4: And we have so many friends that are like that.
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  Speaker 4: They probably think, oh, yeah, I'm having the best time.
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  Speaker 4: Everyone knows I'm having a good time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Just fucking say it, bro, just fucking say it.
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  Speaker 1: We used to be friends with this guy.
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  Speaker 2: I know you're thinking he just had this crazy he
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  Speaker 2: had a resting bitch face, like arresting, which is that's
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  Speaker 2: what he had. His face just looks so angry at
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  Speaker 2: arresting angry face and Tom you'd go over to him
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  Speaker 2: on a night out, he look so angry and you'd
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  Speaker 2: be like, are you good, and he goes, you don't
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  Speaker 2: having time of life?
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  Speaker 1: Yea imembering the time.
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  Speaker 3: There's the best example ever.
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  Speaker 2: Any just classic. Man just wasn't showing it.
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  Speaker 3: It's really interesting.
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  Speaker 1: Look, I know it's probably not obvious. Guys.
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  Speaker 2: Also, mainly because all your baddies are listening. Be your
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  Speaker 2: audio Spotify is just audio now. But if you're on
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  Speaker 2: YouTube or on Patreon, would you.
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  Speaker 1: Actually watch the now are what I had?
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  Speaker 2: It probably just looks like we're in a normal set
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  Speaker 2: and we are in one of our normal sets because
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  Speaker 2: we have two.
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  Speaker 3: Now, how is the subtle flex right there?
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  Speaker 4: One of our we've got two sets, baddies, and it's
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  Speaker 4: a yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So last time you watched us in this set, we
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  Speaker 2: were actually on the Central Coast, which is near Sydney.
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  Speaker 1: Now we're on the Gold Coast because we've got.
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  Speaker 2: A we have the mezzanine level of this guy's industrial unit,
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  Speaker 2: right and he uses his unit to just store a
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  Speaker 2: caravan and then he's renting out of his mezzanine level
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  Speaker 2: to us, and we jumped on it, and we jumped
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  Speaker 2: on it, so we replicated the setus so it kind
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: of keeps some continuity for you all.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and we love that new one and it was
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  Speaker 4: pretty brand new anyway. Yeah, so continuity is a great word.
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  Speaker 4: And also we wanted to touch on I guess I
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  Speaker 4: want to put it as a dream. Jake and I
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  Speaker 4: had a dream. We've had it for ages and we
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  Speaker 4: love podcasting. We love what we do outside of just
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  Speaker 4: changing to everyone chaining to each other, we also like
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  Speaker 4: the production behind it, behind everything like after this finish's recording,
• 14:57
  Speaker 4: we do everything post, which is kind of rare for
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  Speaker 4: a podcasts these days, which is why we are going
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  Speaker 4: down the avenue of hopefully starting our studios. I wanted
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  Speaker 4: to actually say to you, I was going to say
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  Speaker 4: off the pot, but we might as well do it now.
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  Speaker 4: Did you want to call it our studios very professional
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  Speaker 4: or battie studios?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I kind of like baddies same yeah,
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  Speaker 1: or just Baddie Battye studios, baddie podcast studios. We could
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  Speaker 1: call it relatable thing podcast is relatables. Here's the thing
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  Speaker 1: with our studios, right is in this complex there's someone
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  Speaker 1: two doors down that has I'm not even kidding you
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  Speaker 1: all show you when we walk out today.
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  Speaker 2: There's a on their door, a big blue sticker. The
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  Speaker 2: whole door is blue, which is a big white R.
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  Speaker 6: You're kidding, like, no, I'm not taking the pis bro,
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  Speaker 6: I'm telling you right now. And I was thinking, now,
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  Speaker 6: we can't really do that arson that is remember actually, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Do you want it doesn't have to be any of them,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, call it like to make up a
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  Speaker 1: brand new one than that.
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  Speaker 4: I was learning towards our studios like a sexy aesthetic
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  Speaker 4: studios in like Italic after it, because you'd.
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  Speaker 2: Be able to tell the difference by that guy over
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  Speaker 2: there has just an ah if we had an R
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  Speaker 2: studio tell different.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and he's also not cool.
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  Speaker 1: No, I've never seen it. I've seen in the back
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  Speaker 1: of him once walking and I was like.
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  Speaker 2: You, let's jump in. But also I'm fighting a cold. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you can hear in your voice a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: It's starting to come out, isn't it. Honestly, only today
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  Speaker 1: it's starting to coming out so annoying.
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  Speaker 4: But I wanted to say, also, it's very good because
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: I saw a couple of comments about what our plans were,
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: and it's cool to see as like, I'm still where
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  Speaker 4: I grew up. But Jake, I've came here for the
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  Speaker 4: first time yesterday and I'm seeing the life he's creating
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  Speaker 4: for himself, and like, I think it's actually good for you,
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: good for our relationship, but also just the podcast in
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  Speaker 4: a sense too, because we are two completely separate people
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  Speaker 4: and as friends, I think we used to be a
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  Speaker 4: lot more similar. Not saying it's a bad thing, but
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  Speaker 4: I think we're just growing as adults do, and it's
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: cool to see the life you're building for yourself and
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: what you like doing and what.
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: I like doing life my dad built for me.
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: To get that on a shirt, I'm living the life
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: my dad built for me. To be fair, Jake's granny
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: flat is nice.
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm living in my dad's granny flat.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: It's really nice.
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: Charge granny flat just like a little one bedroom studio apartment.
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's a fucking I'm living in my dad's separate
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: dwelling living nice.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, Beth and I wanted to come up here
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: and see if we liked it.
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: So we're going to live there for a while and
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: then save some money and then, yeah, just choose where
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: we like the most. As of right now, so it's
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: like we live in the Burley area. Anyone that's privy
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: with the gold coats, the Burley area seems.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: Like I like it. I think it's one of the best. Yeah.
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: I wanted to ask, how is it going from how
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: much were you paying in Sydney?
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Three hundred and sixty six a week.
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: So you and Beth are paying quick math, that's like seven. Yeah.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: How's it feel.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: You mean not paying rent? Yeah, amazing, it feels amazing.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: What are you talking about.
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: I thought, I don't know. I thought like, oh, you
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: don't really like you need to get used to it
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: off what you.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Might say, Oh, I mean no, it feels amazing. It
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: feels really good.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: I used to have like this account in my bank
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: account always I had set off just an account right
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: would transfer my rent to it each week, and then.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: It came out of there automatically.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: I'd like send it to Beth because how it worked was,
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: like Beth said, her bank out up with the real
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: estate agent. And just like you get used to that,
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: like paying rent, you get used to paying rent, and
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: I kind of just am like I have to.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: It is what it is. But then also something about
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: Sydney is like.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: You just no matter what you do, there's just always
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: seems to.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Be like money coming out of your bank account.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you drive, you leave the house.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's just so many toll roads you park a
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: lot of a lot of paid parking, a lot of
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: toll roads.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: Right, and then.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: Just like I drive less here as well, so I like,
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: don't fill my car up from my car. I think
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: I've filled my car up once since moving here, and
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: I've lived here for coming on close to a month.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: I find like we just also randomly ever since we
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: moved here, I've just been like cooking, like dinners way
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: more and Beth have had. Beth and I have dinner
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: together like every night now, and in Sydney we would
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: have dinner together like maybe once or twice a week
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: and literally just because like we ate different things, like
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: we would quite often eat at the same time, but
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: we would never have the same thing ever.
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: Is that why you were burning heaps of shit last night?
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: Actually never really cook together?
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: The fucking my pants bro, This Perth fucked keep burn
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: something about being like, okay, so I don't want stainless
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: steel pants.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: I don't think there's a place in this world for
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: Stanley steel pans.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: So he's the thing that was like Stanley steel pants
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: are supposed to be the best.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but they say it, but there's so many more
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: steps to cooking something.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, like you have to it. So it's like
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: a Stanless steel pant has to be like heat it
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: up all the way to high and then brought down
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: the medium and then like it's ready to fucking cook
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: on or something and then it's non stick. But like
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: if you get it literally one percent wrong. And you
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: try to cook an egg that shit's fucking baked on.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: I know it's fucked and so and also you actually
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: have to use a lot of oil, and the correct type,
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: like avocado oil, has a high smoke point, like.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Bad for you.
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: And so my dried chicken doesn't need that.
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: And so I'm like, I don't want to cook a
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: stainless steel I don't want to like have some fucking
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: shitty teft on non stick that's killing me with microplastics.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: And so I all.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: Year last year got new pants. They were go and
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: gate grown, gate going great. And then I blame my
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: roommate Beth. Otherwise I'm like my other roommate for fucking
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: like Beth keeps saying she watched me and last night,
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: remember I said to you, like, I'm pretty sure I
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: watched this with steel wall once.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: I said that to make Beth happy. By the way,
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: because if I.
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Was to say what I actually felt, and that is
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: that our roommate ruined our fucking pants, you would have said, no,
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: I watched you do it with it, and she'd be defended.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: I've never I always, I tell you, I always use
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: a soft break and I one day, come in, try
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: to cook an egg.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: It's stuck relatable.
• 21:32
  Speaker 8: That is.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna buy new pants, Beth can't stop me.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Do it? Hear your own ones? So I have one
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: pan that's brand new because I wanted a new get.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Like, I've questions, so i'd interrupted you do you have
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: a pant like specific pants you used for specific things?
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: So like, if you're going to cook an egg, you
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: have a pan that I.
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: Have oneless steel. I cook everything on and then when
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: it's too big if I'm cooking.
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: For two people.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: Literally two minutes ago, stainless steel has no place in
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: this world.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: You just said you have a standless stelpen you cook
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: everything on.
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: I meant my brain took over. Then I have one
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: non stick that I cook everything on, one stainless steel
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: that I have to cook on when it gets too
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: big for my non sticker. Okay, so when my girlfriend
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: stays over and then I have when and then when
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: I when I cook something really small, it cooks pancakes
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: great though, stainless steal with butter.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Really Yeah, I'm a pro bro. I've brought the mix.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I might do it tomorrow morning. Okay, Yeah, you can.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Come down to my campsite.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: He couldn't afford a room of my parent's house.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: Fucking five hundred dollars, five hundred dollars a week, not
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: a week a day.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Well, he's not making run off us. He's going to
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: make it off someone.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: I saw him walk down. He looked at me like
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: a peasant.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: All to take is straight and my shower. You can
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: you can getet to the Wi Fi, then extra.
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: But also with this studio, too bad. I'm saying it
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: a lot today. Leave a comment. We are in Burley,
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: which is a hot spot for guests. People love to
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: live here.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: I drove past a podcast studio the other day.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and one reason we haven't got guests on this
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: podcast before is we're not very good at talking to
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: other people. But the other reason is we've lived in
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: obscure places where our studio has been in an obscure place.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I guess so like Sydney, you'd argue a
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: great place for guesting, but we never had a studio.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: There is a studio was always a minimum ere and
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: a half drive away.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: And we want to have people that we are really
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: like minded with. Yeah, and so comment below because there's
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: a lot of people I guess we wouldn't even have
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: thought of too. We have something in our mind that
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: we might send some dms to actually.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what the heck, like, let's like, yeah, comment, I.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: Want fifty comments on this episode.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Comment who should be? Who we should try and get
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: on the pod?
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I've wanted to go down the avenue of like
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: women doing super cool stuff and just like chatting through
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: their journey and like roadblocks and successes and stuff.
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: And I feel that'd be so interesting.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what type of thing to you on? You're like business?
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: And I feel like the stars were just aligned too,
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: Like ships and gigs just aligned, the girl's bathroom just aligned.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: They were great.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, true, but yeah, let us know about It's very
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: exciting times for us. Yeah, but also props too. We'll
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: leave it on Jake. He built ninety five percent of this.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: If you were to look five, okay, give me more.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I bought all the gear.
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: To be fair, that was quite a lot of fucking research.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: On the topic.
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: You want to say, we're going to give me more
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: and be a good bloke.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: No, I was looking for one hundred percent. I was
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: literally thinking, what the fuck did you do? Hey?
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: I just drove made how is here with fucking all
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: the gear. Oh claim that.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Up above that literal panel above you right, you can't
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: see no camera backs. If you go on the ladder
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: you got up there and looked down, is a couple
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: of specs red real blood went into the UK. So yeah,
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: I nearly I'm telling me. I tried to say that
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: the start of the episode until someone interrupted me. Oddie,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I fucking nearly drilled a hole my finger.
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: And on that note, if you go look at the
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: light batteries you won't see that either. There's a little
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: bit of blood on that. I got blood on that
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: when I was packing it. Actually, yeah, I cut my
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: finger in my car and there's a bit of blood
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: on one of them.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Addie, I have an announcement to make. What is it?
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: I am officially pause for silence, dramatic effect.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I'm Marcher, babe, man.
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: I am so glad you said that, because I am too.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: I absolutely love Marcher. It's like a reward.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: Couldn't agree more. My friend could not agree more.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: Throughout the day, I do little tasks and I'm like,
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: you know what, I deserve a Marcher.
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: Same and I go to at the moment, Jake, are
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: these perfect head vanilla march a latte cans.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: Cans not only.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: Do they taste amazing, but it's also a different source
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: of caffeine to coffee.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Wait, that's true, and they're so handy, like it's just
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: a cafe quality marcher in a can in your.
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: Head, mate, I am obsessed, And I know the baddies
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: listening are going to be looking for a sign to
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: get a marcher today.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: Here it is so hey, you've heard it here. First,
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: don't walk, but run to Cole's.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: All right, Jake, what's something that you pretend doesn't affect
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: you but it clearly does?
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: Oh, I actually don't like off the top of my headache,
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: don't really know my hairline.
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: I didn't say anything. I think that's the wind. Wait, no,
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: my hairling doesnt affect up on the mezzodine. My hairlines
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: you always say like, oh, yeah, it's all right. I
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: might I just say we're getting through the age where
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: like the hairlines are really showing you're holding on strong.
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: A couple of our friends, old friends have lost it.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've got to say I have like where my
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: hair every part of my head that has hair is
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: like quite healthy hair. Right, And then like middle top
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: of head coming up to my forehead quite healthy, healthy, healthy,
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: And then I have like a widow's peak, And so.
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: I just wish I do. I wish I didn't have
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: the widows speak.
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: I really want to it unlucky.
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: Okay, what's something men pretend don't affect them, but it
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: clearly does when you comment on their driving?
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I fucking hate that.
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: I hate it to a I leave me alone if
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: anybody ever.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: Says something about my driving.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: The way I played off is like, yeah, I suck
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: at driving. But in my inside, I'm like hurt.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: I'm really hurt.
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: Inside, I'm thinking I had it.
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: Are you ever driving like your family somewhere and your
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: mom will comment, your step mom will comment on your driving.
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: I'm like, leave me alone. None of my l's anymore. Mother,
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: I've passed.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: You can keep your opinions.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: Oh god, I just like.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Also, you know what is so annoying is you could
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: be the best driver in the world, and if someone's
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: in the car with you that's not in the car
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: with you very often, and you make one silly mistake
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: to them, you're the worst driver. And everyone they see
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: they tell about, they tell how about how.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: Bad you are at driving. Yeah, and you're like, I
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: made one mistake.
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: I've dot a few people. You crash your car. It
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: cost you're five thousand dollars.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair.
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: You're like, I made one mistake, fairing about the please world.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: I accidentally got in a bit of an accident and
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: it costs me four and a half grand.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: Yes, I am twenty six. I've been driving since I
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: was seventy. I've made one mistake.
• 28:55
  Speaker 5: How many times I've gone behind the wheel.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: I actually have a pretty good hit rate.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah an expensive hit right?
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: Look it was it wasn't expensive hit right? Okay, I
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: I find this so funny. Things men pretend don't affect them,
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: but they actually do. When you give them a compliment
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: on a shot on a shirt and they keep wearing it, oh.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: Like oh, they pretend like the compliment doesn't mean anything.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: They can't imagine.
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: That's one of those things. Going back to the start,
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: just be like thank you. Yeah, this has made my year.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Yes, like compliment a shirt.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: If someone said that shirt looks good on you, I'd
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: wear it.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: It looks good twice a week for three years.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: I want to get rid of the stigma where you
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: can't wear sam fit more than once on a night
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: out or something. Hey, if you're rocking it and you're
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: looking good and you're confident, fucking do that shit every
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: single day.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would also like to try, and I guess
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: break that stick. Like if you as long as you
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: don't stink if you buy an outfit for I mean,
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: I guess that's got nothing to do with that.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: You look, you.
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: Know, the same shirt if you want two days in
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: a row or something.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I'm not going to tell someone to wear
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: a shirt two days in a row unless it's clean.
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, like wash your ship. What you're saying, it's
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: like a given, specify it.
• 30:09
  Speaker 8: No.
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: I If you buy an outfit for an event or something,
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: and then two weeks later you have another event and
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: in that outfit you bought for the first event, you
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: felt great.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: Wear it again, don't buy another one? Wear it again?
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: Funny story? Actually?
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Or is it okay? Is wearing a really good outfit? Okay?
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: So you buy an outfit for an event? Where is
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: wearing it the first time? Like the first time you
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: do Heroin? Apparently the first time we do Heroin.
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: Is supposed to be the best, but then it's not
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: as good, and then every time it must because they're
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: trying to chase that high.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: That's why people get addicted by new outfits.
• 30:45
  Speaker 5: Trying to change that high.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Well, we just kind of figured it out n ugly.
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, the funny story was, I feel like a lot
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: of baddies would relate.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: I'm about to move in with my partner.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: You keep saying partner, and both of us actually do this.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: I find it so like, why do we say partner?
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: What is your girlfriend?
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: My girlfriend? Partner's the same thing.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: I don't know if partner would be so proper. Yeah
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: she does. It looks like technically you and I partners.
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, partner. I don't know.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: Maybe it doesn't specify a gender. She could be whatever
• 31:14
  Speaker 4: she wants to be my partner. How dare you assume?
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: Jake, I'm sorry that's even your name.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: It's actually Cassandra.
• 31:35
  Speaker 4: You have I'm about to move in with them, and
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: we have a walk in wardrobe and this guy it's
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: kind of like n is weird, but we basically we
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: have a walk in and then we have like a
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: little set of drawers with like another coat hanger, which
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: is like a normal set of drawers. Size and I'm
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: about to she's already been living there. I'm about to
• 31:57
  Speaker 4: move in, and there's no room for me the walking
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: water do you reckon? It's fair where I should be,
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: like I get half the walk in, or I should
• 32:05
  Speaker 4: just stick to my set of drawers that I've got.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: So it's basically I would say the ratio is about
• 32:10
  Speaker 4: if it was out of ten of room, I've got
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: a two and she's got the other eight.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, wow, yeah that's been right.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing, right, because you live, you're moving a
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: five minute drive from your parents place.
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: Drive moment to get dressed.
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: I'm thinking you could bring like half of your clothes
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: because fifty percent of them is probably things you ever. Yeah, true,
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: bring everything you wear and then if you have an
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: event or something, I'll go.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: You just have to rip to your parents' place quickly
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: and get ready.
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: I was I was going to do that with like
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: my jackets and jumpers.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: That's what we get.
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: Send jumpers all the time. I don't like twenty and
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: I wear two, and like jumpers take up some space.
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: Anything that needs to be like hung up me, So.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: I should just let it slide. Yeah, that's be real.
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: Like what's the what's the the goes I called some
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: stuff I go in there. I'm like, I haven't noticed.
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah really with a pair of I have so many
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: more we need to h let's go quick fire me.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: What's something men pretend to affect them but it clearly does?
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: Powerful women?
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, valid post celebrity crush being nothing like you?
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Oh that hurt is?
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: Are we sure we don't want to deep dive into
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: that one. That one fucking hurts a lot, that one.
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: What's something men pretend to affect them but it clearly does?
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: Being held accountable?
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Oh, here's the thing is like is it affecting them?
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: I guess like you could argue it does affect them,
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: But at the same time, it's like you're just being
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: held accountable, Like you're just.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: Being held accountable. Like, what do you mean this affects you?
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: All right?
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: What's something men pretend doesn't affect them but it actually does.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Book boyfriends?
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: Oh that's the biggest one. Hay ickon there Men out
• 33:51
  Speaker 4: there like, oh, I don't care, and then they go
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: to sleep.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: Gounda give men again a bit jealous over the book boys.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Everyone's this thing about book boyfriends, right, and so women
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: predominantly are reading these books where these where there's these
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: really sexy book boyfriends. But as a man who has
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: read quite a few of these books, now, dude, I
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: have book girlfriends. Oh like they Its like Nesta is
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: explained to be like the most beautiful thing you've ever seen.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: As well. Think about that.
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: I thought you were going to go down a different
• 34:28
  Speaker 4: avenue there. I thought you were going to say everyone's like,
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: I want book boyfriends, I want this, I want that,
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: and you were going to be like.
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: I am a book boyfriend, just without the penis.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: What are you talking about me?
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: I'm saying you.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: Thought that I was going to go down that.
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: I thought you're going to go like beautiful, gorgeous, good
• 34:45
  Speaker 4: chat care about him, la la la lah everything just
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: a small willy. That's the only thing outside one hand,
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: what you open and honest and accountable. Hey, I thought
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: that's what you're going to do.
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: I told everyone beth As Begins.
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: I'm glad you said, what's something you remember tend to
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: affect them? But it clearly does.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Birthing rights Oh my god. Yeah, yeah.
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: I feel like there's some like misogynistic freaks out there
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: who would prefer them to do it.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: Well, birthing what do you mean by birth rights?
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: I think that like that women get to do it. Now,
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: I don't think that's what birthing right, that's what it
• 35:28
  Speaker 4: means birthing right. I really don't What do you mean
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: birthing rights? I think it affects men that women get
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: to give birth, and they literally think that's how I
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: don't even know. I think it's the worst word of misogyny.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: Birthing rights. Okay, what is birthings? Birth and rights? Rights
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: or privileges or possessions a person is entitled to from birth,
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: such as citizenship, inheritance or fundamental human rights. You please
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: reread that. And then there's birthing rights. So what is
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: something that affects men? But they pretend it doesn't birthing right.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: So it's like, how does that affect us?
• 36:05
  Speaker 4: Wouldn't it we get birthing right, wouldn't yeah be the opposite,
• 36:08
  Speaker 4: because men get a lot more than women.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: From from birth.
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: We get Oh wait, we pretend that we don't get
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: more birthing rights, but we do.
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: Like what you're trying to say, I don't know.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't say a lot, like a lot of men
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: would be out there.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: My avenue was so wrong.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what the fuck we're talking about? Like birth?
• 36:27
  Speaker 5: What are you talking for?
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: That makes sense in my head. That's what the fact
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: that women get to give birth we don't.
• 36:33
  Speaker 5: I'm not gonna lie to you.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: I'm very happy I don't have to give No. I know,
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: When I was thinking, some men are like, oh I
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: wish I could, like fucking what that's what I thought.
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: I'm wrong. I can admit that I'm wrong.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: You're off your head that I'm willing to learn. All right, Okay,
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: oh my god, this is crazy.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: What's something in pretended doesn't affect them but it actually
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: does if their friend is a faster runner than them.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I feel like.
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: That would never experience that once in my life.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Have you always been the fastest friend? Yeah? Printing wires
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: and ship yeah, yeah, you have to, Like, yeah, I
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: can kind of have.
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: I always remember, like growing up in primary school and stuff,
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: and you get to like the the athletics day, watching
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: the events and then really like I can't wait to
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: watch some and.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: So I feel like a god, like I can't wait.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, okay, I'm trying to think ready there's
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: a guy.
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: Primary school, there was two okay, there was someone named
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: Riley Stevenson and Jack right to appreciate that the two
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: they were the two fastest.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: And I remember that Stevenson for real, where like.
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: Ze oh ship Okay, I just remember those two were
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: like the fast school. But for some high school it
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: wasn't something I thought about. But in primary school, I
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: remember that was something that was spoken.
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: I can We'll go down to the park arts. You
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: can just watch me, Pa.
• 38:04
  Speaker 4: What's something men pretend to affect them, but it clearly
• 38:06
  Speaker 4: does earning more money than.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: Them or women earning more money. Yeah, yeah, I.
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: Feel like a lot of men like, oh no, but
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: it really does a lot.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: Of men do. Yeah.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: I definitely don't give a ship. It's a lot more
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: money than me for quite a while.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Actually, that's sick. I feel like your own person. It
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: was like, okay, your dinner and I was like thanks.
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: It's like it shouldn't be a comparison. And then you
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: become a team yeah.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: Exactly when you ask for a little bit of their food.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, trying to be a good boyfriend and
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: be like yeah, yeah you can know some.
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I ordered the exact right amount for me.
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: I'm happy.
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: I'm happy to pay an extra six dollars for your
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: fries and touch.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: Mine thing as well.
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: It is like you can't say that, Yeah, you're allowed
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: to say I would have paid more money for your fries,
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: but I just want one.
• 38:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we should try that, all right, not making a
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: girl come Oh yeah that hurts.
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: It's bad, Yeah it does. Yeah.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: I don't know what else to say about that. That
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: really makes me feel like nothing.
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, nothing, that's a good word for it.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: When their barber messes up and they just say, yeah,
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: it's chill, bro, and then they wear a hat for
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: two weeks. I don't experienced this.
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: That happened to me like not that long ago, like
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: two or three months, and he absolutely chopped my hair ape.
• 39:26
  Speaker 4: I took the side of it like up here, and
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: you know what, what are you doing? Never went back
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: to that barber again. That's what's my way of getting back.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: I was actually a terrible friend in that moment as well,
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: because it was the only time I've noticed that you've
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: been given a bad haircut.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, you bubb did a bit
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: of a rough yeah.
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: Fucking the whole time he was talking to me about
• 39:41
  Speaker 4: gun laws. I had because my barber went overseas, so
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: I was going about trying new ones and he was
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: talking to me about guns. I'm like, mate, talking about
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: guns and it should be legal, and figure out how
• 39:50
  Speaker 4: to cut hair.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: As long as about guns, are just going to use
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: these guns and then to fucking hit you in the face.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: Legit.
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: My last one. The approval from the bros.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's when I say it. This earlier men
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: are sheep.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: They are get out of that bubble. Be yourself.
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, get your own life.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: Last time for me.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Dramatic TV shows they get hooked, but they'll never admit
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: they're into it.
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: Now, I'll admit to day I love that ship. Yeah,
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: I actually even I would admit I love a chick
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: flick too. There's a time and a place for a
• 40:24
  Speaker 4: good chick flick.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: Why is called chick flick? Because women like it more,
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: I guess, or just made for women? I think so,
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: but more of like a romance.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: Come in a place. Yeah. Movie loves the worst ones? Really,
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: you know how there's.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: Some really good ones, but the shitty Netflix originals.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: Yes, I can't stand that loves them.
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: I'll be like, get your own TV.
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: She will be like, sometimes I'll if I'm on the
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: coast and I call her and she goes, I'm just
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: watching a ship movie, and I'll know what she's watching.
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: Watch what's with that?
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: Actually they love what they call it an ees the watch,
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: but it's shit TV. That's what it is to me.
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: It's a hard watch. Yeah, that's what I mean, because
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: there's there's no substance to it. There's no storyline to follow, like, oh,
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: it's an easy watch.
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: Leave me alone. Wait, we use some of those brain
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: cells in there.
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: This was hands down the worst piece of cinema that
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: has ever that my eyes have ever beheld. I feel
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: bad for your eyeballs, like and it and she admitted
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: like she was laughing through it at how bad it was, and.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: Like, but she found it easy to watch.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: And so what's the difference between men and women where
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: it's like that cringey, you know, terrible movie that everyone
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: knows iss shit, Like Beth can watch it with these
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: knowing that it's like cringing and terrible. But for some reason,
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: like I physically couldn't watch it.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: I'd leave, Yeah, I would turn it off.
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: I had to leave.
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't finish watching it, whether I was like
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, I actually can't and I don't and I.
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: Just like it's funny. It is a complete difference.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: I was thinking about, like.
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: The where my mind was going was thinking like the
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: actors after these takes would have to sit there and
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: think about the take that that was just done, like
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: what they've just done.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: And I was thinking, like how are they even showing
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: up every day?
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: But you know what I mean, like like I don't know,
• 42:17
  Speaker 4: maybe we I've felt that too, though. There's like a
• 42:19
  Speaker 4: producer make a shit film and they go or do
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: they think this is the best thing ever true?
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: That's such a good question.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: Is there any films that get made where everyone knows
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: this is just the worst.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: They're just contracted to make it? Too deep? Yeah, they
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: just contracted to make it.
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: I reckon they would be I really do I agree?
• 42:43
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• 43:08
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• 43:10
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• 43:23
  Speaker 3: Dilemma.
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: I'm currently dating a man and we have completely opposite
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: views politically. I'm from America, so Donald Trump is currently
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: president and neither of us will ever budge. I am
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: twenty five female and he is twenty one year old male.
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: While we do try our best to respect each other's opinions,
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: I feel like he wants to convert me to being conservative,
• 43:45
  Speaker 4: just in the way he phrases, speaks, and his tone
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: of voice about it. Not to mention, this is the
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: only thing we fight about, and I mean fight. A
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: lot of it is just brought up out of nowhere.
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: I have considered breaking up with him over this, amongst
• 43:59
  Speaker 4: other things like different religion, age, maturity. But he has
• 44:03
  Speaker 4: had past relationships that have ended because of this, and
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: his dad is an I told you so type of person.
• 44:10
  Speaker 4: Any advice on how to navigate this? Do I stay
• 44:12
  Speaker 4: and deal with it knowing he'll never change, or do
• 44:15
  Speaker 4: I break up with him, probably blind siding him. Help
• 44:18
  Speaker 4: love the pod. Thanks for making me laugh every single week.
• 44:21
  Speaker 4: B Yeah, I think there's a couple things where like
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: you can't overlook them. One of them, we actually said,
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: two of them beliefs and religion. There's two things that
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: I probably couldn't look past. And not to say either
• 44:37
  Speaker 4: people's opinions are right or wrong. But I think he
• 44:40
  Speaker 4: should respect yours and you should respect his and go
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: your separate ways.
• 44:44
  Speaker 5: Look.
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you could go so deep into everything in this,
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: but like, just from everything you said, like you clearly
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: are just like there could be similarities about you, but
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: you clearly have very different views into very different aspects
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: of pot.
• 44:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and I'll g for a little bit of empathy
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: in a sense of it is a very hard thing
• 45:02
  Speaker 4: to navigate in a sense of.
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: It's hard. I said it before, It's.
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: Hard to see where someone's coming from when they're clearly wrong. Yeah,
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: not saying who's wrong, but we all know who's wrong. Yeah,
• 45:15
  Speaker 4: and they have I'm assuming he's a trumpet. Yeah, yeah,
• 45:17
  Speaker 4: no evidence behind that. But it's really really hard in
• 45:21
  Speaker 4: a relationship to get past that and some things you
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: just told, like you're allowed to be your own unique people, Yeah,
• 45:26
  Speaker 4: but this is one of those things where I think
• 45:27
  Speaker 4: you have to be aligned on.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: So I guess just like to end it, like everything
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: you said, it just fully leads to breaking up. And
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: also you said something about how his dad's and I
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: told you so guy, And I assume when he started
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: dating you and your and his dad figured out what
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: your views are, his dad probably said don't date. And
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: you're worried that his dad's is just gonna say I
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: told you so to this guy because a fuck, what
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: are you talking about?
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: You've never seen him again. It's like the biggest red
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: flag too. He's like said, oh, this won't work out,
• 45:57
  Speaker 4: like I told you so, Like, get out of that. Yeah,
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: break up hard one, not a hard answer, but like
• 46:05
  Speaker 4: a hard one to go through.
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I feel all right bad it has I've
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: got a bit of a doozy foroyeur, cold tight. Hey guys,
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: I posted this also on Reddit, but would like to
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: hear your opinions. Sorry if it is too long. I
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: went through my boyfriend's phone and found something I wish
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: I hadn't. I twenty one year old female have been
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: with my boyfriend for about two years. For privacy, I
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: will call him Leon term twenty one male which in
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: a while, which ironically is also the fake name he
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: used on the websites I later discovered.
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: Oh shit.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: Until recently, I genuinely believed our relationship was really good.
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: We didn't have big problems, We spent a lot of
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: time together, and I always felt safe and loved by
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: with him. I never had a real reason to think
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: he might be cheating or hiding something. Everything started with
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: something very small. On Wednesday, the eighteenth of the second
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: twenty twenty six, I saw a notification on his phone
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: from someone called Emily. It said she had added him
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: on Snapchat and sent him a message. I didn't think
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: much about it at the time and didn't question him.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Two days later, on Friday, I saw another notification from her,
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: this time on his smart watch, so I asked him
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: who she was. He told me she was the situationship
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: of a friend of his and that she had added
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: him randomly. According to him, he had already removed her
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: and didn't even read the message. The problem is that
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: he didn't know I had already seen the notification two
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: days earlier. Something about the way he explained it made
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: me feel like he was lying. Gotta go with your gut.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: The next morning, I did something I'm not proud of.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: I looked through his phone. I know it's a violation
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: of privacy, but my gut feeling was so strong that
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: I couldn't ignore it. Like he said, I didn't find
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: a chat with Emily, but noticed that he had taken
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: screenshots of another conversation. When I opened his gallery to
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: see what it was, I found something strange.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: Instead.
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: There were photos of him where his face was scribbled out.
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: Next to those photos were screenshots of nude pictures of
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: a man that came from Google. At that moment, I
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: got scared and confused and put the phone away. I
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: tried to forget about it, but I couldn't stop thinking
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: about it. The next day, I checked his phone again.
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: This time I searched through his emails because I wondered if, maybe,
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: if he maybe had a second Snapchat account. What I
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: found instead was something I was absolutely not prepared for.
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: There were multiple registration emails from different websites. Most of
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: them looked similar to dating or content platforms, but they
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: were clearly designed for affairs, sexting, or escort type services.
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: When I opened some of the websites, I found chats
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: where he had been talking to women and asking about
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: meeting up or having an affair. His profile even stated
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: that he is in a relationship. Some chats were locked,
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: so I couldn't read them completely, but even the previews
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: were enough.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: To understand what they were about.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: Messaging asking about escort services, how much certain things cost,
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: and suggesting meeting somewhere private or directly that he is
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: looking for an affair. The oldest messages I could find
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: were about nine months old. One of the first ones
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: happened when on vacation together and had a small argument.
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: So while I believed everything between us was normal, he
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: had apparently been looking for affairs online. That discovery broke
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: something inside me. The stranger's and the most confusing part
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: is that in real life he acts still acts completely
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: loving and normal towards me. He has affectionate, caring and
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: attended it. If I hadn't seen those things on his phone,
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: I would still believe our relationship was perfect. It has
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: now begun, so it has now been about two weeks
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: since I've found out. Since then, I sometimes still check
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: his phone when I met his place, and occasionally find
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: small additional things. Recently, one of the accounts on those
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: websites suddenly disappeared and the chats are no longer visible.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: Because of that, I think he might suspect that I
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: know something. Another complicated detail is that we share an iPad.
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: He logged into his Google account on it, so I
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: can see some of the incoming emails and some saved passwords.
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: Through that, I even found a log into a German
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: website called gutfrage net basically German Reddit, where people ask questions.
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: About five months ago, he asked where he could find
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: sexting or sex cam websites without having to pay. After
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: everything else I discovered, reading that almost felt absurd. At
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: this point, I feel completely conflicted. Part of me still
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: loves him, part of me deeply feels deeply portrayed, and
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: part of me keeps asking myself how I didn't notice
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: anything for so long. I know I have to break
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: up with him, I just don't know how to do
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: it yet. Has anyone else ever discovered something like this
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: about their partner? How do you even process something like this?
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: Right now?
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: I feel like I'm stuck between the relationship I thought
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: I had and the reality I discovered.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: Wow, I don't think you even try to process it.
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: Hey, that's a lot.
• 50:41
  Speaker 4: My advice would be just to cut tires as quickly
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: as possible.
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: Never think about that man again.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe you leave a letter saying I
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: found everything and we're done, and then just how can
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: we make it feel bad? Though?
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: Because it's kind of revolting discussing it's like cheating.
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: But chat question, why put the effort into making you
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: feel bad because it feels good?
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: You could? You could. The mature approach would be a
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: letter and then never talk to him again. Yes, you could.
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: You could put quite a bit of effort in and
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: try and make an account and then you become a
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: cam girl and be a different woman. Yeah, try and
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: be a woman he has an affair with, and then
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: meet up and be like the funk.
• 51:24
  Speaker 4: I can't even like begin to imagine how it would
• 51:27
  Speaker 4: feel like finding out all these things about the person
• 51:30
  Speaker 4: you thought you loved and behind your back, they're living
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: a separate life.
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: Human beings is not supposed to go through that. Yeah,
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: I think human being isn't so bad.
• 51:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why I want to make Hi feel bad.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: We're not supposed to go through Really, I don't even
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: think I could be wrong. Here'm pretty sure human beings,
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: like we're probably not supposed to go through breakups.
• 51:48
  Speaker 4: So I feel I feel like that's a good tip too,
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: to like make feel make help people feel better who
• 51:54
  Speaker 4: are going through stuff when it is really hard, Like
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: we're not designed to do it, that's why it's so hard.
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Yeah, we don't. This is not something that's
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: not normal. Yeah, that's not a normal at all.
• 52:02
  Speaker 4: And it's it's one of those fucking tricky debates with
• 52:05
  Speaker 4: all the things going on on social media online that
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: like weren't designed for us exactly, Like you're not meant
• 52:11
  Speaker 4: to have that sort of access.
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: Like I would say, the best thing you could do
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: is just leave it, though I found everything and.
• 52:21
  Speaker 4: It's the best, the best way to get back at him,
• 52:23
  Speaker 4: not to leave anything, just disappear, cheat on him.
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, look, we know what is it cheating if you're.
• 52:32
  Speaker 3: But she wants to get over it, like I reckon
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: the best thing. Look, mature approach. Let's stay with it.
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: No leave, never think about it again, and maybe talk
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: ship find his back a little.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just tell everyone, Yeah, yeah, tell everyone when he
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: broke up, little posters around town. That's a good.
• 52:48
  Speaker 8: No.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: What about how I don't think she wants the whole town.
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: I've got a great idea she'll feel like an idiot.
• 52:53
  Speaker 4: Break up of him, and then for a couple of
• 52:54
  Speaker 4: weeks or a couple of months, leave it. And then
• 52:56
  Speaker 4: before you leave him fully air drop the was it
• 53:00
  Speaker 4: a naked photo of him?
• 53:01
  Speaker 3: And like google search.
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: People, Yeah it was all his face scribbled out with
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: clearly a Googled photo.
• 53:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and then like have them and then take them
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: and take them around town and be like anyone seen
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: this man's disgusting?
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: Look, look he's gonna do breakup.
• 53:24
  Speaker 3: Comments time.
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: If you want to get a comment read, simply comment
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: on the episode you are listening to. I have Daphne
• 53:29
  Speaker 4: JP one. I'm with ODDI on this. There should be
• 53:32
  Speaker 4: no expectations that a guy should organize an uber for
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: his date. He says, for his date, you're getting to
• 53:39
  Speaker 4: know each other in the early stages, and you don't
• 53:41
  Speaker 4: owe each other anything.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: I'm quite independent, so I would make my own way
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: there to the date, regardless of the outcome. Maybe further
• 53:48
  Speaker 4: into the relationship, it would make a lot more sense
• 53:50
  Speaker 4: they not first date for you.
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: I guess.
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think this. I've got episode nine, so the
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: Year of No Dates? Yeah, that is why would I
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: the same one you do? But I'm on YouTube? Is
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: this the episode where I'm going to read this anyways?
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: If you get it?
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: So Desiree Aleman said, what aboutdie never let a man
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: hang up on you?
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, episode with a baddie, Like we call the baddie
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: and then she goes anyway, see guys.
• 54:14
  Speaker 5: Yeah, And I was.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: Like, did she just can end the call on us?
• 54:20
  Speaker 8: Hey?
• 54:20
  Speaker 4: Fucking on that note, Let's call a baddie, Yeah, and
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: let's hang up on If you want to sign off
• 54:26
  Speaker 4: the episode, simply click the link in the description Jake Today,
• 54:29
  Speaker 4: who were.
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: Going to call? No Tasha? Hello? Is this Natasha? Hello? Tash?
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: Is Jake and Noddy from the Relatables?
• 54:38
  Speaker 5: How are you.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: Cash.
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: Hellosh, it's Jake and outy from the relatables.
• 54:46
  Speaker 5: How are you?
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: I can hear you kind of. It sounds a bit
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: loud in the background.
• 54:52
  Speaker 5: Hello.
• 54:54
  Speaker 3: Hello, have you hones.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: M not looking good?
• 55:05
  Speaker 5: Hi's staking? Yes? Hi?
• 55:10
  Speaker 7: Hi?
• 55:11
  Speaker 5: How are you? Oh my goodness, Tash? Where are you?
• 55:19
  Speaker 4: No?
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: Hi, Sash?
• 55:22
  Speaker 5: Where are you?
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: What are you doing?
• 55:26
  Speaker 8: This?
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: Is it not going well?
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 55:29
  Speaker 5: Where are you?
• 55:30
  Speaker 8: Hi?
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness?
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: Hello, this is.
• 55:38
  Speaker 4: Your first time using your phone?
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: I think that's it.
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: Hey, never be hung off on my man, guys, she
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: always hang up on us.
• 55:51
  Speaker 3: Thanks Tash for the advice.
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: That was insane.
• 55:54
  Speaker 5: Here's some advice, guys.
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: If you have a phone, learn how to use it.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: That's the advice of the week. Thank you, Cash.
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: Will try again if you text it.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: Let me stay bad.